Hey Pandas, Do You Have Any Questions About Queerness? (Closed)

I think it might be best to use their current names and pronouns because many trans people aren't comfortable when being reminded of their dead

Oops, typo... I meant to say "and", not "an", at the end there :)

I think you should use their preferred name and pronouns, like the name/pronouns they use *now*, and not the name/pronouns they used before. :> (Edit: typo)

Yep! I used they/them primarily for nearly a year before I fully transitioned, just do whatever you're comfortable with

Definitely, I know a lot of people who did this and they told me that they were not binary but then if a few weeks later they were like I am gender fluid or I am demi girl or you could just choose to identify as whatever you want. What you could also do is just say I don't know yet.

I figured out I was queer when I was 12, but it took me until early this school year (I'm 14) to realize my actual identity. It's a hell of a journey, I only figured it out when I stopped denying that I'm trans, then I realized I'm gay as f**k a few weeks later. It did take me multiple years to accept that I use he/they tho

Cute character in a tv show 🫠

It’s really hard to explain. Long story short, I just kind of slowly realized “wait. I never really notice guys for being cute, but I do for girls?”

I figured out I was queer when I was 8 actually! I had an older friend who was gay and so obviously I knew about it at an early age. When I was 9 I started 'dating' a girl (I was female at the time) and nothing came to my mind but when I was 10 I was able to scream "IM GAY" from the rooftops.

When I was about 11, starting middle school, I realized that I really liked this girl, and it all started there. Now I am questioning my gender and sexuality, and I know I won’t be able to figure it out for a while

Anything that the general public sees as 'other' in terms of sexuality and gender. Once complete acceptance happens, queerness won't exist cause hetero and cisnormativity won't exist

Thank you, it really means a lot that you wrote this, and that you can so easily adapt to and accept changes as they happen in the world

If someone isn't comfortable with he, they, she or it, and they feel like an established neopronoun (or a new one, but that's rarer) fits better, they often use it. Most people using neopronouns also use another 'regular' pronoun in addition. When I was still pretransition and denying that I'm a guy, I used xe/xym for a little while. It really didn't fit me but there are some people who feel right with them, even though they can be confusing sometimes.

It's totally not necessary to have a label. You can just be you!

Hi there! Labels are not required; some people just call themselves unlabeled but still part of the community, or just call themselves queer. Also, (if you are still figuring out pronouns and stuff) If you aren’t uncomfortable with she/her and they/them, I would recommend looking up the gender demigirl; it’s what I am! I guess I would describe it as…somewhat femenine? Or, if there was a line like Fem———Nonbinary———Masc, I’d be inbetween Feminine and Nonbinary. Of course, this is only a suggestion; I’m not trying to label you :P Sexual and romantic attractions can be different! I have a friend who was homosexual but also biromantic. Hope that helps and clears some stuff up!

you don't need a label, love. whatever you feel comfortable with

Labels are just the words you feel comfortable with, you don't have to matche everything perfectly. Pansexual is defined as attraction to any person without gender being associated with attraction at all, whereas bisexual, polysexual and omnisexual can all mean attraction to all genders with varying or different types of attraction to each gender. Good luck figuring out ur identity!

Basically what crowspectre said. I actually considered myself bi for a month or so when I first figured out I wasn't straight, but I realized that pan fit me better because gender really has no role in attraction for me. It's honestly about what feels most comfortable for you, and which label you think defines you best.

Even if he hasn't had "the surgery" he still identifies as male and the people that call him otherwise are incorrect. Gender is a construct all that matters is how he chooses to identify :) how he presents. Its who he is.