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I hope that everyone agrees that not vaccinating your child is an ill way of parenting. Other parenting trends like letting kids do whatever they want and run amok like there’s no tomorrow are also questionable. But the subject matter is delicate, since we also like to believe that for the most part, parents know what’s best for their kids. Or do they?

Well, these two threads from Ask Reddit will shed some light on common parenting styles that are not necessarily healthy. In fact, people claim they’re everything but. “What is the worst parenting trend to date?” someone asked a while ago, and just recently a similar question popped up: "What parenting 'trend' do you strongly disagree with?"

Below we selected some thought-provoking arguments people shared in response to the questions. Also, let us know what parenting trend you don’t agree with in the comments below!

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Y'all need to cut this anti-vaccination s**t out like right now. Vaccines save lives.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This deserves it's place on top of the list. With the other things you'll have rude and uneducated kids that become entitled adults, but at least they get to become adults.

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There are as many parenting styles as there are parents, and there’s no universal recipe on how to raise your children. But because the current generation faces unprecedented challenges, it also requires tact and special behavior from parents to be able to keep up with the changing times and the increased demands of parenting and child-rearing.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers when ppl posts videos online of them punishing their kids. ex: “dad shaves girls head for txting boyfriend.” what in the sick hell kinda sh*t is that? and nobody seems to have a problem with that or thinks about how incredibly traumatic it’s going to be for that child. and the parents who do this literally make me sick. who is that for even? what are you trying to prove by humiliating your child in front of possibly thousands of ppl or more. ppl like this deserve to have their kids taken away. sorry not sorry.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Not teaching manners with other people's pets. You want to pat my dog you f**king ASK, then you introduce yourself to her (back of your hand to sniff), THEN you may pat her. DO NOT harass her. My dog is a sweetheart but she is an animal and she is at exactly the right height to bite your little darlings face off and then its my fault and my dog dies because you couldnt teach your brat some manners.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This should be so much higher. I have kids. I have dogs. One of my dogs LOVES kids. Loves being ridden like a horse (120lb german shepherd) and having small children climbing all over him. The other one is terrified of kids, luckily he has a very mean bark and isn't confrontational. He puffs himself up, barks as loud as he can and retreats backwards while barking. It's enough to scare them off. It's the parents not the kids or my dog. *EDIT* hey look it's number 2 now 😁

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The coronavirus pandemic and political turmoil and war we see in Europe right now, as well as the inflation reaching sky highs all bring their own kind of uncertainty. For this reason, many parents are reevaluating the common parenting tactics previous generations took for granted.

Communicating trauma and being open about difficulties is one such new trend we see among parents. Another new style emerging is that more and more parents choose to provide their kids with experiences instead of material gifts. This is how you create memorable experiences and establish a better bond with your kid.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Not teaching basic manners and giving them a ridiculous sense of entitlement.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! That kid is your diamond, great! He/she is a pain in my butt. I do not live your diamond.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Shielding children from the natural consequences of their actions. They don't learn from their mistakes and the consequence price tags are so much higher when they become adults.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How I was taught and how I taught my daughter. Do not be afraid from making mistakes, just make sure you learn from the experience in not repeating them.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers I hate when parents get mad at me for telling off their kids. I work in hospitality and we have a bowl of mints at the bar with tongs to grab them out. One night these three kids, all under age 10 but old enough to know better, just started diving their hands into the bowl. I told them politely to use the tongs, then I told them off when they ignored my request. The parents got mad at me instead of their kids, even though their kids just made me throw out a whole bowl of mints. If you're incapable of disciplining your child properly, don't get upset when someone else does it for you.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YES. It takes a village to raise a child and parents should expect that village will need to reprimand your kid once in a while.

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But no matter what new trends emerge in parenting, one very common flaw will probably outlive them all. And you guessed it… it’s spoiling kids. In fact, over half this survey of 1,125 parents with kids between 4 and 10 confessed that they spoil their children too much. Another 2 in 5 go even further, saying they’re sometimes “embarrassed by how selfish their child acts.”

Spoiled kids don’t get to know and feel what it is like to be grateful, as gratitude is not something that children acquire automatically. It needs to be nurtured, in an age-appropriate way, but the more they get used to getting their way easily, the harder it is to turn them around.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Parent of teens here! All of my kids have had a friend that stayed the night at our house because the friend missed curfew at home and wasn't allowed in the house. I don't get it. Punishing the kid for missing curfew is totally acceptable. But not letting them in their own house in the middle of the night? What good can possibly come from that? My own kids rarely missed their curfew but when they did, they knew that they could come home, to a safe place, and face the consequences the next day.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with this 1000%. I woke up one morning and saw the neighbor's kid asleep on the porch. When I went to see if he was OK, he told me he missed curfew and was locked out for the night. That is so horrible!

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Gender reveal parties.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I get that parents-to-be are excited about their new lives and as long as they aren't setting fires or making a huge mess of things, then go for it. Just understand that most people aren't nearly as invested as you are in your future child's sex. This would be the second most boring social event, right behind the baby shower. Only my opinion.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Beauty Pageants. I have no problem with them it's just that the age these parents make their kids enter and the s**t they do to try to win like doping them up on sugar and energy drinks. Using spray tans and makeup on kids that are sometimes 1-2 years old! And in the end they extort their child for little to no monetary gain. I've seen parents neglect their other kids in favor of the pagent queen. And in the end you get a spoiled brat that throws a hissy fit and is disrespectful. But who cares, you spent 15k to win 5k and you're on TLC

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why yes. Let’s teach our daughters that’s it’s ok to over sexualize them from day one. Ohh and let’s also teach them that only the most beautiful person in the room matters. SMH. My daughter is beautiful and we have often be told to put her in shuck pageants. Nope ..nope. Instead we have taught her to value what in on the inside of a person and to show kindness to others.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You get a child with anxiety disorder who hates you as an adult as well. My friends wife put their kid all the way through to the miss teen NC where she won. The second she turned 18, she tattooed her face and told them to f off.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Paedophiles dream! They are disgusting and should be banned completely

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Most beauty pageants are not on TV. There are different types, with some requiring a natural look and some actual talent. The full glam ones, where the cupcake dress, wig, fake teeth, tans and full make up need to go.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My SIL entered my niece into a natural pageant that focused on talent. She had so much fun and made so many friends. I don't even think she placed in the pageant, but she had such a good time.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I saw some Toddlers and tiaras bs on youtube and it's basically child abuse. Little girls hypersexualized, corsets, high heels, heavy makeup. And parents who throws a hissy fit when kid protesting or when they don't win.

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Laura Brown
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Right...nevermind that your kid grows up to be an entitled, superficial a*****e...and we'll just ignore the trauma you put them through...

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YES I WANT TO UPVOTE THIS MORE! beauty pageants for children are disgusting and can probably lead to self-image issues

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd say the same for beauty pageants for adults, but at least they're making their own choices.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh man, the moms on that TLC show are appalling! They have no problem raising a little narcissistic brat. "She loves this! She wants to do this" that's because her mommy wants to! Also, those little girls love to get all the shiny sparkly prizes, so then they get extra upset when they don't win. The whole thing is gross, especially when they use fake take, fake teeth, fake hair, and fake inflated ego

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And it's worse even. The kids don't understand, all they really want is their moms to love them and spend time with them. Also, kids are naturally self-centered. If something goes wrong and they don't win, they'll most likely think it's because they did something wrong and if the mother(parents) doesn't pay attention to that and rather enforce it, they will not just raise self-entitled kids - they'll mess up those kids to the point a therapist will be needed.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s just abuse, where else could you parade a toddler around with cheeky clothing, back combed hair and a face full of make up without being arrested, it’s just wrong

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sexualizing children is utterly wrong and disgusting.. listen to the dude judges as they explain why they chose which little girl they liked best. Not ok

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And let's not talk about some of the outfits some parents are cool with letting their little beauty queens wear. Who can forget the Pretty Woman outfit on that one 4 or 5 year old kid? Class-y

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Starting them off on makeup and beauty pageants leading to them feeling they need Instagram filters on all their photos because they have no self worth. Total bs. 100 percent should be banned

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I saw a kid caked in makeup, spray tan, and other crap a few days ago. Parents, don't do this to your kids, this shouldn't be a thing.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh, this is so disgusting... There's nothing worse than seeing children dressed up and made up to look adult. I mean how is this not exposure of minors??

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Child beauty pageants are vile and heartbreaking. The big hair, the hideous, expensive dresses, the fake tans, the soul-less smiles. All of it is awful.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those kiddie pageants are so freaking disturbing, everything about them is creepy, and everyone involved in them is suspect.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Rather creepy tbh, no child should be forced to adult, its weird

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

if it's a fun hobby like little league where your kid gets to dress up and feel like a princess? go for it. if its for fame and money? nuh-uh.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Beauty pageants for kids are to show off the parents' "art" work.

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Ange Roy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Monetary gain or not, this should be illegal. It's an ego boost for the parents more than anything anyway.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not just the ramifications and extra abuse described here like energy drinks - it's the whole thing - the whole thing is toxic imo - never mind the prizes

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Beauty pageants for wee ones might be okay if they were at all normalizing natural beauty and being a kid. But the stage moms and dads make their little darlings look like cheap hookers and perform like circus animals and it makes me ill...

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd hold fashion shows with my brother as a kid. that should be as far as a beauty pageant goes for kids

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ANd recently the poor girl that killed herself probably trying to live up to whatever crazy expectations he parents had for her

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Pageants for children under 16 should be illegal. It's fostering poor self image & teaching tthe child that being the prettiest is the ultimate goal. Otherwise, you are a loser, inadequate, ugly, & wretched since no one wants what you do have: brains, personality, gifts, talents & skills.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think Beauty Pageants are over-sexualized and totally unnecessary.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find the whole idea quite disgusting if I'm honest. Ranking kids by how they look and dressing them up like 80's pop stars with that make up and hair - it's just bizarre. Why are adults looking at children and judging how attractive they are! It's a child molesters wet dream - just absolutely abhorrent

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like the more of a spoiled brat you are the more you win

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My great-granddaughter loved the pageants she was in but they were low-key. Little to no makeup, no expensive gowns, no talent show. Proceeds went to charity. I entered my son in a pageant once. When I saw the biggest trophy went to the one who raised the most money for the pageant owner in this particular case, I said never again. Point being if the child wants to do the pageant, let them. If not, mom should back off.

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9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

like I would think kids beauty pagents should have a 5+ age rule. But no spray tan, and the only makeup aallowed is like blush and maybe a little bit of lipstick. And dont force your kid to do these. I used to do dance and beauty pagents for three years straight. I told my mom over and over again I didnt like dance, nor the beauty pagents. She forced me to do it, Because she liked dance as a kid. If she wanted a girly girl, she got the wrong kid.

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9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Invented by, and for, paedophiles. End of. What other reason is there for the sexualisation of babies?

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I took my daughter to an "audition" for a modeling role for children's clothing in a catalog. I talked to her 1st about it, explained exactly what it is & what for. She wanted to go, but once we got there she started crying & was afraid to audition (she was only about 3 yrs old). I picked her up & left, letted her know it's perfectly ok she got scared. I've never believed in making a child do such things if they don't want to.

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10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We had a “pageant parent” at my child care center. Her little pageant darling, who was a product of skewed parenting, was the center of her world…even though she had other children. I remember one time it was her other daughter’s birthday, but the mom made the day all about the pageant kid and the birthday kid was just supposed to “understand and be happy” because her sister had a competition that day. C**p like that causes conflict and resentment between siblings. 😞😡

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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree. There is nothing worse. My feeling is putting all that makeup and dressed like adults is a child molesters damn dream. What is wrong with picture? How can parent do this to your little girls?? I had three beautiful girls, but I'll be damn if I would subject my babies in these bad children's beauty pageants. I am so glad that I was not the only one who felt the same way as me. Yes, 💯% agree, Children's beauty pageants should be illegal.

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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anybody remember the Jonbenét Ramsey case? I was hoping that that will once and for all put an end to beauty-pageant exploitation of little girls.

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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I don't have a problem wth them, but I have a problem with them!"

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Georgia girl here! "Hissy fit" captures a "fight" better than just a "fit" or "pitching a fit." Any true Southerner can identify a hissy from the next town over.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not to mention the impact on the child's phycology and self worth perception...

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's because the elite paedophiles like to see kids like that. Personally I think it's sick. But the touchy feely hair sniffing president loves it. There's a picture of him talking to a little girl in the Kate 60's-early 70's, their supposed to be taking, he's just staring at her flat chest, it made me want to puke. I imagined it was my young daughter and was physically ill.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh I absolutely HATE those..... couldn't pay me to watch one. Little girls should NOT be made up and dressed to look like adult women, nor should they be taught to pose and to act sexy, that just turns my stomach. And what are they learning?? No one deserves any kind of prize for the looks that God gave them, just as no one deserves any kind of disdain because God didn't make them perfect. Competitions should be about something that you've actually worked at to become good at it

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes let's sexualize little girls mostly. Oh and make them feel their looks are all they are. I especially hate when kids don't want to do it anymore.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A bit off-topic, but parents who do this to their kids remind me of the yuppie couple with the Weimaraner in "Best in Show". If you've seen it, I think it sums them up pretty well.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Andrew Cunanan, Versace's killer, was brought up by his father as the perfect child who could do no wrong.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my gf did lots of pageants. she turned out surprisingly well for a pageant queen type. probably because she also has like 999 other things that are actually skill based she can win instead.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Living vicariously through your children is wrong,and so is turning them into prima donnas.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have cousins who have done pagents like for 3 full generations, and ya that stuff happens when the parents have issues and push them off on the kids, but if no one has mental health issues, it can be great for the little girls, sometime boys now a days actually, to be real crowned princesses. I liked being a gi joe, so I went to military school. It happens. It's ok, it's not meant for just evil, evil just rules the roost now.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A costume contest on Halloween is one thing, beauty pageants no matter what age always seem to do more harm than good. The world focuses too much on physical appearance.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A neighbor's daughter intentionally got fat so she wouldn't have to compete anymore.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Treating your kid like a doll nope put this on dance around. Nope you are beautiful just the way you are should be every parents goal.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, lets start sexualizing our children at the earliest age possible (note heavy sarcasm). These people are a$$holes

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Do them if the kid wants to, but makeup should NOT be allowed

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Talk about sexualizing children, and then wondering why sex offenders get the idea it's ok .( Very broad generalisation.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They definitely shouldn't spend so much on them, kids can have more fun when they're not under pressure to keep things nice

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So in order to find out more about how being spoiled in childhood may affect your adult life, we spoke with Lynn How, the author of “Positive Young Mind'' and life coach who specializes in supporting educators, parents, and children with improving and prevention of mental health issues. She also runs this Facebook teacher coaching group which is an excellent resource for teachers in need of support when leaving, changing their mindset, changing their schools or setting healthy work/life boundaries.

“Do you know anyone who has trouble keeping their emotions in check when they don’t get their own way?” Lynn said and added that it may be that they were spoilt as a child and this hasn’t done them any favors as they move into their adult life.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers "Boys will be boys".

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this should be used when boys are doing something like putting hot dogs on the slide, not for s3xual h@rassment (edit: ty all SO MUCH for the upvotes!!!)

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Unschooling. I agree that kids should have some sort of say in what they learn - if your kid is really interested in, say, bugs, then by god you take them to every bug museum you can find and buy them all the bug books - BUT kids should have a basic curriculum whether they're interested in it or not. I get that most kids don't like math, or history, or the "boring" classes, but I strongly disagree with the unschooling attitude of "my kid does not want to learn it, so I won't make them."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

yea cuz unless they’re gonna live in the woods forever away from society they need to know math and how to write

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Parents never telling their children "no" and refusing to set any boundaries.

I get empowering children by giving them a voice in decision-making and the freedom to speak their minds, but general social norms would be nice.

Listening to 8 year olds throw fits in public and being rude to family and strangers (at top volume) is not endearing in any way.

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“These children may turn into adults who show less resilience when things go wrong and they may give up easily when things aren’t working out. Also, they want it all and they want it now whereas most adults can tolerate delayed gratification,” she explained.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Videoing kids at their worst moments and then posting it on social media.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A very distant relative of mine has a YouTube channel with her unschooled kids, and they’re always crying in the back or telling her to stop the camera and it’s just insane that she still posts it

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Taking youth sports too seriously.

I helped with and attended games for years, and can count on one hand the number of times I saw a child lose their temper. Parents lost it all the time. More than once I've seen a parent have to be physically restrained.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those parents need to be banned from attending. They can wait in the car park.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Ear piercing babies. That pisses me off. Let them decide. Don't put your vanity onto your baby. ESPECIALLY with piercing guns.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Had my ears pierced as a baby. Now I have 6 in one ear, 4 in the other (including a Daith piercing). And tattoos. Hehe, maybe I can blame it on not having a choice when I was a kid. The rest were my choice and my decision.

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Moreover, “other traits that they may display include a lack of independence as their problems were generally solved for them, an inability to take criticism as nothing they did badly would invoke the appropriate feedback and the idea that everything should just come to them easily without too much work.”

“This last point is also coupled with a huge sense of disappointment when it doesn’t work out. All in all, this doesn’t set a child up to have positive relationships or good mental health as an adult.”

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Making a kid finish their plate.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also, keep in mind serving size for a 5yo should be much smaller than a teenager or adult. If it doesn't satisfy, let them have a bit more, but never force food on kids.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers taking the door off their room. i have neverrrrr understood this

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My kid had diagnosed mental health issues, and would often slam the door repeatedly. In a small house, this can be very loud indeed. Along with therapy, etc, we took the door away for a few months. Had a fabric door curtain for some privacy.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Family vloggers. Growing up in front of a camera can be so damaging for a child. Don't even get me started on the child labour it is - using young kids to earn money isn't good parenting in my opinion.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ryan's toy review. I remember the first time seeing it after my daughter told me about it. I had to explain to her that not everyone gets to go on vacation every month. Now I see that kid and he looks tired and miserable.

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There are many different challenges a spoiled child is likely to face while growing up. “A lack of appropriate boundaries can be very confusing for a child and although on the outside, these children can seem argumentative and rude, this stems from a lack of self-confidence on the inside as they have not been given these tools,” Lynn explained.

“Once their safety blanket of the parents spoiling them has been removed, coping on their own would bring on anxiety which could manifest itself as a tantrum,” she added.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers I think those parents who impose a raw vegan diet on their young kids - there is no way that a child can sustain itself on a raw vegan diet - you'd need to be constantly eating to get the necessary calories.

Vegetables and fruit are very high in fibre - both soluble and non-soluble - so you can be very full from relatively few calories compared with even a high-protein diet.

Vegan can be a struggle if the parent doesn't do the research. And a raw diet can be done as an adult, but it would still be difficult.

A raw vegan diet for a young child is basically child abuse.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ohhhhh gaaaawd; a vegan parent; Dont force your kids to eat a sh1tty vegan diet

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Modern day: Parents assuming that once a child hits school age that it's the schools responsibility to raise them. These same parents then get angry when their child is punished by the school.
See this FAR too often.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One of my best friends is an English teacher to 7-9th graders and..THIS. she doesn't get emails or calls from parents on how to help their kids learn. She gets angry emails about a child getting zeros on grades for not turning in homework. Emails stating "that was obviously A level work, all their other teachers gave them an A". In spelling and grammar there is only one correct way, there is rarely room for interpretation! After ten years of teaching she is rethinking her career choice. Not because of the children, because of the parents. She can't discipline a student who threw a desk at her twice. It's definitely a modern thing, my mom would have dragged me out of principal's office by my ear. This child's parent said she "misunderstood his actions".

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Coddling sons while holding daughters to higher standards.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wild f*****g thought here; TREAT YOUR KIDS EQUALLY REGARDLESS OF WHAT SEX THEY ARE. This s**t damaged me and my siblings so much. The son was the golden child, the girls were all but ignored. This s**t needs to stop

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Moreover, Lynn argues that “often these children will have friendship issues as they find it challenging to let others have their own way and they may find it difficult to form positive relationships with other adults such as teachers due to difficulty with conformity.” She concluded that overall this adds up to a childhood that is more challenging than it needs to be.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Posting intimate pics of your kid all over social media.

Now, I have no issue with parents sharing adorable baby pics. Hell, I don't mind you guys sharing a lot of them. When you go through hell and back to carry, birth, and raise the kid, you get a pass on the social media sharing, somewhat.

HOWEVER, sharing pics of your kid in the bathtub and doing bodily functions is not okay. 1) It's gross. I don't think your kid's blowout diaper or "first poopy in the toilet" is funny or cute. I don't want that on my timeline. 2) Pedos are out there, be careful. 3) I know it's hard to imagine, but little Peighsyn is gonna be a big boy someday. In fact, he may even be on social media in the future. His friends (AND EMPLOYERS) are gonna see those gross vomit and poop pics. Not a good idea.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My sister in law keeps posting pictures of her daughters doing everyday kid activities, but what shocks me most are the comments. Every day there is at least one person commenting “wow so sexy” or other version of “sexy” on a picture where her daughters pose for the camera. It’s usually her female friends commenting and she replies things like “aww thank you” or such. Who the hell thinks a 5 year old is sexy? And what mother isn’t alarmed by such comments??

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Maybe not the worst, but my parents forced me to play competitive sports for years when I clearly hated it and I'm still a little bitter. I was horrible at soccer, they even offered me 10 bucks for every goal I scored but I still couldn't do it. As an adult I still shudder a little every time I drive by a baseball field, thinking about how much time I wasted there and the embarrassment of sucking at something and getting laughed at by the other kids. This isn't to say I wasn't an athletic kid, I loved skating, riding bikes, hiking and all that. Parents - if your kid isn't good at a sport, doesn't have any interest in it and obviously has no talent for it, please don't make them do it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad and his wife did this with their sons. I kid you not, they were forced to quit hockey and soccer due to damaged knees, shoulders and backs when they were in their teens.

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#24

Not giving kids privacy or personal space. I have teenagers and unless they give me a reason not to trust them, I don’t rummage around in their rooms or secretly read their texts.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't violate my kids personal space. Well they are adults now but still didn't do it while they were younger, but I also don't violate my wife's personal space either. I really dislike hearing people talking about going through their kids and spouses phones, wallets and other things, these people lack boundaries.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Not dressing your kids like kids.

Also raising your kids on YouTube/Instagram/TikTok before they're old enough to decide how much privacy they want in their lives.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like , when you decide to give your kid a whole makeover with your makeup and then wonder why they dont like the way they look without it.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Shielding their kid from failure. There are so many people now that are afraid of failing, so much so, that they don't even attempt something new if they have a hint that they may fail at it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If a kid can't learn how to cope with failure, they turn into an adult man-child, who falsely claims that they had an election stolen from them!

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Not saying a word about sexuality and shielding children from any sort of affection on tv or in real life.

I can't stress enough how much this has contributed to my intense shame whenever I masturbate and my inability to be intimate. Of course this is a compounded issue for me personally but such a censored childhood was the backbone for all of this pain.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Additionally....using "pet names" for your child's anatomy/genitals and not understanding why this is problematic/dangerous. If your child tells the teacher that uncle Tom licked their "cookie"....the teacher may not understand the SIGNIFICANCE of this confession. Teach kids the proper words for parts of their body.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Taking your kids to the pub with you on a weekend.

I'm not talking an afternoon lunch with a glass of wine or two. I'm talking about kids being left to run amok in car parks and on pavements while parents sit inside and have a drink.

Look after your f**king kids.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers People having their kids stay up with them until the wee hours of the morning. By 11pm they are cranky, fussy, and clearly tired.

Put. Your. Kids. To. Bed.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would you even do that? It was hard for my parents to put me to bed. Sleep is really important, especially at this young age.

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Pushing your kids to bring home flawless reports. Had a friend my sophomore year of highschool (straight A student, extra curricular stuff) with strict parents obviously living vicariously through her- who blew her head off with her dad's shotgun sitting at the kitchen table because it was near finals week, her grades were plummeting and the only boyfriend she's ever had had just broken up with her 3 days prior. I'd like to introduce a new parenting trend; Talking to your kids, listening and understanding.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh, my parents had unrealistic expectations for me like the friend mentioned. I almost took my life plenty of times. I even would contemplate suicide when I didn't make my parents look perfect.

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Not knocking “because what if the kid is secretly running a highly illegal business in there” Like please, knock. It will save you and your kids from discomfort.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Illegal business? What, do they think their teenager is running a drug ring from their bedroom?

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Taking your kid's side when he's being an a****le to strangers. DO your job and educate your kid so I don't have to punch him in the face.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think punching a kid in the face is a good idea, even if they are being a little s**t. Some of the posts have anger issues.

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Weird religious homeschooling.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Social skills are not learned through homeschooling. This must be compensated for somehow. It is hard

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Publicly shaming your kids. If you do that s**t you are an as****le and a disgusting human being.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

*If you do that s**t ON PURPOSE you are an as****le. If your kids do something incredibly stupid (like run in front of a moving car, or something like that) then go for it, they deserve it.

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Never listening to your child. The whole children need to be seen and not heard schtick, f**ked up my social skills a whole lot with my parents and people.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same. I was raised to be compliant and always caring about what other people think. Likely why I feel the need to comment on social media on a daily basis. .... sorry for my constant ramblings.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers My aunt and uncle are and have been huge supporters of the "if you just give them a video game then they'll be quiet forever" so my 6-year old cousin has absolutely no social skills and is a difficult, struggling first grader but is alright at playing Angry Birds and Minecraft.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tossing a phone to a kid any time there is a wait. I get the desire to keep busy while waiting but we don't learn patience without practice

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Wanting to be "friends" with their kids. It really pisses me off. Parents that won't challenge, question or correct poor behaviour.

I've got three boys to raise and my attitude has always been - I'm your dad. I'm not your friend. I have friends you have friends. We can be friends when you're old enough to buy me a beer and I've done the sort of parenting that means I want to have a beer with you.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know, my parents were our friends and still disciplined us. There's a middle ground between the two situations described here. I don't like parents like OP.

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Non-parenting. That is, when people have kids but let their kids run wild with zero effort put into actually raising them into functional members of society.

Homeschooling. Frequently it just means non-schooling. Either the parent in question does not have the ability to teach, due to lack of education on their own part, has no intention of teaching with it all just falling back into non-parenting, or it's a deliberate attempt by fundies to keep their kids from getting an education. There are few exceptions.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Homeschooling, when done right, is amazing. I was brought up homeschooled and I'm in a much better place academically than I would have been had I grown up in public school. Unschooling is the problem, as well as parents who want to homeschool but don't take responsibility for their children's education.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Infant circumcision. Sorry but unneeded cosmetic surgery performed on non consenting minors is just stupid, useless, and illogical.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My first son (34) is uncircumcised however my second son (16)had to be at 3 due to constant infections and pain. Don’t criticise.

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