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Sometimes, the things that you think are completely all right to say and do are far from okay. In fact, they might be so deep in creepy territory, it’s making people feel uncomfortable and even threatened.

A viral thread by redditor SuperElectronicGray inspired women to open up about all the things that men do that they think is perfectly fine but are actually very creepy. Most of these things are a symptom of toxic masculinity where men follow a very narrow, predetermined set of instructions about how males are “supposed to” behave. And it’s not good for anyone.

Have a read through the uncomfortable situations with men that these redditors have been through and be sure to check out Bored Panda’s interview with a psychotherapist about the potential dangers of toxic masculinity to society and to men themselves.

#1

“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying Flirting with me in a position where I can't leave, like an Uber or taxi. Once I had an Uber driver flirt with me the entire ride late on a Friday night. I tried to stop responding, but he kept telling me how beautiful I am. Most times, when women aren't interested and you keep pushing it, we get scared we're gonna get assaulted or killed! It's terrifying.

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CatWoman312
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And if she left a negative review he knows where she lives. This is the kind of world we live in

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#2

“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying Taking common politeness as romantic interest

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Mike Crow
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Took me a while to understand this. When I was a young man no one talked to me so if a girl did I thought she liked me. Then I went too far the other way and a couple girls actually did like me and were flirting but I thought they were being polite.

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“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying That hassling you for a date because you don't have a bf is not okay.

'But you don't have a bf...'

The point is dude, I'd rather be single than date you. Take the bloody hint.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This one makes me so angry. Like I'm only allowed to say no if another man has already staked his claim? Fück off.

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Psychotherapist Silva Neves explained to me in an interview that toxic masculinity poses a whole host of dangers both to men and to the people around them, specifically, to women. This is most commonly expressed through violence or the threat of violence.

“The main danger of toxic masculinity is that those men can be emotionally abusive and/or physically violent and sexually violent to women,” the expert told Bored Panda. However, that's just the tip of the iceberg.

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#4

“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying I am an elderly woman and it really really pisses me off when men that I don't know call me "Sweetie" or "Honey" or "Sweetheart." Dudes. Just don't. I am not your grandma with a dish of cookies for you.

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Kyle D
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't tell you how many times I've been called those names by women. Assuming no salacious motives by the men, it's just as demeaning for women to do it. So bottom line, strangers shouldn't call other strangers pet names.

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“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying When they tell me to smile. It used to make me really uncomfortable, but now I just grin manically at them.

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“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying hi i know my comment will get lost but if you are over 18 and i make it clear to you that i am underage, do not continue to talk to me. please.

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Demi Zwaan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I supposed they mean flirting? Because just having a normal conversation should be fine.

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“They can also be aggressive to gay people. They perpetuate toxic messages of masculinity so toxic masculinity is usually passed down to their children and peers maintaining the problems,” Silva said that toxic masculinity is a generational issue. Thus, we can’t expect any changes to happen overnight, but the sooner they start, the sooner society can start moving on a different, kinder and more peaceful, trajectory.

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Meanwhile, according to psychotherapist Silva, the men who subscribe to the tenets of toxic masculinity can end up hurting themselves as well.

#7

“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying Asking if I live alone. If there's already an established friendship, fine. But if you're a stranger or just an acquaintance, that freaks me out.

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#8

“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying Restricting my movement in any way. Pinning me in a corner, holding my wrist down, blocking my escape, etc...

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The "casual lean against the door frame" preventing you from leaving the room, the "one arm braced against the wall" that means you can't push past without touching him, the "loungeing against your desk" that traps you in your cubical, the "holding the door for you" that blocks the doorway, the "shopping cart angled to block the aisle". Guys do it all the time, maybe without even noticing. It's not always threatening, but if he shows any interest in you as a woman, it imediately becomes uncomfortable, and you need to defuse a potentially dangerous situation. If you are at work, you typically need to do it without offending him, making a scene, or making yourself look bad to managers/colleagues.

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#9

“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying DMs

Hey

Hey

Hey

I’m not interested

F**k you, you stupid b****.

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JennyLaRue
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I stopped playing Words with Friends because I used to get this nonsense in the messages. I literally just wanted to play scrabble, the least sexy of games!

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“Toxic masculinity also harms the men themselves because repressing their own emotions so much can lead to mental health issues, depression, and even suicide,” he noted that the dangers are very real when men are unable to be vulnerable, open up to others, and ask for help. “Toxic masculinity harms everybody.”

#10

“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying Saying, 'If I was x years younger... I was 15 and manning the cash register at my dad's store when this guy told me I 'brought back memories' of the women he met while he served in Vietnam. And he kept looking me up and down with a slobbery look on his face.

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#11

“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying If you keep going on about how much you respect women, you probably don't respect women.

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#12

“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying Talking badly about their ex and their kids. I'm a single middle age woman. I don't know what's going on with some Men but a lot of them regret having kids and are mad about having to give money to their ex to raise them.

I'm not talking about unreasonable amount of money but for exemple 100$ for 2 kids at the beginning of a school year. And of course their ex is crazy for asking for it. "She's the one who wanted kids.." Some have complained about having to spend time with them.

Why are they telling me this? We just met. It makes them seems so mean and cheap. If you don't want kids get a vasectomy.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is bullsh*t when men say "She's the one who wanted kids, not me", but they have unprotected sex and refuse condoms and vasectomy. When you are a man and sure you don't want kids, use condom everytime or get vasectomy.

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#13

“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying Gay men who grope you and excuse it by saying, 'It's OK — I'm gay! I'm not attracted to women at all!' Keep your f**king hands to yourself, then!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to have a friend that thought it was funny to pull my top and bra down in public places, on the basis that 'it's funny as he doesn't care about my boobs'. Not a friend anymore

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#14

“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying 'Daring' me to kiss my girlfriend in front of them to 'prove' I'm really a lesbian. Disgusting.

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#15

“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying It has happened more than once where it came up in casual conversation that i don't wan't kids and some guy tries to change my mind as if it's any of his business

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“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying My wife had a boss that would come up behind the women and give them shoulder massages. Not cool, dude.

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“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying Saying, 'You're cute when you're angry.'

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“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying I have a large tattoo on my shoulder, and I've had several men come up from behind and move my tank top strap and/or bra strap to see it better. In grocery stores and Lowe's of all places!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And many feel the need to say how they don't like women with tattoos or how we have ruined our bodies.

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“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying Men in positions of power asking sexual questions or commenting on your body. I had one boss try to tell me if I did a certain work out it would help me lose some fat in my thighs and another casually ask me if I was quiet or a screamer. Yeah, that s**t ain't cool.

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#20

FOLLOWING ME FOR ANY DISTANCE! I was once followed TWENTY BLOCKS by a man trying to basically get me to go home with him. Mind you, I had my HEADPHONES in to make it clear I wasn’t listening (although they were off, I just do it so most creeps don’t approach) but my goodness he didn’t let up. I never even looked at him the whole time he followed me. He didn’t leave till I finally spotted a police officer and started walking in that direction. I even asked to be left alone, had my pepper spray in hand visible.

Just kept calling me gorgeous, and asking if my boyfriend treated me right. Could he give me his number in case my BF did something bad? All ignored.

PSA: it’s not ROMANTIC OR ATTRACTIVE to be STALKED any distance no matter how much tv or movies would lie and have you believe.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I saw a women scream at a guy for him to pay her bills and take care of her kids and marry her right then and there and to hand over his credit card she needed to buy a diamond ring while he was following her asking her out. It was so funny. He called her crazy and walked away

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#21

“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying Following women around continuing to try to talk to them when they've already made two attempts to end the conversation.
A guy next to me on a plane wouldn't stop talking to me, even after I put on headphones! Then, he tried to walk me to my connecting flight after I refused to give him my phone number. He only finally left when I went to the women's restroom.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NO MEANS NO! If we keep thinking it means the opposite, we will find ourselves in serious trouble hey

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#22

“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying I've got curly hair, and I'm sick of men thinking they can just come grab a coil of it and pull it like a slinky spring! Don't touch my hair, and don't call me moody when I tell you to stop!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YES! I'm curly redhead and people (men in most cases) think it's OK touching my hair.

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“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying Stop telling me how 'big' things are for a woman. 'That's a big truck for a little girl,' or even once when I was at Subway, this condescending prick said, 'That's a big sandwich...'

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

With a straight face: "Yes, same size as my huge d*ck." Works every time.

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#24

“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying Putting their hands on your thigh or back casually while talking to you. If I’m being friendly it’s not a signal for you to touch me. Far too many co-workers, creepy uncles, etc. find this ok!

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I found a technique that's been effective in the workplace: I tell the person, "Don't touch me", give them a quick second to be startled, then continue the conversation. Since I'm discussing work, they are unlikely to interrupt me to argue why they should touch me. There's always that weird inner sensation when I assert myself, but it's much better than the feelings I get if I let them continue touching me.

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#25

“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying Unsolicited d*ck pics.

“Smile!”

“Where’s my hug?”

“You’re too beautiful for all that makeup.”

Yelling anything at me from across the street.

Telling me I’m perfect during our first conversation - back off dude, you don’t know me.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once a dude sent me a pic where he was wearing a bra. I was so shocked, that I forgot to block him...in a minute he sent me the d*ck pic too. In that second I blocked him, but why do they do that. Nobody you dont know intimately is interested in such pictures.

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“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying Catcalling. Like, WTF. In what world is someone gonna turn around and be appreciative instead of creeped the f**k out?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

make me wish, every teenage boys on this planet take a special education class tht teach them how to respect others esp.ly women so tht when they grow up, they will be mature and understanding man , later they will teach their kids abt gud manners

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“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying Grabbing my wrists

It is a huge ultimate f**k no

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Back home a guy would find himself in the ER for something like this. The ladies are always armed with something capable of changing a predator’s mind

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“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying When guys pick me up. I've always been really skinny, so guys think it's OK to just...lift me.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This happens a lot to me, i'm 34yo, last year a coworker in front of everybody(working in an homeless shelter). Another time i told the man (a friends accointance) to put me back on the ground or i'll punch him,told him several times, he didn't, i punched his nose so hard he bled and lost his hat, and while i was walking away he just threw me a huge footsweep by behind, i literally flew in the air and thanks i was wearing timberland boots because he could have broke my ankle. He was like 2m tall, 120kg, i'm less than 1,60m and 45kg. My friend made him apologize, apologize not accepted. Apparently he did it because i looked at him in the eyes while saying "hello", meaning for him that i was interested. YEAH! Now i look people in the a$$ while saying "hello", to avoid any misunderstanding. WTF is wrong with people?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd do that. If your were unconscious and looked like you needed help, medical help. Otherwise, I don't really get how one can think that this is ok. Unless you know each other and know what is ok, and usually, then more is ok than with strangers, but then, again, what your friends are allowed to do with you, ... is something else than some stranger or so.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

you shouldn't move an unconscious person unless the site is dangerous. and if the site is dangerous, lifting them out exposes you to more danger. Can't save anybody if you're dead, too.

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Jenn Ryan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a guy pick me up in the cafeteria in high school and try to bench press me in front of everyone. Almost 30 years later and it still pisses me off.

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Mer☕️🧭☕️
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Great time to practice projectile vomiting and/or farting; also a great time to ram your heels into his kneecaps.

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Abbella DiNoto
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Idiots think they are showing you how strong they are, showing their fitness.. they all think we care.

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Emily Larsen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

God my close friend likes to just randomly pick me up. he once grabbed me from around the bottom of my ass and picked me up. I told him not to do that because I have ptsd from my band teacher slapping my ass and my friend still does it. he also grabs my arms alot and says I have twigs for arms. just btw he has a girlfriend of almost 6 months and he still does this to me. no wonder she's insecure whenever he tells her he's gonna hang out with me

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ZenChickChristine
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a coworker who did that twice. First time I gave him a gentle “Ok, that’s funny but don’t do it again.” Second time I was much more terse in my response but still subdued because I didn’t want to deal with HR. On his third attempt I threw him and just kept walking. Whole team saw and was shocked as hell. I never suffered any repercussions and he left all the women on the team alone after that. For some perspective, I’m 5’4” and was about 115lbs at the time. He was 6’2” and about 270lbs. I used his own momentum against him. He didn’t know I competed in martial arts.

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SuzyG
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have lifted male friends off the ground, and they have no problem telling me it's emasculating to them. What's good for the goose, mother f***er.

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Mickey Sylvestre
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Someone did that to my Mother when I was a kid. I didn't like that then and I certainly don't approve of that s**t now,.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ah, same.....5'0 one here. My favorite trick if they hug from behind is to slam my ass into their gut, works every time.

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Lia Marie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

since i'm 4'11 i get it a lot. It's seriously annoying! Make as many short person jokes you want, I've heard em all, bu do NOT pick me up as if i'm your kid

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

omg i’m not even underweight just normal and wayyyyy too many guys have done this. I HATE IT! i try to get down but most of the time they’re stronger than me and taller

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Cory Tollman
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This also happens quite a bit to smaller dudes when they are in junior high and high school. I think it mostly goes away after that but I could be wrong.

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Chloe *Leah* Pheonix
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I only let my close friends pick me up. And they always ask first which I very appreciate.

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Candia Lee
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

2nd date we went to a roller rink. Neither of us had been on skates in years, both wobbly. Some other fella skated backwards in front of me, dragging me around the rink while I got my balance, then I took off a few rounds. My date never did get his rink legs back, was so surprised that I left with him that he lifted me one armed over his head. Still thrilled.

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Dillon Hughes
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes who does that ellje! I do it with kids... what is she saying she is at a store and random guy just picked her up?!

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Using my name on my credit card receipt at the gas station to look me up online and try to add me on various social media platforms shudder

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“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying “Why aren’t you married?” Asked randomly. I’m 34. My fiancé passed

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, tell them that your fiancé died and ask them if they like this answer and if they think it's a cool conversation topic.

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#31

Block an exit while trying to start a conversation. Just.don't do it EVER.

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I had a friend who for a while would always respond to my comments re: being a woman and sexually harassed or ogled at with the story of how he was such a good guy he saved a girl from being raped at a frat party.

I'm not sure if the exact scenario is common but when guys hear women talking about sexual harassment or assault and launch into the reasons why they're not that guy...it just makes me even more uncomfortable because someone who isn't that guy shouldn't have to say it every time you talk about sexual harassment.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A lot of men assume they will be construed as “that guy” unless they say otherwise. Not speaking for myself here, and I’m not claiming that it’s a correct assumption.

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#33

“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying Since I got pregnant I've had more male friends think it's acceptable to call me a 'MILF,' especially at inappropriate times...like in front of my mom

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K Witmer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was pregnant I got hit on so much. I thought for sure men would leave me alone. Nope it brought out a whole different kind of aggressive creepiness

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#34

“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying Saying anything along the lines of 'you’re perfect' within minutes of meeting.

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When you get messages like "hi hun 💕😘" in a business setting. I draw for a living and regularly get guys messaging me under the guise that they want to commission something, when it's really just an excuse to get closer to me.

This will sound blunt and b*tchy, but I don't want you. I want your money. You commissioning, or not? Alright stop wasting my time, thank you!

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#36

Constantly pushing for a date after saying we aren’t interested. Like a high school boy having a crush and the girl saying “I just like you as a friend...” and they keep pushing like she’ll fall in love. Sorry that’s just a fairytale. Please stop after we say we don’t like you. No hard feelings! We just don’t want to date you.

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Marianne
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A part of this problem is the movie industry giving men a false impression of how this works.

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#37

Don't ask me for nudes within like...a week of meeting me and going on one date. The level of trust I'd have to have in order to share photos like that is phenomenal! And I may never ever want to anyway.

How does a guy think it's just a casual thing to ask of me? It might be a turn on for you but it's highly risky and it makes me feel like I'm just there as a bit of titillation on his phone and not a real human being who he sees as equal and respected.

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JennyLaRue
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or just don't ask for nudes full stop. You don't know where they'll end up once they've been sent

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#38

“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying When I am walking down the sidewalk, follow me slowly in a car while trying to talk to me. I f**king hate this.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Take out your phone, dial 911 (or the appropriate number for emergency services in your area), put it on speakerphone, and have a loud and clear conversation with the authorities while showing the face of the phone to the predator. No one has ever been punished for being afraid.

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“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying Messaging me late at night to tell me to 'go to bed.'

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Samantha Lomb
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I started blocking people who think they can infantilize me. And I know they think it's just being caring but it is super controlling and treating me as less than an equal

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“What Do Men Do That They Think Is Okay But Is Actually Creepy?”: 40 Women Respond And The Answers Are Worrying Asking, 'Where's my hug?'

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Stephen Nichols
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I only hug two women that aren't my family. My best friend and a woman in my office whose Christmas jumper says "it's Christmas, give me a hug" and if it's written on a Christmas jumper, it's the law and I have to!

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