Hey Pandas, AITA For Being Irritated When My Brother Asks Me To Get Rid Of My Cat?
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A few weeks ago, I got my first cat. He is a sweet gray tabby, and very loving, although he plays a bit rough sometimes. My brother, let’s just call him Kevin, has ailurophobia (fear of cats) and says that I gave him no warning, despite talking about it for a year and writing a whole contract about the terms of getting him.
Kevin wants to get rid of Uraza, and I don’t
Image credits: Afif Ramdhasuma (not the actual photo)
He is saying that I am making his life a living hell, and chasing him with the cat, despite Uraza staying in my room the entire time he’s here.
I love Uraza and have been trying to accommodate for him
Image credits: Matheus Queiroz (not the actual photo)
However, my dad is starting to see Kevin’s point of view, and I’m worried that in a little while, I’ll have to get rid of him, but I can’t bear to part with Uraza. So, AITA for getting a cat and not wanting to get rid of it when my brother protests?
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Three simple steps required here. 1. Get your own place, 2. Get your first cat, 3. Get as many other cats as you want.
River Wolf, I've been reading your comments and replies. It sounds like you and your brother are both struggling and neither of you are or were in a good emotional state to make mature decisions. I'm sure you've both been feeling battered with pressure from outside, it doesn't sound like you are particularly kind to each other either, and to be talking of running away, you must feel unsupported by your parents too (a real feeling, whether justified or not). You need support from somewhere. But RW, a bunch of judgemental adults on Bored Panda is not really the place to turn, especially with an AITA (which is a format strictly useful for adults who should know better). I can see how the comments are hurting you and the judgmentalism is only worsening the feelings you have already and encouraging you to consider more and more drastic action. Please, please step away and find a better source of advice from someone who knows you or can spend the time getting to know you.
Your post shows a lack of understanding and empathy for your brother's phobia. He doesn't just 'not like cats'.... he is terrified of them. Phobia's are horrible to live with and can result in anxiety, panic attacks and inability to function. Imagine your brother suddenly decides to keep a hundred venomous spiders and a pair of rattlesnakes and you have to walk through them to get to the bathroom in dark in the middle of night? That's the kind of fear he faces every single day. One day you will move out of home and you can have as many cats as you like. In the meantime, your brothers emotional and mental safety is more important than your desire to have a pet.
I understand aluriphobia, and BP edited almost all of my post. I just don’t want to lose Uraza, I already lost all of my friends, my parents trust, I just want to keep my tiny sliver of happiness so I don’t go let myself get eaten by a mountain lion. I would be happy to keep them in my room so he never has to see him, I just can’t bear to get rid of them. I love him so much already, it would be like losing a piece of myself to lose Uraza. I know it’s tearing Kevin apart, but if I have to remove Uraza from his life, I’m removing myself as well.
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Three simple steps required here. 1. Get your own place, 2. Get your first cat, 3. Get as many other cats as you want.
River Wolf, I've been reading your comments and replies. It sounds like you and your brother are both struggling and neither of you are or were in a good emotional state to make mature decisions. I'm sure you've both been feeling battered with pressure from outside, it doesn't sound like you are particularly kind to each other either, and to be talking of running away, you must feel unsupported by your parents too (a real feeling, whether justified or not). You need support from somewhere. But RW, a bunch of judgemental adults on Bored Panda is not really the place to turn, especially with an AITA (which is a format strictly useful for adults who should know better). I can see how the comments are hurting you and the judgmentalism is only worsening the feelings you have already and encouraging you to consider more and more drastic action. Please, please step away and find a better source of advice from someone who knows you or can spend the time getting to know you.
Your post shows a lack of understanding and empathy for your brother's phobia. He doesn't just 'not like cats'.... he is terrified of them. Phobia's are horrible to live with and can result in anxiety, panic attacks and inability to function. Imagine your brother suddenly decides to keep a hundred venomous spiders and a pair of rattlesnakes and you have to walk through them to get to the bathroom in dark in the middle of night? That's the kind of fear he faces every single day. One day you will move out of home and you can have as many cats as you like. In the meantime, your brothers emotional and mental safety is more important than your desire to have a pet.
I understand aluriphobia, and BP edited almost all of my post. I just don’t want to lose Uraza, I already lost all of my friends, my parents trust, I just want to keep my tiny sliver of happiness so I don’t go let myself get eaten by a mountain lion. I would be happy to keep them in my room so he never has to see him, I just can’t bear to get rid of them. I love him so much already, it would be like losing a piece of myself to lose Uraza. I know it’s tearing Kevin apart, but if I have to remove Uraza from his life, I’m removing myself as well.
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