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“No, It’s Permanent”: TikToker Shares How A Gynecologist Refused To Sterilize Her And Goes Viral
“No, It’s Permanent”: TikToker Shares How A Gynecologist Refused To Sterilize Her And Goes Viral
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“No, It’s Permanent”: TikToker Shares How A Gynecologist Refused To Sterilize Her And Goes Viral

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Tubal ligation is a surgical procedure to prevent pregnancy. It has commonly been called “getting your tubes tied,” and is also known as female sterilization.

According to ACOG (The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists,) it is ethically permissible to perform a requested sterilization in nulliparous women and young women who do not wish to have children. Providing a permanent sterilization within a reproductive justice framework means that physicians recognize that all women have a right to pursue and to prevent pregnancy.

Sadly, many physicians still approach sterilization requests, particularly from young women, with paternalism. This is what happened to 22-year-old Olivia, who shared her conversation with a gynecologist on TikTok.

In a now-viral video that amassed 2M views, Olivia reenacted the appointment she had where a gynecologist declined her request for sterilization, saying ‘no’ and ‘it’s permanent.’ Below is the full video Olivia posted on her channel that sparked a very important conversation about women’s rights to choose what’s best for them, especially when it comes to their bodies and reproduction systems.

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    This 22-year-old woman shared how she was refused to be considered for sterilization by a gynecologist, after asserting she did not want children

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    Olivia received an overwhelming amount of support from other women online expressing their lawful right to decide whether they want to have children or not. “I’ve learned that a significant amount of women have been in the same position being denied tubal litigation and similar procedures,” she commented to the press.

    Olivia’s video amassed 2M views and sparked a much-needed conversation about women’s rights and their choice not to have kids

    @lvdwns Got the death sentence today #childfree#gyno#birthcontrol#ewkidsaregross♬ original sound – Olivia

    The woman whose TikTok video went viral says she’s “only 22, unmarried with no children so I wasn’t surprised by my doctor’s response, however a lot of women with several children already are being denied the procedure on the basis that they might want more, or perhaps that they might remarry and their next husband may want a child of his own.”

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    @lvdwns Reply to @faith_acosta132 part 2! Jokes aside this is a deeper issue than just “not wanting kids” #greenscreen#childfree#gynecologist#healthcare#scotus#reproductiverights#womensrights♬ Music For a Sushi Restaurant – Harry Styles

    Image credits: lvdwns

    According to Olivia, a woman should not be denied care based on her own decision about her own body in the case of a hypothetical divorce/man. “I’m frustrated in my own case, but I can’t imagine these women’s frustration and pain.”

    This woman stated something so obvious that sadly doesn’t get talked about enough

    So she shared her experience on what reactions she gets from other people

    @lvdwns Reply to @carolinelfranco they throw a boomer tantrum as soon as the words leave your lips. Like this concept is so outdated #childfree#womenshealth#birthcontrol#womensrights♬ original sound – Olivia

    She specifically addressed all the men who kept commenting about her decision

    @lvdwns Reply to @cameron_ehringer693 call me selfish but I’m not doing that to my body lol #womenshealth#reproductiverights#birthcontrol#tuballigation♬ original sound – Olivia

    The conversation on women’s rights to sterilization and physicians’ paternalism sparked another much-needed debate on the fact that many people still fail to realize: not all women want children and this is totally fine. Olivia said she received support from fellow women who also lack a desire for kids.

    “A lot of women were commenting their relief to see someone else with the same ‘child free’ mindset. I guess in the past it’s been pretty taboo for a woman to not want children, never mind be vocal about it, so I’m glad to be a voice for all of the women who feel isolated in that belief,” she commented and added that now that social norms are changing, it’s easier to talk about things like this, although there still is a lot of pushback.

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    More women joined the conversation and shared their own similar experiences

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    Here’s how people reacted to her video

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    Liucija Adomaite

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    Liucija Adomaite

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    Liucija Adomaite is a creative mind with years of experience in copywriting. She has a dynamic set of experiences from advertising, academia, and journalism. This time, she has set out on a journey to investigate the ways in which we communicate ideas on a large scale. Her current mission is to find a magic formula for how to make ideas, news, and other such things spread like a virus.

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    Justinas Keturka

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    Justinas Keturka

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    Trillian
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This makes me so mad. It took my sister almost 15 years with severe endo to find someone who would do a hysterectomy. I can't even stress how effed up and patronizing the argument "you might regret it later" is. 1) No one tells that to young men wanting a vasectomy 2) Yes I might regret it but I am an ADULT and I get to make my own mistakes if it turns out to be one and 3) I can get a facial tattoo with no questions asked and they are permanent and a lot of people will regret them at some point and while I am ranting 4) kids are permanent and some women regret having them so how is all this not valid??

    Ozacoter
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. Also a hysterectomy for endometriosis is not done "because i dont want children" (even if she doesnt). Its done to treat a severe chronic illness. But apparently a hypothetical baby is more important than a womans health...

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    The Other Guest
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When a hypothetical man's hypothetical wishes are deemed more important than your personal decisions about your own body...

    Freya the Wanderer
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That so many OB/GYNs are such asshats burns me up! They regard women as brood cows. Meanwhile, a man wants a vasectomy, no problemo! We women are the ones who go through the nine months of hell called pregnancy, but only men are allowed control their reproductive capacity. Shame, shame, ten thousand times shame on those patronizing, condescending dips!

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    JJ
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I experienced the same at her age. I never wanted children. Additionally another specialist found out that hormonal contraception or a pregnancy will very likely kill me. Even that wasn't enough to get a sterilization. Luckily after a year I found a doctor about 500km from where I live who does sterilizations on women that age. I told him about my journey of denial by other doctors and he answered, "It's all BS. You're over 18, an adult and you can speak for yourself. The other medical conditions make it even more reasonable. If you want it, that's all that matters. And if you really change your mind, there's IVF, adoptions or fostering." It's now 9 years and I don't regret anything. PS: Mr Right was with me back then and still is, not wanting to have children either.

    -
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I find it mind-boggling that a doctor would rather risk a woman's life than her future relationships. As if every man on the planet wants children and is willing to risk killing his partner for it.

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    Ozacoter
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For the women here suffering from the sexism of doctors. There is a reddit called childfree that has a great list of doctors who are sterilisation friendly all over the world. Please check.

    Squirrel Girl
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    doctors like this always think we're going to wake up on our birthday and be like "me want baby!"

    Boreddd🇺🇦
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And that just shows how messed up some people are

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    Alicia M
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not just young, childless woman either. I had my tubes tied at age 40, after giving birth to my third child. I was married. We were done having kids. My third child was a surprise, and I didn't want to have to keep taking hormones the rest of my life. I was still asked, about a hundred times, if I was sure I wanted this, and had to switch hospitals because the original hospital I picked refused to do the procedure. It shouldn't be so difficult.

    Sue
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm curious if the original hospital was a Catholic-sponsored hospital. They run many big city hospitals but also a lot of small town & rural hospitals where they are the only hospital. They refuse to make the woman's life a priority over the baby's & they discourage or just won't do tubal ligations. I'll leave it up to men commenters as to whether they will do vasectomies. Ready a very sad story about one couple. The birth was difficult and he asked that the doctors focus on saving the wife as opposed to the baby. They refused. It was a Catholic hospital. Now he's raising a baby without his wife. It's just disgusting. I don't think you should be able to refuse to do legal procedures on people because of YOUR religion. If you can't handle it, go be a podiatrist. There needs to be a few big, fat lawsuits.

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    P B Wilson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow!!! I had no idea! So much for women's rights. Not to mention individual rights to your own body.

    Foxxy (The Original)
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I told the specialist that I'm adamant I didnt want anymore children and that if I ever fell pregnant, I WILL get an abortion. I made sure I gave them as many reasons as possible to not deny me having a salpingectomy (fallopian tube removal). Didn't take them long to make the decision after that. And yes, even after getting your tubes tied or removed, you can still fall pregnant with IVF if you ever change your mind. Not saying you will coz I know I certainly won't. In saying all this, we shouldn't have to jump through hoops or be told what we want or should do when it comes to our bodies.

    Valisbourne Spiritforge
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My wife tried for years to do this. Finally (yeah, it was slow to break through my thick head) I went in for a vasectomy. Damned doctor wanted not only my opinion on it, but hers too. My wife is pushing 50 now and I still suspect, if she asked, her doctor would try to push some BS agenda about her not having kids.

    Nizumi
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I knew at 12 I didn't want children. My reaction to "becoming a woman" was anger. I wanted nothing to do with it. I was told I would change my mind as I got older. I heard this c**p in my late teens, early 20s, mid and late 20s. Was told the clock is ticking and I could still change my mind in my early and mid 30s. By my late 30s it was "With medical advancements today, you can still carry a child to term safely." Hit my 40s, and the c**p still rolled in. By my mid-40s I have people telling me about the 67 year old in India who had a baby. Good for her. Not for me. And you would think menopause would shut down the discussion. No. Now, in my 50s, I get, "You could still adopt." Holy freaking Mother of G*d why don't people mind their own business?

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    Trillian
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This makes me so mad. It took my sister almost 15 years with severe endo to find someone who would do a hysterectomy. I can't even stress how effed up and patronizing the argument "you might regret it later" is. 1) No one tells that to young men wanting a vasectomy 2) Yes I might regret it but I am an ADULT and I get to make my own mistakes if it turns out to be one and 3) I can get a facial tattoo with no questions asked and they are permanent and a lot of people will regret them at some point and while I am ranting 4) kids are permanent and some women regret having them so how is all this not valid??

    Ozacoter
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. Also a hysterectomy for endometriosis is not done "because i dont want children" (even if she doesnt). Its done to treat a severe chronic illness. But apparently a hypothetical baby is more important than a womans health...

    Load More Replies...
    The Other Guest
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When a hypothetical man's hypothetical wishes are deemed more important than your personal decisions about your own body...

    Freya the Wanderer
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That so many OB/GYNs are such asshats burns me up! They regard women as brood cows. Meanwhile, a man wants a vasectomy, no problemo! We women are the ones who go through the nine months of hell called pregnancy, but only men are allowed control their reproductive capacity. Shame, shame, ten thousand times shame on those patronizing, condescending dips!

    Load More Replies...
    JJ
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I experienced the same at her age. I never wanted children. Additionally another specialist found out that hormonal contraception or a pregnancy will very likely kill me. Even that wasn't enough to get a sterilization. Luckily after a year I found a doctor about 500km from where I live who does sterilizations on women that age. I told him about my journey of denial by other doctors and he answered, "It's all BS. You're over 18, an adult and you can speak for yourself. The other medical conditions make it even more reasonable. If you want it, that's all that matters. And if you really change your mind, there's IVF, adoptions or fostering." It's now 9 years and I don't regret anything. PS: Mr Right was with me back then and still is, not wanting to have children either.

    -
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I find it mind-boggling that a doctor would rather risk a woman's life than her future relationships. As if every man on the planet wants children and is willing to risk killing his partner for it.

    Load More Replies...
    Ozacoter
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For the women here suffering from the sexism of doctors. There is a reddit called childfree that has a great list of doctors who are sterilisation friendly all over the world. Please check.

    Squirrel Girl
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    doctors like this always think we're going to wake up on our birthday and be like "me want baby!"

    Boreddd🇺🇦
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And that just shows how messed up some people are

    Load More Replies...
    Alicia M
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not just young, childless woman either. I had my tubes tied at age 40, after giving birth to my third child. I was married. We were done having kids. My third child was a surprise, and I didn't want to have to keep taking hormones the rest of my life. I was still asked, about a hundred times, if I was sure I wanted this, and had to switch hospitals because the original hospital I picked refused to do the procedure. It shouldn't be so difficult.

    Sue
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm curious if the original hospital was a Catholic-sponsored hospital. They run many big city hospitals but also a lot of small town & rural hospitals where they are the only hospital. They refuse to make the woman's life a priority over the baby's & they discourage or just won't do tubal ligations. I'll leave it up to men commenters as to whether they will do vasectomies. Ready a very sad story about one couple. The birth was difficult and he asked that the doctors focus on saving the wife as opposed to the baby. They refused. It was a Catholic hospital. Now he's raising a baby without his wife. It's just disgusting. I don't think you should be able to refuse to do legal procedures on people because of YOUR religion. If you can't handle it, go be a podiatrist. There needs to be a few big, fat lawsuits.

    Load More Replies...
    P B Wilson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow!!! I had no idea! So much for women's rights. Not to mention individual rights to your own body.

    Foxxy (The Original)
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I told the specialist that I'm adamant I didnt want anymore children and that if I ever fell pregnant, I WILL get an abortion. I made sure I gave them as many reasons as possible to not deny me having a salpingectomy (fallopian tube removal). Didn't take them long to make the decision after that. And yes, even after getting your tubes tied or removed, you can still fall pregnant with IVF if you ever change your mind. Not saying you will coz I know I certainly won't. In saying all this, we shouldn't have to jump through hoops or be told what we want or should do when it comes to our bodies.

    Valisbourne Spiritforge
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My wife tried for years to do this. Finally (yeah, it was slow to break through my thick head) I went in for a vasectomy. Damned doctor wanted not only my opinion on it, but hers too. My wife is pushing 50 now and I still suspect, if she asked, her doctor would try to push some BS agenda about her not having kids.

    Nizumi
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I knew at 12 I didn't want children. My reaction to "becoming a woman" was anger. I wanted nothing to do with it. I was told I would change my mind as I got older. I heard this c**p in my late teens, early 20s, mid and late 20s. Was told the clock is ticking and I could still change my mind in my early and mid 30s. By my late 30s it was "With medical advancements today, you can still carry a child to term safely." Hit my 40s, and the c**p still rolled in. By my mid-40s I have people telling me about the 67 year old in India who had a baby. Good for her. Not for me. And you would think menopause would shut down the discussion. No. Now, in my 50s, I get, "You could still adopt." Holy freaking Mother of G*d why don't people mind their own business?

    Load More Comments
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