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Woman Shares BF’s Creepy Confession, People Are Worried Over Her Last Update
Sometimes, the line between sweet effort and straight-up weird isn’t clear. Other times, it’s creepily obvious.
Reddit user ChronicallyDrawing made a post on r/TrueOffMyChest to vent about her current boyfriend. The woman said that their “meet-cute” (first encounter), which she thought was so spontaneous and genuine, was actually meticulously planned months in advance.
The man wanted to confess, hoping it would be seen as a playful reveal, but instead, his words raised questions she couldn’t ignore, and now, their relationship feels less like a rom-com and more like a psychological thriller.
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This woman would probably suggest that it depends on what you’re confessing
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Following numerous concerned comments from others, the woman posted a puzzling update:
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This update, however, was fake, having been written by her boyfriend. She later provided a genuine one:
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Emotional games blur the boundary between natural connection and controlling behavior
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Interestingly, scientists have demonstrated that they can boost romantic chemistry with manipulation.
A study published in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences showed that subtly enhancing smiles during online speed dates increased romantic attraction between people. Using a novel experimental platform, researchers manipulated facial expressions in real time—without participants’ awareness—to test how synchronized or incongruent smiling patterns influenced perceptions of connection.
When both individuals’ smiles were artificially boosted, participants reported greater interest in their partners and more satisfying conversations. Even though these manipulations affected feelings and vocal behavior (especially among men), they went largely unnoticed, highlighting the powerful yet unconscious role of nonverbal cues in shaping romantic chemistry.
However, the experiment was nowhere near the level the Redditor has described in her post.
We could debate whether it’s possible for two strangers to get together without any superficiality at all, but at some point, a line has to be drawn between harmless influence and social engineering. Where that line falls will vary for different people, and it’s probably impossible to find a universal answer to the question of what’s acceptable and what’s not.
This case, though, sounds like the ultimate example of love bombing, a form of psychological and emotional abuse when someone goes above and beyond in an effort to get you involved with them.
And the author of the post needs to be at least aware of it. “Initially, you might feel safe, secure, and swept off your feet because grand gestures are a self-esteem boost and make you feel important and desired,” says psychologist Alaina Tiani, PhD. “But the love bomber’s ultimate goal is not just to seek love but to gain control over someone else. Over time, those grand gestures are an effort to manipulate you and make you feel indebted to and dependent on them.”
People who read the story have had a lot of reactions to it
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Lukas (he/him, it/its) 7 months ago
Between that update and the fact that the whole post has been removed by the moderators of that subreddit, that was... concerning to say the least
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
Apparently the "edit" was posted by her boyfriend, who had/has access to her phone. This is her latest post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/1lbgw7h/do_i_need_a_lawyer_to_file_for_an_order_of/
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Robert Beveridge 7 months ago
Interesting that no one (that I saw anyway) commented on the very strong possibility that this "drunken confession" was actually an acid test to gauge how far he could escalate things the next day. Classic boundary pushing behavior.
Bonesko 7 months ago
My boyfriend and I met when he came into a gas station I worked at, and I joked that we met because he 'stalked me' because he came in a couple more times before he asked me out because it was it was actually out of his way and he didn't usually go there. This is WAY more creepy!
Crystalwitch60 7 months ago
We need a bloody update LIKE NOW ! I’ve lived this , 14 yrs second marriage to a coercive man , n once he put a ring on it the mask slowly slipped ! this as a few said is what’s happening here LITTERALLY , he lives with you , and y are where he wants you , he stalked you , found out as many likes dislikes of yours he possibly could , to make you feel comfortable with him , like you were meant to be !! to him you were , he choose you , manipulated you into being with him , and like the others said to , that last update sounded to me like a forced comment !! N a cry for help PLEASE LOVELY TELL YOU YOU ARE OK XX
Sean Of The Spiders 7 months ago
It's up above this, posted in the comments an hour before you posted. Lakota put a link and then someone Blue pasted the info
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weatherwitch 6 months ago
This is absolutely horrific. That he listened in on conversations to get the information he needed to manipulate her is insane too. Poor woman 😔
Mimi M 7 months ago (edited)
OP: Do I need a lawyer to file for an order of protection? [VA] (self.legaladvice) submitted 1 day ago * by chronicallydrawing Location: Virginia Long story short, my ex boyfriend ended up being more than a little crazy. I learned that he stalked me for over a year before we started dating and after I learned that he became violent. I have screenshots of threats of violence that he’s sent me, as well as pictures of some bruises that I have from him. There’s also security footage of him attempting to sneak into my place of work to find me. My local police department has been generally unhelpful with their advice and have told me that unless he’s actively harming me they can’t do anything. This is regardless of all of the evidence I have that he fully intends to hurt and/or k**l me. They have taken statements from me and there is a report open though. Do you believe the evidence I have is sufficient to get an order of protection? And if I am going to file one do I need to have a lawyer?
Lukas (he/him, it/its) 7 months ago
Between that update and the fact that the whole post has been removed by the moderators of that subreddit, that was... concerning to say the least
LakotaWolf (she/her) 7 months ago
Apparently the "edit" was posted by her boyfriend, who had/has access to her phone. This is her latest post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/1lbgw7h/do_i_need_a_lawyer_to_file_for_an_order_of/
Load More Replies... Robert Beveridge 7 months ago
Interesting that no one (that I saw anyway) commented on the very strong possibility that this "drunken confession" was actually an acid test to gauge how far he could escalate things the next day. Classic boundary pushing behavior.
Bonesko 7 months ago
My boyfriend and I met when he came into a gas station I worked at, and I joked that we met because he 'stalked me' because he came in a couple more times before he asked me out because it was it was actually out of his way and he didn't usually go there. This is WAY more creepy!
Crystalwitch60 7 months ago
We need a bloody update LIKE NOW ! I’ve lived this , 14 yrs second marriage to a coercive man , n once he put a ring on it the mask slowly slipped ! this as a few said is what’s happening here LITTERALLY , he lives with you , and y are where he wants you , he stalked you , found out as many likes dislikes of yours he possibly could , to make you feel comfortable with him , like you were meant to be !! to him you were , he choose you , manipulated you into being with him , and like the others said to , that last update sounded to me like a forced comment !! N a cry for help PLEASE LOVELY TELL YOU YOU ARE OK XX
Sean Of The Spiders 7 months ago
It's up above this, posted in the comments an hour before you posted. Lakota put a link and then someone Blue pasted the info
Load More Replies... weatherwitch 6 months ago
This is absolutely horrific. That he listened in on conversations to get the information he needed to manipulate her is insane too. Poor woman 😔
Mimi M 7 months ago (edited)
OP: Do I need a lawyer to file for an order of protection? [VA] (self.legaladvice) submitted 1 day ago * by chronicallydrawing Location: Virginia Long story short, my ex boyfriend ended up being more than a little crazy. I learned that he stalked me for over a year before we started dating and after I learned that he became violent. I have screenshots of threats of violence that he’s sent me, as well as pictures of some bruises that I have from him. There’s also security footage of him attempting to sneak into my place of work to find me. My local police department has been generally unhelpful with their advice and have told me that unless he’s actively harming me they can’t do anything. This is regardless of all of the evidence I have that he fully intends to hurt and/or k**l me. They have taken statements from me and there is a report open though. Do you believe the evidence I have is sufficient to get an order of protection? And if I am going to file one do I need to have a lawyer?
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