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Major Break Up Pushed Me To Create Photography Series About Self-Love
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Major Break Up Pushed Me To Create Photography Series About Self-Love

After a major break up, I deeply believed that if I didn’t transform myself into a more likable woman, there would be no more happiness in my life. So I started to dispose of everything that defined the old “me”-things I did, said, and even believed, and in particular the way I interacted with men. I chose to “de-self” myself in order to please potential romantic partners.

After a few years, though, I found that the more I de-selfed myself, the more I hated myself. I realized that suppressing the person that my life experience has created would not help with my romantic relationships, and was actually making me unhappy. I needed to find a way to accept myself for who I really am and to declare that acceptance to the world. Photography seemed a perfect way to do this, by allowing me to expose my fears and my own fragility in front of the camera.

To illustrate feelings that are often difficult to explain, I combined a variety of physical props and materials with myself, usually posing with different male counterparts. For most of the images featured in De-Selfing, I chose to keep my own face hidden. I want viewers who have experienced similar loss, pain, and sadness to be able to project themselves into the frame. I also incorporated a lot of negative space in the images to evoke the feeling of isolation and sadness I was experiencing.

Creating the images in De-Selfing has been a therapeutic process for me. Since starting the project, I have picked myself up piece by piece, gotten my confidence back, and been able to hear my own voice again.

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Starflower
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4 years ago

Um, alrighty then...

Patti
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4 years ago

Yes not a fan

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Kerolos Saleib
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4 years ago

I love dark and disturbing, but these don't reflect self love, if anything the hurt from the break up and the misleading and manipulation. Compromises made and loves given. Still no self love. Beautiful pictures though

Stuart Land
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4 years ago

Try reading the bit below the title, which expresses exactly what she was after. The title was probably made by boredpanda, not the photographer.

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Anna Mcaffee
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4 years ago

Not sure if I like

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Starflower
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4 years ago

Um, alrighty then...

Patti
Community Member
4 years ago

Yes not a fan

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Kerolos Saleib
Community Member
4 years ago

I love dark and disturbing, but these don't reflect self love, if anything the hurt from the break up and the misleading and manipulation. Compromises made and loves given. Still no self love. Beautiful pictures though

Stuart Land
Community Member
4 years ago

Try reading the bit below the title, which expresses exactly what she was after. The title was probably made by boredpanda, not the photographer.

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Anna Mcaffee
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4 years ago

Not sure if I like

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