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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers
I hope that everyone agrees that not vaccinating your child is an ill way of parenting. Other parenting trends like letting kids do whatever they want and run amok like there’s no tomorrow are also questionable. But the subject matter is delicate, since we also like to believe that for the most part, parents know what’s best for their kids. Or do they?
Well, these two threads from Ask Reddit will shed some light on common parenting styles that are not necessarily healthy. In fact, people claim they’re everything but. “What is the worst parenting trend to date?” someone asked a while ago, and just recently a similar question popped up: "What parenting 'trend' do you strongly disagree with?"
Below we selected some thought-provoking arguments people shared in response to the questions. Also, let us know what parenting trend you don’t agree with in the comments below!
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Y'all need to cut this anti-vaccination s**t out like right now. Vaccines save lives.
This deserves it's place on top of the list. With the other things you'll have rude and uneducated kids that become entitled adults, but at least they get to become adults.
There are as many parenting styles as there are parents, and there’s no universal recipe on how to raise your children. But because the current generation faces unprecedented challenges, it also requires tact and special behavior from parents to be able to keep up with the changing times and the increased demands of parenting and child-rearing.
when ppl posts videos online of them punishing their kids. ex: “dad shaves girls head for txting boyfriend.” what in the sick hell kinda sh*t is that? and nobody seems to have a problem with that or thinks about how incredibly traumatic it’s going to be for that child. and the parents who do this literally make me sick. who is that for even? what are you trying to prove by humiliating your child in front of possibly thousands of ppl or more. ppl like this deserve to have their kids taken away. sorry not sorry.
Not teaching manners with other people's pets. You want to pat my dog you f**king ASK, then you introduce yourself to her (back of your hand to sniff), THEN you may pat her. DO NOT harass her. My dog is a sweetheart but she is an animal and she is at exactly the right height to bite your little darlings face off and then its my fault and my dog dies because you couldnt teach your brat some manners.
This should be so much higher. I have kids. I have dogs. One of my dogs LOVES kids. Loves being ridden like a horse (120lb german shepherd) and having small children climbing all over him. The other one is terrified of kids, luckily he has a very mean bark and isn't confrontational. He puffs himself up, barks as loud as he can and retreats backwards while barking. It's enough to scare them off. It's the parents not the kids or my dog. *EDIT* hey look it's number 2 now 😁
The coronavirus pandemic and political turmoil and war we see in Europe right now, as well as the inflation reaching sky highs all bring their own kind of uncertainty. For this reason, many parents are reevaluating the common parenting tactics previous generations took for granted.
Communicating trauma and being open about difficulties is one such new trend we see among parents. Another new style emerging is that more and more parents choose to provide their kids with experiences instead of material gifts. This is how you create memorable experiences and establish a better bond with your kid.
Not teaching basic manners and giving them a ridiculous sense of entitlement.
Yes! That kid is your diamond, great! He/she is a pain in my butt. I do not live your diamond.
Shielding children from the natural consequences of their actions. They don't learn from their mistakes and the consequence price tags are so much higher when they become adults.
How I was taught and how I taught my daughter. Do not be afraid from making mistakes, just make sure you learn from the experience in not repeating them.
I hate when parents get mad at me for telling off their kids. I work in hospitality and we have a bowl of mints at the bar with tongs to grab them out. One night these three kids, all under age 10 but old enough to know better, just started diving their hands into the bowl. I told them politely to use the tongs, then I told them off when they ignored my request. The parents got mad at me instead of their kids, even though their kids just made me throw out a whole bowl of mints. If you're incapable of disciplining your child properly, don't get upset when someone else does it for you.
YES. It takes a village to raise a child and parents should expect that village will need to reprimand your kid once in a while.
But no matter what new trends emerge in parenting, one very common flaw will probably outlive them all. And you guessed it… it’s spoiling kids. In fact, over half this survey of 1,125 parents with kids between 4 and 10 confessed that they spoil their children too much. Another 2 in 5 go even further, saying they’re sometimes “embarrassed by how selfish their child acts.”
Spoiled kids don’t get to know and feel what it is like to be grateful, as gratitude is not something that children acquire automatically. It needs to be nurtured, in an age-appropriate way, but the more they get used to getting their way easily, the harder it is to turn them around.
Parent of teens here! All of my kids have had a friend that stayed the night at our house because the friend missed curfew at home and wasn't allowed in the house. I don't get it. Punishing the kid for missing curfew is totally acceptable. But not letting them in their own house in the middle of the night? What good can possibly come from that? My own kids rarely missed their curfew but when they did, they knew that they could come home, to a safe place, and face the consequences the next day.
I agree with this 1000%. I woke up one morning and saw the neighbor's kid asleep on the porch. When I went to see if he was OK, he told me he missed curfew and was locked out for the night. That is so horrible!
Gender reveal parties.
I get that parents-to-be are excited about their new lives and as long as they aren't setting fires or making a huge mess of things, then go for it. Just understand that most people aren't nearly as invested as you are in your future child's sex. This would be the second most boring social event, right behind the baby shower. Only my opinion.
Beauty Pageants. I have no problem with them it's just that the age these parents make their kids enter and the s**t they do to try to win like doping them up on sugar and energy drinks. Using spray tans and makeup on kids that are sometimes 1-2 years old! And in the end they extort their child for little to no monetary gain. I've seen parents neglect their other kids in favor of the pagent queen. And in the end you get a spoiled brat that throws a hissy fit and is disrespectful. But who cares, you spent 15k to win 5k and you're on TLC
So in order to find out more about how being spoiled in childhood may affect your adult life, we spoke with Lynn How, the author of “Positive Young Mind'' and life coach who specializes in supporting educators, parents, and children with improving and prevention of mental health issues. She also runs this Facebook teacher coaching group which is an excellent resource for teachers in need of support when leaving, changing their mindset, changing their schools or setting healthy work/life boundaries.
“Do you know anyone who has trouble keeping their emotions in check when they don’t get their own way?” Lynn said and added that it may be that they were spoilt as a child and this hasn’t done them any favors as they move into their adult life.
"Boys will be boys".
this should be used when boys are doing something like putting hot dogs on the slide, not for s3xual h@rassment (edit: ty all SO MUCH for the upvotes!!!)
Unschooling. I agree that kids should have some sort of say in what they learn - if your kid is really interested in, say, bugs, then by god you take them to every bug museum you can find and buy them all the bug books - BUT kids should have a basic curriculum whether they're interested in it or not. I get that most kids don't like math, or history, or the "boring" classes, but I strongly disagree with the unschooling attitude of "my kid does not want to learn it, so I won't make them."
Parents never telling their children "no" and refusing to set any boundaries.
I get empowering children by giving them a voice in decision-making and the freedom to speak their minds, but general social norms would be nice.
Listening to 8 year olds throw fits in public and being rude to family and strangers (at top volume) is not endearing in any way.
“These children may turn into adults who show less resilience when things go wrong and they may give up easily when things aren’t working out. Also, they want it all and they want it now whereas most adults can tolerate delayed gratification,” she explained.
Videoing kids at their worst moments and then posting it on social media.
A very distant relative of mine has a YouTube channel with her unschooled kids, and they’re always crying in the back or telling her to stop the camera and it’s just insane that she still posts it
Taking youth sports too seriously.
I helped with and attended games for years, and can count on one hand the number of times I saw a child lose their temper. Parents lost it all the time. More than once I've seen a parent have to be physically restrained.
Ear piercing babies. That pisses me off. Let them decide. Don't put your vanity onto your baby. ESPECIALLY with piercing guns.
Had my ears pierced as a baby. Now I have 6 in one ear, 4 in the other (including a Daith piercing). And tattoos. Hehe, maybe I can blame it on not having a choice when I was a kid. The rest were my choice and my decision.
Moreover, “other traits that they may display include a lack of independence as their problems were generally solved for them, an inability to take criticism as nothing they did badly would invoke the appropriate feedback and the idea that everything should just come to them easily without too much work.”
“This last point is also coupled with a huge sense of disappointment when it doesn’t work out. All in all, this doesn’t set a child up to have positive relationships or good mental health as an adult.”
Making a kid finish their plate.
Also, keep in mind serving size for a 5yo should be much smaller than a teenager or adult. If it doesn't satisfy, let them have a bit more, but never force food on kids.
taking the door off their room. i have neverrrrr understood this
Family vloggers. Growing up in front of a camera can be so damaging for a child. Don't even get me started on the child labour it is - using young kids to earn money isn't good parenting in my opinion.
Ryan's toy review. I remember the first time seeing it after my daughter told me about it. I had to explain to her that not everyone gets to go on vacation every month. Now I see that kid and he looks tired and miserable.
There are many different challenges a spoiled child is likely to face while growing up. “A lack of appropriate boundaries can be very confusing for a child and although on the outside, these children can seem argumentative and rude, this stems from a lack of self-confidence on the inside as they have not been given these tools,” Lynn explained.
“Once their safety blanket of the parents spoiling them has been removed, coping on their own would bring on anxiety which could manifest itself as a tantrum,” she added.
I think those parents who impose a raw vegan diet on their young kids - there is no way that a child can sustain itself on a raw vegan diet - you'd need to be constantly eating to get the necessary calories.
Vegetables and fruit are very high in fibre - both soluble and non-soluble - so you can be very full from relatively few calories compared with even a high-protein diet.
Vegan can be a struggle if the parent doesn't do the research. And a raw diet can be done as an adult, but it would still be difficult.
A raw vegan diet for a young child is basically child abuse.
Ohhhhh gaaaawd; a vegan parent; Dont force your kids to eat a sh1tty vegan diet
Modern day: Parents assuming that once a child hits school age that it's the schools responsibility to raise them. These same parents then get angry when their child is punished by the school.
See this FAR too often.
One of my best friends is an English teacher to 7-9th graders and..THIS. she doesn't get emails or calls from parents on how to help their kids learn. She gets angry emails about a child getting zeros on grades for not turning in homework. Emails stating "that was obviously A level work, all their other teachers gave them an A". In spelling and grammar there is only one correct way, there is rarely room for interpretation! After ten years of teaching she is rethinking her career choice. Not because of the children, because of the parents. She can't discipline a student who threw a desk at her twice. It's definitely a modern thing, my mom would have dragged me out of principal's office by my ear. This child's parent said she "misunderstood his actions".
Coddling sons while holding daughters to higher standards.
Moreover, Lynn argues that “often these children will have friendship issues as they find it challenging to let others have their own way and they may find it difficult to form positive relationships with other adults such as teachers due to difficulty with conformity.” She concluded that overall this adds up to a childhood that is more challenging than it needs to be.
Posting intimate pics of your kid all over social media.
Now, I have no issue with parents sharing adorable baby pics. Hell, I don't mind you guys sharing a lot of them. When you go through hell and back to carry, birth, and raise the kid, you get a pass on the social media sharing, somewhat.
HOWEVER, sharing pics of your kid in the bathtub and doing bodily functions is not okay. 1) It's gross. I don't think your kid's blowout diaper or "first poopy in the toilet" is funny or cute. I don't want that on my timeline. 2) Pedos are out there, be careful. 3) I know it's hard to imagine, but little Peighsyn is gonna be a big boy someday. In fact, he may even be on social media in the future. His friends (AND EMPLOYERS) are gonna see those gross vomit and poop pics. Not a good idea.
My sister in law keeps posting pictures of her daughters doing everyday kid activities, but what shocks me most are the comments. Every day there is at least one person commenting “wow so sexy” or other version of “sexy” on a picture where her daughters pose for the camera. It’s usually her female friends commenting and she replies things like “aww thank you” or such. Who the hell thinks a 5 year old is sexy? And what mother isn’t alarmed by such comments??
Maybe not the worst, but my parents forced me to play competitive sports for years when I clearly hated it and I'm still a little bitter. I was horrible at soccer, they even offered me 10 bucks for every goal I scored but I still couldn't do it. As an adult I still shudder a little every time I drive by a baseball field, thinking about how much time I wasted there and the embarrassment of sucking at something and getting laughed at by the other kids. This isn't to say I wasn't an athletic kid, I loved skating, riding bikes, hiking and all that. Parents - if your kid isn't good at a sport, doesn't have any interest in it and obviously has no talent for it, please don't make them do it.
My dad and his wife did this with their sons. I kid you not, they were forced to quit hockey and soccer due to damaged knees, shoulders and backs when they were in their teens.
Not giving kids privacy or personal space. I have teenagers and unless they give me a reason not to trust them, I don’t rummage around in their rooms or secretly read their texts.
I don't violate my kids personal space. Well they are adults now but still didn't do it while they were younger, but I also don't violate my wife's personal space either. I really dislike hearing people talking about going through their kids and spouses phones, wallets and other things, these people lack boundaries.
Not dressing your kids like kids.
Also raising your kids on YouTube/Instagram/TikTok before they're old enough to decide how much privacy they want in their lives.
Shielding their kid from failure. There are so many people now that are afraid of failing, so much so, that they don't even attempt something new if they have a hint that they may fail at it.
If a kid can't learn how to cope with failure, they turn into an adult man-child, who falsely claims that they had an election stolen from them!
Not saying a word about sexuality and shielding children from any sort of affection on tv or in real life.
I can't stress enough how much this has contributed to my intense shame whenever I masturbate and my inability to be intimate. Of course this is a compounded issue for me personally but such a censored childhood was the backbone for all of this pain.
Additionally....using "pet names" for your child's anatomy/genitals and not understanding why this is problematic/dangerous. If your child tells the teacher that uncle Tom licked their "cookie"....the teacher may not understand the SIGNIFICANCE of this confession. Teach kids the proper words for parts of their body.
Taking your kids to the pub with you on a weekend.
I'm not talking an afternoon lunch with a glass of wine or two. I'm talking about kids being left to run amok in car parks and on pavements while parents sit inside and have a drink.
Look after your f**king kids.
People having their kids stay up with them until the wee hours of the morning. By 11pm they are cranky, fussy, and clearly tired.
Put. Your. Kids. To. Bed.
Why would you even do that? It was hard for my parents to put me to bed. Sleep is really important, especially at this young age.
Pushing your kids to bring home flawless reports. Had a friend my sophomore year of highschool (straight A student, extra curricular stuff) with strict parents obviously living vicariously through her- who blew her head off with her dad's shotgun sitting at the kitchen table because it was near finals week, her grades were plummeting and the only boyfriend she's ever had had just broken up with her 3 days prior. I'd like to introduce a new parenting trend; Talking to your kids, listening and understanding.
Ugh, my parents had unrealistic expectations for me like the friend mentioned. I almost took my life plenty of times. I even would contemplate suicide when I didn't make my parents look perfect.
Not knocking “because what if the kid is secretly running a highly illegal business in there” Like please, knock. It will save you and your kids from discomfort.
Illegal business? What, do they think their teenager is running a drug ring from their bedroom?
Taking your kid's side when he's being an a****le to strangers. DO your job and educate your kid so I don't have to punch him in the face.
Publicly shaming your kids. If you do that s**t you are an as****le and a disgusting human being.
*If you do that s**t ON PURPOSE you are an as****le. If your kids do something incredibly stupid (like run in front of a moving car, or something like that) then go for it, they deserve it.
Never listening to your child. The whole children need to be seen and not heard schtick, f**ked up my social skills a whole lot with my parents and people.
Same. I was raised to be compliant and always caring about what other people think. Likely why I feel the need to comment on social media on a daily basis. .... sorry for my constant ramblings.
My aunt and uncle are and have been huge supporters of the "if you just give them a video game then they'll be quiet forever" so my 6-year old cousin has absolutely no social skills and is a difficult, struggling first grader but is alright at playing Angry Birds and Minecraft.
Tossing a phone to a kid any time there is a wait. I get the desire to keep busy while waiting but we don't learn patience without practice
Wanting to be "friends" with their kids. It really pisses me off. Parents that won't challenge, question or correct poor behaviour.
I've got three boys to raise and my attitude has always been - I'm your dad. I'm not your friend. I have friends you have friends. We can be friends when you're old enough to buy me a beer and I've done the sort of parenting that means I want to have a beer with you.
I don't know, my parents were our friends and still disciplined us. There's a middle ground between the two situations described here. I don't like parents like OP.
Non-parenting. That is, when people have kids but let their kids run wild with zero effort put into actually raising them into functional members of society.
Homeschooling. Frequently it just means non-schooling. Either the parent in question does not have the ability to teach, due to lack of education on their own part, has no intention of teaching with it all just falling back into non-parenting, or it's a deliberate attempt by fundies to keep their kids from getting an education. There are few exceptions.
Homeschooling, when done right, is amazing. I was brought up homeschooled and I'm in a much better place academically than I would have been had I grown up in public school. Unschooling is the problem, as well as parents who want to homeschool but don't take responsibility for their children's education.
Infant circumcision. Sorry but unneeded cosmetic surgery performed on non consenting minors is just stupid, useless, and illogical.
My first son (34) is uncircumcised however my second son (16)had to be at 3 due to constant infections and pain. Don’t criticise.
That's different though, it was done for a medical reason.
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It's not always cosmetic, it's not stupid or useless. You judging it and talking like it's fact is b******t.
Considering the vast majority of circumcisions ARE for vanity and appearances, YES. However, you're right in that there are sometimes medical reasons where circumcisions are necessary. Getting your panties in a knot because the vast majority does it for vanity is a little ridiculous
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Most guys are Could you imagine getting it done now, when you know what pain is?! Ouch.
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It's genital mutilation. Absolutely sick. I met parents who circumcised their kids just because they think it's more hygienic and don't want to clean their baby son's penis properly. And some even go on to claim "He'll have better sex". That's disgusting to think about of your baby.
Most studies agree that it IS more hygienic and keeps infections away.
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Circumcision is a violation of human rights. It's pointless and harmful genital mutilation.
Doctors have differing opinions on this. But I have met several urologists talk about how more of their uncircumcised patients have more urinary problems than circumcised.
Retired urology nurse here. Worst thing is to see is an older gentleman come in with a phimosis, and have to have emergency surgery in office (dorsal slit.) Second worse thing is to watch a grown man suffer after a circumcision.
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I’m glad this is listed. If a child has a medical reason to be circumcised, that makes perfect sense. Cosmetic genital mutilation without consent makes my skin crawl. I’m still amazed so many parents, especially men who balk at any painful manipulation of their penises would do this to a baby.
I'm sure most people would "balk" at the painful manipulation of any part of their body. Y'know, because it's painful?
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If it's done to women it's called mutilation. Unless it's medically necessary, let that person make that decision when they are older. It's their body, their choice, right ladies?
Because female circumcision ruins your ability to have comfortable sex. The whole point of female circumcision is to cause pain so women wouldn't cheat on their husbands because they'd never willingly have sex because it hurt. Male circumcision was started by the jews because of cleanliness
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I agree for cosmetic reasons (medical reasons are different). It's the child's body - not yours. It shouldn't be routine to do it. Sure, it may look better on an adult and be more clean in most cases but it should be a personal choice- not what you should put a baby trough. Their body their choice.
The problem with waiting is that it is a more difficult procedure on an adult
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Worse even is when some nurse of person at a hospital goes off on a mother who decided not to have the kid circumcised when the child is there for something else entirely (and maybe scary.) How dare someone who works at a hospital tell the parent of a baby who has already made that decision they choose wrong. How dare they spew old and inaccurate information about the health risks. Not your business lady (or man) we are here because the child is pale and can't stop throwing up. Stay focused.
This is such a charged topic, because it is a decision parents feel compelled to make so soon after the birth of a I think the real concern is whether people are truly making informed decisions, rather than just following along with a common practice (speaking from U.S. perspective here.) Ultimately, studies done about hygiene were conducted during a time and in places where higher levels of hygiene were often not possible. They aren't really relevant to today's standards. Culturally, body modification is performed at a wide range of ages. If it's symbolic to your practiced culture and beliefs, that is your prerogative. For all others, just consider your priorities and decide accordingly what is more important. And I also have to add here--why are people down on the appearance of uncircumcised penises?! I love men and their natural form! I wouldn't want a man to be circumcised to please me any more that I want to get lipo to please them!
This was a decision I left up to my husband, since he would have some real connection to this...he chose to circumcision. My father was not as an infant and had to be later in life and said it was an awful experience. This is one that I feel should be left to the men in the family.
Unless one has medical issues, foreskin is there for a reason. If it wasn’t boys would be born without it.
Like the appendix? Or breasts when not nursing? We have plenty of body parts that no longer serve a purpose. I don't care if people get circumcision, but this is a very strange argument.
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I did it to my son 50 years ago because I didn’t know any better. I have regretted it ever since.
Most cases of a child supposedly needing to be circumcised is actually insurance and medical fraud. Forced retraction is usually the culprit. Any person who forcibly retracts the foreskin should be sued for assault yet the aftermath of the harm of forced retraction is often what causes the child to have problems, thus perpetuating the cycle of abuse and ignorance.
I saw someone mentioning better sex? How can it be better if the glans is desensitised? And no, it doesn't make you last longer.
I agree with Dianellian. My son had to be circumcised because the skin grew wrong and it was pulling on him... the point being that some infants need it and don't judge people when you don't know the facts
...circumcision is a tradition in some religions... (also, interesting fact-the circumcised skin can grow to the size of like 3 basketball courts in less than a month, which gives it potential for being used in skin graft procedures)
We get infections in eyes, nose, throat, ears, none of those parts are routinely lopped off without hesitation by so many acting on bad or no information. We have access to clean water for personal hygiene. Cutting parts off a newborn infant too young for anesthesia or to consent is a practice that needs to be reconsidered at least.
Man was created in gods image, but apparently some people think they know better than god how a man should look.
But doesn't the old testament istruct that male babies should be circumcised on their 6th day? Which is it? God's image or God's command? LoL, next you'll be telling us that woman was created from Adams rib!?!
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if it is done for anything OTHER then health reasons, you mutilated your child, they are born with it, would you cut off your nose because some dogma told you too, oh ya, that's how dogma works!!!!
Its apart of my religion, we circumcise at a young age as a symbol of our devotion to God, and Christ, please I respect any other race, gender, belief, etc, but when someone is critisizing me, then there is a problem
Boys only get infections from having their foreskin pulled back, because people think it needs to be "cleaned". It doesn't, it's a self cleaning organ. Just like a girls vagina. And we don't go messing with girls vaginas, do we? Cause that would be just wrong, wouldn't it? Boys deserve better. If people left boy's penises alone, there would be no issues at all.
My first two sons were born in one state, they automatically circumsised them at the hospital unless you request not to. But, they don't tell you that. My next two were born in a different state. There, if you want your baby to get it done you have to pay thousands of dollars and it's done three weeks after birth at the pediatrician. So, my younger two are not circumsised. I honestly didn't give it much thought either way. And, no, the ones who had it don't remember and aren't traumatized in any way.
Idk about this one. I’m circumcised and I’m so glad my parents chose it for me. It can also reduce chances of infection and make your penis easier to clean
It really depends, some people do it for their baby's health because they keep getting infections, and here in israel (a Jewish country that also has a lot of Muslims) there is the added dilemma of the kid being socially awkward, and the whole "they'll do it when they decide" thing doesn't work in all cases. For example the cases I stated above, but also it's sometimes better to do it when the baby is young and doesn't remember anything and doesn't have to deal with it in the future, because it's a hell of a thing to deal with, especially in israel. I'm not saying people that don't circumcise their babys are bad, I'm just saying, don't judge and critic when you don't know the facts
Just also know that risks significantly increase as you get older so the choice being made for an infant can save them considerable pain and significantly reduce infection. This is not for or against it; just stating a fact. I have no kids so have not formulated an opinion and I have not thoroughly medically researched it; i also dont have a penis to weigh in on my personal view
What is the thought about the Jewish rite? Do we wait until the child is old enough to decide he wants to be of the Jewish faith?
Circumsision helps! it is easier to keep it clean, it can air out more so it doesnt smell funny. https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/circumcision/about/pac-20393550
im uncircumsized, and wish that i had gotten it cut off before i lost my virginity, cause it was super embarrasing that she thought it looked weird not cut off.
Unfortunately now it’s become such a socially cultural norm that if a man is not circumcised than he isn’t as appealing to other people. Humans are very sexually obsessed an very obsessed with appearance. I’ve got male uncircumcised friends that say they hate the way their d**k looks an they wish they had been circumcised. Also, kids are mean AF and an uncircumcised boy will definitely get bullied because of it. I had my son circumcised an I don’t feel bad about it. So ultimately Its up to the parent of the child, mind ur own business. If u don’t wanna circumcise ur sons penis than don’t.
Not always cosmetic my friend. My family has a genetic tendency for issues. Several of my family had the procedure as adults due to said issues. Another had it in infancy to help correct a deformity in the urethra without said surgery he would have had serious complications later. Some families like ours choose to do so as infants to prevent those complications later on, instead of waiting for said complications to appear and thier sons are in pain.
medical or religious reasons is different but if there's no reason to, why bother? also making intersex kids have a surgery to assign them either male or female. often it just hurts and confuses them, it's unnatural, and most of them end up with crippling dysphoria bc you assigned them the wrong parts.
Just as @dianellian pointed out, not all circumcisions are done for cosmetic reasons. Also, the stupid assumption that infants don't feel pain (which has been proved to be untrue by countless researchers) and therefore don't need anything for pain.
This is controversial as it is religious & cultural so I accept elements I don't understand but hell yes- imagine getting your perfect new baby & then taking a knife to the most sensitive part of their body for no reason. There is growing evidence though that it can stop the spread of HIV so may be useful where there is high HIV rates
circumcision is a good way of avoiding infections in the male genital area. how is that cosmetic?
Most of the rest of the planet doesn't have an issue with uncircumcised penises getting infected. It's not that hard to teach boys to clean themselves. And since girls have a citoral hood/foreskin should that be removed too, since it can also get smegma under it?
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My two sons were circumcised because it’s what was planned anyway. One of them had the phimosis condition this surgery prevents. Never heard one circumcised man blaming his parents for doing this. Never. And nowadays, there are unneeded cosmetic surgeries performed on minors much more radicals.
Circumcision is also done for health reasons as well. You will have to teach your child to clean real well down their to prevent infections. Their are some health issues that can occur with uncircumcised children, hence reasons why parents have it done.
Cosmetic ? UnCircumcised men's wives get cervical cancer more.
As someone who has seen an 80 year old man with a penile infection so bad he had to be hospitalized, I disagree. They forget to pull the skin back and clean properly and end up getting infections. You are doing your child a favor by doing this while they don't remember the pain.
This. Sorry but this helps prevent infections under the foreskin. My ex had to have a circumcision at age 9 because of these infections and it REALLY traumatized him. It's just less problematic doing it as an infant. Trust me, you don't want to go through this as an adult. Sometimes it's difficult to push back the foreskin to clean it correctly.
I have a real problem with "treat all kids equally" My husband and I have 4 children, 1 son, 3 daughters. Our son was 6' 200 pound football player who later joined the military our middle daughter was less than 100lbs 5'3". They could not physically do the same things. Our oldest daughter is extremely smart and always in advanced classes, our youngest is on the spectrum, there is no way to treat them exactly the same, It's our job as a parent to protect your children, teach them right from wrong, teach them manners, compassion and humility, its also our job as parents to listen to our children and treat them fairly, but each child is unique so, sometimes it's impossible to treat them exactly the same.
I call it 'parents to lazy to teach boys how to keep their penis clean' opt for the easy way out! Anything that is done for the health & safety of the baby or infant or child or adolescent or adult is of course completely different.
I took the time to read responses to this particular post and I noticed a trend in it. Most of the people saying that circumcision for male infants are wrong are females and most of those saying it is good are males and this is what I think is wrong with our society, we as males who have had the infant circumcision done on us are saying we love it, I haven't seen a single reply here from a male saying they hate their parent for circumcising them when they were infants, I just want us to take a moment to think about what that says about us. Secondly, healthwise, several people have pointed out how uncircumcised penis might be more prone to infections and some replies are that it might be due to poor hygiene, poor hygiene or not, I haven't seen a single reply here saying circumcised penis are prone to infections.
My sons would be circumcised at birth and if you don't like it too bad
I had no choice in being circumcised and I am GLAD I had it done for me before I could make the decision to do it I would have hated to have to get a circumcision at 18 or later.
Circumcision is NOT cosmetic surgery. It is done for hygienic & religious reasons.
Part of reason I let my boys be circumcised was my ex and other babies that kept getting infections. I baby sat a boy who was uncircumcised and it is hard to get all fecal matter out.
This is going to be unpopular, but maybe it's a good thing for the penis to be a little desensitized. Look at all the trouble penises cause even though circumsized? If men got even more pleasure...
However, there is this: A number of studies have documented higher rates of cervical cancer in women who have had one or more male sexual partners who were uncircumcised. Whereas the earlier studies were somewhat equivocal the evidence from a large international study published in 2002 in the New England Journal of Medicine, to be discussed later, provided overwhelming evidence of the link between lack of male circumcision and cervical cancer in the female sexual partner. Whole article here: https://circinfo.net/cervical_cancer_in_female_partners_of_uncircumcised_men.html
I feel the same. My oldest was born in Louisiana where the Napoloenic code was still followed. I told the doctor no circumcision but my now ex husband and his mother went behind me and had it done. The 8th grade is crappy whether you're circumcised or not. My younger son was born prematurely in Virginia. I said no circumcision and the neonatal doctor had me watch one just to see how horrible it was. They didn't allow my now ex to go behind me and my son is a healthy grown man. There is no medical reason to do it. If you're Jewish I get that and go right ahead. Ironically my ex didn't like the name Jacob because it sounded too "ethnic" and we are not Jewish.
I'm a 15 year old girl and even I know it can save your son a lot of pain and discomfort if you circumcise him
Totally agree. Female circumcision is enough evidence to loose your child but for male children it's a common practice wtf?
NOT a recent trend. Some cultures and religious groups have been doing this for eons. It became a common procedure in the general populace once most babies were born in medical settings, and because there was an idea that it prevented "self abuse." My husband was routinely circumcised but we made sure our son was not.
I am a medical professional and we had our son circumcised at 3 days old. We chose to do so because of the statistics regarding it lessening the chances of contracting HIV. At birth we don't know our child's sexual orientation and we took the precaution in advance, not to mention the infections that can occur. My poor grandfather had to be circumcised in his mid 60's because he began to have infections. It was a major surgery at that point and he was in a great deal of pain. People can have their opinions and they are welcome to them. We chose this for OUR child.
Actually this one is for safety, just like the chicken pox, it's better to do when you're young. I worked with a guy who got a serious infection due to not being circumcised and at the age of 24 had to have emergency surgery, he literally nearly lost his entire penis because he wasn't circumcised, doctors actual words.
Both my kid are because I wanted to stop the issue of infection before it started as they are heart patients...stop being so judgey with your high horse, it's called looking out for future issues, do you know how hard it is to do this later in life,....
I disagree. First, ppl do this for numerous reasons. It could be religious, ease of keeping it clean, or just wanting your kid to look like the majority of their peers. The other thing is, while they are really little, it is much easier on them. All they usually give them in the hospital is a little sugar water on a pacifier and they calm right down. No need for meds that we probably shouldn't be putting in our bodies anyway. There wasn't a question when it came to our son, for all the above reasons. Tbh, a lot of women don't like the look of a penis anyway, so an uncircumcised one is even worse. And for the ones who says that you should wait until they can consent, you would be surprised how many of your preschool age kids show other boys their penises in the restroom at school. They compare their differences, which is normal, and sometimes like to play "swords" (if you have worked with this age group, you know what that *game" is.)
Circumcision originated as a medical necessity because of how hard it can be to keep that area clean. It can be a lot of upkeep if you don't know what you're doing or if you have a difficult kid. Its another "I know what's best for my kid so f**k off" scenario. Its also religious and people have their reasons.
My OB said the same thing. I felt completely OK with making that decision for my son and doing the circumcision. And wow at 17 he's totally ok with it.
I was when I was younger and it's fine. it you do it when you are older you have the potential to have more pain and damage. Know your facts. Let parents choose what they want to do.
If done as an adult, there is POTENTIAL for complications, as there is with ANY surgical procedure. However, the surgery itself is simple and quick. Much like a vasectomy, can be done within a day and you're sent home to recover.
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It depends on if people teach their boys how to properly clean. But circumcision when done at a hospital, isn't dangerous at all and actually prevents hygiene problems later on. In my country it's not common but it's still recommended in my opinion.
The doctor's do it without anesthesia and claim the baby is crying because "ThAt'S wHaT bAbIeS dO". They know by now babies definitely feel pain. They still have to pee. Imagine how that burns after. It puts them at risk of infection. 117 babies die every year from circumcisions. So, no, it's not 100% safe.
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No not necessary, but ask many adult men what they would of preferred and majority wanted to be circumcised. I wish I had a link to that study. And truth be told most women may prefer that as well. Some times its a religious thing and many times its a medical thing. This would be a private parenting decision, you may feel.its unneeded, and that's fine for you, to make that decision, but sounds like its closely along with the anti vaccination people. You may feel its unneeded, but many others would disagree. Better if it is to be done after speaking to your doctor and while they are very young. My son had to have that done when he was 6 years old and I regret not having it done while he was a baby.
For God's sake. It is so much easier to go through life circumcised. No one is traumatized. It is a short simple procedure and you move on with your life. Also women commenting on this is humorous to me. I have never in my life as a man met someone who was upset about being circumcised, but I met many who hated not being.
Tell that to my dad who had permanent loss of sensation due to not being circumcised. He was circumcised in his 50s and took him forever to recover.
It's not a bad thing and I don't like people like OP, I had a bunch of people attack me because I posted a question in a mom group after having my son circumcised. It was hateful and rude. Circumcisions aren't bad. Theyre cleaner. Get over yourself.
I'm a 15 year old girl and even I know that it can save your son a lot of pain and discomfort to circumcise him. Your kid do what you will but also do your research
I have experienced 0 discomfort or pain from not being circumcised- its literally only medical reasons that it would be painful its horrible to do that to a child unless you need to its there for a reason if you dont clean your penis correctly then it will get infected which is why ppl are saying that it saves you from infection.
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We will have to simply agree to disagree. If it is part of God's command (in a parental believer's eyes) then a thousand times better to get circumcised as an infant. Without question, a circumcised penis is prettier, cleaner, and healthier. Do your boys a favor. Have them circumcised at birth!
Women who have sex with uncircumcised men are 50% more likely to develope cervical cancer, its unhealthy and needs to be taken care of early.
Should be done on every baby boy before going home from hospital. Cleanliness is #1 reason because moms are not taught how to keep boy clean nor how to teach him to properly clean.
There is nothing wrong with circumcision. It is NOT considered cosmetic surgery. In many cases it prevents infections, makes cleaning easier, and it's also part of a national heritage in some cases.
Circumcision is not an aesthetic intervention for 2 of the main religions of the world. For these religions the cause is hygiene. In modern Muslim practice it is done to grown up boys before puberty under local anesthesia by experiances specialist and usually in clinique environment. It is first explained to the child and the child than receives gifts and sometimes it is an event celebrated with a party. In a country with Muslim majority an uncircumcised child/ man may face negative responses. Please know your facts and try to differ them from castration phobia
You have contact with the wrong men, I assume? Here in Germany circumcision is uncommon (if not for religious reasons) and our boys and men clean up alright!
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My takeaway…. If you have kids, you’re doing it wrong. Sincerely, the internet. Trust me most parents worry enough that we are or have messed up our kids. Parenting is a LOT of trial and error as well as hoping you got the balancing act down enough that your kids will be ok adults.
That's exactly what I was thinking. A lot of people criticising parents up there probably don't have kids yet, and that's why the little empathy and so much judgement.
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Parenting is hard. Really hard. I have been so incredibly fortunate to be able to be a mom (I have one son), but I know I've made lots of mistakes, and I'm still learning. I think if you're open to learning, love them, keep them safe, support them throughout the ups and downs, teach them to be kind and honest...well that goes a long way. I don't know why I'm blathering on here...I need more coffee.
There's nothing so humbling as having an extremely judgemental opinion of parenting and then having reality handed to you when you have one of your own. Or at least it was like that for me lol.
Haha yes! I thought I will be amazing at parenting having like 20+ nieces and nephews around all the time.. now I have 2 and wonder if I will ever know what I'm doing:/
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I get the ones concerning actual safety but elf on a shelf and unique names? Mind your business lol the elf isn’t hurting anyone and biblical names aren’t popular times change. If they didn’t we’d all still be named Ebenezer and Agnes.
Haha just wait until Ebenezer makes a comeback. Ngl I kind of like it.
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The parenting trend that's really horrible is that parents (like everyone else) work such insanely long hours that they don't actually have time to parent, and are too exhausted to parent by the time they do finally see their kids. You can't raise functional human beings that way.
My god posts like this drive me crazy. READ THE ASSIGNMENT. I wonder if these people failed all their tests in school as well. To clarify, the assignment was "What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date". Not "name things that bug you about kids". Examples above like "boys will be boys" is NOT a current "trend", it is an age-old mindset, if anything the trend is to STOP putting up with that philosophy. And "kids have no manners these days"?? Really? There are quotes from Socrates saying that close to 2,500 years ago, and every generation since then has complained about "kids these days". Antivaxxers? Yeah, that's a new trend. Helicopter parents? Yeah that's a new trend. But most of these are BS
I know this may be very unpopular, but I think it's disturbing when parents allow or even encourage underage (ie, under 18) kids to get surgery that will permanently alter their appearance in some way. I saw this happen when I worked in the modeling industry often. 14 year olds getting nose jobs or other plastic surgery.
i think a single piercing on each ear is ok after they are old enough because they don't dramatically change their boddies and they can grow over
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Lots of parents don't want to actually parent their children, and shouldn't have been parents in the first place.
Not bringing something to keep your young child entertained. I know you need to repaint the bedroom, but your 2-year-old doesn't want to sit in a buggy quietly while you stare at samples for three hours. Or sit in a restaurant booth doing nothing while you ignore them. My parents always had books, a small toy, some crayons, something to keep me occupied when I was little, or at the very least they would TALK to me, they would engage me so I wasn't bored and pitching a fit.
My parents engaged with us. We were a family. They weren’t a couple with kids along.
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I have one to add to this list. Don't tell your kid to not cry. My mom did this with me ever since I was 4, and wondered why I had such severe anger issues a few years later.
So much this! My dad (wanker) told me "Only babies cry," and I was always punished for being upset or emotional by him and other adults around me. I still can't handle anger properly because I was never taught how to.
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The year our oldest was born we spent the night at my parent's house on Christmas Eve. She was 6 months old and you'll never guess who kept opening the door, locked even, to make sure that her parents knew what they were doing after 6 months. Forty year old parents, mind you. If you guessed my mother you would be correct. She did that s**t all the time while I was growing up and when I came home from college. She was stifling and I was extremely sheltered. You bet your a*s I knock on our daughters' door. I even wait for an answer when I hear giggling and know they're up to something "naughty." They're 5 and 2 so their naughty is still something we can cover with paint or the dolls stay bald.
My mom won't get the covid vax, bothers the c**p out of me. I'm 14 so not much I can do. A past teacher of ours son's dies right after he got the vaccine. Its the vaccine that caused it. He was very young. I'm not sure if I recall correctly but I think it was a heart attack. He could have led an unhealthy lifestyle. She thinks fake since vaccines like the small pox took years. Its 2022 things are more advanced. I haven't talked to her yet about getting the vaccine. Do you think I should? Byw I have several other vaccine just the covid one.
Parents: please don’t invade your kids’ (especially teens’) privacy. It’s seriously detrimental to trust and doesn’t contribute much to the relationship. Unless you’re willing to trade love for personal knowledge, don’t snoop. Just stay out of our stuff. Please.
I think those goodie bags after a birthday could be gone. What are they for anyway? Is it a reward for attending the birthday? Same with why inviting the whole class when the kid is not even friends with all of them? Dont go over the top. Let the kid choose who to invite, the best friends, go bowling, bake the favorite cake, order pizza, kids are usually easy to please when it comes to their special day.
Dear Parents - some girls are just tomboys. Don't freak out and drag us off to a counselor (or doctor, or therapist, or gender program, et...) There is nothing wrong with us - we just like to hunt/fish/play sports/work on cars, et... It's OK. We are not all born to be Disney Princesses.
Astounded that they don't have "bully" on this list. Growing up, my folks made it routine to be my bullies because it was fun for them! Get a boyfriend? A crush? Bad grades? Constant teasing and harassment. Then they wonder why I don't visit them after all these years...
So many of these, non parenting ones, are done by someone I know with her son. I fear for him.
I was a single mom. I raised 4 kids alone that are now 24-31 years old. They are all educated, mature, responsible and functioning adults. My key was balance. Don’t be lazy, it’s hard work and a full time job but also have your own personal boundaries that they know and understand. A healthy fear of your parents is not a bad thing. It’s strong motivation to do the right thing but not so much that it’s abuse. My kids could tell me anything and often told me more than I wanted to know but we have always had healthy relationships. I respect their boundaries and they respect mine. Balance, consistency, say no and let them lose occasionally. It builds strong adults.
I don't even know why I'm here. Don't have kids. Don't want them. Life is so much simpler. Thank you!
Screentime, forcing kids to talk to strangers/people, not believing their kids when they think/know they have any kind of disorder/etc, no privacy, abusive parents, I have a whole lot. I know out of experience
Stop filming everything they do for social media. I don't want to see your child having a poo !!
Also, forcing religion on your kids is a great way to end up with at least one bitter anti-theist adult offspring who make it their life’s mission to let everyone know that you failed as a parent. JS
Most of these were excellent in their comments. A lot of parents today DO NOT PARENT. That is sad that other people have to put up with ill mannered, and sometimes dangerous, children.
How are any of these trends? They span the generations, except maybe the gender reveals
by no means a perfect parent, we try and do our best. Try to teach them to be polite (goes a long way) basics to take care of themselves (cooking, laundry etc) and help when ever I can without doing it for them. So far working out ok :)
Lol. How about keep your nose out of people's business. Parenting is hard. Shut up and stop thinking you're the center of the universe and that you can tell people how to live their lives or how to treat their children. Yes. Some of those are true, without any doubt.. But the rest.. Just mind your own business and stop thinking you're the best parent in the world because you do it differently that the others.
You and your Single kid 24/7/365! Until 1st grade comes around and kid doesn't know what to Do and goes to preschool.
Love to see a bunch of people who feel entitled to parent other people's children act like the kids are being entitled just for being kids. Kids aren't good at listening, kids don't always remember social rules, that doesn't make them bad kids nor does it make their parents bad parents. While it's frustrating to encounter kids doing frustrating things, you aren't entitled to go off on them or treat them badly simply because they're children and you think it your responsibility to teach them some pedantic lesson.
'Gentle' parenting. Stupidest thing I've ever heard. As stupid as not getting your kids vaccinated.
What bothers me is all the people trying to tell me COVID vaccines are good for my baby, don't pierce her ears it's wrong, and don't circumcise my son, are the same people voting for young kids to take hormone blockers and cutting healthy breasts of young girls, like gtfoh 2 tiny holes and no flap of skin to worry about cleaning properly your hole life is way better then never being able to breast feed a future child if you decide to detransition in the future cause parents/teachers/doctors pushed it on you when you were young and couldn't fully comprehend what it truly mean to change genders. God forbid my daughter is anything like me and becomes the biggest tomboy, everyone's going to try to turn her into a boy, for something that's completely normal. Smh this world is going downhill fast. And it's so sad people are stuck on this woke agenda I don't mind the LGBTQ+ but don't shove it down our kids throats prek, kindergarten and up don't need to learn about that. Or remembering pronou
'Gentle parenting', kids need firm discipline, rules and strict boundaries.
My takeaway…. If you have kids, you’re doing it wrong. Sincerely, the internet. Trust me most parents worry enough that we are or have messed up our kids. Parenting is a LOT of trial and error as well as hoping you got the balancing act down enough that your kids will be ok adults.
That's exactly what I was thinking. A lot of people criticising parents up there probably don't have kids yet, and that's why the little empathy and so much judgement.
Load More Replies... Parenting is hard. Really hard. I have been so incredibly fortunate to be able to be a mom (I have one son), but I know I've made lots of mistakes, and I'm still learning. I think if you're open to learning, love them, keep them safe, support them throughout the ups and downs, teach them to be kind and honest...well that goes a long way. I don't know why I'm blathering on here...I need more coffee.
There's nothing so humbling as having an extremely judgemental opinion of parenting and then having reality handed to you when you have one of your own. Or at least it was like that for me lol.
Haha yes! I thought I will be amazing at parenting having like 20+ nieces and nephews around all the time.. now I have 2 and wonder if I will ever know what I'm doing:/
Load More Replies... I get the ones concerning actual safety but elf on a shelf and unique names? Mind your business lol the elf isn’t hurting anyone and biblical names aren’t popular times change. If they didn’t we’d all still be named Ebenezer and Agnes.
Haha just wait until Ebenezer makes a comeback. Ngl I kind of like it.
Load More Replies... The parenting trend that's really horrible is that parents (like everyone else) work such insanely long hours that they don't actually have time to parent, and are too exhausted to parent by the time they do finally see their kids. You can't raise functional human beings that way.
My god posts like this drive me crazy. READ THE ASSIGNMENT. I wonder if these people failed all their tests in school as well. To clarify, the assignment was "What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date". Not "name things that bug you about kids". Examples above like "boys will be boys" is NOT a current "trend", it is an age-old mindset, if anything the trend is to STOP putting up with that philosophy. And "kids have no manners these days"?? Really? There are quotes from Socrates saying that close to 2,500 years ago, and every generation since then has complained about "kids these days". Antivaxxers? Yeah, that's a new trend. Helicopter parents? Yeah that's a new trend. But most of these are BS
I know this may be very unpopular, but I think it's disturbing when parents allow or even encourage underage (ie, under 18) kids to get surgery that will permanently alter their appearance in some way. I saw this happen when I worked in the modeling industry often. 14 year olds getting nose jobs or other plastic surgery.
i think a single piercing on each ear is ok after they are old enough because they don't dramatically change their boddies and they can grow over
Load More Replies... Using filters on kids photos when sharing on social media. What is wrong with how your kids look naturally?
Lots of parents don't want to actually parent their children, and shouldn't have been parents in the first place.
Not bringing something to keep your young child entertained. I know you need to repaint the bedroom, but your 2-year-old doesn't want to sit in a buggy quietly while you stare at samples for three hours. Or sit in a restaurant booth doing nothing while you ignore them. My parents always had books, a small toy, some crayons, something to keep me occupied when I was little, or at the very least they would TALK to me, they would engage me so I wasn't bored and pitching a fit.
My parents engaged with us. We were a family. They weren’t a couple with kids along.
Load More Replies... I have one to add to this list. Don't tell your kid to not cry. My mom did this with me ever since I was 4, and wondered why I had such severe anger issues a few years later.
So much this! My dad (wanker) told me "Only babies cry," and I was always punished for being upset or emotional by him and other adults around me. I still can't handle anger properly because I was never taught how to.
Load More Replies... The year our oldest was born we spent the night at my parent's house on Christmas Eve. She was 6 months old and you'll never guess who kept opening the door, locked even, to make sure that her parents knew what they were doing after 6 months. Forty year old parents, mind you. If you guessed my mother you would be correct. She did that s**t all the time while I was growing up and when I came home from college. She was stifling and I was extremely sheltered. You bet your a*s I knock on our daughters' door. I even wait for an answer when I hear giggling and know they're up to something "naughty." They're 5 and 2 so their naughty is still something we can cover with paint or the dolls stay bald.
My mom won't get the covid vax, bothers the c**p out of me. I'm 14 so not much I can do. A past teacher of ours son's dies right after he got the vaccine. Its the vaccine that caused it. He was very young. I'm not sure if I recall correctly but I think it was a heart attack. He could have led an unhealthy lifestyle. She thinks fake since vaccines like the small pox took years. Its 2022 things are more advanced. I haven't talked to her yet about getting the vaccine. Do you think I should? Byw I have several other vaccine just the covid one.
Parents: please don’t invade your kids’ (especially teens’) privacy. It’s seriously detrimental to trust and doesn’t contribute much to the relationship. Unless you’re willing to trade love for personal knowledge, don’t snoop. Just stay out of our stuff. Please.
I think those goodie bags after a birthday could be gone. What are they for anyway? Is it a reward for attending the birthday? Same with why inviting the whole class when the kid is not even friends with all of them? Dont go over the top. Let the kid choose who to invite, the best friends, go bowling, bake the favorite cake, order pizza, kids are usually easy to please when it comes to their special day.
Dear Parents - some girls are just tomboys. Don't freak out and drag us off to a counselor (or doctor, or therapist, or gender program, et...) There is nothing wrong with us - we just like to hunt/fish/play sports/work on cars, et... It's OK. We are not all born to be Disney Princesses.
Astounded that they don't have "bully" on this list. Growing up, my folks made it routine to be my bullies because it was fun for them! Get a boyfriend? A crush? Bad grades? Constant teasing and harassment. Then they wonder why I don't visit them after all these years...
So many of these, non parenting ones, are done by someone I know with her son. I fear for him.
I was a single mom. I raised 4 kids alone that are now 24-31 years old. They are all educated, mature, responsible and functioning adults. My key was balance. Don’t be lazy, it’s hard work and a full time job but also have your own personal boundaries that they know and understand. A healthy fear of your parents is not a bad thing. It’s strong motivation to do the right thing but not so much that it’s abuse. My kids could tell me anything and often told me more than I wanted to know but we have always had healthy relationships. I respect their boundaries and they respect mine. Balance, consistency, say no and let them lose occasionally. It builds strong adults.
I don't even know why I'm here. Don't have kids. Don't want them. Life is so much simpler. Thank you!
Screentime, forcing kids to talk to strangers/people, not believing their kids when they think/know they have any kind of disorder/etc, no privacy, abusive parents, I have a whole lot. I know out of experience
Stop filming everything they do for social media. I don't want to see your child having a poo !!
Also, forcing religion on your kids is a great way to end up with at least one bitter anti-theist adult offspring who make it their life’s mission to let everyone know that you failed as a parent. JS
Most of these were excellent in their comments. A lot of parents today DO NOT PARENT. That is sad that other people have to put up with ill mannered, and sometimes dangerous, children.
How are any of these trends? They span the generations, except maybe the gender reveals
by no means a perfect parent, we try and do our best. Try to teach them to be polite (goes a long way) basics to take care of themselves (cooking, laundry etc) and help when ever I can without doing it for them. So far working out ok :)
Lol. How about keep your nose out of people's business. Parenting is hard. Shut up and stop thinking you're the center of the universe and that you can tell people how to live their lives or how to treat their children. Yes. Some of those are true, without any doubt.. But the rest.. Just mind your own business and stop thinking you're the best parent in the world because you do it differently that the others.
You and your Single kid 24/7/365! Until 1st grade comes around and kid doesn't know what to Do and goes to preschool.
Love to see a bunch of people who feel entitled to parent other people's children act like the kids are being entitled just for being kids. Kids aren't good at listening, kids don't always remember social rules, that doesn't make them bad kids nor does it make their parents bad parents. While it's frustrating to encounter kids doing frustrating things, you aren't entitled to go off on them or treat them badly simply because they're children and you think it your responsibility to teach them some pedantic lesson.
'Gentle' parenting. Stupidest thing I've ever heard. As stupid as not getting your kids vaccinated.
What bothers me is all the people trying to tell me COVID vaccines are good for my baby, don't pierce her ears it's wrong, and don't circumcise my son, are the same people voting for young kids to take hormone blockers and cutting healthy breasts of young girls, like gtfoh 2 tiny holes and no flap of skin to worry about cleaning properly your hole life is way better then never being able to breast feed a future child if you decide to detransition in the future cause parents/teachers/doctors pushed it on you when you were young and couldn't fully comprehend what it truly mean to change genders. God forbid my daughter is anything like me and becomes the biggest tomboy, everyone's going to try to turn her into a boy, for something that's completely normal. Smh this world is going downhill fast. And it's so sad people are stuck on this woke agenda I don't mind the LGBTQ+ but don't shove it down our kids throats prek, kindergarten and up don't need to learn about that. Or remembering pronou
'Gentle parenting', kids need firm discipline, rules and strict boundaries.
