Husband Writes Down Every Time His Wife Refused Him Sex, Sends Her An Email After She Leaves For A Work Trip

@ Lisa You have a woman who is going to the gym, telling her husband she feels gross, that she doesn't feel good. Sounds to me like she may be dealing with depression issues on top of a rigorous schedule. I've had to deal with this in my relationship with my husband. Unlike this douchebag, my husband recognized the issue and sat down with me to talk about it. I offered to let him see what my days were like by leaving for a few days and leaving him in control of the house and our autistic adult son while he maintained going to work. When I came back, he never complained again and said that he had no idea how exhausting it was for me until he was in complete control of everything. After that, he understood that if he wanted any "fun time" with me, it meant he had to pitch in and help around the house.

Not just can - it is. Silent treatment is textbook emotional abuse. He's cut her off from him completely, though temporarily, because he knows it will hurt her. Just a hunch based on his master-level passive-aggression, but I bet he answers her calls in a few days or more and blames the whole thing entirely on her. I'd honestly like to know how this turned out.

Nia, emotional manipulation with the intent of harming or controlling another person IS abuse. I fully agree that physical abuse is extremely serious, but emotional abuse is real and dangerous and also should not be minimized. It's pretty clear he's trying to do harm to her emotionally (cutting her off when she needs her wits about her, frequently insulting her weight) instead of talking about the issue like an adult. Hurting someone you "love" just because you think they "deserve" it is always abuse, whether physical or not.

Lisa- she isn’t giving him the silent treatment when watching her shows. She says to him, let me finish the show and then we can talk. She didn’t say she didn’t want to be physical with him. She said she has been working her a*s off and has been too tired and that the tapered off sex life is temporary. Her work load doubled when people got laid off. She has to do all of that work and then come home to cook, clean and do laundry. I don’t think it said how long ago her workload at work doubled. But if it is fairly recent, she has to get used to it and figure out how to balance workload and home duties so she isn’t so exhausted. If double the work was just one day dumped into your lap, you’re not gonna automatically know how to juggle it all so no one should expect her to know either.

To everyone downvoting, please educate yourselves on Narcissistic Abuse. Claiming that abusive behavior is only as you personally define it is unbelievably harmful and dangerous to countless men and women trapped in situations that have gone much further than the one described above.

His timing, and then refusing to answer after firing off his manifesto - really passive-aggressive and lame.

@ Nia Loves Art. Not abuse? So would you consider a mother that turns away from and ignores her child on purpose as someone who is not being abusive. It's emotional abuse. Abuse is an act in which one person, through their actions, seek to control another person. It does not have to be physical. it could be as simple as someone turning someone else away from normal emotional contact. Sex is not required to have a deep emotional connection to another person. And she was not getting up and leaving the room in front of him when she refused to have sex. I've read the excuses he wrote down. He's clearly missing the fact that she's suffering from depression. For him to miss that means he's putting his own needs above hers. After all, he married the love of his life..not a whore.

Maybe watching TV is the only "relax" time she ever gets.