Silver the Sloth (they/them)️️️️️️
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hello! my name is Silver. i'm gender fluid, non binary, and transgender. and my pronouns are change so just use they/them. i am not sure of my sexuality so i'm using the label queer. i'm thirteen years old. i'm a scorpio and a ravenclaw. i consider myself a feminist as well. i did not purposely name myself after the wings of fire sloth but i like wings of fire and sloths so it fits. (credit for my profile picture https://www.teepublic.com/t-shirt/24647209-nonbinary-pride-sloth-nonbinary-gift)
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Silver the Sloth (they/them)️️️️️️ • upvoted 32 items 1 year ago
Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
You do not and should not regulate and schedule every moment of your kids life - unless you want them to have crippling anxiety and the inability to think and do things for themselves... Your teaching moment may be interfering with what they are trying to learn. Back the f**k up....Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
You do not and should not regulate and schedule every moment of your kids life - unless you want them to have crippling anxiety and the inability to think and do things for themselves... Your teaching moment may be interfering with what they are trying to learn. Back the f**k up....Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
I'm writing this as a teen, and I need to say, let your kids do whatever they want, but not too dangerous. Do they want to play soccer all day long? Perfect. Do they want to try a cig? No. Give them things that they will like.
Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Let your kids more space! I was 6 year old, when I was going to school by public transport. I was going out in the afternoon to play with my than-friends for hours without my parents knowing exactly, where am I. It was just in late in 80s, early 90s..... so no like 70 years ago. So, all you kids growing up the same way, let that freedom for your kids. what you had!Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
don't belittle them when they bring up serious issues such as their own mental health. If they are depressed they need someone to talk to not someone telling them to stop being depressed.Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
They are called kids. Not Sims. Please don't drown them in a pool without a ladder.Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Kids are people. That’s the most important thing to remember.Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Just because the world looks bleak and doomed right now doesn't mean it's going to stay this way forever. That's what life is all about everywhere. There are tragedies, natural disasters, collapse of government power, economical hardships and injustices on humanity and environmental destruction throughout history. Nothing is for certain. Tell your kids you love them every day. Kiss and hug them. Make them the priority. Never allow anyone to make you feel guilty for giving them a place in the world. People will learn to accept them one day.Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Don’t patronize or be condescending to children. They deserve to be shown the same respect. Rather than freak out yourself when they have a melt down in public. Wait for a break in it. Calmly ask if they are done. And take the time to tell them, you will be willing to speak with them when they calm down. You would be amazed by their response. (But then taking them down the candy or toy isle because it shaved a whole minute of your time, don’t wonder why). I have taken kids to the store, and giving a two year old the ability to reach those carrots and how that’s their job prevents melt downs. Or asking them, which can of (insert veggies of your choice here) keeps them busy and makes them feel like they are a part of the process.Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
that video games ARE NOT A CURSE. they are as good for some of us as taking meds, guys. sure, filter the games they play, but let your kid play video games WITHOUT GUILT. man, its every freaking time, "look who's out of his cave" "gaming is bad for social skills" "gaming is a serious addiction" like, really guys, stop making your kids feel bad for doing something that does no harm to them! they aren't just games. for some of us, its just how we keep breathing. also, just don't talk about your kids behind their backs in general.Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Give your kid/s space when they need it and let them have freedoms of their baby but do👏 Not 👏 let 👏 them do something that they will seriously regret. From a teen here that has a disorder preventing me from truly understanding emotions I have seen the consequences of my friends actions because they were too emotional to listen to logicHey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Don't use your kids as a pension plan.Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
I'm a teenager. I get treated as an adult a lot. So I should act like an adult and have the maturity of one. But the truth is, I'm just a child. I shouldn't need to be dealing with suicide or people who self harm. Here’s the truth about being a teenager: NO ONE ACTUALLY LISTENS TO YOU EVER. Adults think you’re too old to be making mistakes and too young to take over their jobs. No one would just hand power over to a sixteen year-old, no matter how cool their prophecy or magical birthmark is.Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Former teacher here...your kids are not stupid. They hear and take in everything, including *how* you say it to them. Don't assume you have to "dumb down" things for them. In fact, they will astound you with what they can do if you let them! From art to math to music and more, I've seen kids do really cool stuff over the years when they weren't stifled by low expectations.Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Give your child the tools and knowledge to go as far as they can with their passions and talents. Insisting that they spend all their time preparing for "Plan B" teaches them how to fail at what they are truly good at and what they truly love to do. They will not thank you for that.Hey, Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
I read this post this morning and everything that was said made sense, was good advice. That was 14 hours ago and in that time, nineteen babies were wiped from this planet. NINETEEN little ones who left for school this morning but now, will never be dismissed for home again. Nineteen tiny souls who never stood a chance and it's partly, if not all, down to the fact that at least half of the most powerful men and women in our federal government will not vote on universal background checks that would supposedly prevent massacres like today's. It's been two years since this bill was introduced, but guess what? Its sitting in limbo and what good it might have done is now nothing but a pipe dream. This bill might have done some good but even if it was enacted tomorrow, it would be too little, too late. That f*****g boat has set sail, been torched and is now sinking. It's too late for "safeguards" that were supposed to stop these nightmares. There are no safeguards that will have any effect on the weaponry available to obviously anyone with a pulse. At this point, the only reasonable solution is to take away all of it, like they have done in other countries. Keep your hunting rifles, that is fine, but there needs to be a system in place that ensures a more thorough licensing process in order to own and use that rifle. Don't want to give up your God damned assault rifle collection? Too. F*****g. Bad. Want to scream about your civil liberties? Go the f**k ahead. Tonight, there are nineteen babies who will never have the chance to enjoy ANY civil liberties afforded to us as citizens of this country. I'm ashamed of this country, especially in light of the last dozen years. We are not what was meant to be. So, go ahead and raise hell in defiance of gun control laws, but know this - your children and loved ones are not ANY safer because you own an assault rifle. If this were the case, where are you and your stash of semiautomatics when innocents around this country are being wiped off the face of this planet? How have you and your arsenal not prevented these horrors? The seemingly number one argument for the right to bear arms is the need to protect your families, but if this is the case, why the bloody hell are nineteen babies dead tonight? Where were you when you and your AK47 could have been defending the lives of innocents? Not in the line of fire because obviously your reasonings are complete bullshiit. So, that being said, the question of what today's parents need to know is this: know that your families have turned into mere cannon fodder and tomorrow's gun casualties. Know that there is no bastion for safety in this country. Know that we need to get our heads out of our asses and set about making this nightmare something we stand a chance of waking up from. I know this is not the response Natalia was looking for but it's the only submission that would work for this rant and I really needed to rant. Thank you for the space to do this, Natalia.Hey, Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Teach your kids to name their feelings. When they’re little you guide them - “are you feeling frustrated because you wanted to spend more time at Target today?” - and talk about why they feel that way and what they can do to feel better. If they can name it and claim it, they can tame it. Getting kids into the habit of that type of self-awareness, self-regulation, and openness is valuable.Hey, Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Accept them for who they are. Get them a binder, get them a packer (if they're of age), get them the proper love they deserve. If your child isn't who you want them to be, too bad. You can't change what someone knows themselves to be.Hey, Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
You can not spoil them with love. Please, don't think picking them up or snuggling them or speaking to them gently or listening to their perspective is "spoiling" them. I have friends who were very cold to their children because they didn't want them to be "spoiled" but now the children are angry and cruel to others. Love is like riding a bicycle. If kids don't learn it early, it will be much harder for them to learn later on.Hey, Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Kids are a lot smarter than you give them credit for.Hey, Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Two parter: You do the best with the information you have. Don't beat yourself up for something you didn't know, especially something you couldn't have known. Try and learn as much as you can; about different ways of doing things, different cultural parenting practices, ect, when you can. And talk to your kids about it, openly and honestly. Let them have their opinions. They're just other humans doing other human things, too. And they're learning how to be a better human every day, support that, encourage it. Don't forget to take care of yourself. And in ways that your kids can see or know about (a bath or a treat of whatever kind, a day off, ect). It helps them to see that people need grace periods and to take care of themselves. But also give your kids the chance to do the same.Show All 32 Upvotes
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Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Give your child the tools and knowledge to go as far as they can with their passions and talents. Insisting that they spend all their time preparing for "Plan B" teaches them how to fail at what they are truly good at and what they truly love to do. They will not thank you for that.Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
I'm a teenager. I get treated as an adult a lot. So I should act like an adult and have the maturity of one. But the truth is, I'm just a child. I shouldn't need to be dealing with suicide or people who self harm. Here’s the truth about being a teenager: NO ONE ACTUALLY LISTENS TO YOU EVER. Adults think you’re too old to be making mistakes and too young to take over their jobs. No one would just hand power over to a sixteen year-old, no matter how cool their prophecy or magical birthmark is.Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Don’t patronize or be condescending to children. They deserve to be shown the same respect. Rather than freak out yourself when they have a melt down in public. Wait for a break in it. Calmly ask if they are done. And take the time to tell them, you will be willing to speak with them when they calm down. You would be amazed by their response. (But then taking them down the candy or toy isle because it shaved a whole minute of your time, don’t wonder why). I have taken kids to the store, and giving a two year old the ability to reach those carrots and how that’s their job prevents melt downs. Or asking them, which can of (insert veggies of your choice here) keeps them busy and makes them feel like they are a part of the process.Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Just because the world looks bleak and doomed right now doesn't mean it's going to stay this way forever. That's what life is all about everywhere. There are tragedies, natural disasters, collapse of government power, economical hardships and injustices on humanity and environmental destruction throughout history. Nothing is for certain. Tell your kids you love them every day. Kiss and hug them. Make them the priority. Never allow anyone to make you feel guilty for giving them a place in the world. People will learn to accept them one day.Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Kids are people. That’s the most important thing to remember.Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
don't belittle them when they bring up serious issues such as their own mental health. If they are depressed they need someone to talk to not someone telling them to stop being depressed.Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Let your kids more space! I was 6 year old, when I was going to school by public transport. I was going out in the afternoon to play with my than-friends for hours without my parents knowing exactly, where am I. It was just in late in 80s, early 90s..... so no like 70 years ago. So, all you kids growing up the same way, let that freedom for your kids. what you had!Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
I'm writing this as a teen, and I need to say, let your kids do whatever they want, but not too dangerous. Do they want to play soccer all day long? Perfect. Do they want to try a cig? No. Give them things that they will like.Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
They are called kids. Not Sims. Please don't drown them in a pool without a ladder.Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
You do not and should not regulate and schedule every moment of your kids life - unless you want them to have crippling anxiety and the inability to think and do things for themselves... Your teaching moment may be interfering with what they are trying to learn. Back the f**k up....Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
that video games ARE NOT A CURSE. they are as good for some of us as taking meds, guys. sure, filter the games they play, but let your kid play video games WITHOUT GUILT. man, its every freaking time, "look who's out of his cave" "gaming is bad for social skills" "gaming is a serious addiction" like, really guys, stop making your kids feel bad for doing something that does no harm to them! they aren't just games. for some of us, its just how we keep breathing. also, just don't talk about your kids behind their backs in general.Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Give your kid/s space when they need it and let them have freedoms of their baby but do👏 Not 👏 let 👏 them do something that they will seriously regret. From a teen here that has a disorder preventing me from truly understanding emotions I have seen the consequences of my friends actions because they were too emotional to listen to logicHey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Former teacher here...your kids are not stupid. They hear and take in everything, including *how* you say it to them. Don't assume you have to "dumb down" things for them. In fact, they will astound you with what they can do if you let them! From art to math to music and more, I've seen kids do really cool stuff over the years when they weren't stifled by low expectations.Hey, Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
You can not spoil them with love. Please, don't think picking them up or snuggling them or speaking to them gently or listening to their perspective is "spoiling" them. I have friends who were very cold to their children because they didn't want them to be "spoiled" but now the children are angry and cruel to others. Love is like riding a bicycle. If kids don't learn it early, it will be much harder for them to learn later on.Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Don't use your kids as a pension plan.Hey, Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Teach your kids to name their feelings. When they’re little you guide them - “are you feeling frustrated because you wanted to spend more time at Target today?” - and talk about why they feel that way and what they can do to feel better. If they can name it and claim it, they can tame it. Getting kids into the habit of that type of self-awareness, self-regulation, and openness is valuable.Hey, Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Kids are a lot smarter than you give them credit for.Hey, Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Two parter: You do the best with the information you have. Don't beat yourself up for something you didn't know, especially something you couldn't have known. Try and learn as much as you can; about different ways of doing things, different cultural parenting practices, ect, when you can. And talk to your kids about it, openly and honestly. Let them have their opinions. They're just other humans doing other human things, too. And they're learning how to be a better human every day, support that, encourage it. Don't forget to take care of yourself. And in ways that your kids can see or know about (a bath or a treat of whatever kind, a day off, ect). It helps them to see that people need grace periods and to take care of themselves. But also give your kids the chance to do the same.Hey, Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know?
Accept them for who they are. Get them a binder, get them a packer (if they're of age), get them the proper love they deserve. If your child isn't who you want them to be, too bad. You can't change what someone knows themselves to be. Silver the Sloth (they/them)️️️️️️ • is following 30 people
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