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I hope that everyone agrees that not vaccinating your child is an ill way of parenting. Other parenting trends like letting kids do whatever they want and run amok like there’s no tomorrow are also questionable. But the subject matter is delicate, since we also like to believe that for the most part, parents know what’s best for their kids. Or do they?

Well, these two threads from Ask Reddit will shed some light on common parenting styles that are not necessarily healthy. In fact, people claim they’re everything but. “What is the worst parenting trend to date?” someone asked a while ago, and just recently a similar question popped up: "What parenting 'trend' do you strongly disagree with?"

Below we selected some thought-provoking arguments people shared in response to the questions. Also, let us know what parenting trend you don’t agree with in the comments below!

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Y'all need to cut this anti-vaccination s**t out like right now. Vaccines save lives.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This deserves it's place on top of the list. With the other things you'll have rude and uneducated kids that become entitled adults, but at least they get to become adults.

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There are as many parenting styles as there are parents, and there’s no universal recipe on how to raise your children. But because the current generation faces unprecedented challenges, it also requires tact and special behavior from parents to be able to keep up with the changing times and the increased demands of parenting and child-rearing.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers when ppl posts videos online of them punishing their kids. ex: “dad shaves girls head for txting boyfriend.” what in the sick hell kinda sh*t is that? and nobody seems to have a problem with that or thinks about how incredibly traumatic it’s going to be for that child. and the parents who do this literally make me sick. who is that for even? what are you trying to prove by humiliating your child in front of possibly thousands of ppl or more. ppl like this deserve to have their kids taken away. sorry not sorry.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Not teaching manners with other people's pets. You want to pat my dog you f**king ASK, then you introduce yourself to her (back of your hand to sniff), THEN you may pat her. DO NOT harass her. My dog is a sweetheart but she is an animal and she is at exactly the right height to bite your little darlings face off and then its my fault and my dog dies because you couldnt teach your brat some manners.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This should be so much higher. I have kids. I have dogs. One of my dogs LOVES kids. Loves being ridden like a horse (120lb german shepherd) and having small children climbing all over him. The other one is terrified of kids, luckily he has a very mean bark and isn't confrontational. He puffs himself up, barks as loud as he can and retreats backwards while barking. It's enough to scare them off. It's the parents not the kids or my dog. *EDIT* hey look it's number 2 now 😁

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The coronavirus pandemic and political turmoil and war we see in Europe right now, as well as the inflation reaching sky highs all bring their own kind of uncertainty. For this reason, many parents are reevaluating the common parenting tactics previous generations took for granted.

Communicating trauma and being open about difficulties is one such new trend we see among parents. Another new style emerging is that more and more parents choose to provide their kids with experiences instead of material gifts. This is how you create memorable experiences and establish a better bond with your kid.

#4

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Not teaching basic manners and giving them a ridiculous sense of entitlement.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! That kid is your diamond, great! He/she is a pain in my butt. I do not live your diamond.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Shielding children from the natural consequences of their actions. They don't learn from their mistakes and the consequence price tags are so much higher when they become adults.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How I was taught and how I taught my daughter. Do not be afraid from making mistakes, just make sure you learn from the experience in not repeating them.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers I hate when parents get mad at me for telling off their kids. I work in hospitality and we have a bowl of mints at the bar with tongs to grab them out. One night these three kids, all under age 10 but old enough to know better, just started diving their hands into the bowl. I told them politely to use the tongs, then I told them off when they ignored my request. The parents got mad at me instead of their kids, even though their kids just made me throw out a whole bowl of mints. If you're incapable of disciplining your child properly, don't get upset when someone else does it for you.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YES. It takes a village to raise a child and parents should expect that village will need to reprimand your kid once in a while.

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But no matter what new trends emerge in parenting, one very common flaw will probably outlive them all. And you guessed it… it’s spoiling kids. In fact, over half this survey of 1,125 parents with kids between 4 and 10 confessed that they spoil their children too much. Another 2 in 5 go even further, saying they’re sometimes “embarrassed by how selfish their child acts.”

Spoiled kids don’t get to know and feel what it is like to be grateful, as gratitude is not something that children acquire automatically. It needs to be nurtured, in an age-appropriate way, but the more they get used to getting their way easily, the harder it is to turn them around.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Parent of teens here! All of my kids have had a friend that stayed the night at our house because the friend missed curfew at home and wasn't allowed in the house. I don't get it. Punishing the kid for missing curfew is totally acceptable. But not letting them in their own house in the middle of the night? What good can possibly come from that? My own kids rarely missed their curfew but when they did, they knew that they could come home, to a safe place, and face the consequences the next day.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with this 1000%. I woke up one morning and saw the neighbor's kid asleep on the porch. When I went to see if he was OK, he told me he missed curfew and was locked out for the night. That is so horrible!

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Gender reveal parties.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I get that parents-to-be are excited about their new lives and as long as they aren't setting fires or making a huge mess of things, then go for it. Just understand that most people aren't nearly as invested as you are in your future child's sex. This would be the second most boring social event, right behind the baby shower. Only my opinion.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Beauty Pageants. I have no problem with them it's just that the age these parents make their kids enter and the s**t they do to try to win like doping them up on sugar and energy drinks. Using spray tans and makeup on kids that are sometimes 1-2 years old! And in the end they extort their child for little to no monetary gain. I've seen parents neglect their other kids in favor of the pagent queen. And in the end you get a spoiled brat that throws a hissy fit and is disrespectful. But who cares, you spent 15k to win 5k and you're on TLC

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So in order to find out more about how being spoiled in childhood may affect your adult life, we spoke with Lynn How, the author of “Positive Young Mind'' and life coach who specializes in supporting educators, parents, and children with improving and prevention of mental health issues. She also runs this Facebook teacher coaching group which is an excellent resource for teachers in need of support when leaving, changing their mindset, changing their schools or setting healthy work/life boundaries.

“Do you know anyone who has trouble keeping their emotions in check when they don’t get their own way?” Lynn said and added that it may be that they were spoilt as a child and this hasn’t done them any favors as they move into their adult life.

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#10

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers "Boys will be boys".

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this should be used when boys are doing something like putting hot dogs on the slide, not for s3xual h@rassment (edit: ty all SO MUCH for the upvotes!!!)

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Unschooling. I agree that kids should have some sort of say in what they learn - if your kid is really interested in, say, bugs, then by god you take them to every bug museum you can find and buy them all the bug books - BUT kids should have a basic curriculum whether they're interested in it or not. I get that most kids don't like math, or history, or the "boring" classes, but I strongly disagree with the unschooling attitude of "my kid does not want to learn it, so I won't make them."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

yea cuz unless they’re gonna live in the woods forever away from society they need to know math and how to write

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Parents never telling their children "no" and refusing to set any boundaries.

I get empowering children by giving them a voice in decision-making and the freedom to speak their minds, but general social norms would be nice.

Listening to 8 year olds throw fits in public and being rude to family and strangers (at top volume) is not endearing in any way.

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“These children may turn into adults who show less resilience when things go wrong and they may give up easily when things aren’t working out. Also, they want it all and they want it now whereas most adults can tolerate delayed gratification,” she explained.

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#13

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Videoing kids at their worst moments and then posting it on social media.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A very distant relative of mine has a YouTube channel with her unschooled kids, and they’re always crying in the back or telling her to stop the camera and it’s just insane that she still posts it

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Taking youth sports too seriously.

I helped with and attended games for years, and can count on one hand the number of times I saw a child lose their temper. Parents lost it all the time. More than once I've seen a parent have to be physically restrained.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those parents need to be banned from attending. They can wait in the car park.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Ear piercing babies. That pisses me off. Let them decide. Don't put your vanity onto your baby. ESPECIALLY with piercing guns.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Had my ears pierced as a baby. Now I have 6 in one ear, 4 in the other (including a Daith piercing). And tattoos. Hehe, maybe I can blame it on not having a choice when I was a kid. The rest were my choice and my decision.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had my ears pierced as a baby. And I grew, as did my ears. So my piercings don't align, just like 99 percent of people who have their ears pierced as babies (a lot of people don't notice, unfortunately I do) . I got more holes in my ears as an adult, but those two misaligned holes really bother me.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Basicly the same. Mutilating a person's body without their permission. And the reasons maybe tradition, culture or relegion or another excuse but that doesn't justify the deed. As the Cardinal said to the Priest: Spare me from that. Even the Devil can quote the bible.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's a cultural thing in some countries, nothing to do with vanity. If the kid doesn't want to wear earrings later in life, they'll close up.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mine didn't. I haven't had earrings in the holes since I was 2 years old and I'm almost 40.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I got my ears pierced as a baby yet my parents won't let me pierce my nose (I'm 18). Didn't let me choose for my ears but when I do make a choice I just can't do it, it pisses me off.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My opinion...it's not my body to permanently change and mutilate. If my child wants them when their older ok...but it's not my body and I shouldn't be altering it unnecessarily. I feel the same way about circumcision.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same! Let them choose what they do with, to themselves for fashion. Barring anything damaging, of course. When I had my son, both the doctor, two outraged nurses were all over me for my anti-circumcision view. Why should their beliefs influence someone else's body for life?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

in some cultures, it's actually custom! i got mine done professionally when i was 1

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Marco Hub-Dub
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So is female circumcising. Doesn’t make it ok just because it’s cultural.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had mine done at 2 weeks old. I don't remember it, I'm not damaged or outraged. You need to calm down

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

1. "It didn't any damage to me" is too stupid an argument for an adult to use, and you know it 2. just because it doesn't do visible damage make it right.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You shouldn't let babies pierce ears at all.....they don't have the manual dexterity to be able to properly or safely do it at all.....

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I got mine pierced when I was still at the maternity after being born. I am very happy to have them, never got more, earrings have always been the only jewelry I use. I did not pierce my daughter ears though. It's her body, her decision.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think that's a trend. It seems to be more of a cultural thing. That said, I don't like it either, I prefer when children choose for themselves to have earrings.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Personally I'm happy my parents decided to have it done when I was a little baby. No memory, according to them even at the time I was crying for like 30 seconds. At the time in my country almost every girl had pierced ears and the ones who did not were envious of the others and felt bad that they couldn't have earrings. I find it a lot less of a problem even today than other body modifications, because these tiny holes heal if you decide to take out your earrings. I still like earrings and as a young adult I had a few more holes done in my ears. I was still nervous about it and I thought that if I had to have the original ones done as a little girl already aware of pain I might've chickened out. I can still understand arguments against this custom and I'm also not sure I'd be capable of holding down a tiny baby while someone is making a hole in their ears. It would probably be better to shift the customs toward making this an adult thing.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents let me choose, I got my first holes when I was 13, at 18 I got my second set. Maybe I'm gonna have a third and last set of earring holes but already thinking about a lip and helix piercing.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Many years ago, in Spain, local people thought my daughter (18 months) was a boy because she didn't have her ears pierced.

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Amy Taylor
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Both my daughters were bald as babies and I never dressed them super girly.. that didn't seem like a good enough reason to get their ears pierced. I'd just politely correct the people who said "he's so cute" lol

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry, disagree… especially for girls. Over 90% of all women have ears pierced and I guarantee it’s better to get them pierced when you don’t remember and can’t feel anything.

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9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It doesn't hurt that bad, when you're old enough to understand what's going on. All the baby knows is that it hurts!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom wouldn't get my ears done as a baby despite it being a cultural norm for Italian Americans. She wanted me to be old enough to decide myself. Got them done for my 4th birthday ;)

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Sabrina Bowen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This should be WAY higher on the list. Your babies are beautiful without earrings. And when/if they get piercings or tattoos should be their choice because it's their body - NOT YOURS! Putting unnecessary holes in your child should be a felony not a fashion statement!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hell, why not tattoo them while you’re at it. Leave them alone, let them choose when they are older

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Tattoo can bring risk of hepatitis and also make MRI scans difficult if ink is cheap. You are choosing a permanent art on a kid. But pierced ears are barely noticeable if you don't wear anything and will almost close up if you don't wear one for years.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Had my ears pierced as a baby, so grateful for that as I got to enjoy being able to wear earrings whenever I wanted. Something as little as piercing ears is not going to affect a person. It's literally barely noticeable unless you wear earrings. I personally find it adorable and definitely will pierce my future children's ears.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This practice is common in other cultures where earrings are an adornment for the baby girl. Just like bows, bracelets and necklaces. If baby girl earrings upset you how do you feel about circumcision on a baby boy?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This! I let both of my daughters decide when and if they wanted their ears pierced. One wanted it, the other didn't.

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Jali Cook
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Funny that circumcision is routinely practiced, but ear piercing is disliked. No, my boys are not. Both are fathers and they have never had an issue.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In many European countries baby girls ears are pierced to identify them as female.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The US is 47th in terms of five-and-under child mortality rates (including poor nations), and you're worried about pierced ears?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I got mine done at 2 months :/ I think it was a waste of money cause apparently I'm allergic to most earrings and I never wear them anyways.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never pierced my child's ears. I believe it is their choice. She's 12 now and still doesn't want it done. Me on the other hand, had my ears pierced at 3 and now have my eyebrow done, lip, tongue, belly button, and other things.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And if you just can't help but take away your child's choice in the matter, at least, for the love of all things unholy, get the child tested for metal allergies first.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had mine pierced when I was a baby and I can't even wear earrings anymore because my mom had them pierced at freaking CLAIRS! My sister had hers pierced when she was 6 and it was her own decision, hers got infected maybe a couple of months after, and now she can't wear earrings anymore either. My mom still won't admit that it was because Clairs does shitty piercing jobs that always get infected.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank you. And no, the fact that it's "tradition" doesn't make it any better. Let your kid grow up and decide if they want holes in their body.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never had my ears pierced as a baby - my mom always said it should be my decision. I made my own decision to heave my ears pierced when I was about 10 years old. Today I am 48 and I have 30 facial piercings and 6 tattoos. So who knows? LOL!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes. I love claires* and sometimes people bring bailies into the store to pierce their ears with A PERICING GUN it’s even worse, because they don’t understand, they pull on them, and they can possibly rip out. Like come on bud, wait until they are old enough to understand that earrings are not a toy and they are the same as a bracelet or necklace 😤😤😤

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes it's cultural. But I definitely let my girls te me when they wanted them. And if they want more that's okay too!

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Edda Kamphues
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My daughter harassed me to get her ears pierced when she was three (she's 17 now). Eventually I gave in. I have piercings myself, who am I to say no? She was so keen, she did not shed a single tear.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish mine were done as a baby. My mom refused to do it until I was old enough to take care of it myself and by that point I was too scared of it bc I have a needle phobia and the gun is terrifying. I'm 20 and I don't have any piercings

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't have to be afraid. It only hurts for a moment :) Close your eyes and think of something beautiful.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My granddaughter chose to have her ears pierced at age 3. She kept bugging us to get her ears pierced until we eventually took her. Now at age 5 almost 6 she loves her earrings.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It makes me mad too. I see too many babies with pierced ears, getting them pierced hurt for me, imagine how much it hurts for a baby.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't mind this. I the kid chooses that they don't like earrings when they get older just let the hole get covered up. Its better than wanting to get your ears pierced and your parents not letting you because "It'll stretch out your earlobes"

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Sabrina Bowen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A. Not everyone's holes will close, especially if they got them young or wore earrings for a long time. B. Even if they do close there could be scarring. C. It's not "better," it's actually the same thing because it's about having ones autonomy removed. Either way it's about not having a choice over what does and does not happen to your body.

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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Uh, they can let it grow back up or get 20 more. Sounds like you didn't want pierced ears.

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9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had my ears ppeirced as a 1 month old baby, and since I was so young I couldnt fix them, I got an ear infection becausee they made them pearl earings, and the pearls were no joke pushing inside my ear. Thats why I chose wheather to get them again when I was 7.

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Alena Jaweed
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9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

tell that to southasian/arab cultures. its NOT a thing for vanity, i PROMISE. plus, the kids can always choose not to wear them. the hole doesnt close easily. now, mutilating your kid and s**t like that is DISGUSTING. but thats a different topic

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Harshini G Saravanan
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9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

as someone who had their ears pierced as a baby because it is a part of my religion (I'm Hindu btw) i think it is better as I've had 3 other ear piercings done and they had more than i thought it would. ear holes also close up so if the child doesn't want the piercings just ake it out

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Donna Turner
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9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I did it to my child. It was done to me. She never cried or anything and we had no problems. Our pediatrician was Kenyan and she did it in the office at 3 months old.

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Kait Skyler
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I cannot believe a parent's vanity takes presidence over the pain of a piercing. Makes me want to scream.

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Geminigirl999
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11 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean, if you have twin babies and ones a girl and the others a boy, go ahead and pierce their ears it’ll make life easier

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Dagny White
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had mine pierced when I was a baby, and I was allowed to grow them in, but my parents did it so that I would not remember the pain.

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Mage Perseus
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is something that has cultural values. If the child doesn’t want it, the can remain be the earring and the pierced hole will close.

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Clay S.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Piercing guns should be illegal. Especially those free ear Piercing things at the mall

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GrowingThruConcrete
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wait until your child can decide for themselves if they want body modification. I used to work in a mall kiosk right beside the ear piercing place. It was heart wrenching to hear babies cry all day. I wanted to slap the parents.

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Adriana Hernandez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is kind of a cultural thing. In Mexico, newborn boys get circumcisions, newborn girls get their ears pierced. In many families, those first earrings are family heirlooms, passed from one generation to the next. It'd actually be quite weird to see a girl toddler NOT wearing earrings!

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Gwyn Strickland
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mostly agree. Piercing too young can result in bad placement of the earrings, not to mention it requires special care to avoid infections, etc. I let my kids decide when they were old enough to take care of their own ear piercings (min. age 12). However, for some people it is a cultural tradition to pierce baby girls ears. Everyone they know within their family/community does the same, so not doing it make the child the odd one out.

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Aubri
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This one is also a family tradition for some people. I got my ears pierced at 3 months old but my family stopped the tradition after me. Edit: I’m Mexican btw

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Anjana Shegunshi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually, ear piercing a baby is traditional in India, for a religious naming ceremony.

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Corazon Salsamendi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i got my ear piercing as a baby but I can wear jewelry whenever i want

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Shapree Mallory
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What about culture based piercings or are we jus trying to control American cultured parents?

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Me Gravy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

...my aunt took me to the mall when i was 4 and had my ears pierced while i wailed and fought them. I was such a "tom boy" - i haven't worn earrings since i let them grow shut at age 10. Please don't EVER do this to a child! It's disgusting at BEST!!!

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Kiwi_User
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this might get my comment deleted, BUT. I don't see any issue here. If it was... idk, a tattoo? then it would be a problem. but ONE ear piercing per ear, matched with a tiny earring like the one in photo doesn't do no harm. Piercings holes can close with time, so if they don't want it anymore they stop wearing earrings until they're gone. Easy as that. I really don't see what's wrong with this. EDIT Then again, depends on the age. if the kiddo is 2, it might be better to refrain. if the kiddo is, idk, 5? then it's cool.

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ReginaC
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Did this becausr it is part of my cultural heritage..so big disagreement with y'all on this!!

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Kraneia The Dancing Dryad
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never understood this. What if the earrings come out and the kid swallows them? What if their little ears get infected or develop allergies? I can't help but think it's just an "accessory" for the parent.

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yumekojabamisupremacy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I actually disagree with this. Like most of these commenters, I had my ears pierced as a baby. I am glad I didn’t have to go through the process of convincing my parents to pierce my ears and then wait forever for them to take me to a piercing shop and then not even like them afterwards.

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Teresa Taylor
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Disagree with this one. This is not a new trend. This has been going on since time began. It's a cultural thing, not a vanity thing. Yes. Yes, my ears were pierced as a baby. So were my sister's. She had her daughter's ears pierced as a baby and she in turn had her daughter's ears pierced when she was a few months old.

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L.a. Williams
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I did it with my oldest in my defense people kept saying she was a cute little boy.

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Cerridwen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ears were pierced as a toddler. I had my daughters ears pierced as a toddler. If you don't like it don't do it to your kids. It's that simple. The ones I had done as a toddler are gauged now. The ones I decided to have done later all rejected or were too sensitive. But not the ones I've had for 40 years. I got a second piercing at 12. I got a triple helix at 35. Those are gone. Hmm.

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miki tavi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wrong. For many, this is a culture thing. Unilaterally dismissing it because you don't believe in it is insulting. MILLIONS of us (yes millions) got our ears pierced at babyhood and I'm pretty sure it was nothing since I don't remember it and I'm good. No trauma or "trust issues" towards my mom or whatever issues the mommy blogs told you was going to happen. And I never had to worry about getting my ears pierced and the pain and discomfort because the piercing was already there! And. I. Don't. Remember. It.

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girlsrock4ever
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mixed feelings about this. It's a cultural thing for some people (like my family). Also, piercing guns are less painful than the other option that I forgot, apparently.

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Ashley Spurlock
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had my ears pierced once, I had cute flowers for earrings and I loved them. The piercing hurt so much I took it out and never put it in again.. my mom still has the earrings. 😂

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Sharon McIlhargey
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was 22, my then-fiance talked me into getting my ears pierced. The hairdresser/ear piercing "technician" was so bad, I fainted in the chair. To this day, the damage can be seen. Don't get me started on circumcision. Hard Pass!

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Raee O_o
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's two tiny holes omg not that serious I had mine done multiple times and they closed up couldn't even tell them I finally did them myself at 16 now, I have a daughter and I'm thinking of getting hera done. If she's mad when she's older w.e they'll close up, I doubt anyone is looking at a tiny hole in their ear and are completely devastated by it. C'mon now. It's crazy this is bad but I'm sure half of you. Support hormone blockers and cutting healthy breast off of children like that won't be detrimental later in life? Smh

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madeline tansey bryson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why isn't it illegal?? It is not ok. It's stabbing!! If someone used a knife on your baby would you still think it's ok?? If I pierced my dogs ears is that ok?? Circumcision and the female cutting is part of society or religion but does that make it ok??! NO

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Bored Phoenix (he/they)
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i had mine pierced as a kid and now the holes are closed up so id actually have to get new holes if i wanted them pierced again. i don't even want them pierced tho, however I'd love a septum piercing and maybe like fake earrings that arent actually piercings

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C Randolph
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It can be a cultural thing. I work for a pediatrician who pierce babies on their 2-week visit after birth. The baby's never cried unless they didn't like the noise of the gun. And they can't reach their little earlobes to mess with them and infect them.

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Carlo Reyes
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Had my ear pierced as a baby just glad i didnt feel the same pain if i got it as a kid my mom and i love jewelry but ofc if i do that with my kid ima ask them like when they are 2 or smt

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MacaroniBabe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was a kid I wanted my ears pierced so bad but my parents weren't sure about it. I begged them until they said I could get them pierced when I turned 10. I got them pierced at Claire's (I know, I know) and I loved it. I got a pair of tiny Hello Kitty studs (piercing grade) and learned how to clean and take care of my ears. I respect my parents' decision, and I also respect parents who have their kid's ears pierced at a much younger age. I turned out fine. Other kids have turned out fine. It is a tradition for some families, and everyone should respect that. Do what you want with yourself and your kids, and leave others alone. Side note: I do think it is important to go to a professional piercer, piercing guns aren't safe. Second side note: I saw that someone said earrings could be dangerous for a baby because they might pull it out, I agree that that's a reasonable concern to have for your own kid(s)

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Jo Sargent
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, if you are passed over something like this, what does pedophilia do to you

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Jezebel Gallardo Gallardo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It was a cultural thing in my family. All little girls get pierced as a baby, right after the first visit to the pediatrician and first vaccines😁

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Tree P
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I cannot agree with piercing a baby's ears. I know it can be a cultural thing, but I would be afraid the baby would pull it out, or, having done this, put it in their mouth. I had my ears pierced at 12,hurt like hell, plus got infected dispite me cleaning regularly. Imagine a baby's ears getting infected like that? It was more painful than the piercing itself!

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Julianne M
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom waited until i was ten to get my ears pierced. Same goes for my 4 test old sister

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Had my ears pierced as a baby. I have no recollection, I'm not traumatized. I don't wear earrings because..former small animal/livestock/Avian Veterinarian. My holes have closed up. Yeah, it's kinda strange that my parents did it, but it's nothing to clutch my pearls over.

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Alex Foster
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents got my ears pierced when I was 6 ish which. Genuinely I don't think they were going to do, they waited until the same year for my sister to get hers done and she was two years older- but I had a complex about my ears because I had to have tubes implanted, in able to hear properly. So pretty earrings. Still sort of wish they hadn't? Because the piercer did a terrible job, stuck them right in the center of my love so I can't get more piercings, and it was so crooked that in trying to get an earring in once, I accidentally created a second exit hole in the back of my ear- which then turned into a keloid, had to be cut off and cauterized and stitched up. Like six years later now though I have gotten my earrings repierced, after my ear healed up and I had a chance to get it done professionally and more straight.

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Thecoolbonnie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't really see the harm? It's much more traumatic when they're older, and some kids I know even tried to pierce their OWN! :-o

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Teresa Taylor
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's a cultural thing. At least it is where I'm from. I had mine done when I was a baby by my pediatrician. Most of the girls I grew up with had their ears pierced before they knew they HAD ears. They, in turn, had their girls ears pierced as infants, and their grandchildren had theirs done. It was just the way it was done. If someone doesn't like the piercings, they don't have to wear earrings. I'm 56 and haven't worn earrings since I was a teenager. I do on occasion put them in, but it's rare and for an occasion.

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Amanda Ramsey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My daughter got her ears pierced at the age of 7 years old. Everyone around me kept pushing for me to get it done but i felt like it's her body so why would I make such a permanent choice for her. She finally did ask to have it done and I took her the following weekend.

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Mary Lou Quercioli
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 1/2 Cuban. All of the girls in my extended family on my moms side had their ears pierced at just a few day old. It's a Hispanic/Latin thing. Part of my family history!!

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Aura Espinosa
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's cultural with some.groups. It doesn't cause any harm. I don't even know why this is on the list.

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Anna Gabrielle Borbolla-Menare
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had mine pierced when I was a baby, and I developed an allergy to the steel earrings, my ears would swell and get hot and painful. Long story short, DON'T PIERCE BABY EARS

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Ambry Petersen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had my daughters ears peirced as a baby, mine were as well. However whether or not we actually wear earrings is more choice. Normally we wear them for special occasions or once a week for church. Or when my daughter asks to wear them. So I have nothing against piercing ears with one modest pair. It's simply granting them the opportunity to wear earrings without having to have any memory of the sting. Neither me or my daughter has suffered any harm from this.

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Biliegh Berrie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish I would have had mine done as a baby. Saved me from the pain.

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Tracy Dawn
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Many Cultures do this, including mine. My daughters ears were pierced at 2 weeks old, she slept through it.

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Ileana Andreea Drop
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

that is a tradition for many countries to pierce the ears of a little girl. no, she couldn't speak a word when she had it, but is her choice to keep the earings, to have more or none. It's nothing really harmful in this.

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Sandra Givens
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This actually is nothing new, and in some cultural traditions, the baby girl's ears are pierced within a few days of birth. But please go to a medical office if you decide to do this, don't let some $10 an hour teen at the mall kiosk shoot your baby's ears. The screaming is heartrending.

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Gillian Gray
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

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Janet Dees
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some cultures pierce babies ears for reasons, so there can’t be a flat out statement like that.

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Phoenix CP
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i had mine pierced as a kid i guess but they've closed up by now. now im getting a nose piercing. still wish they didn't force that on me tho but ig i dont remember it so i cant be too mad lol

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Omi bub
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not nearly as bad as mental scars & toxic culture created by other things on this list. Yeah, I wouldn't do this to my kid but I had my ears pierced as a baby and lived to tell the tale

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Kim W
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What does piercing a 2wks old really do for that child ..I got my ears pierced at 13 when I actually was ready.. My kid 4yrs would get it done whenever they want to not because I want them to. It's not my body . My niece got hers done at 6months and now at 14yrs hates earrings but guess what her mother likes it so she has no choice but to wear it when around her mother .. stupid.

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Lu Jackson Mayer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was mad I was conscious for the pain, when my friends already had theirs pierced as a baby. I'm anti-circumcision though, think it's twisted

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Chionte Pryor
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I completely agree. My ex husband have never made a choice to permanently alter our kids bodies without their consent. Haircuts yes, ear piercings and corcumcisions, NO.

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Evelyn Haskins
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have pretty ears, There is NO way I want to make holes in them. My kids needed to leave home before they got their ears pierced. (Only one did!)

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Aarya
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents peirced my ears when I was 1. The reason was our culture. I love my peirced ears and am so glad my parents peirced it when i was small, because i don't remember it.

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Amaranthim Talon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nope- I am very glad my mom had my ears pierced. I tried in adulthood to have additional piercings and they never healed properly- so- thanks mom.

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Lene
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To me, any kind of cutting off/piercing/altering of a baby's body that is not due to medical stuff is just so messed up. I think that my baby has more a right to have her own body as she pleases than I have a right to make it "prettier" for me.

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Ariah Sharp
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had mine pierced before i was even one, and i'm glad my parents did it. If i didn't like it, the hole would just close up. And i also didn't have to remember any of the pain.

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DetongLhamo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s incredibly tacky. Let them make their own decision about their bodies when they’re old enough.

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Dawn Bodtke
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My neighbor had identical triplet girls. Doc recommended each get their ears pierced with their own color to tell them apart as newborns. World was less digital then but a creative solution to a problem. Me on the opposite side, Dad wouldn't let me pierce mine because I wasn't born with holes in my ears, lol. Point is parents do things for reasons, sometimes in the best interest of their kids.

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Bee she/her
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wasn’t permitted until my 8th birthday, and I love them.

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Ivana
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had mine done when I was 3 or 4, loved them. Super minor thing, if kids don't like it then they can decide not to wear earrings. I guess I don't get getting them for super young kids. They may pull them out and try to eat them or something. Ehhhh, not sold this one as one of the worst parenting moves.

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Shelby P
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my daughter was mad at me for not piercing her ears when she was a baby because it initially hurts and she wouldn't have noticed...

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Nia Loves Art
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is not a trend. It’s a cultural practice that has been the norm in parts of the world like India and Latin America for an extremely long time, and that has become more visible in the US due to increasing diversity of customs and parenting practices.

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Sylvia De Biase
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That subject is kind of hard to debate. Because is part of the culture in some places. I had my ears pearced while I was still in the hospital after getting born. It's kind of weird at the same time it isnt. It's not harmfull as some other stuff that are listed here. I can choose not to use earings or choose to use them, it s no big deal.

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Brian Lackas
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Circumcising boys. How about you let someone decide if they want to be genitally mutilated....

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Daphne Garzarelli Lawson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I pierced my daughter’s ears at 3 months old. She didn’t cry and they were easy for me to care for. I don’t get the big deal. She’s an adult now and she can still choose wear the wear her earrings or not. For some of us this is a part of our culture. She wore small dainty earrings safe for a baby. I’ve done NONE of the other things on this list. My daughter is a smart and independent woman. Piercing her ears at a young age doesn’t make me a bad parent. Most of these other things in this list would…

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Isabel Jordan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mum declined me getting earrings as a baby even though it was tradition for my Godparents. Said if I really wanted them I could have them as an adult . As I grew up found out I had really sensitive skin, especially on my ears (as a teen started getting blind pimples in earlobes) and don't really wear any jewellery as it irritates me. Fast forward to my 24th birthday, was working in a pharmacy (where ear piercing gets done) and the girls cover my eyes and take me out the back for a birthday surprise. Bang, double guns to peirce my ears without my consent. I now get contact dermatitis if I wear earrings or the holes weap if I get one of the aforementioned pimples. Thanks team. Thanks.

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Tacocat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ears were pierced as a baby, originally because everyone thought I was a boy. Tbh, I'm glad I don't remember the pain

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Nubmaeme
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was late to the party. Mine were not pierced until I was 14. I never asked for them to be pierced but my mother wanted them done because she wanted me to wear earrings. I was too much of a tomboy to have even thought of it. She took me to our family doctor one day and had him do it. This was in the mid-1960's. Stores had not started doing piercings like they do today.

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Bettie-Jean Neal
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I didn't get mine pierced until I was 9 and it was so traumatic - awful experience. I always said if I ever had a baby girl, I'd get it done in the hospital so she wouldn't remember. Lord, I can still feel the pain and anxiety.

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Widdershins66
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But you're willing to hurt your own child in the moment so she doesn't remember pain later in life!?! Crazy logic Betty.

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The Starsong Princess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My cousin had very identical twin girls. She was very concerned about mixing them up. The doctor solved that by piercing their ears with earrings with different colour stones. Problem solved.

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Linda Stanley
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom was mexican. Baby girls have their ears pierced. I think of it like boys getting circumcised.

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Mermaid Elle-Jaye
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had them done as a baby, I loved it as a toddler though, I’d show them off to everyone. BUT in my culture all babies ears a done, usually after 6-8pmths. I’m not breeding so I will not be doing this obviously. Edit - I just asked my mum why, aparently it’s old school belief - protection thing spiritually, using the magic from gold and certain gems etc. that’s our tribe anyways, not sure if that’s all Roma people.

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Adrian Maxwell
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't have an issue with it, IF it's done with a needle and not a gun. The babies are young enough that they won't remember any sort of pain from the piercing or the aftercare, and it's not like it leaves this giant gaping hole in your ear. It leaves a small little mark if your child decides not to wear them.

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Bunzilla
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I got mine done at 4 or 5? I was old enough to tell my mother that I wanted to have it done. She asked me if I was really sure, and I told her yes. Haven't regretted it, ever. It didn't hurt at all, but I may have just been lucky. The important thing is, I was old enough to say yes or no. I don't think my mother was actually planning on having it done, but I insisted.

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Upstaged75
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is one of my pet peeves. If you're not sure about how awful this is just go to YouTube and search for videos of babies getting their ears pierced. I will never understand how someone can do that do their poor child who has absolutely no say in how their own body is being modified!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Babies cry even during injections. So stop vaccinating babies?? They don't remember any of it anyway.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is not actually new. I can remember people doing it many years ago.

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Melanie Burlock
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Disagree with this one. My ears were pierced when I was a baby so I have all the benefits of pierced ears without any memories of pain. Plus, I could go 10 years without wearing earrings and they don’t grow over. My daughter is 5 and told me she wishes I had pierced her ears when she was a baby because she wants them pierced but doesn’t want it to hurt.

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Christal Johnson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agreed, putting your child through that without even a choice is messed up

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Aiw Aiwou
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Depends on the culture of the parent and the kid. If the kid doesn't want the piercing, it can remove it and it heals, no harm done. However, telling other cultures to do things your way is disrespectful

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TheLadyMagic
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In a lot of communities of African descent it is customary to pierce girls ears as infants, for some reason my parents chose not to have mine done. When I was 9:00 I got tired of being the only girl that didn't have pierced ears, so I got a needle thread and some ice and began to pierce my own. Unfortunately I was only 9 years old and I did pretty good for the first ear, but I had used the ice to numb them at the same time, so by the time I tried to pierce the second ear I could feel the pain and I couldn't push the needle all the way through. My parents weren't home, but a friend's mother was and I ran to her and she pushed the needle through, with no more ice because it was halfway through. When my parents get home my mother was furious for my father told my mother that the thing to do now was to go ahead and buy me a decent pair of gold earrings to place in the holes so that my ears wouldn't fall off. 🤭 I have many more piercings since. The reason is done is cultural and sometimes religion or even vanity. But it's easier to do it on an infant so that they grow up with the holes and don't think of them as oddities than it is to do it on someone who is older. If they get older and decide they don't want them they can allow them to close.

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Tracey Newman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate this, it’s so wrong. I don’t think children should have earrings until they are 13.

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Panka Petrik
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean... You don't remember it hurt, unlike for an adult and no one sees it if nothing is in it. I can't agree with you on this one. But I'm fond of earrings, so maybe that is why.

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Pan.D.Mona
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my opinion it is abuse. A baby can't voice his opinion and willingly hurting such a small, not able to defend him/herself little creature is not only upsetting and horrifying it's just wrong. Everyone should be able to choose like every adult want for themselves but forcing something hurtful like that and other worse things on a baby is just wrong and they should be threatened like criminals who bodily harm somebody and being charged for it.

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Marco Hub-Dub
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So is cutting off the clitoral hood. Don’t judge. It’s been a cultural practice for centuries. So is feet binding. That one millennia.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

honestly id rather i had mine done when i was a baby because me mam fiinally let me get them done when i was six and then i had to take them out a week early from the full six weeks/months ( i cant remember i just remember it was a week or two early ) for a dance exam (which i did do since i was a baby and i have the mental issues to prove it LOL) and then me mam didnt have time to put them back in because then we had to move house and my mum was handing off the b&b business she ran *right at the start of summer* (peak season in the uk) and now im too scared to get them repeirced lol

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Mónica Smith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is utter nonsense. AND bigoted. It is a CULTURAL thing for most of the world, not a parenting decision or “trend”. Western civilisation (especially US) centric thought to the exclusion of the rest of the planet is bs.

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Sabrina Bowen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Normally I would agree with this. US-centric thinking is toxic. BUT there are many "cultural things" which most humans can agree are toxic - circumcision/fmg, child marriage, honor killings, "witch" burnings (which DO still occur) are all examples of horrific cultural practices that are/should be horrific regardless of where ones view is centered. Parents do and should have a say in many things, but when the procedure is not medical necessary and the child is too young to consent body modification is not one of those things. Would you be as accepting of tattoos or scarrification of an infant? Why or why not? Chances are because you (like most people- even where they are used ritualisticly) recognize that consent and autonomy over one's body is important. Piercings are no different.

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Janet Graham
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ear piercings for infant girls is also a cultural thing. I see nothing wrong with it.

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Skye_Innit
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know a ton of baby's that have their ears pierced and it don't bother them. They really don't know that they have them

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Brenda
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's nothing wrong with this. It's up to each parent

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joi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

none of your business what parents choose. many cultures pierce. how judgy to dismiss as vanity.

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Nurse956
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Rubbish. Give these babies the choice of vaccination or no . What about wearing cloths or no. What aboit changing diapers or no when they have poo. My mum didnt pirced my ears and i done it when i was 26 and it was s**t painful. It is just a small hole and if they later decides n8t to wear then it isnt a problem. I get mad when these so called parents throw thier hate comments and view on other parents who does eqr piercing on thier babies. If u dont like it then these mums need to shut up and doesnt need to do it on thier own babies but leave other mums who does it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

in my culture this is not just a trend, it just how it is. and tbh, i'm glad my mom had me pierced when i was a baby. i get to wear earrings without the memory of the pain. it's harmless. should anyone decide they don't want to wear earrings, the holes will close themselves.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't like it. I don't think stabbing holes in my baby's ears is necessary and not my decision to make. I had mine done about 4yrs old and I hated wearing earrings - I do wear a few earrings now but have realised I can only wear surgical steel ones - every other metal hurts my ears so bad. My oldest daughter got hers pierced at her request when she was about 9 and now has several piercings - none of my other kids want them pierced so they've not had it done. It's aesthetic- there's literally no need for it, it's purely superficial and honestly I don't like the look on babies. If you wanted to pierce anything other than ears on a baby it would be considered horrific, so why are ears the exception?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Everything about a child is your own vanity until they are of age to choose for themselves (and for some parents, it won't be before they are adults). Clothes, colors, bedroom, hairstyle, so piercing certainly ain't any different. No moral high ground here. What bothers me is, it's a potential hazard for many reasons.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Doing this when they are babies is the best time, as they don't realize they have ears and do not mess with the earrings. You can keep the area clean and there is less of a chance of infection. If you wait until they are older and ask for piercings, even if they are teenage, they often don't follow the protocols to keep the area clean and end up with infections. Having your ears pierced is often a cultural thing, and if the kid later decides they don't want pierced ears, you can just let them naturally shut.

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Meg Curry
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to think the same thing. Then a friend explained to me that it was a cultural thing for her and because she was pierced at a young age, her holes don't close. It has nothing to do with vanity.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had my daughter's ears pierced at 3mo. No trauma, scars, lopsided piercings, etc. Did it mainly so she wouldn't mess with them as she got older. She's 26, glad she had it done as a baby & if she has a daughter in the future will also do piercing when babies.

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Aiw Aiwou
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kid can always remove it and the hole heals. Don't see a problem. Especially in many cultures, this is simply cultural. I would say your comment is disrespectful to other people's culture and identity

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A Jones
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, it's wrong on the consensual basis. It also promotes toxic femininity and could ruin the potential career of the individual. Some career choices do forbid wearing of piercings. The piercing hole(s) needs to be cleaned and a stud is one way to push out the dead skin and gentle soap rinse. Yes, there is tons of aftercare of piercings even after they're fully healed. I have 8 ear piercings (all from my consensual choice).

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is piercing the skin of a baby without consent for vaccinations not ok or ok? We cannot club all practices as cultural/religious controlling and abuse. Many argue piercings is like genital mutilations. Thats not a right comparison. We may have to see deeper reasons behind it than superficially clubbing them all. It will only result in polarizing the groups rather than initiate dialogue share thoughts and understanding cultures. In some cultures, for example, in India they have banned many harmful practices that existed 1000s of years but still carrier that some good practices still. Ear piercing is a similar one. Done often after all vaccinations ;)

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Charl Marx
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Are you actually comparing the vanity procedure of ear piercing to life-saving vaccinations here?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's the culture where I'm from....new born girls have their ears pierced

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Romenriel
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's a custom in my country, too. And paediatricians offer piercing ears as a service, so it's safe for the baby.

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Chinmayee Kalghatgi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my country everybody has their ear pierced as a baby. I had mine pierced and so did my brother. Everybody in my family got their ears pierced and there’s nothing wrong with it. It makes putting on earrings and studs easier

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Sabrina Bowen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In some cultures genital mutilation is the norm for boys and/or girls... Just because a culture normalizes body modification doesn't mean it's acceptable to remove choice surrounding it. NO ONE is saying piercings are bad, what we are saying doing it without consent is unnecessary and unacceptable even if it is the culturally normal thing to do. Consent is everything and an infant cannot give consent.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Personally, I had my ears pierced pretty early, but that was just so that I didn't remember the pain if I had them later. Also, I had the option to let the holes grow closed, but I would go ahead and pierce my child's ears sooner rather than later.

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It’s better because they can have earring in and don’t remember a thing about the pain

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Moreover, “other traits that they may display include a lack of independence as their problems were generally solved for them, an inability to take criticism as nothing they did badly would invoke the appropriate feedback and the idea that everything should just come to them easily without too much work.”

“This last point is also coupled with a huge sense of disappointment when it doesn’t work out. All in all, this doesn’t set a child up to have positive relationships or good mental health as an adult.”

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Making a kid finish their plate.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also, keep in mind serving size for a 5yo should be much smaller than a teenager or adult. If it doesn't satisfy, let them have a bit more, but never force food on kids.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers taking the door off their room. i have neverrrrr understood this

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My kid had diagnosed mental health issues, and would often slam the door repeatedly. In a small house, this can be very loud indeed. Along with therapy, etc, we took the door away for a few months. Had a fabric door curtain for some privacy.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Family vloggers. Growing up in front of a camera can be so damaging for a child. Don't even get me started on the child labour it is - using young kids to earn money isn't good parenting in my opinion.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ryan's toy review. I remember the first time seeing it after my daughter told me about it. I had to explain to her that not everyone gets to go on vacation every month. Now I see that kid and he looks tired and miserable.

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There are many different challenges a spoiled child is likely to face while growing up. “A lack of appropriate boundaries can be very confusing for a child and although on the outside, these children can seem argumentative and rude, this stems from a lack of self-confidence on the inside as they have not been given these tools,” Lynn explained.

“Once their safety blanket of the parents spoiling them has been removed, coping on their own would bring on anxiety which could manifest itself as a tantrum,” she added.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers I think those parents who impose a raw vegan diet on their young kids - there is no way that a child can sustain itself on a raw vegan diet - you'd need to be constantly eating to get the necessary calories.

Vegetables and fruit are very high in fibre - both soluble and non-soluble - so you can be very full from relatively few calories compared with even a high-protein diet.

Vegan can be a struggle if the parent doesn't do the research. And a raw diet can be done as an adult, but it would still be difficult.

A raw vegan diet for a young child is basically child abuse.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ohhhhh gaaaawd; a vegan parent; Dont force your kids to eat a sh1tty vegan diet

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#20

Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Modern day: Parents assuming that once a child hits school age that it's the schools responsibility to raise them. These same parents then get angry when their child is punished by the school.
See this FAR too often.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One of my best friends is an English teacher to 7-9th graders and..THIS. she doesn't get emails or calls from parents on how to help their kids learn. She gets angry emails about a child getting zeros on grades for not turning in homework. Emails stating "that was obviously A level work, all their other teachers gave them an A". In spelling and grammar there is only one correct way, there is rarely room for interpretation! After ten years of teaching she is rethinking her career choice. Not because of the children, because of the parents. She can't discipline a student who threw a desk at her twice. It's definitely a modern thing, my mom would have dragged me out of principal's office by my ear. This child's parent said she "misunderstood his actions".

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Coddling sons while holding daughters to higher standards.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wild f*****g thought here; TREAT YOUR KIDS EQUALLY REGARDLESS OF WHAT SEX THEY ARE. This s**t damaged me and my siblings so much. The son was the golden child, the girls were all but ignored. This s**t needs to stop

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Moreover, Lynn argues that “often these children will have friendship issues as they find it challenging to let others have their own way and they may find it difficult to form positive relationships with other adults such as teachers due to difficulty with conformity.” She concluded that overall this adds up to a childhood that is more challenging than it needs to be.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Posting intimate pics of your kid all over social media.

Now, I have no issue with parents sharing adorable baby pics. Hell, I don't mind you guys sharing a lot of them. When you go through hell and back to carry, birth, and raise the kid, you get a pass on the social media sharing, somewhat.

HOWEVER, sharing pics of your kid in the bathtub and doing bodily functions is not okay. 1) It's gross. I don't think your kid's blowout diaper or "first poopy in the toilet" is funny or cute. I don't want that on my timeline. 2) Pedos are out there, be careful. 3) I know it's hard to imagine, but little Peighsyn is gonna be a big boy someday. In fact, he may even be on social media in the future. His friends (AND EMPLOYERS) are gonna see those gross vomit and poop pics. Not a good idea.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My sister in law keeps posting pictures of her daughters doing everyday kid activities, but what shocks me most are the comments. Every day there is at least one person commenting “wow so sexy” or other version of “sexy” on a picture where her daughters pose for the camera. It’s usually her female friends commenting and she replies things like “aww thank you” or such. Who the hell thinks a 5 year old is sexy? And what mother isn’t alarmed by such comments??

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Maybe not the worst, but my parents forced me to play competitive sports for years when I clearly hated it and I'm still a little bitter. I was horrible at soccer, they even offered me 10 bucks for every goal I scored but I still couldn't do it. As an adult I still shudder a little every time I drive by a baseball field, thinking about how much time I wasted there and the embarrassment of sucking at something and getting laughed at by the other kids. This isn't to say I wasn't an athletic kid, I loved skating, riding bikes, hiking and all that. Parents - if your kid isn't good at a sport, doesn't have any interest in it and obviously has no talent for it, please don't make them do it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad and his wife did this with their sons. I kid you not, they were forced to quit hockey and soccer due to damaged knees, shoulders and backs when they were in their teens.

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Not giving kids privacy or personal space. I have teenagers and unless they give me a reason not to trust them, I don’t rummage around in their rooms or secretly read their texts.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't violate my kids personal space. Well they are adults now but still didn't do it while they were younger, but I also don't violate my wife's personal space either. I really dislike hearing people talking about going through their kids and spouses phones, wallets and other things, these people lack boundaries.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Not dressing your kids like kids.

Also raising your kids on YouTube/Instagram/TikTok before they're old enough to decide how much privacy they want in their lives.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like , when you decide to give your kid a whole makeover with your makeup and then wonder why they dont like the way they look without it.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Shielding their kid from failure. There are so many people now that are afraid of failing, so much so, that they don't even attempt something new if they have a hint that they may fail at it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If a kid can't learn how to cope with failure, they turn into an adult man-child, who falsely claims that they had an election stolen from them!

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Not saying a word about sexuality and shielding children from any sort of affection on tv or in real life.

I can't stress enough how much this has contributed to my intense shame whenever I masturbate and my inability to be intimate. Of course this is a compounded issue for me personally but such a censored childhood was the backbone for all of this pain.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Additionally....using "pet names" for your child's anatomy/genitals and not understanding why this is problematic/dangerous. If your child tells the teacher that uncle Tom licked their "cookie"....the teacher may not understand the SIGNIFICANCE of this confession. Teach kids the proper words for parts of their body.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Taking your kids to the pub with you on a weekend.

I'm not talking an afternoon lunch with a glass of wine or two. I'm talking about kids being left to run amok in car parks and on pavements while parents sit inside and have a drink.

Look after your f**king kids.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers People having their kids stay up with them until the wee hours of the morning. By 11pm they are cranky, fussy, and clearly tired.

Put. Your. Kids. To. Bed.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would you even do that? It was hard for my parents to put me to bed. Sleep is really important, especially at this young age.

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Pushing your kids to bring home flawless reports. Had a friend my sophomore year of highschool (straight A student, extra curricular stuff) with strict parents obviously living vicariously through her- who blew her head off with her dad's shotgun sitting at the kitchen table because it was near finals week, her grades were plummeting and the only boyfriend she's ever had had just broken up with her 3 days prior. I'd like to introduce a new parenting trend; Talking to your kids, listening and understanding.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh, my parents had unrealistic expectations for me like the friend mentioned. I almost took my life plenty of times. I even would contemplate suicide when I didn't make my parents look perfect.

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Not knocking “because what if the kid is secretly running a highly illegal business in there” Like please, knock. It will save you and your kids from discomfort.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Illegal business? What, do they think their teenager is running a drug ring from their bedroom?

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Taking your kid's side when he's being an a****le to strangers. DO your job and educate your kid so I don't have to punch him in the face.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think punching a kid in the face is a good idea, even if they are being a little s**t. Some of the posts have anger issues.

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Weird religious homeschooling.

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Jes
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Social skills are not learned through homeschooling. This must be compensated for somehow. It is hard

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Publicly shaming your kids. If you do that s**t you are an as****le and a disgusting human being.

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Madeleine Flowers
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

*If you do that s**t ON PURPOSE you are an as****le. If your kids do something incredibly stupid (like run in front of a moving car, or something like that) then go for it, they deserve it.

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Never listening to your child. The whole children need to be seen and not heard schtick, f**ked up my social skills a whole lot with my parents and people.

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LagoonaBlueColleen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same. I was raised to be compliant and always caring about what other people think. Likely why I feel the need to comment on social media on a daily basis. .... sorry for my constant ramblings.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers My aunt and uncle are and have been huge supporters of the "if you just give them a video game then they'll be quiet forever" so my 6-year old cousin has absolutely no social skills and is a difficult, struggling first grader but is alright at playing Angry Birds and Minecraft.

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Stephanie A Mutti
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tossing a phone to a kid any time there is a wait. I get the desire to keep busy while waiting but we don't learn patience without practice

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#37

Wanting to be "friends" with their kids. It really pisses me off. Parents that won't challenge, question or correct poor behaviour.

I've got three boys to raise and my attitude has always been - I'm your dad. I'm not your friend. I have friends you have friends. We can be friends when you're old enough to buy me a beer and I've done the sort of parenting that means I want to have a beer with you.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know, my parents were our friends and still disciplined us. There's a middle ground between the two situations described here. I don't like parents like OP.

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Non-parenting. That is, when people have kids but let their kids run wild with zero effort put into actually raising them into functional members of society.

Homeschooling. Frequently it just means non-schooling. Either the parent in question does not have the ability to teach, due to lack of education on their own part, has no intention of teaching with it all just falling back into non-parenting, or it's a deliberate attempt by fundies to keep their kids from getting an education. There are few exceptions.

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MantisGirl15
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Homeschooling, when done right, is amazing. I was brought up homeschooled and I'm in a much better place academically than I would have been had I grown up in public school. Unschooling is the problem, as well as parents who want to homeschool but don't take responsibility for their children's education.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Infant circumcision. Sorry but unneeded cosmetic surgery performed on non consenting minors is just stupid, useless, and illogical.

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Dianellian
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My first son (34) is uncircumcised however my second son (16)had to be at 3 due to constant infections and pain. Don’t criticise.

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