The Face Of Depression And Anxiety
My day started off relatively well. I’m doing Optifast this week (planning to continue and will post about this some other time) and I start to the food plan. There was a session on called “Managing Your Emotions” which seemed like a really appropriate session for me. We all got seated, I borrowed a pen because I didn’t think to take one, and then I got called to my appointment with my psychiatrist. So bang went that crystal set. However the session with my psychiatrist went relatively well and I left feeling pretty good about taking on the day.
At 3pm there was a relaxation session that I wanted to go to for the second time. It is located in this weird little section where you enter on the ground floor, yet somehow you have to go down the lift to get to the other ground floor. I had arrived early because I wanted to make sure I was there on time. Seeing the little kitchen nearby prompted me to go make myself a cup of tea (Madura tea bag, a splash of zymil milk and an Equal to sweeten it). “Wouldn’t it be a nice idea to go and have this cup of tea in the sun?” I asked myself. Back to the lift I went and pressed the button to go to the other ground level. However I ended up in the Basement. Fuck knows how that happened. But I could see trees and figured it was as good an exit point as any. Down the drive there was a shady path surrounded in fresh air. Just what I needed! When I had a few minutes before the relaxation class was due to start, I made my way back to the lift. I pressed the button. Nothing happened. I pressed it again. Still nothing. Then I noticed a swipe card thingo there. I could only get in if I had access. So I had to try to find my way back by walking the long way around. Unfortunately I didn’t have a lot of success.
Before long I found my brain going down the rabbit hole. It started with “Urgh you’re an idiot. You can’t even make it to class properly”. Followed with “There goes my three sessions a day target. Looks like I’ve failed again”. Then we spiraled in to thinking about all of the times I haven’t succeeded or completed something, That I’m useless. That I’m a bad example to my children. That they’d be better off without me. That I should just walk down the hill to Creek Rd (a busy street in Brisbane) and walk in to the middle of the traffic. I transformed into a crying, heaving, puffy eyed mess. Nobody ever said that depression isn’t pretty, but not many people show exactly how that looks. I want to change that.
My eyes hurt. They feel scratchy, puffy, tight and dry. Crying has a really horrid affect on my eyes. They become these little slits that make it hard to see much in my peripheral. Which isn’t really a bad thing since I’m feeling pretty self-centered at the time. Being a glasses wearer increases the level of discomfort. I can’t wear my glasses when I’m crying, but I also can’t see for shit and therefore my self-loathing only increases. “I’m so useless. I can’t even wipe my tears or stop myself from bumping in to things, or find where I’ve flung my glasses when I needed to find a tissue.”
Snot is a part of life. It is there to make us look awkward when someone points out that we have bats in the cave. It runs out of our nose like a tap when we have hay fever and the season changes. It goes green when we have some kind of funky infection. It also clogs up my face as soon as I cry for more than 2 minutes. Before long I’m in a position where I can’t breathe through my nose. Unfortunately this makes it really difficult when the nurse comes to try to assist me by telling me to “take a biiiiiiiiig deep breath in through your nose and then sloooooooowly exhale”. Ummmmmm I can’t even breathe in through my nose AT ALL. So how the feck am I going to do that???
One of the stupidest things that I did in my self hatred moment was clean my lipstick off. Very vigorously. With a dry face washer. All the while I was telling myself how ugly I was and that I shouldn’t even bother putting lipstick on in the first place because I’m such an ugly fat beast that makeup only serves to make me look ridiculous. So I hate-cleaned my beautiful Lime Crime lipstick off. Eventually I wet the cloth because I found the dryness wasn’t appropriate for actually removing shit. But now here I am, with the shiniest feeling lips in the universe. Shiny, but not in a good way. I need to get some moisture in those buggers any minute now. BRB.
Yeah, now that I think about it I should have done something for my skin while I was off looking after the moisture on my lips. In order to clear up my nose I wet another cloth and then put some drops of Wide Awake essential oil from Plumeria which I huffed and puffed until I could blow air out of my nose. Now my face feels drier than a you know what. So I think it’s time for a shower and a moisturise.
This is the physical side of depression. Well, part of it. Sometimes it is easier. Sometimes it can be much much worse. But this is a pretty good insight.
My day started off relatively well. I’m doing Optifast this week (planning to continue and will post about this some other time) and I start to the food plan. There was a session on called “Managing Your Emotions” which seemed like a really appropriate session for me. We all got seated, I borrowed a pen because I didn’t think to take one, and then I got called to my appointment with my psychiatrist. So bang went that crystal set. However the session with my psychiatrist went relatively well and I left feeling pretty good about taking on the day.
At 3pm there was a relaxation session that I wanted to go to for the second time. It is located in this weird little section where you enter on the ground floor, yet somehow you have to go down the lift to get to the other ground floor. I had arrived early because I wanted to make sure I was there on time. Seeing the little kitchen nearby prompted me to go make myself a cup of tea (Madura tea bag, a splash of zymil milk and an Equal to sweeten it). “Wouldn’t it be a nice idea to go and have this cup of tea in the sun?” I asked myself. Back to the lift I went and pressed the button to go to the other ground level. However I ended up in the Basement. Fuck knows how that happened. But I could see trees and figured it was as good an exit point as any. Down the drive there was a shady path surrounded in fresh air. Just what I needed! When I had a few minutes before the relaxation class was due to start, I made my way back to the lift. I pressed the button. Nothing happened. I pressed it again. Still nothing. Then I noticed a swipe card thingo there. I could only get in if I had access. So I had to try to find my way back by walking the long way around. Unfortunately I didn’t have a lot of success.
Before long I found my brain going down the rabbit hole. It started with “Urgh you’re an idiot. You can’t even make it to class properly”. Followed with “There goes my three sessions a day target. Looks like I’ve failed again”. Then we spiraled in to thinking about all of the times I haven’t succeeded or completed something, That I’m useless. That I’m a bad example to my children. That they’d be better off without me. That I should just walk down the hill to Creek Rd (a busy street in Brisbane) and walk in to the middle of the traffic. I transformed into a crying, heaving, puffy eyed mess. Nobody ever said that depression isn’t pretty, but not many people show exactly how that looks. I want to change that.
My eyes hurt. They feel scratchy, puffy, tight and dry. Crying has a really horrid affect on my eyes. They become these little slits that make it hard to see much in my peripheral. Which isn’t really a bad thing since I’m feeling pretty self-centered at the time. Being a glasses wearer increases the level of discomfort. I can’t wear my glasses when I’m crying, but I also can’t see for shit and therefore my self-loathing only increases. “I’m so useless. I can’t even wipe my tears or stop myself from bumping in to things, or find where I’ve flung my glasses when I needed to find a tissue.”
Snot is a part of life. It is there to make us look awkward when someone points out that we have bats in the cave. It runs out of our nose like a tap when we have hay fever and the season changes. It goes green when we have some kind of funky infection. It also clogs up my face as soon as I cry for more than 2 minutes. Before long I’m in a position where I can’t breathe through my nose. Unfortunately this makes it really difficult when the nurse comes to try to assist me by telling me to “take a biiiiiiiiig deep breath in through your nose and then sloooooooowly exhale”. Ummmmmm I can’t even breathe in through my nose AT ALL. So how the feck am I going to do that???
One of the stupidest things that I did in my self hatred moment was clean my lipstick off. Very vigorously. With a dry face washer. All the while I was telling myself how ugly I was and that I shouldn’t even bother putting lipstick on in the first place because I’m such an ugly fat beast that makeup only serves to make me look ridiculous. So I hate-cleaned my beautiful Lime Crime lipstick off. Eventually I wet the cloth because I found the dryness wasn’t appropriate for actually removing shit. But now here I am, with the shiniest feeling lips in the universe. Shiny, but not in a good way. I need to get some moisture in those buggers any minute now. BRB.
Yeah, now that I think about it I should have done something for my skin while I was off looking after the moisture on my lips. In order to clear up my nose I wet another cloth and then put some drops of Wide Awake essential oil from Plumeria which I huffed and puffed until I could blow air out of my nose. Now my face feels drier than a you know what. So I think it’s time for a shower and a moisturise.
This is the physical side of depression. Well, part of it. Sometimes it is easier. Sometimes it can be much much worse. But this is a pretty good insight.
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