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DIL Is Confused Why She’s Gaining Weight, Woman Points Out That She Eats A Lot
DIL Is Confused Why She’s Gaining Weight, Woman Points Out That She Eats A Lot
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DIL Is Confused Why She’s Gaining Weight, Woman Points Out That She Eats A Lot

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Body shaming is a very sensitive topic, especially these days. I believe you will not be surprised if I tell you that 79% of women have dealt with negative body image. Yes, it’s sad. So discussions about body sizes usually end up making us feel worse about ourselves.

No different was one Reddit user’s discussion with her daughter-in-law, who received an honest answer after wondering why she’s gaining weight, which led to a big argument in the family.

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    Woman shares that her son and her daughter-in-law are currently staying with her, she cooks for them and has a ‘serve yourself’ policy

    She added that her DIL is overweight and eats a lot but kept saying that it doesn’t make sense that the OP is much smaller than she is

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    Well, the hostess simply said that of course her DIL is bigger than her due to eating much more, which caused a big argument 

    A couple days ago, a Reddit user took her story online, asking community members if she was being a jerk for telling her daughter-in-law that she’s obviously bigger due to the difference in how much they eat. The post caught a lot of attention and gathered more than 9K upvotes and 3.3K comments.

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    The original poster (OP) explains that her son and his wife are staying with her in order to save money. She adds that she cooks, doesn’t use alternatives for lower calories and has established a ‘serve yourself’ policy. Now, OP explains that her daughter-in-law is overweight, but also eats much more than she does.

    However, the whole argument arose after DIL kept going on that it doesn’t make sense that OP is much smaller and she can’t understand why she keeps gaining weight. Well, she straightforwardly told her that she eats more, so obviously she’s bigger. OP shares that this situation caused an argument and she was accused of shaming her DIL and not being a good host.

    Community members didn’t come to a decision due to lacking information about the whole interaction and discussed that DIL shouldn’t ask questions that she doesn’t want answers to. “DIL actually needs to be told the truth instead of pretending she doesn’t understand,” one user wrote. “3 chicken breasts in one meal and she doesn’t know why she is big? She has an issue…” another added.

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    “In an ideal world, weight would be a neutral characteristic about people, right up there with hair color or height,” Rachael Hartley, a certified intuitive eating counselor and the author of Gentle Nutrition, told Bored Panda. “Unfortunately, we live in a very fatphobic culture where stereotypes and stigma about people in higher-weight bodies persist, where comments about weight and size can have a major impact on body image and self-esteem.“

    She adds that it can also feel uncomfortable and objectifying when someone shares commentary on body size, and even more hurtful when their commentary is attached to a stereotype or myth, like the idea that someone is a higher weight because they eat too much or that they “did it to themselves.”

    Also, in regards to this story, Rachael notes that while it probably wasn’t the best idea for DIL to ask why her MIL is thinner as questions like those could open up a whole bag of worms, especially if she is already sensitive about weight, it’s also important to point out that the couple probably is not observing every meal and snack the other is eating.

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    Now, let’s look from a nutritional perspective at how portion sizes can actually impact an individual’s health and weight over time. “Higher caloric intake, from larger portions or more energy-dense foods, is one of many factors that can influence someone’s weight,” she says.

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    “Many people think that weight is simply calories in versus calories out, but there are actually over 100 different factors that can influence weight, the most significant being genetics. Other than genetics, sleep patterns, medical conditions, stress levels, physical activity, and even the gut microbiome can impact body size.”

    Even though variations in calorie intake from meal to meal or day to day don’t really matter as weight growth is actually a process that takes place over a longer period of time, eating much more than your body needs on a daily basis might lead to weight increase. “That said, due to differences in genetics, some people’s weight is much more stable and able to adapt to higher caloric intake,” she emphasizes.

    Finally, Rachael added that the MIL may be basing judgements off a single meal a day, which could be much larger if the DIL is restricting all day and overeating at dinner. “While it certainly is possible that the DIL is just eating more than the MIL, it also could be much more complex than that.” And what do you guys think about the whole situation? Share your thoughts below!

    Redditors asked the woman for more details about the whole situation and shared their support

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    Austėja Bliujūtė

    Austėja Bliujūtė

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    Hi, I’m Austeja — an editor with an eye for everything from viral trends to heartfelt human stories. With a background in business management, I bring a mix of structure and creativity to each piece I polish. Outside the editing world, I’m a travel lover and brunch enthusiast who’s always on the lookout for the next binge-worthy show.

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    Austėja Bliujūtė

    Austėja Bliujūtė

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    Hi, I’m Austeja — an editor with an eye for everything from viral trends to heartfelt human stories. With a background in business management, I bring a mix of structure and creativity to each piece I polish. Outside the editing world, I’m a travel lover and brunch enthusiast who’s always on the lookout for the next binge-worthy show.

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    Weasel Wise
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    First, MIL isn't "hosting"; it's not a party, DIL & son are lucky enough to allow them to stay. Second, DIL should be shamed for eat THREE friggin portions, especially when she doesn't do the cooking and, most likely, isn't helping to pay for food. Third, DIL can't be serious about not understanding why she's fat? Really? A human being wolfing down enough food for three people can't comprehend where all her chunk is coming from?!?! Mind blowing!

    Rebel Peewee
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah I really can't past eating 3 chicken breasts. Feeling overly full but still eating more as you watch MIL eating 1 and wondering why she is smaller than you? I can't.

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    C.O. Shea
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    MIL is making the extra food for DIL to eat. Simple fix... family, there is one portion per diner. Four people. Four chicken breasts. Miss Manners would laugh at y'all.

    Nigel Sulley
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So DIL asks a question and gets all butthurt about a clear answer? Obviously there could be a lot of underlying issues such as thyroid issues and such.. but if you are eating 3 times the food of someone smaller than you and ask them why you keep gaining weight but they aren't, what kind of soft glove answer were you looking for? And as far as the ludicrous claim of MIL body shaming her by the son.. it was the DIL that brought this all up not MIL, so sunny boy needs to slow his roll..

    BarkingSpider
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly! It's not like the MIL brought it up and told her to eat less because she's fat. It sounds like she wasn't even mean about it by telling DIL that she eats too much, only pointing out that she eats more, which is the truth. Sounds like maybe it's time for them to purchase and cook their own meals.

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    Weasel Wise
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    First, MIL isn't "hosting"; it's not a party, DIL & son are lucky enough to allow them to stay. Second, DIL should be shamed for eat THREE friggin portions, especially when she doesn't do the cooking and, most likely, isn't helping to pay for food. Third, DIL can't be serious about not understanding why she's fat? Really? A human being wolfing down enough food for three people can't comprehend where all her chunk is coming from?!?! Mind blowing!

    Rebel Peewee
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah I really can't past eating 3 chicken breasts. Feeling overly full but still eating more as you watch MIL eating 1 and wondering why she is smaller than you? I can't.

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    C.O. Shea
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    MIL is making the extra food for DIL to eat. Simple fix... family, there is one portion per diner. Four people. Four chicken breasts. Miss Manners would laugh at y'all.

    Nigel Sulley
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So DIL asks a question and gets all butthurt about a clear answer? Obviously there could be a lot of underlying issues such as thyroid issues and such.. but if you are eating 3 times the food of someone smaller than you and ask them why you keep gaining weight but they aren't, what kind of soft glove answer were you looking for? And as far as the ludicrous claim of MIL body shaming her by the son.. it was the DIL that brought this all up not MIL, so sunny boy needs to slow his roll..

    BarkingSpider
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly! It's not like the MIL brought it up and told her to eat less because she's fat. It sounds like she wasn't even mean about it by telling DIL that she eats too much, only pointing out that she eats more, which is the truth. Sounds like maybe it's time for them to purchase and cook their own meals.

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