In high school I was really lonely and whenever I found new friends, I would do anything to keep them. I started hanging out with two girls, Madison and Riley, that I saw as my best friends. They seemed to put up with me for longer than the others would, so I let them treat me terribly. But there was one time when they totally crossed the line and I still can’t forget it.
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Share on FacebookOh god this really hits home but it was my daughter going through this. My daughter has Autism Spectrum Disorder and ADHD. She found it really hard to make friends except for one girl. She was no friends, of course there were moments she was nice. Most of the time she was manipulative and mean. She would ditch my daughter, call her a r****d, scam money from her, play mind games etc. It was the only person she had, so no matter how many times we tried explaining the way she was being treated she couldn’t stop the “friendship”. This year they started high school and they thankfully go to completely different schools so they never see or hear from each other. My daughter has made quite a few friends, she is enjoying high school far much better than primar school.
Katharine Hepburn wrote in her autobiography that when she was in school, she had a crush on a guy who did not have the same feelings, and that she was devastated. Her mother told her "If he had a good taste, he would like you. Obviously, he has a terrible taste, so why would you be with a guy with such a bad taste ?" I feel that the same goes for people in general, not only crushes... If people don't like you, well, they have a terrible taste and you don't need people who don't like you for who you are !
I did this in Middle School. I was so lonely, I let the only "friends" I had treat me like garbage. What a horrible time. Hopefully some young girl or boy will see this and not have to experience what the author did
These girls were never your friends to begin with ! They needed someone to make fun of and who would make them feel superior. You were that person because YOU put up with THEM, not them with you. They treated you terribly and you let them. You must have had a terrible self-esteem before even meeting them, otherwise you would not have let them treat you like they did. Getting rid of them is the best thing that could happen to you, and if thinking that better be lonely than having "friends" like these is cynical, well, meet the Queen of all Cynics !! You're better off without crappy people like them, believe me !!
This is me, to a T - and am in therapy because 20+ years later those feelings of loneliness came back to haunt me, and I tried to take my own life.
Being alone is not that bad if you consider that by being alone, nobody will treat you bad or hurt you in any way - except yourself, of course ! If you love yourself enough and treat you right, if you start filling your mind with things you like, doing things you love, making yourSELF happy by giving the love you need to feel to yourSELF, people will notice and start getting attracted to you. Or not, but that won't be so important anymore, because you will have learned how to be happy by yourself. Take care of yourself, you can't ask anyone to love you more than you love yourself, it's a burden too heavy to carry... BTW, I've been mistreated in school as well, but I decided that they could kiss my a*s and that I didn't need them. Turns out, I'm lovable anyway ;-) And so are you, I promise. Happiness is in store for you.
Load More Replies...If a survey was done, we'd see that a huge percentage of us had a similar experience! Only those who grew up in loving, involved families have the self-esteem and self-confidence to recognize bullies and have no need for their "friendship
I was terribly bullied and my parents didn't take it seriously at all.
Load More Replies...You did not let your friends treat you terribly. You let two bullies treat you terribly. They weren't your friends. Leaving them behind was the right decision.
Oh god this really hits home but it was my daughter going through this. My daughter has Autism Spectrum Disorder and ADHD. She found it really hard to make friends except for one girl. She was no friends, of course there were moments she was nice. Most of the time she was manipulative and mean. She would ditch my daughter, call her a r****d, scam money from her, play mind games etc. It was the only person she had, so no matter how many times we tried explaining the way she was being treated she couldn’t stop the “friendship”. This year they started high school and they thankfully go to completely different schools so they never see or hear from each other. My daughter has made quite a few friends, she is enjoying high school far much better than primar school.
Katharine Hepburn wrote in her autobiography that when she was in school, she had a crush on a guy who did not have the same feelings, and that she was devastated. Her mother told her "If he had a good taste, he would like you. Obviously, he has a terrible taste, so why would you be with a guy with such a bad taste ?" I feel that the same goes for people in general, not only crushes... If people don't like you, well, they have a terrible taste and you don't need people who don't like you for who you are !
I did this in Middle School. I was so lonely, I let the only "friends" I had treat me like garbage. What a horrible time. Hopefully some young girl or boy will see this and not have to experience what the author did
These girls were never your friends to begin with ! They needed someone to make fun of and who would make them feel superior. You were that person because YOU put up with THEM, not them with you. They treated you terribly and you let them. You must have had a terrible self-esteem before even meeting them, otherwise you would not have let them treat you like they did. Getting rid of them is the best thing that could happen to you, and if thinking that better be lonely than having "friends" like these is cynical, well, meet the Queen of all Cynics !! You're better off without crappy people like them, believe me !!
This is me, to a T - and am in therapy because 20+ years later those feelings of loneliness came back to haunt me, and I tried to take my own life.
Being alone is not that bad if you consider that by being alone, nobody will treat you bad or hurt you in any way - except yourself, of course ! If you love yourself enough and treat you right, if you start filling your mind with things you like, doing things you love, making yourSELF happy by giving the love you need to feel to yourSELF, people will notice and start getting attracted to you. Or not, but that won't be so important anymore, because you will have learned how to be happy by yourself. Take care of yourself, you can't ask anyone to love you more than you love yourself, it's a burden too heavy to carry... BTW, I've been mistreated in school as well, but I decided that they could kiss my a*s and that I didn't need them. Turns out, I'm lovable anyway ;-) And so are you, I promise. Happiness is in store for you.
Load More Replies...If a survey was done, we'd see that a huge percentage of us had a similar experience! Only those who grew up in loving, involved families have the self-esteem and self-confidence to recognize bullies and have no need for their "friendship
I was terribly bullied and my parents didn't take it seriously at all.
Load More Replies...You did not let your friends treat you terribly. You let two bullies treat you terribly. They weren't your friends. Leaving them behind was the right decision.
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