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Woman Shares How Relieved She Was When She Learned That Her Obsessive Stalker Died
The world is not always safe for women. There are certain experiences, worries, and concerns they face that most men don’t realize – that’s because one of these dangers is men. Running might be a stress reliever for men, but women runners have to take extra safety measures, even something as simple as going to the library can turn into a traumatic event.
Writer @johnniejae took to Twitter to share her terrifying experience as a teenager with a stalker. The encounter started innocently at the library – so innocently she had no idea what it would turn into. Scroll down to read the entire thread and why she shared it.
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Multimedia journalist Johnnie Jae took to twitter to share her chilling experience with a stalker
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At the end she explained what had prompted her to share
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And pointed out the sad reality of violence against women
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People in the comments thanked her for sharing her story
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According to the Center for Disease Control, in the United States, an estimated 15.2% of women (18.3 million women) have experienced stalking during their lifetimes that made them feel very fearful or made them believe that they or someone close to them would be harmed or killed. In addition, an estimated 4.2% of women (approximately 5.1 million women) were stalked in the 12 months before taking the survey. Nationally, an estimated 5.7% of men (or nearly 6.5 million) have experienced stalking victimization during their lifetimes. Among female stalking victims, an estimated 60.8% were stalked by a current or former intimate partner, nearly one-quarter (an estimated 24.9%) were stalked by an acquaintance, an estimated 16.2% were stalked by a stranger, and an estimated 6.2% were stalked by a family member.
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Ozacoter 6 years ago
She was extremly brave. You know what always makes me so angry? We are so conditionated to be blamed for this that women feel ashamed to reveal that they have been stalked, harased etc. I woul have felt the same at her age, and I wouldnt have tell my parents. Whats so wrong with our society?
Belinda Matson 6 years ago
Y'day my 18yo was followed by a 40+ yo on a bicycle who at 10am in the main st. He was persistent in trying to talk to her, despite her rebuttals. He made comments abt her & her dress, waiting for her to leave a shop & keeping pace then riding in front to block her path with his bike. My daughter who ALWAYS wears 1950's dresses is buying jeans & doesn't want to go to town anymore. WTF won't they just leave females alone?
Biljana Malesevic 6 years ago
For stalking teenagers and younger girls and boys, I would create special much longer jail crime punishment Even if stalker technically doesn't touch them, it will still leave mental scars on young people. Also, for all kinds of stalkings there should be jail punishment. No, even without any touching it's not "just nothing".
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Kimberly Young 6 years ago
Wow. How sad is it that as I was reading this, I was actually shocked that her manager, her parents, the police, campus security, and the guy's workplace actually did everything they could to help? It shouldn't be a shock that people actually believed her and took steps to help, but unfortunately, not everyone gets that level of support.
Bored Llama 6 years ago
I know I would. Glad this woman survived this experience.
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Noopur Mishra 6 years ago
When I was 13 I was followed every single day by a twenty something guy. I would silently ride my bicycle to school while he followed me and asked me to be his girlfriend. I used to be part scared part confused and just rode ahead in silence. 13y/o me didn't know how to handle that, so one day I told him in gestures that I'm kind of deaf and mute. I thought it would make me repulsive to him. And it did. Note: I apologize to all the deaf and mute people because in hindsight it was insulting to deaf and mute people but at 13 I didn't know what else to do and came up with this "solution". I don't believe that differently abled people are repulsive in any way. I am extremely sorry if I have offended anyone.
Madzdad the bard 6 years ago (edited)
I know it is mainly women that this happens to, but a small percentage of these types of people happen to men as well. I had an obsessive stalker through a good part of my 20s that would call me, my wife and my work. She put flowers on my stoop three times. It wasn't a "Fatal Attraction" scenario, she was a post-grad at the university where I was an IT engineer. Talked to her twice, once to help her with her network settings, then after I spotted her following me several times to tell her to stop. I was ignored by the university because (and I quote) "You are a big strong man, what is the issue". I told my wife immediately because I didn't want anything misconstrued and I was so glad she was on my side. After almost a three years of opening a door and seeing her watching me, getting letters on my car and her harassing my wife, I quit my job and we moved out of state. I am glad that was before the days of social media, but I still catch myself looking over my shoulder once in awhile.
Janet Best 6 years ago
I too had a stalker who died. He left his wife for me and I had no idea he even existed. I was so relieved when he died of a brain aneurysm. I too couldn't figure out what I'd done wrong. Thank God for the Police.
Geoffrey Holland 6 years ago
You did absolutely nothing wrong. You were just in the wrong place at the wrong time and caught someone's attention who had a mental disorder. It's not your fault.
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Krysta Pandoo 6 years ago
God this is terrifying. It's disgraceful the police do not have more powers to get rid of people who intimidate. Until they actually hurt, main or kill, nothing is protecting the victim.
Just a Purpler 6 years ago
Reminds me of a time when I was 17 and volunteering for the public library...I would bus back after I was finished, and for about a month everything was fine. But then this older guy I suspect may have been homeless, he seemed to be 50+, asked me for a cigar, to which I shook my head as I didn't smoke. But he kept asking me more and more weird questions, one of them was asking me if I was a virgin. I regret so much that I responded yes because he went on and on talking about how desperately he needed a virgin in his life. I was afraid I would be rude if I stopped talking to him or just suddenly up and left the bus stop. It was so creepy and I wish I had just left. I saw him waiting by the bus stop the next few days after I finished volunteering but I never took that bus again. I was a naive 17 year old girl who hadn't been taught anything about this side of humanity. I didn't know situations like that happened, or how to deal with them properly. When I explained what happened a few
Just a Purpler 6 years ago
months later, I was made to feel ashamed of myself for continuing to encourage and talk to the man as long as I did, but, I just didn't know any better at the time. Reading her story was chilling... I'm glad my story was much shorter than hers.
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Ozacoter 6 years ago
She was extremly brave. You know what always makes me so angry? We are so conditionated to be blamed for this that women feel ashamed to reveal that they have been stalked, harased etc. I woul have felt the same at her age, and I wouldnt have tell my parents. Whats so wrong with our society?
Belinda Matson 6 years ago
Y'day my 18yo was followed by a 40+ yo on a bicycle who at 10am in the main st. He was persistent in trying to talk to her, despite her rebuttals. He made comments abt her & her dress, waiting for her to leave a shop & keeping pace then riding in front to block her path with his bike. My daughter who ALWAYS wears 1950's dresses is buying jeans & doesn't want to go to town anymore. WTF won't they just leave females alone?
Biljana Malesevic 6 years ago
For stalking teenagers and younger girls and boys, I would create special much longer jail crime punishment Even if stalker technically doesn't touch them, it will still leave mental scars on young people. Also, for all kinds of stalkings there should be jail punishment. No, even without any touching it's not "just nothing".
Load More Replies... Kimberly Young 6 years ago
Wow. How sad is it that as I was reading this, I was actually shocked that her manager, her parents, the police, campus security, and the guy's workplace actually did everything they could to help? It shouldn't be a shock that people actually believed her and took steps to help, but unfortunately, not everyone gets that level of support.
Bored Llama 6 years ago
I know I would. Glad this woman survived this experience.
Load More Replies... Noopur Mishra 6 years ago
When I was 13 I was followed every single day by a twenty something guy. I would silently ride my bicycle to school while he followed me and asked me to be his girlfriend. I used to be part scared part confused and just rode ahead in silence. 13y/o me didn't know how to handle that, so one day I told him in gestures that I'm kind of deaf and mute. I thought it would make me repulsive to him. And it did. Note: I apologize to all the deaf and mute people because in hindsight it was insulting to deaf and mute people but at 13 I didn't know what else to do and came up with this "solution". I don't believe that differently abled people are repulsive in any way. I am extremely sorry if I have offended anyone.
Madzdad the bard 6 years ago (edited)
I know it is mainly women that this happens to, but a small percentage of these types of people happen to men as well. I had an obsessive stalker through a good part of my 20s that would call me, my wife and my work. She put flowers on my stoop three times. It wasn't a "Fatal Attraction" scenario, she was a post-grad at the university where I was an IT engineer. Talked to her twice, once to help her with her network settings, then after I spotted her following me several times to tell her to stop. I was ignored by the university because (and I quote) "You are a big strong man, what is the issue". I told my wife immediately because I didn't want anything misconstrued and I was so glad she was on my side. After almost a three years of opening a door and seeing her watching me, getting letters on my car and her harassing my wife, I quit my job and we moved out of state. I am glad that was before the days of social media, but I still catch myself looking over my shoulder once in awhile.
Janet Best 6 years ago
I too had a stalker who died. He left his wife for me and I had no idea he even existed. I was so relieved when he died of a brain aneurysm. I too couldn't figure out what I'd done wrong. Thank God for the Police.
Geoffrey Holland 6 years ago
You did absolutely nothing wrong. You were just in the wrong place at the wrong time and caught someone's attention who had a mental disorder. It's not your fault.
Load More Replies... Krysta Pandoo 6 years ago
God this is terrifying. It's disgraceful the police do not have more powers to get rid of people who intimidate. Until they actually hurt, main or kill, nothing is protecting the victim.
Just a Purpler 6 years ago
Reminds me of a time when I was 17 and volunteering for the public library...I would bus back after I was finished, and for about a month everything was fine. But then this older guy I suspect may have been homeless, he seemed to be 50+, asked me for a cigar, to which I shook my head as I didn't smoke. But he kept asking me more and more weird questions, one of them was asking me if I was a virgin. I regret so much that I responded yes because he went on and on talking about how desperately he needed a virgin in his life. I was afraid I would be rude if I stopped talking to him or just suddenly up and left the bus stop. It was so creepy and I wish I had just left. I saw him waiting by the bus stop the next few days after I finished volunteering but I never took that bus again. I was a naive 17 year old girl who hadn't been taught anything about this side of humanity. I didn't know situations like that happened, or how to deal with them properly. When I explained what happened a few
Just a Purpler 6 years ago
months later, I was made to feel ashamed of myself for continuing to encourage and talk to the man as long as I did, but, I just didn't know any better at the time. Reading her story was chilling... I'm glad my story was much shorter than hers.
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