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30 Maternity Ward Workers Share The Worst Cases Of “You Shouldn’t Be A Parent” They’ve Ever Seen
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The miracle of childbirth is a beautiful thing. And welcoming a precious baby into the world can be an extremely emotional experience, both for the parents and for the health care workers by their side. But unfortunately, not everything that happens in the delivery room brings tears of joy to the doctors’ and nurses' eyes. Every child deserves parents, but sadly, not every parent deserves to have kids.
Employees who work in maternity wards have recently been opening up on Reddit about the absolute worst moms and dads they’ve encountered. We’ll warn you right now that these may not be the easiest stories to get through, but they’re good reminders to hold your children close today if you’re a parent. And keep reading to find a conversation with author, teacher, speaker and former midwife, Rachel Reed, PhD.
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#1
My work took me to a perinatal mental health unit.
There was a new mum who was an in-patient there, had the baby a week or two back, she had post partum psychosis and was currently catatonic.
Her husband had asked a member of staff when they could start trying for their second baby.
Wtf is wrong with his priorities??! He shouldn't be a parent. Or a husband.
Cpt. Christan "Panda Bombero" 1 year ago
That muck fuppet of a man, is a CWOHS. Complete waste of human space.
Carilyn Beverly 1 year ago
Vague due to HIPPA: Had a mentally ill patient, she was manic-bipolar, hyper-sexual when manic, schizophrenic and had a traumatic loss of a child. In all my years of working at this facility, she is the only patient who was ever allowed to have conjugal visits, once a week for the duration of her stay.
Shortstuff 10 months ago (edited)
A maternity nurse (a friend) told me that during visiting, she heard a noise in a single room, went in, and the husband was having s*x with his wife who had given birth that morning. The woman was sobbing and distraught.
Rachel Young 12 months ago
Our daughter got bitten by a dog when she was 2 years old and my ex checked with the doctors whether it was alright for him to go on holiday by himself (he was actually taking the woman he was having an affair with) I can still remember the look of shock and puzzlement on the doctor's face as he tried to get his head around him going on holiday without his family.
not a sock 2 weeks ago
oh wow that's exactly what i was thinking about too, Andrea Yates
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#2
Not an OB, I’m someone who gave birth. I heard another new mom in the same ward speak to her just born baby boy “shhh now, boys don’t cry” over and over. I could only imagine how that poor child will be brought up.
Lena Flising 12 months ago
Boys DO cry; they are human, arent they? Boys who don't cry might be acting out, beating up others, drink, do d***s, or unalive themselves.
Crystalwitch60 2 weeks ago
Shite someone call in cps , n get that poor baby off her 🤬babies cry it’s what they do , and BOYS DO CRY mothers quit telling them they don’t ffs ur destroying men !
Ravioli 3 months ago
It's not even about the toxic masculinity, all newborns cry to say something, if they dont something is very wrong. That poor thing was likely hungry, and when newborns are hungry they think they are dying, instead of getting fed he got this meaningless sounds in his ear over and over. How does a woman get to giving birth without knowing that babies cry?
patricia patricia 1 month ago
Because a person doesn't need a functional brain or a minimum of common sense to get pregnant and give birth. That's why so many people have children when they obviously shouldn't.
Load More Replies... Lena Flising 6 months ago
It's healthy to cry now and then. Having a good cry releases stress and makes the problem seem a bit lighter afterwards. And, babies don't have any other way to communicate than to cry or to laugh. She wants to make him uptight and high-strung from day one...
Jordan Lawrence 9 months ago
What a way to bring your child up. He is going to end up with mental health issues because she's not supporting him in the way he needs. Boys do cry and should not be seen less of a boy or man because they cried. They are human just like little girls and women.
#3
My OB told me the story of his saddest delivery - he delivered a baby of a 12 year old girl. On one of the postpartum rounds when he went in to check on her, she was asleep and was sucking her thumb.
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago
I had a friend in highschool who had an abortion at 12yo. The person who got her pregnant was a family member. A lot of sad stories like that out there.
Huddo's sister 12 months ago
Not just because of the mental ramifications either. A 12 year old's body is not ready to give birth. Countries where it is common have higher rates of death as well as complications such as fistulas, literally tearing them up and causing incontinence etc.
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Dread Pirate Roberts 1 year ago
That is awful. That poor girl is definitely burdened with a lot of trauma...
Catherine Hutt 12 months ago
A former nurse told me about an 11-year-old being wheeled into the delivery room, clutching a teddy bear. She had been raped by her father.
Curleysuz 11 months ago
Quite apart from everything else, the child will most likely be disabled. Safe abortions for all, without parental consent.
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OWL ON A MISSION 1 year ago
I went to school with a girl that got pregnant in 6th grade. By the time we graduated she had 4 kids. She stayed in school though and got her diploma.
Kayly Anderson 12 months ago
Ugg why do people like that exist I hope whoever hurt that poor girl is rotting and suffering in hell 😭💔
To learn even more about this topic, we got in touch with author, teacher, speaker and former midwife, Rachel Reed, PhD. Rachel was kind enough to have a chat with Bored Panda and explain what it's really like to be in the maternity ward.
"Very busy and task-orientated. Over the past decade there has been increased work pressures, short-staffing and excessive amounts of documentation," she explained.
#4
Was a student nurse shadowing a community health visitor. Visited a pregnant woman who hadn't found out the gender of the baby yet. She (for some reason) told us that her boyfriend (father of the baby) had been previously convicted of sexual assault against a child under 13. The mother said it so casually, and was angry that people kept judging him for a "mistake" he made.
The health visitor was horrified, and asked if she wasn't worried he would hurt her sons (2 boys under 10 from a previous relationship). She just said "of course not, they're boys!", basically admitting this man did something to a young girl.
So health visitor asked, "what if the baby you're having now is a girl?". This woman literally shrugged and said "then I'll abort it and we'll try again until we get a boy". She said it so casually, like she was talking about the weather.
I've never been more disgusting with a human, and I hope that the children are safe.
zims 1 year ago
Mmmmmmno, if you'd rather have an abortion than risk him having a girl to molest, you know he didn't "make a mistake" and you fully expect him to do it again.
Brazen 1 year ago
I realize, as I'm reading these, that I have met way too many sick people in my lifetime. I had a "friend" that I ended the relationship with when she told me that her husband went to jail because he had child p--n on his computer. It was obviously bad enough that he got caught. Her reasoning for thinking it wasn't so bad (her defense of him) was that his excuse was that he was molested as a child, so he was "curious" to see pictures of kids that went through these things. Distribution of said material, says he's lying. How could that make sense to any rational human being? Uggggh, I'm getting so angry reading these things. I have to stop.
Tom De Paul 11 months ago
Interestingly, treatment centers can no longer test sex offenders for inappropriate arousal because they would, by definition, be in possession of child pornography.
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Lena Flising 12 months ago
P*do's might not care about the gender of their victims, only their age. Availability is usually more important than gender. The boys are available to him, odds are he's done SOMETHING to them. Checking for gender in the womb isn't foolproof, the midwife or OB/GYN might be wrong, the genitals might be ambiguous.
Crystalwitch60 2 weeks ago
No it’s not , n to know the gender ,means baby’s at 20 weeks a proper baby! so that would be cold blooded M U R D E R !! people really disgust me more the older I get ,n ones like this ,truthfully id happily do time for !! if they could ever prove it of course !
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Tom De Paul 11 months ago
Or use abortion to accomplish gender selection. And I'm looking at you, the people of the near and far East.
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Mrs.C 12 months ago
I know a family where the husband was over 18 and convicted of SA of a girl under 5. He and his wife have a 4 yo daughter. He isn't allowed to be alone with the child so he comes and hangs out where mom works with the kid...or did until the boss shut it down. My underage child worked at the same place and I was about to make her quit when the boss told him he couldn't come in any more.
Kayly Anderson 12 months ago
So if your children got SA'd, you WOULDNT CARE?! What kind of mother cares more about her p3d0 boyfriend than her own children. Sickening THAT LADY DOES NOT DESERVE THE TITLE OF MOTHER
Tom De Paul 11 months ago
I am a retired LCSW child and adolescent family therapist and I've seen countless mothers make this choice.
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Bewitched One 11 months ago
Yea you’d think this person would be a mandated reporter or something
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Not in the maternity ward but in the ED, we have a regular patient. She has had 8 kids taken away. She said she is going to keep having them until she gets to keep one.
Brazen 1 year ago
When I was the caretaker of a small-ish apartment block, my neighbor across the hall was like this. I had no idea when I rented the apartment to her, but found out in the most horrific way later. One night she got into a fight with her bf because he tried to SA a 17 year old in the building and she stabbed him. When I called the police, they were the ones that told me about her background. She was on number 5, still drinking and doing d***s....no wonder they were taken from her.
Tenay Douglas 1 year ago
Glad she saved that girl it's too bad she couldn't be saved
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Beef Brisket 11 months ago
When my son was three I needed part-time daycare. A woman answered my ad and my son and I went to meet her in her home. I asked her if she had any kids of her own. "No, they keep taking them away," she huffed. "They keep saying I'm an unfit mother, if you can imagine that."
Regina Holt 1 year ago
I think the woman needs therapy to come to terms with the reality of her situation.
patricia patricia 1 month ago
What she needs is to be forced to pay for the kids' food, books, health care, etc. When she needs to have three jobs just to pay bills for her kids, she'll come to terms with the reality of her situation in no time.
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talliloo 11 months ago
worked in civil service position in which i established paternity and child support for people. ) this one case i worked with the father caused me to cross reference the mother of the child to other cases. discovered she had other kids with different men and that in each case within a day of two of giving birth had dropped off the baby to the dad. during an interview with her she told me that she didn't use birth control as she loved the feeling of being pregnant but didn't want kids. this was a couple of decades ago btw. sometimes wonder how many kids she ended up having. to their credit every father i interviewed were committed to doing the best for their kid, including the one that confessed he struggled in the beginning bc he didn't think he wanted kids until he held his daughter all night during a bad bout of colic & realized he would do anything to make her happy and healthy.
Cathy Beeman 12 months ago
where are the doctors in all this. Where are the social workers? where are the psychiatrists?
Tom De Paul 11 months ago
They are taught in their programs that self determination is a primary value to be respected in performing their duties.
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Racing Tadpole 1 year ago
Same mental patient had eight kids taken off her at birth because she was a d**g using psycho
Stephanie Did It 8 months ago
I've commented on this on BP several times...my mother had seven, and they weren't taken away from her. She voluntarily GAVE them away. It too me 40 years to find my 5 sisters.
#6
When I was in nursing school a 11 year old girl delivered a 9 pound baby, this was before epidurals, she had no idea how she got pregnant, the boys used to “play doctor with her”.
Farnzy 1 year ago
Yeah...idk what I expected...but this is just awful. These poor babies having babies and not even having the slightest clue to understanding how it happened...Just so sad
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Jessica Hedges 1 year ago
This is what happens when sex ed is taken out of school , and when you don't talk to your kids about their bodies
Brazen 1 year ago
When I was in grade 3, we had friends being raised by a single parent who wasn't home often. I figured out one day what was happening between the brother and his sister (who was my friend), when he propositioned us. Now that I'm older I'm very sad to think about her response, which was "come on, it's really fun. You'll like it.". Why are people like this?
Marie BellaDonna 3 weeks ago
I hope you told someone. (But I don't judge you if you didn't. You were only a kid, yourself.) And I hope the girl is doing well now. And I hope the brother didn't and/or can't hurt anyone else!
Load More Replies... Seadog 11 months ago
I worked with a woman who at 14 had her first. When she went for her 6? week checkup the doctor patted her knee and said "congratulations." She honestly had no idea how she could be pregnant again. This same person also didn't think she needed to have a Pap smear done after having a hysterectomy. Some people are just totally clueless about life.
Jon Steensen 7 months ago
This is why you need proper s*x-ed, and this is why you need it to start at an early age.
We also asked Dr. Reed what some of the most challenging aspects of being a midwife were. "The lack of time available to spend time with women and support them to recover from birth and care for their baby," she shared. "The demands of the institution to move women through the hospital and out as quickly as possible."
#7
Not an employee of a maternity ward but, I have a cousin who is a [user]. She's just had her 5th child. Every time she has a baby, it gets taken away from her and she literally has another one on purpose hoping she can keep that one. She's incredibly lucky that her parents (my uncle and aunt) have taken in all of her children so they can be together, but they are about 70 years old and have already raised 5 kids of their own. I actually hate my cousin for doing this to them. .
RP 1 year ago
Maybe it's time the cousin got some help. There's an underlying issue here she's trying to deal with using d***s and having babies. Those are symptoms. I'd bet my bottom dollar there's trauma at the root of it
Chewie 1 year ago
This was definitely my cousins on my mom's side. Kept having babies because of what the state would pay them. So sad.
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The_Nicest_Misanthrope 1 year ago
Unpopular opinion, but this is why I believe in sterilisation...
Lila Allen 1 year ago
Not forced, but in Boston some years back there was a wealthy woman who offered $500 plus the procedure paid for to any current addict. ACLU tried to block, but since she was just offering not forcing it didn't go anywhere. Coincidentally Boston saw a sharp drop in the number of d**g addicted babies born.
Load More Replies... Stephanie Did It 12 months ago (edited)
My mother was the opposite: Seven children, and she threw every one away. Two were found in a locked public bathroom, one was shaken and removed, two given up at birth, two dropped off at an orphanage as pre-teens. They didn't have CPS in the 1950-60s. A psych evaluation concluded that she knew right from wrong, but she simply didn't care.
B L 7 months ago
Imagine what those parents did, to make her this way. I'm scared for those poor kids.
Jon Steensen 7 months ago
That was my thoughs too... at first...But d***s are a really bad thing, and it doesn't take much to start the downward spiral. So it may not be trauma caused by the parents that caused it, but just one "what the hell, I'll try that for fun".
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Pat Fisher 7 months ago (edited)
My sister, now around 70, had children she didn’t raise. She has minimal contact with the rest of our family because she hasn’t been able or didn’t want to be sober for more than 50 years. When high, she would want to have s*x with anyone, uncles, cousins, nephews, bils, grandsons if they were willing. No one is willing to help her now. She steals to fund her addictions and she steals from everyone, even the little kids’ money or stuff to trade for d.r.u.g.s
#8
I mean it’s not uncommon for a woman (who doesn’t have custody of her other 3+ kids due to d***s) to get pregnant, while still doing those same d***s, and once again not get custody of the new baby. But also like refuse to go on any long term form of birth control like an IUD that would let them do d***s in peace without making more babies. Infinitely baffling to me. If you’d prefer to do [substances] over everything else and pregnancy is unwanted, why not take steps to not get pregnant?
Nikole 1 year ago
Not wanting to feel alone? I obviously have no idea, but it seems like some kind of attachment disorder.
RP 1 year ago
I knew so many women who didn't have the best start in life growing up who wanted to get pregnant so that 'someone will love me'
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Celtic Pirate Queen 12 months ago
A lot of them want someone who will "love them unconditionally and not take advantage of them". It's twisted, I know, but a very real mentality.
Judy Reynolds 11 months ago
Many years ago, I heard of a young woman, in for her third abortion. When asked why she didn't take the pill, she said if she did, she would no longer be a virgin. I still don't understand.
weatherwitch 11 months ago
I understand the OPs point of view. But I Really don't believe that we can ever understand the point of view from the mother. They are usually in an horrific cycle of abuse, hating themselves, feeling unloved, hoping a child, a family can change it all. To the men sleeping with a woman like this, it is Obvious that they're not able to look after a child so He should take precautions to wrap it up to avoid this. The cycle is horrible and the poor kids from it, in real trouble from a very difficult life 😔
Alice Platzer 11 months ago
The inability to take responsiblity for one's own actions belongs to the clinical picture of an addict. Seen it over and over again.
#9
OB nurse. Honestly, I’ve only seen two and both had been previously convicted of non-accidental traumatic injury to their infants, one of which resulted in death.
I think the only people who shouldn’t be parents are folks who don’t want kids or want to harm kids. Interestingly enough, that’s not always apparent until years later when kiddo isn’t a cute baby anymore.
I’ve taken care of lots of parents with substance use issues. Lots of them would never want to hurt their baby. They beat themselves up knowing that their addiction resulted in pain for their child. And lots of folks literally don’t know that their actions can harm the baby. Poor health literacy is very real.
b9cjc4fdfb 1 year ago
This is a very compassionate take! This person chose the right profession.
Jon Steensen 7 months ago
yeah, but a lot of bad things is done with the best of intentions. Compassion isn't always enough - especially not when you apply it to the wrong people.
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Aballi 1 year ago
I so appreciate you for sharing the side of mothers with substance disorders! I'm a former addict, now in recovery for almost 9 years. I've worked in the addiction field for 7 years, and it's a privilege to be invited into the inner lives of my clients. There is kindness and humanity in each one of them. Addiction is a horrible disease! Substances change the brain's reward system, so that nothing, often not even the love of a child, can compete with the importance of the substance. It literally feels vital for survival. Most of my clients have acted on poor judgment while using substances, often leading to disastrous and sometimes heartbreaking results. No one could possibly judge them harder than they judge themselves, even if it doesn't look like it on the surface...I promise.
tee-lena 1 year ago (edited)
My birth mom has so much guilt over what happened to me and my brothers. The reasons behind substance abuse are so varied but the first time she was molested, that she remembers, she was 3 years old. By the time she had me at 19/20 she had been molested, raped 10 Times and was on her way to be sold once. Only the kindness of the man's mother led to her escape from his home. Pain, whether emotional or physical can have you doing anything to make it stop. As I said, her guilt is all consuming.
Load More Replies... Jon Steensen 7 months ago
"I think the only people who shouldn’t be parents are folks who don’t want kids or want to harm kids". I strongly disagree with that statement. This isn't about what the parents wants, it is about what the child needs contra what they can provide. We don't choose our parents. There are people out there, who, despite the best of intention, just aren't fit to be parents, and end up harming their children tremendously, despite not actively wanting to.
Andy Frobig 12 months ago
I have to disagree. Parenthood means building a functional, hopefully happy adult. You can be unable to do this no matter how badly you want to. It's a hard job, and frankly I think the number of people who can do it well is much, much smaller than the number of people who try. Why is it more important that you get to have children than it is that they get to grow up happy, healthy and safe?
Dr. Reed also says it's not the job of a health care provider to judge parents. "It is their job to support them," she explained.
"In relation to the Reddit thread – care providers have legal responsibilities relating to child safety reporting," she added. "This is not about judging parents; it is about the safety of the baby."
#10
When my son was in the NICU the mom of the baby next to him would barge in, turn on the overhead lights (which were only supposed to be on for procedures) and knock on her baby’s incubator to wake them up.
Nikole 1 year ago
No doubt her caring and intelligent nature will continue throughout that child’s life… However long it may be.
Regina Holt 1 year ago
Nikole, your second sentence is the kicker. Baby is in NICU for a reason.
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My first time in NICU I made the mistake of looking around. If you ever have to go, and I hope you don't, look at the floor until you get to your child and then look only at your child. I'll never be able to unsee the infants I saw in there. Heartbreaking just doesn't describe it enough.
Babynursemissy 11 months ago
Yes, some situations are heartbreaking, but there’s nothing like the feeling of watching a baby you cared for in the NICU get bigger and stronger and go through the unit door to go home. And that happens a lot more than the heartbreaking ones.
Load More Replies... Kayly Anderson 12 months ago
What in the actual f**k? Your child and many others are having such a traumatic start to their lives. And you want to visit them just so can disrupt them and mess with equipment. How disrespectful. How old are you, 2?
#11
Paramedic here. I used to occasionally do Interfacility Transports with a NICU team (nurse practitioner, RN, and myself in the back-though they do most then heavy lifting) and so many opiod addicted newborns. I remember the first time i had to calculate a f***anyl drip for a 6lbs baby so he didn't go into withdrawals.
Can't get clean for the pregnancy, but also refuse to do anything to prevent pregnancy. It's heartbreaking.
Kayly Anderson 12 months ago
It's so sad that babies have to go through addiction because their stupid mom didn't get clean when she got pregnant. It's horrible
My O My 1 year ago
Does anybody know the percentage of d**g addict babies that turn out fine? I mean, without any dissabillities/disorders?
Shannimal 1 year ago
I dont know the percentage but I knew 3 of them, all 3 adopted by 1 saint of a couple from different mothers. 1 had a "toilet baby" and lived at home as a useless adult until both adoptive parents died, 1 was always dealing/doing d***s but still ended up married with 2 kids of his own then died in his mid-30s (can only speculate how), and the youngest always showed signs of ADHD but overall turned out OK (last I knew of him anyway).
Load More Replies... HardBoiledBlonde 1 year ago
Blame the Sacklers, they should be responsible for funding all associated needs resulting from opioid addiction.
Kellyann Conway 5 months ago
I think it’s important to take into account that many women are in a*****e situations where they can’t say no to violent boyfriends or husbands who force unprotected s*x (aka r**e.). 100% of unwanted pregnancies are caused by men ejaculating into women who don’t want to be pregnant. Where is the paternal responsibility in these situations?
#12
Well, I was a CPS social worker, but this story took place in a maternity ward. An addict mother had stayed off [substances] for a few days because she was scared of testing positive while birthing her baby. Gave birth, baby's father/boyfriend snuck some [stuff] in to her while still in the hospital, she nodded off and dropped the newborn out of her arms and onto the floor. Thankfully the little girl was ok in the end. A little bruised and some withdrawal symptoms, as well as small for her age, but I kept track of her until she was 6 or 7 and she was thriving. Her parents refused rehab or doing anything, so she was adopted very early by a great family.
So what should parents know before entering the maternity ward? "Their legal rights regarding consent and to know that care providers are often following policies and protocols that may not fit their individual needs," Dr. Reed says.
#13
I know a couple who were foster carers. Roughly every year they'd get a newborn from a couple who were both on the sex offenders' register. They kept getting pregnant despite knowing that the baby would be removed by social services almost immediately.
HardBoiledBlonde 1 year ago
Unpopular opinion, but if one is a convicted sexual assaulter, rapist really, of children or teens then they should never, NEVER, be permitted to breed, they should have absolutely no access to more potential victims. However, let them choose from the various methods that prohibit breeding but choose one they must. I spent decades helping victims, all ages, of these crimes against humanity trying to cobble together personhood and lives worth living. Many were so profoundly damaged they could not. Many became offenders themselves not understanding the why. The cycle Must stop.
Kayly Anderson 12 months ago
predators should have children. That puts them at risk for lifelong trauma. I'm glad those kids got taken away from them.
#14
I am not an employee of a maternity ward, but I did see something awful when I went to go visit my friend after she had her baby.
Her husband was just sitting in the corner of the room playing on his switch while she is recovering from hemorrhaging and almost dying, and trying to figure out how to take care of a baby.
Things got so bad they had to resuscitate her, so when we got there a few days later, she was still looking horrible.
When she was changing his diaper, I could tell she had never changed a baby’s diaper before, let alone a boys diaper.
I tried to warn her about how boys can pee, but it was too late, and the baby peed all over her.
My husband and I are trying to help her out and get a nurse to come get her changed, and her husband is still sitting in the corner playing on his switch and ignoring everything.
When the nurse got in there, my friend eventually snapped and yelled at her husband to help her. Me and my husband and the nurse just awkwardly looked at each other.
I can’t imagine how many times nurses have to see situations like that. It would p**s me off so bad.
Beak Hookage 1 year ago
I bet that guy was *totally shocked* when she kicked him out with divorce papers stapled to his backside.
Yu Pan 1 year ago (edited)
I'd wager that she won't divorce him and if they ever get separated it's because he cheated on her and left her.
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Lauren Wilder 1 year ago (edited)
As a nurse I get to know who their "lazy" family members quickly. I form some sort of relationship with them, then I get them to start helping with little things before they even know it. It's an art.
Celtic Pirate Queen 12 months ago
My sister had a scheduled induction. She had to be at the hospital at 6:00am,, having eaten nothing in the past 12 hours. After hours & hours of waiting for my niece to arrive, her husband called his best friend to bring him a dinner from his favorite BBQ place. Full on: ribs, brisket, beans, greens and cornbread. He proceeded to sit next to my sister's bed and started eating. She hadn't had anything but ice chips in almost 20 hours. I yanked his dinner out of his hands and told him to GTFO of my sister's room. He started to argue and the nurse reamed him a new one until he left. He was always a self centered pr*ck, but that one took the cake.
Billie Jackson 3 weeks ago
My four-year-old son was in the hospital for a week once with a health issue he has. There was a bathroom between us and the room next door. A newborn baby would cry every night. I would have loved to rock it and comfort it, but of course, that wasn't kosher. I asked the nurse about the crying, and she told me not one family member had been to see the baby since it was born. She said the nurses would have loved to rock him, but they only had the few minutes while feeding him. He'd be 35 now...I have often wondered what happened to him. BTW, went home and told hubby I wanted another baby....had #3 (of four) the next year.
weatherwitch 11 months ago
Poor woman with two babies 😔 I'd have taken that Switch and shoved it up his a**e 🤬
Kayly Anderson 12 months ago
When your husband is man child but cares more about video games than his own wife and child, the lady doesn't deserve him
jaime b 12 months ago
my husband stayed in the corner playing video games because the nurses were being aholes to him. he finally had enough when the main ahole checked how far i was without warning me and she had long nails. she had the nerve to tell me the birth would hurt more- this was my second child so i knew exactly what i was in for but the nails were the worse part. hubby told her off and huddled close to me. same nurse later told me to stop pushing. i was in active labour and atm not pushing however my son wanted out now and was forcing his way out. hubby after the birth had to leave. we had a 2year and we were babysitting hubbys 14yo sister when i went into labour. her mom wasnt in town as we were to have her for a whole week. he came to help out and visit every min he could. for this story it sounds like the dad didnt want the kid to start with or maybe was told/raised to believe dads job starts after baby is walking.
Tom De Paul 11 months ago
He was taught (by his mother) that it is a woman's job to raise the children.
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Not an employee, but a parent.
January of this year, my child had to be lifelined to a specialised children's hospital. While we were there in the PICU, a young baby (6 months old, I believe) arrived and was placed in the private room next to ours. Didn't think anything of it at first but then noticed all the police. CID was there the whole nine yards. The parents weren't allowed in the room unsupervised at all.
After a day, we heard a commotion from one of the other side rooms, and it was the mother getting irate over being questioned when she did nothing wrong. Later on, it's the same thing but with the dad. The next day, a woman turned up with two other children. They were this baby's Auntie and siblings. Let's say they didn't keep their private conversation very private, and everyone in there found out why that little baby was there. The baby had several fractures and breaks. Two days later, both parents were escorted out of the hospital in handcuffs.
Read a newspaper article a few days after that the other two children were placed into foster care. They had medical histories of "accidents," too.
Those two people should never have been parents!
Linda Lee 1 year ago
I was one of those kids that ended up in the hospital because of "accidents". I'm so glad that there are laws to protect children now.
Kayly Anderson 12 months ago
Thank god those s**t parents went to jail and lost custody of the kids.
Janet Sparrow 1 month ago
I can’t figure out a way to stop people like this from becoming parents. Because the right to reproduce is our basic human right.
Foxglove🇮🇪 1 month ago
Currently in Ireland there is a woman being tried for murdering her stepson. Child was unconscious but alive on arrival at hospital, court heard last week that the whole team gasped when they saw the extent of his injuries
Ffion Jones 1 year ago
CID now are in separate teams I think: Organised Crime Groups; Cyber; Fraud etc
Ffion Jones 1 year ago
UK- CID is Criminal Investigative Department in the police. More than likely now Serious Crime or something. PICU is Paediatric Intensive Care Unit
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Dr. Reed added that we still have a long way to go in improving maternity wards. "Maternity systems were not set up to support the individual needs of mothers and babies. They were set up to support the needs of the institutions," she explained. "One-third of women leave their birth experience traumatized. We need care that better supports women and new families, rather than pointing the finger at a minority of parents."
#16
Not really the gist of the question but at a house party a gal who was so drunk she couldn’t stand up and nearly burnt holes in the furniture with her smokes and bong announced, in a comically loud stage whisper, that she was a few months pregnant but not to worry because she’d already scheduled an abortion.
The entire room heaved a sigh of relief, given she’d already had four other children seized by the state. Then someone asked why she didn’t just use birth control. Her answer? “You can’t prove that stuff works and also I’m not going to pollute my body with hormones.”
Wow.
I feel sorry for her remaining eggs.
Beak Hookage 1 year ago
Honey, with the way you indulge I don't think you're in any position to be getting self-righteous about "polluting your body".
KieLeaHar 10 months ago
I don’t think she has enough brain cells to understand any of that. I also don’t think the education system would’ve helped her understand any of either.
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Panda Panda Bo Banda 1 year ago
You could do a whole other Bored Panda page about people who don't want "chemicals" in their body, but are slowly poisoning themselves anyway.
Ravioli 3 months ago
Lol, I can't get over a family friend who drinks like a sailor, does weed and LSD, lives in the filthiest apartment on Earth, but won't stop b******g about 5g and covid vaccine poisoning
Load More Replies... Kellyann Conway 5 months ago (edited)
I think we need grasp that that on four different occasions, an irresponsible male ejaculated into this woman while she was fertile. Do these men bear any responsibility? When are we going to make it illegal for men to impregnate and abandon drugged out, mentally ill women?
Lena Flising 12 months ago
As thousands of millions of people use "that stuff" and almost no-one gets pregnant, you CAN prove it works. Besides, being pregnant and give birth arre some of the most dangerous things you can do to your body.
Adam Benson 1 year ago
D-r-u-g-s. People won't get shocked if they see the full word, Bored Panda!
zims 12 months ago
But the advertisers might, and we don't want to scare off the timid dollars!
Load More Replies... Bewitched One 11 months ago
What do you think pregnancy does? It “pollutes your body with hormones” too?
#17
Not a medical professional but my baby was born premature and spent a little over a month in the NICU. It was the hardest thing I've ever experienced. My wife and I were fortunate enough to be able to do shifts and care for our little guy almost around the clock. The baby next to us was born the same day as our son and looked to have a similar experience with needing a ventilator and oxygen. To my knowledge, not once in those 34 days did he have a visitor or anyone to hold him and comfort him besides the excellent nurses there. I think about that baby a lot and I really hope he graduated and found a home with people who will love him a great deal.
Bay Bo 1 year ago
Let's give a round of applause for those beautiful loving caring nurses everywhere 💕💕. Ty so much for being there for helpless babies
Papa 1 year ago
Absolutely. My grandson spent the first four weeks of his life in the NICU, and those people are angels on earth.
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Des Williams 1 year ago
My daughter was in the NICU for 86 days and there were several babies in there at that time who did not get regular visits from anyone. We asked the nurses and the parents were often lifelined there from the next state over where they didn't have a level 4 NICU and had other kids at home to take care of. They would call every day though.
HardBoiledBlonde 1 year ago (edited)
I thought many hospitals have a program where trained volunteers hold, touch, coo and sing etc to babies who have no one to do it? Is this no longer true?
Rosecat 12 months ago
When I gave birth to my daughter, there was a baby boy there who kept puking his milk. They tried feeding him through a tube in the nose, still puking. I hadn't seen him for a few hours, and the next time I went to the baby room and changed my daughter's diaper, I saw a blue paper in the trash (they had papers with the baby's data, blue for boys and pink for girls, which they gave to parents when they were discharged)😭
Stephanie Did It 8 months ago
Preemies need every drop of nutrition they get, because their tiny bodies are still trying to mature to the point where they should have been born. Mine was born at 32 weeks. He had not yet developed a choking reflex, and his inner ears hadn't established equilibrium yet. That meant if we rocked him in our arms, he threw up. It was such an effort for him to suck, he burned more calories than he could take in. For that reason they tube fed him my milk. They told us if he didn't gain half an ounce per day, he wouldn't thrive. He came home at one month old, weighing 4 pounds (1.8 kg).Having a preemie is extremely hard on everyone, especially the baby. They need very specialized care. We, too, saw several who had no visitors, and the nurses were pure angels.
Load More Replies... Sarah E 6 months ago
I experienced something similar when my niece was in NICU. For the first week my sister was hospitalised over an hour away, so I was in for 12-16 hours a day and had other family do night shifts etc to give me sleep. Once my sister got out of hospital she and I would do the 24hour shifts between us depending on how she was feeling. Baby next to us had his dad drop breast milk off daily but wouldn’t even look at the baby. Saddest part - the baby started responding to my voice because it’s one he heard most regularly. Nurse unit manager asked me to sing to him (from my nieces bedside) when they couldn’t calm him even though my niece was fast asleep (I would sing over her to calm her during procedures or when she was unsettled) - I did it and he calmed right down. I often wonder what happened to that little angel 😢 Thank goodness for NICU nurses they are honestly the best!
Ruth Watry 7 months ago
Friend had preemie twins (in the hospital 5 and 9 months) and also had 3 kids at home 8 and younger - NICU was 400 miles away. Mom spent the first 8 weeks there, and had a breakdown with being away from the rest of her family (her sister helped out with the kids at home). After that, they facetimed several times a day, but only went down every 2 or 3 weekends. The NICU staff were very supportive, and the babies got lots of loving.
#18
Not who you're asking but my husband's mother was 40, morbidly obese, an alcoholic, and barely not homeless. She had miscarriage after miscarriage and was found to have a uterine tumor the size of a football but she begged them to let her keep at least one ovary so she could keep trying to have a baby even though he would 100% for sure be very preterm because she didn't have enough uterus for him to grow in. The guy who finally gave her that preterm baby was someone she met in a bar that God told her would give her a baby. They were told my husband had an extremely high chance of never walking, talking, or learning to use the bathroom but that was okay because his mom really wanted a baby. Even if he was basically a baby forever. Looking at the photos, I find it hard to believe the people who brought the apnea monitor and other medical equipment didn't have an issue with how cramped or cluttered the room was. The only reason my mother-in-law ever even got this house (that's 100% my husband's now as it should be) is because of some program for low-income mothers of high-risk infants. Thankfully the doctors were wrong about my husband being disabled, unfortunately that means my MIL's religion was proven right in her eyes.
cj be like 11 months ago
exactly!! and if they have children of their own the MIL should never be allowed near them.
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Curleysuz 11 months ago (edited)
I know a family like that, but then I used to be a social worker. She weighed over 500lbs and had no way of taking care of a baby but kept having them and giving them to her 5 and 6yr olds to take care of. The siblings did a really good job because the mum told them it would be their fault if the baby was taken away.
#19
My daughter had a bunch of medical problems as a baby and was hospitalized at 4 days old and we were on the paediatrics floor, her chart read failure to thrive ( she was loosing weight despite having an ng tube and her blood pressure kept dropping g randomly). Every shift change a nurse would happily burst in the room and was shocked a parent was there. After the third day I asked and they explained that failure to thrive almost always meant the parents were not caring for the baby. So the assigned nurse knew they would have a great shift of cuddling a baby (because they know that cuddled babies thrive better). It made me sad to realize that people would leave their kids for days, even weeks because they didn’t want to be there. I can understand if they have to work, or only single and have other children. The nurse’s explained this was not often the case.
Lauren Wilder 1 year ago
In some cases it forces them to see realities. Maybe they have other children to care for. Maybe they are scared of their babies prognosis. Maybe they had a hand in the situation or not. The fact remains Not everyone deserves or wants to be parents.
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Kalikima 1 year ago (edited)
My son was in the NICU for 2 weeks after he was born premature, and even though I had a C-section and begged to stay in the hospital longer, they sent me home the day after he was born. I lived 2 hours away from the hospital, so I was only able to come up every other day. The drive up there was so taxing that I'd have to pull over halfway there and halfway back and nap. It didn't help that I didn't have any pain medicine while recovering. I still feel guilty that I couldn't go up every day, or stay up there, but I couldn't afford the gas or the hotel room.
Jen Hart 12 months ago
My son was in NICU too for a couple of weeks. This was a tertiary facility in the middle of Montana, and there were babies there who had been transferred in from North Dakota. We felt lucky that we were just 10 minutes away and could visit a couple of times a day. It was sad that some babies didn't have visitors, but understandable in some cases 🥺
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Cloud Ryn 3 weeks ago
My older brother was in a place like this for awhile he was born in the 1980s with part of h I s abdominal outside of his body. Multiple surgeries later he was finally stable my parents were there everyday. Even when he had a relapsed at 4 years old with his stomach/ abdominal area they we're still there mind u this was during the L.A. riots they both were still there my dad with a 45 and my mom barricaded the door. Aka some people don't deserve to be parents
Stephanie Did It 8 months ago
Many NICUs care for babies that were transported from other states or rural areas, and if the parents are poor or have transportation issues, they can't be present. Some parents may be caught up in the legal system. I live in a border state, and some of the babies in our NICU were from poorer border towns. And of course, there are some babies that are simply unwanted.
Pollymere 9 months ago
My FTT baby was discharged from hospital at five days after losing nearly 2Lbs in weight! The HV blamed me and insisted on giving formula which made me baby vomit. At six weeks we were readmitted with HV talking about SS and having the baby put into care. Luckily the hospital worked out what the issue was but it's truly horrible to be in that small percentage where you're not to blame!
Big Chungus 12 months ago
I can't imagine a parent not being there, but then again the mental toll on the parent may be too much for them to handle every single day. How difficult...
#20
Not an employee but a good friend of mine has adopted two babies from the foster system who are half siblings (no idea who the dads are but they have the same mom). The mom is in her 30’s and has had 9 babies now. Shes a sex worker and d**g addict but whenever she finds out she’s pregnant she does something to go to jail where she gets clean and gives birth. Last baby she had him alone in her cell and just left him on the floor while she went back to bed. Thankfully guards found him before he froze to death. He’s the most gorgeous 3 year old now. They know where 5 of the 9 siblings (all adopted) are and keep them in touch with one another.
My O My 1 year ago (edited)
Good on the mom to at least makes sure her babies have a chance by this "practic" (going to jail I mean)
GlitterPanda 1 year ago
except for the one she left on the floor who almost froze to death
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Atom Bohr 1 year ago
Why on earth was she given so little care that she gave birth alone in her cell? That's disgusting
Jen Hart 12 months ago
USA for-profit prison system; it would cost money to bring her / pay for her hospital care.
Load More Replies... Kellyann Conway 5 months ago
I think we need grasp that that on nine different occasions, an irresponsible male ejaculated into this woman while she was fertile. Do these men bear any responsibility? When are we going to make it illegal for men to impregnate and abandon drugged out, mentally ill women?
Hyacinth (Any pronouns) 3 weeks ago
Post says that she's a s*x worker, so I feel like it's more on her in this situation.
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Robert Butt 12 months ago
" Last baby she had him alone in her cell and just left him on the floor while she went back to bed. Thankfully guards found him before he froze to death." Sick prison system. I think I can guess in which country.
Tom De Paul 11 months ago
Yeah, of all the parties in this story, the prison system are the baddies.
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Not a medical professional, but my folks own a group home that specializes in caring for medically complex young children who require 24hr nurse care. Most of their kids have been wards of the state. Aside from the terribly sad d**g situations others have posted about (they commonly get kids who have issues due to d***s during pregnancy), one case that stands out to me is a woman who apparently drank bleach regularly throughout her pregnancy hoping her kid would turn out blonde. Ruined the baby’s brain and caused a lot of other serious medical issues.
Heir of Durin 1 year ago
How in the world did the mother survive drinking bleach the entire pregnancy???
Stephanie Did It 8 months ago
Reminds me of a coworker who hid her growing pregnancy by binding her abdomen even in the advanced stages. Her baby was born disabled, but hey, she kelp her figure. It changed my view of her forever when she told me this.
Kayly Anderson 12 months ago
What a f*****g idiot. You hurt your baby just because you wanted it have blonde hair and you thought it wouldn't hurt your baby
Nice Beast Ludo 9 months ago
This sounds like an urban myth. If you drank bleach, you would die and burn your mouth, stomach and esophagus. It would be similar to drinking acid. Maybe she severely diluted the bleach, but either way it definitely wouldn't dye her hair or the baby
#22
I was on a L&D unit as a student nurse. We had a young mother in who had just given birth to her second child. The mother refused to stop smoking Mari***na for her whole pregnancy as she didn't feel that there was enough evidence to say that it was harmful to the baby (her child was born early, underweight and with other illnesses that will follow them through life). She couldn't go more than 2 hours without going outside to smoke a joint, even if that meant leaving the baby alone in the room (refused to tell nursing staff when she was stepping out), or with her young cousin who did not know how to hold a baby, and almost let the baby aspirate on its own vomit. We had to increase her room checks to every 20 minutes out of fear for the infants safety. The cherry on top is that while all this was going on, her first child was down the hall on the peds unit for juvenile diabetes management. She had already chosen to let her first kid stay full time with his father as she didn't feel like she could care for him until she 'got her s**t together'. She didn't visit her son, not even once even though he was maybe 30 feet away.
There are far, far worse cases out there to be sure. I just can't help but wonder how both of those kids are now.
Caitlin Davenport 1 month ago
I don't believe marinara is bad during pregnancy, either! It's the bread sticks....
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ElfVibratorGlitter 11 months ago
For what it's worth, there haven't been very many studies done on marijuana and the effects on pregnancy. If it ever got rescheduled in the US, there could at least be some bigger studies done. I'm not saying it's not harmful, it probably is, but there really aren't any studies. (I'm trying to concieve at nearly 40 and I'm reading everything).
Ravioli 3 months ago
The won't be any studies, they can't study that, it's not ethical, what are they gonna do, give weed to pregnant women? That's why studies in pregnant women are so sparse, if you are studying if something is bad for the fetus testing it is unethical
Load More Replies... Kayly Anderson 12 months ago
Caring more about your stupid pot than your own baby and the harmed it caused. What a s**t mom
Shaun Coleman 11 months ago
The words the AI sensors are really idiotic. Will it sensor Cannabis?
Debby Keir 1 year ago
Juvenile diabetes IS type 1. Older onset diabetes (usually due to weight/lifestyle, but not always) is type 2.
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#23
I was a (male) registered nurse for 21 years, specializing in adolescent and children's psychiatric care. When I was in nursing school I was *very* fortunate to have gotten to observe and/or participate in six births. (My preceptor, a female L&D RN, was determined that male nursing students should get the same OB/GYN nursing rotation experience as the female students.)
One birth I attended was a 16-year-old mother who was infected with genital condyloma accuminata warts and herpes in the vagina and birth canal. The MD had decided to do a cesarian section because of the danger to the baby. The father was an 18-year-old member of the Bloods gang, who showed up in full gang regalia, all red, hat turned sideways, tons of gold jewelry, etc. My job was to get the father ready to go into the operating room to accompany the mother during the C-section. It was a struggle convincing him to disrobe out of all that gang stuff and put on scrubs. (It didn't help that the scrubs were blue, the color of his gang rivals, the Crips.) Eventually we got him there, and to his credit he didn't pass out and he held her hand and talked to her during the procedure. (She was awake, but sedated. The MD used a caudal block--spinal anesthesia.) The best moment for me was when the neo-natal nurse handed the gangbanger his son after the APGAR scores and all that. I thought to myself, "This guy's gangbangin' days are *over.* He's a Daddy now. He's got more important s**t to do."
I really, really hope the two of them got their s**t together, for the baby's sake.
tameson 10 months ago
I know a teenage couple who were heavily gang involved. The day they found out she was pregnant they cut off all involvement with the gang. I met them when the mother was in graduate school. They are still doing great.
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Veronica Jean 1 year ago
Unfortunately, gang culture is a cancer. Once it's in, it's almost impossible to get out.
Panda Panda Bo Banda 1 year ago
Most people join gangs to support their families so I doubt he quit.
Jessie 11 months ago (edited)
It’s not, if you work in the medical field (animal or human) it’s your job to know the difference. The vagina is part of the birth canal but the biggest part of the birth canal is not part of the vagina (if that makes sense? English isn’t my first language).
Load More Replies... Angela C 2 weeks ago
If he was 18 when the baby was born likely he was 17 when the baby was conceived which would make both parents minors at the time. Also it's a 2 year age gap. Grow up.
Load More Replies... brandyy17 1 year ago
pretty sure he didnt say it to the parents. hes writing on reddit he can use watever terms he wants on reddit. u cant judge him just bc he doesnt talk professionally on reddit.
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I don't work in L & D, but both my living kids spent some time in NICU. The saddest thing to me was how few visitors there were in the NICU each time we went. It's a 50-bed NICU and often we were the only ones there.
The first time I visited my youngest baby, when I was still inpatient, I didn't talk to anyone in the unit about it. I tried to walk out to the elevator in my hospital gown. I knew where the NICU was already. The lady at the desk yelled at me to come back and made me put my name down. I said "I'm just going to see my baby" and she said they had to keep track of moms coming and going bc they had had moms just leave and never come back, abandoning their babies. 😭.
ElfVibratorGlitter 11 months ago
Devil's advocate...if you were going to leave your child somewhere, hospital is a safe space. Very sad though.
Becca not Becky 1 year ago (edited)
I wonder if some of those babies being abandoned under the Safe Haven laws? In the USA, babies under a certain age (age varies by state) can be surrendered to safe places like hospitals, and as long as there are no signs of abuse, the parents won't be tracked down. Though if the babies were abused or outside the time window, it would be child abandonment.
brandyy17 1 year ago
my friend unfortunately went thru the same thing. she was driving to her parents house wen a drunk driver hit her. thankfully both her and the baby survived but they had to do an emergency c section to save the babies life. the baby ended up in the NICU due to alot of complications bc of the injuries my friend had gotten from the crash. she went to see her baby and got yelled at by a nurse. the nurse assumed she was leaving until she saw another nurse come out of the elevator with my friend. the nurse at the desk didnt even bother to actually fully look at my friend. she just saw a woman in a hospital gown and assumed. she got a scolding from the nurse helping my friend. my friend was ok to walk but needed help doing so. she told me about it wen i went to visit her and all i could think about was how many bad situations that nurse has been thru to just assume at a glance.
tee-lena 1 year ago
You can assume all you want but the minute a medical professional yells at a patient they are in the wrong. I've been yelled at by a lovely male er nurse at UCSD. I was not in the wrong and I still deal with trauma response because of it.
Load More Replies... Kayly Anderson 12 months ago
That is so tragic. I wonder what the hospital is going to do with all of those poor abandoned babies :(
Angela C 2 weeks ago
If they can't get ahold of any other family members the babies would go into foster care and hopefully get adopted by someone who actually does want to be a parent
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Joyce Brown 1 month ago
Yes, this is heartbreaking, but hopefully, now that you are older and have more life experience, you will recognize that not all parents are simply abandoning their babies. A child in the nicu can be a very surprising, certainly unexpected, situation, that may require a lot of support to get there. Some factors: transportation, other children who need to be cared for, family who find that 'this is too much' for them, husband/partner who finds that 'this is too much' for them, post partum depression, recovering from a c-section (but sent home before the baby), supportive in laws who suddenly become unsupportive once you have a sick baby... I wonder if you could have helped instead of judged. Just a thought
Ruth Watry 7 months ago
I have a low income friend who had preemie triplets (lost one) and the NICU unit was 300 miles from her home. She had two toddlers at home and could not afford a car. Her husband needed to continue working so that they did not end up homeless, and she needed to be there to watch the kids. There is no way that they could have visited the preemies and afforded a hotel room. This was back when you paid by the minute for long distance calls (boys just turned 30) so she only got updates when the hospital called her.
#25
I once had an 10th grade student who was pregnant with her third child. It was horrible. I felt so bad for her. All three babies were with the worst guy ever. He was so mean. (I had him in class, too.).
Combfish McComish 1 year ago
I'm guessing no one talked to her about birth control
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Ivy at Eve 7 months ago
My dad had once a widow sitting at his desk, 16 and four children. Since law overhere dictates that any children born to someone under 14, only 3 where in her care. Should have been 2 but she managed to get one back. I sometimes think about her and her kids. (Due to her age, she was too young to receive a widows pension)
#26
I worked in an abortion clinic in the 90's and I remember a young woman who couldn't stay sober long enough to have the abortion she wanted. Fetal alcohol syndrome is more serious than people know. Sad.
Ozymandias 1 year ago
Poor lady. I hope her and her baby (if she kept it or if she didn't) are living long, happy, sober lives!
Atom Bohr 1 year ago
I think the mention of FAS rules long, happy, and healthy...
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Huddo's sister 12 months ago
I was talking to a foster carer who has four foster children at the moment. The youngest has foetal alcohol syndrome and is the only one they haven't taken on as 'permanent' foster child (we can't adopt them here, permanent foster care is the legal long term, court appointed option) because even though they will care for her permanently, she has such complex medical and mental health needs that they couldn't afford to care for her if they didn't get the funding they get as foster carers (once you take them on as permanent the government stops paying the full allowance).
Lowrider 56 11 months ago
My baby sister had fetal alcohol syndrome. My mother denies she drank while pregnant. My other sister and I both remember her drinking. Plus, you could look at my sister's face and you could see the physical signs.
KnightOwl 9 months ago (edited)
My nephew was born with fetal alcohol syndrome which caused some major brain damage, he also has autism and ADHD. The saddest thing is he's technically an autistic savant with a skill called hyperlexia, meaning he can read and write without being taught how, he's also incredibly skilled with computers, maths and languages. Unfortunately the brain damage means he has no concept of danger, is incredibly impulsive and constantly tries to run away/escape. He lives with my parents and has set their house on fire 3 times, constantly tries to take electronics apart to find out how they work and figured out how to pick locks so he can escape. (My parents have locks and alarms on all their doors and he still manages to get out at least once a month.) His parents are both d**g addicts/alcoholics and his mum has 3 older kids all of whom have severe disabilities and were taken away from her at birth.
Lena Flising 12 months ago
Someone who can't stay sober ought to get an abortion very quickly!
Tom De Paul 11 months ago
Note it as the patient arrived sedated and the provider proceeded with the abortion.
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#27
When I was a student I overheard some midwives talking about some new parents. They fed the baby at 3pm and then said “we don’t need to feed it again until tomorrow, right?” The midwives were shocked and were like “oh my sweet summer child… you’re in for a shock, aren’t you?”.
Heir of Durin 1 year ago
I’m glad they asked the nurses while they could and didn’t starve the poor baby at home.
Lost Panda 1 year ago
This one is more lack of education versus they shouldn't be parents. They asked, were educated, and (hopefully) all was well.
Fat Harry (Oi / You) 1 year ago
We've got a new baby in the house. She wants feeding anything between every 3 and every 5 hours at the moment!
Ravioli 3 months ago
The first month is like every 1 hour, 1 hour and a half and they take 40 minutes to eat and then they need burping so maybe you get 15 minutes in between feeds
Load More Replies... Janet Sparrow 1 month ago
I adopted my son and I remember the first night I set an alarm to feed him. Haha the joke was on us. He woke up every two hours for two years driving us crazy and then one night. He just slept through the night and that was it. He’s 38 now so I think he did OK
#28
Not the worst of the worst, but I was caring for a new mom who was planning to breastfeed. I offered to help her get the baby (only an hour or 2 old at this point) latched to try to feed. Mom said, “no thanks I think I’ll start tomorrow so I can rest today.” I asked her if she wanted a bottle to feed to baby for now and she declined, saying she only wanted her baby to be breastfed by her. I had to explain to her that the baby couldn’t wait until tomorrow to be fed and she seemed genuinely surprised, like she could not wrap her head around the fact that the baby needed to be fed earlier than when she decides she’s ready? Again, not the worst by any means but left me a little nervous for the baby.
Another time, I had a couple come in to have their first baby together. They each had kids from previous relationships but did not have custody of any of them, something they made sure we all knew. They kept saying that they were “gonna do it right this time!” Dad was excited to have 2 days of paternity leave from his job at Arby’s and mom was unemployed. They reeked of cigarettes and mom had tested positive for d***s and baby went straight to NICU for detox, so social services was already involved before they even left the hospital. I genuinely worried for that baby.
Had a mom with several kids come in to deliver another one. She had a CPS case open but had been evading the courts. We had a case worker waiting on the unit for her on the day of her induction to take her current kids away and eventually take her newborn after delivery.
PinkNekoGirl 1 year ago
Maybe that First Lady thought they were like chickens. They don’t need to eat for at least 24-48 hours after hatching. As a side note, receiving a box in the mail that is making peeping noises is a great way to confuse the postal workers.
#29
I volunteer in a NICU. Recently a "dad" who refused to be on the birth certificate started arguing and being a d**k. The baby was sleeping and he woke it up. The nurse said he handled baby roughly. They ended up having to ban him from the NICU. Cps was involved already and hopefully they continue to be.
#30
I have had two different patients this year who showed while still in the hospital that they shouldn't have had their babies. Both of them threw fits that they were too tired to feed/take care of their babies and the nurses should. One asked what the nurses were there for if not to take care of the baby, because she didn't want to. The other one said she was too tired and didn't want to feed the baby. That one came to the ER at least once in the months after the baby arrived to say she was too tired to take care of the baby and they should watch him like they're a daycare center (and also recently needed a pregnancy test because she thought she might be pregnant again).
#31
In my L& D/Postpartum rotation as a student nurse (20+ years ago) I took care of a 13 year old girl who had given birth to a premature baby & the baby had some serious medical problems so was transferred to the children's hospital right next door. I worked nights so I was able to wheel the teenage mom over to see her baby. The teenage mom was in the custody of the state living in a group home & had gotten pregnant from a teenage boy in the group home. So the baby was a ward of the state & custody of the child was in question.
Her Mom (the baby's grandma) came to visit (I needed to stay in the room because it was a supervised visit), and it was both heartbreaking & terrifying to hear the Mom/Grandma go on about how the Judge would give the preemie to her because she was blood related.
Some of the teenage mom's friends came to visit her and they were all talking about how fun it would be to dress the baby up & play with it. They were acting like you would expect most 13 & 14 y/o's with minimal experience in the reality of caring for a baby (let alone a preemie).
While I couldn't say anything to the family,I had some thoughts & feelings about this.
*Ummm Grandma ALL of your children are in states custody because of medical neglect & your continued alcohol abuse. No judge is going to give you custody of a preemie with major medical problems that will persist for the child's whole life.
*Ummm Mom your child is not a toy doll. Your child will live in a NICU for MONTHS & when the baby does come home it will need around the clock care for the rest of his life. No judge is going to give custody of this child to a 14 year old who is living in a group home.
#32
How about the dad that kept calling his son a wimp. ( the baby was an 800 gram 26 weaker.
Regina Holt 1 year ago
I think Uncle meant "weeker" referring to age or gestational length
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I worked in mother baby for over 10 years. I saw many questionable parents. D**g users that were high, no prenatal care. Parents that would curse at their newborn and tell the baby to shut up. Women with mental health disorders that were at the time dangerous to their child. A mother fighting with her baby daddy that was throwing things (food tray and such) across the room at him… with the baby in the midst.
Another thing I hated to see were parents telling people not to hold their newborn bc it would spoil the baby.
Once had parents leave a newborn alone in the room to go outside and smoke/do d***s.
Had parents threaten to sue us bc we made their baby a birth certificate.
Had a young mom with 4 kids 3 and under. When it was time to go home she stuck all the children in a car backseat, only the newborn had a car seat.
Sometimes the police would be waiting outside at discharge if one of the parents had a warrant out for arrest.
Lots of sad situations.
Ansi 1 year ago
At university we did a group project in one of their homes. The guy (in our group) had an infant with his girlfriend. He didn't let her pick up the baby when it cried. He thought they should wait until it stopped so the baby learned. 🤦 But sure, the baby WILL learn. Learn that nobody is coming when they need someone. Also had a neighbour that never hugged his kids when they hurt themselves. They should just "walk it off", once the kids were at our place and the girl hit her head crawling under the table. When i said she could get a mom-hug from me because her own mon wasn't there (divorve) she hugged me so tight. It still breaks my heart, a 3 years old desperately clinging to a stranger because they need warmth and comfort.
Uncle Schmickle 1 year ago
Sounds like the parents were screwed from birth. Now they're reproducing !
#34
Woman came in and gave birth to her 9th child. All other children already in care. Awaiting the meeting with social services etc. she decides to leave the baby unattended so she can go and smoke a joint with her new boyfriend (not the father). Didn’t tell any staff that she was leaving, and they only realised he was alone when they went in to check why he was crying and if mum needed assistance. She was obviously not there so security was called, they found her outside getting high and she had the audacity to tell the staff that they were ‘making a fuss’ and should have just left the baby to cry.
Amara Moon 3 weeks ago
D***s are a symptom. Most likely it's the parents or a mental health issue
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Family medicine clinic here, we had a woman from out of town bring her 5 year old in. Kids healthy enough, but the both STINK to high heaven. Like the smell lingered in the exam room after they left, for *hours*. Mom's feet and clothes are filthy. Turns out mom also needed medical care, because she was pregnant and had been having some vaginal bleeding. Mom has had TWO miscaraiges in the last year, has had no prenatal care, already has 5 kids (only one or two with her) and is living in a old camping trailer with boyfriend and kids. Boyfriend made her come to the doctor because of the bleeding, she didn't think it was a big deal! She was supposed to come in for a follow up but they left town the next week. They were travelling in the trailer and "wanted to let the kids decide where they stayed". I hope she's okay but I'm doubtful.
#36
Age gaps age gaps age gaps. It's always some couple, that's related, uneducated, living in a cramped trailer or apartment with like 5 other people. Always overweight, on d***s, etc. and they're shocked when they have loads of complications.
Regina Holt 1 year ago
Uncle, I think intervention and education would be a more humane respectful way to go. You recommend eugenics, but that is along the same line as the rightwing christian conservatives going in the opposite direction and forcing women to have babies against their will by denying abortions.
RedMarbles 1 year ago
If we have to entertain the idea of eugenics (can't believe how openly this is now brought up but glad to see all the downvotes), maybe we can start with Uncle's line. /s because it's still an ugly principle
Load More Replies... Marie BellaDonna 3 weeks ago (edited)
My husband and I have a significant age gap. We've been together 25 years now. And we have a wonderful relationship. We take care of each other, communicate well, and make decisions together. He treats me like a queen, and he's a wonderful daddy to our 17 y/o son, and always has been. And our son is happy and healthy. Age gaps can mean trouble, and they often do. But NOT always. (ETA: Yes, I was a legal adult when we met. No, we are not related in any way, other than being married. We don't drink or do d***s. We're both healthy. We both work hard to take care of our family, him in our home, and me outside it. And it's only us 3 living in our home. And our home is not big, but it's not cramped either. Two bedrooms and two bathrooms, living room, kitchen, laundry room. Small yard, but our neighborhood is neat and quiet and centered around a big valley the kids all play in. And our neighbors are kind and friendly. We have all we need.)
#37
My worst one was a consultation with a women who had her daughters taken away because their dad (biological) was sexually abusing them. She had 7 or 8 kids, I can’t remember and was pregnant again. There were so many issues, housing wasn’t good enough because of mold, small house, both were doing d***s and drinking. No family support, neither worked. Her toddler son was dirty, nappy looked heavy, no shoes on and he had to walk. I never felt like shaking a patient before, at the time I was struggling to get pregnant and it just broke my heart knowing my foster child could have experienced some of this.
Uncle Schmickle 1 year ago
Recalcitrant d**g addicts / alcoholics / violent people / sex offenders all should be sterilised.
Malide 🇵🇸 🇺🇦 1 week ago
I disagree with you on some of your points, "violent people" is vague and substances are difficult, but s*x offenders? Definitely.
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Not a nurse, but a former HS classmate of mine who joined the military to “shoot Muslims” and has incredibly misogynistic views against women, had a baby girl at 19 with a woman he knew for a month of two before his kid’s conception. I have him friended on Discord and see that he spends 4+ hours a day f*****g around with video games instead of helping his newlywed wife and barely three month old daughter.
#39
A patient in labor was brought it to the hospital by her boyfriend because her water broke. The patient and the boyfriend both had a panic attack when we told them that they had to take an elevator up to the second floor because that's where our labor and delivery ward was. It turns out both of them are deathly afraid of heights/being off the ground floor. It took HOURS to convince the couple that they needed to come up to the second floor of the hospital so she could deliver her child.
RP 1 year ago
I'm not sure this should preclude them from being parents in they were otherwise stable. As long as the kid gets to go to daycare and school
Lauren Wilder 1 year ago
You call that "stable". This was very nearly a medical emergency. Both parents need help. I wager that there are other things that the couple has issues doing. The child will end up caring for his/her parents.
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My sister works in labor and delivery, so I'll give you an answer nobody wants to hear: people with down syndrome. They can't raise children and scream when their babies are taken away because they think they can. "They're taking my baby!" It's haunting and sad. It really makes you look at those "how cute, these two down syndrome people are going to prom together" pictures differently.
Elladine DesIsles 1 year ago
There is a wide range of impacts individuals with Down syndrome may experience/exhibit, and some are able to navigate life much more independently than others. Family circumstances and supports would also make a huge difference in terms of whether a baby would need to be fully separated from the parent(s) or would be able to remain in a circle of family care in some form. I've known a few individuals with Down syndrome who would never be able to manage parenting in any form, but that is certainly not universal. I also know a child who is being happily raised in a home with his grandparents and his father, who has significant develiopmental disability (not Down syndrome, but a similar level of cognitive ability and maturity to the more severe end of that range.) Generalizing by diagnosis instead of evaluating needs on a case-by-case basis isn't helpful.
Ann Kapoxeet 2 weeks ago
Who would want to let politicians or judges decide when someone could go off contraception? It sounds dystopian. Better sexuality education would be one place to start.
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tori Ohno 1 year ago
Anybody who wants to ban abortion and contraception, and also keep blaming women for the pregnancy (11 yo can't consent) needs to read these.
Kim Gatlin 12 months ago
It wouldn't make a difference. They are convinced their behavior will gain them favor with God and that's all that matters to them. I think some reading comprehension is in order before they pick up another Bible to wave around.
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whodunnitfan2013 1 year ago
And there's disgusting sickos that think these stories are good things, like literal children giving birth.
The_Nicest_Misanthrope 1 year ago
Worked with a woman once who was on baby number 6 and kept having them taken off her by CPS for negligence. She had learning difficulties and did genuinely want the kid, but didn't know how to even care for herself, never mind a baby. She said she'd keep getting pregnant til she could keep one. I asked her why sue didn't get birth control, and she told me she was Catholic. Worked with her for over a year and never saw her go to church once.
Content Wombat 1 year ago
This is one of the most depressing threads I've ever read on Bored Panda. All those poor children who don't stand a chance :( x
arthbach 1 year ago
I was only able to read a few of these. It made me realise how thankful I am to all of the professionals who look after these tiny babies who have not received the love and care they deserve. Thank you to the midwives, nurses, doctors, hospital staff, social workers, child protection officers and lawyers. Thank you for all you do to help secure a better future for these babies. I could not do your job, and I'm very glad you are able to do it. Little ones need this protection.
Nikole 1 year ago
Well I want to cry and have the ability to sterilize people now. Good thing all women in the U.S. have access to prenatal care and the ability to get birth control and/or an abortion… Oh, wait.
Definitely not a catnapper 1 year ago
I will share this thread to any and every ratbastard that complains about abortion being murder and birth control isn't necessary.
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tori Ohno 1 year ago
Anybody who wants to ban abortion and contraception, and also keep blaming women for the pregnancy (11 yo can't consent) needs to read these.
Kim Gatlin 12 months ago
It wouldn't make a difference. They are convinced their behavior will gain them favor with God and that's all that matters to them. I think some reading comprehension is in order before they pick up another Bible to wave around.
Load More Replies... whodunnitfan2013 1 year ago
And there's disgusting sickos that think these stories are good things, like literal children giving birth.
The_Nicest_Misanthrope 1 year ago
Worked with a woman once who was on baby number 6 and kept having them taken off her by CPS for negligence. She had learning difficulties and did genuinely want the kid, but didn't know how to even care for herself, never mind a baby. She said she'd keep getting pregnant til she could keep one. I asked her why sue didn't get birth control, and she told me she was Catholic. Worked with her for over a year and never saw her go to church once.
Content Wombat 1 year ago
This is one of the most depressing threads I've ever read on Bored Panda. All those poor children who don't stand a chance :( x
arthbach 1 year ago
I was only able to read a few of these. It made me realise how thankful I am to all of the professionals who look after these tiny babies who have not received the love and care they deserve. Thank you to the midwives, nurses, doctors, hospital staff, social workers, child protection officers and lawyers. Thank you for all you do to help secure a better future for these babies. I could not do your job, and I'm very glad you are able to do it. Little ones need this protection.
Nikole 1 year ago
Well I want to cry and have the ability to sterilize people now. Good thing all women in the U.S. have access to prenatal care and the ability to get birth control and/or an abortion… Oh, wait.
Definitely not a catnapper 1 year ago
I will share this thread to any and every ratbastard that complains about abortion being murder and birth control isn't necessary.
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