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“I Owe Her Nothing”: Woman Celebrates Failure Of Ex-Husband’s New Wife, Feels Zero Regret For It
Spite can be the greatest motivator, for better or worse. On the upside, it can push a person to do their best and outdo the competition. But on the other hand, it can also drive so much hatred that it clouds judgment.
A woman despised her new husband’s ex-wife, all because of a misunderstanding she failed to clear up. She harbored so much resentment that things got ugly. Caught in the crossfire were the kids, who now refused to formally acknowledge her as their second mother.
This is quite a story told by the first wife, who admits she is “crazy happy” with the recent turn of events.
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A woman experienced this from her ex-husband’s new wife
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Things got so out of control that Child Protective Services had to be involved at one point
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The ex-husband also intervened and tried to increase child custody in his favor
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The messy situation caused the children to be distant from their stepmom, which their mother admittedly celebrated in silence
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Spiteful emotions are addictive and therefore difficult to quench
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According to the author, the stepmom’s grievances began during a minor incident at a custody exchange. The latter could’ve approached her to sort things out like a sensible adult, but instead, she chose to hold a longstanding grudge that ultimately affected her relationship with her stepchildren.
However, it isn’t that easy. According to veteran clinical psychologist Leon F. Seltzer, spiteful acts are like addictive syndromes: they are difficult to extinguish.
“Although acting in such an impulsive manner can be heedless, brash, and foolhardy, at the moment, this behavior is tension-reducing and emotionally gratifying,” he wrote.
Seltzer adds that acting out of spite and holding that grudge is an act of ego gratification that may justify vengeful behavior as “righteous.” This is likely why the stepmom believed she was in the right and continued to behave unreasonably.
However, such behavior may also be a case of vindictive narcissism. According to licensed clinician and therapist Hailey Shafir, LCHMHCS, LCAS, CCS, some signs include harboring resentment, having a “get even” mentality, weaponizing information, and failing to work through conflict.
As you may have read multiple times on this website, trying to reason with a possible narcissist is a losing battle. It’s why most experts would advise limiting interactions and keeping a distance.
However, Shafir also recommends using leverage to protect yourself.
“Most people aren’t used to thinking this way, but it’s necessary when you’re dealing with someone who only thinks like this,” Shafir wrote for Choosing Therapy, stating that this is a strategy to approach if setting boundaries won’t work.
In this case, the author’s “leverage” would be her children and their non-relationship with their stepmother. She wasn’t using them for such a purpose, which is commendable, and no one can blame her for rooting against her ex-husband’s new wife.
The author answered readers’ questions to provide more context for her story
Most people sided with her, stating that the stepmother crossed a line
Others shared similar experiences
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Flo 4 months ago
Dear diary, after reading this story, today marks the 123,456th time I've thought to myself "I am ever so grateful, happy and lucky not to have kids." May the days of peace and quiet continue to prosper for many years to come.
Janelle Collard 4 months ago
Same! Think of all the s**t we've avoided! 👍😁
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KatSaidWhat 4 months ago
Document her abuse and then apply for more custody rights, telling the judge that you don't want your children around someone who is a*****e and lied to CPS because she is trying to take your kids away from you.
Flo 4 months ago
Dear diary, after reading this story, today marks the 123,456th time I've thought to myself "I am ever so grateful, happy and lucky not to have kids." May the days of peace and quiet continue to prosper for many years to come.
Janelle Collard 4 months ago
Same! Think of all the s**t we've avoided! 👍😁
Load More Replies... KatSaidWhat 4 months ago
Document her abuse and then apply for more custody rights, telling the judge that you don't want your children around someone who is a*****e and lied to CPS because she is trying to take your kids away from you.
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