Millennials Nearing Their 40s That Have Made Mistakes Share 30 Of The Most Regretful Ones In This Online Group

I got there in my early 30s, but I definitely spent way too long hating myself for no good reason

I don't hate myself, I'm frustrated that all the things I want to make of myself I haven't been able to succeed in.

I still hate myself, and I don’t wanna, but I accept myself for the weirdness about me.

I started "being enough" after I had my daughter. But I was 34 when that happened and I definitely think that was way too late. I wasted too much time worrying about stupid and irrelevant things. Self acceptance should be taught at school before reading.

I'm in my 30s and I think I need to work on that. More so recently where I've really been hating myself.

With the speed of inflation.. unless you invest it... That money would not be worth that much now

i tell the younger people at work, who are always broke, QUIT smoking! $12 a pack, a pack day...$360 a month. that's a car payment or $4300 a year into savings. and you won't die 15 years sooner. also, don't spend your tax refund. invest it.

Must be nice to have been getting paid enough to put 10% away.

Said almost everyone.

I learned if I deposited only $1000 a year for 10 years starting at 18. It would be 1.2 million by 65. Now imagine if I did more and for a longer time. Wish I'd been taught that in school.

My mom told me not to get married before 25. I thought she was nuts. I am so happy I waited bc if I married the man I was with in my early 20s I’d be divorced and in serious debt.

I married at 22, my wife was almost 24. We raised 3 beautiful daughters, and after 26 years of a good marriage were becoming grandparents this October. We're still together and happy, living a good and loving life. I thank God for that.

On the flip side - I got married in my early 20s (to my high school sweetheart) and had my first kid at 24 and we are still happily married and will be youngish still when the empty nest hits.... I do think that this is a case to case basis

I believe people go through a great transformation between 20s and 30s. And I think that transformation should be done alone. You can date and have your fun, but wait until your 30s to settle down.

I married at 20 and gave birth 5 month later followed by another child when I was 22. My marriage lasted 7 years. We simply grew up and apart.

I also stayed for 28 years (teaching), When I finally left and got my new job made twice as much!!!

OMG i felt this. I made the same mistake. It was safe and I felt good because I was so good at it. I was the one people leaned on and went to for answers and that made me feel useful. But I made nothing. I fought for every quarter raise. I finally went and got a new job making more and while I wasn't as happy because I didn't feel as confident in what I was doing, I felt financially more independent. If there's any advice I can give to younger people it's to not get into the 'easy' rut. If you're constantly struggling to pay bills because you don't make enough, get into a new job now. Don't wait. It's going to take time for you to get to a level where you make more but if you work hard you'll get there faster. The longer you wait the longer it will take to more financial freedom. It's worth the risk. Unless you plan to become the manager/owner, get out of the food service or clothing store job- you'll always be poor otherwise.

We can get imprinted by our parents’ reluctance to quit, but they were cautious because they had us to take into account.

Can't risk it at the moment but I'm hoping within a year or so I can change environments.

I did the same. But it was because the economy post-2008 was so unstable for younger people trying to establish careers, my logic was, I think fairly justified. My thinking was "I can't afford to take a risk by leaving my job in this economy to take more exciting, but less stable opportunities. I am lucky in that I have a permanent contract in my current job. Everything advertised now is short-term contracts."

Some call us xennials because we are right on the line and we have siblings in both generations.

These days I don't have much of a choice but I really hope I can get here one day.

I think about that, I'm a home body so in some eyes not living life to the fullest. But I am living life the way I want to.

Id like to but cant afford to live it up. Need to work a bit first.

Man this whole thread is speaking to me so much. I think not getting a handle on my weight has been the regret of my life. And it's something that I have control of which is the saddest part. I've gotten much better with being happy with myself as I am but I do wish I'd been healthier when I was younger and gotten into good habits then so it wouldn't be such a struggle for me now. .

I'm 26 and i got sore on my feet recently, turned out my uric acid elevated. Totally changed my diet after the treatment 🤡

This.

Yeah i did my back out at work when i was 29. Heavy lifting every day at work. Definitely did something wrong one day or just straining myself with all the lifting. I don't know why i stayed so long at the job, as a very petite young woman, not really the best job to be doing lol! I found out i was a few weeks pregnant when i visited the doctor about my back problems. So they wouldn't and couldn't do very much for me as i was pregnant. So the horrendous back pain/problems only got worse due to pregnancy. 4 years later and my quality of life has definitely changed for the worse all because of severe back problems now. I took so much for granted before but even the simplest of tasks are impossible for me now, the list is endless! Take good care of your back! I wish i had

Yep, take care of your knees also.

Or hearing, as one with horrible tinnitus.

Sciatica is a m**o

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I guess it depends if your dad was a good person or not. In my case, he was great but he left too early. He died barely past being 37 years old, almost 30 years ago, and I miss him until today

Just lost my mother,can't say how much I wish I could spend more time with her

My Daddy was my rock. I was 22 and begrudgingly went to Czechoslovakia in 1982 with my Dad for 3 weeks to see family. He died 2 months afterwards and I realized it was a gift.

Today is actually what would or been my Dad's 69th birthday (April 21st). He lost his battle with MS 3 years ago and I miss him every day.

I would have, had he not chosen to have a GF whilst my mum was expecting her only child. That man was never a father, much less a "dad".

I feel this, but I wasn‘t ready to take the initiative sooner.

I was too f****d up to know how f****d up I was.

Studying child development and psychology has kind of helped with this.

I didn’t even know I had trauma until my late 30’s.😢