Guy Blocks Best Friend Of 15 Years Over $60 Concert Mishap: “He Was Sorry”
If there was such a service, how much would you pay to verify the integrity of people? Well, one guy got it for $60.
In a recent post on the subreddit ‘Mildly Infuriating,’ platform user The_Broken_Shutter revealed that his long-term friend started acting weirdly after borrowing money from him.
The climax of the whole ordeal came when the Redditor finally asked him to pay him back, reminding us that trust is a fragile thing, especially when cash is involved.
This guy tried to go to a concert
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Instead, he lost his best friend over just a few bucks
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Image credits: The_Broken_Shutter
Maybe not as extreme, but similar situations are quite common
A 2019 survey from the US Federal Reserve showed that when faced with a hypothetical expense of $400 that they couldn’t cover straight away, the second most common approach people took was to borrow from a friend or family member (putting the charge on a credit card was the top option).
However, as we just saw, introducing a financial layer to a relationship can make things weird. Experts think that lending money conflicts with societal taboos about discussing money, and introduces a power imbalance. This can potentially leave both parties feeling complex emotions like shame, embarrassment, and anger.
“I think money is still a very intimate subject for a lot of people to talk about authentically,” said Maggie Baker, psychologist and financial therapist based in Pennsylvania, US. People may discuss it, but we generally don’t ask each other about our specific financial situations. “There’s this shroud over this whole topic of money, and how much you have, and how much you don’t have.”
“If you loan somebody money, they’re indebted to you whether they recognize it or not – and then all of a sudden, you’ve got the power,” Baker added.
There’s also a high degree of uncertainty for the lender because no matter how close you are to someone, just like the Redditor, you may have no idea how they are with money.
Interestingly, Baker said that 9 times out of 10, the friend in the jam will not pay back the loan. So you have to be 100% OK with not getting the money back when you provide it, and judging by his post, the Redditor was. Only not his friend.
Many of those who have read the story think that the friend might be going through a rough patch
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He's really embarrassed and just can't handle the whole situation. We cannot control how something feels and is processed by another person. He is not experiencing this in the way you are, nor is he experiencing it how you would if you were in that position. If you otherwise want to stay friends then . . . hold on to your hat . . . write to him. That's assuming he's too far away to drop by. Use a postcard so it doesn't have to be opened and just scrawl "missing you man, don't care about the money, text me"
I'd leave the part about money out. It's already been said. I'd go with "I miss you - x-box?"
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My father cut me off because he misinterpreted my comments to my aunt when his 3rd wife died. So I wrote a really long email telling him he can cut me off but he won't stop being my dad. Gave it time, he reached out when he nearly died and realised time had been wasted. Write a letter, OP, then stand back. If/when he's ready, he'll come back.
This isn't about $60. After 15 years, the former friend couldn't take anymore something the poster was doing.
Maybe. I myself can't imagine in a million years cutting someone off after 15 year friendship without saying why.
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He's not really your friend, he's someone you've known for 15 years. Now you know who he really is . Sorry 😞 😔
Has anyone heard What You Want from the heavy Metal rock band evanescence? Not to get off topic 😔
Just because OP knows ID is needed and thinks everyone knows this doesn't mean the friend knew. And the friend drove them, and OP wouldn't let him go home to get his ID? Meaning not only OP lost money on his ticket, but so did the friend. And neither lost money because of the friend. They lost them because of OP yet he's going on and on about "it's not about the money". Why does he even think he'd entitled to get his expenses covered by his friend and not the other way around? My guess is this was just the final nail in the coffin for the friend.
Something fishy is going on, and if I were OP, I'd be having someone do a welfare check on the friend.
You can’t make someone be your friend if they don’t want to anymore and that guy has made it clear for some reason he isn’t interested in talking things out. People come and go from our lives. It happens all the time. Then we meet new people.
That's bull, I feel your pain I had a close friend just do me the same way and I'm finally through the pain mostly. Anybody that would cause you that much pain without at least have an argument and letting you know what affected them so bad is not a friend. It was just a convenient relationship that you loved more than he did. Your girlfriend was right!!!! You need to just take the pain and move on!!!
Had a friend ruin our friendship because she owed my husband money. My husband's business is separate from my friendship and he wasn't overly worried about it. Instead of talking to me about it, she ghosted me. Our kids were best buddies too, so it really sucked. I talked to her about it eventually, but we aren't friends anymore, and not because I wasn't willing. Some things just run their course.
People are in our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime…
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GTFOH, that whole "going through something" is a b******t copout, who forgets their wallet, yea, NO ONE!!! People need to stop with the excuses and recognize he is a s**t person, it's just too bad it took him so long to find out.
Same thoughts I have. He was preparing to ghost him and went about it in a very horrible manner. He purposely left his ID at home so the poster would not attend the concert. He left without informing him. He has blocked the poster from being able to contact him speaks volumes. He should return the favour and move on. I had a friend who suddebly went cool on me. I asked her several times what was wrong she said nothing with a smile. I did not bother myself trying to bring that friendship to life.
Load More Replies... He's really embarrassed and just can't handle the whole situation. We cannot control how something feels and is processed by another person. He is not experiencing this in the way you are, nor is he experiencing it how you would if you were in that position. If you otherwise want to stay friends then . . . hold on to your hat . . . write to him. That's assuming he's too far away to drop by. Use a postcard so it doesn't have to be opened and just scrawl "missing you man, don't care about the money, text me"
I'd leave the part about money out. It's already been said. I'd go with "I miss you - x-box?"
Load More Replies... My father cut me off because he misinterpreted my comments to my aunt when his 3rd wife died. So I wrote a really long email telling him he can cut me off but he won't stop being my dad. Gave it time, he reached out when he nearly died and realised time had been wasted. Write a letter, OP, then stand back. If/when he's ready, he'll come back.
This isn't about $60. After 15 years, the former friend couldn't take anymore something the poster was doing.
Maybe. I myself can't imagine in a million years cutting someone off after 15 year friendship without saying why.
Load More Replies... He's not really your friend, he's someone you've known for 15 years. Now you know who he really is . Sorry 😞 😔
Has anyone heard What You Want from the heavy Metal rock band evanescence? Not to get off topic 😔
Just because OP knows ID is needed and thinks everyone knows this doesn't mean the friend knew. And the friend drove them, and OP wouldn't let him go home to get his ID? Meaning not only OP lost money on his ticket, but so did the friend. And neither lost money because of the friend. They lost them because of OP yet he's going on and on about "it's not about the money". Why does he even think he'd entitled to get his expenses covered by his friend and not the other way around? My guess is this was just the final nail in the coffin for the friend.
Something fishy is going on, and if I were OP, I'd be having someone do a welfare check on the friend.
You can’t make someone be your friend if they don’t want to anymore and that guy has made it clear for some reason he isn’t interested in talking things out. People come and go from our lives. It happens all the time. Then we meet new people.
That's bull, I feel your pain I had a close friend just do me the same way and I'm finally through the pain mostly. Anybody that would cause you that much pain without at least have an argument and letting you know what affected them so bad is not a friend. It was just a convenient relationship that you loved more than he did. Your girlfriend was right!!!! You need to just take the pain and move on!!!
Had a friend ruin our friendship because she owed my husband money. My husband's business is separate from my friendship and he wasn't overly worried about it. Instead of talking to me about it, she ghosted me. Our kids were best buddies too, so it really sucked. I talked to her about it eventually, but we aren't friends anymore, and not because I wasn't willing. Some things just run their course.
People are in our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime…
Load More Replies... GTFOH, that whole "going through something" is a b******t copout, who forgets their wallet, yea, NO ONE!!! People need to stop with the excuses and recognize he is a s**t person, it's just too bad it took him so long to find out.
Same thoughts I have. He was preparing to ghost him and went about it in a very horrible manner. He purposely left his ID at home so the poster would not attend the concert. He left without informing him. He has blocked the poster from being able to contact him speaks volumes. He should return the favour and move on. I had a friend who suddebly went cool on me. I asked her several times what was wrong she said nothing with a smile. I did not bother myself trying to bring that friendship to life.
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