Man Throws Wife’s Best Friend Out After Her Flirty Moves Go Too Far, She’s Desperate For Forgiveness

Best friends are supposed to have your back, not try to sneak behind it. But, every once in a while, someone decides to test the boundaries of friendship in the most awkward way possible – by making a move on their best friend’s partner. It’s the kind of situation that makes you wonder if loyalty is just a suggestion for some folks.

One Redditor found herself in the middle of this dilemma when her best friend tried to seduce her husband while she was out of town, taking care of her sick mother.

More info: Reddit

When you let your best friend crash at your place, you don’t expect her to crash your marriage, too

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One woman finds out her best friend tried to kiss her husband and hide it while she was out of town, quickly ending their friendship

Text message about a situation involving a 37F husband, 39M, and a 36F best friend, expressing confusion and seeking advice.

Text discussing a couple together for 15 years, addressing health concerns of the wife's mother.

Text about best friend staying in guest room due to marital issues.

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The woman’s friend has a fight with her husband and asks to stay over at her place, but she’s out of town, so she asks her husband to prepare the guest room for her

Text revealing messages on iPad from best friend to husband; sparked a confrontation.

Text discussing a friend's attempt to upgrade accommodations and being kicked out by the husband.

Text message expressing confusion and loneliness after being kicked out of a guest room.

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The woman tries to seduce her best friend’s husband, but he pushes her away, so she bombards him with messages, asking him to keep it a secret

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Text describing a guest's inappropriate actions leading to being told to leave, highlighting a friendship ending.

Apologetic friend regrets attempting to escalate situation with husband; pleads to preserve friendship.

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The woman ends her relationship with her best friend after her husband confesses she tried to kiss him while she was out of town

The OP (original poster) has been married to her husband for 12 years. Together for 15, they’ve built a strong partnership and a family with 4 kids. Life wasn’t just good, it was great. But, as life often does, a big curveball was thrown the OP’s way.

Her mom’s health took a turn, and she had to fly out of town with her youngest to tend to her while her hubby stayed back.

But, out of nowhere, the OP’s best friend called her crying. Turns out, she had just found out her own husband cheated, and she needed a shoulder to cry on. Since the OP was away, she coordinated with her husband so that her best friend could crash in their guest room. Sounds innocent enough, right? Well, not so fast.

The OP, who had her husband’s iMessages synced to the family iPad, stumbled across a series of texts between him and her best friend. And let’s just say, they weren’t planning surprise party logistics. The messages hinted that something had happened between them.

Apparently, bestie dearest wanted to keep it all hush-hush, while hubby was adamant that his wife deserved the truth. But what exactly happened? Had the OP’s husband strayed? Was the best friend trying to make a move?

Turns out, the friend, fresh from her emotional crisis, apparently thought it was a stellar idea to cross a boundary—or maybe ten. She attempted to sit on the man’s lap and kiss him, not once, but twice.

The OP’s husband pushed her away and told her to leave, and then waited for his wife to return to share the whole story. I guess this bestie wanted a free upgrade from her friend’s guest room to her husband’s lap.

Since then, her apology tour has been in full swing. She claims she wasn’t in the right headspace, made a mistake, and wants to salvage their friendship. But the OP isn’t buying it. While she feels bad for her now ex-bestie’s tough circumstances, she knows that trust, once broken, doesn’t mend easily.

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To gain deeper insights into navigating friendships and rebuilding trust, Bored Panda reached out to Megan Paterson, LMFT, a licensed therapist with years of experience, for some answers. She told us that when trust is damaged in a friendship, it can be deeply hurtful and may lead you to question whether the relationship is worth saving or letting go, and both choices are valid.

When asked about the first steps someone should take when trust is broken in a friendship, Paterson acknowledged how painful such situations can be. Trust is challenging to rebuild, and the friendship might never feel the same, but “The first thing to do is ask yourself whether this is a friendship you want to repair,” she explained.

If the answer is yes, it’s important to have an open dialogue with your friend. Share how their actions affected you and see if they’re willing to engage in honest communication. If they’re defensive or unwilling, it might not be a relationship you can salvage, Paterson noted.

We also wanted to understand the red flags that indicate a friend might not be trustworthy. Paterson shared some common signs to look out for: “A friend who tells you one thing and tells another friend something else when narratives don’t sink up.” Paterson said.

“Pay attention to your inner gut feeling; if you feel something is wrong or untrusting, it most likely is. Pay attention to how you feel around this person, not just what he/she says.”

We wanted to know how someone can handle feelings of guilt when ending a long-term friendship. Paterson explained that it’s normal to feel conflicted, but giving yourself time to process is crucial.

“Ask yourself, what do I really feel guilty for, and maybe it’s not ‘guilt’ you feel, but just sadness, disappointment, or let down, which is ok to feel and will pass in time, she added.

Finally, we wanted to know if it’s ever worth trying to salvage a friendship after a major breach of trust. Paterson believes that while some friendships can recover, it depends on the circumstances. Mistakes happen, but repeated issues shouldn’t be ignored.

What would you do if you were in the poster’s shoes? Could you forgive a friend like that, or is this the ultimate dealbreaker? Drop your thoughts in the comments below!

Netizens side with the woman, saying her best friend probably wanted to get revenge on her cheating husband

Comment advising to call husband, suggesting a friend made a move and got kicked out.

Text of a forum user's comment discussing a friend’s betrayal and a husband’s honest response.

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Text discussing best friend's inappropriate move towards a husband, suggesting honesty.

Text advice on dealing with a best friend situation involving a husband, suggesting indirect communication and calm confrontation.

Comment advising a frank conversation with a husband, prioritizing marriage over a best friend.

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Reddit comment discussing a friend attempting to upgrade relationship with best friend's husband and justifying ending friendship.

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