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Woman Goes Nuts After Her Made-Up Lie To Sabotage Best Friend’s Relationship Doesn’t Work
Nothing good comes from having an unhealthy relationship with alcohol. According to a 2024 report by the World Health Organization (WHO), alcohol consumption led to 2.6 million lives lost in 2019, the highest number to date.
It also ruins friendships, much like what happened between the two women in the story you’re about to read. A decade of being friends turned into an ugly affair that lasted for more than a year, all because one of them decided she would get intoxicated and act on her blind jealousy.
This story takes quite a few left turns, and, unfortunately, doesn’t end on a high note for the saner of the two.
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For these two women, it caused the downfall of their 13-year friendship
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The author was left in a difficult situation between her friend and significant other
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People in toxic friendships may go through periods of self-doubt
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The story’s author was clearly in a difficult situation, dealing with serious accusations from her longtime friend, Becca. She was essentially placed in a spot where she had to pick sides, and it was between two people she deeply cared about.
According to California-based licensed therapist Brook Spowl, the person on the receiving end of toxicity may end up doubting themselves and questioning whether they’re seeing things the right way.
“It really takes a toll on your self-trust, because you’re being told that if you set boundaries, you’re being selfish, or if you’re not giving in to all of their needs, you’re letting them down,” Spowl said in an interview with Time Magazine.
In the same interview, Minneapolis-based therapist Dr. Jenna Brownfield pointed out how toxic friends often engage in emotional hijacking, where they may pressure the other person to act according to their needs.
“It can end up isolating you from other connections, leaving you focused solely on what’s actually a toxic friendship,” Dr. Brownfield said.
If it were about erring on the side of caution, it may help the author to take Becca’s words with a grain of salt, especially since she was likely in an unstable state when she made the accusations. She may even need to distance herself if the situation takes an uglier turn.
The author responded to readers who had their questions
Some commenters shared their advice
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The woman shared an update regarding her situation with Becca
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She also shared a nasty text message from her former friend
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The woman responded to comments on the update
More people shared their candid reactions
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The woman provided a second update after almost a year, stating that things didn’t end well for her
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Comments on the new developments flooded in
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Kate Johnson 2 weeks ago
Why you would want to be friends with an obviously deeply disturbed drunk that has repeatedly used alcohol as an excuse for poor behavior? I'm struggling to understand what the attraction of such a profound trainwreck would be? But I certainly wouldn't believe anything she said, especially when she was drinking.
Michael Danhauer 2 weeks ago
People don't always have problems out the gate. These issues develop over the course of friendships sometimes. You don't jump ship after a few big waves. You ride out the storm if you can. Unfortunately, empathy can be used as a trap against you and you wind up tolerating behavior for too long alienating others in the process.
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Veronica Jean 2 weeks ago
I have to be honest, I'm not unhappy. She isn't with this guy anymore. Don't get me wrong, what Becca did was insane. But I'm not a big fan of when a partner punishes their partner or makes it clear that they feel that individual has to earn them being with them simply because they did not IMMEDIATELY refute a very reasonable concern. The truth is it does not matter how long you've known someone or how much you love them, We are all aware of how some people can deceive. That level of trust earns you the benefit of the doubt, but not blind confidence. All it takes is being with one narcissist to understand how deeply someone can deceive someone else. I feel like mature adults recognize this and work past it rather than punish each other for not blindly believing them.
Trillian 2 weeks ago (edited)
Same. Yes Becca did have a problem with drinking but OP did not mention her ever turning mean or weird against her. She was her best friend and yes, I would totally believe my best friend or at least I would not immediately sweep it aside for a dude who regularly deletes messages (and no that is not a standard signal feature). I would need my partner to understand the really impossible situation this would put me in and not ride a moral high horse for months afterwards.
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Michael Danhauer 2 weeks ago (edited)
Gosh people... Must be nice to be so perfect y'all know how to handle every situation. It's easy with the benefit of objectivity and hindsight. Instead, try having empathy for people who find themselves caught in the middle of social troubles. It's not easy to find a balance that seems obvious to outsiders.
Surly Scot 2 weeks ago (edited)
OP has a years long toxic relationship with someone who's abus.ive to OP and others when drunk, and puts that relationship above the healthy relationship with Nate. OP deserved the outcome, Becca should've been kicked to the curb years ago after 1-2 instances of her drunken nonsense, not kept around to cause this needy drama. Lucky escape for Nate from both.
Paul C 2 weeks ago
Reading it all, I find it so ridiculous that OP didn't know who to believe. All the negative things she said about her friend's behaviour, especially whilst drunk, but never a bad word about Nate. She had plenty of reason to doubt her friend. Even if true, it was still dump the friend territory for the cheating (as well as BF). I think Nate made a sensible decision to dump her, but for the wrong reason. It shouldn't have been for the drama, but because his GF didn't trust him. After 7 years.
Binky Melnik 2 weeks ago
Any one thinking that a surprise proposal can be covered up with claims of the proposée cheating is out of her mind, obviously, and that should have occurred to OP, too, that Nate wouldn’t ever think something so 🦇💩 insane. I really don’t understand people who protect best friends, BFs/GFs, family members, or coworkers who’ve objectively lost their minds and continue to put up with and make excuses for their behavior. Yikes! Push those people out of your life! Whatever they bring to the party, it’s not worth the hassle, worry, inconvenience, and just plain CRAZY.
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Scott Rackley 2 weeks ago (edited)
Nate has a lot more patience than I do. I would have left after the first accusation. The trust was broken right then and there.
Vinnie 2 weeks ago
I agree with the difficulty of breaking off a long friendship. Not sure about mistrusting most men because of biology. On the other hand, you may have experienced and observed a lot of cheating. I'm aware of some cheating in other couples, but it seems less than half.
Load More Replies... Kate Johnson 2 weeks ago
Why you would want to be friends with an obviously deeply disturbed drunk that has repeatedly used alcohol as an excuse for poor behavior? I'm struggling to understand what the attraction of such a profound trainwreck would be? But I certainly wouldn't believe anything she said, especially when she was drinking.
Michael Danhauer 2 weeks ago
People don't always have problems out the gate. These issues develop over the course of friendships sometimes. You don't jump ship after a few big waves. You ride out the storm if you can. Unfortunately, empathy can be used as a trap against you and you wind up tolerating behavior for too long alienating others in the process.
Load More Replies... Veronica Jean 2 weeks ago
I have to be honest, I'm not unhappy. She isn't with this guy anymore. Don't get me wrong, what Becca did was insane. But I'm not a big fan of when a partner punishes their partner or makes it clear that they feel that individual has to earn them being with them simply because they did not IMMEDIATELY refute a very reasonable concern. The truth is it does not matter how long you've known someone or how much you love them, We are all aware of how some people can deceive. That level of trust earns you the benefit of the doubt, but not blind confidence. All it takes is being with one narcissist to understand how deeply someone can deceive someone else. I feel like mature adults recognize this and work past it rather than punish each other for not blindly believing them.
Trillian 2 weeks ago (edited)
Same. Yes Becca did have a problem with drinking but OP did not mention her ever turning mean or weird against her. She was her best friend and yes, I would totally believe my best friend or at least I would not immediately sweep it aside for a dude who regularly deletes messages (and no that is not a standard signal feature). I would need my partner to understand the really impossible situation this would put me in and not ride a moral high horse for months afterwards.
Load More Replies... Michael Danhauer 2 weeks ago (edited)
Gosh people... Must be nice to be so perfect y'all know how to handle every situation. It's easy with the benefit of objectivity and hindsight. Instead, try having empathy for people who find themselves caught in the middle of social troubles. It's not easy to find a balance that seems obvious to outsiders.
Surly Scot 2 weeks ago (edited)
OP has a years long toxic relationship with someone who's abus.ive to OP and others when drunk, and puts that relationship above the healthy relationship with Nate. OP deserved the outcome, Becca should've been kicked to the curb years ago after 1-2 instances of her drunken nonsense, not kept around to cause this needy drama. Lucky escape for Nate from both.
Paul C 2 weeks ago
Reading it all, I find it so ridiculous that OP didn't know who to believe. All the negative things she said about her friend's behaviour, especially whilst drunk, but never a bad word about Nate. She had plenty of reason to doubt her friend. Even if true, it was still dump the friend territory for the cheating (as well as BF). I think Nate made a sensible decision to dump her, but for the wrong reason. It shouldn't have been for the drama, but because his GF didn't trust him. After 7 years.
Binky Melnik 2 weeks ago
Any one thinking that a surprise proposal can be covered up with claims of the proposée cheating is out of her mind, obviously, and that should have occurred to OP, too, that Nate wouldn’t ever think something so 🦇💩 insane. I really don’t understand people who protect best friends, BFs/GFs, family members, or coworkers who’ve objectively lost their minds and continue to put up with and make excuses for their behavior. Yikes! Push those people out of your life! Whatever they bring to the party, it’s not worth the hassle, worry, inconvenience, and just plain CRAZY.
Load More Replies... Scott Rackley 2 weeks ago (edited)
Nate has a lot more patience than I do. I would have left after the first accusation. The trust was broken right then and there.
Vinnie 2 weeks ago
I agree with the difficulty of breaking off a long friendship. Not sure about mistrusting most men because of biology. On the other hand, you may have experienced and observed a lot of cheating. I'm aware of some cheating in other couples, but it seems less than half.
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