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Wife Organizes Dinner She Knows Her Husband Will Hate, Shocked At His Reaction
Family drama is always complicated, but some people do set clear boundaries and draw lines in the sand about who they will and won’t tolerate. But discovering that someone very close to you is actively working to undermine your boundaries is a surefire way to cause conflict.
A man went online to ask for some suggestions about what to do when he refused to attend a dinner his wife put together. The catch? She had invited his brother and his girlfriend, despite knowing very well that he had absolutely refused to meet with him for years.
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But a man was unpleasantly surprised to learn his wife insisted he have dinner with his estranged brother
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He gave some more info later
Many readers thought the wife’s behavior was odd
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Kate Johnson 1 hour ago
She's entirely in the wrong here and should sincerely apologize and NEVER do anything that stupid and selfish in future.
Marcellus II 20 minutes ago
Absolutely. But once the situation was clear he should had not told HER but his brother ---via his parents, or via her if needed--- that he wasn't going to be there.
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Paul C 1 hour ago
OP says that his brother puts his safety at risk, so this is not a trivial argument, which he also says his wife knows about. Therefore, she is waving a huge red flag by trying to force a relationship. Unless she grasps that and apologises for it, which doesn't seem to be happening, then this is a marriage ender as she is showing she will do what she thinks is right irrespective of what her husband wants and how much he hates the idea. Best to kick off a divorce now. I don't think possible pregnancy hormones can be blamed either for such a boundary violation. If your partner doesn't have you back when you need it, get out.
DrBronxx 1 hour ago
While I do see what his wife was trying to do, with the thought that family should love each other or at least get along, in my opinion there is a communication issue on her end. Her husband didn't wanted it (adamantly, it seems), expressed as much, and she ignored that. That could potentially be the opposite of what she's trying to do - she seems to want to be nice and do the right thing, but ignoring your spouse's wishes is quite a hurtful thing to do, and the more sensitive the issue, the more hurtful the ignoring can be. What annoys me most is that she can't see that. She's stuck on the fact that her husband skipped the dinner she planned, embarrassing her and making things very awkward. If that were the whole story, then she'd be right. However, she set it all up full in the knowledge that her husband was not on board. The whole awkward embarrassing experience is her own making. What was she thinking?
Kate Johnson 1 hour ago
She's entirely in the wrong here and should sincerely apologize and NEVER do anything that stupid and selfish in future.
Marcellus II 20 minutes ago
Absolutely. But once the situation was clear he should had not told HER but his brother ---via his parents, or via her if needed--- that he wasn't going to be there.
Load More Replies... Paul C 1 hour ago
OP says that his brother puts his safety at risk, so this is not a trivial argument, which he also says his wife knows about. Therefore, she is waving a huge red flag by trying to force a relationship. Unless she grasps that and apologises for it, which doesn't seem to be happening, then this is a marriage ender as she is showing she will do what she thinks is right irrespective of what her husband wants and how much he hates the idea. Best to kick off a divorce now. I don't think possible pregnancy hormones can be blamed either for such a boundary violation. If your partner doesn't have you back when you need it, get out.
DrBronxx 1 hour ago
While I do see what his wife was trying to do, with the thought that family should love each other or at least get along, in my opinion there is a communication issue on her end. Her husband didn't wanted it (adamantly, it seems), expressed as much, and she ignored that. That could potentially be the opposite of what she's trying to do - she seems to want to be nice and do the right thing, but ignoring your spouse's wishes is quite a hurtful thing to do, and the more sensitive the issue, the more hurtful the ignoring can be. What annoys me most is that she can't see that. She's stuck on the fact that her husband skipped the dinner she planned, embarrassing her and making things very awkward. If that were the whole story, then she'd be right. However, she set it all up full in the knowledge that her husband was not on board. The whole awkward embarrassing experience is her own making. What was she thinking?
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