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“I Come Home Unexpectedly From Class”: 30 Times People Found Out Their Partner Was Cheating
Monogamy appears to be losing its appeal to many people today. Recent studies have shown that the desire to have multiple romantic partners is on the rise, leading to more polyamorous relationships.
This apparent shift in ideologies is likely one of the reasons why cheating stories seem casual and commonplace. However, that doesn’t take away the negative stigma attached to infidelity, and learning about it is never a positive experience.
These firsthand accounts we’ve collected from Reddit may just prove that. Likewise, feel free to share your insights in the comments below.
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#1
My best friend of 25 years was trying to f**k my husband. She was hitting on him, sending him nudes, blatantly assaulting him sexually like trying to force herself on him when I wasn’t around or nearby. He didn’t know how to tell me so he ended up screenshotting her texts and showing me. I haven’t spoken to her in Over a year. In the process I lost my other best friend of over 25 years because she stuck up for her and they tried to blame me somehow. Birds of a feather stick together though, and I realized that although they were like sisters, they never really cared about me at all. I sent all my friend’s nudes back to her husband, and he left her. Revenge is so sweet. 😘
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#2
I caught my dad cheating on my mom. I was 18 and the girl he was cheating with was only a few years older than me. For some reason Apple linked his phone number to my laptop, I saw all the texts and photos of her. I’m still mad about the whole thing, and he still blames the divorce on me. Turns out it’s okay to have a gf half your age while married but showing your mom the proof is the worst possible thing you can do.
E Menendez 2 weeks ago
I had a friend that something similar happened but a little different. Her friend told her that her dad was cheating and so she confronted him and he confessed. Then she told her mom and her dad decided that it was best to get divorced, even though the affair had been going on for years. And her mom blames her for telling her and "causing" the divorce.
#3
I went out with a guy for a year and it was a horrible relationship. It went from cute clinginess to me not being allowed to hang out with my own friends or family without begging for permission.
He was terminally ill, liver failure. My grandmother who raised me died of the same thing a year prior. Every argument would end on "this is how you want to spend my last months? " "when I die you will regret the time we spent fighting" "I'm a dying man and you can't even give me what I want. " "Your time should be spent with me because I don't know how long I have"
After a year of this, I found out that he was completely healthy. I locked myself in our room and went through all of his devices after a heads-up from his aunt. Every medical document, faked.
Turns out every time he had a doctors appointment, an MRI scan, an inpatient overnight stay to run tests, he was going to sleep with other women.
NINE other women. Consistently.
From what I saw he had a variety of lies for each of them as well, each appearing to be tailored to how one of their family members had died/been abused etc.
I sent them all a genuinely calm message of warning, about what I'd discovered, and he lost 10 hoes in one day lol.
#4
When I was about 3-4, I caught my dad cheating with the sister of my mom’s best friend. I told my brother “I saw daddy kissing Barbara.” He told my mom who confronted my dad. He said I was a liar and beat me until I recanted. He beat me to within an inch of my life.
Punished me for his f**k-up.
Never been able to tolerate cheaters since.
As a side note, I never recanted.
Ace macbeth 2 weeks ago
What a POS. Abusing your child to cover your lie and guilt. Hope OPs dad got some karmatic justice.
#5
I don't know if it counts but here it goes. Once i was in a party at my friends house. We were REALLY drunk, and my friend (the host) was going upstairs with a random girl (he had a gf...). He opens the bedroom and there is his gf having s*x with a another dude... So basically they both cheated on each other, and found out the same time...
#6
Caught my ex because he was a d*****s. He was out of town on a hunting trip and asked me to check his email for something from his dad. (Pre smart phone days) No big deal, we always had an open phones/emails policy.
Opened his email and didn't find one from his dad, but did see one from his ex f**k buddy titled "can't wait for this weekend!" That had been sent the day before he left for his hunting trip.
I opened it and was treated to a lengthy letter describing all the things she couldn't wait to do with him on this hunting trip. Things like f*****g him in the river, in the woods, and in the back of his truck, just like "the old days"
I took an hour to process what I had read, fed my 2 week old daughter and put her down for a nap before calling him. I let him know that he didn't get an email from his dad but he had gotten one from f**k buddy.
He didn't bother to deny it. Just blamed it on me because I wouldn't have s*x with him.
Did I mention I had a 13 day old baby? Or that I had a traumatic near death experience giving birth?
#7
I caught my good friend from Bible study having an affair with my husband. I introduced them at a new year's eve party.
I was clueless and blind to it all. He and I had been in marriage therapy for a couple years and I thought maybe we'd make it. Friend was supportive and praying for us.
I began to get suspicious and asked my other close friend about it. She told me to stop asking - she would NEVER do something like that!
Suddenly, I found my husband going from begging and pleading and fighting for our marriage, to literally pushing me out with his escalated a***e.
I filed for divorce and moved out the next day.
Since that was done in a hurry, I got court approval to go back to the marital home when he would not be home (restraining order against him). I checked the house phone caller ID to see if I missed any calls that he certainly would never forward to me.
Well well well. Calls to and from "friend" every day, several times a day, starting with the hour after I was gone.
So I called her from the marital home phone. She answered all s**y, like Marilyn Monroe calling JFK on his birthday. So I immediately hung up. Cleary, my hunch was worth looking into.
About 30 minutes later, I saw "friend" at the elementary school where we'd normally wait for our kids together.
She asked me if I called her. I said no. She said, "That's weird, because (my ex) said it wasn't him..."
I said, "What's weirder is that you assumed it would be him who called you and not automatically think it was me. I mean, I don't have a daily phone conversation habit with my friends' husbands...why do you?"
Her face got bright red, she started to glisten with sweat on her forehead.
She admitted to it. Just then, the bell rang and the hallway got louder and I said so loudly so everyone could hear, "YOU'RE HAVING AN AFFAIR WITH MY HUSBAND?!!!!"
All the adults heads turned. The kids were oblivious. I walked out with my kids and left her embarrassed, ashamed, guilty as hell, and totally unable to make up any story that countered the truth.
With 15 other moms in the room, it was as good as letting the entire town know in one instant.
She would later marry my ex. She would also be a***ed. She would divorce him after 18 months of marriage.
Stupid b***h.
#8
I dated a girl for three years and lived with her for two. Turned out she had another, longer relationship she maintained the entire time we were dating. When I broke up with her for unrelated reasons, she ended up in a mental health unit. I started contacting her friends and family to help get her support. I ended up on the phone with the other guy, who had never heard of me because my ex told him she was living with another girl. We realized what had happened, met up, talked, and went to visit her in the mental health ward together. She had had no contact with the outside world so you can imagine her surprise and horror when we walked in together.
#9
I was dating a guy for 5+ years at that point. He never really let me post him on social media or “get into a Facebook official relationship”. Found out one day because I posted and tagged him in something, the girl messaged me. She didn’t know he had a girlfriend and they were sleeping together for the past 3 months. Mind you he was having unprotected s*x with both of us. I put all his stuff on the porch of our apartment building and never talked to him again. The girl and I are best friends 5 years later.
#10
How about years after the fact, when you find out the kid you have been raising isn't biologically yours..
and everybody but you knew it and nobody wanted to be the one to tell you..
#11
Came home and caught my ex-wife banging her co-worker. Told him to get out, told her to pack and get out. Divorced and much happier now. Looking back she was sketchy from early on in the relationship. But at the time I NEVER thought she would cheat.
#12
My ex used to save girls phone numbers under dudes names in his phone. One night, "Steve" wouldn't stop blowing up his phone. My ex was passed out drunk after coming home from the bar so I went to silence his phone, obviously being curious because I didn't trust him that much to begin with, I read some of "Steve's" messages. "Steve" couldn't wait to get on top and make him forget about his girlfriend again.
Obviously it was not Steve behind that phone number.
Without waking my boyfriend, I used my own phone to call that number, and when some girl answered, I got the confirmation I needed. She told me they'd be sleeping together for "only a month" and she felt really bad and blah blah blah. So I woke my boyfriend up with a cell phone blow to the face and he first lied to me, telling me he didn't know her. Then it was "we only kissed". Then it was "okay, it only happened once" Then he tried blaming me, telling me I'm not as attractive as when we got together. Cool 😎
We broke up and he's still the main reason I hate myself.
#13
The one time I was cheated on made no sense.
It was first year uni, I was 'dating' a girl casually for like a week, maybe two, and she was talking about getting more serious. She seemed cool, I was down.
Next thing I know I come home unexpectedly early from class.
There she is getting railed on the couch by my roommate.
Thankfully there were only very early feelings that were destroyed in that instant, so it was pretty easy to be cold and just tell both to "F**k off" or "F**k yourself" or whatever.
But it just made no sense she pushed to be exclusive, then did THAT.
I let the guy hear about it all rest of the term before I decided not to live with him the next year.
#14
Wife went on a deployment to Korea for 1 year, which is challenging enough. But she decided to have extracurriculars with a few guys and one of them formed a s****y relationship with her. He was married with 5 kids.
There were flags leading up to me finding out, 2 months into her deploy we got to see each other for a weekend. She kept asking about trying an open relationship, I said I dont think we are in a good enough standing for experiment. She asked about 5x. Looking back I know now she was trying to get me to say yes in order to clear her conscience...
After that she gaslighted me, stopped communicating, wouldnt make time to call or anything.
At her 6 month mark we book a vacation in a tropical paradise, I flew 18 hrs to meet her. As soon as we get in the hotel she says "i don't want to have s*x"... it's been 6 months.
Later that night I get on the kindle I bought her for xmas, found a conversation she was having right before I arrived with the dirtbag. They had been f*****g each other for months, said they loved each other all the time.
She refused to apologize, said I was to blame, I booked a ticket home.
On my way out the next day she did give a heartfelt apology, she was sorry she hurt me... not sorry she did it. I knew right then she would just do it again.
Filed for divorce, gave her everything, told her to keep the cursed ring and restarted.
Living my best life now! Havent spoken to her in 4 yrs, got a great career and a woman who lifts me up.
It gets better, you just have to put in work and give it time.
Seek counseling if you feel s******l (like I did).
Pencil 2 weeks ago (edited)
For some couples having discussions about non-traditional relationship paradigms is a normal and healthy part of how they are together. But when one person in a monogamous relationship suddenly says "Let's have an open relationship" completely out of the blue, it's almost always code for "By the way, I forked someone else and am going to do it again."
#15
I had a professor no show for a class one time so I packed up my stuff and went back to my apartment that I shared with a good friend.
Walked in to find her bent over the coffee table getting railed by someone who was very much not her long term boyfriend. I didn't know what to do so I just beelined it to my room.
I gave them plenty of time, heard someone leave and assumed it was both of them. Went back out to grab my backpack and there was my roommate sitting on the couch. She burst into an explanation about why, who and when.
I basically told her I thought it was s****y and she didn't need to explain it to me, I wasn't going to tell on her, but she should probably tell her boyfriend. She did and they ended up breaking up. Her new boy toy lasted like a month before getting bored.
She regretted it. She told me often how much of a s**t head she felt like for ending her relationship that way.
Stinky 2 weeks ago
I had a flat mate who did this. His gf used to travel interstate for work, would leave him her car and he used it to cruise and bring random women to our house. I confronted him and told him to knock it off as I didn't want a parade of strangers through my house. His gf found out, stuck with him then stole jewelry from ME!!!! They deserved one another TBH.
#16
Had it happen and it sucks, she'd always blow me up "when are you leaving to come home?" "what time are you going to show up?" type of texts and I didn't think anything of it. I had a surgery and came home from pt and her phone was going nuts from texts. Normally I wouldn't snoop but it was one after another. Apparently it was some dude that she was banging when I was at the hospital and texts were pretty vulgar, asking when I was leaving next etc. I confronted her about it and she tried to blow it off as a friend except I was able to read them all. I packed my s**t and left that moment.
#17
Looked through my boyfriends email and found a picture he sent to himself of him f*****g another woman(his client, was a personal trainer)
DennyS (denzoren) 2 weeks ago
Sent to himself...that's...I don't even know how to describe that.
#18
When I was 19 I was dating this girl. We got along so well and the s*x was amazing. I actually lost my Virginity to her. Anyway her parents loved me and allowed me to stay overnight with her. We were together for about 6 months. One morning around 2AM I get a call from her father asking if She was with me. I was staying at home by myself that night and decided I would drive over to her place and wait down the street. About 30 minutes later I see a car pull up and it's her and some dude. She pops open the door and I can see them kissing because the interior lights were on. My heart sank. I waited until she was walking up to her house and I confronted her. I was 19 and I was crushed. The next day she tried to explain herself but I was too angry to listen. Found out later that afternoon she had swallowed a bottle of caffeine pills and was in the hospital. I walked into the emergency room and I saw her in a bed, with black vomit all over her face. Im guessing it was charcoal they gave her. Anyway, that was that.
Uncle Panda 2 weeks ago
Virginia and Virginity are both states, but only one has voting rights.
#19
What a night this was...
I had met this local guy off of an app years ago (I was like 19 or 20 and had only had one serious relationship before so hookup culture was new to me). We kept it really casual. We hooked up a couple times at his work and hung out a few times. He was a good texter and he kept in touch all the time. I enjoyed his company but wasn't deeply into him.
One night we drove out to the back woods to park and get busy. Put the seats down and got busy. We are almost finished and he gets a phone call.
It was his girlfriend asking where he was.
He told her he was at Walmart getting her something. She started crying and asked him to send her pics of where he was or the store to prove it. He called her crazy in the nicest way and said he would be home soon. ALL WHILE STILL IN ME. I was just in utter shock. He said he loved her and hung up. Finished seconds later where he wasn't supposed to and hopped back off.
Karma was that he got stuck driving out of where we were and his s****y driving caused him to drive into this hole which snapped something on the axle. This meant he wasn't going anywhere soon or without a tow. I got out and walked the mile home alone to get my car and buy some Plan B. He was single shortly afterwards and his reputation spread quickly.
#20
Didn't cheat myself, but busted a guy accidentally. Was at a dinner party when this vaguely familiar guy walks in with his smoking hot SO. We are introduced and I said that we had actually met before. It basically went like this:
" Yes, we've met before"
"no, I don't think so"
"Sure, you went to X University, right?"
"Yeah"
"You used to date my old neighbour - Jenna"
"No, no.. that wasn't me"
"Sure it was. You transferred from Y university and played basketball. We had a couple of chats because you know Tim and Ed"
At this point his SO is seething and storms out of the house. He gives me a 'wow did you just f**k me' look and heads out after her. Turns out he was cheating with my neighbor for years.. she always suspected, but never had any proof... until I came along.
#21
I was buying a house at the time, and was touring one with the realtor. The homeowner came home early, and we got to talking.
Turns out she worked with my girlfriend. I told her I was the boyfriend, and she said "Oh so you are Tom! She told me all about you!"
I am not Tom.
The homeowner went to her car and got on her phone. Twenty minutes later I got a call saying my girlfriend wanted to break up.
Couldn't agree more. Never saw her again.
#22
Came home from work at about 2am. Ex wife's phone suddenly lit up as I came through the door. Walked over and the text message said "I miss you." I walked into the bedroom and asked if I had anything to be concerned about. The response was "Denny? Wouldn't that be funny." 1 month later on January first she told me she was leaving me. Did a bit of digging, it was for denny.
Big shock, much wow.
#23
I (F) was working construction and had all male co-workers. My boyfriend of 2 years was a nurse at a hospital in a different city. On our way to a get together I asked him to look up an address in my phone. Instead, he went through my text messages and found one that a co-worker who drove me to a job site sent me that was inappropriate. I didn't respond and he told me that was cheating. We ended up not going to the get together because he was mad and instead went back to his apartment and argued with each other for about an hour. As we are arguing, I notice him deleting g a bunch of text messages out of his phone from "Ashley". Ashley is a nurse that he works with, but not closely. I knew St that moment he was projecting. I called Ashley and she confirmed. He had told her that we had broken up and that they have been dating for about 6 months. I noted out of that apartment and she called him and told him it was over. Ashley and I are still friends. Three years later I get a Facebook message from a girl I went to high school with. He did the same exact thing to her and she needed someone to talk to about it.
Wild Cream 2 weeks ago (edited)
I had a (now ex) bf that kind of did this to me. He was obsessed with his ex, this gorgeous girl named Kim. One night he had a house party and wouldn’t let me come because I was hanging out with a girl friend that he found annoying. The next morning, Kim messaged me and told me everything that happened that night. He’d told her we were broken up, but she had just seen photos of us together from the day before on Facebook. She was so heartbroken and sorry and honest with me, I couldn’t be mad at all, the two of us ended up crying together on the phone hahaha. This was like 10 years ago and we don’t talk much anymore but I always appreciated the sisterhood.
#24
I had always suspected my dad was cheating on my mom, never had concrete evidence just a hunch because he is a big extrovert and gets a long with everyone.
As a teenager I always told myself one day I'm going to ask him if he ever did...
Well didn't have to ask, as apparently he was having an affair on my mother with a young 20 something piece.
My mom found out when the woman's husband came to our house and told my mom what was happening, ehile she was just outside gardening
My poor mother not only tried to make it work afterwards because she didn't think she'd find love again (she has and is happier then ever). I told her that wasn't a reason to stay around as tough as it might be
Even worse, my mom was a maternity nurse and had to deliver the b***h's baby a couple years later! (And no my dad was not the father)
Since their divorce I have had numerous women tell me that my dad had texted them or tried getting with them ... so at the end of the day my hunch was very much spot on
superfluous 2 weeks ago
So being a big extrovert and getting along with everyone is a tipoff to cheating???? I get that the OP is a child, but that's a really weird take.
#25
Cheated on my wife. Wasn’t caught but eventually owned up to it because I felt it was right to do so. We have had our ups and downs over the past 14 years but are still getting through it. Three amazing kids later and still going strong, although there is certainly still some residual impact to our relation because of it. I think the honesty was for the best, but sometimes I still question it. Ultimately, It’s kept me more straight. Life is tough.
#26
My parents and I went to a hibachi restaurant once. They sat us next to my sister-in-law and her date.
Cooking Panda 2 weeks ago
OP & parents went to a restaurant. The staff sat them on a certain table. On the table next to them, there was OP's sister-in-law (who was supposedly still married to OP's brother), having a dinner date with another man. There, hope I made it clearer.
#27
I didn't catch him. He called me the next morning crying and told me everything. I respected his honesty, recognized his remorse, and truly believed it would never happen again so I decided to forgive him. But after he cheated he became incredibly paranoid. He started checking my phone, accusing me of revenge f*****g people behind his back, even got mad when I was assigned to work with a man on a group project in school. I couldn't stand by the fact that he was the one who'd cheated and I was the one being punished. I had *really* forgiven him. I wasn't holding his mistake over his head and my attitude toward him didn't change after the fact at all but he was driving me away more and more every day. After about a month of this I broke up with him and he completely lost it.
Portentia9 2 weeks ago
In my personal experience, cheaters will always treat the other as though they are the infidel and it is a hell not worth being in.
#28
I was 19 and in my first ever relationship for 2 and a half years. Never had s*x with another girl. Started uni and met loads of new people who also had limited sexual experiences and were all interested in the same thing. Looking back it was a really s****y thing to do but I felt an excitement I hadn’t felt in a long time.
I had a single one night stand with a girl and, consumed with guilt, told my gf a week later. That was the end of my relationship. The pain I caused my ex and our mutual friends was horrible, something I would never wish on anybody. Cheating sucks and I was a selfish little s**t and I’ll never do it again
ILoveMySon 2 weeks ago
Yeah, I broke up with my HS boyfriend when he graduated and was going to college; I had another year of HS. It was only fair to him and we were young. Remained friends and he agreed he definitely would have cheated. 😂
#29
In 2006 My boyfriend of 2 years left his email account open on our shared laptop, and I....just....started to poke around. What I found was pictures of him and a mutual friend f*****g in MY APARTMENT. She had sent them to him. I was furious and devastated. I took all his clothing and dumped it at the door, waiting for him to come home. When he did, oh boy was he sorry....but....I heard him out because I still loved him, he said he was depressed and said I bullied him. We talked all night, just addressing issues one after the other. I gave him another chance because I could see where he was coming from (don't come for me, I did the right thing at the time)
.......Until a year later I found out he was still texting and calling her. I broke up with him then.
Thee8thsense 2 weeks ago
While I admire her willingness to own her own "stuff" in the relationship, I very much admire her for dumping a liar and a cheater.
#30
Apparently i got cheated on but i never physically caught them? He never wanted to spend time with me even when he had an off day. I was used to people who liked me wanting to see me a lot, so that was red flag number 1. Number 2 was when i figured out he would spend his off days with his girl best friend. Now idgaf if dudes im seeing have girl best friends, my trust is with them until they f**k up so i never put the dots together until after i broke things off and his new girl friend (girl best friend) randomly texted me for no reason and told me everything. It was like three months later and all i could do was laugh. He texted me later on after they broke up asking to hang out and whether i hated him or not. I told him i didnt care enough to feel one way or the other, which actually seemed to hurt him. I had already started to date my now husband, so losing out on seeing that waste of time wasnt bad. As far as i know, he still hasn’t grown up and hes like 40+.
Portentia9 2 weeks ago
I always had a thing for much older men until a buddy pointed out, "There's a reason why they are single". That got me thinking and I stopped seeing them through the same eyes. In fact, I have always been better off flying solo. I love my freedom!!!
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Lyone Fein 2 weeks ago
Temptation does not “get” the better, or drive anyone to cheat. People CHOOSE to cheat. They freely decide and act to betray others. No one forces them to do it.
Doctor Strange 2 weeks ago
I didn't catch her, she explicitly told me she was cheating on me, and how much better that guy was than me.
Lene 2 weeks ago
The poll is weird to me. I don't think there ever was a time where "traditional monogamy" was an actual real thing for all couples. Cheating has been around forever. I think it's now just talked about more because of the internet and because people (not just women) are being more confident and willing to act if something not-OK is done to them. So we hear more about cheaters now. They were always there, though.
Lyone Fein 2 weeks ago
Temptation does not “get” the better, or drive anyone to cheat. People CHOOSE to cheat. They freely decide and act to betray others. No one forces them to do it.
Doctor Strange 2 weeks ago
I didn't catch her, she explicitly told me she was cheating on me, and how much better that guy was than me.
Lene 2 weeks ago
The poll is weird to me. I don't think there ever was a time where "traditional monogamy" was an actual real thing for all couples. Cheating has been around forever. I think it's now just talked about more because of the internet and because people (not just women) are being more confident and willing to act if something not-OK is done to them. So we hear more about cheaters now. They were always there, though.
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