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As kids, we see our parents as all-knowing people. However, as the years pass, we realize that our moms and dads are just regular humans after all, and that they too don't have all the answers. So we start looking elsewhere.

There's an interesting study published in the British Journal of Political Science, based on data from the U.S. and U.K., which found that parents who are insistent that their children adopt their political views inadvertently influence their children to abandon the belief once they become adults.

This can be explained by the fact that children who come from homes where politics is a frequent topic of discussion are more likely to talk about politics once they leave home, exposing them to new viewpoints—which they then adopt with surprising frequency.

Similar transformations happen in other areas as well. To get a better understanding of them, Reddit users u/nousername1982 and u/ZestyClose_Ad4682 recently started threads asking people to share the things their parents taught them that turned out to be totally wrong. Here are some of the responses, ranging from romantic relationships to personal finance, that we thought might be interesting and worthy of your time.

#1

30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations "If a boy acts like a jerk, it means he likes you!"

No...just no...

First of all, he shouldn't be let off the hook for acting like a jerk. (Whether he's 5 or 105.) Secondly, it teaches girls that abuse is okay, or that they should expect to be treated like crap (and that it's okay for them to be treated like crap.)

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I swear this was initially an embarrassment tactic for the boys to stop pestering girls and it originally stopped being said to the boys at "courting" age. (I put quotes because it's so cheesy and old-fashioned to say "courting", and not something I say normally.)

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations That sex, sexuality, drinking/drugs/partying, politics, money, spirituality are awkward things to discuss. I want my future kids to know facts and that if they are ever in trouble, I am a safe place for them. We don't have to talk about it if they don't want to, they'll be taught how to be safe, but they should also know that these subjects are a part of life and should not cause shame.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I didn't have a safe place to talk about anything, so I made sure I am the safe place for my kid, too. Nothing will shock me. I will not judge, just listen. However, some things do need to be talked about no matter if anyone wants to hear it or not.

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We managed to get in touch with one of the Redditors that sparked this discussion, u/nousername1982  and they agreed to have a talk about their post and parenting in general.

"I don't really [remember] what I was doing exactly [when I came up with the idea to ask the internet this question]," they told Bored Panda.

"But, I have kids myself who are very curious and ask questions all the time. I made a promise to myself to be as honest with them as possible (without spoiling Christmas). But sometimes it is difficult to give a genuine answer because the truth would make something more difficult to accept. I've seen many Redditors posting about parents telling them they 'can do anything.' I believe those motivational speeches are essential for a child. Probably most of the stories were a variation of that."

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations If you stop reacting, they'll stop bullying you.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This hits hard. It was the teachers and daycare staff that were saying this trash to me, though. My mom sorta ignored it and thought I was doing something to cause other kids to bully me. No support. Nothing. This carries into adulthood. Eventually you stop caring what other people think but there is a stronger need to be heard the loudest, so you end up repeating the injustices you experience in life to friends and family until they acknowledge your plight, which never happens because you're being a downer, an attention-seeker, and a boring repeater. But you're not really trying to be any of that. You just want to understand why people are shitty towards you of all people.

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations Lack of empathy. My parents grew up in a really really horrible situation and they made it out and did well for themselves. So now anytime anyone struggles they refuse to feel bad for them because they have gone through worse and did fine. I think people deserve empathy regardless.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know this guy's story or where he comes from, if he's homeless or has a home and struggling with something. I was at Subway and saw him chatting with the staff. He left with nothing. As soon as I started asking what he wanted they said he wanted food, and that he comes in frequently and they used to give him free food but can't continue doing that. I was going to buy him something if that was the case. I was a bit hesitant hearing that it's been a regular occurrence but then I thought I've been homeless and hungry before. Why the hell not. I bought a $10 gift card for them to use it towards him the next time he shows up. If he doesn't show up, someone's got a free gift card regardless and that is just fine.

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u/nousername1982 thinks that parents and their kids every now and then simply end up on different terms. "Sometimes parents have priorities that kids don't understand, like 'Why are they always having to work that much?' Truth is, at least in my case, I don't have to work that hard, but I'm motivated to advance my career. I'm not working to pay for the food, house, or toys. I'm working for the extras."

"Also, most parents strive to have an easy life, which is sometimes difficult to combine with kids. You don't want to tell your kids they can't have something because mom or dad doesn't want to make the effort," the Redditor continued. "My parents told me I had to quit my favorite sport because of a kid that was dealing drugs in the club. Later, I realized it was because the drive was too much of a hassle. The drug dealer had little to do in the decision."

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations That parents never have to apologize to their kids.

I love my dad. He is a great dad and I know he loves me so much, but he has it in his head that even now, even when his youngest (me) is an adult, that he doesn't need to apologize if he does something wrong. It's baffling.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same here. Mine barely uses basic manners with me. She does with everyone else. Just not me.

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations Math and science aren’t gonna serve a girl well.

I would had killed to have someone reared me into STEM when I was younger.

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Even though the idea of lying to your kids sounds harsh at first, a study published in the International Journal of Psychology found that 84 percent of the American parents surveyed do it to get them to behave. This is also known as 'instrumental lying.'

While the decision when to use it is ultimately up to the parents, there are certain situations where it's considered more acceptable. For instance, the fictional story of Santa Claus is universally known, and many young children learn it from their moms and dads. So long as they're not using Santa to threaten the little ones into behaving, it's perfectly fine. Interestingly, one study, published in Child Psychiatry and Human Development, discovered that children who eventually found out the truth about Santa Claus reacted positively to the news.

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations "Respect your elders" but in the sense that you should just keep quiet when you disagree with somebody older than you - turns out many people are awful regardless of their age. Don't get me wrong, my default is to respect any new person I meet, but when a person has repeatedly shown me that they don't are about my feelings or even basic logic, I won't hold back from speaking my mind calmly, even if they see this as disrespectful.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My grandad taught me that respect is earned, there is no situation where respect is to be given just because. You don't just get respect from being old. He was a man I respected, and he earned it multiple times over.

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations Finish your plate. B*tch that is what all that Tupperware is for.

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However, it's important to remember that there are other ways to go about it. Although parental lying is common, too much of it may lead to negative long-term effects. In a study where the researchers surveyed 379 young Singaporean adults who reported their parents lying during their childhood, they discovered that the participants who were lied to as children were more likely to lie to their parents as adults.

The study also suggested that parental dishonesty can create trust issues and problems externalizing certain emotions, like aggression.

#9

30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations That crying is shameful.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a tendency of crying to easily when i was younger so now nobody takes me seriously when i am in visible distress

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations That you need to hustle 100% of the time and be constantly busy with school/work, extra activities, side projects, cleaning etc. Spending time unwinding is a sign of laziness and boredeom and intelligent people are never bored. This really messed me up and I'm still learning the art of wasting time.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm quite skilful when it comes to wasting time ... continues opening a few more boredpanda articles

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"I read some stories about pets that 'ran away,'" u/nousername1982 said. "I too discovered 20 years after the 'dog ran away' that he was euthanized. I can imagine the truth is difficult to share with kids."

"Other lies are just lame, with no excuse. I shared the story that my father told me he had to get A's every day at work. Of course, that is not true, and it didn't help me to get motivated. A friend of mine tells his kids about a 'dangerous man' coming at night if the kids are not good. This is just bad parenting."

Even though the Redditor believes it's impossible to raise a kid without lies, they nonetheless think that parents should strive to be honest.

#11

30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations My mum made me believe that privacy was a privilege. Wasn't until I started studying childcare and learning in depth about the rights of the child that I learned it is a right and that my mum is full of bullsh*t

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is definitely unfortunately a norm in th U.S. people will get offended by me saying this mainly because they don't want to face what I'm saying as fact.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom would casually rearrange my room, throw my stuff out etc. When I told her to stop doing that, she acted like I'm the one being disrespectful. ^^ ♥

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents read my letters and diaries, trust issues until today.

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Anaïs Grobin
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Me too. It's festered. I keep all of my notebooks and sketchbooks in a locked carry on bag, and I have numerous safes. I'm almost 40, but my mother violated my trust so many times in my youth that hiding everything in locking containers has become a compulsive behavior for me. Luckily, I have the most understanding husband, who used to rent a room from my mom back before I met him and understands why I feel the way I do.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've done this before, when my dad read my diary because 'privacy was a privilege', I grabbed a screwdriver and bye-bye master bedroom doors.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ohmygosh thats great (assuming I read this correctly and u removed ur parents bedroom doors).

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Does anybody else have a control freak for a mother? 😶

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a control freak mother that was also extremely neglectful. Like everything had to go her way but she didn't care for me and my siblings. It was the worst.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At one point children didn't have as much rights as they do now. Our parents parented by example of those times. Modern research and new laws have broken the cycles of BS.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my parents believe i haven't reached the age where I deserve privacy

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even after i turned 18 my mom didn't understand privacy, had to have several yelling matches before i even got her to knock before entering.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom is still like this, she wonders why I sneak behind her back. Evading privacy is a gateway to your children being secretive and rebellious. Can't wait to have children and give them a life I didn't get to, rather than be mad over the life I didn't have.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Privacy is a right and can only be taken away if having privacy would put you at risk of harming yourself or others

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omg this one hits hard. My mom read my texts and diaries. Like, some stuff is not your business especially friend drama and stuff that others tell me and they don’t want anyone else to know! As soon as I found out what she was doing I always hid my stuff.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My only problem with this is when the child is in danger of causing themselves or others harm. My kid has had freedom to do or go wherever they please. Last month they admitted that they were thinking about killing themselves. We were then told by a councilor that we had to go through their room and find all items that they could use. I hated doing it. But what happens if they hadn't said anything?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was a teenager and had just recently came out to my parents, they took away my door saying "Privacy is a privilege, and you just proved to us that you are not trustworthy." I spent most of my teenage life crying in my open room because I had to hide the fact that I liked girls, while getting boyfriend to please them. I now realize that they are complete assholes. I am so grateful that I was able to escape them at an early age.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom is still like this, I hate living with her. I have five siblings, and me and my older sister are her free child care. My sister moves out in a year and my mom is losing her crap worse than normal. I will never give her trust again. I can't leave the house besides from school, I can't watch movies above PG, I can't hang out with friends at their houses, everything is too "dangerous", yet she leaves us home alone in a Sketchy neighborhood with just a lock between us and gunfire.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Of my good, that horrible. Move out as soon as you can babe! Good luck to you!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No way, I had a friend who lost the door to her room because her parents though she had a boy over, she didn't, she just had a jacket in her room from the night before when we all went out, she got cold, a mutual friend gave her the jacket to wear. Anyway, she lost her door for like 6 months. She was 15. This traumatized her.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So I see this two ways. Privacy is a privilege. Its a privilege I give my kids a lot of; however, they know that I reserve the right to violate that privacy if it's for their safety. I've never had the need to do so yet but it's something we agreed to when they got phones and laptops

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Raise your hand if you ever got your bedroom door taken off as a child

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It depends. Like my son I will go through his phone at times. I will look through his backpack. He is only 14 so in that respect no privacy.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep, wasn't even allowed to have a door to my bedroom as a kid. My computer, notebooks, drawing books, etc was REGULARLY gone through and used against me. I'm 29 now, used to love drawing and writing. Still can't bring myself to get back into it. I still struggle with even ASKING for my own privacy.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WHAT!!! U am sorry but I have been told time in and time out that my privacy is something that needs to be earned and is a privilege that I have. So do you mean to tell me that my privacy is actually a law that needs to be abided. The irony

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think its a law, but its the decent thing to do for your children. Privacy is a human need, not a privilege to be earned

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you are a parents of a minor child that's in real trouble, like life threatening or someone is likely to go to jail trouble, you HAVE to know what they're up to in other to protect them. It's your job as a parent to keep them from dying or ruining their life beyond repair.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Barging into the toilet I would protest and again I got, "But I'm your MOTHER!"

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's 6 people in this house (2 bedrooms, 1 full bath and 1 half bathroom.) So there isn't really any privacy. We get privacy on our devices because she trusts us, but if there is concern then she'll ask. I haven't been told to show her my phone yet because she trusts me and there isn't any concern. It's hard to have privacy in this small house but we do get some privacy I guess?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When your 14 year old has been groomed by a 43 year old on the internet, you will want to know how they could get away with it. The answer will be because you let them.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In reality it is. The government watches you. Your phone watches you. What's this privacy s**t?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not respecting your mom is also bullsh*t. My mom made mistakes too, but not once i talk sh*t about her.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad said this too. He said he could come into my room and go through my things whenever he wanted and for any reason, or no reason at all. He did once. It caused me a lot of anxiety and I got good at lying and hiding things

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Now this needs context. when I was growing up there was no social media... reading a diary would have been the worst imposition of my privacy... but with kids being lured out of their homes to meet strangers, being bullied, on social media parents need to keep an eye on things to make sure their kids are safe. It's just different now....other comments from people do show a definite line being crossed, though.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not allowed privacy because I'm under 18 and according to my father he owns me and all my stuff and ca do whatever he wants whenever. He's even taken away the right to shut my door if I've done something to upset him/get in trouble. And he never knocks and gets mad when I tell him to get out or he can't come in because I'm naked, and he comes in anyway! It's so frustrating

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This to me equalled I couldn't be trusted and you shouldn't be able to be left in private.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've never even snooped on my kids. They've never given me reason to. Show your kids they can trust you by respecting their privacy. They have always been honest about where they are, and most of the time I was generally aware of their activities because they TOLD ME.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I wonder even to this day in my 30s, what was done to me by not being permitted privacy or a room with a door until I moved out around 21.

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Melanie Mancill
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

yep mine is the same way... dunno where she gets off saying stuff like that :/

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Brian Bennett
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Had lots of privacy - was completely ignored most of the time!

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Sabrina Bowen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was a cutter. When my mother found out her answer was to make me strip once a week so she could "check me" for new marks.

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James Smith
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I couldn't shut my bedroom door, and the bathroom door didn't lock, so I'd have people "checking on me" any time of day or night, even in the shower. There's evidence this parenting style causes mental disorders in children.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Privacy is worth its weight in gold. My wife thinks it's strange that I need alone time. My oldest daughter is the same way. This really bothers my wife, because she wasn't raised by parents that d made privacy a priority.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Aaargh! I would never read my daughters diaries. She knew this and she could leave her diary out in the open and know it was private. To me reading that would be the equivalent of walking into the bathroom while she was taking a shower. When a child learns trust they give trust. My daughter has told me secrets over the years because she knows I would never break her confidence and it has made us all the closer.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is THE biggest load of cr@p; become homeless!! (AKA fu¢k your life up really bad!!) The first thing you notice IS a privilege AFTER ALL?!?!? that's RIGHT!!!! PRIVACY!! go to prison- NO PRIVACY!! REHAB; yep, you GUESSED it!!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mother still says with with me and my sister and we don't live with her anymore.

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Richard Spalding
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're the parent therefore you are responsible both civilly and criminally. Their "rights" take a back seat to your parental authority.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Privacy from your parents is a privilege. Rights don't really apply until your old enough to serve.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents seemed to believe the same thing. They took the door off of my room once because I was 'hiding something from them'. I just spent time in my room

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Privacy is a social subset of trust. If you are trusted, privacy should follow.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You aren't owed a goddamn thing. You earn everything your parents/society LET you have.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

then why are there laws set in place so that there aren't cameras in children's bedrooms?

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You have no privacy in another person's house. If you want privacy, get your own home.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm guessing you'll tell your children they don't deserve food either if they're hungry huh, since if they're so hungry they should buy their own food.

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B******t. I actually agree with this person's mom - privacy is a privilege. As a parent you are the one ultimatelly responsible for your children's wellbeing. First show me that you are a responsible person and then you can have your privacy, not the other way around.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry but you are so out of line. A child need a place to be safe. A private place... allways. If you don't provide for the space in your household - it will go elsewhere to find it. Safety first!

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“Bullies are cowards.”

No they aren’t. They’re evil scum who are naively capable of ruining your life for decades after. And they’re not afraid to do so.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cowards? They are anything but cowards, they feel all powerful because they literally massacre children who have done nothing to them, well hidden behind the school garbage cans. And if by some miracle this child manages to talk about it, to a teacher or a supervisor, these assholes are smart enough to make everyone believe that it was you who started it and WORST that you deserved it. A "big" (12) girl from daycare (I was 6/7 years old) spent three years telling me every night "your mother is dead, she won't come to get you, she will never come back". It created anxieties in me that I still feel today... But Go die Sarah!!!!

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If you're contemplating whether or not to bend the truth, experts advise to ask yourself a few questions first:

  • Are you only helping them in the short term, which might affect things in the future?
  • Will your lie confuse them or give them unrealistic expectations of people?
  • Is the lie for you or them?
  • Are they able to understand the truth?

Often, a child's age and maturity determine whether or not a lie is the way to go!

#13

30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations That it’s rude to express any negative emotions.

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#14

30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations Tell me the truth I won't be mad.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Aaaaaaaaand that's how you get to be punished (in the best case) for something as trivial as having forgotten to start the washing machine for the mother-in-law...

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations That you have to “suffer for love” (I’m a chick). Thanks mom, you set me up for a lifetime of trying to change narcissistic losers.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My "best friend" when I was a teenager (15), told me that in love or in friendship, if we didn't suffer, it wasn't real... Yeah, of course...

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations My dad always said. "Children should be seen and not heard." I'm not a big fan of that one

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This basically tells children that their opinions, experiences and feelings are invalid and their parents don't care about them. Good strategy if you want your adult children never to talk to you again.

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#17

Well I was mostly raised by my grandparents. We lived in an all white community and my grandparents believed every terrible thing they had ever been told about black people. I spent my youth being fed those lies but everyone I knew was white and I couldn’t imagine it being true. When I got to college I met my first non white people and was able to verify that the things they believed just weren’t true.

And luckily both of them realized that before they passed away.

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations Animals don't get cold, they're made for being outside.

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#19

30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations ‘’Parents always know what’s best for their child’’

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#20

30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations They're not gay, they're just confused.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

bullshite. so what if they're gay? if ya got a problem don't look. just live under a freaking rock your entire life

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations That their love has conditions, and if not followed they will drop you in your time of need. Right or wrong, I hope my children will never feel like they can’t talk to me or that I will judge them.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And some elderly folks wonder why their family dumped them in a care home and don't want to contact them again.

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#22

Saying, 'Do as I say, not as I do.' A leader shouldn't ask his followers to do something he wouldn't.

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations That sex is something to be ashamed of.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let me guess? Religious parents? Why are they SO obsessed with sex & punishment?

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations That as long as we “have always been given everything we need we are loved”. The emotional abuse has ruined me

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

yeah im always called ungrateful or selfish or the "dont you know what we have done for you" when i stand up to their abuse

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations The man of the house is always right.

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations No, it's not racist to say that.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Any discrimination based on skin color is racism. There are no exceptions.

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations Don't worry about the college loans! You're smart, you'll get a good job and pay that off in a few years.

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#28

That it is illegal to have the little ceiling light on in the car.

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#29

30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations That i basically have to be a smaller version of them, believe exactly what they do and not think for myself and have my own opinion. If i have kids id let them be open minded and believe what they want

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Every parent should aspire for their kids to be better than them not the same

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#30

To try to fit in as much as possible and to please others, at the expense of who you really are on the inside.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are so many things in this list that have hurt me over the years, but this one was probably the worst one for me and is still today. After already years of mental issues, currently recovering from a depression. After 36 years I'm now finally at the point that I really feel like I'm allowed to express myself. Wear the clothes I like, live the life that I like, hell even think what I like. Never, ever tell your kids to be normal, if they are expressing themselves differently. They will start eating away themselves from the inside and at some point they will break.

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