Person Gives A Spot-On Explanation Of Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria, Many Are Surprised This ADHD Symptom Has A Name

Wait...this is a thing? It has a name? OMG, I thought it was just random anxiety. The feeling is awful, as if your heart just dropped into your gut. As if the multi-channel intrusive thoughts, spotify on infinite repeat, can't remember anything for a second, and bored with everything but fidgety stuff wasn't enough.

I have adhd and autism i feel this ..but it depends .. with my parents it doesnt effect me like that .. but with friends and outside family it can get arkward and tiring and feels like your going into a pit that you can never escape and your mind gets foggy ..and for people without it imagine your doing a test that never ends and every question get harder

I'm bipolar and I have chronic depression. I have had this since I was a kid. I have been singled out by my "friends" for being too easily offended. I have been called the "offense queen", "very jovially" of course, and by a friend who's a mental health professional, nonetheless. I have received treatment and therapy, and come a long way since then. I don't remember feeling rsd in the recent past. but as a result of it, now I hate hanging out with friends, I don't want to make new friends or trust new people, I hate traveling, I hate holding meaningful conversations about topics I like, I dislike spending time away from home and my comfort zone altogether. Human psychology is complex. Mental health is not a joke. If one doesn't understand why or what a person is going through, it's better to remain quiet that dispense judgment and labels.

i have ADHD, and it really makes me feel out of place. i always feel so weird.😞

To compound this, there are so many callous and insensitive people out there who are unnecessarily rough on people when they talk to them (even worse when there’s a power imbalance involved). One must bear in mind that not everyone gets your “jokes”, it’s not always appropriate to be flippant (especially to someone in authority—-yikes!), and there are plenty of sensitive people—-as well as people with RSD—-who will take what you say literally and be hurt by it. Even someone who usually just rolls with it could be unusually sensitive in that moment. We should, as a society, start training ourselves to be more understanding of the context of another person’s condition, or simply their walk of life, which shapes how they perceive not only what you’re saying, but how you’re saying it. You might think you’re being hilarious or looking cool or tough, but to them you’re just being mean and a real asshole.

PTSD-induced ADHD...since the 1970s. (Please don't ask why.) This described my last 45 years. Thanks for the information. -Rev Dr M

OH THANK GOODNESS IT HAS A NAME! I thought all this time I was being an asshole just for having this, I'm so glad I'm not actually a jerk! :'D

Yeah.... it helps to have a supportive, won't-take-no-for-an-answer friend or loved one who can help you push past that dreadful feeling. Remind you of how you looked forward to the thing, or grabs your hand and runs with you to the thing because they know your doubts and fears will stop you, and they love you. It can still surprise me, and depress me, to feel that sinking, "I'm an unwanted failure" feeling. I fight it so hard, and sometimes it breaks me. But sometimes I win.

Uhg. I feel this. Maybe not quite as extreme as the OP, but I definitely feel this.

I've often described it as me standing in the rain outside while watching others enjoying their time together inside and I get to watch through a window. That's the feeling I often get when being with too many people, it's not that I don't like being with them, but it feels like they don't like being with me so I don't get to enjoy it because I ruin it.

wait that doesn’t happen to everybody 😭

Also this could be echoism caused by an over critical and strict narcissistic parent. Sometimes it can be PTSD from longterm psychological abuse during childhood development.

Sure that this is specific to just people with ADHD?

so that's what it is? i thought it was just me being overly sensitive because i'm only 14. i got diagnosed with ADHD and ADD, plus PTSD a few years ago, and this matches me so accurately. whenever my parents make the slightest comment or even the slightest hint at any annoyment triggers this for me. i just feel like i can't do a single thing right, and it just makes me want to cry and shriek all at the same time.

I always thought this was a symptom of anxiety because I have anxiety (as well as ADHD), but whenever I tried explaining it to others people with anxiety to get advice, they wouldn't know what I was referring to. This was makes so much more sense.

I don’t have ADHD but I definitely have this. Thank you for letting me know it’s not just me.

BTW, there is a great website for ADHD called ADDitude at https://www.additudemag.com/ -- if you're looking for more information check it out. (It's where I learned about RSD.)

in the end i stand alone

I feel this almost daily. The only thing that helps (although it obviously doesn't) is to drink. I've dealt with moderate to severe (depending on the time) ADHD all my life, and never once was made to realize this is a part of it. Thanks for posting this. It explains a lot.

I too have ADHD but NEVER EVER do I let someone tel me it's a 'mental disorder'!!! (So you too, Pandas, shame on you for calling it that and taking pitty on me and us?!? YOY MAY CALL IT A CONDITION and it's my condition I put forward if you expect me to listen to whatever nonsense you think you know about me 'cause I will always be far more worth as a person and less judgemental than you 'normal' people will ever be. At least we know we aren't perfect and it's not another's opinion that defines us, it's yours that defines you as the short sighted idiots you are. When people roll their eyes at me, I put my fist on the table and look them in the eye while I ask them: at least I have an excuse and what's yours??? Arrogance or entitlement are nature not nurture!

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It's called being pissed that you don't get your way. In this age of everyone's a winner and gets a trophy, we are making up new disorders to explain what EVERYONE goes through. It's called embarrassment. We all get it. Get over yourselves. You're not that special and move on.