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I hope that everyone agrees that not vaccinating your child is an ill way of parenting. Other parenting trends like letting kids do whatever they want and run amok like there’s no tomorrow are also questionable. But the subject matter is delicate, since we also like to believe that for the most part, parents know what’s best for their kids. Or do they?

Well, these two threads from Ask Reddit will shed some light on common parenting styles that are not necessarily healthy. In fact, people claim they’re everything but. “What is the worst parenting trend to date?” someone asked a while ago, and just recently a similar question popped up: "What parenting 'trend' do you strongly disagree with?"

Below we selected some thought-provoking arguments people shared in response to the questions. Also, let us know what parenting trend you don’t agree with in the comments below!

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Y'all need to cut this anti-vaccination s**t out like right now. Vaccines save lives.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This deserves it's place on top of the list. With the other things you'll have rude and uneducated kids that become entitled adults, but at least they get to become adults.

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There are as many parenting styles as there are parents, and there’s no universal recipe on how to raise your children. But because the current generation faces unprecedented challenges, it also requires tact and special behavior from parents to be able to keep up with the changing times and the increased demands of parenting and child-rearing.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers when ppl posts videos online of them punishing their kids. ex: “dad shaves girls head for txting boyfriend.” what in the sick hell kinda sh*t is that? and nobody seems to have a problem with that or thinks about how incredibly traumatic it’s going to be for that child. and the parents who do this literally make me sick. who is that for even? what are you trying to prove by humiliating your child in front of possibly thousands of ppl or more. ppl like this deserve to have their kids taken away. sorry not sorry.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Not teaching manners with other people's pets. You want to pat my dog you f**king ASK, then you introduce yourself to her (back of your hand to sniff), THEN you may pat her. DO NOT harass her. My dog is a sweetheart but she is an animal and she is at exactly the right height to bite your little darlings face off and then its my fault and my dog dies because you couldnt teach your brat some manners.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This should be so much higher. I have kids. I have dogs. One of my dogs LOVES kids. Loves being ridden like a horse (120lb german shepherd) and having small children climbing all over him. The other one is terrified of kids, luckily he has a very mean bark and isn't confrontational. He puffs himself up, barks as loud as he can and retreats backwards while barking. It's enough to scare them off. It's the parents not the kids or my dog. *EDIT* hey look it's number 2 now 😁

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The coronavirus pandemic and political turmoil and war we see in Europe right now, as well as the inflation reaching sky highs all bring their own kind of uncertainty. For this reason, many parents are reevaluating the common parenting tactics previous generations took for granted.

Communicating trauma and being open about difficulties is one such new trend we see among parents. Another new style emerging is that more and more parents choose to provide their kids with experiences instead of material gifts. This is how you create memorable experiences and establish a better bond with your kid.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Not teaching basic manners and giving them a ridiculous sense of entitlement.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! That kid is your diamond, great! He/she is a pain in my butt. I do not live your diamond.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Shielding children from the natural consequences of their actions. They don't learn from their mistakes and the consequence price tags are so much higher when they become adults.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How I was taught and how I taught my daughter. Do not be afraid from making mistakes, just make sure you learn from the experience in not repeating them.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers I hate when parents get mad at me for telling off their kids. I work in hospitality and we have a bowl of mints at the bar with tongs to grab them out. One night these three kids, all under age 10 but old enough to know better, just started diving their hands into the bowl. I told them politely to use the tongs, then I told them off when they ignored my request. The parents got mad at me instead of their kids, even though their kids just made me throw out a whole bowl of mints. If you're incapable of disciplining your child properly, don't get upset when someone else does it for you.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YES. It takes a village to raise a child and parents should expect that village will need to reprimand your kid once in a while.

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But no matter what new trends emerge in parenting, one very common flaw will probably outlive them all. And you guessed it… it’s spoiling kids. In fact, over half this survey of 1,125 parents with kids between 4 and 10 confessed that they spoil their children too much. Another 2 in 5 go even further, saying they’re sometimes “embarrassed by how selfish their child acts.”

Spoiled kids don’t get to know and feel what it is like to be grateful, as gratitude is not something that children acquire automatically. It needs to be nurtured, in an age-appropriate way, but the more they get used to getting their way easily, the harder it is to turn them around.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Parent of teens here! All of my kids have had a friend that stayed the night at our house because the friend missed curfew at home and wasn't allowed in the house. I don't get it. Punishing the kid for missing curfew is totally acceptable. But not letting them in their own house in the middle of the night? What good can possibly come from that? My own kids rarely missed their curfew but when they did, they knew that they could come home, to a safe place, and face the consequences the next day.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with this 1000%. I woke up one morning and saw the neighbor's kid asleep on the porch. When I went to see if he was OK, he told me he missed curfew and was locked out for the night. That is so horrible!

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Gender reveal parties.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I get that parents-to-be are excited about their new lives and as long as they aren't setting fires or making a huge mess of things, then go for it. Just understand that most people aren't nearly as invested as you are in your future child's sex. This would be the second most boring social event, right behind the baby shower. Only my opinion.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Beauty Pageants. I have no problem with them it's just that the age these parents make their kids enter and the s**t they do to try to win like doping them up on sugar and energy drinks. Using spray tans and makeup on kids that are sometimes 1-2 years old! And in the end they extort their child for little to no monetary gain. I've seen parents neglect their other kids in favor of the pagent queen. And in the end you get a spoiled brat that throws a hissy fit and is disrespectful. But who cares, you spent 15k to win 5k and you're on TLC

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So in order to find out more about how being spoiled in childhood may affect your adult life, we spoke with Lynn How, the author of “Positive Young Mind'' and life coach who specializes in supporting educators, parents, and children with improving and prevention of mental health issues. She also runs this Facebook teacher coaching group which is an excellent resource for teachers in need of support when leaving, changing their mindset, changing their schools or setting healthy work/life boundaries.

“Do you know anyone who has trouble keeping their emotions in check when they don’t get their own way?” Lynn said and added that it may be that they were spoilt as a child and this hasn’t done them any favors as they move into their adult life.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers "Boys will be boys".

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this should be used when boys are doing something like putting hot dogs on the slide, not for s3xual h@rassment (edit: ty all SO MUCH for the upvotes!!!)

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It should not be used at all, it's sexist in any case, what exactly about putting hot dog on the slide do you think is impossible for girls, or inexcusable for them ?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No they won't. As my youngest nephew says, "there are thousands of ways to be a boy".

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And that, my friends, is why many women are happily single these days. Boys who grow up having their behaviour consistently excused end up being entitled men who have zero compunctions SA someone, because entitlement.

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It's generally used for when a male is about or in the process of doing something stupid that will end up with them being hurt. We were admonished for our behaviour as children and how we could have hurt ourselves rolling down hills in tires or climbing to high in trees, but when the adults were talking amongst themselves, it was excused as "boys will be boys". Also, some women are happily single, just like some men are happily single. Most people are not happily single. Don't try to make the exception the rule.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, just teach your kid some manners. This is used too much as an excuse for bullying or harassment. I was literally being harassed by this kid, like he would try and force me to kiss other kids. My teacher told me 'boys will be boys' and didn't care. I got tired of it and kicked him the next time he harassed me. The teacher noticed this, and finally moved him away from me.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some boys I know sexually assaulted a girl I knew and another boy wrote a list and rated the girls in our class, including me. When I told my dad how mad I was about it he just said “boys will be dumb, we can’t blame them.”. Like, yeah, we can!

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Just out of curiosity, what'd you rate? I remember seeing a list like that, once. The girls at the bottom were furious, the ones at top, not so much.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And people wonder why so many boys grow up to be such wankers.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The f**k they will. In the states, we have A LOT of people in positions of power to whom this could easily be the cause of why they are the way they are.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, "boys (and girls) will be ASSHOLES if parents let them be assholes." Don't let your kids be assholes. Or sooner or later, they'll get their ass kicked - and deserve it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Boys will be ... just as responsible for their actions as girls!!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This! Just because they’re boys doesn’t mean they can’t learn manners and proper behavior toward others.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I prefer "Brats will be Brats!" There are just as many nasty little girls as there are nasty little boys. And if the adults giggle and pass it on as youthful exuberance, shame on them because they are creating a monster!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sick to death of that excuse for boys to bully, harass & sexually harass others. All boys are not anti-social, hateful, egotistical bullies. That phrase gives them all the permission they need to be criminal.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A boy in school suddenly began to kick my feet when we were in class. When I told the grown-ups about it they told me it was probably just because he liked me. So yeah... I was pretty much told that it is OK for males to be violent to me if they like me. And I do not think it is OK to teach anybody. Especially little kids!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Physical or any form of abuse is wrong. There are other ways to tell someone they like you. Physical harm isn't one of them. These "grown-ups" need to have someone of a higher authority set them straight. Police laying charges on them for allowing this violence to occur can be seen as negligence. It's not OK for anyone of any age to be violent towards anyone. Good for you for seeing that this behavior isn't OK, normal, acceptable. Kids learn from adults. Good or bad. That alone should be enough of a reason for adults to watch what they say, do and be the best they can be.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have 3 teenage boys and we have never used the phrase 'boys will by boys' to excuse stupid behaviour.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Boys will be boys" isn't a description of boys. It's adult propaganda, and an important part of the toxic masculinity training program. Testosterone typically makes humans active, aggressive, and strong, none of which require being a "douchebag." Nature made us, but it's we ourselves who make us evil.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That excuse always feels rather pathetic.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have always hated this quote. Like I don't care if they are boys, I will beat them up if they mess with me.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

no.. badly behaved kids have this said to cover the parents poor parenting.. Bullies are kids who are told " boys will be boys".

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Play Soccer all day or Ride a bike ....not pulling girls hair

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My nephew has a shirt that says “Boys will be boys” and the second “boys” is crossed out and replaced with “good humans”.” I got it for him and my sister loves it. She’s not raising an a*****e. 😁

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The third time I got called at work about my son having a smart mouth with a teacher, I decided to stop playing his game. I love my son to death, but he doesn't get to be disrespectful. I asked the school to set up a conference call with me, my son, the principal, and the teacher. I told him that if I got one more call that he was causing problems he was going to military school. All I heard was 'yes mom'. Nobody else said a word and I hung up. My son is now in his 40s and has a beautiful family, great job, and is respected and respectful. Kids need love and boundaries. Stop trying to be their friends...buck up, they have friends, they need someone to help them grow up right!!!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My boys learned to protect their sister like they would their Momma. Don't hit, push, etc. My daughter was brought up with an appreciation for her older brother, and watching over her younger brother. Even as adults they still have an incredibly close bond.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Neither my parents have used phrase "Boys will be boys" for me nor I have used this phrase for my son and will never use it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is an extremely sexist case to me. When you say “boys will be boys” to me, it means that boys are going to get away with everything, get a girl does something wrong and the answer isn’t “girls will be girls” it’s “who is it and where can I find them I’m gonna call their parents and the principal and they’re teacher” and everything to punish her. 😩 it’s sad, really.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

boys will be boys, this is true. I am a boy and I will be a boy whether you like it or not. still, being a boy does not entail sexual harassment, it DOES entail like 50 hours in Hollow Knight though.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

SAY👏🏼IT👏🏼AGAIN👏🏼FOR👏🏼THE👏🏼PEOPLE👏🏼IN👏🏼THE👏🏼BACK👏🏼

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree when people say this expecially in certain situations like no that gives them no right to do what they did they still need to be punished I know I'm gonna hear this when my girls are teenagers and I'm gonna be prepared to give that mother a mouthful of she says something like that to me.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Boy will be boys when they’re being harmlessly stupid, torturing(in the fun sibling way) their sisters, playing in the mud, barking into a teachers open window, etc

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have the same rules and the same limits/standards they've been taught is how to get a decent human being to other human beings. Peeing on the seat, yeah we can say that's a boys will be boys behaviour, but I expect them to clean up after themselves because it's the right thing to do. I do find I have the same conversations with my oldest two teenagers from differing viewpoints - obviously I teach my son about consent and not to just assume things or pressure anyone while explaining he shouldn't be put in any situations where he has to compromise his comfort for someone else's gain - and while I have similar talks with my oldest daughter but from a slightly different perspective yet the same information. If that makes any sense

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My son is the cuddliest 9 year old I've ever known, wants four kids and has already started criteria for his perfect mate (he wants her to be cuddly and nice to his kids, and have teal hair lol) so when we go to the store and he gushes over other people's babies and asks if he can hold them, I gently remind him, "Honey we don't ask, we let them offer!" And when the other parents tell him what a good daddy he'll make I usually say, "Sorry, he wants to hug every cute small person he sees, you know, boys will be boys!" So our updated version is definitely giving my little guy a healthier idea of what men can achieve ☺️ (this doesn't mean all men have to be parents! It's just what he wants for right now. If that changes he'll still be my favorite little guy to exist, and he knows it!)

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What’s wrong with that? Boys will be boys, girls will be girls, dogs will be dogs, clouds will be clouds…

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9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Although I do agree with this, one time I saw some kid walk up to a girl, push her against the fence and kiss her. First graders. I walk up to him and im like stop it now. (I shared a recess with the first graders as a fifth grader)

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9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remeber once my brother was crying because some kid had hit him, -I dont know if this suits the topic but I really dont care.- My dad walkes up to him and says, Stop crying like a girl! Number 1, hes a kid! number two, girls are just as tough. :3 And number three, he needs to be able to let it out. He got hit in the eye, and was left with a black eye! The kid that hit him was in my grade, it was a sixth grader andgainst a second grader! (P.S., not like that kid who hit him was left with a black eye from me :3)

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9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"boys will be boys" is something to use FUNNILY based on BIOLOGICAL facts. ex: "boys will be boys" when they're being loud/rowdy/roughhousing. "boys will be boys" when they put mayonnaise on the slip n slide in backyard (said by a very wise twitter woman). it is NOT to excuse harrassment

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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I HATE THAT PHRASE! teach them to be good people, not excuse them because you don't teach them to be good citizens.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How about „kids will be kids“ instead and only for normal kids stuff

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And those boys turn into men who continue acting out making the rest of us frustrated bc they never grew up

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I use the words Boys will be boys, I am usually referring to grown a*s men; that are vying for the words coming before the announcement of their death....And this years Darwin Award goes to.......

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This was the excuse a neighbor used when her 18yo son chased the horses and riders at the local arena. With a motorcycle. He was ticketed for reckless endangerment.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nope that c**p should not still becoming out of a parents mouth.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Boys will be boys is why they grow up and think whatever they do is okay.. Cause boys will be boys

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Yes, "boys will be boys" while your son is seen pulling on a girl's tank top because his parents never taught him how to respect a female.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

boys will be boys is said when my brother and I are play wrestling on the dirt pretending to be superheros and then eating worms afterwards, not when a guy assaults someone

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes kids do weird shizz when they are toddlers learning their bodily anatomy but I think that's about the only time this phrase works... there's not much else to say when you happen upon some of these odd parenting moments

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have always felt this was the most b******t phrase I'd ever heard growing up and I'm a mother of two boys. The only way i would use this is "oh look they are playing in mud." Sigh. But even then i say kids will be kids and i want them to be kids for a while yet.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If boys will b boys dont be suprised if someone harrased by it make them eunuch

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The picture is actually a fine example of boys being boys, provided they are friends and everyone's on board

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If the majority of you think this has to do solely with harassment of any kind, go kick rocks and touch grass. You've been poisoned by propaganda that's not founded in any reality. That's why in gender reassignment surgery, there's only two genders.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Unschooling. I agree that kids should have some sort of say in what they learn - if your kid is really interested in, say, bugs, then by god you take them to every bug museum you can find and buy them all the bug books - BUT kids should have a basic curriculum whether they're interested in it or not. I get that most kids don't like math, or history, or the "boring" classes, but I strongly disagree with the unschooling attitude of "my kid does not want to learn it, so I won't make them."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

yea cuz unless they’re gonna live in the woods forever away from society they need to know math and how to write

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Parents never telling their children "no" and refusing to set any boundaries.

I get empowering children by giving them a voice in decision-making and the freedom to speak their minds, but general social norms would be nice.

Listening to 8 year olds throw fits in public and being rude to family and strangers (at top volume) is not endearing in any way.

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“These children may turn into adults who show less resilience when things go wrong and they may give up easily when things aren’t working out. Also, they want it all and they want it now whereas most adults can tolerate delayed gratification,” she explained.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Videoing kids at their worst moments and then posting it on social media.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A very distant relative of mine has a YouTube channel with her unschooled kids, and they’re always crying in the back or telling her to stop the camera and it’s just insane that she still posts it

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Taking youth sports too seriously.

I helped with and attended games for years, and can count on one hand the number of times I saw a child lose their temper. Parents lost it all the time. More than once I've seen a parent have to be physically restrained.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those parents need to be banned from attending. They can wait in the car park.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Ear piercing babies. That pisses me off. Let them decide. Don't put your vanity onto your baby. ESPECIALLY with piercing guns.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Had my ears pierced as a baby. Now I have 6 in one ear, 4 in the other (including a Daith piercing). And tattoos. Hehe, maybe I can blame it on not having a choice when I was a kid. The rest were my choice and my decision.

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Moreover, “other traits that they may display include a lack of independence as their problems were generally solved for them, an inability to take criticism as nothing they did badly would invoke the appropriate feedback and the idea that everything should just come to them easily without too much work.”

“This last point is also coupled with a huge sense of disappointment when it doesn’t work out. All in all, this doesn’t set a child up to have positive relationships or good mental health as an adult.”

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Making a kid finish their plate.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also, keep in mind serving size for a 5yo should be much smaller than a teenager or adult. If it doesn't satisfy, let them have a bit more, but never force food on kids.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers taking the door off their room. i have neverrrrr understood this

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My kid had diagnosed mental health issues, and would often slam the door repeatedly. In a small house, this can be very loud indeed. Along with therapy, etc, we took the door away for a few months. Had a fabric door curtain for some privacy.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Family vloggers. Growing up in front of a camera can be so damaging for a child. Don't even get me started on the child labour it is - using young kids to earn money isn't good parenting in my opinion.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ryan's toy review. I remember the first time seeing it after my daughter told me about it. I had to explain to her that not everyone gets to go on vacation every month. Now I see that kid and he looks tired and miserable.

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There are many different challenges a spoiled child is likely to face while growing up. “A lack of appropriate boundaries can be very confusing for a child and although on the outside, these children can seem argumentative and rude, this stems from a lack of self-confidence on the inside as they have not been given these tools,” Lynn explained.

“Once their safety blanket of the parents spoiling them has been removed, coping on their own would bring on anxiety which could manifest itself as a tantrum,” she added.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers I think those parents who impose a raw vegan diet on their young kids - there is no way that a child can sustain itself on a raw vegan diet - you'd need to be constantly eating to get the necessary calories.

Vegetables and fruit are very high in fibre - both soluble and non-soluble - so you can be very full from relatively few calories compared with even a high-protein diet.

Vegan can be a struggle if the parent doesn't do the research. And a raw diet can be done as an adult, but it would still be difficult.

A raw vegan diet for a young child is basically child abuse.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ohhhhh gaaaawd; a vegan parent; Dont force your kids to eat a sh1tty vegan diet

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Modern day: Parents assuming that once a child hits school age that it's the schools responsibility to raise them. These same parents then get angry when their child is punished by the school.
See this FAR too often.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One of my best friends is an English teacher to 7-9th graders and..THIS. she doesn't get emails or calls from parents on how to help their kids learn. She gets angry emails about a child getting zeros on grades for not turning in homework. Emails stating "that was obviously A level work, all their other teachers gave them an A". In spelling and grammar there is only one correct way, there is rarely room for interpretation! After ten years of teaching she is rethinking her career choice. Not because of the children, because of the parents. She can't discipline a student who threw a desk at her twice. It's definitely a modern thing, my mom would have dragged me out of principal's office by my ear. This child's parent said she "misunderstood his actions".

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Coddling sons while holding daughters to higher standards.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wild f*****g thought here; TREAT YOUR KIDS EQUALLY REGARDLESS OF WHAT SEX THEY ARE. This s**t damaged me and my siblings so much. The son was the golden child, the girls were all but ignored. This s**t needs to stop

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Moreover, Lynn argues that “often these children will have friendship issues as they find it challenging to let others have their own way and they may find it difficult to form positive relationships with other adults such as teachers due to difficulty with conformity.” She concluded that overall this adds up to a childhood that is more challenging than it needs to be.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Posting intimate pics of your kid all over social media.

Now, I have no issue with parents sharing adorable baby pics. Hell, I don't mind you guys sharing a lot of them. When you go through hell and back to carry, birth, and raise the kid, you get a pass on the social media sharing, somewhat.

HOWEVER, sharing pics of your kid in the bathtub and doing bodily functions is not okay. 1) It's gross. I don't think your kid's blowout diaper or "first poopy in the toilet" is funny or cute. I don't want that on my timeline. 2) Pedos are out there, be careful. 3) I know it's hard to imagine, but little Peighsyn is gonna be a big boy someday. In fact, he may even be on social media in the future. His friends (AND EMPLOYERS) are gonna see those gross vomit and poop pics. Not a good idea.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My sister in law keeps posting pictures of her daughters doing everyday kid activities, but what shocks me most are the comments. Every day there is at least one person commenting “wow so sexy” or other version of “sexy” on a picture where her daughters pose for the camera. It’s usually her female friends commenting and she replies things like “aww thank you” or such. Who the hell thinks a 5 year old is sexy? And what mother isn’t alarmed by such comments??

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Maybe not the worst, but my parents forced me to play competitive sports for years when I clearly hated it and I'm still a little bitter. I was horrible at soccer, they even offered me 10 bucks for every goal I scored but I still couldn't do it. As an adult I still shudder a little every time I drive by a baseball field, thinking about how much time I wasted there and the embarrassment of sucking at something and getting laughed at by the other kids. This isn't to say I wasn't an athletic kid, I loved skating, riding bikes, hiking and all that. Parents - if your kid isn't good at a sport, doesn't have any interest in it and obviously has no talent for it, please don't make them do it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad and his wife did this with their sons. I kid you not, they were forced to quit hockey and soccer due to damaged knees, shoulders and backs when they were in their teens.

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Not giving kids privacy or personal space. I have teenagers and unless they give me a reason not to trust them, I don’t rummage around in their rooms or secretly read their texts.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't violate my kids personal space. Well they are adults now but still didn't do it while they were younger, but I also don't violate my wife's personal space either. I really dislike hearing people talking about going through their kids and spouses phones, wallets and other things, these people lack boundaries.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Not dressing your kids like kids.

Also raising your kids on YouTube/Instagram/TikTok before they're old enough to decide how much privacy they want in their lives.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like , when you decide to give your kid a whole makeover with your makeup and then wonder why they dont like the way they look without it.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Shielding their kid from failure. There are so many people now that are afraid of failing, so much so, that they don't even attempt something new if they have a hint that they may fail at it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If a kid can't learn how to cope with failure, they turn into an adult man-child, who falsely claims that they had an election stolen from them!

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Not saying a word about sexuality and shielding children from any sort of affection on tv or in real life.

I can't stress enough how much this has contributed to my intense shame whenever I masturbate and my inability to be intimate. Of course this is a compounded issue for me personally but such a censored childhood was the backbone for all of this pain.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Additionally....using "pet names" for your child's anatomy/genitals and not understanding why this is problematic/dangerous. If your child tells the teacher that uncle Tom licked their "cookie"....the teacher may not understand the SIGNIFICANCE of this confession. Teach kids the proper words for parts of their body.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Taking your kids to the pub with you on a weekend.

I'm not talking an afternoon lunch with a glass of wine or two. I'm talking about kids being left to run amok in car parks and on pavements while parents sit inside and have a drink.

Look after your f**king kids.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers People having their kids stay up with them until the wee hours of the morning. By 11pm they are cranky, fussy, and clearly tired.

Put. Your. Kids. To. Bed.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would you even do that? It was hard for my parents to put me to bed. Sleep is really important, especially at this young age.

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Pushing your kids to bring home flawless reports. Had a friend my sophomore year of highschool (straight A student, extra curricular stuff) with strict parents obviously living vicariously through her- who blew her head off with her dad's shotgun sitting at the kitchen table because it was near finals week, her grades were plummeting and the only boyfriend she's ever had had just broken up with her 3 days prior. I'd like to introduce a new parenting trend; Talking to your kids, listening and understanding.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh, my parents had unrealistic expectations for me like the friend mentioned. I almost took my life plenty of times. I even would contemplate suicide when I didn't make my parents look perfect.

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Not knocking “because what if the kid is secretly running a highly illegal business in there” Like please, knock. It will save you and your kids from discomfort.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Illegal business? What, do they think their teenager is running a drug ring from their bedroom?

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Taking your kid's side when he's being an a****le to strangers. DO your job and educate your kid so I don't have to punch him in the face.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think punching a kid in the face is a good idea, even if they are being a little s**t. Some of the posts have anger issues.

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Weird religious homeschooling.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Social skills are not learned through homeschooling. This must be compensated for somehow. It is hard

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Publicly shaming your kids. If you do that s**t you are an as****le and a disgusting human being.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

*If you do that s**t ON PURPOSE you are an as****le. If your kids do something incredibly stupid (like run in front of a moving car, or something like that) then go for it, they deserve it.

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Never listening to your child. The whole children need to be seen and not heard schtick, f**ked up my social skills a whole lot with my parents and people.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same. I was raised to be compliant and always caring about what other people think. Likely why I feel the need to comment on social media on a daily basis. .... sorry for my constant ramblings.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers My aunt and uncle are and have been huge supporters of the "if you just give them a video game then they'll be quiet forever" so my 6-year old cousin has absolutely no social skills and is a difficult, struggling first grader but is alright at playing Angry Birds and Minecraft.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tossing a phone to a kid any time there is a wait. I get the desire to keep busy while waiting but we don't learn patience without practice

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Wanting to be "friends" with their kids. It really pisses me off. Parents that won't challenge, question or correct poor behaviour.

I've got three boys to raise and my attitude has always been - I'm your dad. I'm not your friend. I have friends you have friends. We can be friends when you're old enough to buy me a beer and I've done the sort of parenting that means I want to have a beer with you.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know, my parents were our friends and still disciplined us. There's a middle ground between the two situations described here. I don't like parents like OP.

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Non-parenting. That is, when people have kids but let their kids run wild with zero effort put into actually raising them into functional members of society.

Homeschooling. Frequently it just means non-schooling. Either the parent in question does not have the ability to teach, due to lack of education on their own part, has no intention of teaching with it all just falling back into non-parenting, or it's a deliberate attempt by fundies to keep their kids from getting an education. There are few exceptions.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Homeschooling, when done right, is amazing. I was brought up homeschooled and I'm in a much better place academically than I would have been had I grown up in public school. Unschooling is the problem, as well as parents who want to homeschool but don't take responsibility for their children's education.

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Someone Asks “What Is The Worst Parenting Trend To Date?” And People Give 40 Perfectly Blunt Answers Infant circumcision. Sorry but unneeded cosmetic surgery performed on non consenting minors is just stupid, useless, and illogical.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My first son (34) is uncircumcised however my second son (16)had to be at 3 due to constant infections and pain. Don’t criticise.

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