Husband Fed Up With Doing 100% Of The Chores While Pregnant Wife Is Doing Nothing Finally Snaps

Phew! I was really concerned people were going to criticize this poor guy. But yeah, he was being entirely reasonable. She was not.

This lady is LAZY!!! Being active during pregnancy helps with delivery and is beneficial for mother and child as long as both Mom and baby are healthy which seems to be the case here. Mom admits that she feels great. So get off your ass and do something!!! Your husband is sacrificing his life and it's not healthy for him. I feel bad for this dad. As for the MIL, she's an enabler. Poor guy.

This is abuse. The turning on the waterworks because you refuse to go to the store in the middle of the night for fruit snacks is abuse. I've known Zumba instructors who have Zumba-ed multiple classes a day until the month before they're due.

I want to add she's TA for also involving her mother and her mother inserting herself. I tell my parents NOTHING about my marriage as far as fights, disagreements, finances etc. It's not their business and it causes problems between you and your spouse and then your spouse and your parents. No good can come of it. KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT Caveat is of course if you are in danger and need to tell them to escape. I hope that's an obvious one.

Ugh. This woman is clearly being manipulative and lazy, but I do get annoyed that whenever this comes up, people come out of the woodwork to be like, "My wife worked 110 hour weeks while 9 months pregnant with quadruplets! Pregnancy isn't a disability!" and all that. No, it's not a disability (though several conditions caused by pregnancy can be), but it is a medical condition. Again, this lady was being selfish and lazy. But there's a weird swing the opposite way that a woman growing a human being in her body, throwing up non-stop, her pelvis separated, etc. should be treated exactly the same as a normal, 20-year-old healthy athlete or something. Like, no. There is a middle ground here.

Mate I did all the chores right up until I gave birth, and I have a spinal disorder! This guy is NTA at all (not what I had first expected when I saw this article, I'll admit!)

Ha! Two can play at this game. Dig deep in researching brain development and body health. If she is aware that stress can biologically change even a fetus, she should also be aware that food and inactivity can as well. If she wants to make taking care of the fetus her only role, she needs to eat only healthy foods, exercise etc.

I'm really sorry that he is finding this out about his wife during a pregnancy because it means they are going to add a child custody argument to the rest of the divorce proceedings.

NTA! Sounds like her Mom babied her and allowed for laziness, which is why she's defending her daughter. It's also possible that wife didn't give her the whole truth.

So apparently this story is from 11 months ago. Looking on reddit I sadly can't seem to find a resolution of things. Too bad. I wanted to know what happened.

Sadly, the amount of red flags she’s giving right now are far beyond just AH. She will use this pregnancy, the baby/child and anything else as a means to manipulate this man for as long as she can. I feel sorry for the husband and the unborn baby being brought into this world by this horrid woman.

NTA. You're being used as a slavemule. Your partner is a VERY lazy, entitled, self absorbed woman. I'd honestly be considering splitting up before the birth and going for 50/50 custody, because this behavior will only get worse once the child is born, and the child may face neglect/abuse from her in the future if she's this self absorbed and self important. MIL will be no help, she's clearly on her daughter's lazy side. Your partner is also lying to you/gaslighting you/guilt blackmailing you that chores will cause damage to the baby. Women in china birth in rice paddies, pick the kid up and go back to work (not condoning, just showing how damn tough women can be) so her reason for not doing chores is absolute manipulation. She doesn't care its affecting your health or even that you don't get enough sleep. Tell her to shape up, or ship out. You're not here to be her slave.

I was 40 when pregnant for the first time. I chopped wood for the cooker and heating, I fed smallholding animals, did all the housework in a 12-room stone house, fed pets and even worked to month 6. With the second child (at 42) I did all this and carried second child on my front and sometimes first child on my back going uphill 10 minutes to the house (halfway up a mountainside with no road). I had no car, just the bus. No pushchair. I had two extremely healthy pregnancies and good births without painkillers. This woman is taking her husband for a ride, and it won't stop with the birth - he'll be doing the night feeds and changes on top of everything else. I think they need to have a serious chat.

Poor guy. He's married a jerk and for some reason decided to knock her up. I'm 33 weeks pregnant right now, high risk and I'm doing a full time job and a third of the home chores, hubby does the other two thirds since I'm getting a bit tired now and he works full time too. You chose your wife really wrong, sweetheart, I'm so sorry for you.

You're gonna have a hard time un-creating that monster

I really don't like people who treat pregnancy like an illness, as long as it's not a high-risk one. I've been pregnant too last year and was more than happy to keep doing those chores which didn't include heavy lifting or stepping on a ladder (or touching cat litter bc of toxoplasmosis). Of course some adjustments need to be made, but you can't except your partner to do everything. Especially if it's not a life-or-death situation, like a craving at night. Put on your shoes and get your snack yourself, lady.

Sounds like he married a dependapottamus.

She kicked you out of the bedroom … go stay in a motel for a bit…. Just long enough for her to have to deal with some cooking and laundry.

My water broke while I was sitting in my office chair at work. I can't imagine just sitting around doing nothing the whole pregnancy (unless you are high risk and are unable). I feel bad for him because this is the easy part. Just wait till they have a newborn.

She strikes me as an emotional abuser.

FFS, she's pregnant, not dying! Next time she calls him a shitty husband he should say she's a shitty wife!

Get. Rid. Of. Her.

Wow.. you are pregnant not almost death. Unless you have a really bad pregnancy or the doctor says you need bed rest, you still can do things. Yes, it's nice when someone takes care of you, yes, some things are not good to do for you and yes you should rest but come on. I did my whole pregnancy alone and I still survived and my child survived too.

NTA I worked till I popped mine out. Selfish.

Yeah, she should be able to help out. The only thing that would prevent her from moving is approval from a doctor if she even has complications. Just imagine if they decide to have another kid and he's still working away from home and if she decides to stay at home she'll have no choice but to actually take responsibility and contribute to the household. Moving around during pregnancy isn't harmful, it's kind of pretty helpful. There be lasses that even go out with doc approved exercises (keeps muscles strong). Being dormant in bed can kind of make muscles and even bone tissue atrophied. 6 months is a looong time to be sitting on your butt.

This guy is going to have a severe stroke before he's 35 at this rate, and then she's going to really have to depend on her mother (who clearly thinks her daughter can do no wrong). Seriously, if she wants a healthy blood flow to her baby, she needs to get her own heart pumping more than what it takes to play on her phone all day. This couple is headed for a seriously bad future, and the MIL is just an absolute bitch for getting involved yet not telling her daughter to suck it up.

She’s only just over halfway in her pregnancy, she’s not been instructed to be on medical bed rest etc? I worked 10-12 hour days when pregnant with my third, with two others aged 3 and 6. My husband helped out a lot, but I never demanded anything of him. I feel so sorry for this dad to be, if his wife is “so exhausted” before she’s even had the baby!

Back in the dark ages when I was taking horseback riding lessons, I had a friend who was pregnant with twins who kept riding until she literally could not climb up on the horse. Kids turned out just fine.

There is NO WAY I would've went to the couch after nearly killing myself from stress. Its s**t like this that makes guys ditch the wife and baby.

She is way more than lazy. She is selfish. She wants hard ship. She should get stuck in the snow on a street the city refused to plow. I had to dig my car out before I could get to work.

What? Vacuuming and doing dishes harms a baby?? I watched a documentary of women planting rice fields and one went into labor, stopped to have the baby, and then came back the next day to help finish. If she is talking litter box...yeah that is not good. She sounds like she wants to be a princess, not a mom or wife.

I worked until the day before I was induced. I also did chores and exercised. There are women who have to do manual labor while pregnant for crying out loud. Unless bedrest is ordered by a doctor, there is no reason for this man's wife to be that lazy and put him through so much stress!

Not that I can defend her completely . . . but . . . I am sure she will be working, cleaning and caring for child the rest of her life and hubby will wash his hands of this when the baby is born. He will do menial tasks thinking he is helping, but never enough. I know he's not an a** but he made this choice and now doesn't like it. They need a conference and spell out EXACTLY what they can each do. Sorry, I will side with the woman every time a child is involved. Women have to. Men do what they choose to.

Well the mother-in-law answered the whole question for me. She obviously has raised her daughter that pregnant women are too delicate to lift a broom and must be coddled every minute or it might harm the baby. Obviously mom was born in a manor in the 17th century. I'm curious as to how the girl-child is going to handle having a baby. I hope she grows up really quickly.

Where did this new fad of women thinking they are princesses and have to be 100% coddled during pregnancy come from? Not just coddled but their poor significant others are supposed to just take any amount or kind of emotional abuse. It's really terrible.

Yikes. Good luck to him when the baby arrives.

1) Unfair to you. She can still work up to labor especially if it's so easy a pregnancy. 2) Now you know how many women feel who don't have help from husbands.

NTA especially if she's feeling well and the doctor said there are no complications. She can do simple things like washing the dishes or cleaning around the house. Not moving during pregnancy will make it harder for her when she's about to pop. I moved a lot and told my ex not to baby me during my pregnancy if there are no health issues. I turned out fine and had a fairly easy labor. It even helped me better to adjust when the baby came as I didn't feel tired easily. Got back in shape real fast too.

I did martial arts up until my 7th month with my first pregnancy (obviously, no sparing, just forms). I had a one-year old and a deployed husband during the second pregnancy, during which I also had to move houses because it was during the housing bubble burst. I was finishing my masters degree and teaching high school during the first pregnancy. Have this woman call me. I'd be happy to explain to her how delicate a woman is while pregnant. 🤬🙄

that wife is a Karen and a b****. my advice? take th baby and RUN

NTA but probably you have put yourself in this position yourself. I can imagine how much of a caring and nurturing and sweet man you are. Probably, because of loving and caring feelings, you offered her to help and put her to rest in the beginning of the pregnancy. And she is now used to you caring for her and doing everything else in the house. Now, you notice you get a little burnt out and ask her to do more stuff. That offends her now. It is like giving a monkey 2 bananas and one day you give only one. And her hormones is reigning over her reactions, so she is not reasonable. Where two dogs fight, two is to take the blame. She still is the a-hole of course, she could have been more empathetic towards you, but ... some women with hormones can be really outragious. Just put some boundaries to save your own sanity and with the wife...just sit it out. When the baby arrives the hormones will diminish and she will get her senses back.

He's not the a**hole here but I can't say I blame her either lol. 9 times out of 10 we end up with a guy that won't do s**t to help (and barely work) unless we're not able to for some reason. Women are expected to work, clean, raise the kids, and raise the husband. When we complain it's all "yeah, men suck" then they whine about man bashing..