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“Have I Been Eating Crazy Cakes?”: Mom Refuses To Lend Bride Her Daughter As A Flower Girl
Weddings have a way of testing friendships, family ties, and the limits of good manners. Between guest lists, budgets, and fragile egos, it’s not uncommon for people to feel overlooked. But every so often, a story comes along that manages to surprise even the most seasoned wedding attendees. Posted on the subreddit r/weddingshaming by MaudeDib, this tale of a bride who asked an acquaintance’s child to be a flower girl—while explicitly uninviting the mother—highlights how a sweet tradition can be twisted into a logistical and emotional mess.
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The tradition of having a flower girl dates back centuries and is a sweet way to include a young loved one in the wedding
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But this mom thinks her friend wanted to “employ” her daughter just for the visual effect
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Image credits: MaudeDib
The idea behind having a flower girl is to include the children of those close to you, not to use her as a prop for pictures
Image credits: Image by Freepik (not the actual photo)
To those of you who might not be familiar with the tradition, a flower girl is a young attendant who walks down the aisle after the ring bearer and before the bride and lays down petals. Many people choose nieces or the children of close friends to perform the duty.
Usually, flower girls are between three and seven years old and tend to be the youngest member of the bridal party.
In addition to tossing petals as she walks down the aisle, a flower girl is also expected to attend the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner alongside her parents. (Many brides also invite their flower girl to get ready with them in the morning of the day of.) To avoid situations like this one, many couples choose children whose mother or father is already in the bridal party.
A flower girl usually wears a mid- or tea-length gown and a floral wreath or hair ribbon. They also tend to carry a basket of flowers. If a bride doesn’t want the flower girl to lay down petals, she can also carry a small bouquet.
According to Emily Post’s Wedding Etiquette, a flower girl’s parents are usually the ones to pay for her dress and accessories (excluding flowers).
But it’s thought to be a nice way to include children close to the couple in their special day. Judging from the post, “Becky” was more concerned with the aesthetic of her ceremony and not the people attending, or in our case, cast overboard.
People were appalled by the bride’s request
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Cronecast AtTheRisingMoon 6 months ago
Well, that’s just bizarre. You know the bride asked because she thinks the girl would fit an aesthetic which is not a good sign. But there’s pretty much no question that someone who had such poor judgment that they would think that this is a normal thing to ask is a fit guardian for an 11-year-old on any level. So….no, you freakish person, you may not borrow a child as a prop.
Caffeinated Ape 6 months ago
Re: "this is a plot to a comedy". No no no, it's clearly a psychological thriller that will 100% star Jodie Foster as the single mother, and will simply be entitled "Flower Girl".
G A 5 months ago
I was going to say horror film. Bridezilla alert! Who exactly does she expect will look after a still relatively young child far from home around a load of pis sed up adults she doesn't know? A recipe for tragedy.
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Dusty's mom 5 months ago
They act like their wedding will be the highlight of their lives. How short-sighted and trite. Such waste of resources that could build the background of their marriage. Money thrown out the window.
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Al Fun 6 months ago
The fact that the bride is even suggesting this is that they have no idea about children and would be very unqualified supervising her in that childless wedding party. What is the flower girl supposed to do when the 5 minutes of dropping flowers is over? Hang out with the creepy uncle?
Touhou Youyoumu 6 months ago (edited)
Bride to be. Must have banged her head as a child, only explanation that makes sense for this insane request.
Upstaged75 5 months ago
I was a flower girl when I was 8 years old. For my aunt's wedding. My little brother was the ring bearer. Grandma made our outfits and we looked adorable. Of course my parents were there too. No way would they have let someone borrow us like we were extra chairs or something. That's just crazy!
Michael Largey 5 months ago
"You should know that the flower girl franchise my daughter operates - Weed Walks 'R" Us - charges $200 an hour portal to portal, with a $1,000 non-refundable advance. I, as her executive assistant must accompany her at all times and to all places. When we receive your check, we will be available to discuss the particulars. If you are unable to meet these terms, we understand completely."
Cronecast AtTheRisingMoon 6 months ago
Well, that’s just bizarre. You know the bride asked because she thinks the girl would fit an aesthetic which is not a good sign. But there’s pretty much no question that someone who had such poor judgment that they would think that this is a normal thing to ask is a fit guardian for an 11-year-old on any level. So….no, you freakish person, you may not borrow a child as a prop.
Caffeinated Ape 6 months ago
Re: "this is a plot to a comedy". No no no, it's clearly a psychological thriller that will 100% star Jodie Foster as the single mother, and will simply be entitled "Flower Girl".
G A 5 months ago
I was going to say horror film. Bridezilla alert! Who exactly does she expect will look after a still relatively young child far from home around a load of pis sed up adults she doesn't know? A recipe for tragedy.
Load More Replies... Dusty's mom 5 months ago
They act like their wedding will be the highlight of their lives. How short-sighted and trite. Such waste of resources that could build the background of their marriage. Money thrown out the window.
Load More Replies... Al Fun 6 months ago
The fact that the bride is even suggesting this is that they have no idea about children and would be very unqualified supervising her in that childless wedding party. What is the flower girl supposed to do when the 5 minutes of dropping flowers is over? Hang out with the creepy uncle?
Touhou Youyoumu 6 months ago (edited)
Bride to be. Must have banged her head as a child, only explanation that makes sense for this insane request.
Upstaged75 5 months ago
I was a flower girl when I was 8 years old. For my aunt's wedding. My little brother was the ring bearer. Grandma made our outfits and we looked adorable. Of course my parents were there too. No way would they have let someone borrow us like we were extra chairs or something. That's just crazy!
Michael Largey 5 months ago
"You should know that the flower girl franchise my daughter operates - Weed Walks 'R" Us - charges $200 an hour portal to portal, with a $1,000 non-refundable advance. I, as her executive assistant must accompany her at all times and to all places. When we receive your check, we will be available to discuss the particulars. If you are unable to meet these terms, we understand completely."
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