“I Am Sick And Tired”: Man Has Had Enough Of His Brother-In-Law Disrespecting His Sister, So He Pulls A Stunt On Him That Drives Him Mad
Recently, a 17-year-old teen shared a story on the AITA community, wanting to know if he crossed the line in an incident with his brother-in-law. “I, m17, moved in with my sister after my parents kicked me out for coming out (another story),” the guy wrote.
However, he soon realized his “breadwinner” brother-in-law has been very demanding from his burnt-out and pregnant wife, whining about things and expecting everything to be handed to him.
On one such occasion, “BIL was complaining about dinner and my sister was too exhausted to get up.” The author explained that “the dinner was already cooked but he wanted her to put it for him on the table.”
At this point, the teen had had enough and decided to pull a prank on his BIL who was left in disbelief. After the stunt, more yelling followed, so scroll down to see what ignited such anger.
A teen shared how he decided to teach his childish brother-in-law a lesson by serving a dinner that left him in disbelief
Image credits: RODNAE Productions (not the actual photo)
Image credits: Tara Winstead (not the actual photo)
Image credits: THROWAWAYBIL20223
Many people expressed their support for the author in this situation
However, others thought the teen should have stayed out of this as everyone was to blame
Some people said that the author was wrong to pull such a stunt
Anyone who says he's the a*****e can eat f*****g rocks. BIL got what he had coming to him and he deserves much much more. I hope SIL gets out of there asap. She's already taking care of two children it seems so I have faith that she'll make it on her own.
Yeah- I can see how people would go ESH minus the sister cuz she's the victim who will suffer the repercussions of his prank, but he's still just a kid who cares about his sister, yk?
Load More Replies...I had to go back and re-read that to catch the shower part! WTAF? Regardless of the rift with his parents over coming out, the brother should let parents know all about the abusive home situation his sister is enduring.
Load More Replies...Can someone explain to me why women in 2022 still put up with this kind of behaviour?? I keep reading about it and I just don't get it.
Please don't blame the victim. Why not ask, why do some men still treat women this way? Abusive relationships are intergenerational, they are learned behaviors. And laws against abuse are still too lenient. I hope she is safe and I'm so glad she has a brother that has her back.
Load More Replies...id cook for him and put laxatives in it, his laundry would have a butt load of chilli in there too, lazy pig and she s pregnant as well and your parents are homo phobes christ, that dude needs taking out
Why do some men act this way?? You aren't entitled to f*****g slave labor - learn to cook, clean and put food on your own damn plate! I feel sorry for this woman...her parents sound terrible and now she's saddled with a misogynist, worthless man-child. At least the brother tried to stand up for her, although I hope her worthless partner doesn't take it out on her.
NTA even though I understand where people are coming from when they vote YTA or ESH. Both he and his sister are in precarious situations and it's not like this guy can turn to his parents for help considering they're blatantly homophobic pieces of garbage. He's only 17 and therefore backed his sister up in the way that he knew how: bully the bully. I hope he and his sister and her children are or will be in a much better situation. The BIL can eat s**t and die.
I hope that I'm wrong here, but the BIL has future abuser written all over the show in this.
Definately NTA. Well done OP for standing up for your sister and calling BIL out for his behaviour. However, I do hope these actions haven't made things worse. It's good that OP's sister laughed when she saw what he'd done, because it could have gone another way and put some distance between the siblings. Hopefully OP's BIL gave himself a time out, got over his tantrum and realised what a piece of work he was - though someone who can't move already cooked food to his plate, put on laundry or even turn on a shower might struggle to think for themselves to realise the error of their ways.
NTA NTA NTA!!!! It is not your fault if BIL takes this out on your sister either! I suggest you offer her all the support you can and help her get out of there if that's what she wants. You have just highlighted to her, a greater depth of his issues and she will need help! Do not back down! I'm sure your sister is safer with you there to back her up. Others have mentioned he could kick you out of there too but that would have to be a joint decision involving your sister as well so hopefully she would back you up. BIL sounds like he has unresolved trauma so just be there as much as you can without sacrificing your own health and safety. EDIT TO ADD: advice courtesy of a mental health and crisis intervention professional.
I'm in my 50s and my parents were born in the 1920s. My Mom was a SAH Mom. And I hear WAY too many horror stories about men being very disrespectful of their wives time and how much work they do. I know there used to be guys like that way back when, but it almost seems like it's gotten worse rather than better - partially because the women don't seem to understand. Why don't the women (or stay-at-home-Dad) mark down how many hours they work and just compare it to their spouses? That should put an end to it. I don't understand these women who have no self-respect, let alone these a**hole, slave-driving men.
BIL and OP are assholes. BIL for obvious reasons but OP needs to step up and help his sister.
He stated in the post that he does help his sister out around the house where he can, but he is only 17 so chances are that he's still in high school. Also, even if he's not in high school, getting a job at his age would be tough. Where I live, you need a parent or guardian to sign a work permit in order to get a job and he obviously can't count on his parents for that and we don't know if his sister has legal guardianship. As far as dealing with the BIL, there's not much OP can do since he's a minor and BIL sounds like he could flatten Hulk Hogan.
Load More Replies...Anyone who says he's the a*****e can eat f*****g rocks. BIL got what he had coming to him and he deserves much much more. I hope SIL gets out of there asap. She's already taking care of two children it seems so I have faith that she'll make it on her own.
Yeah- I can see how people would go ESH minus the sister cuz she's the victim who will suffer the repercussions of his prank, but he's still just a kid who cares about his sister, yk?
Load More Replies...I had to go back and re-read that to catch the shower part! WTAF? Regardless of the rift with his parents over coming out, the brother should let parents know all about the abusive home situation his sister is enduring.
Load More Replies...Can someone explain to me why women in 2022 still put up with this kind of behaviour?? I keep reading about it and I just don't get it.
Please don't blame the victim. Why not ask, why do some men still treat women this way? Abusive relationships are intergenerational, they are learned behaviors. And laws against abuse are still too lenient. I hope she is safe and I'm so glad she has a brother that has her back.
Load More Replies...id cook for him and put laxatives in it, his laundry would have a butt load of chilli in there too, lazy pig and she s pregnant as well and your parents are homo phobes christ, that dude needs taking out
Why do some men act this way?? You aren't entitled to f*****g slave labor - learn to cook, clean and put food on your own damn plate! I feel sorry for this woman...her parents sound terrible and now she's saddled with a misogynist, worthless man-child. At least the brother tried to stand up for her, although I hope her worthless partner doesn't take it out on her.
NTA even though I understand where people are coming from when they vote YTA or ESH. Both he and his sister are in precarious situations and it's not like this guy can turn to his parents for help considering they're blatantly homophobic pieces of garbage. He's only 17 and therefore backed his sister up in the way that he knew how: bully the bully. I hope he and his sister and her children are or will be in a much better situation. The BIL can eat s**t and die.
I hope that I'm wrong here, but the BIL has future abuser written all over the show in this.
Definately NTA. Well done OP for standing up for your sister and calling BIL out for his behaviour. However, I do hope these actions haven't made things worse. It's good that OP's sister laughed when she saw what he'd done, because it could have gone another way and put some distance between the siblings. Hopefully OP's BIL gave himself a time out, got over his tantrum and realised what a piece of work he was - though someone who can't move already cooked food to his plate, put on laundry or even turn on a shower might struggle to think for themselves to realise the error of their ways.
NTA NTA NTA!!!! It is not your fault if BIL takes this out on your sister either! I suggest you offer her all the support you can and help her get out of there if that's what she wants. You have just highlighted to her, a greater depth of his issues and she will need help! Do not back down! I'm sure your sister is safer with you there to back her up. Others have mentioned he could kick you out of there too but that would have to be a joint decision involving your sister as well so hopefully she would back you up. BIL sounds like he has unresolved trauma so just be there as much as you can without sacrificing your own health and safety. EDIT TO ADD: advice courtesy of a mental health and crisis intervention professional.
I'm in my 50s and my parents were born in the 1920s. My Mom was a SAH Mom. And I hear WAY too many horror stories about men being very disrespectful of their wives time and how much work they do. I know there used to be guys like that way back when, but it almost seems like it's gotten worse rather than better - partially because the women don't seem to understand. Why don't the women (or stay-at-home-Dad) mark down how many hours they work and just compare it to their spouses? That should put an end to it. I don't understand these women who have no self-respect, let alone these a**hole, slave-driving men.
BIL and OP are assholes. BIL for obvious reasons but OP needs to step up and help his sister.
He stated in the post that he does help his sister out around the house where he can, but he is only 17 so chances are that he's still in high school. Also, even if he's not in high school, getting a job at his age would be tough. Where I live, you need a parent or guardian to sign a work permit in order to get a job and he obviously can't count on his parents for that and we don't know if his sister has legal guardianship. As far as dealing with the BIL, there's not much OP can do since he's a minor and BIL sounds like he could flatten Hulk Hogan.
Load More Replies...
51
26