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Friendship is definitely magic, and we have absolutely no reason not to believe those wonderful little ponies, thanks to which the whole world knows so well about the charms of friendship. But seriously, thousands of books have been written about friendship, hundreds of movies have been filmed - and yet we still do not fully understand the exact reasons why some people can have such strong feelings for each other.
However, just as there is only one step from love to hate, so the path from friendship to betrayal can be no less short. And sometimes we even realize with bitterness that the person whom we have long considered our devoted friend, in fact, turned out to be far from ideal. And then the only thing left is to share your story!
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#1
For a long time, I thought that my best friend was an a*****e for kicking me out of the apartment we shared (he was the leaseholder) in college. In reality, I was a horrible roommate who partied too much and didn't clean up after myself. I was the a*****e.
Bylee Victoriqua Malox 2 years ago
Self reflection is so sexy! Kudos to OP for doing one of the most hated chores; "Self evaluation." Hope you apologized to him/her and on your way to mend the bridge.
michele mbennett1010@att.net 2 years ago
Yes, you were. Fortunately you recognize this and hopefully are a better person today 😀
Riley Quinn 2 years ago
I wonder if any of my former housemates are seeing themselves for the first time with this post.
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#2
When she told me she was cheating on her husband and then I found out she was cheating with MY husband.
Sam Juan 2 years ago (edited)
Dayum! Both your friend and your husband are fake. I'm so sorry.
Jeane Gallo 2 years ago
Not as fake as you think. it also happened to me.
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Bylee Victoriqua Malox 2 years ago
😂😂😂Now that'd be boss revenge! Imagine if the friends husband liked op first but she was already with someone and so he gave up and fell for the best friend who was a shoulder. Now that husband blew it she finds someone who treats her better than he ever did!
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michele mbennett1010@att.net 2 years ago
Couple of douchbags and deserve each other. They will cheat again.
April Stephens 2 years ago
I wonder if the horrible friend was intending to confess the whole thing during that conversation and only followed through with that first reveal.
#3
This will get buried, but it’s my time to shine…
Best Friend of 30 years.
Gets a girl pregnant at 21. They get married. Have the baby. He gets mad at someone at work and walks out, with a newborn at home.
My stepdad hires him, even though he doesn’t really have any skills, nor is there a position for him. Works there for a long time. Learns well. Does a great job. Gets promoted often and is paid well.
Covid happens. Stepdad files for some PPP. In the course of the paper work they found out my best friend. Who had been treated like a son (better than me at times) had embezzled roughly $100k over three or so years.
Not my best friend anymore.
In fact, history knows many examples when former friends became bitter enemies. Suffice it to recall at least Julius Caesar, whose murderer Brutus not only organized a whole conspiracy against his former close friend, but is also considered by some researchers to be Caesar's biological son. However, big politics and friendship, unfortunately, are often not just incompatible things - they are completely opposite things.
#4
When he got his girlfriend pregnant he got 6 weeks of paternity leave. He lived with me and she had her own place. For months after the child was born he sat home taking advantage of his paid vacation playing 10 hours of video games a day while she struggled with the child.
Lesbian Sloth 2 years ago
A*****e... also unrelated but the dress in the picture is an amazing colour
Stylishsidewaysbird 2 years ago
This is why you really need to think about who you have a child with.
Couragetcd 2 years ago
Yes, try not to have a child with someone who will be less mature than your child within a decade.
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Couragetcd 2 years ago
So...the room mate who posted this realized he was an a*****e because of this, but did they do anything or even say anything at the time?
#5
When she threw a s**t-fit after I said something along the lines of—“if he cheats on his wife with you, what do you think is going to stop him from cheating on you with someone else?”
Apparently I’m not supportive?
RagDollLali 2 years ago (edited)
1. Cheats with a cheater 2. Cheater then cheats on them 3. *Shocked pikachu face*
Mark Stewart 2 years ago (edited)
There's a saying, when a man marries his mistress, he creates a vacancy.
Bylee Victoriqua Malox 2 years ago
Now that's a wise person who deserves a drink 👏
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Dirk Daring 2 years ago (edited)
My father cheated on my mother. After the divorce, he married the woman he was cheating with. Then he cheated on her, divorced, married the woman he was cheating with. Pattern repeats. So far I've had at least 5 stepmothers. I don't know the exact number, because I went No Contact about ten years ago.
Suzy Creamcheese 2 years ago
If they'll do it *with* you, they'll do it *to* you. One of the fundamental laws of the universe. ;-)
Couragetcd 2 years ago
They were on a break! Sorry, I heard Rachel talking to Ross in my head reading this
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I think OP was plenty supportive. They didn't call their mistress best friend a sack of s**t for helping a piece of scum cheat on his wife.
Riley Quinn 2 years ago
No, you asked a very pertinent question that deep down she already knows the answer to. Guess every generation has to learn this painful lesson on their own.
#6
I was poor and in college, I had the flu really really bad one week and asked my friend (he lived in a dorm across the hall) to go to the convenience store in the dorm lobby and get me something to drink and he could get whatever for himself too. He got me my soda and himself $40 worth of snacks. Didn’t notice at the time and I ordered us a pizza, he knew it was all I was going to have to eat for the next few days, and he snuck into my room and ate the leftovers while I was passed out on cold medicine.
I didn’t even really know how to respond. Like I was already buying him snacks and feeding him… he had a meal plan on campus (I didn’t)… why act like that?
Nannychachi 2 years ago
Me, sick and broke. I call a friend who owes me a small amount of money if she can pay me at least enough so I can get cheap OTC med. She apologized that she was broke herself and wished she could help me. I search all over and finally end up with like $3 and go to the dollar store for med. Who's in there? Friend is with a buggy full of stuff. She stepped in front of the buggy trying to hide how much she had. I had a few words with her right then and there. We still talk occasionally, but it's never been the same.
Cara 2 years ago (edited)
Friend is despicable, but what the heck was in that cold medicine to make them pass out? Never heard of some having that reaction to a Lemsip here!
Couragetcd 2 years ago
Could have been old school NyQuil. I don't think it has alcohol in it like it used to along with the actual medicine.
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"When you open up to a friend, you make yourself vulnerable to that person," says Holly Roberts, a psychotherapist with the relationship charity Relate, in an interview with The Guardian. "That's what makes it hard. Because you've bared yourself emotionally to that person and been hurt by them." And it is even sadder that what has been created and maintained for months and years can be destroyed literally in a moment or so.
Indeed, according to a recent study by Jeffrey Hall, a professor of communication studies at the University of Kansas, it takes about 50 hours of continuous conversation to call a stranger your friend, and 200 hours to become a close friend. At the same time, our communication resources decrease with age - for example, according to the same study, the average American spends only about 41 minutes a day in conversations with people.
#7
When she moved in with her boyfriend who didn't like dogs. At first her 2 collies were locked in the basement. Rarely taken for walks. Instead they would just spread newspaper on the floor and switch it out when it was saturated. When the older of the 2 collies died, the remaining dog was banished to a small corner of the backyard chained to a doghouse. She didn't even go outside to feed her, but threw her food out of a window onto the ground. Only went out every other day or so to refill the water dish and pick up poop.
She argued with me that all of the dogs needs were taken care of and she was fine. I draw the line at animal abuse - no one who I call a friend treats an animal like that. That's when I stopped being her friend. Haven't had any contact since.
Mandy Randell 2 years ago
Makes op no better in my eyes if they just watched it happen and didn't report it.
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Hugh Cookson 2 years ago
That is truly disgusting, I hope she catches a disfiguring disease. What a vile individual.
Sandie Shaw 2 years ago
I would have taken the dog too. I have done it once with a so-called friend that had a dog tied up outside that she didn't pay attention to. Just walked by one night and left with the dog
#8
When my ex turned violent and I ended up running to live in a literal tent in the woods as I had no money, a lot of my "friends" suddenly stopped talking to me. Only TWO stuck around.
F**k all of those a******s who discarded me the second I was in dire need and trouble.
Lizzie Lola 2 years ago
I've had at least 3 people over 20 years live with me to put a roof over their heads, that's what friends DO.
BeepBeepBoopBoop 2 years ago
I live with my parents currently but I make it very obvious and try to remind anyone I know that our doors are always open for people who need them. We have two extra rooms in our house for people to stay in for any reason as long as they still go to any commitments (jobs, school etc)
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Kind of had a similar experience, but in reverse. Took in a friend, so she wouldn't have to continue living in an abusive home. Estimated it would take about three months for her to find a place to rent. About half a year later (at some point I had set an ultimatum bc my flat was way too small and times were pretty rough) she still was living at my place and when I asked her if she ever had any intentions on finding and renting an apartment of her own after she told me she wasn't looking for one at the moment, she straight up said no.
KnightOwl 2 years ago
Sounds like what happened with me. I fled my abusive family at 17 and was lucky to get a room in a homeless hostel. I was really depressed and had no money as I had to drop out of college. All my friends stopped talking to me and started actively avoiding me. Apparently me going through a hard time was 'difficult for them to cope with' and made it hard for them to relate to me. I understand being young and wanting to go out partying and have fun experiences but ditching a friend who's going through a rough patch because you've never been through anything like that is just unbelievably selfish. I lost my home, my family and all my friends in the space of a few weeks. I was already struggling with mental health issues which got a lot worse during my time in the hostel (depression, anxiety, PTSD and self harming) I still see my ex best friend occasionally as she lives near my sister but I walk right past her and we haven't spoken since this all happened 18yrs ago.
Marek Čtrnáct 2 years ago
"In time of need, you'll know your friends. They, however, will pretend to not know you."
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
In Africa we have a bumper sticker for our cars, as follows: "When days are dark, friends are few."
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Riley Quinn 2 years ago
And now you know the difference between fair-weather friends and real friends. Hopefully, recognizing red flags will come easier.
#9
Realizing I am always there for them but it is never reciprocated or even acknowledged or even feigned interested in any thing I am doing in life.
Craftsman 64 2 years ago
After years and years, I finally have a mental list of whom I'll drop everything to help and another list of people who couldn't be bothered to come through for me so "Sorry, I'm out of town/getting ready to leave for a trip".
XenoMurph 2 years ago
I have a friend who dropped me at the worst time of my life, I was still there for him at the worst time in his life. I'm glad he got his life sorted out, and glad he's sorted himslef out, for his kids.
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crowspectre (he/they) 2 years ago
This is everyone. If you think like this, you're the clingy one. I used to think that my friends treated me badly when in actuality I was just a clingy a*****e who couldn't understand boundaries
BeepBeepBoopBoop 2 years ago
I was told I was clingy by an ex, so I stopped talking to everyone (in hindsight I think that's what he wanted me to do) then some people asked where I was and made me realize that I wasn't clingy but the ex just didn't like me lol. Still dealing with that mental battle ngl and I have constant anxiety about if I'm talking to someone too much
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Laura Struthers 2 years ago
I couldn't agree more, discovered I have ADHD and she switched off like a light, made no effort to understand or help. FI
A Bi-Cycle 2 years ago
Posted this on here but will repeat… I was always there for my “best friend”, and always supported her and helped her with her depression. Meanwhile I was/am struggling with my own mental health. Once she came to complain about something nonimportant, and I told her that she was valid and I was so sorry, but rn I wasn’t feeling good mentally and needed to take care of me first. She replied “fine, guess I’ll just go kill myself then”. It was rly triggering.
Leharallen 2 years ago
This happened to me too. Very self-absorbed. To the point where, a couple years after I left the friendship, they called to, I don't know, try to patch things up? I was pregnant at the time and told them as that was the biggest need I could share, then was barely acknowledged as they went on this long, detailed experience they just had at this retreat. Still not friends.
Bill McDowall 2 years ago
I feel this! I supported so many young people when I employed them ,paid them well above average wages (£10 00/hhr) in the 1980's, and yet when I try and contact them now it's like I'm scum!! 😔
“With age, we really reduce our level of communication, but not because we become less sociable - there is just a certain limit of active social ties, and we simply cannot physically maintain a greater number of relationships that can be classified as friendly,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, with whom Bored Panda got in touch for a comment. "This limit of social connections is commonly called the 'Dunbar number', after the British anthropologist who was the first to describe this effect."
"According to various methods of calculation, the level of Dunbar's number ranges from 150 to 300 people, but this, of course, also depends on how active a person's social life is. Therefore, with age, it becomes more and more difficult for us to make new friends - it's just that our brain does not process new incoming information so easily anymore. And the destruction of any old friendship is perceived more and more painfully," Irina notes.
#10
Probably when my gf at the time admitted to sleeping with him and my three other guy friends while we were together.
Not in an embarrassed way either, she was throwing it in my face to hurt me.
I hoped against my own instincts that it wasn't true but I asked him and knew instantly from the look in his eyes that it was.
Basically lost my whole friend group overnight, but... ended up finding *much* better friends in the long run.
It all works out.
TimeToIndulgeMyADHD 2 years ago
The friends were at fault, absolutely, but the girlfriend sounds like an absolute black hole of a human being. Talk about destroying everything in your orbit.
RagDollLali 2 years ago
Seriously, where's the self respect??? How would that be something for her to brag about to him?
Dawnieangel76 2 years ago
I had 3 "best friends" throughout the course of my life until my early 30's. Childhood best friend went off to college & forgot how a phone or postal mail worked. Gradually, of course, to drag out the hurt feelings. Teenage/early 20's best friend got married, moved out of state, also forgot how a phone worked...or email, or texting, etc. This was more abrupt rather than drawn out, but still we went through so much s**t together. Last & final best friend...we had met online in a group chatroom, shortly before the previous best friend had disappeared out of my life. We spent 2 weeks of every year together, half with her family (as far as I knew, they all loved me), and the other half at a friend's condo in Myrtle Beach. The final time we spoke, she flat out said she "wasn't interested in being friends anymore". I still don't understand, and though it's been 15 years, it still hurts. I went through heavy losses & harsh ailments alone. Never again.
Riley Quinn 2 years ago
We all know we're being betrayed, but many of us lack the ability to confront it until it blows up in our faces and it can no longer be denied.
#11
Looking back on it, a red flag was when they insulted my mothers cooking. My family isn’t very wealthy but my mother does her best and she had worked hard to make that meal so they wouldn’t be hungry. And then they just insulted it. Also they never said thank you.
Unless it’s got worms in it, you just don’t say anything bad about a meal someone took the time & care to prepare for u as a guest.
And it wasn’t even a simple “I didn’t like it very much” They straight up made fun of my mom and called her a terrible cook (which btw, she isn’t)
Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 2 years ago
They didn't have a soul in the first place
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sweetrottenpeaches 2 years ago
My heart is broken for OP's mom :( if my friends ever treated me mom with no respect I'd kick them right out of the house.. How sad...
tori Ohno 2 years ago
I dated a man once who's 10 year old son, (yes, 10) started screeching "It's naaaasty, naaaasty" over and over again right in his grandmother's crying face like he was a 2 year old. Simply because he didn't want her fettuccine alfredo, he wanted something else. Father did nothing. I just about started crying too. Guess who I don't date anymore.
DarkViolet 2 years ago (edited)
That 10-year-old banshee would never see his permanent teeth. Because he would have been the youngest person in his neighborhood with dental implants!! His father wasn't any more mature, either.
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Dark Pearl 2 years ago
How dare anyone make fun of a grown-up's cooking?! They work so hard to make a good, nutritious meal so you don't go hungry! Even if you don't like it, keep your mouth shut and accept what you're given
Nicola Koh 2 years ago
if it tasted like mud id chow down as best i could and compliment the chef and Id hope any friend of mine would do the same or make up a really plausible lie why they can't finish it
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I've always been an incredibly fussy eater and actively avoid eating at other people's homes. On the very rare occasion when I do, I always compliment the food and force down as much of it as I can even if it's gross. It's just good manners. I could never be so nasty and would never let anyone disrespect anyone I love like that.
Dawn Marie 2 years ago
The night I took my now X husband out to meet my parents for the first, Momma and Daddy took us to our favorite Chinese place. This was in 1988 by the way. On the way back out of the restaurant my Dad asked how he liked and I kid you not, this is what Scott said and I quote: "I certainly have had better!'. I didn't hear the conversation, Momma told me after my divorce and that was also after Dad passed as well. I just wished I would have known.
#12
She bought me alcohol for valentines when she knew I wanted to try to stay sober. We divorced, I’m sober three years now.
Lost my best friend but gained the rest of my life.
Brazen 2 years ago
My evil co-worker/former friend did something similar to me while I was trying to diet. She would leave 6-8 chocolate bars at my workstation every day for me. I just turned around and gave them to a nice Italian lady I worked with (she had 3 kids). Someone actually criticized me for giving them away. I still don't see how I was the bad person in that situation.
Riley Quinn 2 years ago
The quality of a gift - not the monetary value - speaks volumes. When the gifts no longer speak to the receiver, it's time to start looking around for better people.
Be that as it may, there are certain situations in which you can really understand that the person whom you previously considered to be your bosom friend is now not (or, even worse, never was). So please feel free to scroll to the very end of this list of sad and instructive stories and be sure to add your own, in case you have something to share under your belt.
#13
All we ever talked about was her - how she hated being single, who she dated, how jealous she was of other people with partners. She skipped my dad's funeral. She ignored my housewarming party. She'd ignore me for weeks at a time, then suddenly call me up crying because she got dumped. I drove her to surgeries and sat waiting to drive her home. Watched her kids. Sat through a hundred weepy nights. Then she found a relationship. I have seen her 1x in the past 9 months (because I invited her to get together) and haven't heard from her in 3. I guess she must be happy now, doesn't need me to be a shoulder to lean on. She wasn't ever interested in being a friend to me. I was just someone to cheer her up when she was feeling down.
The Voice in Your Head 2 years ago
I had a friend like that - except she also wanted me around when things were good, so she could brag about how amazing her life was. Took me an embarrassingly long time to get rid of her.
Samara Messer 2 years ago
I went through something similar with a friend. The last couple of years before I ended the friendship, she would only contact me for favors but exclude me from fun stuff like invites to happy hour, day trips etc. Then she would text me pics of all the fun and amazing stuff she was doing with her other friends like she was trying to rub it in.
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Clair Marie 2 years ago
Sounds like my ex best friend. The final straw was when I was going through a really hard time health wise and had to stop work and filed for disability. Waiting for my case to be approved I ran out of money and was evicted with my 9 yr old daughter. I didn't even call her for help that day because of how self absorbed she was. While gathering my final remnants of belongings that night she pulled up in front of my apartment. She got out of her car she looked at my stuff and asked what happened. I told her and she said Wow. Then immediately went into a tirade about her boyfriend not contacting her all day and how upset she was with him. I just shook my head and l left. She didn't even notice because she was texting on her phone. Oh and she has a husband who she was cheating on him with the boyfriend, she would constantly use me as an excuse to see him. But she plays the martyr and good Christian woman role so well everyone thinks she is a saint!
crowspectre (he/they) 2 years ago
Honestly I'd love to be this for someone. Being able to genuinely help someone is huge and I wouldn't need anything in return
Riley Quinn 2 years ago
The only positive ending to this anecdote is that you've changed, you're no longer willing to be a door mat, and that the next time she calls you out of the blue, you block her number.
RoseAnne Hutchence 2 years ago
To be fair though, you did allow her to treat you that way. Hope you've raised the "friendship" bar.
#14
When I realised that I was an alcoholic and needed to make a life change and his response was to say ' who am I going to drink with now?'
assdog 2 years ago
True story. About just over a decade ago i ran a very small but (still have) successful tree surgery business but due to the stress i self medicated with booze, i didn't climb when drinking/nor drove but i needed it after.....a lot and didn't risk anyone's life when working. It was tough being an alcoholic. My "friend" offered to help but he then went round all of my clients and told them what was happening to me, they knew what was happening to me. I never lied about it but the funny thing was they said to my "friend" who TF are you? We are here to help him and we want him to work for us. Said "friend" was kicked out of each clients garden on the spot, lost all respect of everyone but i still work for all the same clients to this day. Cut down on my booze but still like wine at night. Never saw the fxkin wxnker again. I'm told he left the country owing thousands to other people.
Paul Brown 2 years ago
When I quit drinking I realized that the only thing I had in common with my "friends" was alcohol. Once I stopped my so called friends stopped coming around.
Pumpkin Spice 2 years ago
the correct response when someone tells you this is to say "i'm so proud of you, if you need any help just ask, and we'll go somewhere else on the weekends."
Riley Quinn 2 years ago
Not an unusual reaction to a drinking buddy's comment. What was his second line? That's the one that tells me who he really is.
#15
He would be a good friend to me in private situations, but when we were in groups or in front of total strangers, he would turn on me and try and embarrass me. After 2-3 years of it, I decided he would be better out of my life and haven't spoken to him for over 15 years.
Mabelbabel 2 years ago
At university, I had a few casual flings and hook-ups, as many people do. 20 years later, I was completely different-I"ve no problem with people who go for casual hookups and one night stands if that's what you enjoy, but I was no longer comfortable with it. I had a male friend who never, ever let up going on about my sex life at university-he'd introduce me to his friends and it would be "Oh, I've heard about you, you're the girl who..." He'd told complete strangers about situations from years ago and basically used me as the butt of his jokes. I told him repeatedly how hurtful it was, but apparently I "can't take a joke" and it was just banter. No, it wasn't-it was upsetting and creepy. The only way I stopped it was by dropping him as a friend. For all I know, he's still telling people but at least I don't have to hear it.
Kathleen 2 years ago
Just the opposite, wonderful to me in. Front of everyone but horrible in private. 17 years cared for her til COVID took her. Miss her terribly even though she was terrible.
pink_panda 2 years ago
I'm so sorry to hear that, Kathleen. I hope you're able to heal and someday find relationships where you feel loved and supported.
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Riley Quinn 2 years ago
I think this has happened to all of us at one stage in our development. Generally, this behavior is left behind in high school. Best way to handle "these" people is calling out their behavior. If it happens again, move along and find mature people to hang with.
RoseAnne Hutchence 2 years ago
Was he that insecure he needed to put you down to make himself look better?
#16
I happily watched her son while she and her boyfriend went to Jamaica for 10 days. He was an awesome teenager and we had great fun. It added 45 minutes to my work commute each way, but it was fine. They were due to return and I was going home.
Then I got a call that something happened and their return was delayed. She couldn't give me details, but would tell me when they got home. I had no answers to give her 14 year old son for his concern. There were no phone calls to him from his mom.
They returned 12 days later than anticipated. I learned a couple of days later, after we had time alone that she and boyfriend tried to bring ganja back with them (through the Miami Dade airport, no less).
I lost all respect for her as a single parent. Her actions were incredibly selfish considering her son still needed raising. She had no family near by that could raise him and she could have been fired.
The nail in the coffin was when I asked for my then BFs camera back, she went on a horrible racist rant. She said she left it in the rental car, went back to retrieve it and "that fu*#ing ni@+#r cleaning the car must have stolen it". I simply told her that she needed to replace the camera.
I cried that day for the loss of the friend who I loved and respected.
Christopher Barnhouse 2 years ago
Why would you bring ganja back from Jamaica ? There's plenty here...
Nikki138 2 years ago
I smoke sometimes, however, what was their logic? Did they really think that was going to be overlooked? Ha
Load More Replies... ThreeAngryLlamas 2 years ago
I mean, they were fully both victims. Yeah, poor kid, but you can also mourn the loss of a friend, and of a camera.
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Prosando Peanut (Prosandcons07) 2 years ago
Weed it think. Idk never heard that word before
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#17
Easy.
When I went on a family vacation with him and his family. Seeing how he treated his partner, how out of control his kid was, and how much of a lazy and selfish c**t he was.
Eye-opener.
Riley Quinn 2 years ago
There's nothing like being trapped on a vacation with people to really let you know who they are. Partially drove cross country with a "friend" and learned the truth. Had them drop me off at an airport and flew home.
#18
When I trusted and believed he was like a brother only to have him steal thousands of dollars from me. The money didn’t even matter but the treason hurt for years.
Brazen 2 years ago
My best friend (we knew each other since our teen years) and I lived together...until one month where she took the rent money from me and went on a vacation to the Bahamas. It wasn't until two weeks later the office contacted me and said we were being evicted because she wasn't answering their calls. Turns out she didn't let the office know I was living there as well, which is against their rules. We had two weeks to leave and all my friend could say about it was that "you had somewhere to live for the month, what are you complaining about?" I moved out without saying goodbye, and like the op said, "the treason hurts for years."
Raphapablap 2 years ago (edited)
Not quite the same for me but as a teen I had a best friend who ended up stealing money from our house. My parents confronted me thinking I'd stolen and when I mentioned that he was also in the house that day, I became suspicious. Next day 'friend' turns up with a new music player which he claimed he paid for with his work, but I knew that he used to fake having a job to his parents. I would like to say I never saw him again after that but a few years later he came round to a house I was renting with a different friend, who invited him over after a night out. Ex-friend got drunk and took my car keys out my jacket whilst I was asleep, and took my car, drove it an hour away and burnt out the gear box, and then abandoned it. Absolute scumbag.
Riley Quinn 2 years ago
Their kids were the reason I lent them so much money. Never saw a dime, but I knew that when I handed it over. I did insist on proof it was going to the kids, which they submitted to.
#19
He started manipulating women into "romantic relationships" just to be a dog with them. He was unfaithful to all of them, and when I asked him why he was doing that and if he felt no remorse, he just answered that: "it isn't wrong unless they find out", so I immediately stopped trusting him.
Dark Pearl 2 years ago
In order to call that self-absorbed punchbag a best friend, you'd need to be insane and unmedicated
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Riley Quinn 2 years ago
And guys wonder why young women are staying single longer, don't want kids, and are seeking a life of fulfillment instead.
#20
If my guy best friend was interested in a girl or was talking to one, he would treat me like absolute garbage
When he had no girls to talk to or was interested in, he would be super nice to me and hang out all the time
A few years after we graduated high school, we were with a group of friends when he basically said “I’m only nice to girls if there’s a chance I can have sex with them or there’s no other girls in the picture” it all clicked
#21
Over time we lost contact, then she only reached out when she needed money. I let this go on too long until I found out I was pregnant with my first, and told her then I wouldn't send any money after that. She still asked, my daughter is now over 1.5 yo, and she had never even met her. I ended up blocking her and telling her not to bother trying to reach out anymore.
Sonja 2 years ago (edited)
That's not true. Best friends do indeed ask for money if they need it, but they'll either pay it back or don't ask of they know they won't be able to. And they will not abandon you until they need money. They will be at your side in good and bad times. I have lend my vestie money several times for rent and she always gave it back. She also treated me to a big lunch when she finished her degree and got hired in a stable job to thank me for helping her out. That's why I call her my best friend. I can always count on her being fair.
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Mabelbabel 2 years ago
I had a friend that I'd been roommates with in college. After graduation, I bought my first house-she'd moved away, but we kept in touch. A couple years after that, she told me she'd changed jobs and was trying to move back to our home area, but she had an apartment that she hadn't managed to sell yet, so she was still paying on mortgage on it, and wasn't able to pay rent on a new place. I invited her to stay with me, thinking it would just be a few weeks until her place was sold. She lived rent-free, didn't contribute to any bills, and over time, started helping herself to my food without reciprocating. After 8 months she said she was going to stay with her mother because mum wasn't well, and then I realised she'd completely emptied her room and I never heard from.her again. I found out later through mutual friends that she had lied, her apartment had been sold before she moved in with me, and used the money she'd saved for putting a big down-payment on a house.
Marek Čtrnáct 2 years ago
I have a friend whose mom died and he inherited two apartments. He sold one to my mom for quite a bit of money. Lost the money within six months and borrows from me sometimes. (Though, needs to be said, he returns it.) I still feel like he lost my family's money, even when I of course understood that we got the apartment out of it. (My mom rents it now, but we put lots of time and further money into it to clean it out - his mom was a hoarder.)
Amberlie Mikelsen 2 years ago
Best friends only borrow from best friends if they have every intention of paying it back. This individual doesn't "borrow", she mooches.
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
Had an EX friend pull that. We hadn't had a falling out or anything, just different priorities. After about a year she called out of the blue and wanted to borrow $200 to get her car fixed. I was like, Um, no. I don't have an extra $200 just laying around that I don't need. (I was a single Mom, myself) which she tried to use to guilt me "C'mon, you know what it's like to be a single Mom and broke" Yeah, I do - I'm living it right now. Still tried guilt/manipulation. I was finally like "Look, I haven't heard from you in over a year. Let's just make it permanent and lose my number". Seriously?
Riley Quinn 2 years ago
I'm aware many people don't agree with my attitude, but I'm great at burning bridges. I have no problem deleting contacts, blocking numbers, and turning my back on entitled azzholes.
#22
When they were extremely rude to a guy who had a learning disability
That emo Girl 2 years ago (edited)
Then they were probably abliest edit: sorry I misspelled ableist
Michael Largey 2 years ago
Let's remember that some people are just across-the-board equal-opportunity jerks.
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KnightOwl 2 years ago
Oh hell no, what a piece of s**t. I've only ever witnessed anything like this happen once and I've never been more disgusted or angry in my life. My college had a selection of courses for people with a variety of disabilities and learning disabilities where they learned life skills so there were a lot of people with disabilities around all the time, students and staff were very protective of them. Anyway a new girl joined our course in the second year, she'd moved from England to scotland and didn't know anyone so me and my friends invited her to sit with us at lunch. On her second day a few of us were eating when she suddenly let out this strange sound so we looked at her puzzled to see if she was OK and she was glaring at a group of people in wheelchairs and people with Downs syndrome who'd walked into the cafeteria with a look of disgust in her face and said "what are all those spastics doing in here?" I called her out loudly in front of everyone. She dropped out after 4 days.
KnightOwl 2 years ago
Now I do this as my job! (I'm an advocate/support worker for people with learning disabilities.)
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Inclusion2020 2 years ago
I’m an Exceptional Education teacher. I’ve worked with all types of differences from mental health/trauma to ASD/lang impaired/IND….. My program is housed in a school with Gen Ed students….. and I have GOT to say. It is clear that many parents are not teaching empathy and kindness. Granted, I work in a rough area. But many of the Gen Ed kids are just mean. I make it my mission to teach and preach inclusion so that my students feel safe and accepted. But if I ever hear a full grown adult say something negative like that…. I will 1,000% make it my business, you best believe you will be leaving burnt to a crisp and crying.
Helen Taylor 2 years ago
I had one of those. Still like the person with the disability, but do not speak with the rude one.
Riley Quinn 2 years ago
I don't think I'd be able to control myself if I overheard comments like this. I'm sorry to say, I think I'd punch the daylights out of them. I simply have no tolerance for this cruel behavior.
#23
When he complained and got a server at Texas Roadhouse "fired" over a $2 shortage...and was laughing and bragging about it. Like, it made him feel good / important that he cost someone their job.
As a side note, we are no longer friends and, about 2 weeks later, we (me, my wife, and daughter) had the same server at the same Texas Roadhouse.
Sami-Jo Ross 2 years ago
I would guess the manager "fired" the server to make the guy happy but knew it was ridiculous and didn't actually fire them?
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Exotic Butters 2 years ago
This makes no sense. If he got the server fired how was he /she your server?
#24
Oof I have a couple. Tbf I wasn’t hanging out with good people back in the day, and it took me a long time to accept I wasn’t a good person back then. After a lot of self reflection I see my wrongs and theirs but:
She constantly mocked my insecurities and appearance under the guise of teasing, however it was definitely malicious at the extent she did it. I never once mocked her like that, always tried to hype her up. When my hair started thinning due to a medical condition and she mocked me that was the final straw
Another one was in a bad spot and I helped them out with money as much as I could. One day she asked for a good chunk and I simply didn’t have it, i was living off of beans and rice until my next paycheck, if I’d had it she would have gotten it. She got so mad she told a bunch of very personal things to others and completely stopped talking to me. Later found out she was on meth at the time and that might be why
And lastly was the one who turned a blind eye to her husband being physically and emotionally abusive to their children. Wouldn’t leave him because she said that she couldn’t handle the idea of being a single mom. Sometimes you have to put your kids lives first and swallow your pride. Had to cut her out after that, and let the proper authorities know
Debbie 2 years ago
She was abused as well. If you are mentally abused, brainwashed, acting is difficult or impossible. Blame the husband and support her, give het confidence she can do it alone, that this isn't normal etc.
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LangiStudios 2 years ago
A decade or so later, she's going to cry about how her children haven't spoken to her since the day they each left the house and she can't understand why because she's always been a Good Mother®. 🙄
Chewie Baron 2 years ago
The second one, being on meth is no excuse. I’ve been high on meth in my past and I certainly wouldn’t see that as an excuse to trash talk friends.
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
Thank you for reporting! Too many people just don't want to get involved in anything domestic.
Christine Watson 2 years ago
Last one, you should have reported her for. Absolutely no excuse not to
#25
He and his brother destroyed an apartment we shared.
Some 30 thousand in damage, then tried to come after me for it.
Sonja 2 years ago
An acquaintance was totally drunk and fell asleep in the shower. He slipped onto the drain and flooded everything. Hundreds of litres of water ran into the flat and seeped into the floor, drenching the layers in between floors. He woke up after several hours when the water ran cold. He was saddled with about 50k in depth for that as he was not insured. I learned from that that even tenants should have home insurance.
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Riley Quinn 2 years ago
I never signed a lease unless every roommate's name was listed. Utilities were split between each person since they usually only list one name. I knew the importance of a good credit rating.
#26
Dude went around starting rumors that I was saying I was going to kick this dude's a*s. I had no idea, until I'm walking through the hallway and I get suckerpunched in the back of the head by this dude yelling about how I'm talking about kicking his a*s. Pretty much wrote this guy off at that point. Years later, well into our 30s, and this guy is still a super douche. The kind of guy who's always bragging about how much money he makes and cars he owns and all that kind of stuff. We're facebook friends for whatever reason, and I happen to make a post about how I was in line to see Star Wars: The Force Awakens and I managed to not get spoiled. His comment, while I'm walking into the theater, is a screenshot of Han Solo with a lightsaber stuck through his gut. Haven't talked to that guy since then.
Dawnieangel76 2 years ago
They're miserable & want everyone else to be that way.
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jdtimid123 2 years ago
I had a bully that started out that way. She said someone said that I was going to be at her up or something like that, so she and her buddies kept picking on me. One day I had a class with just one of the buddies and told her she shouldn't believe everything she heard. The next year she had stopped hanging out with the main bully. We were never really friends after that, but we did become friendly. So idk. There's that I guess.
Sarah Cagley 2 years ago
That dude sounds like a "one-upper" type. Always has to "one-up" your story or life experience to feel some form of validation. As if to say, "look at me, look at the cool things I do too! I'm not lonely, love me too!" Why can't we just feel validated for ourselves instead of needlessly seeking it from others? It's like trying to fill a hole with no bottom. (The question is rhetorical)
Riley Quinn 2 years ago
I'm sorry, but you friended him on FB? Evidently there's some brain damage because you seemed to forget he punched you in the head for no freakin' reason.
#27
It was when I started living with him. You get to see how someone really is when you cohabitate.
RagDollLali 2 years ago
Living together seems to be the #1 cause of many a great friendship ending
Kat Min 2 years ago
Well...me and my best frined will never cohabitate. We love each other but we have very different ideas of how to run a household. I don't clean enough but like overflowing larders, she cleans but never shops until every morsel of food is eaten - we shared a datscha, once, and decided we better don't cohabitate. We're still besties, though. :)
DuchessDegu 2 years ago
I can live with your friend, you live with my partner 😊
Load More Replies... brandyy17 2 years ago
ya alot of my friends ended relationships bc the person they were dating were much different wen living with them. i would spend a few days at my bfs house so we could get a feel for how we each lived. we eventually got engaged and during lockdown i lived with him and now we r married 2 years this october will b 3 and we still have no issues. its best to test the water before jumping into the living together part. spending the night here and there isnt enough. its not enough to learn their routines they can easily put on an act if they kno ur going home the next day. the fact i spend 4 day 3 nights at my now husbands house every week after a year of being together and he would stay with me at my house wen my parents went on vacation it prepared us. we knew each others routines and had no issues. if u can deal with the way ur significant other or friend lives move on or just figure out something else.
Helen Butoyi 2 years ago
There are people who can surprise you even after the trial periods
Load More Replies... Riley Quinn 2 years ago
Must bring up vacations here. Best to find out in 2-weeks of togetherness who you'll be living with than finding out after you've moved all your stuff and stuck with a lease.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago (edited)
*cohabit. No need for -ate. Same as burgle, burglar. Cohabit, cohabitee. No need to say burglarise. What next, cookize? drivize? browsize? cheerize? Cheeratate? Drivate? I mean if you want a verb ending we have one in english, -en (fast-en, redd-en, moist-en etc)
#28
She was negative about everything and wanted people in her life to suffer and fail… including me. Also would say horrible cruel judgmental things about everyone in her life and blame everything outside of herself for her unhappiness. What started as a ohhh she’s my b****y blunt sassy friend who’s like Daria.. ended as oh my goodness wait.. you are genuinely a miserable extremely lost (mentally unwell) person who gets joy watching others suffer.
She works as a princess character at Disneyland by the way. Despises when the children ask for a hug or want to touch her. Hates children. But loves the makeup and wigs and having her picture taken. Cosplay type stuff.
️r@!n¥ d@¥$️ 2 years ago
My story like this actually happened yesterday…- one of my (ex) bffs ended our friendship semi-politely but then his bf who was also one of my bffs send a 2 paragraph hateful message plus some more messages just telling me how much they hated me… they went a bit cold a few months ago but I never questioned it and now here I am…- sorry if it’s a bit random I just rlly wanted to share…
Jacky Newman 2 years ago (edited)
That's just mean... Sorry that you just lost 2 of your "bff's", but it's probably for the best. You deserve better bff's than this.
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brandyy17 2 years ago
i had a friend like this. she didnt start out this way but ya. she would make ppl miserable just bc she was. if her relationship failed shed ruin someone elses to feel better. her biggest problem was me tho. no matter how hard she tried to bring me down or ruin something for me id never feel the way she wanted me to. im a very forgiving, kind hearted, looks on the bright side of things kind of person. her polar opposite. wen she ruined my relationship after hers failed i was happy cuz to me it meant he wasnt the right guy, wen she was upset making ppl around her upset as well id try to comfort her, wen something bad happened to her id tell her to look at the plus side. she hated it. the thing she didnt kno was she was a major trigger to my anxeity disorder but i never let her see that. i eventually stopped talking to her which made her worse. according to my other friends she saw me as her source of comfort which made them stop talking to her too. they realized she was triggering my kind heart which would turn into me making her and everyone else feel better. basically she was using me to make her and everyone else feel better after she destroyed everyone. only 1 person im friends with still talks to her and apparently since everyone else left shes only been getting worse and keep friends or boyfriends to save her life. she cant even keep a job bc of her attitude. according to my friend shes had 25 different jobs in the past year 5 of them she had to b dragged out by police or security bc she threw a fit wen fired. the fact she truly believes her actions wont have consequences is insane. ive spoken to her mom a few times since dropping her as a friend and even she is confused on how she ended up this way. both her parents r kind and intellegent ppl and they never spoiled her so her entitled, narcissist, angry, crazy actions make no sense. only thing i can imagine is something happened during college that made her this way. idk wat shes up to now aside from job jumping but i hope she finds her way soon for her parents sake.
BeepBeepBoopBoop 2 years ago (edited)
how the heck did you get past the word count wth. But either way I'm sorry you had to deal with her as a bad friend. My anxiety can be triggered by a lot of things. Recently it's been triggered by talking to my boyfriend. Other bad things have been happening between us so I need to break up with him asap. I hope your ex friend realizes that she's the problem and it isn't the people around her.
Load More Replies... Riley Quinn 2 years ago
I think if we're being honest, we all pass judgement on others - at least silently. But her negativity would wear on me pretty quickly. An insightful person can differentiate between witty sarcasm and cruelty.
DarkViolet 2 years ago
Sooner or later, all of that vitriol, like battery acid, will begin to leach out. Eventually, her true colors will show, and she'll be out of that job in a New York second.
#29
She would get belligerent, loud, and annoying when she was drunk. She cheated on her husband with a guy from work. She was also a bridezilla at her wedding reception. The final straw: I can’t remember what topic was, but she posted something on FB that ended with “if you disagree, feel free to block me” and I commented “ok” then blocked her everywhere I could.
Riley Quinn 2 years ago
Bet you're moving through life with a lot more freedom now you've dropped that dead weight.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
too many people I know that are (a) in love with their own drama (b) think they are the only ones with drama (c) think it is super interestnig to make disagreements more dramatic than they need to be (d) think that writing people off is cute when in fact they're the ones who caused the drama. I had a friend like this who would blow up about everything. Surprisingly (or maybe not), she was from Jersey in the USA. Yes. And yes, she did behave as expected. Weird.
#30
I'd gotten use to the cycle of him getting a new partner then disappearing until things went tits up and I'd help him pick up the pieces.
We went through the cycle many times, whatever he needed I always had his back, of course when I was at my lowest ebb, really having
a really f*****g tough time I let him know and he said he'd try to find some time to hang out. The only thing I'd ever asked of him, of course
he vanishes again until his next relationship blew up, he called not long ago, I didn't bother getting back to him.
BeepBeepBoopBoop 2 years ago
for some reason I'm always taken aback by the term "tits up" I don't know why and maybe it's because I'm in the US so I never hear it but I always have to re read it because I can't comprehend what I just read lol
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
it's a britishism. It implies you are lying on your back because your mammaries are pointing upwards.
Load More Replies... Riley Quinn 2 years ago
We've all had "friends" like this one. Most of us eventually figure out how to block them.
#31
He and I went on our birthright trip(jews get a free trip to Israel after 18 but before like 26) together, and from the start everything was about him. Any time we had free time we had to do what he wanted, anytime we roomed together we had to do our sleep routines the way he wanted, any time we got to pick a restaurant he picked, and there was a bunch of other stuff. The event that really opened my eyes was our group was hiking up a mountain, and I passed out when we got to the top. They took me on a lift down to the bottom where they checked me out and I rested and rehydrated. The docs gave me the ok so I just sat and waited for my group. My group started arriving one or two at a time, and every single person came up to me to check on me. Finally my friend walks in, doesn’t even look my way, just goes and gets himself a drink and sits down at another table. Didn’t even give me a “you ok” nod. Every other person checked on me, all total strangers and my best friend couldn’t even be bothered to waste a nod on me. That was the moment I realized he was a selfish d**k, and after we came back we “drifted” apart.
#32
We are no longer friends but he asked me if I believed in God and I said no. Respectfully, believe whatever you want and keep it in your corner and I will do the same. Anyway, I was catching up and he got so mad that I refused to believe in God, stooping so low to tell me his daughter died and used the idea that his daughter and rapists/murderers/ect are on the same level and not in heaven/hell. He refuses to speak to me after and that's when I learn on Facebook that his sister tags him in a photo of his daughter and confirms his daughter never f*****g died. He just wanted to guilt me into believing in God and into saying he is right and I am wrong.
Karen Philpott 2 years ago
His daughter and rapists are not on the same level of anything, unless she's raped someone.
BeepBeepBoopBoop 2 years ago
a don't believe in a particular god, either I haven't found the right religion or I won't ever fit into one, but my best friend does. I went to a Baptist Church for a few years so I know a little bit about the bible, but definitely not enough lol. We talk about it sometimes but I don't think she particularly knows I don't believe in that version of that god. It's sometimes a fun talk about what I know about the bible vs what she knows, and sometimes we kindly debate topics but we never fight about anything
#33
When she cut me off for setting boundaries with her. Once in our entire friendship I brought up that something that she was doing was upsetting me and that I would like to talk about it, she ended up just blocking me because I brought it up. We haven’t spoken since November.
Dina Anastasakos 2 years ago
Me too. My boundary was money. As long as l kept giving her money we were friends. As soon as l said l cannot give you money anymore...l never heard from her (and the group she hung with) again.
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 2 years ago
I lost a friend when I wouldn't help him cheat on his girlfriend when she was out of town. Then he told her all sorts of horrible lies about me to explain to her why the friendship ended. (I suspect he was afraid I was going to tell her about the cheating and wanted to discredit me in advance.)
Samara Messer 2 years ago
Yep. Its amazing how things change once you start setting boundaries. The right people will respect your boundaries. The wrong ones will disappear or trash talk you.
Kat Lyle 2 years ago
Called a friend out on toxic behaviour, that ended a 15 year friendship. She then became the victim once again of this shituation, trash talked me. It's taken some time but I got back the people I lost once they finally heard my side after I chose to keep quiet unless asked.
Trish Ferguson 2 years ago
Happened to me almost ten years ago. I still don't fully understand what's happened.
#34
When they were flirting heavily with another guy, despite Being in a relationship with someone else. Then when the flirting 'got to serious', trying to hook me up with that guy so she wasn't the bad guy. When I told her I had absolutely no interest and the situation made me highly uncomfortable, she then preceded to tell her flirt I liked him, gave him my number, and told him to contact me 🫠.
Realized after that that this wasn't the first time she had tried to p**n her near infidelities on to me. Don't know how I didn't see it before
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 2 years ago
It’s p a w n. The word is p a w n. I have absolutely no idea why it’s censored but it is.
Clown fish 2 years ago (edited)
P**n lol why oh why porn lol but I get away with that one right oh
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Amberlie Mikelsen 2 years ago
L3@rn L3E+. They can't censor it cuz to do so they can't do their programming.
#35
She posted a rant on Facebook about how "we"(me and one other friend) were never there for her(a lie) when she was always there for us(another lie). Why? Because I had the nerve to not answer her phone call in the middle of class after she'd spent months calling me because she was bored at her new school(where she chose to go) because she missed everyone and had no friends.
Pandroid Rebellion 2 years ago
Doesn't sound like that's what happened at all though....
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When he came into a lot of money- legally and through hard work and dedication. He stopped calling, returning my messages and his circle of friends changed. I was devastated
Michael Largey 2 years ago
Money doesn't always change people - sometimes it just reveals them.
What do you think ?
Tyke 2 years ago
For about a month or two I kept getting phone calls where the caller would repeat almost everything I'd been up to, pretty much saying they were watching me all the time. Sometimes even went into my feelings, worries, etc. I found out this was my "best friend" getting her friend I didn't know to call me up with all the knowledge I'd entrusted "best friend" with.
Nicholas Secreto 2 years ago
After high school I had a friend who enrolled in art school. He would never draw anything for me and if I asked he would vitch and moan about how everyone wanted stuff for free from him. This was the same guy who had no problem coming over to my place for elaborately cooked dinners (I was a line cook) drink my liquor and smoke my weed without putting up a dollar. Must be so hard to be an artist
RedPanda 2 years ago
Couldn't you just... not feed him? Then it's fair, no?
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Agnes Jekyll 2 years ago
I had that! A dear friend went full Trump. And all sorts of homophobic, terrible things. Haven't talked to her since. Still feel bad and sad.
Load More Replies... Rens 2 years ago
I've got one: She had a mental health breakdown, left her 2 kids and husband (in the Netherlands) and went to Australia to stay with her parents for 3 months and to the help she needed. I shared with her how unhappy I had been in my marriage for years, had a midlife crisis approaching my 40th birthday; by mutual agreement, separated from my husband in the July, left the Netherlands in the October to get a job and get settled in the UK so that I could help my daughter and (soon to be ex) husband relocate. She never spoke to me again because she decided that I abandoned my husband and my child when my mental health was going downhill.
Be a better human 2 years ago (edited)
I was in my early 20's my best friend was getting married and asked me to be her maid of honor. I was working and going to college at the time. She went with the other bridesmaids to pick out dresses since I had to work. Since I was a MOH she said that I could find a dress with her later. Well she found a dress for me at the bridal store and later when I went back to look at it I found out it was $700 and it was a mermaid cut. I was a curvey chonky girl and the max size that had in that dress was a 10. I told her what the bridal place said and the cost was way out of my budget for a broke college kid. She told me I had plenty of time to loose weight before the wedding I should start running or something. I told her that I would look horrible in that kind of dress I feel very uncomfortable wearing something like that and I don't think I can get down to that size. I asked if we can look for another cheaper dress in my size for her wedding. She said won't have me ruining her Wedding She will find another maid of honor.
Violet Jensen 2 years ago
Oh I have one! Vegetarian friend told me animal death was triggering when I told them my beloved pet died
talliloo 2 years ago
when did i realize that my best friend was an absolue a-hole? guess that would be the time that my 21 yr old son lost his wife 3 months after their son was born and he came home with the baby. he didn't drink or drug himself into a stupor but started a deep spiral into depression to the point that i became concerned that he may do self harm. her response? oh, he just needs to get over it. besides, if he does something he knows you will take care of the baby.
Joss 2 years ago
I'm sorry for your loss, both of daughter in law and the idea that you had a decent friend :( I hope your son and grandson are doing ok now!
Load More Replies... Dark Pearl 2 years ago
I tried to create a safe space for both me and them to talk about anything we needed to, and infodump about our special interests (we're both autistic). It ended up being a safe space for THEM to do all this while I just sat there, doing nothing and having no-one to really talk to. I felt scared to vent and whenever I tried to infodump, they'd change the subject. I loved when they infodumped and I tried to help when they were feeling bad, but I just never felt like enough. We declared ourselves partners last August, but then they broke up with me in October. and deleted all but one social media profile and called me a stalker. after I asked how they were doing one time. :(
DarkViolet 2 years ago
Narcissist. Definitely. You can do better. Much better.
Load More Replies... Agnes Jekyll 2 years ago
She moved to my city 10 years after high school. I found her an apartment, a job. Helped her move 3 times. Her husband went MIA when her baby was two weeks old, I got her a new place, babysat every Friday, picked her kid up from daycare every week. Did everything I could to help her. I had a major medical crisis. She disappeared, but called me 6 weeks later to give me an earful about how I'd abandoned her.
Eds 2 years ago
She became one of those people who didn't believe bad things (catcalling, sexual assault, unsafe situations caused by men) happened to women who reported them, because those things didn't happen to her, so they couldn't possibly be happening to other women. Then my area had a natural disaster. Her area had one shortly after of a slightly lesser caliber and suddenly everyone that wasn't reporting on her local disaster was awful and things couldn't possibly be that bad elsewhere. I was just done.
Tyke 2 years ago
For about a month or two I kept getting phone calls where the caller would repeat almost everything I'd been up to, pretty much saying they were watching me all the time. Sometimes even went into my feelings, worries, etc. I found out this was my "best friend" getting her friend I didn't know to call me up with all the knowledge I'd entrusted "best friend" with.
Nicholas Secreto 2 years ago
After high school I had a friend who enrolled in art school. He would never draw anything for me and if I asked he would vitch and moan about how everyone wanted stuff for free from him. This was the same guy who had no problem coming over to my place for elaborately cooked dinners (I was a line cook) drink my liquor and smoke my weed without putting up a dollar. Must be so hard to be an artist
RedPanda 2 years ago
Couldn't you just... not feed him? Then it's fair, no?
Load More Replies... Agnes Jekyll 2 years ago
I had that! A dear friend went full Trump. And all sorts of homophobic, terrible things. Haven't talked to her since. Still feel bad and sad.
Load More Replies... Rens 2 years ago
I've got one: She had a mental health breakdown, left her 2 kids and husband (in the Netherlands) and went to Australia to stay with her parents for 3 months and to the help she needed. I shared with her how unhappy I had been in my marriage for years, had a midlife crisis approaching my 40th birthday; by mutual agreement, separated from my husband in the July, left the Netherlands in the October to get a job and get settled in the UK so that I could help my daughter and (soon to be ex) husband relocate. She never spoke to me again because she decided that I abandoned my husband and my child when my mental health was going downhill.
Be a better human 2 years ago (edited)
I was in my early 20's my best friend was getting married and asked me to be her maid of honor. I was working and going to college at the time. She went with the other bridesmaids to pick out dresses since I had to work. Since I was a MOH she said that I could find a dress with her later. Well she found a dress for me at the bridal store and later when I went back to look at it I found out it was $700 and it was a mermaid cut. I was a curvey chonky girl and the max size that had in that dress was a 10. I told her what the bridal place said and the cost was way out of my budget for a broke college kid. She told me I had plenty of time to loose weight before the wedding I should start running or something. I told her that I would look horrible in that kind of dress I feel very uncomfortable wearing something like that and I don't think I can get down to that size. I asked if we can look for another cheaper dress in my size for her wedding. She said won't have me ruining her Wedding She will find another maid of honor.
Violet Jensen 2 years ago
Oh I have one! Vegetarian friend told me animal death was triggering when I told them my beloved pet died
talliloo 2 years ago
when did i realize that my best friend was an absolue a-hole? guess that would be the time that my 21 yr old son lost his wife 3 months after their son was born and he came home with the baby. he didn't drink or drug himself into a stupor but started a deep spiral into depression to the point that i became concerned that he may do self harm. her response? oh, he just needs to get over it. besides, if he does something he knows you will take care of the baby.
Joss 2 years ago
I'm sorry for your loss, both of daughter in law and the idea that you had a decent friend :( I hope your son and grandson are doing ok now!
Load More Replies... Dark Pearl 2 years ago
I tried to create a safe space for both me and them to talk about anything we needed to, and infodump about our special interests (we're both autistic). It ended up being a safe space for THEM to do all this while I just sat there, doing nothing and having no-one to really talk to. I felt scared to vent and whenever I tried to infodump, they'd change the subject. I loved when they infodumped and I tried to help when they were feeling bad, but I just never felt like enough. We declared ourselves partners last August, but then they broke up with me in October. and deleted all but one social media profile and called me a stalker. after I asked how they were doing one time. :(
DarkViolet 2 years ago
Narcissist. Definitely. You can do better. Much better.
Load More Replies... Agnes Jekyll 2 years ago
She moved to my city 10 years after high school. I found her an apartment, a job. Helped her move 3 times. Her husband went MIA when her baby was two weeks old, I got her a new place, babysat every Friday, picked her kid up from daycare every week. Did everything I could to help her. I had a major medical crisis. She disappeared, but called me 6 weeks later to give me an earful about how I'd abandoned her.
Eds 2 years ago
She became one of those people who didn't believe bad things (catcalling, sexual assault, unsafe situations caused by men) happened to women who reported them, because those things didn't happen to her, so they couldn't possibly be happening to other women. Then my area had a natural disaster. Her area had one shortly after of a slightly lesser caliber and suddenly everyone that wasn't reporting on her local disaster was awful and things couldn't possibly be that bad elsewhere. I was just done.
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