Mom Emails School To Tell Her Kid Won’t Be Doing Homework Anymore, And Here’s Why
With recesses getting shorter and workloads at school getting bigger, kids are getting to have less and less free time. Is this really good for our children? One mom thinks not.
When Bunmi Laditan’s 10-year-old daughter started experiencing chest pain and waking up in the middle of the night dues to stress, Laditan decided enough was enough. So, even though her daughter loves independent learning, the mother of 3 emailed her daughter’s school to let them know she was done with homework. Following the email, Laditan wrote a now viral Facebook post about how her home is now going to be homework-free: “My kid is done with homework. I just sent an email to her school letting her know she’s all done,” Laditan writes. “I said “drastically reduce” but I was trying to be polite because she’s finished.” The post has gone viral since with over 53k likes, 12k shares, and thousands of parents from all over agreeing with her.
When a girl started getting chest pains because of too much homework, her mom decided enough was enough
“My kid is done with homework. I just sent an email to her school letting her know she’s all done”
The internet was quick to support Laditan’s decision
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Share on FacebookIt makes me a little bit angry when people think that we don't have homework in Finland... I just spent 5 hours doing my homework. But I guess it doesn't count because I live in Finland :D
But otherwise I agree with everything! Homework isn't the key to success.
Load More Replies...We don't have any ban on homework here in Finland! Stop spreading this nonsense! Though we don't sit at school 8 hours a day. So maybe that's the difference.
The child in question is 10 years old. Approximately how much homework do 10 year olds in Finland have?
Load More Replies...If you have a a real concern about the amount of work students are getting, you need to get involved. Speak to teachers and other parents about changing homework loads, instead of risking your child's grades and send her to face her teachers, while you make a stand from social media.
She did that. She sent an email to the school and offered to talk to the teacher and principal of the school. Her tone was polite and she's willing to compromise. This is ongoing. Posting this on social media is drawing crucial attention to this problem.
Load More Replies...My eldest son left school in jine. My youngest is in year 8. I've never made them do homework at home. For the simple reason, I wouldn't work here, either. There is a homework club at school if they have some important stuff. Where there is a teacher to help answer tough questions. But home is a place to relax. It's a safe place. And they are only children for a blink of their lives. I have to make sure they enjoy it before it's gone and the responsibility begins.
I guess that depends on what you define 'homework' as. If you mean EXTRA work beyond what they do in school, I can agree with you. However, for me, 'homework' is simply that which you did not get finished in school. If you waste your time and choose not to properly work and finish the given assignment, then yes, you SHOULD make that up at home. In my academic career, I have seen the opposite. Many students don't even make an effort to do the work at home they should have done at school. Extra homework makes no sense when you are fighting with them to do what they were supposed to do in the first place. The only time I give extra work is when the parent specifically requests it for their child.
Load More Replies...When I was getting my degree in education I was taught that the purpose of homework should be to determine how much of the lesson the student has learned. It should be done independently (no help from mom, dad, or big sis). Most importantly it should consist of just enough questions, activities, or problems to allow the teacher to gauge understanding, so 2 - 3 questions or problems per topic. The only impact it should have on grades is a point system for completing it; the point is not to stress over the right answer, but to show understanding, or lack thereof, so losing points for the wrong answer is counter productive. The teacher can then review the understanding of the students and review, reteach, or move on as needed. This seems like a good theory, although I don't teach so have no idea how good a system it is in practice, if anyone actually does it.
Honestly, I don't see a point of 4th or 5th grade kid doing homework at home for more than 30 minutes a day especially if he spends more than 6 hours a day at school.
Load More Replies...When I was a kid (American living abroad) I had so much homework that I too had chest pains. My parents hauled me into the school where we met with my teacher and principal. They allowed me a space to voice my concerns, and then proceeded to teach me time management and content skimming skills - skills that helped me through college and throughout my careers. Perhaps the real conversation should be with the child, helping this young girl learn stress management, workload management etc. After all, the job world really doesn't care how stressed you are. They care about the end result.
2-3 hours homework each days? what kind of school is that? we do his homework in the week end. 30-45 min saturday and 30-45 min sunday and it's done! no homework during the week
You're very lucky Kjorn. I'm glad you're growing up at a school that is a bit lighter with your workload. I had to deal with this much homework at the age of 7. I'd stay up later in the night trying to complete my homework with my poor mom who never even learned some of the lessons I'm learning. (which further proves that they're making work unnecessarily harder for the future generations)
Load More Replies...Totally agree with and support the no homework sentiment. Modern American education is broken.
And standardized testing is not only socio-economically biased, but is generally an unreliable indicator of intellect and potential.
Load More Replies...I relate so much to this child. I mostly enjoy school and love to learn new things every day. But I absolutely hate homework. Just like her, I started to experience severe stress and frequent panic attacks every time I thought about school. (and I still do at times.) I almost feel like I grew up way too quickly because I never got much of a chance to hang out with other kids. Sure, I had about an hour to play but sometimes even that last hour was taken away from homework. I'd stay up for hours, sometimes even up until 12, trying to complete homework at only the young age of 7. I hope school realizes the damage they're doing to kids. I praise and thank this mom for helping her child.
Thank you! Thank you, thank you! I am 13 and in 7th grade and one night I had math homework that took me 3+ hours and I didn't even finish it because- hey teachers, new's flash- I HAVE A LIFE!!!! And that wasn't even counting the other subjects. This is only my first year of high school and I am absolutely dreading the rest because of the homework. Overall, I enjoy school. The majority of the teachers are kind and funny but the homework is ridiculous. I am not trying to brag but i am a straight A student with 90+ averages in every subject and I have always wanted to go to college but I know that in college the work load is even more ridiculous so now I am questioning whether or not I should go.
I remember when i was in school, i just decided to do less work because i felt there was no need to work very hard on something that won't even help me in what I want to do with my life, I decided to focus more on being an artist and practiced all the time, i got called lazy for not doing homework but i was actually still working very hard in something I wanted to do. by the time i graduated, barely, i regretted nothing, i got in art college and I am very happy right now, high school just caused so much depression and made me feel hopeless, i think a lot of health problems are caused by the education system and it makes me really angry.
Load More Replies...It makes me a little bit angry when people think that we don't have homework in Finland... I just spent 5 hours doing my homework. But I guess it doesn't count because I live in Finland :D
But otherwise I agree with everything! Homework isn't the key to success.
Load More Replies...We don't have any ban on homework here in Finland! Stop spreading this nonsense! Though we don't sit at school 8 hours a day. So maybe that's the difference.
The child in question is 10 years old. Approximately how much homework do 10 year olds in Finland have?
Load More Replies...If you have a a real concern about the amount of work students are getting, you need to get involved. Speak to teachers and other parents about changing homework loads, instead of risking your child's grades and send her to face her teachers, while you make a stand from social media.
She did that. She sent an email to the school and offered to talk to the teacher and principal of the school. Her tone was polite and she's willing to compromise. This is ongoing. Posting this on social media is drawing crucial attention to this problem.
Load More Replies...My eldest son left school in jine. My youngest is in year 8. I've never made them do homework at home. For the simple reason, I wouldn't work here, either. There is a homework club at school if they have some important stuff. Where there is a teacher to help answer tough questions. But home is a place to relax. It's a safe place. And they are only children for a blink of their lives. I have to make sure they enjoy it before it's gone and the responsibility begins.
I guess that depends on what you define 'homework' as. If you mean EXTRA work beyond what they do in school, I can agree with you. However, for me, 'homework' is simply that which you did not get finished in school. If you waste your time and choose not to properly work and finish the given assignment, then yes, you SHOULD make that up at home. In my academic career, I have seen the opposite. Many students don't even make an effort to do the work at home they should have done at school. Extra homework makes no sense when you are fighting with them to do what they were supposed to do in the first place. The only time I give extra work is when the parent specifically requests it for their child.
Load More Replies...When I was getting my degree in education I was taught that the purpose of homework should be to determine how much of the lesson the student has learned. It should be done independently (no help from mom, dad, or big sis). Most importantly it should consist of just enough questions, activities, or problems to allow the teacher to gauge understanding, so 2 - 3 questions or problems per topic. The only impact it should have on grades is a point system for completing it; the point is not to stress over the right answer, but to show understanding, or lack thereof, so losing points for the wrong answer is counter productive. The teacher can then review the understanding of the students and review, reteach, or move on as needed. This seems like a good theory, although I don't teach so have no idea how good a system it is in practice, if anyone actually does it.
Honestly, I don't see a point of 4th or 5th grade kid doing homework at home for more than 30 minutes a day especially if he spends more than 6 hours a day at school.
Load More Replies...When I was a kid (American living abroad) I had so much homework that I too had chest pains. My parents hauled me into the school where we met with my teacher and principal. They allowed me a space to voice my concerns, and then proceeded to teach me time management and content skimming skills - skills that helped me through college and throughout my careers. Perhaps the real conversation should be with the child, helping this young girl learn stress management, workload management etc. After all, the job world really doesn't care how stressed you are. They care about the end result.
2-3 hours homework each days? what kind of school is that? we do his homework in the week end. 30-45 min saturday and 30-45 min sunday and it's done! no homework during the week
You're very lucky Kjorn. I'm glad you're growing up at a school that is a bit lighter with your workload. I had to deal with this much homework at the age of 7. I'd stay up later in the night trying to complete my homework with my poor mom who never even learned some of the lessons I'm learning. (which further proves that they're making work unnecessarily harder for the future generations)
Load More Replies...Totally agree with and support the no homework sentiment. Modern American education is broken.
And standardized testing is not only socio-economically biased, but is generally an unreliable indicator of intellect and potential.
Load More Replies...I relate so much to this child. I mostly enjoy school and love to learn new things every day. But I absolutely hate homework. Just like her, I started to experience severe stress and frequent panic attacks every time I thought about school. (and I still do at times.) I almost feel like I grew up way too quickly because I never got much of a chance to hang out with other kids. Sure, I had about an hour to play but sometimes even that last hour was taken away from homework. I'd stay up for hours, sometimes even up until 12, trying to complete homework at only the young age of 7. I hope school realizes the damage they're doing to kids. I praise and thank this mom for helping her child.
Thank you! Thank you, thank you! I am 13 and in 7th grade and one night I had math homework that took me 3+ hours and I didn't even finish it because- hey teachers, new's flash- I HAVE A LIFE!!!! And that wasn't even counting the other subjects. This is only my first year of high school and I am absolutely dreading the rest because of the homework. Overall, I enjoy school. The majority of the teachers are kind and funny but the homework is ridiculous. I am not trying to brag but i am a straight A student with 90+ averages in every subject and I have always wanted to go to college but I know that in college the work load is even more ridiculous so now I am questioning whether or not I should go.
I remember when i was in school, i just decided to do less work because i felt there was no need to work very hard on something that won't even help me in what I want to do with my life, I decided to focus more on being an artist and practiced all the time, i got called lazy for not doing homework but i was actually still working very hard in something I wanted to do. by the time i graduated, barely, i regretted nothing, i got in art college and I am very happy right now, high school just caused so much depression and made me feel hopeless, i think a lot of health problems are caused by the education system and it makes me really angry.
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