Parent Asks How To Make Their Daughter Stop Crying After They Yell At Her, Doesn't Get The Response They Expect
Parenting is hard. Especially if you have a child who won’t stop weeping. You scream your lungs out, pointing our their every mistake, and nothing. Still, they turn to tears instead of silently internalizing your rage. Not too long ago, a parent had been suffering from this problem so much, they turned to Quora. “How do I teach my 16-year-old daughter not to cry when I yell at her for doing something wrong,” they asked. The little brat must’ve shed at least an ocean of tears if their caretakers had to humiliate themselves before the internet, asking for help. Luckily, a woman who went through the exact same thing responded. Scroll down to read her response to learn how to deal with such a nuisance yourself.
Not too long ago, a parent asked this question on Quora
This woman responded sharing her own experience
Image credits: Alicia Jordan
Moved by Alicia’s response, others started relating as well
Others weren’t so quick to blame the parent
What do you think?
My father was an angry man who used to take out his frustrations on me. I was later diagnosis-ed with PTSD. Yelling and screaming only builds resentment. I suggest getting an outside opinion from a professional you trust. Sometimes you need someone who is removed from the situation and has wisdom and experience to help you navigate the forest from the trees. Parenting is a skill and just because you love your kids does not mean that your skills can't be improved on.
To those who think we’re judging on too little information: The fact this woman is asking for advice as to how to handle her understandably emotional daughter’s reaction to her yelling (emotional action) kind of gives all the information we need. It’s hard to learn good lessons through yelling and tears regardless of the mistake.
My poorly made point is, the mother is asking for advice on FUTURE yellings (how to stop her daughters tears) as the past yellings have not yielded good results (duh). She's not asking whether she should change her behavior, just how to stop her daughter's reaction. What does she want instead, silence? dead-eyed stare? a grateful hug and thanks?
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My mother yelled at all of us for the littlest things, like not doing something quickly enough. I never really knew what would set her off and lived in constant fear that I would do something wrong. The yelling and the accompanying put-downs ("Can't you do anything right!") could be so brutal; it would simply reduce me to tears. I totally get why anyone, much less a child, would cry when she gets yelled at. My question to the mother : why are you yelling? And does it solve the issue at hand? I don't know about you, but it's never fun to be yelled at. In fact, it can be downright terrifying. If she's crying because you are yelling at her, then the simple answer is to stop yelling. Find another way to express your disappoint, anger, or fear.
My father was an angry man who used to take out his frustrations on me. I was later diagnosis-ed with PTSD. Yelling and screaming only builds resentment. I suggest getting an outside opinion from a professional you trust. Sometimes you need someone who is removed from the situation and has wisdom and experience to help you navigate the forest from the trees. Parenting is a skill and just because you love your kids does not mean that your skills can't be improved on.
To those who think we’re judging on too little information: The fact this woman is asking for advice as to how to handle her understandably emotional daughter’s reaction to her yelling (emotional action) kind of gives all the information we need. It’s hard to learn good lessons through yelling and tears regardless of the mistake.
My poorly made point is, the mother is asking for advice on FUTURE yellings (how to stop her daughters tears) as the past yellings have not yielded good results (duh). She's not asking whether she should change her behavior, just how to stop her daughter's reaction. What does she want instead, silence? dead-eyed stare? a grateful hug and thanks?
Load More Replies... My mother yelled at all of us for the littlest things, like not doing something quickly enough. I never really knew what would set her off and lived in constant fear that I would do something wrong. The yelling and the accompanying put-downs ("Can't you do anything right!") could be so brutal; it would simply reduce me to tears. I totally get why anyone, much less a child, would cry when she gets yelled at. My question to the mother : why are you yelling? And does it solve the issue at hand? I don't know about you, but it's never fun to be yelled at. In fact, it can be downright terrifying. If she's crying because you are yelling at her, then the simple answer is to stop yelling. Find another way to express your disappoint, anger, or fear.
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