40 Women Share Stories About Men Who Confidently Mansplained Something Obvious To Them
Interview With AuthorThe term “mansplaining” is a relatively new one. After first being innovated by the author Rebecca Solnit in 2008, it allowed women to describe a common experience they share for which they never had the terminology. “Mansplaining” went beyond the generics like “patronizing” and “presumptuous” and shed light on a profoundly negative side that men explaining things to women has.
Unfortunately, unsolicited explanations from men who are neither your teacher nor your manager are all too common. But to see the level of absurdity and obviousness of the things women have mansplained to them, we have to look at the actual instances that happened to them in real life.
So when Twitter user Nicole Froio, who’s a PhD on sexual violence and masculinity, asked women to share “the most obvious thing a man has ever mansplained to you,” the answers started pouring in one after another. Both ludicrous and plain irritating, they speak thousands of words about power imbalance and gender bias, which shouldn’t be the case when we live in 2021.
Read more irritating mansplaining cases as shared by women in our previous article right here.
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Men can be good and nice and still say something silly now and again. Have you never made a mistake, spoken before thinking or done something stupid?
Load More Replies...I was in an auto shop and the guy at the counter told me to tell my boyfriend to replace the alternator and to bring in the old one. I replaced it in the carpark and returned it to him before I left... not quite the same but it is 😆
While this seldom happens to me, I enjoy a long, blank stare. Sometimes followed by a question I know he can't answer.
David Retsler, what the ducking duck is wrong with you? There is no need to say these things! Mewton's Third Paw, are you okay?
Clearly a wasted degree, if she couldn't find it on the first try and he had to resort to mansplaining
i’d pick my battles. this a small thing over the life of a marriage. small thing in a friendship. small thing at work.
I mean... You push the same way - everything else is completely different (yes, I've done both)
^^This comment is not true. It is common knowledge that girls do not poop
Load More Replies...When I had a biliary colic a few years ago and got my gall bladder removed my mother told me giving birth to me has hurt as much as the biliary colic she had in the 90s. If this comparison is accurate I (a man) can confirm that childbirth and pooping are completely different.
I wish it was no different to taking a poop. Probably wouldn’t have screamed the maternity ward down lol.
Bruh, he doesn't even KNOW how childbirth feels like, and he never will
I am a 56 yr old male. Can't stand men either. When I go to a hardware or auto parts store, I seek out a female to help me because men are (mostly) idiots.
I witnessed an American man trying to explain a Spanish girl's name to her. He was insisting that one of her names was a 'middle' name, and she was patiently saying that names work differently in Spain. She finally snapped and said 'I know what my own name is'. He was also manspreading in the worst possible way. It was quite hilarious to watch.
He's an idiot for trying to explain someone's own name to them, but I don't really like this manspreading thing. I was once accused of manspreading on a bus by a woman using her seat, and setting her purse on the seat next to her. My legs werent even going past my seat (there were a few inches on each side of my seat still unused.) I was still sitting with v shape, but with maybe 6 inches between my knees. Then when I tried to move my legs together, I had to kinda wiggle around to move some... anatomy. Then she basically claimed that I did that to harass her. I apologized and just ignored it. Then a very elderly couple came on and I stood up to give my seat and the woman did not, nor did she move her purse to make an extra seat. so the elderly woman sat in my seat, and I had to kinda hold the elderly man up while moving, and he stumbled quite a bit. When the woman who got mad at me finally got off the bus, she gave me this long scowl and stared me down. I was never trying to impose.
Load More Replies...I had this happen too. In the 11th grade a friend of mine said my dad had misspelled my name in my lunchbox lid. It was spelled correctly and this kid had known me for 11 years. It was sad. And yes he was a boy
I usually get,"what sort of a name is that"? My name is pronounced Ethnee
My last name is Hungarian, and everyone that sees/hears it for the first time spells it wrong or says it wrong, but they're nice about it. But I've had a couple incounters with teachers who have seen my last name on paper and have pronounced it wrong, and when I corrected them, they say I'm saying it wrong. -~- dude. I think I know how to pronounce my own last name. I kinda learnt that like 10 years before I even met you.
A guy in high school asked me if I was Asian and when I responded no (my grandparents came from Algeria to France) he literally told me that I must be wrong and that I should check with my family XDD. He never believed me ! Like, I think I know where my family is from better than you, stranger !
My spanish name ends in an O and I have so many (white) men explain to me that only male names end in O in Spanish.
I had this happened a few times (by both women and men to be fair). My surname starts with V but it sounds like B because spanish is weird. I remember three times when being abroad I said "my surname is Valenciano with a V" (pronouncing it with B) and they had the audacity to correct me "you mean "Valenciano" (pronounced with a V). Thanks but I know how to pronounce my own name you idiot... (Obviously this is a fake surname)
I have the exact same problem! Most of the time they're nice about it, but there is always a few. My last name starts with V not B, seriously! But mines Hungarian so it just sounds like I'm pronouncing it with a B a little cause V just sounds too much like B. We just say (surname) and start spelling it (cause EVERYONE spells it wrong) we start with V for Victor. Always works.
Load More Replies...I had a boss argue with my dad on how my name was spelled (we worked at the same place at the time). My dad pointed out that he had named me and that ended the argument.
Bored Panda reached out to the author of the thread, Nicole Froio, who is a feminist writer and researcher. Nicole explained that “mansplaining is one of many daily aggressions women go through in a sexist and misogynistic society, so it has to be understood as a part of a larger system of oppression rather than an isolated incident.”
It comes from the assumption that “women and other non-men don't have the intelligence to understand the topic at hand, which is a sexist and misogynistic assumption. The mansplainer will explain something that the woman probably already knows already, usually in a condescending and infantilizing way.”
I never understood why men feel the need to say balls hurt more. That might be true, but it's a pain that lasts 30 seconds at it's most intense then subsides... childbirth is constant for a longtime
As a man you'll never know what childbirth or menstrual pain feels like so you can't just say what hurts more. If you have no idea then don't say anything.
Load More Replies...Apparently the closest a man can feel what contractions feel like is using a TENS machine but the problem with that is they don’t feel the burning, the stretching and the tearing when you push the baby out.
There's a comment on Friends where Chandler said it was impossible to know which hurt more because no one would ever experience both. My husband angrily told the TV that any man who'd supported a woman through labour and birth knew damn well which one hurt most.
Even without knowing your husband. I like him a lot. :D :D
Load More Replies...I hate people who dismiss how painful periods can be. I have endometriosis so mine are not pleasant. I have broken several bones, fell down the stairs on top of glasses and landed against the wall (opening my skull a bit), I felt out of a speeding golf car and had a lot of internal damage, I have recovered from surgery... Still my top five painful moments are all period related.
I have this ongoing dispute with my wife as to what hurts more: being punched in the boob or being kicked in the balls. We do agree that childbirth is on a different level altogether.
When I'm close to my period, punching me in the boob would be grounds for homicide (an all-woman jury would never convict me). Aside from that, it's certainly not pleasant, but it's also not likely to make me scream and fall down.
Load More Replies...Some guy once tried to say this to my mom. She said: so being kicked in the balls is worse than childbirth ? Maybe if cut your balls with dull, rusty knife, you can start to compare...
I've had horrible menstrual cramps since I was 13, given birth to two babies, both with and without an epidural, and I am so glad that this guy has cleared everything up. The cramps are in my head and I exaggerated and imagined the birthing pain, it was just like pooping. Thankfully I can share this information with my daughter when her periods start; "the pain is in your head, just stop thinking about it and be grateful you don't have balls!!"
Can it be mansplaining without including an actual explanation? This is just sexism.
Good for you! I'm a female hockey coach and am constantly fighting for myself.
I played 1st base on a Jack & Jill team. Guy complains because HE'S a first baseman, so they let him play one game. Never once caught the ball, overshot the shortstop resulting in the other team gaining 2 runs on us and missed an infield fly. Yeah - I played the rest of the season. We went to division championships as well - I played with a broken finger and held my ground when another "male player" charged me at the bag. He was disqualified. BECAUSE OF A GIRL.
That sound like a terrific hobby! Imma try it out tho
Load More Replies...You need a new doc. Those cramps should be made tolerable with a tylenol (and a hot water bottle maybe). If it's worse, something is off.
There is only one absolute cure for endometriosis and it eliminates the possibility of pregnancy. Not everyone's experience is the same.
Load More Replies...When I was I grad school, my ob/gyn was an old French guy. At one appointment, he asked what I was studying in grad school, and I told him-- public policy and women's studies. He responded by telling me that was great because women need to know how to balance checkbooks. I found a new doctor.
According to Nicole, it depends where the act of mansplaining happens. For example, when it’s in a professional setting, “this can result in the woman in a professional setting feeling disrespected and/or inept for doing their job, they could feel like they've been publicly humiliated in front of their colleagues and feel a general loss of respect for her expertise."
Had a battery issue and subsequent starting problem (wouldn't start) up after a fill-up at the gas station. Dude came over to tell me, waving hands wildly, that I needed to hold my clutch in to start the bike. It was already neutral and I was perfectly aware of my Beemer's operation.
Watched two men trying to start a motorbike. When they gave up I took the key, started it and off I went.
Isn't it strange that a boy's bike has that crossbar at a deadly place for genitalia? Maybe there is cosmic justice . . .
She doesn't look like a man! She looks like a beautiful young woman!
Load More Replies...I don't know the situation there and it sounds like he was a moron. I've written a lot of code and at least a couple of times someone told me what it was really doing which wasn't what I thought it was doing. So they were right. I wrote in a bug and they caught it.
I love how many people (mostly men) jump in to explain that it's not mansplaining because they probably meant something completely different and we're just being uncharitable in thinking they're explaining things to us that we already know, give the guy a break, don't be a b, you're just assuming.
Load More Replies...I'd love if my colleagues explained how our code worked more often, since I sometimes forget what my own code does :D. But it's not a woman thing, it's a programmer thing.
Could be mansplaining but more likely just an arrogant, socially retarded jerk. I get the same from other men.
My ex. "I am right and if I'm not, well, let's pretend it didn't happen, let's not ever talk about it."
They are taught this phrase from birth on. By their mothers.
Load More Replies...“Why do you always have to prove me wrong?!” Ive heard that one a lot. Sorry for wanting you to be correct?
I love when confronting dickheads like this- common response when proved wrong? "Well, anyway, That's what I was told"
For the men who’re wondering about not coming across as mansplainers, Nicole says that simply asking can go a long way. “Instead of assuming a person doesn't know about a certain topic, why not ask 'Do you know how this works?' or 'I'm not sure if you're familiar with this, but if you do, feel free to stop me.'” These simple questions can correct the behavior that might accidentally harm someone.
Hey, it's insulting pigs to call this dude one.
Load More Replies...A Polish priest (even a bishop, I think) very publically said something similar a while ago, how a woman will never et pregnant from rape, because the stress levels are so high that's it's literally impossible. Ergo, why should abortion of a pregnancy from rape be legal in Poland, ladies it makes no sense whasoever, even intellectually inferior creatures such as you must understand that! (plot twist, abortion is illegal in Poland since last weekend...)
What are Polish legislators hoping to accomplish by banning abortions, I wonder? Besides cutting off women's rights to decide when and if they want to put their bodies through a pregnancy? 😡
Load More Replies...I know he said it but still, I find it hard to actually believe this happened. There should be a minimum level of intelligence for congressmen..
There is no minimum level of intelligence for reproduciton either.
Load More Replies...This is mansplaining, a moron in office, and an indictment of the crap "education" system we have in the USA.
If I remember correctly, he said that if a woman is truly raped she can't get pregnant, because the female body has the ability to prevent conception if forced.
I remember that...........made the rounds in congress.........jeezuz!!
Niall, a birthmark is when part of the skin pigments differently than the rest.
fun fact, a birthmark is considered to be a mark of where the person in your past life died. she might have been stabbed or shot in the face in her past life
I have a birthmark just above my butt, I don't want to know how I died in a past life.
Load More Replies...Mansplaining is basically when a man explains something that a woman would obviously know or that is not true.
Load More Replies...That is taking mansplaining to an art form! I'd say at least he respected the source, but he probably presumed it was a guy.
Soooo, was she contradicting herself, or what? This leads to the assumption both her articles made no sense.
I guess... you owned yourself? No, wait, it's taking first AND second place!
So you weren’t wrong ... but you were inconsistent between one article and the next ... so which article was correct??
Even though Nicole said that mansplaining is not one of the worst things experienced by women in a patriarchal system, she sees it wrong because “it rectifies the gender structure on an interpersonal level.”
“For example, you might be a woman in a male-dominated industry where your expertise is already undervalued because that field is male-dominated, and then one of your colleagues mansplains a simple concept everyone in the office is familiar with.”
Then perhaps ... it wasn’t yours, dumbass, he was literally quoting a different book not authored by you. They do exist.
Dude. DID YOU carry life inside you for 9 months? DIDN'T THINK SO. I bet she KNOWS by now how it feels.
My ex insisted that I should go with him to a convention instead of the funeral of my teacher who mentored me in college. "It's what he would have wanted". That said, that was more gaslighting than mansplaining. The teacher put so much effort into his students and we stayed in contact even after I went to uni. He was also my ex's teacher, and the ex hated him.
Seth Meyers did something similar to his wife. He tells the story on himself and it's pretty funny listening to him call out his own stupidly.
There's no need for prejudice Tala Koala. And the person said it was their FRIEND'S husband, which could have been anyone.
Load More Replies...AGain, tell him that. Let him be shocked. Also, make sure to tell him that you are not a 1st grader.
Biology class has a butterfly day? Maybe he was just training you at your job and making sure everyone was on the same page.
Probably not, but the life-cycle of a butterfly is very basic biology. That'd be like you getting explained that energy in closed systems is constant. But it could of course be he didn't know she was a biologist.
Load More Replies...Such cases can do long-term harm to women. “This can lead to things like imposter syndrome and an unwelcome work environment for women, where people's suspicions about the woman's supposed lack of expertise are rectified by the mansplaining."
That and most aircraft have very specific tie-down procedures that aren't exactly open to opinion-based discourse. You're either doing according to the checklist, or you aren't.
Yeah, that would be awesome....hey aterie you are not inflamed, stop hurting me!
Load More Replies...Headaches are real, but these weird tricks work sometimes. Usually because of the placebo effect.
Only on some people who don’t experience headaches the same as others. It’s a thing, some people don’t even get headaches. Like 15% of the population
Load More Replies...I can actually do that! If I ignore a headache, it goes away. Obviously it depends on the type of headache.
Yes, sometimes it works. Often enough, it's caused by me not drinking enough or having a nerve pinched, but when it's still persistent after I drank a lot or massaged the nerve (or put something warm on it), I'll take a pill. Don't want to sallow those if not absolutely necessary
Load More Replies...So if you imagine him away, will he go away? Because he's a headache
I see this a lot! People being in pain because they don't "believe" in pain killers.
It IS mansplaining. Its a man literally telling a woman something that only happens to cis-gendered women. It's something he'll never know or experience. That is mansplaining.
Load More Replies...My father always got mad at me when I took painkillers because if painful cramps. He mansplained that I might get addicted. (Yeah, because taking 1-2 pill per month makes you addict) l
Yee you don't get to tell me that menstrual cramps don't hurt that much until your laying on the couch not able to move because your in so much pain, and guess what, you get the nausea bonus so your constantly afriad your going to throw uo
Right? I had plenty of accidents and periods are the most painful thing I experienced. My 8+/10 pain doesnt even go away with 200mg of Tramadol (I dont even take it anymore because it does nothing).
Load More Replies...hehe time for one of those electrical pain simulators <3 https://www.cnet.com/news/menstruation-machine-teaches-men-about-well/#:~:text=Well%2C%20now%20we%20men%20can,of%20Mother%20Nature's%20monthly%20gift.&text=The%20Menstruation%20Machine%20is%20an,by%20her%20own%20monthly%20cycle.
OMG! My dear father told my brothers to leave me alone cuz I was menstruating. I didn't know how he knew, but there it is... <3
When asked how one should react to being mansplained to, Nicole said that personally she finds being assertive quite important when responding to mansplaining. “I usually respond by saying things like 'Thanks for explaining, but I already knew that' or even interrupting the mansplainer and saying 'Sorry to interrupt, but I already know that, so we can move onto the next topic instead of wasting time?’”
Your response can just be a gentle nudge to the fact that you are knowledgeable and that you don't need an explanation, Nicole concluded.
What did he get wrong on natural selection? It's not rocket-science, how can you get it wrong - and how can wikipedia be THAT wrong?
I have noticed that people just don't listen. Whatever you have to say is inconsequential. It can be infuriating, but sometimes, I think "nevermind" and I walk away.
I call them 'tape recorder people' (showing my age) because, like pressing play after putting your cassette in, they are going to trundle out whatever is going to come out, no matter what you are doing or saying.
Load More Replies...Damn. Rude much? Telling other people what THEIR BABY wants? (And assuming the gender)
That happened to me all the time when I was on parent leave with my sons. It was always women explaining what my kids needed even though I had been home taking care of them ny myself for 6 months. I male by the way...
OP isn't the only one, I bet most mothers (and fathers too) have dealt with this. Most of the time the person means well, but still... no one asked.
And people also act like hunger is the only problem a baby could cry about.
Load More Replies...Gender wrong, hunger probably correct. But instead of just letting it wail its head off in a public place, why not investigate what it actually wants, dumb breeder?? Unsolicited advice comes from us being tired of listening to your crotch dropping and watching you do nothing. We think, maybe she’s as dumb as she looks and needs some help, so we help.
How are you supposed to find out what is wrong with a baby who CAN'T SPEAK YET?! Think first, for god sake
Load More Replies...That is still up for debate. We'll have to ask more strangers on the street.
Load More Replies...I'm an alien, and I know how malls work. You see one, then say "f**k this, it's cheaper on Amazon".
Load More Replies...I was thinking that too, poor chap probably didn't know what to say.
Load More Replies...Holy cow hope there was no second date, also there should be a place to leave a review of your date to warn others about his stupidity
Depends on what he said and how he said it. The business side of malls could be considered a form of talking shop, especially if you also are in the same business. the history of malls in their current incarnation could be fascinating.
Well, they do say that women are from Venus, so maybe he thought... NAH!
seems like he might have an interesting view on the subject as he's seen the negative side of the education system.
I need more info. I have strong opinions on education, without a degree. However, I'm politically active, and therefore I have opinions on how schools should be run. If the guy said "hey, this is how you should do your job", then he's an ass, but other than that it's just opinions.
I don’t see that as mansplaining. A man can have an opinion/view on a subject, doesn’t mean he is “mansplaining”.
I think outside perspectives on the education system by someone who the education system failed is useful. I have a GED and dropped out after the 9th grade, I also have a Masters and graduated with high honors. So I have some opinions myself. I won't tell someone with a doctorate how it should be run, but I would give some feedback.
A conversation I have had with multiple people running for school boards on up. No degree in education at all. They went to school so they are an expert or 'my kid goes there' so they are an expert. When their opponent has a masters on up in education. School board? So you are wanting to be above the teachers, all the principals on up through Administration including the Superintendent's boss? With a high school diploma and don't even know how to turn on a computer because you wife answers all your email for you??? Any teacher in the building is more qualified than they are....Geez!! Would any other business let a Board member run it who has no experience in that profession?????? Why on God's earth are these people voted in???!
Actually many Police Boards are full of people with zero policing experience. I would say this person would be able to give a very interesting perspective on possible improvements that would help those who are being "left behind" by their education system.
Load More Replies...I really don’t think this man was being rude or trying to be rude, Like I just think he was giving his opinion on the education system
What pray tell is beyond a doctorate? Is there a new college degree the rest of us don't know about? When things are worded this way I feel like the whole truth is not being told.
Having a PhD only means you know a LOT about a little. You don't know everything about the field. I have a PhD and all I learned was I don't know s**t about a lot of other things related to it.
WTF is "educational leadership"? Is that an actual subject you can do a PhD-thesis on? Or was that the name of the thesis? Because being the leader of a school might not mean that person is or has ever been a teacher. This post sounds incredibly arrogant, so I'm inclined to side with the 10th-grade dropout. He might know exactly what went wrong...
Maby it's more a case of he learned and read up about it and wanted to share it? My partner did the same for our son, not that he was be the breastfeeder xD. But i was happy that he took his time to read up and understand allot of things about having kids. And even if me and his mom already knew things. It's not hard to just listen, and be happy that at least they try instead of not caring about it.
Yes, sometimes idiots finally learn something and blabber it back to the expert....like they are an expert. Mansplaining.
Load More Replies...That’s not mansplaining imho - a man can read up on breastfeeding and form an opinion on its benefits. Especially if he is going to be a father (which might or might not have been the case here.)
To be fair when I was a male paediatric nurse my female colleagues made me run a breast feeding class expecting me to fail for a laugh ( to be fair I played my fair share of pranks) however the class went really well and developed my love for teaching people about human analogy
so the husband is the one who got the benefits of it and should be knowledgable about them?
Trust me I've cared for sick children/babies for years however my very orthodox Christian MIL believes men know nothing about raising children. My wife was completely unprepared for child birth, she just believed her belly would get bigger nothing more and was completely unprepared for the physical changes to occur to her bringing a life to tern would entail
Load More Replies...Not mansplaining. He's trying to engage in conversation. Just because you have boobs and breastfed your kids doesn't make you an expert in it. I fathered 6 kids. That doesn't make me an expert on ejaculation.
Please, keep such rude opinions to yourself. They make people uncomfortable, because of your unecessary meanness
Load More Replies......and when you tell them your credentials/expertise/ or education they say you’re arrogant.
Yep, there’s an incel tearing thru the comments making exactly that claim.
Load More Replies...I see what you did there :) Upvote for you, sir.
Load More Replies...Ex became a nursing assistant, so I was getting lectures about how things should be done in nursing.I'm a registered nurse
I feel like this is creepier than mansplaining and goes well into the realm of objectifying women. Should have told him to remove all his body hair and go to the gym as women like to look at men who look like Greek gods.
Why the down votes. It's not what she really thinks but just the answer to this guy
Load More Replies...Why does he assume that he speaks for all men? People have preferences, dude. Not everyone likes the same things as you.
My most conservative boyfriends admitted he thought it was sexy when he "discovered" my tattoo.
Load More Replies...It’s terrible, since I got my tattoo my hubby hasn’t looked at me the same way since lol.
Same with my sister. He can't look her in the eyes anymore. He keeps trying to talk to the anchor on her shoulder.
Load More Replies...That's personal taste, but he shouldn't be speaking for all men. I personally like some tattoos on women but, like on men, it depends on the quality of the tat!
Pffft. I prefer a tattooed woman. Especially if she's bigger than society says is normal. Warmth in winter, shade in summer, and moving pictures all year round.
All you’re doing is drawing attention to it. Working for a troll.
Load More Replies...I said something about that very issue to my sister who had no idea of the direction one should wipe.
Okay but thats not mansplaining. He is literally a father and his info is right. He's just trying to look out for the well-being of his own DAUGHTER. I'm a woman as well and I don't wipe in the right direction lmao.
Geez. The man’s info was right, he was probably merely anxious/excited about being a daddy and a lot of women DON‘T know that info. She‘s being sexist if anything because she is suggesting women know about such stuff and men don’t.
Did you think about this comment before you wrote it down? Or did you just hit post and think, "Yup. I've done something great here"?
Load More Replies...What has your age and gender to do with being able to wipe butt in the right direction?
I had to explain this to my wife because I kept witnessing her doing it wrong
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Load More Replies...i hope to god i never have to know this. unless i get a little nephew or neice, that would be nice.
"Well, dear. Since you're such an expert, all poopie diapers will now be your responsibility. Want to explain how grocery stores, stoves and vacuum cleaners work?"
I didn't even know there were such things as trucks with 36 gears! Does it work like bicycle gears?
I am not a truck driver, but I have been shown how to shift an 18-speed, which is less complicated than it seems. It shifts like a 5-speed, then you select high-range, shift 2-5 again as 6-9, then engage overdrive and repeat for 10-18. I imagine a 36-speed would be an 18-speed configuration with a separate lever for a 2-speed rear axle.
Load More Replies...Hahahahaha yep! I don't know how many times I've messaged people about vehicles they have for sale and the first thing I get back is "are you sure you're interested ma'am, it's a manual transmission"... As my profile pic at the time showed me, clearly female, driving a semi, with the shifter clearly visible. "Thanks bro, I think I'll manage..."
I did not know about the 36 gears part! If only there had been a man around to 'splain it!!
Because more gears makes you better? Maybe you weren't doing it that well, and the truck too...
200 miles straight because she didn’t know how to turn!
Load More Replies...Back when I used to paddle 600+ miles (1000 km) each summer I listened keenly whenever someone chose to offer tips. Lots of BS, lots of solid advice. One summer of lake paddling equals one day of sea kayaking equals one hour of whitewater. Never mastered to roll both ways and that affected my turning.
A 200-mile (which would probably be a word-record, of you paddled constantly) paddle in a straight line still doesn't mean you know how to turn.
Oh yeah, I'm a teacher and I get that a lot. "Do you have kids?" No, but I have had several hundred more kids than you.
And spent several hundred hours being trained in how to be a Teacher!
Load More Replies...Wait, so his son has a son of his own since said son understands more than the teacher since she doesnt have children? Makes sense.,...
In fairness I have met a lot of people who didn't know the political history of their home country. And no they were not just Americans. Some of my Russian students have said some really funny stuff too, like when one tried to tell me the statue on the main square was Stalin. Its a bearded bald guy who is pretty obviously Lenin. And my colleagues used to have students tell them in English about the history of their home town ( Kirov) and none of the students seemed to know who that was despite the town being named for him and us having statues of him dotted around. In fairness I study Soviet history, but they would say, "Let's ask the American" and then I of course knew who Sergei Mironovich was and students would study harder for their next dialogue.
Sometimes (... 😉 ), people who learn stuff know more about stuff than people who don't learn about stuff. You don't just *know* your country just by being born in it. When I was in Australia years back, we met Australians who'd never even left their town, or the region they live in. We as tourists had seen more in a few weeks than they'd done in their life. And yes, works the other way round just as well - I've seen barely a pinch of my own country.
Load More Replies...I got to listen to a woman (American) at work tell a guy from India all about what India is like. She's never left the country ever.
One can start a conversation about someone else's country, but then let them add their own knowledge.
Yes. If I had read an interesting article about the political history of a country and wanted to talk about it with someone from that country, I could simply say that I read this interesting article and ask for their take on it. That's just a normal way to engage in conversation. It encourages dialog and values the other person's position. A lot of the mansplaining examples are where someone decides to hold forth as an expert and deliver a lecture rather than engaging in a dialog. They've discounted the idea that the person they're talking to may have a worthy contribution, and possibly more knowledge on a subject than they do, from the very beginning. It's belittling. That's not a good way to engage anyone.
Load More Replies...Sometime political history in your home country is tainted with propaganda. Or the outside world views it differently, especially if their opinions or government types differ. The history of Ireland is taught completely different in the UK than it is in Ireland, the same with religious studies (or at least it was when I was at school).
It's mansplaining if you ignore the fact that the other person might know it, but if there's a couple questions before you might find out there's a lot of people who doesn't even know who the heck is the people printed on their own country's currency 🤷🏻♂️
At school you learn very specific events in history because that is what comes up in the exams. In England we’re taught about Henry VIII and his wives, but I don’t remember learning about all the other Kings and Queens. History knowledge taught is very patchy based on the curriculum.
I'd suggest he also go look up infant and maternal mortality rates in Africa and then report him
Besides being racist, I think the doctor also missed the point that those African women (most likely) do not have a choice...
Yeah, it's probably a case of either risk the pregnancy and carry the water or go without water.
Load More Replies...Every pregnancy is different but without some context as to why she thought she needed disability for her pregnancy I can't take her side. I had a very painful 2nd pregnancy (torn pubis symphysis) but never considered disability because I was just as bad at work as was on days off.
I once advised my male supervisor and IT dude that putting a brand new printer inside a closed cupboard was a bad idea because there was not enough air circulation. They mansplained to me that my advice was nonsense and that I didn’t know what I was talking about (my degree is in Information Systems). Two months later the printer overheated and died. the cupboard disappeared a few days later and a replacement printer appeared on a newly installed countertop.
how about my African born pharmacist telling me how many non addictive migraine pills I'm allowed to have a month for my disabling migraines? MY doc prescribes 30 at a time. I decide how often to refill. The pharmacist decides when and which ones I get treatment for them?????
yeah they need to be reported, that's got to be illegal. unless it's a case of insurance getting in the way; i've had meds where my doctor wrote five refills and when i pick it up it says one or two refills remaining, because insurance wouldn't cover that far out.
Load More Replies...To be honest, that can be any art admirer, regardless of gender, interpreting a drawing, painting, or photograph.
As an artist we get that, so the tone was probably rude and declaring instead. Told that this is what it means..
Load More Replies...I remember someone saying " the artist's view has no place in interpreting their art".
Nice. I'd like to meet that person and tell them "F**k out of my vernissage, then!"
Load More Replies...Yes, but they shouldn't say to the artist (!) that THIS is the way the painting was meant. They say "this is how i see it" or "this comes to my mind". Stating somethign as fact to the person who created the art and would definitely know what it meant to them is arrogant. I do think, though, that it could happen with a woman as well.
Load More Replies...Oh gosh yes. I've had readers tell me what my writing meant, even when it blatantly meant something entirely different.
Me too. I write a lot of poetry to get out my emotions for some people just need to understands they can't tell me what my feelings are.
Load More Replies...I had a therapist when I was a teenager tell me that the reason why the trees I drew in a picture he had me draw showed how I don't feel connected because of my family situation. My mother had left me and sister with my step-dad who she was separated from to live with a man across country she met online (this was 1999). He said this because the trees didn't have any roots...I just drew them that way because you don't see roots above ground often (it was a landscape horizon picture). I stopped going not too long after.
This one will open up a whole discussion! True, an artist creates something with meaning to them. True the viewers interpretation is also valid, something that means one thing to me can mean something completely different to someone else, that doesn't make either opinion less valid. It's the same with food, what you call comfort food, I might call bland and boring or maybe even foreign and exciting.
Reminds me of the time a guy in my writing club tried to tell me the meaning behind my prologue, like what the cliffhanger would mean for the rest of the book. When I tried to explain it to him, he was like, "Nah, that doesn't really make sense." I just stared at him, then asked, "You do know who the writer is, don't you?" I'm a guy myself and still had something mansplained to me.
Depends on what was drawn and if symbols were used. For example, I draw a cupid, some hearts, some 1940 Germain soldiers and a swastika. It doesn't matter if I was drawing to "demonstrate my depression", any reasonable person is going to say I'm drawing Nazi propaganda.
BITCH SAID WHAT? Of course one can interpret it many ways. But only the artists knows what it ACTUALLY is???
Do they get a kick out of wrongly declaring things for women? Alternate drug high?
I've probably posted enough silly comments already, but were these men not medical professionals? Were they saying, "Uh, Lady, I think you should get to a hospital"?
Unless his job title is obstetrician or midwife no man needs to be explaining anything about labour to a woman actually experiencing it.
How are man anywhere near you? When I was in labour I had my midwife and my husband (who was the perfect labour partner). How are random men walking in and talking to you?
That's because you take so long, so we worry, we don't want you to starve, you know
I usually look at the words, pictures if they have them, and prices if they have them. Am I doing something wrong? I must know!
No it is not. My Aunt told me that kidney stones hurt more than child birth, but I call BS on that because I've had kidney stones and I've seen childbirth. I'm glad I cannot give birth.
I think it depends, everyone experiences pain differently from different things. A select few women can pop a baby out with relatively low pain and less time, while others may spend hours in excruciating pain. Everybody is different men and women. Though I am inclined to believe most of the time child birth is incredibly painful.
Load More Replies...Let me guess, you have one stroke of ginger hair and have tried a beer once? Despite the ginger thing being way more of a scottish thing.. Fun.
It's not just Gaelic, for goodness sake. For example I've known many Jewish people with red hair.
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I find that when I explain that my menopause is a factor in why I'm not interested in sex all the time I am ignored or im using it as an excuse to not have sex or I don't desire him. But when a guy has ED; THAT is a real problem and a more acceptable explanation for having sex issues than the menopause women go through. My boyfriend is like this.
What is the logic behind these at this point? Stop being so prideful, men, accept someone has more knowledge in a field than you..
Sadly it's not even pride. In general the concept that a woman might know more on certain topics than them is like me trying to convince you that gravity doesn't exist. It's just so far outside of their experience of the world that they can't conceive of it.
Load More Replies...A man on FB commented on my post that I shouldn't call my breasts "boobs." They are my boobs and that is what I call them; I don't tell guys what to call their penis. I call it "junk" by the way. 😄
If you did not have any education on anatomy, kids don't get periods at seven, or five. If they're in the same class they are at a similar age, usually with a gap of a year at most. Plus, it's twitter, five and seven year olds aren't on twitter, you breathing human embodiment of stupidity and misunderstanding. ❤
Load More Replies...It was a full service station. He was checking it anyway. Probably just thought he was being helpful. If this is one of the worst interactions you've had with a man, I'd say you're doing ok.
No one said anything about this being the worst. It's about being mansplained s**t you already know. And no one needs to come in and say "this isn't so bad!" or "that's not what he meant!" because this is from women's perspective and women are CONSTANTLY being talked down to as if we didn't know better. Next time just listen and learn. Don't try to justify the behavior.
Load More Replies...When I went in for my car's oil change at one of those 'stay in your car while they change oil' place guy came to me with all different kind of oil sticks showing and telling me whey they were dark what needs to be done to fix the problem. I am a man and I didn't get offended, I just took it as he's just doing his job. But then again I can only change wipers and jump a car .
I am a mechanic, but I know the basics for car maintenance and care for my car.
To follow on from the comments below, a lot of people are missing the point. He didn't *ask* her if she knew where the long stick was or if she knew what the role of the oil was, he presumed she didn't know. And the rest of us think it's highly unlikely he did that with all his male clients. It's frustrating how many guys are not getting this. It isn't about trying to be helpful and share expertise or knowledge, it's about taking it as a default stand point that the person doesn't know because she's a woman.
This isn't mansplaining. He literally WORKS at an automechanic store so he most likely has more knowledge in that field than you do. You just took a class lol
Of course you don't know, that man is a professional reader and he read an article online!
To be completely fair being pregnant does not actually make you an expert on pregnancies in general. That's why we have doctors.
Doesn't mean you can assume a pregnant woman needs the birds and the bees explained to her... Maybe of these posts are a bit too short to give the full circumstance but since they're listed as mansplaining, we should probably assume that that's what it was. and that the women felt like the guys ought to know better.
Load More Replies...Probably one of many who think the Nazis were socialists. It's a common misconception, promoted by Glenn Beck and other rightwing propagandists.
You can see where they'd make the mistake though - it was in the name. Whether or not they lived up to it is a different debate.
Load More Replies...It's still a form of ignorance though, to assume that in 45 years it never once crossed her mind to use sun block to protect her skin? That he is the first person to impart such wisdom.
Load More Replies...That guy wasn’t mansplaining he was just being a perv and trying to see your tits.
well, that went right over hear head. "Does the carpet match the drapes?" "Of course; I'm a natural blonde/redhead" "Prove it." Oldest trick in the book.
There was a trend y few years back where apparently the colour of your nips is the best "my lips, but better" lipstick shade. There is a Buzzfeed video on it somewhere.
Unlucky since I know now and don't have to stretch my back either way. Stop plaguing this website, you disgusting, human equivalent of potato blight.
Load More Replies...Are you sure....? Really sure? He also read an article, from a totally legit website.
Probably read it from a "ReLiAbLe SiTe" like Wikipedia lol XD
Load More Replies...Doesn't mean he doesn't know what he is talking about. You assume he doesn't know because he was working as a custodian. Seems a little small minded to me
She knows he knows less than her not because he’s a custodian, but because she’s an experienced professional in the field of education and he isn’t.
Load More Replies...You don't know his background or why he works there. That last sentence was completely unnecessary
You don’t know whether she knows his background or not, she didn’t say he was a random stranger.
Load More Replies...In most of these cases, a woman could just as easily said these stupid remarks. It's just stupidity and ignorance, not mansplaining.
It's both. There isn't a term called "womansplaining", but the idea behind mansplaining and 'womansplaining' is being ignorant and dismisve.
Load More Replies...Just a few days ago, we had a "mansplaining" post and most people will agree that the term is merely a sexist stereotype for behaviour that simply shows a lack of respect, gender of either side notwithstanding. In case of this list, most of these are not even when the term supposedly should imply, but examples of rude beaviour from men towards women, typically not really "explaining" something but merely stating it. Therefore, the whole post is boring but to those who want to be infuriated.
I think the VAST majority of mansplaining incidents are not that at all. I know lots of dudes who "mansplain" things to men all the time. They're just idiots. It's not a sex thing so stop looking for something to be offended by.
Last time I got manspained I was told that -10 C (or 14 F) "really wasn't cold at all" and I was wrong to think that, and while this might be somewhat true as -30 C is not unusual here in Sweden, the way someone perceives different temperatures is individual. Certainly in the context this was said which was at what temperature would we think it was a little bit too cold to take out the garbage, and I answered -10 C. But uhm, yeah, I was wrong.... 🙄
I am and was a car girl. Vintage Mustangs. Walking into a mall with then current bf. Passed a parked '67 mustang fastback. I pointed it out as we walked past and made a few comments. BF said that it was a '68. I said no, a '67. Another guy walking past said yep, a '68. We had continued to walk as we had an appointment. After some more back and forth, I insisted we go back outside. It was a '67.
I have a confession: I was under my car working on it when my wife came by and was chatting with me... I asked, "Honey can you hand me that screwdriver over there... the one shaped like a star..." She replies: "YOU MEAN THE PHILLIPS?!?!?!?" oops... yeah, that one :)
My boyfriend did that to me too! Like, I moved into your house with a huge toolbox. That you borrow regularly. Come on!
Load More Replies...The closest I came to experiencing mansplaining was when a guy I was riding bikes with, single speed beach cruisers mind you, tried telling me I didn't know how to ride a bike. We were side by side, riding down the strand. I just thought he was a douche and never went out with him again.
Ahh... 'Mansplanning'! I had a female customer accuse me of this and of being 'condescending' when I tried to explain to her that the invoice she was querying wasn't correct. I say 'incorrect' because it wasn't from my company, and I say 'customer' because she wasn't actually - she had rung the wrong company... Still... At least she apologised. Well, she just got unbelievably pissy with me when I pointed out dumbarsedary and she slammed down the phone. Still... Made me laugh!
Not mansplaining per se but it reminded me to a conversation with my partner. His father told us that if we wanted to have a boy we shouldnt drink tap water "because of the hormones turn the baby into a girl". I said nothing about that stupidity because I didnt want to be rude but when we were back home I explained my partner how sex determination works in mammals. He believed his father (a informatic teacher) rather than believing his girlfriend (a biologist). Men can be really sexist without even realizing.
Fire. FIRE! Why does every single man think that building a fire is some sort of specialized skill that only he has!? "You need to put the kindling on first," Yeah, no s**t buddy. "It needs air" Yeah, a child know that. "Actually....I'll do it." EVERY.TIME.EVERY. MAN.
In most of these cases, a woman could just as easily said these stupid remarks. It's just stupidity and ignorance, not mansplaining.
It's both. There isn't a term called "womansplaining", but the idea behind mansplaining and 'womansplaining' is being ignorant and dismisve.
Load More Replies...Just a few days ago, we had a "mansplaining" post and most people will agree that the term is merely a sexist stereotype for behaviour that simply shows a lack of respect, gender of either side notwithstanding. In case of this list, most of these are not even when the term supposedly should imply, but examples of rude beaviour from men towards women, typically not really "explaining" something but merely stating it. Therefore, the whole post is boring but to those who want to be infuriated.
I think the VAST majority of mansplaining incidents are not that at all. I know lots of dudes who "mansplain" things to men all the time. They're just idiots. It's not a sex thing so stop looking for something to be offended by.
Last time I got manspained I was told that -10 C (or 14 F) "really wasn't cold at all" and I was wrong to think that, and while this might be somewhat true as -30 C is not unusual here in Sweden, the way someone perceives different temperatures is individual. Certainly in the context this was said which was at what temperature would we think it was a little bit too cold to take out the garbage, and I answered -10 C. But uhm, yeah, I was wrong.... 🙄
I am and was a car girl. Vintage Mustangs. Walking into a mall with then current bf. Passed a parked '67 mustang fastback. I pointed it out as we walked past and made a few comments. BF said that it was a '68. I said no, a '67. Another guy walking past said yep, a '68. We had continued to walk as we had an appointment. After some more back and forth, I insisted we go back outside. It was a '67.
I have a confession: I was under my car working on it when my wife came by and was chatting with me... I asked, "Honey can you hand me that screwdriver over there... the one shaped like a star..." She replies: "YOU MEAN THE PHILLIPS?!?!?!?" oops... yeah, that one :)
My boyfriend did that to me too! Like, I moved into your house with a huge toolbox. That you borrow regularly. Come on!
Load More Replies...The closest I came to experiencing mansplaining was when a guy I was riding bikes with, single speed beach cruisers mind you, tried telling me I didn't know how to ride a bike. We were side by side, riding down the strand. I just thought he was a douche and never went out with him again.
Ahh... 'Mansplanning'! I had a female customer accuse me of this and of being 'condescending' when I tried to explain to her that the invoice she was querying wasn't correct. I say 'incorrect' because it wasn't from my company, and I say 'customer' because she wasn't actually - she had rung the wrong company... Still... At least she apologised. Well, she just got unbelievably pissy with me when I pointed out dumbarsedary and she slammed down the phone. Still... Made me laugh!
Not mansplaining per se but it reminded me to a conversation with my partner. His father told us that if we wanted to have a boy we shouldnt drink tap water "because of the hormones turn the baby into a girl". I said nothing about that stupidity because I didnt want to be rude but when we were back home I explained my partner how sex determination works in mammals. He believed his father (a informatic teacher) rather than believing his girlfriend (a biologist). Men can be really sexist without even realizing.
Fire. FIRE! Why does every single man think that building a fire is some sort of specialized skill that only he has!? "You need to put the kindling on first," Yeah, no s**t buddy. "It needs air" Yeah, a child know that. "Actually....I'll do it." EVERY.TIME.EVERY. MAN.

