Sometimes even something as simple as an absurd dream can change your life drastically. Like before going to sleep, you’re engaged, and within a few days after waking up, you’re celebrating the holidays as a single person. Sounds quite crazy, doesn’t it? Well, that’s the story of today – a woman dreamt of dating Adam Driver, and soon the true colors of her fiancé were revealed.
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Even something as innocent as a dream of a celebrity can turn your perfect relationship into a nightmare
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This woman dreamt of dating Adam Driver, which caused her fiancé to insult her by saying she couldn’t pull him
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Since the insult coming from the author’s fiance, the relationship went downhill very quickly
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The story ended with her celebrating this year’s Christmas as a single woman and without toxic friends
This 26-year-old woman had been with her fiancé for nearly 5 years, the last 6 months of which they had been engaged. And until the incident she came to tell on Reddit, they never had unresolved issues in the relationship.
The said incident began when one night the OP had a crazy dream that she dated Adam Driver. He is an American actor who gained a lot of recognition after starring in such movies as Marriage Story, House of Gucci, the Star Wars sequels trilogy, and many other titles.
As some of you might be aware, dreams have meanings. And so, dreaming of a celebrity means something as well. For example, dreaming of getting intimate with a famous person can symbolize intimacy, excitement, commitment, or desire.
Talking more overall, dreaming of celebrities can have a variety of meanings, for example, Czaroma Roman distinguished as many as 15 different meanings. Those can include seeking inspiration or appreciation, feeling happy or unhappy, or a need to work out things in one’s relationships.
If the descriptions on the internet don’t help to figure out what exactly the dreams mean, a person can find a dream interpreter, who may help decode their subconsciousness. Or there’s no need to contact a real person – AI can interpret dreams too. What a world we live in!
Coming back to the story, the OP told her fiancé about the dream. He said that her dreams are always extremely delusional because she couldn’t pull someone as attractive as the mentioned actor, as she looks like “she’s already taken.”
This insulted the woman, as technically her fiancé implied that she wasn’t attractive enough. She said she doesn’t want to attract other men, he is enough for her, but it still hurts to be put down like that. It made her feel that he didn’t value her as much as she valued him.
The OP called her mom and friends for reassurance about the situation and all of them said she was overreacting, as she has a history of overreacting to certain things. So, the woman took it to Reddit to ask if she was justified in feeling the way she felt.
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Later she came to the same Reddit community with an update – she’s single now!
After both her mother and closest friends brushed off her worries, the woman reached out to her other friends and therapist. These people from her life told her she shouldn’t brush this situation off and should have a conversation with her partner.
So, she did. The OP told him that he shouldn’t continue making such remarks if they wanted to stay in the relationship. The woman also suggested going to couples’ therapy, as she thinks both of them have insecurities that might ruin the relationship.
This made the 28-year-old man justify his actions with claims such as his fiancée catfishing as a younger woman, since her friends are 22-24, while she’s 26; Adam Driver being taller than him; and the OP becoming “cocky” since she started going to therapy.
This made the woman see the man she thought she knew so well with different eyes. So, she decided to end their engagement by returning the ring and leaving with her essential items, while he was throwing a tantrum.
But that wasn’t the end of his shady behavior. When there came a need to return her stuff, he sent her things in trash bags full of glitter, wouldn’t let her into the apartment anymore, and even sent all her Star Wars movies with Adam Driver in them broken and destroyed. This quickly made the OP fall out of love with him.
She not only lost her fiancé but her friends as well, as they didn’t care for her well-being. Luckily, her family supported her while she was bracing for the holidays as a single woman.
The whole story was quite a rollercoaster ride, right? Well, yes, but at the same time, for people online, it’s pretty clear who is the one to blame. It is the man, who got too comfortable in the relationship. He simply forgot to cherish the woman, so he lost her. And we guess that this was for the best, because, as many folks online pointed out – who would want to spend a life with someone who is comfy enough to insult you?
Netizens were quick to advise the woman to lose her insulting fiance, as the relationship is already doomed
Congratulate yourself that you've had a very fortunate escape! You lost 5 years - many women lose half their lives with a stupid, unappreciative mate. I'm happy for you that you saw this before you married. x
She also lost at least 100+ pounds getting rid of him
Load More Replies...Bullet dodged. Making the comment was bad enough, but belittling her feelings and doubling down was the kicker. Fuq that clown.
Yes to all of your comments 👍🏻, @BarkingSpider; this ex-BF was literally jealous on a imagined , dreamt of encounter with a star who has been happily married since forever with two kids? Oh dear.... 😵💫😆 ( I'm a massive Adam Driver fan); yes, it's the belittling her that shows his "true", ugly face..
Load More Replies...You know if their partner had said something like that to them they would be livid but they're telling her to get over it?
Load More Replies...The mention of his new work culture is a good explanation if his "change" in behavior, even if it just caused him to grow more comfortable in showing a long-buried side of his personality. I've witnessed shocking personality shifts from people moving to toxic work environments. Went through a hellish two years where FIL and BIL had both been hanging with some awful people on their work site, and got comfortable enough to bring their work personalities home. I spent a lot of visits hiding in a different room, stressed to the point of feeling the room spin for those two years. Glad OP was still just a fiance, because it gets way harder to convince yourself to leave once the legal contracts are signed. Thank goodness there seems to be no kids involved either.
Jesus. Lol. I bet you he turns into one of those dudes who begs to open the relationship in 10 years & then begs to close it when he can't get attention from even women his own age & she's pulling dudes left & right. Bahahahahahahaaha. If my husband ever talked about me like that I would be devastated. Instead he's delusional & would be like "you could definitely pull Adam driver. He'd be lucky to have you!" Which... I know he's not serious. But I sometimes believe that he believes it. It doesn't matter bc he would NEVER put me down. Even if I gained weight or wasn't looking the same as I did 10 years ago. That's just rude. & I would never do that to him. We've both changed a lot. But I love him & I'm just as attracted to him as the day we met. N I would never ever ever want to hurt his self esteem & it goes both ways. Don't settle for someone who thinks you're less than them. Odds are, they're less than you.
I was just going to say something similar with the open relationship comparison. I bet the ex won't pull anyone close to the person OP is for the rest of his bitter life. lmao
Load More Replies...He’s a gas-lighting, insecure, narcissistic AH. Good on you for getting the therapy you need to reclaim your self esteem! Your “cockiness” shows it’s helping. Don’t waste another tear over this jerk. I wonder how he would have reacted if she told him she dreamed he was 6’2” and was packing 8-10”?!?
Never, ever stay in a relationship with someone who thinks it's acceptable to insult you.
Who in their right mind thinks we have control over our dreams and who appears in them? And what kind of person gets jealous enough over a dream to belittle their partner? What a tool.
Uhm, I do have that control sometimes. It's not common but some people can control their dreams, it's called 'lucid dreaming'. Edit to add: I totally agree with what you said, just an FYI about controlling dreams
Load More Replies...It's clear one of them stopped making an effort after the engagement, but it wasn't the OP. A.very lucky escape, and I'm sure she'll find someone who genuinely values her next time.
The way the ex acted during and afterwards literally confirms OP's feelings. Glad that idiot let his true feelings out so OP could see she was worth way more than that a*****e and had everything she felt confirmed by his actions. GGs, OP!
And this my friends is why I'm single. Ain't no man gonna talk to me like that, no sir.
Agree. My ex was emotionally abusive and I refuse to go down that cycle again. I would like to be in a relationship but not at the expense of my emotional well-being. I've resigned to being single for a while.
Load More Replies...I lost 25 years with mine. I loved him beyond all reason. Very literally, I would have willingly taken a bullet or 6 for him without thinking. I got 25 years of narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, enforced helplessness and total dependence on him. Then a month after I buried my mother, he confessed to cheating while I was in hospital on suicide watch after a nervous breakdown and not even knowing if I would get to go home. Then he left me for her. It's been 7 years. The first 4 were hard as hell, and I almost didn;t make it. But I did. I'm still here. And I don't care if he drives into a lake or tries to get back with me. He isn't worth my time. I don't think about him. He's not even worth the effort of being angry or upset any more.
I hope OP will reconsider being friends with those who tried to belittle her feelings about the boyfriends s****y behavior.
It may be one in an absolute million, but there are stories of celebrities settling down with others who aren't. Adam Driver is taken but there are other hot men out there so shoot for the stars, girl!!! You already have a good start in dumping that trash bag of an ex-fiance.
Speaking as a 5' 6" guy, it annoys me when short guys are funny about their height. I get the feeling of insecurity. I got that when all my friends shot up like beanstalks and I remained decidedly low altitude. But that wasn't anyone else's problem. But that was when I was a kid. I'm a full grown(ish) adult now and it doesn't bother me. If anything I'm weirdly proud of it now. It's part of who I am.
Also, don't have to pay extra money on flights for more leg room!
Load More Replies...She should spend the next few weeks taking pictures with very attractive men and send them all to him.
Cute revenge fantasy and I don't blame you for it. However, pictures can backfire - anyone can stand next to an attractive person or do basic photoshop. No need to waste more time and mental energy trying to prove something to some idiot or start a flame war. I'm far more impressed that she's moving on so well. I wish I'd been that mature at her age!
Load More Replies...Congratulate yourself that you've had a very fortunate escape! You lost 5 years - many women lose half their lives with a stupid, unappreciative mate. I'm happy for you that you saw this before you married. x
She also lost at least 100+ pounds getting rid of him
Load More Replies...Bullet dodged. Making the comment was bad enough, but belittling her feelings and doubling down was the kicker. Fuq that clown.
Yes to all of your comments 👍🏻, @BarkingSpider; this ex-BF was literally jealous on a imagined , dreamt of encounter with a star who has been happily married since forever with two kids? Oh dear.... 😵💫😆 ( I'm a massive Adam Driver fan); yes, it's the belittling her that shows his "true", ugly face..
Load More Replies...You know if their partner had said something like that to them they would be livid but they're telling her to get over it?
Load More Replies...The mention of his new work culture is a good explanation if his "change" in behavior, even if it just caused him to grow more comfortable in showing a long-buried side of his personality. I've witnessed shocking personality shifts from people moving to toxic work environments. Went through a hellish two years where FIL and BIL had both been hanging with some awful people on their work site, and got comfortable enough to bring their work personalities home. I spent a lot of visits hiding in a different room, stressed to the point of feeling the room spin for those two years. Glad OP was still just a fiance, because it gets way harder to convince yourself to leave once the legal contracts are signed. Thank goodness there seems to be no kids involved either.
Jesus. Lol. I bet you he turns into one of those dudes who begs to open the relationship in 10 years & then begs to close it when he can't get attention from even women his own age & she's pulling dudes left & right. Bahahahahahahaaha. If my husband ever talked about me like that I would be devastated. Instead he's delusional & would be like "you could definitely pull Adam driver. He'd be lucky to have you!" Which... I know he's not serious. But I sometimes believe that he believes it. It doesn't matter bc he would NEVER put me down. Even if I gained weight or wasn't looking the same as I did 10 years ago. That's just rude. & I would never do that to him. We've both changed a lot. But I love him & I'm just as attracted to him as the day we met. N I would never ever ever want to hurt his self esteem & it goes both ways. Don't settle for someone who thinks you're less than them. Odds are, they're less than you.
I was just going to say something similar with the open relationship comparison. I bet the ex won't pull anyone close to the person OP is for the rest of his bitter life. lmao
Load More Replies...He’s a gas-lighting, insecure, narcissistic AH. Good on you for getting the therapy you need to reclaim your self esteem! Your “cockiness” shows it’s helping. Don’t waste another tear over this jerk. I wonder how he would have reacted if she told him she dreamed he was 6’2” and was packing 8-10”?!?
Never, ever stay in a relationship with someone who thinks it's acceptable to insult you.
Who in their right mind thinks we have control over our dreams and who appears in them? And what kind of person gets jealous enough over a dream to belittle their partner? What a tool.
Uhm, I do have that control sometimes. It's not common but some people can control their dreams, it's called 'lucid dreaming'. Edit to add: I totally agree with what you said, just an FYI about controlling dreams
Load More Replies...It's clear one of them stopped making an effort after the engagement, but it wasn't the OP. A.very lucky escape, and I'm sure she'll find someone who genuinely values her next time.
The way the ex acted during and afterwards literally confirms OP's feelings. Glad that idiot let his true feelings out so OP could see she was worth way more than that a*****e and had everything she felt confirmed by his actions. GGs, OP!
And this my friends is why I'm single. Ain't no man gonna talk to me like that, no sir.
Agree. My ex was emotionally abusive and I refuse to go down that cycle again. I would like to be in a relationship but not at the expense of my emotional well-being. I've resigned to being single for a while.
Load More Replies...I lost 25 years with mine. I loved him beyond all reason. Very literally, I would have willingly taken a bullet or 6 for him without thinking. I got 25 years of narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, enforced helplessness and total dependence on him. Then a month after I buried my mother, he confessed to cheating while I was in hospital on suicide watch after a nervous breakdown and not even knowing if I would get to go home. Then he left me for her. It's been 7 years. The first 4 were hard as hell, and I almost didn;t make it. But I did. I'm still here. And I don't care if he drives into a lake or tries to get back with me. He isn't worth my time. I don't think about him. He's not even worth the effort of being angry or upset any more.
I hope OP will reconsider being friends with those who tried to belittle her feelings about the boyfriends s****y behavior.
It may be one in an absolute million, but there are stories of celebrities settling down with others who aren't. Adam Driver is taken but there are other hot men out there so shoot for the stars, girl!!! You already have a good start in dumping that trash bag of an ex-fiance.
Speaking as a 5' 6" guy, it annoys me when short guys are funny about their height. I get the feeling of insecurity. I got that when all my friends shot up like beanstalks and I remained decidedly low altitude. But that wasn't anyone else's problem. But that was when I was a kid. I'm a full grown(ish) adult now and it doesn't bother me. If anything I'm weirdly proud of it now. It's part of who I am.
Also, don't have to pay extra money on flights for more leg room!
Load More Replies...She should spend the next few weeks taking pictures with very attractive men and send them all to him.
Cute revenge fantasy and I don't blame you for it. However, pictures can backfire - anyone can stand next to an attractive person or do basic photoshop. No need to waste more time and mental energy trying to prove something to some idiot or start a flame war. I'm far more impressed that she's moving on so well. I wish I'd been that mature at her age!
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