In a sense, online dating is like gambling — only very few hit the jackpot. The chances of meeting someone kind, generous, gentle, and compassionate are, well, extremely low. Yet, thousands of lonely souls still spend hours looking at their screens, being lured into believing their one true love is just a swipe away.

But as so many of us have learned from personal experience, this whole dating game is not for the faint of heart. It’s full of uncomfortable situations, tasteless jokes, and pretentious people who believe they somehow have a right to treat others like pawns in their little games. And there are plenty of women who had the "pleasure" of encountering such guys and decided to call them out.

Enter Bye Felipe, an Instagram account that posts screenshots submitted by women who seem to be on a mission to expose the most vulgar and downright creepy online daters out there. We handpicked some of the most surprising posts we found on the account, so continue scrolling and be sure to tell us what you think about them in the comments!

#1

Who Did This? 👏👏👏
found Via @irlrosie

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DUN DUN (she/her)
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2 months ago

She ended him peacefully.

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#2

I Don’t Have A Problem With Shorter Men, But I Don’t Think I Can Date Anyone Smaller Than My Dog. 📏

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DUN DUN (she/her)
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2 months ago

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH I CAN'T BREATHE ohhhh-reac...a977e8.gif ohhhh-reaction-6253d6da977e8.gif

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Bye Felipe (the name is a play on the Bye Felicia meme, often used as a dismissive farewell) was created in 2014 by author, speaker, and podcast host Alexandra Tweten. It started as a means to allow women to share the most offensive messages they have received via dating sites and apps and hold men accountable for online harassment.

When Tweten started posting screenshots of her online dating misfortunes, her email flooded with submissions from others with similar experiences. "I realized these hostile messages were a trend that women see online," she told The Huffington Post. "That started a conversation about creating an Instagram to keep all of these insane messages so we could discuss them. All women get some degree of creepy or weird messages when they sign up for online dating sites."

"It's a standard reaction that I've now seen over and over again with the submissions," she noted. "Guy hits on girl, girl doesn't respond, guy lashes out with insulting message. It really shows the entitlement these guys feel, and I think it shows our cultural misogyny problem."

#3

"He Then Told Me That Nobody Wants To Rape Me And Unmatched Me" Haha So Funny! Lol 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

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Francisco Manuel Teruel Gutiérrez
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2 months ago

What a nice passive-agressive statement!

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#4

🌀it Is A Dimension As Vast As The Internet And As Timeless As Misogyny. It Is The Middle Ground Between Reality And Fantasy, Between Sex And Porn, And It Lies Between The Pit Of Man's Idiocy, And The Summit Of His Predictability. This Is The Dimension Of Complete And Utter Nonsense. It Is An Area Which We Call... The Online Dating Zone.🌀

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River Webb
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2 months ago

if only

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#5

It’s A No From Me.

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Francis
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2 months ago

i'm gonna steal her reponse :D

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To better understand the world of online romance, we reached out to Abi Blears, a UK-based dating coach and matchmaker. "Apps can be a brilliant addition to meeting people in real life and enable us to connect with people we might not cross paths with otherwise. However, there are downsides to them," she told Bored Panda.

Blears explained that apps give us a false perception of having a great deal of choice and might make us feel like people are easier to replace. "They also inadvertently make us focus on things that might not be that important," she added.

"They encourage us to make snap decisions about people based on very little information. Another downside to an app is that you could fall victim to a catfish (someone who is pretending to be someone they are not), in the real world it’s harder to be misled."

#6

Trolling Fuckboys. 🌮🌮🌮🌮 🙌 Genius. #byefelipe

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Caro Caro
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2 months ago

He probably thinks women are part unicorn, we fart rose petals and s**t glitter.

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#7

☠️⚰️ #byefelipe

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Nash Nopper
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2 months ago

BOOM!

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#8

*does Not Compute* 🤷🏻‍♂️

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Caro Caro
Community Member
2 months ago

Oh dear. And there we have it, that very important word and he doesn't know what it means.

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When asked why so many women have online dating horror stories to share, Blears believes this is not necessarily specific to dating apps. "Everyone who has dated a lot has likely had a bad experience somewhere along the way or dated someone who behaves less than ideal. People tend to share negative experiences and remember negative experiences more readily than positive ones," she said and added that for every negative online dating story out there, there’s likely a positive one.

Yet, matching with someone on an app doesn’t have the same level of accountability compared to meeting them in real life through friends or in the workplace. "You’re more likely to be respectful of someone if you know it could impact your peer relationships or life in the future. If you meet someone on an app, there’s less of a chance that you’ll run into them in the future or that your peers will hear about any nefarious behavior," she said.

#9

Bye. I'm Dead. ⚰😂😂😂😂😂😂

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Bacony Cakes
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2 months ago

Ice him! *https://youtu.be/5j491fJURRo?t=170*

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#10

Normally I'd Delete This Kind Of Shit, But Nah. #byefelipe

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Legen ( wait for it ) dary
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2 months ago

Are this kids not having a mother ? Sisters ? Nothing in their brain?

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#11

🤷‍♀️ Should I Weigh Them? ⚖️

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DUN DUN (she/her)
Community Member
2 months ago

If he knew that he wouldn't be spewing s**t here

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While toxic masculinity might be one of the main reasons men believe they have a right to act this way, Blears said it’s important to not encourage the narrative that men shouldn’t express their emotions. Women can be abusive too and men are less likely to report abuse because it’s deemed by some to be emasculating, she added. "That said, it’s not even nearly on the same scale and toxic masculinity does need to be explored and dealt with."

#12

Why Are They So Boring? 😴

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DUN DUN (she/her)
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2 months ago

What a disgusting piece of cow dung

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#13

😬😬😬 He Said The Quiet Part Out Loud

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Bacony Cakes
Community Member
2 months ago

The dead silence makes this better.

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#14

I Posted This Four Years Ago, But It’s Still So Good.

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DUN DUN (she/her)
Community Member
2 months ago

Yeah, you see, that was the actual intention, Thank God

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When it comes to online harassment, each situation is different. However, if someone is being directly abusive, "the best thing to do is to remove yourself from the interaction. If you’re on an app, block and report the person. It’s important to know your own boundaries and uphold them."

"For example, you might have a zero-tolerance for being sworn at and the person you’re talking to swears at you. If you think they are generally reasonable, the approach would be to express how it makes you feel when they do that, express what you want in the future, and express the consequences if they repeat to offend. Then stick to your word."

She continued: "It’s also important not to get too wrapped up with people who are only nice from time to time, if someone isn’t consistently nice then they aren’t nice and it’s not your role to change them, as tempting as that might be."

#15

Blackmail Is So Boring 🙄 Thank You, Next.

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Francisco Manuel Teruel Gutiérrez
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2 months ago

Leak all the data of this guy together with this screenshot.

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#16

Christian Is Trash. 🗑 #byefelipe

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Yumiko
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2 months ago

psycho is what he calls women who reject him

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#17

😂😂😂

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XSpooky_Mint
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2 months ago

Bruh, he sounds like that weird dude from Silence Of The Lambs

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As you scroll through this post, you might feel discouraged to dive back into the deep waters of the dating pool. If that’s the case, Blears has some suggestions for you. If having nightmarish experiences is a reoccurring theme, she advised considering how you’re using the apps, finding out if there are any common issues, and seeing how you can avoid repeating them.

“If it’s a one-off experience, it’s important to remember that whilst there are bad people online, there are also many good people out there so don’t let one negative experience tarnish your entire outlook. Pace your relationships slowly moving forward so that you do not become overly invested in someone very quickly. In time, people reveal their true colors so staying grounded in reality and not rushing things is key."

#18

The New Episode Of The Bye Felipe Podcast Is Live Featuring The Lovely And Hilarious @losannelise. Link In The Bio. ✨✨✨

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Roxy Eastland
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2 months ago

That's what I'm talking about

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#19

🍕? 🍭? 🤷‍♀️ Thanks @emmajwylie

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Susie Elle
Community Member
2 months ago

"I'd rather s**t in my hands and clap" I NEED THIS ON A BANNER

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#20

Lol @meredithactually

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Grumble O'Pug
Community Member
2 months ago

Aloe in Special Clown Packaging!

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Blears told Bored Panda that the most important factor with online dating is not only your physical safety but your emotional safety too. "You want to only continue conversing with people who are consistent in their behavior and who make you feel either good or neutral."

"It might come as a surprise but someone who is overly keen very early on might not be as safe an option as a guy who is more neutral and takes time to reveal his feelings. There’s a balance to be struck," the dating coach added.

#21

💧💧💧💧💧🚿 Water For That Burn

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Maria O'Keeffe
Community Member
2 months ago

🎤 drop

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#22

@rosieeeeeyuh Took Me On Another Wild Ride With This Expert Level Trolling 😂

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troufaki13
Community Member
2 months ago

But.. but he said "please" *smh*

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#23

Way More Excited To See Your Duck. // If You're In Minnesota, I'll Be Speaking Tomorrow At St. Cloud State University On Fighting Back Against Sexist Harassment Online. Link To Event In The Bio. ✌️

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Luther von Wolfen
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2 months ago

Many women would enjoy seeing a duck.

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"If you aren’t sure about taking it from online to offline, it’s perhaps wise to suggest a phone call or a video date before meeting up. If you’re generally worried about safety, you can suggest a daytime date somewhere public and be sure to inform a friend of your whereabouts. No matter how tempting, I would not recommend traveling in someone’s car when on a first date, going to their home or bringing them to yours," Blears concluded.

#24

🌹🌹🌹romance

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Droopsnoot
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2 months ago

I love tgis response

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#25

I Don’t Believe You.

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River Webb
Community Member
2 months ago (edited)

plastic ones seem to take it well, not sure about real women

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#26

And They Wonder Why We’re Scared Of Them

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Ember
Community Member
2 months ago

Oh...the fragile male ego

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#27

Lmao 😂 Wtf This Boy Has No Chill. Submit A Funny Conversation On The Convo App For A Chance To Get Your #byefelipe Conversation Featured Here! Download The @convo.lol App Link In Bio. #ad

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Grumble O'Pug
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2 months ago

Probably went over his head

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#28

What Does It Mean???

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River Webb
Community Member
2 months ago

you mean your tits dont have little arseholes where farts come out of?

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#29

Oh Really? 🤔 Interesting. #slidingintoyourdmslike

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Kimi Tomminello
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2 months ago

The incel is strong with this one

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#30

👋*mic Drop*
#byefelipe🎤

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olx
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2 months ago

woah opening with a slur hold on

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#31

Hope You All Played April Fools On Some Idiots Today. #byefelipe

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Francisco Manuel Teruel Gutiérrez
Community Member
2 months ago

Horny, in a hotel, desperately looking for matches... You should reconsider your life, that's so low level.

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#32

Things We Deal With. 🙃🙄 #byefelipe

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Droopsnoot
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2 months ago

That pig profile pic is appropriate

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#33

What A Charmer!

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Ember
Community Member
2 months ago

Why? Just why?

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#34

…what?! That’s Where You Go Next?

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Grumble O'Pug
Community Member
2 months ago

What is it with these low effort guys?

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#35

Men Are Canceled. 😂 (Issa Joke.) Credit: @erinmcnaughton05

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abby smink
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2 months ago

It's 2022 and the no one being into guys thing has only intensified.

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#36

*not Sponsored By Texas Roadhouse.
thanks @muh_ran_dizzle 💖

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Chinmayee Kalghatgi
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2 months ago

At least he gave up

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#37

🎯 Nailed It

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Caro Caro
Community Member
2 months ago

Best response.

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#38

When You're Completely Over Tinder... 😆

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Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa)
Community Member
2 months ago

Again, does this s**t EVER work? Why do guys keep trying it? It's so gross.

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#39

This 👏 Is How 👏 You Shut👏 It Down. 😂#byefelipe

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Grumble O'Pug
Community Member
2 months ago

Repeated stab wounds, yet he comes back for more.

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#40

Hey Chin, There's A Tinder Dude Hollering At You. Want To Go To His Place? Chin: Nope. #byefelipe

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mystique
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2 months ago

bruh.why do you just automatically go into insult mode when you are rejected???

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#41

It’s Worth A Shot 🤷‍♀️

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Ember
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2 months ago

😂😂😂

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#42

*~archaic Beliefs~* Lolololol 😂 #byefelipe

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Yumiko
Community Member
2 months ago

I wish I had this confidance

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#43

I’m Going To Need All Of The Botox To Get My Face To Stop Cringing. 😖😫 It’s Like Looking At The Sun. Plz Help. 😭 #byefelipe #cringe

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Luther von Wolfen
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2 months ago

Pa.......................thetic.

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#44

Useful Tactic For Trolling Fuckboys. 💡 #byefelipe

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troufaki13
Community Member
2 months ago

hahahah good one!

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#45

🚨incel Meltdown Level 10!! 🚨

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Mayo
Community Member
2 months ago (edited)

How's that silly? I dont want to give my address to a random stranger from the internet I don't know. They could be gangster, rapist, murderer. All of the above, could be an annoying begger...

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#46

Can We Fund An Anthropological Study To Find Out Why Men Are So Fucking Weird?!?!?!

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Mayo
Community Member
2 months ago

"You're really not attractive enough to say no to me" Bruhz, that's what insurrectionists would've said, bro!

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#47

At Least He’s Aware?

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Francisco Manuel Teruel Gutiérrez
Community Member
2 months ago

Oh, this fragile male ego... Mine must be incredibly strong, since I never called names when drunk.

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#48

He Subsequently Posted Her Number On Reddit. Unfortunately, I Can’t Identify Him Here Because It Goes Against Ig Policy And I’m Not Trying To Get Banned.
ty @toastytoots

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Tigerpacingthecage
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2 months ago

Taking the high road. Good for her!

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#49

When The Guy You’ve Been Chatting With For One Day Shows His Ass But You Thought He Had Potential

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Yumiko
Community Member
2 months ago

definitly blame everyone but themselves "it's the audition" 😠

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#50

Merry Christmas 🎄🎁

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Caro Caro
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2 months ago

Amen.

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