Somebody Just Asked People To Post Examples Of Double Standards, And 45 Responses Were Spot-On
You have to respect the company you work for. You can never be late, never question anything and do an exceptional job every day. You must give multiple weeks notice before taking any holidays or quitting. But if the company decides that they’ve had enough of you, well, you could be unemployed at a moment’s notice!
It’s 2024, and it would be great to believe that society is finally fair and equal. But that would be far from the truth. There are still plenty of frustrating double standards affecting us all, so Redditors have recently been calling out the ones they’re tired of. Below, you’ll find a list of double standards that people no longer want to accept, so enjoy reading through and be sure to upvote the inequalities you can’t stand either!
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I saw a post on a Facebook group I'm in recently. It was a selfie of a mother with her little boy in the backseat eating a pudding cup with no spoon and she had captioned it "making sure he's making his future girlfriends happy" or something along those lines.
I was disgusted by it, my boyfriend laughed. He tried to tell me I was being stuck up and a prude about it. I asked him if I was a father posting a picture of his daughter eating a popsicle and captioned it similar about making future boyfriends happy would you feel the same way? He looked like I slapped him in his face but he instantly got what I was saying.
Sexualizing children in any capacity is gross af and it even happens to little boys. People just need to do better and let kids simply be kids without putting sexual undertones to it. So f*****g weird.
We already knew the mum would be bad when she let her kid eat PUDDING. IN THE CAR. WITH NO SPOON
That’s absolutely horrifying. Don’t sexualize children people!!
I really had to work hard to imagine what the problem was with no photo to guide me but if it's what I'm thinking, yes it's a ridiculous thing to think of, then post on her account. I hope she got shat on by thousands of people, men & women. 😠
Being a morning person and getting up early to get a bunch of stuff done, then going to bed early, is considered virtuous and mature. Being a night person and staying up late to get stuff done, then sleeping late the next day, is considered disorganized and lazy. Even if you did the same amount of work and slept the same number of hours.
I have colleagues who work 6am to 3pm, and people constantly chirp about how efficient they are. But when someone at my office asked if they could work 11 am to 8 pm because that fit better with their body’s energy cycle, they were mocked for wanting to oversleep like a teenager, and the request was denied.
This should be higher, like for me I'm far better at any work I have to do after eleven, it's not a bad thing or a good thing, imo it's just a thing lol and people shouldn't shame for it.
I'm sure you probably just wanna say amen, or something like that, but putting it this way is at least mildly annoying. "ThIs ShOuLd Be HiGhEr!" is essentially saying "I should get more than one vote" or "everyone should agree with me"
Load More Replies...I agree, I’ve always been made to feel guilty for being an evening person. I was genuinely shocked when I found out that a lot of the morning people in my family actually go to bed at 9pm. So when they get up at 5am, they’ve actually spent 8 hours in bed, which is more than I usually get. And on top of that, the ones who shamed me the most (mother and grandmother) also usually took additional naps in the afternoons like toddlers.
Agree. My mom did this. Always got up early, but only made it through the day by taking an afternoon nap. And yes, she criticized those of us who were night owls.
Load More Replies...What time of the day or evening you are most energetic depends on your chronotype and it is largely determined genetically, so apart from fine-tuning, not much can be changed. Evening people have to adapt to the world of morning people and it is a complete lie that an evening person could become a morning person. It causes the same problems as, for example, switching to summer time/winter time. I'm an evening person and I can get out of bed in the morning, as long as nobody expects anything sensible from me before noon.
This! I'm a complete night-owl and do a lot better when I'm doing things later, and I feel like I do more. But when I sleep in I'm constantly lectured and called lazy. If you work better earlier or later than others, it shouldn't matter as long as you're doing your best work, right?
As a morning person, I prefer it when people are off cycle from me and start work later, because it gives me a solid block of time at which I'm most productive to get sh*t done.
I work a 10pm-7am shift and I get stared at funny for buying alcohol at 8am.
Same. If you're going to judge me for buying soon after you open... why are you open so early?
Load More Replies...peoples' natural circadian rhythms are different, and I don't understand why we have failed to adjust societal standards to it. differences in bodily rhythms are classified as disorders despite being a significant percentage of people and having no ill effect other than "you're not productive at a convenient time for us."
I'm a night person. I have a friend who'd call in the a.m. and 'try' to chastise me about being in bed. So now I leave the ringer off.
If you manage your disability well, despite the difficulties it presents, you’re then not considered “disabled enough” to qualify for any of the social care support you most likely need to continue to manage your disability and live well.
THIS! Who is living well on disability/ssdi? Currently fighting for long-term disability and they don't see what I'm like outside that 15 minutes to 45 minutes. They don't see me struggling like an upside down turtle to get out of bed, bent over like a Disney cartoon witch to go to the bathroom, get something to eat, or walk around to any room... you stand up for more than a few minutes or sit down for more than 15 or not be able to go to normal places that fully abled people are able to go. They don't see the intense pain that for me is just a 10 (because I've been dealing with it for so long) but for somebody who doesn't have chronic pain would be a 20 and a trip to the emergency room. Anyone who thinks people just want to be on disability because they're lazy is beyond me.. no words. I was making more than $3,000 a month and now if I get disability I'll be making maybe $1,000 a month. Disability isn't living it's only existing
My fight for disability took so long and I got denied so many times, I no longer qualify for it. I'm just a burden on my family.
Load More Replies...My brother was told he couldn’t be depressed because he turned up to the assessment. And in clean clothes, too! People making these assessments are usually not medically trained to do so, it’s a shîtshow.
Yeah I believe that, in suicide lock up (I’m cured now) I had two doctors mock me about not having depression and doing it for attention because I still showered and put make up on each morning. Pathetic drs those two
Load More Replies...Outrageous. Not just this, but the way society treats disabilities in general.
My application was denied, because on a good day I can walk unaided for about 10 minutes. Never mind in a week 6 days will likely be bad days where I can’t walk at all, I am apparently more abled than most not-abled, so didn’t qualify. It’s really weird being unwell and in pain and for someone not going through it saying it’s not that bad or enough to warrant needing help? Like my feelings aren’t valid?
Been there. I was on supervised release due to a manic episode that put me in jail. 3 years of probation, but the entire time I could not afford a doctor to get meds. I had a friend of the family who would supply samples that I lived off of, so I was not balanced. I was a ticking time bomb. You would think they would require someone help me, but living in Florida at the time I was in the coverage gap. I made too much for Medicaid and too little for Obamacare.
Seems to me that disability applications are automatically declined for years. By the time they are approved, the applicant has gone through their resources and probably their family's as well. They may be homeless, bad credit, and have other issues that keep them from being able to recover. It seems that if the benefits were granted at the beginning, not only would they be better off but society would benefit as well.
In many places in the Netherlands you can qualify for a municipal tax exemption if your income is low enough AND YOU DON'T HAVE TOO MUCH IN SAVINGS, punishing prudent spending.
When Miley Cyrus gets naked and licks a hammer she is "artistic" or "edgy."
When i do it, I'm "drunk" and "no longer allowed at Home Depot."
I know this is a joke, but I remember when Miley did that, and *nine* of the commenters thought it was artistic or edgy. She was subjected to a barrage of negativity and abuse.
LOL!! She was called artistic for about 5 minutes, then she was mocked and shamed for being ridiculous. Not that she personally gave a rat's a*s. 🤷🏼♂️
Kids today think talent is all about tits and a*s. No one writes lyrics or melodies, no one plays an instrument. It's a soft porn show. That's what sells today. Sad
I solely raised my daughter as a single father from the time she was a year old until she was almost six when I married my wife. The number of people who have asked about my daughter's mother just to reply with "Oh, she must have had PPD." or "There must be a mental illness involved." or "Maybe she will come around in a few years." is absolutely staggering. Like no man, she just decided she wanted to go party instead of being a mom to our child. No child support. No financial or emotional contribution. Nothing. Hell, I couldn't even get a copy of my daughter's health insurance card when her old one expired because "I wasn't on the paperwork" despite the fact that I was the one who filled out the paperwork for it at the hospital the day after she was born.
It's infuriating knowing full well that had the roles been reversed, and I'd have been the one to leave, I'd 100% instantly be considered a deadbeat father.
As a daughter of an awful mom and a great dad, lemme just say thank you for putting up with a lifetime of c**p to ensure that your kid is ok. I’m now 40 and very close with my dad. I stopped speaking to my mom over a decade ago. You really can get what you need from just one parent.
Load More Replies...Well eff the haters, u did what every good parent is supposed to do . . . They should have recognized how difficult it is for a single father just like it is for a single mother. Ur kid was very lucky to have u for a dad.
Welcome to my life! As a slightly north of middle aged queer couple with a 10yo son we adopted at birth, the bureaucratic hell we go through for the most basic things is practically a full-time job. However, it’s absolutely nothing compared to how suspicious we’re treated in public, from cashiers, Karens, other parents & even police. We’re constantly having to prove ourselves & justify being parents. We both carry copies of all his birth/adoption documents & his/our passports, because even cops haven’t normalized gay dads. Then there’s the assumption birth mother somehow failed. Even from the most well-meaning supporters. When I mention she was my closest female friend who died shortly after childbirth & had spent her final months focused on carrying a healthy baby & planning for his entire future without her, even at the expense of treatments to keep her here just a little longer & out of pain, they typically walk away with their entire foot in their mouths.
Every so often I have to call the school, doctor and daycare and have myself replaced as primary contact because they keep defaulting to calling her mom about updates. Her mom lives a state away and has never done any of it. I've learned that if I place her as an emergency contact instead of secondary contact then I actually get updates.
And don't even get me started on sick days or snow days or non-sports events. My coworkers, even the dads, just don't understand why I have to stay home when my kid is sick. Especially when her mom was around, cuz that's woman's work, right? Nope, not if she refuses to do it and you're not worthless as a dad.
Load More Replies...Not even in extreme cases were the mum's leave. I no so many could were the man is a mucho better parent.
It's pure s**t. I'm a single dad of THREE! Do I get any consideration? Not fargin likely. I feel ya, OP! 😤
I actually know way more deadbeat moms than dads. Good luck to you, sir.
Poor people get audited if they fail to report a few hundred dollars of taxes, while multi-billion dollar companies technically operate outside of the country and pay nothing.
Big companies have lobbies that bribe,sorry give donations to politicians so they make the laws that allows them to pay less tax or sneak the money into shell companies.
Several years ago, Missouri did in in-depth audit of SNAP & welfare as a political move. They found less that 0.15% of the state money (over all, not per individual) was not used as intended. Of that percentage, the vast majority was unintentional (buying or trying to buy things not covered for example), with the next highest percentage being paperwork errors where things were reported incorrectly, and after that a tiny amount being actual fraud. They spent more money on the audit than they found in that fraud amount.
Pandas are notoriously ignorant of the corporate world. Speaking from experience working a moderately large organization, big companies get audited every single year. It may not fit the disillusioned millenial narrative but it is true.
This is largely incorrect. The audits on poor people are rare. The IRS doesn't want to spend resources on low value audits, but they do randomly audit people and that will hit low income as well as high, because the random audits are based on having several high risk claims in your taxes, regardless of their value. For instance claiming a disabled child and a deduction for school housing are usually incompatible, but in some rare cases, can happen. This can trigger an audit on anyone, because 99% of the time it's wrong. Poor people often trip themselves up by claiming too many exemptions that are not intended to be stacked together.
Exactly. If the cost of pursuing the error is more than the error itself then the IRS won't bother. Poor people don't have money or assets for them to seize.
Load More Replies...Western tax laws make me sick. It's all so corrupt, everyone knows yet we are called 'free' yet no one can do anything about it. Rich and corrupt is the same thing and I'm howling at the moon about it.😡
This is close, but not technically true unless by "poor" you mean the middle class. The IRS manages most tax returns through a computer system that works decently enough for the vast majority of returns submitted. This computer system cannot efficiently process the crazy tax filings submitted by the truly wealthy, so their tax returns are much more frequently audited and processed by hand. Unfortunately, the IRS does not have adequate staffing to actually investigate many of these filings, so even though you're far more likely to be audited above a certain earning threshold, you're also far more likely to get away with tax fraud. That's of course completely ignoring the fact that the tax system is heavily weighted in favor of the wealthy to begin with. Yes, high income earners supply the majority of tax revenues in the US, but as a percentage of their worth (and impact to their wellbeing), the differences are stark. This is especially true in states that prioritize sales taxes.
Corporations don't pay taxes. They collect taxes in the form of higher prices which they then pass along to the gubment. Their customers pay all taxes
IRS funding has been cut so much that they do not have the money to fight with big corporations over taxes not paid. A business or wealthy person can afford to drag out a lengthy court case if needed. The IRS can't. It's much easier and less costly to go after people that are essentially poor. Keep in mind Pandas every time some one says "I will cut taxes" one of the first places to be chopped is the least popular, or the IRS.
We live in an extroverts world.
In many Western cultures, being outgoing, sociable, and outspoken is often celebrated and encouraged. It's seen as the norm to want to chat, network, and be the life of the party. But when it comes to introverts who may crave quiet, solitude, or just less social interaction, the script flips.
It’s socially acceptable to nudge the quiet person in the room and say, "Why don't you talk more?" But imagine telling a chatty person, "Can you be quiet for a bit?" It would be considered rude or offensive.
This double standard underscores a deeper societal bias towards extroversion. The noise and buzz of constant interaction are often valued more than the quiet, reflective spaces introverts thrive in. It's like we're saying one way of interacting with the world is better than the other, when in reality, both have their strengths and should be equally respected. In a world that can't stop talking, sometimes we forget the power of silence and introspection. - An extroverted introvert.
Imagine a sports event with 30K introverts attending. Dead quiet unless something happens worth commenting on
Being an introvert isn't simply 'being quiet.' I'm at introvert but more than capable and willing to make some noise when I need/want to. Being an introvert means I get my energy from being alone, an extrovert gets their energy from being around others. Don't confuse introvert with timid.
Load More Replies...I had several conversations with extroverted friends during covid about how the discomfort they felt during lockdown about not having enough social interaction is the discomfort introverts feel all the time about having too much.
I loved the lock down. I like being home, not having to go into stores, I loathe shopping. It was great. I didn't mind wearing a mask, it was a lovely barrier that made it easier to be quiet.
Load More Replies...This! Together with the obsession over how cool morning persons are, this should stop. Celebrate the introverts! Celebrate how some people don’t feel the constant need to fill the room with talk and noise!
I totally agree. I haven't looked this up yet, but I'd be willing to bet that most introverts are also night owls.
Load More Replies...Thats because if you ask someone to talk, the message is that you want to hear what they have to say, if you tell them to stop talking it says that you don't want to hear what they have to say, and I would be insulted. So I see it as 2 different things. I'm not super quiet and I'm an introvert. People just wear me out sooner than extroverts.
I love being an ambivert and having designed a life that lets me have both solitude and social engagement when I want it!
People often comment on my tendency to not talk a lot in most situations. There are situations where I speak freely and interact fully, but normally I am a reserved type. When asked why am I so quiet, I just say "better to be thought of as fool than open my mouth and prove it".
I've had people ask me what is up in social situations b/c of my face (I look bored or even angry when really I'm just standing there with RBF). I finally have started saying, "Look, I have social anxiety and my social meter just hit empty, so if I look annoyed, I'm not really, just tired."
According to IMBT, I am a 100% introvert. I don't like loud parties and going out much, however, while at work I do my best to communicate with people in the most efficient way possible. Now I have several clearly introverted colleagues and it is a chore to get even the most essential information from them. I do agree that it is easier for extroverts, but being an introvert is not a valid excuse to not put an effort into your communication skills.
I would think of them as being shy, not just introvert. They may need a little bit of friendly banter before they are comfortable. If they are approached like it's an interrogation it will cause them to feel so uncomfortable they won't want to speak. This is just what I was like years ago. Now I'm not shy I can be quite outgoing if need be but it took me several years. I wanted to change, I hated being shy. You can't force someone to change. Although I had great friends that helped me without my noticing until much later.
Load More Replies...m a Quaker. Our meeting for worship is an hour of silence - unless someone has something important and in line with worship to say - usually a minute or two.
People are encouraged to reach out and ask for help when they are struggling with mental health - but still stigmatised if they have mental illness.
And, if you're American like me, your insurance won't pay to get you the help you need.
I’m American and mine does. It’s just based on your employer and what plan (HMO vs PPO) you want/are able to pay for. A lot of employers also offer resources separate from insurance.
Load More Replies..."Hey I have mental health issues so I'm gonna get help" "That's awesome, you're so brave!" "I got the help and it turns out I'm autistic" "Uhmm are you sure??? You don't seem autistic... You just want attention huh. Just suck it up everybody feels bad sometimes"
"You mean your lifelong cognitive and emotional differences weren't cured by three sessions of talk therapy?"
Load More Replies...Oftentimes that "encouragement" sounds a lot like "you got issues" or "I don't wanna hear about it."
Currently what I'm going through as well. My friends/family always tell me to reach out if I'm not doing well, but the second they do it's "well that sucks, listen to how bad my day was and then you'll feel better" or "wow...yeah I don't know what to say." And that's it.
Load More Replies...So true. Even if the person with the mental illness is a mental health professional.
And don't forget all the HR departments who manage to let it "slip" if you need help. Or the bosses who claim to support you but penalise you if you need time off. I had a coworker who tried to unalive themselves and were placed in a 16 week recovery program. When she called her boss to let them know they asked her if she could put off the treatment until she found a replacement and finished some projects. She doesn't work there anymore.
If a dad gets pizza or fast food for his kids instead of cooking a meal, he's considered the "fun dad"
If a mom gets pizza or fast food for her kids instead of cooking a meal, she's considered a "lazy mom"
My Mom was a hella good cook and loved to do it. I learned much from her. But if she bought us pizza or burgers... she was still cool as all hell! She needed a break too!
Yes, for the kids it's cool anyway. But people outside of the family tend to think this.
Load More Replies...Ive read this comment dozens of it's just untrue you might feel like a lazy mom of u buy pizza no one else could care less. I was always stoked when my mom bought pizza.
It's not about how the kids feel. It is not even about the pizza. It is about the general, adult perception.
Load More Replies...This applies only to parents though. If I bring my lunch four days a week to work it fine, and on the last day I get Maccas, it's also fine. It's only because everyone is a judgmental on parenting when they ought to worry about their own lives. Food is food, who cares?
What would we call a mom who buys her kid a pizza after working a shift in a restaurant kitchen?
canceling appointments.
if I cancel an appointment, I get charged $50 (like a doctor or therapist).
if i’m walking out the door and they call and cancel, no consequences.
I was once at the hospital with a very sick relative and had to run across the street to go to a doctor's appointment and was not even five mins late and they said because I was late they wouldn't see me and I ended up bursting into tears and yet usually when I go I'm sitting there for at least 30 mins waiting.
Ages ago I used to work for a tutoring agency, who had a great cancellation policy: Cancel with less than 48 hours and you have to pay in full. But also, if your tutor cancelled with less than 48 hours you’d get your next session for free. I have since introduced this policy to a lot of work places I have been at.
I had a physio appointment once where they warned me that if I arrived late, they would cancel the appointment. I arrived bang on time despite having left earlier because of delays on public transport. They told me if I'd been any later they would have cancelled. I then had to wait 45 minutes for the physiotherapist who was running late on appointments. It wouldn't have mattered if I'd rocked up half an hour late because they still wouldn't have gotten to my appointment by then.
Yep... in fact I'm drafting a piece of legislation in my country which I want to push to our parliament that says that people who waste your time must pay. Even if you're the customer. Sick of arriving at a doctors' appointment and being told I'm like number 10 in the queue even though I am precisely on time.
Yes! Or doctors can schedule appointments for every five minutes, and then get 45 minutes plus behind making me wait in the waiting room for 45 minutes. I get it sometimes patients take longer than planned and emergencies happened, but if a doctor purposely schedules their appointments too close that should not be allowed. Also then they ask me to arrive 15 minutes early even though I've been there 10 times before.
I was going to see the Nephrologist for the first time. A half hour early but I couldn't find the office because the printed sign was hidden behind a bush, off street behind a window. Then the nurse told me I was LATE. WTF!!! And then the Doctor was delayed because of another patient. I'm not sure how high my BP was that day but...
I don't think this one's fair. You're booking their time. If you cancel they lose money because they can't fill that spot. If they cancel on you, it's just inconvenient.
Attractive and popular people can get away with some foul s**t compared to the average person
There are downsides of being attractive too though, like getting unwanted attention, people automatically not liking you, people assuming you're a snob and up yourself or assuming you only got to where you were because of your looks.
As a non rich person that was pretty, guess what you were rich not pretty.
Load More Replies...This is evident (and you can even see the guilty people thinking it on these court shows that I watch) when the judge confronts the person about doing something wrong. You can just see the thought bubble above their head and of course, it's said in a vocal fry. "I'm pretty, I get away with it."
Nah, that's not rock'n'roll heyday anymore, today's celebs are getting cancelled for a high school love affair gone wrong 50 years ago...
In regards to attractive people, sometimes their inner ugly starts to seep out, and no one loves them, no matter how good looking they are, and it feels kinda good to see them finally fall, ngl lol
wait what? how did we get here from attractive people get away with more than average people?
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Pretending to take a cigarette break is more accepted than taking an actual break. And not just at work.
Like, it's weird if I take five minutes to go outside, decompress, and breathe in some fresh air.
But if I inhale toxic fumes from a burning plant while I do that, it's fine.
I worked at a company that allowed cigarette breaks and I'm not a smoker, so l started going out as well. When asked why, I pointed out the double standard. I was allowed to take breaks as well from them on.
Many years ago when I first started working you could smoke at your desk and it was the non smokers that would disappear for breaks and the smokers would just work through, now that's been totally flipped
Load More Replies...I'm a smoker. I have one during my morning break, two at lunch, and one during my afternoon break. The non-smokers in our office who complain, but then don't take their breaks at all, can pound sand. Just because you don't smoke doesn't mean you don't get a break. Stop taking out your stupid frustrations on me!
Yeah, I ‘took up’ smoking back in my early kitchen and waitress days just to sit down for two minutes, we used to do 10-12 hour shifts no break unless you smoke, so I was like fùck it, came into work with a pack of smokes 😂 let it burn without inhaling at the staff smoko table.
I started smoking for this reason I worked at a7-11 and just wanted to go outside for a break. 12 years later I quit
Me too, but I worked for a pizza place. The only way to get a break was to go outside to smoke a cig. I only smoked for about a year luckily.
Load More Replies...I have never had a job where it was okay to take a smoke break, if you were outside you could sneak a few hits off one in, but never ever ever have I been able to go up to a boss and go hey can I get five minutes for a cigarette, they would laugh in my face. my state you get three mandatory breaks for an eight hour work day if you can't smoke then, then you don't need a job you need to go focus on your nicotine addiction. I hear this all the time but have NEVER seen it happen. Smokers just getting "smoke breaks" has been over for a long time
I guess it depends on your experiences because I’ve had at least four jobs in the last 15 years where smoke breaks was the standard practice. One of those was a corporation.
Load More Replies...It's not weird it's just people that don't smoke usually don't ask to take a quick break. I've had maybe 2 employees ask for a 10-15 minute break
In Japan companies offer extra PTO days for non-smokers to address this.
At one job I had, it was allowed to take five minutes break every hour, to do things like drink a glass of water, go to the toilet, etc. NOT to smoke. Guess which were the ones that took those breaks? Yeah; the smokers.
The double standard between women, especially teenage girls, being fans of things, and men being fans of things.
It’s deemed as somewhat normal and almost to be expected than men go absolutely mental over sport, especially things like football, to the point that when there are football games on the local police are usually on standby to deal with the riots and fights that usually happen. And that’s just kind of seen as part of it and to be expected and is just people being passionate.
On the other hand, if you get a group of teenage girls getting a bit excited over like, idk, a BTS concert or a Taylor Swift show or something, suddenly that’s deemed weird and stupid and they get dragged for it.
It’s literally the same thing. The latter is also far less disruptive yet is the thing that is always demonised. It’s not a new thing either it goes back as far as like The Beatles and Elvis where it was just passed off as ‘ridiculous hysteria” meanwhile you’ve got a brexit geezer going absolutely feral because Manchester United lost.
Lowkey pisses me off a lot that anything women and teenage girls like is demonised yet things like sport get a free pass.
Anything teen girls like is deemed "basic" or "immature". Take for example the hate directed at the band Mother Mother, their fanbase consists of mainly teen girls and they get totally slated for it. Great music tho, give them a listen :)
Not to even mention how often men freak out if women like the same thing they do. See: gamergate
Honestly, it’s just sports. If I got this exited over video games, people would outright call it unhealthy. But in sports, it’s “passion.”
Also that if teens are into anything, gender regardless it’s always a “phase”.
And it's especially horrible for the people actually being demonised. What's wrong with liking Taylor swifts music??
Nah, my niece grew up being a massive comic book geek, no one batted an eye, probably because I was too.
And god forbid the women/girls who like sports! They're constantly having to prove that they're "real" sports fans. And the men/boys who like Taylor Swift or BTS or whatever? That's seen as being so wrong. Guess what, just let people like what they like. Oh and don't be a prick about it and ruin it for others by having riots.
I'm a gamer and have been since a kid (40+ years). I only play a couple of hours a week and I find it relaxing. But my mates find it weird. The same mates who spend 6 hours play golf in all weathers on chasing a golf ball... Or traveling 5 hours to watch over paid men fall over kicking a ball for 90 minutes and then complain that another bloke behind a screen got the result wrong (VAR) and spend another 5 hours traveling back... And I'm weird?
I'm expected to make it through an entire workday while it's snowing outside, while children are allowed to stay home and drink hot chocolate and go sledding. Absolutely unfair (I'm 29).
I'm almost 60 and the hot chocolate sounds nice. Sledding sounds fun but I suspect I'd pay for it the next morning with aches and pains. Might be worth it, though...
Load More Replies...Hate to tell you, now-a-days kids have a virtual day, where they are still working from home. I think that sucks!
When I was a kid my parents both worked in public education, but in a district about 20 miles from where we lived. Sometimes, my school (like a 5 minute walk away) was canceled, but my parents still had to go in. It was the same snow!
In addition to holidays, birthdays and sick days, I included 6 "mental health days" to my employees' benefit package. So, if it's snowing and you want to go build a snowman with your kids, it was covered and you didn't have to pretend to need a sick day. I had much happier employees and fewer sick days taken than most companies in my industry. A happy employee is a loyal employee.
Rich people don't face consequences for crimes like normal people at all. Fines were designed to punish the poor and let the rich get away with disregard for society. Bail was also designed this way because it means your ability to get out of jail is dependent on the size of your bank account.
People should not be fined for crimes or be able to get out of them with money period.
This works up to a point, where you encounter people with 'nothing to lose'. If you technically have no wealth, then you have permission to do anything... (a clever accountant can make you legally broke, but still retain access to your previous assets.)
Load More Replies...That's why I like the Finnish model where fines are based on income. Fining everyone the same amount for let's say speeding is only a punishment for the poor. If you can afford to drive a Ferrari then you've not likely to be affected by a £100 fine.
This is true in Switzerland as well, I completely agree
Load More Replies...A crime punishable by a fine simply says: "It's legal, for a price."
No. It says it's not the type of offense that requires incarceration, which removes a relatively harmless offender from family and employment and costs taxpayers more for housing and feeding them.
Load More Replies...I will never forget Paris Hilton's Mom (Kathy?) talking to a reporter about her daughter being arrested for a DUI. Her Mom was having a full-on fit about how unfair it was, and God love the reporter, she just turned to her and asked, "Sooooo - you don't feel your daughter should get the same punishment as MY daughter would get if SHE were caught driving on the wrong side of the freeway at 2:00am, not only drunk but high on cocaine?" Mrs. Hilton look stunned and just walked away (if I remember correctly).
Then NO bail for anyone because letting the 'poor' criminal out to repeat his awful crimes in WRONG WRONG WRONG and it's happening every day now. (the plan by the 'left' to bring in 'marshall law' and shut the country down - don't doubt me)
Excellent argument against bail. (Bail is not an option in my country)
The way we view emotions.
If a man cries or shows fear, it is instantly taken as weakness while being socially accepted by women.
If a woman shows anger or asserts dominance, it's taken bad where as those emotions are socially accepted by men.
Also aging. Women aging=bad, washedup, need to settle down.
Men aging=good, wisdom, getting better with age, embrace the grey.
Thank you for pointing out that double standards can go both ways. Many people think its only unfair for women! edit: punctuation
The reason men get shamed for crying is because the men around them go “ewwww you’re just like a girl”, so yes, many people are going to call out that it’s all ultimately about men seeing women as inferior.
Load More Replies...Yes, a lot of people told me I was "brave" to embrace my grey hair (which I've had since I was 25) - I told them I wasn't brave, I was lazy.
Nah, most of my mates will cry if they need to, no one considers it a weakness. We all hug each other when we meet up too. Life's too short for toxic masculinity.
The aging thing has always annoyed me. Like men can get called a hot silver fox well past their 60s, but as soon as we women turn 30, we're apparently gross and old 😑
Is society still pressuring men about showing emotions? I, as a woman, have never, ever held against a man who shows his emotions. Remember it's a patriarchal society... Women are trying to break free of many of those double standards. And we're happy to bring men along with us.
It's because women are judged on their ability to reproduce and that wanes as they get older. Men are judged on their income and that rises as they get older. It's not fair but that's the way it is. A 21 year old man is judged just as harshly as a 45 year old woman. Not nice.
Ha ha ha! I just turned 65! I really do not five a very big fu@@ if anyone does not like it when i state my opinion, or stand up for someone not able to do it, I have no problem making a nog old scene and take care of business. I hate injustice and will always speak up. Even my husband has learned to not say anything.
At the same time, it's up to you to outwardly fight that. We're all human and all entitled to face emotions of all calibers. It's how one handles themselves with it that should be policed. I can get angry, but no way will I use that violently. I can cry, but I don't use it to manipulate people.
If I don't wear makeup to work, and fix my hair and wear feminine outfits, I am asked multiple times if I am feeling okay that day.
I am dressed professionally in pants and a shirt, with my hair brushed and my face washed, just like ALL the men here.
Why are my requirements different? It's not on paper anywhere, but it is implied every single day.
Some male colleagues of mine were talking about how they didn't like women with lots of make-up. I pointed out I was wearing make-up, and they were, 'No, you're not." Dude, I'm wearing lipstick, mascara, eyebrow pencil and face powder. My face is literally fully covered in make-up. But apparently to them that was as 'no make-up' as their faces. They are good colleagues and I don't mind it (and I like wearing make-up, I truly think I look better with it), but it kinda amazed them just how much make-up it takes to look groomed as a professional woman.
Makeup when done right is supposed to make you look more naturally attractive as if you weren't wearing makeup at all or at the very least less than you actually are. This is also why a lot of men don't like makeup because it is literally designed to make you appear more desirable than you normally are. It's selfish, not going to lie, but there you are. Heck the same sentiment may be held by women if men did the same thing.
Load More Replies...While I get where OP is coming from, if somebody normally has themselves put together a certain way then all of a sudden make a change like that, I don't think it's a d**k move to enquire if they're ok.
As someone who never wears make up - it was insisted many many times in many workplaces of mine that I should start doing so. Because, god forbid, I have skin texture and no visible strong colored eyebrows. And "it looks unprofessional showing up like that". Oh noes.
Load More Replies...I am. But I don't smile much at all and it makes people nervous. I've had people wonder if I'm angry with them or just mad 😡 when I thought I had a neutral expression and was actually just thinking about what to make for dinner.
Load More Replies..."how nice to be naturally beautiful" says a makeupped sarcastic secretary of the boss. I didn't start wearing makeup, her problem, not mine.
The op is comparing herself with makeup and then without. It's not the fault of her co workers. If someone I know wears makeup most of the time and then goes without, I would be concerned that something was wrong. Plus if she or he is using cover up to even tones, they will possibly look a little ill if they are paler. If you work at a job where they require women look a specific way, makeup skirts etc. That is a double standard. If someone were to require me to wear makeup, I'd demand that all the employees had to wear it too.
I never saw that much improvement with make. I tried makeovers and different makeup. Never wore a lot. Then started to cut back in my thirties and haven't worn any in over 20 years. If you like it wear it and if you don't like it,leave it off.
I kind of feel like this about pantyhose. When a woman puts them on it's all sexy and totally fine. But when I put them on it's all "what the hell are are you doing in my pantyhose??" And "get out of my house right now before I call the police!"
Body positivity really only applies to women. Calling a man a fatass vs a woman will garner very different responses. Also making fun of the size of a man’s member is a lot more acceptable than making fun of a woman for her attributes( I don’t agree with either, it’s just my observation)
Body shape fads come & go. Dad Bod wasn't sexy several years ago and it won't be down the road. At one point, obese women were considered creme de la creme, at another time rail thin was. There was a point where obese men were considered sexy (probably perpetuated by them) as that was a sign they had lots of money so could afford luxurious food.
Load More Replies...Women are trying to be Body Positive against the fashion industry who favors size 4 models. And let's look at male actors who have gotten really fat, And no one said anything. But as soon as a female actress gained 5 pounds. She must be pregnant or she's unrecognizable and washed out..just sayin'...
In Greece a wife can be jailed for to to 3 years for embarrassing her husband about his boy bits in public.
Eh, I kinda agree with this, but I also don't. I feel like all genders all to blame here, women certainly have a big part in this problem, but toxic attitudes are the real problem I guess.
Load More Replies...Being fat in most of the cases has nothing to do with body positivity unless it's a result of disability. Not being able to control your food intake and , for example , missing limbs - are quite a bit different, don't you think ?
No, I don't, because, at least in the U.S., it's much easier and cheaper to buy heavily processed foods, many of which contain a high percentage of fructose. A significant amount of fructose gets shuttled into the de novo fatty acid synthesis pathway (make new fat pathway), so, if you're poor or have financial restrictions, often the only kind of food you can easily afford is also full of an ingredient that will increase your overall fat. “The truth is rarely pure and never simple.” -Oscar Wilde
Load More Replies...Racism against white people. Idc bring on the downvotes it’s so true.
it's amazing to me how often you see or hear people say you can't be racist against white people.
Or that all white people are born racist oppressors and should be ashamed of their "whiteness".
Load More Replies...The racism is different tho. In most societies, it is advantageous to be white and the systems are built to support white people. Racial prejudice against white people is not systemic in the western world, so the prejudice doesn't affect daily life, whereas black people are severely affected by systemic racism in their day to day life.
You can be biased against white people but racism encompasses the structural power imbalance. Unfortunately, that is still skewed heavily towards white people.
No kind of racism should be acceptable, if not you are just like them.
Load More Replies...If you make an assumption about someone you don't know, based on the colour of their skin, that's racist, regardless of the skin colour concerned.
You can't be racist against white people - another double standard; reverse discrimination is alive an well! "Affirmative action"...
Lots of non-white people are racist against white people....
Load More Replies...I’m a victim of racism, also white as a sheet. I lived in. Brazil for a while and I was continually physically and verbally attacked, harassed, bullied, and objectified just because I’m light-skinned. And I’ll say, it is the exact same thing as being racist towards black people. If you judge someone for the color of their skin, you’re racist, no if ands or buts.
Works the same in many places of Latin America. I'm fed up of being the "whitexican" that has no right to be a Mexican because I don't look the way I should, and that by default is a bad person and deserves to be treated poorly.
Load More Replies...It's evil when it's done to children. People like teachers who are in POSITIONS AND SYSTEMS OF POWER being racist towards little kids.
People get pissed off when min wage increases but say f**k all about billionaires avoiding taxes
As Fry said in Futurama: "Just wait 'till I become a billionaire. Then people like me should better watch out."
Why would anyone be mad about a minimum wage increase? “Oh no, I don’t want to make more money! Whatever will I do with all this extra money!”
They’re convinced it will break the economy, that businesses can’t afford it, and actually one day they’ll be a millionaire business owner and won’t be able to afford it, either.
Load More Replies...It's funny they can't find enough people to fill those low wage jobs anymore in my local city. But a one bedroom apartment is 2,000 a month.
Not true! Minimum wage doesn't increase, so I don't know what they're mad about.
Look up how often the Minimum hourly wage has gone up. It's shameful, and now after all these years. It's only what's $7.25 an hour. They want to make it $15. and everyone's all outraged.
My wage goes up $0.31c/hr and that's a travesty, but fuel went up $0.75c a litre and nobody bats an eyelid.
Min wage increases just kills more jobs - many businesses can't just pay the lower level people more and still make a profit to stay in business.
If you can't afford to pay someone a living wage you shouldn't be in business.
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This is probably small potatoes, but it’s kinda crazy that people are comfortable demanding height minimums on dating sites and just in conversation. Quite a few tinder profiles say ‘must be over 6ft’. It’s the only demand on a physical attribute that is commonly casually stated. It’s totally okay to feel that way, but it seems kinda rough to remind every short guy swiping that he has limited options. I’m over 6th and it still kinda pissed me off to see it. I have short friends. I always imagine the painful little ping they’d feel any time they saw it.
Never really done the dating site thing, but is it, or is it not, acceptable these days to also state preferences for eye or hair colour, hair length, even weight? If not then I think that's the real double standard.
Everyone wants perfection in a date or mate to make themselves feel good.
Load More Replies...I don't understand why tall guys are desirable. My first boyfriend wasn't much taller than me and he was great. My husband is much taller, but I don't care if he was shorter. It literally is so far down my list in standards.
It is not "small potatoes". It is a serious problem in society and no one will do anything about it. Height discrimination is the last acceptable prejudice. It is socially unacceptable to call someone "fat" or "stupid" or the "N" word, yet it is completely acceptable to call a short person "smurf" or "midget". And if we complain, we are accused of having short man's syndrome and our complaints are ignored or blown off. I had friends put a milk crate behind a podium one time when I was supposed to speak. They thought it was hilarious. And it affects us financially too. A person who is 5 feet 6 inches making $50,000 per year would expect to make about $2,000 more if they were 5 feet 7 inches, and $4,000 more if they were 5 feet 8 inches. It hurts just as bad to be called "smurf" as it does to be called fat. But fat people can diet. The only way I can get taller is very expensive, painful surgery and months of being in a wheelchair to gain 2 inches in height.
Not all fat people can diet - there can be hormonal problems, medications, disabilities and many other reasons. And even if we can and won't, I think the amount of basic respect we receive shouldn't be dependant on whether we're the "good fats" considerate of thin people's wishes not to see us. You made an amazing point about height double standards, then ruined it with "if fatsos want basic decency, they can always starve themselves lmao".
Load More Replies...So what do you want now? They're at least honest. It they would write that, they'd still not date short men. It's just the same as a man not wanting to date a tall woman, and this happens just as often. It's wrong to shame anyone gor having preferences, as long as those are not outrageously illegal. Like wanting to date a child or demanding that a partner has no rights
It's not about eliminating the preference, it's about eliminating the double standard.
Load More Replies...I'm a 6' 2" male and prefer tall ladies. Why is that such a bad thing? So, you're allowed to specify all different criteria but NOT height? Why?
That's the point, though. Men are called a******s for having body type preferences, women are not.
Load More Replies...God I hate this. I have so many friends who are genuinely great guys, but struggle to get a date because they are 'too short'. You are not an amusement park ride, you don't need a 'you must be this tall' sign.
Same goes for: No overweight. Or no women with short hair. At least that was glaring very often at me while I was online dating. I have long hair - but bru pissed it me off to see that. xD
If you’re not attracted to something, why waste your own and someone else’s time?
Load More Replies...Cruel, but fair. No point in responding if you are a body shape or behaviour which the poster doesn't find attractive! I feel bad that I don't find black people sexually attractive, even if they are stunningly beautiful. Sorry, but who we find sexually attractive is not a matter of choice!
Load More Replies...Yeah, it's rather hypocritical how women will not date shorter men, considering women are always screaming about being judged by their looks. I have dated short guys and tall guys. Personality is the main factor and having teeth.
So you’re discriminating against people who don’t have teeth? See how the preference thing works now?
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women get a pass for being predatory.
One I think of when this topic comes up is older women looking at boys and saying things like, "Oh he's gonna be a looker! Call me when he's 18!" It's excused as funny and cute, but if a man said it people would be disgusted. That's what I think of anyway.
Load More Replies...My partner worked as a "Butler in the buff" for events, and with female clients was constantly being touched inappropriately.
Another component to this is, as a gay man in a queer space (frequently overrun with hen/bridal parties or girls night out in a non threatening space) there’s an assumption it’s ok to touch or even grope us. There’s a mentality that if they objectify & grope us they’re safe from reciprocation. When they assume we’re not into them or it’s not arousing it’s somehow ok for them to touch us. No consideration for how utterly inappropriate it is in the first place, but even less that bi men are queer men & bi men frequent the same queer spaces as gay men. So the queer they’re groping may indeed be just as attracted to women as dyed in the wool straight men.
Nowhere is this more obvious than the comparison between strip clubs for men and strip clubs for women.
Woman dates a man half her age she's a cougar and it's, "wow, you go girl!" A man dates a woman half his age and it's "ugg, what a filthy pig"
In a care facility ive seen this alot. Both in terms of staff and residents. Ive been groped and butt slapped many times by old ladies and tbh I don't really care its funny sometimes... but if it did upset me and I complained I know for a fact it wouldn't be taken seriously vs when it happens to women ive worked with.
I’m American (so I’m not sure if this happens in other countries) and Christian people when they sit at your dinner table and do the guilt thing right before you eat saying “Wait, arent we going to pray first?” And even the non religious people look guilty and pretend to pray. It took me until my 30’s to realize the double standard if I were another religion and sat at their table and insisted we pray to my god, they likely wouldn’t take so kindly to it. Now I say “you’re welcome to pray but I’m going to go ahead and start eating”
Seems impolite. I would wait till they are finished praying, but not pray myself.
Absolutely! But "Aren't we going to pray first?" is dead rude, too. If a guest of any faith asked permission to take a moment to pray before the meal, without demanding participation, I would be happy to accede.
Load More Replies...I'd consider anyone who wanted to pray before eating a meal I'd cooked them to be not just impolite, but downright insulting towards my cooking skills.
Almost as bad as hiring a taster in case it’s poisoned :D
Load More Replies...Long prayers are unfair too, like by all means bless the food, but no sermons at the table, foods getting cold.
I challenge any hungry person to sit in front of an empty plate and pray. Just keep praying.
Load More Replies...Prayer is private. Think one of the apostles wrote something about that.
Matthew not much before the Beatitudes (which is another bit most modern Christians ignore).
Load More Replies...As a catholic, I find this rude. Prayers have to be sincere. You just DON'T ask people to pray, they'll do if they mean to, full stop.
Religious Jews eat first and pray afterwards, so you can get up and go after finishing the delicious nosh if you don't want to ;-)
A guest telling the host what should happen is incredibly rude. And Jesus couldn’t stand people like this.
If you're gutsy enough, just as the prayer is ending, say "Hail Satan!"
Governments allowing themselves to do what they’ve banned others from doing.
If thee, inprisson someone it's not ok. But guvernement can.
Load More Replies...This is so nonspecific as to be meaningless. For example, the state being allowed to arrest and imprison people under the law while forbidding citizens from lynching is not a double standard, it's a fundamental role of government.
Other examples - printing money and declaring war.
Load More Replies...Government officials pretending to be medical doctors and being the be all end all to the decision if a female can get a certain Healthcare need. 100% of the time it's denied and even the 12+ year medically trained actual doctors are threatened with fines and long jail time (losing their licenses) if they do or even suggest the Healthcare procedure. If anyone else non government pretended to be a doctor and did this, they'd be put under the ground. Yet untrained govt jerks get to play pretend doctor and get away with it. Now they've decided that even a 100% guaranteed non viable (or even dead) must be carried to the final day months later. Females can and will die from this but the government "doctors" are the only say so. I loathe the usa govt for their obviously loud loathing of females. Of all ages.
And yet people keep voting for parties that only want to make it worse.
You loan money to a bank by putting it in a savings account & they pay you about 1% interest. They loan you money on a credit card & charge you 25 or 30% interest.
That's largely what the governments are for, society delegating the authority in exchange for government handling things for the society.
I gotta give you 2 weeks notice ima quit, but you can fire me at any point? Nah fam
American problem. In the UK, it's quite difficult to fire someone. There needs to be gross misconduct on the employees part and even then there's a strict disciplinary process that needs to be followed. You could be be facing an employment tribunal if you don't.
Not true! You can be fired for being incapable of doing your job or capable but unwilling. The company must provide evidence and give multiple chances for improvement but don’t go saying there “needs to be gross misconduct.”
Load More Replies..."Right to work" should have been called "Right to fire." Just like the "Freedom" Act! Etc.
“Right to work” always means “Right to work for less money”.
Load More Replies...In Germany, fortunately, we have many employee rights. We are usually talking about notice periods of 1-7 months. And they apply to both sides! In addition, dismissals by the employer usually require a good reason. Even a reason such as "not doing a good job" must be sufficiently proven and even then, dismissal is the last resort. There are exceptions in both directions, e.g. for small companies or severely disabled persons.
You don't have to give 2 weeks notice unless you signed a contract saying so. I have only given 2 weeks notice once in my life, and that was because I thought I might want to work for that company again later on. There is nothing they can do to you if you don't give notice.
Not really. Most U.S. states are at will. Also, the whole 2 weeks thing is a courtesy. You can quit and walk out. The only reason we do it this way is to not burn bridges and get a good reference.
Unionize. It's the only way to force the suits to fairly compensate the people who actually DO the work that makes the suits rich. Why do you think companies spend so much money fighting unions?
Not in South Africa. You need 3 written warnings, disciplinary hearings, need to engage the trade union, and even then they can take you to the CCMA.
The at will law actually applies both ways it's just considered good manners to give your employer time to replace you. Anyone who says differently doesn't know what they're talking about and is probably in HR.
That in the US, disabled people need more money to afford healthcare, but they aren’t legally allowed to have more than like $2000-$2500 in assets if they’re on disability. And it’s less if they’re married
What? The USA sounds dystopian for a developed, first world country.
The US is a dystopian third world country that is begging a fake billionaire to lead them into poverty.
Load More Replies...I’ve read of couples who have literally had to divorce because it’s the only way they could get the medical treatment they need covered.
SSDI doesn't have a limit, but if you're on SSI you can't have more than 2,000 in savings for an individual or 3,000 for a couple. Some lawmakers are trying to change it to 10,000.
Load More Replies...Most wheelchairs can cost that much or more, so oh well. The US healthcare system is a joke.
People who have transplants, their anti-rejection meds, which they have to take for the rest of their lives are so out of control priced, something like $45,000-$55,000 a month. Same thing their health insurance is outrageous and if you are on medicaid, you can't work over so many hours to stay on medicaid to afford the meds. Keeping that person Poor and not being able to support themselves and having to use other govt. programs to try to survive, Makes no sense.
Bullying is looked down upon, but so are the victims.
The idea that bullies are bad but we also have to toughen up and learn to take it sucks. Maybe we wouldn't have to be "prepared" for the cruel world if everyone was actually raised to have a little empathy.
Don't even get me started on the f**ks that decide that you should report bullying, but if you do, both the bully and the victim are punished.
Load More Replies...Zero tolerance policies at school mean that the victim is punished along with the bully if it gets physical at school, if the victim tries to defend themselves in any way. One of the worst messages we could give our kids is to not reach out for help, or defend themselves.
We had such policy as well at my high school - and since I was getting trouble anyways for being attacked I started to break bones instead of not hurting anybody. Ironically solved the problem of getting beaten up after the 2nd time an ambulance had to be called
Load More Replies...Bullying done by kids is rightfully frowned upon and efforts are made to stop it (whether it works or not, but at least there are efforts). Bullying done by adults on the other hand is still mostly ignored. I read this morning that 20% of the work force is bullied by other employees and a good propertion of the bullying is even done by bosses.
I quit a great job because the company would do nothing about the woman who constantly bullied everyone in the department, complained and whined about modern technology and tried force people in the department not to use even most simplest keyboard shortcuts. They were afraid and probably are still afraid of firing her because she's much older. 🖕 TZ
Load More Replies...Often the victims are told off for not having enough empathy and understanding for their poor, tortured bully. Honestly I don't give a damn about the sad family life of a bully who tortured me mercilessly. And I shouldn't be expected to feel different without being helped first. There are far more programmes to help bullies overcome their traumatising situations than there are for the victims. Because the victims suffer quietly and bullies act out. It's also standard to remove a bullying victim from their social circles and classes, forcing them to adjust to that and then dealing with the aftermath alone, while nothing happens to the bully and they get help on top.
Biggest bully in the world is an Orange Blob, but nobody says anything!
I hate bullies and the jerks (parents, siblings, family members) who role model that behavior.
I used to have one then one day after 2 years of torture I snapped long story short im not aloud within a 100 feet of them and they don't have a left ear and parcel use of one eye bullies suck
If you make any mistake with money like overdraft, miss a payment, forget to pay tax, you get royally screwed and have to often pay even more in penalties and get no say in the matter. But if the banks, business, or insurance f***s up they owe you nothing and you often have to fight to get what you owe and often still lose out in money and time
Dems need to be more vocal about what they accomplish, the do nothing other party is loud enough.
Load More Replies...Overdraft fees are the weirdest f*****g thing. Like "Oh...you don't have any money. It doesn't cost us anything to stop payment, but it will cost you an extra $35, which you don't have. Oh look, you just overdrafted *another* $35!"
Also, someone gives you a check and it bounces, the bank charges YOU a fee for it. Like WTF?
Load More Replies...The time it takes to get a refund, yet the payment is taken immediately?
Plus, if the banks screw up, they just get a government bailout here in the US.
Yep - in the state I'm in, if the bank does not cover the over-draft and the person contacts law-enforcement to file a complaint, congratulations, you have committed a felony and are looking at no less than 5 years in a state prison.
Currently in the UK, banks can no longer charge customers more than a maximum amount/charge per month/bounced payment/etc. But HMRC (British version of the IRS) WILL charge multiple late payment fees, then apply a late payment fee if you're late paying that charge, and again, and again, and there is no limit! Had a client who managed to accumulate over £10k purely in penalties/late payment charges (despite the account being paid in full for all other taxes) - oh and they apparently don't have to tell you when a charge is applied, you're expected to check your account online and look for it as its "your responsibility". You also cant be expected to pay back any debts that havent been raised in over 7 years, but HMRC can and will bill you a "debt" they've applied to your account that is over 10yrs old & you can't argue because HMRC don't keep records over 7yrs, even if you provide them statements FROM THEM showing account is paid in full AFTER the periods they claim you owe them for!
Men being abused physically by women is funny. For instance, the trailer for "Anyone but You" had Sydney Sweeny sucker punch her love interest in the balls. If the man sucker punched her in the privates, I doubt anyone would've laughed.
THIS IS SO WRONG! WOMEN DO ABUSE AND KILL MEN!!!! Just different ways, like poisoning... I'm sick of all the comments here implying that only men are the abusers. People abuse people, period!
What makes it worse is if you need to call the police, they're not going to believe you, and even if they do, the man is almost always the one kicked out of a shared living space until things cool down. Source, me after my ex threw a remote at my face and split my lip open.
Load More Replies...I did punch one guy once. We were both servers and he would go in for a feel whenever he wanted to (on all the women). I asked him, I begged him, I flat out told him to stop and he wouldn't. So the next time I punched his lights out. I had to do that TWICE for him to get the message. This was back in the 80s when this was the only way for women to fight back against harassment.
Yea, my ex got violent when I told her I wanted to break up. I called the domestic violence number and the told me to talk to her. The fact she destroying and throwing stuff, plates knives and escalating to one o one violence didn't matter. I had to leave my house.
Sorry, there are very few resources available to men because of the MYTH that women are not abusers.
Load More Replies...Amen! I was married to the "nicest, sweetest, etc." who did verbally, emotionally and physically abuse me. Ran through money, would not work, alienated friends and family. I, being raised with certain morals, stayed with it for years, honoring my vows and all that. Did not step out for almost 19 years, but met someone that was kind and supportive, and I ran away from home for 2 weeks. Went back, being the stubborn idiot that I am, but took her home a few weeks later. I had to speak with the police when I got back, told him the situation. He asked why I didn't hit back. He understood my side eye. Filed for divorce, and on the day the papers were served, I met someone who is my ideal fit...and has been for 24 years. You know if I had raised my hand, even in self defense, I would have been in cuffs
Yeah, the way society sees it: if a man hits a woman he's a cowardly brute, but if a woman hits a man (not in self defense, mind you), she's brave and powerful. It's freakin stupid. Men and women should not abuse each other. Period.
I've been through this. Though I no longer live in North Carolina, USA, many southern states have a charge called "assault on a female". I asked what it'd be called the other way around, the officer said "simple battery".
Sorry you had to deal with that. There's the Violence Against Women Act. Where the F is the Violence Against Men Act?!
Load More Replies...there are all kind of social experiments like this on YouTube, its pretty sick indeed.
Same with bullying between different sexes. If a boy is bullying a girl and the girl fights back, the girl is considered big and tough and is applauded (rightfully so) but if a girl is bullying a boy in any capacity and the boy fights back, he is considered a monster and is severely punished, while the girl is given little to no punishment at all.
Wedding Crashers has a scene where the main character gets stalked, assaulted, and then raped. It's played for laughs because it's so hilarious how he doesn't like this woman, but she wants him so bad.
People seem to think nothing of a man choosing to not have kids, but women who don't want them are judged to hell and back and even told "they'll change their mind."
I really don't know where people get this idea that men aren't pressured to have children. Maybe men talk about it less, but you're being willfully ignorant if you think parents don't pressure their sons to get married and have kids. All those comments you mentioned, I've heard from relative strangers as well as my parents.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this. That's such bs. There's absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting kids and you don't need to justify this to anyone! If someone is pressuring you, maybe ask them if they've considered becoming foster parents? If they want to have a kid around so much...
Load More Replies...FFS, I've been told the same thing many times as a man. I also get, "Well, you still have plenty of time left..." but I am nearing 50. Like, seriously?! Do you think I want to marry someone 10 - 20 years younger that I have nothing in common with? That'd be like raising 2 kids. No, I made it this far. I don't want them.
No idea what you are talking about. The pressure I've suffered all my life because I didn't find a nice girl settle down and spawn the new generation. Even now at 55 I get sad remarks, it's not to late, your a man.
On multiple occasions, people have gotten genuinely angry with me when my answer to the question "when are you going to start having kids" was never, because I don't want to.
Oh, I love this one. I was told in my 20s that I'd change my mind. In my 30s, "you better hurry up, your biological clock is ticking!" Now I'm in my 40s and it's starting to calm down, finally!
You're lucky. When I was in my 40s, people were telling me I could do IVF and in my 50s, I was told I could "just adopt". Whatever it took to make me have kids! I'm closer to 70 but I don't look that old, so I still hear it a lot even now. And it's always "when you have kids", not "if". How presumptuous can people be, anyway?
Load More Replies...Yeah I'm a 38 year old guy and my mom has repeatedly asked about grandkids. My girlfriend is a trans woman. She's not getting pregnant. We can't afford adoption. My brother is a prick. I don't think it's happening, ma.
My child stated they don't want kids. I'm completely behind their decision! I wasn't a very good mom, and while I don't doubt they would do a better job, I'm not going to force that on anyone else. It isn't my decision to make.
We feel so so so compassionate toward disabled people, but our policies require them to live life in deep poverty, with s****y medical care, while we run around saying how every life is precious. Sure.
We don’t feel compassionate, really. We pat ourselves on the back for showing basic kindness and they rightfully can’t stand it.
And they are only allowed to work a certain number of hours/ week or else they get kicked off of the medicare/medicaid/disability they are receiving even though those funds are not enough to live on!
My partner is fully disabled. (US) Just got kicked off food assistance here in Alabama due to the compromise last year on debt ceiling saying they used up all their alloted time. She been deemed an able body adult and the burden is on us to prove she not or well she can starve cause my income can't support her needs. So yeah I feel this.
And this is even worse if you have an invisible disability! I have multiple mental disabilities as well as major joint problems and I;ve been told multiple times that I don't need any of my assistive stuff because "its not that bad" and it really gets on my nerves.
Female genital mutilation is illegal in most western countries (as it absolutely should be) but half the US and 25% of Canada STILL support mutilating boys. Mutilating anyone’s genitals should be illegal.
A lot of people still believe in the debunked claim that circumcision somehow means better hygiene. It doesn't.
They are not quite the same thing. I was circumcised at 3 days old, I'm Jewish. For me and most other men who were circumcised as babies, it makes no difference to my life at all and I don't consider it to be mutilation any more than a body piercing or cosmetic surgery but as I said, this is just my view and experience. For women though, female circumcision is far more traumatic and the reasons for it are far more sinister. It is all about controlling and suppressing women and the damage caused by it frequently makes sex extremely painful and and sometimes impossible.
My buddy in college admitted it’s always painful to be “excited” so I encouraged him to see a doctor. His circumcision was botched but he had no idea, he figured it’s normal to be in pain. Surgery fixed it. I always wondered how many men suffer silently, not knowing that pain and discomfort isn’t how everyone lives.
Load More Replies...I 100% agree that young boys should not be circumcised unless it's necessary for medical reasons. However, FGM can make even passing urine an incredibly painful experience for the rest of the girls life, let alone having sex, periods, having a smear test or giving birth.
Part of that is because they are done by unqualified people and often not in medical facilities. The same negative outcomes can occur to penises also; I personally know a couple who have told me in detail about their "benefits" of an unwanted and unwarranted amputation.
Load More Replies...There's very little similarity between the two. One is the complete excision of an organ, the other is removing some skin. We should stop comparing these. One is amputation, the other a trim. It trivializes fgm to compare it to circumcision.
To be fair though, female circumcision is a whole lot worse than male circumcision. I'm not saying that either is okay but while a boy looses a little skin a girl gets mutilated in a whole different level. Female circumcision means that the whole visible clitoris is carved out, and depending on the cultural background, sometimes a big part of the labias too and her vagina is stitched shut. That's a tad bit more serious. Boys dying from circumcision is rare (that still doesn't make it right) but girls dying from sepsis due to the deep, huge wound getting infected is quite common. So again, whole both is not okay, the issue is more pressuring for girls.
It used to be thought that circumcism reduced the incidence of penile cancer, but later studies did not support this conclusion. It only valid to the extent that you won’t develop cancer in your foreskin if you don’t have one.
That cancer is caused by a virus which has a vaccine now. The virus can cause cancers in anyone, not just 1 sex. There are also other methods available to reduce transmission risk if someone is concerned.
Load More Replies...And OP does not intend to ban circumcision for MEN, only for BOYS. It has something to do with consent.
Load More Replies...This!! I’m very anti-circumcision and really don’t understand how it’s still practiced so widely. It’s a trauma to the baby! And most AMAB people don’t ever really get to address it because it’s considered socially acceptable.
I'm circumcized and don't remember being traumatized by it so what's it matter? I'm happy my parents made the decision and so is my girlfriend *wink wink*
Load More Replies...Unless it’s for medical reasons then it’s wrong. ANY physical change of a child is abuse. I don’t care if it’s a 1/10 or a 10/10 level of cutting, stitching, change of bodily function. Wrong is wrong and you cannot justify that in any way shape or form. Boy or girl, they are entitled to bodily autonomy and adults ought to respect that and protect it. I really couldn’t give a tinker’s cuss what anyone’s religion says. If your religion encourages the ‘modification’ of a child’s body then there’s a problem with your religion. I got in hot water for this last week on here, I haven’t changed my viewpoint, abuse is abuse no matter who your god/s is/are.
Casual racism against certain skin colors.
It's never okay to discriminate against someone based on something out of their control.
Horrific to be racist against a person of color. A person of color saying they can't be a racist against a Caucasian person because they are a person of color.
This is what I never understood: They're both races, right? I've tried to have someone explain this, and they said it's not racist if it's against the race who's in the higher class/ranks higher. And you may find a few things here, first of all: IT'S STILL A RACE!! Second: A certain race ranking higher or being more commonly richer from birth, ...that's literally racism, if there was no racism, then there would be no "race hierarchy", if that even exists. Still don't know why.
Load More Replies...Racism is so stupid. There are so many other VALID reasons to hate people.
And it's 2024. 2024 and people STILL hate people just because of things like skin color. Boggles my mind.
Racism, full stop. Discrimination, full stop. Not just against certain groups, but all of it when committed anywhere against anyone.
It's kind of weird to say people are racist against skin colors. They are racist against people they perceive as being of other races (all other races or just some of them). These races do not have a one-to-one correlation to color of skin. I mean, there is a huge variation in shade and coloration of "black" people in the US, moreso than "white" people. And there are people from India with skin as dark as a dark-skinned Black American, yet there are probably people who would be more racist against one over the other. "against certain skin colors" is incorrect and yucky. It reminds me when people talk about "black bodies" - just don't do that.
The justice system. There’s definitely multiple justice systems depending on things like class and race. While it’s definitely noticed, it’s not like anything is actually being done about it so by practical standards it goes unnoticed.
Also if you are rich or poor (or even average income). The rich always get an advantage
They pay for the politicians who write the laws They pay for the judges that determine the laws They pay for the lawyers that argue the laws We pay for the punishment, enforcement, and the rest. Deck is stacked against American Citizen.
Load More Replies...Cant remember the numbers but you are x% more likely to be found guilty if you do NOT swear on a bible and x% more likely to be found innocent if you DO swear on a bible in court, wonder what it would be if you swore on a The Satanic Temple leaflet, hail Satan and may you be touched by the FSM's noodley appendage
Privilege literally means "Private Law". I don't know how, but this needs to be addressed and corrected.
There's currently a rather huge controversy going on in Czechia after a man got only a suspended sentence for long-term sexual violence of a teen girl who ended up suicidal. (For those concerned, she's doing alright now, people pooled some money to allow her to start a new life)
"The law is the same for rich or poor and you will be prosecuted equally for sleeping under bridges or stealing a loaf of bread".
It depends not only on class and race, it also depends a lot on what part of the country you happen to be in.
Sex workers are exploited, but the 9-5 workers getting underpaid while CEOs grant themselves another $50 million raise are somehow not.
A prostitute is selling their body but you think a coal miner isn't. Suuure...
And fire people .. police .. paramedics .. all sell their soul
Load More Replies...Unless you have actual wealth, you're selling your body and/or your time.
At least sex workers often don't have to pay taxes on what they 'earn'!!! :)
Romance and love between straight people is perfectly fine and normal to depict in children's media, in fact many many Disney movies end with a princess kissing a prince, but if we show *any* hints at all that a character is gay that's *perverted* and *unacceptable* for children.
By right wing logic, I should have been brainwashed straight ages ago, but I'm still questioning lol
For them, going from gay to straight is not "brainwashing". Their term is "conversion therapy".
Load More Replies...If those 0,1% of gay media can turn straight children gay, how come those 99,9% of straight media won't turn gay kids straight?
similar thing with snowstorm in texas, VS record heatwave in texas. one is "o look at all this global warming" the other is "just normal texas weather this time of year". Or "Earth is flat". You can't show scientific facts (or just have independent common thoughts) about something you *know* is true?
Load More Replies...Love is love. I’m not worried in any way, shape or form about my daughter seeing people, meeting people or interacting with people who are in love. Am I worried about her seeing people who hate, who destroy or attack others? Yes. We have all sorts of family and friends who are in every type of relationship and all I ever want her to see is that love and respect for each other is where it starts, the sex, colour, number of arms, eyes, legs etc is irrelevant.
$. Even in movies where creators want characters to be gay, the movie companies are thinking about the money to be made overseas. A movie with gay characters might be banned or at least not accepted.(Also a pathetic share of hateful and loud homophobes im the US).
This is only part of the issue. But I think what the OP is referring to is that when there ARE depictions of LGBTQ characters, people lose their minds over it. It's not just about movies and TV either, even books. Recently there was a kid's book that has been banned in some states that depicted a child animal (like an otter or something) who lived with two male parents. It didn't show them kissing or anything, just showed two male parents existing. And people went all the way out of their entire minds over it. Had one of those otters been drawn with boobies, not a peep would have been made.
Load More Replies...Please 🙏 watch Disney's "the owl house" or some of net flux originals cartoons. It is getting better.
And if they show gay romance, peple start bitching about 'gay propaganda'
I thought we were all created in God's image. That means we can be straight, bi, trans, queer and everything else in between. Why should anyone care what you are? Mind your own business you self-righteous a******s.
Perfectly fine for society to dislike cats because "they're thankless pets" and whatnot, but if you dislike dogs you're labelled an untrustworthy sociopath.
I'm a dog person and I distrust anyone who doesn't like either. And please let's stop with the cats vs dogs narrative.
They certainly have their differences & both are nutjobs in their own ways. That's what we love about them.
Load More Replies...Disliking animals makes you feel so fragile. I can understand having an phobia or alike, but not same as dissliking.
Load More Replies...Rightly so lol 🤣 it's because dogs need humans they are sociable and would not be as happy without human interaction cats need slaves .. I mean that's it's they can get their own food and water and warmth they only want humans on their terms .. dogs are there 24 7 for their family would starve with you a cat will pee off and get some food and come back and not share it lol 😂
Believe me, they do try to share it. If only I enjoyed severed mouse head, LOL!
Load More Replies...It’s so WEIRD. Even some cat lovers think they need to self deprecate by proxy.
Cats ARE sneaky and thankless, and they act like the entire world revolves around them. That is why I like them. I am allergic so a cat doesn't live at my home, I have tried to house one, but my allergies couldn't take it so he chose to live with my niece instead. I do share my home with a dog, and if my dog doesn't like you, I don't trust you.
Just a comment about the cat allergies. Many people think they're allergic to the cat's fur, but quite often its a protein in the cat's saliva that actually causes the allergic reaction. I've found that if I wipe my cats down once or twice per day with a pet wipe or even a damp paper towel, I don't experience any allergy symptoms and I get to keep my cats!
Load More Replies...I think during lockdown everyone got dogs for some reason but I will always love cats the most. I don't like dogs at all (partly from a traumatic incident in childhood) but that's my opinion and I'm entitled to it. I'm also not forcing that opinion on anyone else by saying I'm not changing what I think, and that is unfortunately something that most people do not understand.
I like dogs the same way I like toddlers, when they are someone else's, lol
Load More Replies...Audi will pounce anyone who dares say that they don't like us, and I will bat their remains under the sofa! Our soft can-opener won't be allowed to come to the rescue, either!
Body hair
The great thing about winter is that nobody can see my leg hair to judge me, so I get an extra layer of warmth and to save on razors!
body hair stopped working for warmth hundreds of thousands of years ago. thats why we wear clothes.
Load More Replies...Men get really offended, when I tell them If they expect to have me without my bodyhair, I want them too without it. xD I had three conversations about it and it was really funny to see their double standards exposed. But of course there are men who simply don't care. But all in all online dating was a hell of a depressing experience....
I probably will get downvoted, but how is this a double standard?! It's preferences, rather than double standard: some people like it, some don't! And it applies to both male and female persons...
Women are generally expected to remove their body hair. Men are generally expected to have body hair. That's the double standard.
Load More Replies...last thing I EVER EVER cared about on a woman is her body hair. In fact, I prefer she isnt a bald facsimile of a child. thats creepy imo.
Justice. If you're rich you can get a good lawyer and avoid jail.
Half the time if you're rich you don't even have to hire a lawyer. You get excused immediately.
If you're rich you probably "know someone" or "know someone who knows someone" that can make the problem go away. "Friends" with the governor's brother and what not.
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As someone in the legal field...courts not being on time.
If you're late or not on time, good luck. But if the court is late or double booked etc. well you can't really complain.
lol I'm literally in the doctors waiting room right now. Been sitting here for half an hour
Load More Replies...Men get f****d in divorce cases, even if the wife was abusive, and we can’t really ever talk about it without sounding like Mens Rights A******s.
Watched a coworker have his wife cheat on him, he gave her a second chance and she did it again. Divorce court granted her custody of their son and awarded child support/alimony because he made more money then her. He was a mechanic who busted a*s for 23/hr, he wasn't wealthy and I watched the soul slowly drain from him for about 6 months before I left.
Load More Replies...Or when the dad is the obviously better caregiver for the kids but the mom still gets them. It makes me so sad when that happens. Being a woman doesn't make you an instantly better caregiver.
Hell no it doesn't! Especially when the kids scream to be with you and ***THE LAW*** says no!
Load More Replies...There are exceptions where men do get F'd", but historically the legal system has favored men for CENTURIES. But yes, it should depend upon the circumstances. No one should get screwed in the end of a relationship...
"Divorce has a lasting, negative impact on finances that, in heterosexual divorces, affects women the most. After a divorce is finalized, men hold 2.5 times the amount of wealth women do, and women's household income falls 41% (compared to men's 23%)." Do men sometimes get screwed over? Absolutely, and that's so wrong! But, usually it's the woman if there's kids involved, because we usually end up being the primary care takers, so many moms don't want to fight for the sake of the kids and just kind of give in. The reality is, is that courts are set up to screw over the parent who cares more, whether it's mom or dad, and that's just so incredibly wrong.
Don't even get me started on the child custody part. Kids could end up with an abusive mom when they have a loving dad that should've gotten custody, and every year, there are so many dads that commit suicide because they never get to see their kids again. This blatant sexism in the system has got to stop.
I had the opposite treatment. My ex-husband was the unstable one but since he filed first I was looked at as the bad spouse
My husband's ex would pick up and move, like, yearly. Just to make it more difficult for him to see his kids. Luckily his company was pretty hip to her bullsh*t and would just relocate him nearer to them. She was already getting almost 50% of his income, she just wanted to make him suffer because he refused to take her back after she cheated on him (and gave him chalymidia), but the divorce was ALL on him. Riiiight.
Aaaaaaand, why are we called a******s for defending or supporting men's rights?
The mere accusation of being a sexual predator will destroy any man, even if it's bogus and has no proof, but a man has a really hard time to be taken seriously if he's the victim of a woman. That's definitely true. My husband's cousin accused a guy who wouldn't date her of SA her. It was absolute bogus. They've never been alone in the same room. The times she claimed he SAd her he couldn't have done it. One time he was in the hospital, the other time he was at work. Her own family told the district attorney how she'd gleefully admitted she'd lied and the case was dropped after she simply didn't appear at the court date. She was put in prison for false claims and missing the summon. Still he was fired and had to move because people gave him the side eye. I heard people saying that they believed he'd chosen her because of her bad reputation so no one would believe her. I myself herd her boasting how she'd get him arrested. I'm 100% sure she lied. Still, he got shunned.
The classism inherent in judging the poor for the same behaviors as the wealthy.
If I were rich I would be eccentric. But I'm not rich, so I'm just weird instead.
People judging the homeless, the poor, and people on welfare for having the exact same bad habits they do. Apparently, only if you are rich can you smoke and drink anything. Oh, and only people on food stamps have to eat healthy foods.
YES!!!! Rich people asking for handouts is totally acceptable and seen as good business practices. Poor people asking for handouts are seen as lazy and just wanting drug/alcohol money. Also being poor in general is just vilified while being rich is seen as being saintly almost. Like you have to be a good person to be rich and if you're poor you're a terrible person. It makes me so mad!
People caring about mental health unless it's a really icky one like schizophrenia or narcism.
I think this is perpetuated by the media. When was the last time you saw a character with bipolar disorder living a normal life with a job and family instead of being a psychopath or murderer? Or someone with schizophrenia whose symptoms are managed with medication and only see what's actually there? Movies and TV shows do almost nothing to promote understanding and acceptance of severe mental illness.
As the mother of a child with severe bipolar disorder I agree. In addition, I am terrified for what will happen after I die.. he cannot take care of himself. I am in the US and visualize him getting shot in the street if he goes off his meds.. I am considering going back to NL just for his sake.
Load More Replies...What's this mean? That people *do* care about mental health, except for "icky" cases? Or that they *don't* generally care? I'd guess that the vast majority of people have no idea what schizophrenia is, or think that narcissism is just a bad case of the vanities.
I think it's more like people will be sympathetic towards things like a mild anxiety disorder, or depression, but if your mental condition means you hallucinate or can't empathize with other people, then there's something severely wrong with you.
Load More Replies...My stepdaughter is schizoaffective. She scares me. I am a RN and deal with a few mental health issues myself. I truly feel so much sorrow and sympathy for her, but she refuses to stay on her meds. She’s in her 20s now and has been institutionalized for at least 5 years because she is absolutely a danger to herself and everyone. We tried for years to help her, but she wouldn’t help herself. Her lies became dangerous (she accused her dad of only wanting her around so he could have sex with her (that is absolutely NOT the truth) and we feared her being around our young son for very good reasons. Many mental illnesses suck, but aren’t scary. Hers is scary and it has nothing to do with the media.
I can talk about having ADHD, (though lots of people believe it doesn't exist or can't exist in adult women) and most people are sympathetic. I can't tell almost anyone my other diagnosis is bipolar disorder. It's managed with medication and therapy and I haven't had an episode in a decade, but if I mention it at all I lose jobs and friends
Don't romantize OCD, it doesn't necessarily make you very clean and tidy. Autism isn't a super power and people with ADHD aren't uncontrolled monsters.
BrownTabby, your comments are usually really good and you usually have a good point to make, but today seems to be an off day for you.
Load More Replies...For the most part men can’t wear shorts to work in the summer but women can wear skirts, capris, etc.
Men and women's dress codes should be the same in my opinion. If women can wear skirts, shorts, and capris, then men should be allowed to also. If women can't wear tank tops, men shouldn't be allowed to, and so on.
Delivery companies like UPS and USPS have shorts as part of the uniform. UPS guys have the better looking legs
In an entire post about double standards, you think it's cool to judge men based on their bodies. You KNOW if a male said that about a woman, he'd be crucified.
Load More Replies...Check your handbook. I bet it says nothing about men wearing capris or skirts. Go that route.
Depends where you work. I teach at a community college. In years past, I might have been expected to wear a suit day in and day out (and here it can easily hit the 100s in the first and last few weeks of the school year). But now, I don't even own a suit, and I'm damn sure going to wear shorts and short-sleeved shirt when it's hot. (I will compromise by wearing a shirt with buttons, but usually with a floral print.)
Umm, I think what you missed out on here is that women aren’t allowed to go to work in an office job with shorts on either? (Rolling eyes)
And women cannot step out shirtless in her front yard and not show up for work braless either. Compare wearing a bra to wearing a jock strap with a cup for most of the day. Talking about work, I am glad to see that apparently dress codes for women have eased up a bit and that a lot of positions no longer require that you wear nylons... in California. I have not worn nylons since I stopped working.
One time a Man unfamiliar with our facility accidentally used the Boy’s locker room (instead of the Mens) to change before working out (middle of the day, no kids around because they’re in school) and everybody freaked the f**k out. (I 100% know it was an honest mistake. The guy was so embarrassed because of how the staff reacted.) While on the other hand - adult Women routinely used the Girls locker room because ‘it’s too crowded’ (or whatever the excuse, etc). This was allowed by management for a looong time. Finally got that policy enforced equally when I confronted it after we all had the implicit bias training… Edit- probably file this under r/unpopularopinion, but someone asked - and it is what it is To be clear, the policy was ‘Only adults accompanying young children that need assistance are allowed in the Youth locker rooms’
Any sports or concert events where the woman's room line is a mile long, women can use the stalls in the men's room and no one cares. If a guy went into a woman's room, he'd come out with a high heel in his a*s!
The actual discimination here is that the women's toilets are often inadequate. Men have cubicals plus urinals (which take up less space than cubicals) but women only have cubicals, so women often have fewer facilities. Also, women need longer in the toilet (more clothes to take off, might need to change a pad or tampon). And more people use the women's toilets because women are more likely than men to take children (boys and girls) to the toilet.
Load More Replies...Agreed! It shouldn't be permissible for women, but not men. Glad it's finally being equally enforced.
And it's a sadly well known fact that gay men will assult young boys, but how often do you hear of lesbian women assulting young girls?????????
i would have concerns about ANYPLACE/SPACE that adults were not allowed, only children. sounds suspicious to me.....
Hate to be the realistic jerk here, but I’d say 9/10 child molesters are men. So this mentality shouldn’t be surprising. Most of the incidents are mistakes, undoubtedly.
In a month, I'd be ROFLing at this sight again, American tourists in a unisex compulsory-nude sauna in Europe :)
People with blinding headlights can shine them at your face because "the car came that way", but you can't flash your highbeams back at them to let them know *that you can't see* without being an a*****e
Those halogen daylight sunshine-like blinding a*s headlights should be outlawed. Now they are LED, but tone them down a bit?
The only ones that blind you are illegally-fitted aftermarket ones. (And it's the HiD ones, not Halogen). Factory fittings require that ultra-bright lights automatically level themselves so do not blind other road users.
Load More Replies...Is there no techinical inspection of cars in the US? over here, once yuor car turns 4 yo, there's a bi-yearly (and later on even yearly) obligatory inspection of the technical aspects of your car, related to safety and pollution standards. One of the checks is the way your headlights are set up not to shine to high up, thus not blinding.
In most states, maybe all, we have annual inspections on the car. Some states, but not all, require extra tests on emissions. You have to provide proof of insurance. Insurance isn't cheap, some people can't afford to insure their car and drive anyway. As a country we have Federal rules. We have 50 states with different state laws. Louisiana is the only state governed by Civil Law
Load More Replies...People are told to talk to each other about grievances they are having, but they are also expected to not complain to each other.
Gay men making misogynistic jokes
The standards men and women both seem to hold each other yet not fulfill themselves is something I’m worried is so embedded that it may not ever change.
Men: I'm young at heart (nothing wrong with that.) Women: I'm free spirited (you're not in your twenties you need to settle down and get serious about life.) 😒
That changes for women in later life, I am allowed to be eccentric now lolol
Load More Replies...If you got large numbers of people killed within the last 300 to 500 years, you're a war criminal. If you did the same thing at an earlier point in time, you're a great statesman. Think Julius Caesar or Genghis Khan.
It's more like if you are a succesful war criminal then it's ok. The winners get to write the history books. It's awful but true.
... also applies to the cold war. Capitalism isn't the best - for that matter, winning here doesn't even imply it's better or less evil than soviet-communism was - system there is. It seem that it has had periods that were less evil, less brutal, than soviet-communism, but all that is proven is that it, under the given circumstances, collapses slower. Everything else is, at least, not answered by who won.
Load More Replies...No, just no. That's not how any of that works. Most of our presidents have killed thousands during their terms and some of them won nobel peace prizes.
Err, no, they're viewed just as poorly by modern people. All you're seeing is tht horrendous as it was it was not universally condemned in the same way it would be nowadays, largely because there wasn't anyone to do the condemning. Same was true in many ways about the Holocaust (initially, at least, when it was just thought of as 'resettlement') which is why the UN and other international bodies were set up.
That's not a double standard, that's society evolving. If you owned a car in 1900, you were wealthy. Now almost everyone has a car. Is that a double standard?
Older generation acting like the younger generation is naive and susceptible to being duped. Meanwhile it's only old people I see who: * Post FB updates like "I DO NOT GIVE PERMISSION TO FB TO USE MY PHOTO" or * Believe fake news or * Answer calls from spam phone numbers or * Get pillaged by a Nigerian prince or * Provide their social security and credit card numbers to an unknown number
Having worked in call centers previously, I have spoken to people of all ages who will fall in for those scams
Yes, but older people are more susceptible and preyed upon by scammers.
Load More Replies...Boomer, here and we're blamed for everything wrong now in this country. Which pissses me off ...not just cause I'm a curmudgeon (LOL) but because we did work hard to get things to a certain point, and a lot of the things we worked hard for have been completely unraveled by other people.
EHHH.. it just has to do with knowledge, life experience, etc- but hey, I am just an old mom who told her son "get off the phone and unplug your PC NOW " when he gave a scammer remote access.. what can I say. I believe that anyone can get scammed, and even super informed people can be caught off guard. I myself fell for " Firefox needs to finish the update" on a day that Mozilla rolled out a widely publicized update and while clicking on a link provided BY google in Google News (not just any link from a search). Turned out a perfectly legit site was compromised. I have seen young people go for scams as often as older ones or click on viruses- I used to clean out infected computers during the days that antivirus programs would not necessarily remove them and you had to remove them manually. Best advice I can give: stay informed and updated.
yeah. I have to watch my parents. They think they are so smart which makes them prime scam targets.
A person pulling in millions in passive income and we give them millions more. A person getting enough passive income to avoid starving and we call them a burden on society.
I often wonder who are these "people" that show these biases toward others, and how many of them are there? I mean if it's just a couple of losers pointing out other people's shortcomings, should I take that as an indictment against a specific group or characteristic? Is it coming from institutional members who can affect the culture? Is it coming from people in authority? You find ways to disband/discredit the later two. As for the first, just tell them to kiss...y...a
Why has it always been considered perfectly normal for women to have " girlfriends " but not for a man to have " boyfriends " ? The implication is very strong in the latter.
What do you mean "Our Society"? The world wide web can be accessed by the entire world, as clearly indicated by the use of "world wide".
Society can mean the entire world taken as a whole. Weird place to try and flex.
Load More Replies...A person pulling in millions in passive income and we give them millions more. A person getting enough passive income to avoid starving and we call them a burden on society.
I often wonder who are these "people" that show these biases toward others, and how many of them are there? I mean if it's just a couple of losers pointing out other people's shortcomings, should I take that as an indictment against a specific group or characteristic? Is it coming from institutional members who can affect the culture? Is it coming from people in authority? You find ways to disband/discredit the later two. As for the first, just tell them to kiss...y...a
Why has it always been considered perfectly normal for women to have " girlfriends " but not for a man to have " boyfriends " ? The implication is very strong in the latter.
What do you mean "Our Society"? The world wide web can be accessed by the entire world, as clearly indicated by the use of "world wide".
Society can mean the entire world taken as a whole. Weird place to try and flex.
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