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In a sense, online dating is like gambling — only very few hit the jackpot. The chances of meeting someone kind, generous, gentle, and compassionate are, well, extremely low. Yet, thousands of lonely souls still spend hours looking at their screens, being lured into believing their one true love is just a swipe away.

But as so many of us have learned from personal experience, this whole dating game is not for the faint of heart. It’s full of uncomfortable situations, tasteless jokes, and pretentious people who believe they somehow have a right to treat others like pawns in their little games. And there are plenty of women who had the "pleasure" of encountering such guys and decided to call them out.

Enter Bye Felipe, an Instagram account that posts screenshots submitted by women who seem to be on a mission to expose the most vulgar and downright creepy online daters out there. We handpicked some of the most surprising posts we found on the account, so continue scrolling and be sure to tell us what you think about them in the comments!

Bye Felipe (the name is a play on the Bye Felicia meme, often used as a dismissive farewell) was created in 2014 by author, speaker, and podcast host Alexandra Tweten. It started as a means to allow women to share the most offensive messages they have received via dating sites and apps and hold men accountable for online harassment.

When Tweten started posting screenshots of her online dating misfortunes, her email flooded with submissions from others with similar experiences. "I realized these hostile messages were a trend that women see online," she told The Huffington Post. "That started a conversation about creating an Instagram to keep all of these insane messages so we could discuss them. All women get some degree of creepy or weird messages when they sign up for online dating sites."

"It's a standard reaction that I've now seen over and over again with the submissions," she noted. "Guy hits on girl, girl doesn't respond, guy lashes out with insulting message. It really shows the entitlement these guys feel, and I think it shows our cultural misogyny problem."

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To better understand the world of online romance, we reached out to Abi Blears, a UK-based dating coach and matchmaker. "Apps can be a brilliant addition to meeting people in real life and enable us to connect with people we might not cross paths with otherwise. However, there are downsides to them," she told Bored Panda.

Blears explained that apps give us a false perception of having a great deal of choice and might make us feel like people are easier to replace. "They also inadvertently make us focus on things that might not be that important," she added.

"They encourage us to make snap decisions about people based on very little information. Another downside to an app is that you could fall victim to a catfish (someone who is pretending to be someone they are not), in the real world it’s harder to be misled."

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Trolling Fuckboys. 🌮🌮🌮🌮 🙌 Genius. #byefelipe

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Caro Caro
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He probably thinks women are part unicorn, we fart rose petals and s**t glitter.

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Kesam
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hahaha, awesome! 😂 (Not sure s**tting glitter would be a good thing though. Stuff gets EVERYWHERE! 😄)

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Yumiko
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

should we hide our obligatory body functions in front of men (hiding you have period hiding you have hair) then I'd rather live amonst women

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Nadine G
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

His mind: "Ewwwwwwwww my sex doll does human stuff" *flails like a 14 year old who just touched gross*

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Menstruation is a healthy, natural, and needed process. It needs to be normalized. Also, if this fellow is so grossed out by female anatomy, which is beautiful and uniquely shaped for every woman, maybe he shouldn't be seeking a female partner. Perhaps his partner should remain forever and always Rosy Palm and her five sisters.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also he should be (in general) more mature than my response. I always imitate Mario and say in a racist accent it's a spaghetti sauce. Makes em laugh and at ease. However still not the best response heh.

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Id row
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this guy would be happiest with a blow up doll.

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Micah
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The best part is when she listed 4 medical terms. This man is afraid of biology.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“Guys don’t want to hear about that stuff. It’s gross”. Says the guy who has probably sent unsolicited d**k pics—-taken with a zoom lens so they could actually see it, of course—-to women he doesn’t know, without the least thought whether they wanted to see “stuff like that. It’s gross”.

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ADDee
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She has a big arsenal of words and intelligence. He has no chance. Go girl!

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Myxomatosis
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I fart. PROUDLY. My man (long term, no marriage) is jealous. But I am NOT GOING TO SIT ALL CRAMPED IN PAIN BECAUSE... "ew, girls don't fart." You're right. They don't. WOMEN DO. We also defecate and micturate. Get over it. P.S. Squatty Potty is your best friend.

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Shane S
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don’t respond at all to someone who behaves insecurely enough to send those first few messages.

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Jody Whitmarsh
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I farted at work once and my foreman is still proud of me.. especially because I claimed it

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I pity those who get triggered that easily. In todays world, you need to have somewhat of a thick skin

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Guys seem fascinated by farts and Poop when they're with other guys.

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LynzCatastrophe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So they can talk about gross stuff with their guy friends but it's gross if it comes from a woman?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

sound like my ex - he would get so butt hurt if i didnt respond to him in 2 hours and i was super busy most of the time

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, there are some guys that want to hear about a girl peeing.

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Just because something is a "normal bodily function" doesn't mean that I want to talk about it. It's perfectly normal to defecate and throw up, but that doesn't make those things fun topics of conversation. If you have a medical problem, it may be necessary to talk about it, but that still doesn't make it a pleasant topic of conversation.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She told him she was peeing after he called her a b***h for no reason, and this is what you choose to focus on??

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She is? SHE IS?! What, you dont like knowing women s**t, piss, we also ooze blood once a month and that blood gets clotted and gross too. Oh and our vaginas self clean, so we often just pour out discharge loaded with nasty out vaginas have deemed unworthy of our presence. Is that what bothers you? Grow up. Humans include both men and women who's bodies do this s**t.

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*does Not Compute* 🤷🏻‍♂️

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh dear. And there we have it, that very important word and he doesn't know what it means.

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When asked why so many women have online dating horror stories to share, Blears believes this is not necessarily specific to dating apps. "Everyone who has dated a lot has likely had a bad experience somewhere along the way or dated someone who behaves less than ideal. People tend to share negative experiences and remember negative experiences more readily than positive ones," she said and added that for every negative online dating story out there, there’s likely a positive one.

Yet, matching with someone on an app doesn’t have the same level of accountability compared to meeting them in real life through friends or in the workplace. "You’re more likely to be respectful of someone if you know it could impact your peer relationships or life in the future. If you meet someone on an app, there’s less of a chance that you’ll run into them in the future or that your peers will hear about any nefarious behavior," she said.

While toxic masculinity might be one of the main reasons men believe they have a right to act this way, Blears said it’s important to not encourage the narrative that men shouldn’t express their emotions. Women can be abusive too and men are less likely to report abuse because it’s deemed by some to be emasculating, she added. "That said, it’s not even nearly on the same scale and toxic masculinity does need to be explored and dealt with."

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When it comes to online harassment, each situation is different. However, if someone is being directly abusive, "the best thing to do is to remove yourself from the interaction. If you’re on an app, block and report the person. It’s important to know your own boundaries and uphold them."

"For example, you might have a zero-tolerance for being sworn at and the person you’re talking to swears at you. If you think they are generally reasonable, the approach would be to express how it makes you feel when they do that, express what you want in the future, and express the consequences if they repeat to offend. Then stick to your word."

She continued: "It’s also important not to get too wrapped up with people who are only nice from time to time, if someone isn’t consistently nice then they aren’t nice and it’s not your role to change them, as tempting as that might be."

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As you scroll through this post, you might feel discouraged to dive back into the deep waters of the dating pool. If that’s the case, Blears has some suggestions for you. If having nightmarish experiences is a reoccurring theme, she advised considering how you’re using the apps, finding out if there are any common issues, and seeing how you can avoid repeating them.

“If it’s a one-off experience, it’s important to remember that whilst there are bad people online, there are also many good people out there so don’t let one negative experience tarnish your entire outlook. Pace your relationships slowly moving forward so that you do not become overly invested in someone very quickly. In time, people reveal their true colors so staying grounded in reality and not rushing things is key."

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Blears told Bored Panda that the most important factor with online dating is not only your physical safety but your emotional safety too. "You want to only continue conversing with people who are consistent in their behavior and who make you feel either good or neutral."

"It might come as a surprise but someone who is overly keen very early on might not be as safe an option as a guy who is more neutral and takes time to reveal his feelings. There’s a balance to be struck," the dating coach added.

"If you aren’t sure about taking it from online to offline, it’s perhaps wise to suggest a phone call or a video date before meeting up. If you’re generally worried about safety, you can suggest a daytime date somewhere public and be sure to inform a friend of your whereabouts. No matter how tempting, I would not recommend traveling in someone’s car when on a first date, going to their home or bringing them to yours," Blears concluded.

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I Don’t Believe You.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

plastic ones seem to take it well, not sure about real women

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#28

What Does It Mean???

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

you mean your tits dont have little arseholes where farts come out of?

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Hope You All Played April Fools On Some Idiots Today. #byefelipe

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Horny, in a hotel, desperately looking for matches... You should reconsider your life, that's so low level.

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#35

Men Are Canceled. 😂 (Issa Joke.) Credit: @erinmcnaughton05

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Hey Chin, There's A Tinder Dude Hollering At You. Want To Go To His Place? Chin: Nope. #byefelipe

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

bruh.why do you just automatically go into insult mode when you are rejected???

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🚨incel Meltdown Level 10!! 🚨

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How's that silly? I dont want to give my address to a random stranger from the internet I don't know. They could be gangster, rapist, murderer. All of the above, could be an annoying begger...

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#46

Can We Fund An Anthropological Study To Find Out Why Men Are So Fucking Weird?!?!?!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"You're really not attractive enough to say no to me" Bruhz, that's what insurrectionists would've said, bro!

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#47

At Least He’s Aware?

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#49

When The Guy You’ve Been Chatting With For One Day Shows His Ass But You Thought He Had Potential

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

definitly blame everyone but themselves "it's the audition" 😠

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#50

Merry Christmas 🎄🎁

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