Paintings Inspired By My Friend, Victims Of Domestic Violence.

Oil painting on Plywood by Igor Dobrowolski
more info: www.igordobrowolski.com

(inscription on the wall) “Every year more then 2000 rapes in Poland, We don’t like refugees we heve our own Team”

2000 rape is only the value registered by the police.

-Leslie Morgan Steiner “Why domestic violence victims don’t leave”

“Why did I stay? The answer is easy. I didn’t know he was abusing me. Even though he held those loaded guns to my head, pushed me down stairs, threatened to kill our dog, pulled the key out of the car ignition as I drove down the highway, poured coffee grinds on my head as I dressed for a job interview, I never once thought of myself as a battered wife. Instead, I was a very strong woman in love with a deeply troubled man, and I was the only person on Earth who could help face his demons.

The other question everybody asks is, why doesn’t she just leave? Why didn’t I walk out? I could have left any time. To me, this is the saddest and most painful question that people ask, because we victims know something you usually don’t: It’s incredibly dangerous to leave an abuser. Because the final step in the domestic violence pattern is kill her. Over 70 percent of domestic violence murders happen after the victim has ended the relationship, after she’s gotten out, because then the abuser has nothing left to lose. Other outcomes include long-term stalking, even after the abuser remarries; denial of financial resources; and manipulation of the family court system to terrify the victim and her children, who are regularly forced by family court judges to spend unsupervised time with the man who beat their mother.And still we ask, why doesn’t she just leave?

I was able to leave, because of one final, sadistic beating that broke through my denial. I realized that the man who I loved so much was going to kill me if I let him. So I broke the silence. I told everyone: the police, my neighbors, my friends and family, total strangers, and I’m here today because you all helped me.

We tend to stereotype victims as grisly headlines, self-destructive women, damaged goods. The question, “Why does she stay?” is code for some people for, “It’s her fault for staying,” as if victims intentionally choose to fall in love with men intent upon destroying us.”
-Leslie Morgan Steiner

“Right now, maybe you’re thinking, “Wow, this is fascinating,” or, “Wow, how stupid was she,” but this whole time, I’ve actually been talking about you. I promise you there are several people listening to me right now who are currently being abused or who were abused as children or who are abusers themselves. Abuse could be affecting your daughter, your sister, your best friend right now.
I was able to end my own crazy love story by breaking the silence. I’m still breaking the silence today. It’s my way of helping other victims, and it’s my final request of you. Talk about what you heard here. Abuse thrives only in silence. You have the power to end domestic violence simply by shining a spotlight on it.We victims need everyone. We need every one of you to understand the secrets of domestic violence.Show abuse the light of day by talking about it with your children, your coworkers, your friends and family. Recast survivors as wonderful, lovable people with full futures. Recognize the early signs of violence and conscientiously intervene, deescalate it, show victims a safe way out. Together we can make our beds, our dinner tables and our families the safe and peaceful oases they should be.”

-Leslie Morgan Steiner

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Paintings Inspired By My Friend, Victims Of Domestic Violence.