Someone Asks “What Are Some Immediate Red Flags In Women That Men Should Look Out For?”, And 30 Women Share Honest Answers
It's important to keep an open mind when you start dating someone. Sure, you might find it odd that they prefer walking only on your left or getting out of bed after the 12th alarm, but these things aren't exactly deal breakers.
Real dating warning signals tend to be more complex than habits you could pass off as behavioral quirks. So, to get a better understanding of where people draw the line, Redditor YummyYmir asked all the females on the platform what they believe to be immediate red flags in women that men should look out for. From not having girlfriends to emotional blackmail, we thought you'd also be interested in hearing the answers, so we put together the most popular ones into a list.
Continue scrolling to check it out and if you want to see men exploring the same topic, fire up our earlier publication here.
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Women who are aggressive and slap or hit others then say "you can't hit a woman."
You can't hit anyone Stacy.
A woman who loves the saying, "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best," or something like that. I understand the premise, that a relationship needs to be handle all the up's and down's. However, I find that woman who really love this saying tend to be rather mean, abusive, belittling, etc. at their 'worst'. No one deserves that.
when you are at your worst, you are still responsible for any hurt or damage, physical or emotional, your worst causes.
Emotional blackmail. Threatening to harm self each time anything doesn’t go her way. Threatening to tell the whole world something that’s private between the two of you whenever anything goes wrong.
Not necessarily immediate, but having size or $$ requirements for the wedding ring is usually a bad sign.
Princess mentality.
Trust me dealing with that is not worth it.
“I get whatever I want”
Ew
Same as guys. If all the ex boyfriends or husbands are crazy and she says she hates drama, she is crazy and starts drama.
Just look at who is the constant in the equation, and you’ll have your answer.
"You don't have to use a condom" Isn't always a trap. But if it's early in the relationship, it should be troublesome.
Hearing "You don't have to use a condom" is a sure sign that you definitely SHOULD use one!
Women (or men) who put people through s**t just to see if they pass the test. My friend used to create problems just to ‘test’ other people. Romantic relationships as well as friendships. She’d only admit it was a test afterwards when you inevitability failed and realized she was lying.
For men and for women, rigid gender roles. Someone who sees you more as a gender than as a person brings a whole host of problems with that mindset.
I look forward to fighting with my future partner about which of us changes the oil in the car because we both want to do it.
Pretending to act dumb because she thinks it’s cute.
Women who go from relationship to relationship without time to be single are usually trouble. Same goes for women who change their identity with each relationship. It doesn’t mean they’re bad people, but they clearly have issues to work through, if their self-esteem is validated through male attention.
Expecting you to read their mind!
I'm bi and have dated a few women seriously.
I unfortunately seemed to have a type- charismatic and very social women who were also passive aggressive. They all expected me to just know when and why they were mad at me, as they would become cool and distant with me, they'd sometimes stop returning calls for periods of time, and their facial expression would appear angry. BUT, when I asked what was wrong,, repeatedly, they would only say " nothings wrong". They'd make me beg and plead to find out what was wrong. It was infuriating.
The last womani seriously dated decided she was just going to not take my calla suddenly for a number of days. I just got fed up and never called her again/ ended things that way. She tried to call me eventually but I'd just screen her calls and let them go to voice-mail. I was so done with the games
All women are NOT like this. But I definitely had to rethink what sort of ladies I was dating.
Anyone, man or woman, who expects everyone around them—-and most especially their SO—-to be so tuned into them they can read their mind and “just know” what they want or what they’re thinking all the damn time, is only setting themselves up for a frustrating and disappointing life. People have their own lives and concerns, and aren’t tuning into you and your whiny b******t 24/7/365. Once in a great while other people might correctly guess, but don’t count on that as the birth of their mind reading abilities when it comes to you. So, open your goddamned mouth and communicate what you want, what you feel, what you need. As long as you don’t become demanding, the rest of us, well most of the rest of us at least, will be more than happy to accommodate you. Within reason, that is. Just don’t push it too far and start taking advantage or expecting it all the time, or we’ll stop it in a f*****g instant and leave.
A woman who wants to move in right away. Who discourages you from seeing your friends and who slowly stops you from doing what you want.
It’s a MF trap.
Watched it happen to a friend of mine. It was heartbreaking
If she always wants to be around you and gets irrationally angry with you when you want to leave for a bit..
Red flag..
“If you really loved me, you’d know.”
When they put other women down and hang out with men all the time, to be like “one of the boys”. There’s som deep misogyny going on and most of the time that girl is VERY insecure. Trust me, I was that girl.
Anyone who tells other people about your private conversations. I mean, it's one thing if you tell a good joke and they want to pass it on, but you should be able to confide in them about serious topics without fear they'll run off and tell someone else. This goes for friendships, too.
I’m 61. There are secrets people told me back in grade school that I have yet to divulge—-and, no, I’m not going to here and now—-even though they stopped mattering decades ago.
Expecting the man to "entertain" her on a date and arrange all logistics and events. Note: it is not a bad thing if a guy wants to surprise his date with something fun, or do something thoughtful, or plan something special. The problem is when the woman does constantly expects her boyfriend to arrange everything, like he's a concierge at a hotel, especially if she does not reciprocate. Worst is when the woman provides no input about what she'd like to do and then sulks when the man does not use ESP to divine her wishes.
Flip side: when your boyfriend asks you what you want to do, then shoots down everything you suggest. Why did they even ask? This is the most common reason women leave the plans up to men. So we don't have to listen to you whining and crying about what we planned for you.
Not having any girlfriends because “I don’t get along with women.”
I blame this on movies and tv. There's this sense that being a tomboy is somehow better or more 'cool' than being girly. The main characters are always cool and tomboyish. The quirky best friend is always the girlier one and the comedy relief. If she's girly, it's in a way like she wears a dress with sneakers or boots and she doesn't like makeup-she's naturally beautiful (even though she's wearing 2 pounds of makeup), and "doesn't care about things other girls care about". It's so damaging.
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I see what this is saying but for a huge amount of time I had no female friends because every girl I met was extremely "girly" (only way I can explain it). I don't want to talk extensively about flowered dress patterns, thank you.
You’re not the only “tomboy.” It’s 2022. Most of my female friends are into metal music and lifting weights. And why do your friends have to have your exact interests. That’s a great way to create a superficial echo chamber
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You never know what can be behind this, so why judge so quicky and superficially?
Because stating you don’t get along with 3 billion people based specifically on their gender is absolute nonsense, coupled with deeply ingrained internalized misogyny.
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There are SOME girls who are pushed out by many women. If you're a bit tomboyish, for example, or opinionated - which for a women simply means having an opinion. Given how school/college/workplace politics work I can see how someone could say this and NOT be a 'red flag'
I can see how some can see this as a red flag. But just because some women don't have any "girlfriends" or has any women friends, doesn't make thAt a red flag. For some women, like myself, the reason I don't get along with MOST not all women is because I don't trust them due to abuse i was put through BY a woman or have been bullied by women for most of our lives due to not being feminine/girly/woman enough by others opinions. So we tend to stay to ourselves
I only stay out of the way of dominant ones. Those you really cannot trust. The shy ones are okay. In high school I first hung out with some nasty ones and then I found the unpopular ones and fitted right in. I'm still friends with them.
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I was severely bullied by other girls so I don't trust females, sorry. I can be nice and polite around other women but I am always a bit vigilant. I also have hobbies that many females find extremely boring and yes - they will tell you that without asking. I now have a female friend who has had similar experiences and she was a first true friend I've found as an adult.
The amount of comments under here being like “it’s not a red flag it’s me and I’m not like other girls.” If there this many comments under here like that, yes, you are like other women and can find women to get along with. You’re choosing to write them off before you know them out of insecurity
I've tried, but I don't know how to intentionally have a good conversation with other women. Part of it is just that I don't have a lot of similar life experiences and part of it is that I find it hard to read facial expressions, so I don't know how someone feels unless they tell me. I've come away from talking to other women thinking "that was good", only for them to turn down my invitations to go see a movie or come out to karaoke night. I don't know how to make a good first impression on guys either, but they tend to be a little more willing to hang out, and give me a second shot, and at least if we see a movie together or hang out at a karaoke bar, then we have something to talk about. Women generally want to get to know me before they spend time with me; guys are more comfortable hanging out with strangers.
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She doesn’t get along with women because she views that as competition/the enemy instead of allies. Sad, because she will end up needing friends she can truly commiserate with, and men do NOT experience much of life the same as women do.
I avoid women in general because my mother's family (primarily female) were/are cruel to me because I didn't look like them (take after my dad), was socially awkward, and sensitive so they could make cry easily (adults and kids did this). I became as invisible as possible to avoid their attention. I'm now abnormally shy and always feel inferior to any female I meet, and don't think I'm interesting. Add in a couple of female friends sleeping with my ex. My issue isn't really other women, it's my own trauma, but I avoid making friends with women. It's one less thing to trigger my anxiety, even though I'd like to have a couple of close female friends. I get along fine with coworkers and neighbors, but I still keep them at a distance. I certainly don't view them as competition because I don't think I'm even average.
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Why is that's red flag? I would think that it depends on what women she knows. Sometimes other women in groups can be really toxic
That's not really fair. I don't have women I would consider to be girlfriends, but I have many female acquaintances. I've always had a close relationship with my sisters, so they are my girlfriends.
For me, part of it is that other women tend to be more private than men are. I'm really bad at starting a conversation, so I tend to drop in on other conversations when they mention something I'm interested in (certain films, certain books, some video games). With a group that's mostly guys, it tends to be "Yeah? Remember this part? What did you think about it?" With a group that's mostly women, it tends to be "Sorry, we weren't talking to you." Therefore, it's easier for me to strike up conversations with men, or gnc folks for that matter.
I had that when I was younger, also because my 10 year older sister didn't like to play with her 6 y o sister and rather hung out w her bf, but my brother always hung out with me, so I was used to that. In church was a really friendly girl, but we were both so shy, we simply didn't have much to say to each other. When others joined it was fun, but we always needed someone to keep the conversation going.
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Ok. I'm guessing what they mean is "I don't have a whole lot in common with most other women." I grew up with 3 brothers, was in the military serving in a division where I was the only woman for years, and my best friends growing up and in college were men, etc. When I have tried to make friends with women, I find I'm am not interested in things they want to do or talk about like shopping, getting nails done etc. And the friendships usually fizzle out pretty quickly. Yeah I get it, not all women are the same, blah blah blah. I just happen to not run across a lot of women who have the same interests and priorities I do. Btw, I am feminine and am married with 2 children (a son and a daughter who happens to be very "girly".) I don't hate women, and I don't think being a tomboy is better and being a girly girl is bad.
I don't get along with women. Most of them are shallow, judgey, catty, low self esteem, and back stabbing. Only the most honest and confident women end up as friends, because they are not threatened by my personal confidence.
I don't have friends in general, as people nowadays just toxic and being parasite to other capable human being. I ain't go for that s*** if what they're looking for just someone to cling onto. Fortunately my husband also don't have friends in general. We have quite little circle or our own. And we're happy about it. My husband and I are best friend to each other. No need someone else to be, bcs we talk and we resolve things.
In my twenties I had a group of female friends that I had known thru middle and high school...we used to go out and have fun but over the years of everyone getting married them having kids, I found I no longer had anything in common with them so we lost touch...I'm also not big on social media and they are...now I have one female friend who is also doesn't have young kids at home. We hang out when we can. I've tried a few times to get along with some of my husbands friends wives/girlfriends but again nothing in common, I'm an introvert and would rather stay home and read they all like going to clubs/bars...like we're over 40 don't you get tired of that scene?
I have this struggle with people and have most of my life. I try hard to make friends, and... 🤷 My issues are caused by my autism, which makes reading and recognizing social cues and boundaries extremely difficult for me at times, and while I've gotten better over the years, I still put people off sometimes.
You don’t get along with half the world’s population, huh? I don’t see any way that could be a problem for our relationship. Also I just bought real estate in some place called the Everglades.
I'm an introvert with ADHD and social anxiety. I don't hate women. I'm particular about who I let in. If it makes ya feel any better I don't have Male friends either. I have 2 people I keep in touch with. One BFF who lives 300+ miles from me. So yeah.....making friends not my strong suit.
I use to be like that. What I found was that I was just hanging around the wrong kind of women. Up until a couple years ago most of the women I've met have been self centered, only want to talk about themselves and their problems. Or all they talked about was men and were basic and thirsty. Now I have a few women friends who are nice, well rounded people who care about things going on in my life as much as I care about their lives. A couple of them are older (10 years older) and one of them is younger than me by a few years. I will say in the past I have had more of a genuinely good time with my male friends. And I don't think there's anything wrong with that. It's the 21st century and think men and women should be able to be genuine friends. I'm also Pan so I don't really understand why gender is so important in any human relationship.
HOLD ON!!! I am neurodivergent, and I have spent YEARS (decades, acually), trying to 'blend in' and develop what went on to become toxic, one-sided friendships with narcissistic, princess-wanna-be's
I know there are intelligent, real, flawed, authentic, genuine women out there who seek real friendships as much as I do. But over time, I just haven't met any.
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If you have female friends that means you “get along with women.” It’s not a numbers game, it’s about casting aside all women
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this is so sad it's likely due to internalized misogyny and seeing all other women as competition
You don't get along with other women because they are WAY better than men at recognising your b******t, and aren't going to waste time mucking out the Augean stables when you're spending all your effort turning that Herculean task into a Sisyphean one.
Ok this one isn't fair. Some women genuinely are not compatible with other women and therefore don't bother to try beings friends with them. Not all women are girly/catty/shopaholics.
Was bullied by more than one woman; and in times of needs only my guy-friends were there for me. So I dont have gfs - ig that is a red flag then so be it.
I've only ever had and will always only ever have guy friends, I've just never been interested in having other chick friends. Of course I'm cordial with other women if they're coworkers or friends of my friends or something but also just cordial in general but I avoid them if they try to be my friend I quickly retract myself from being around them. When girls try to be my friend it's the only time I ghost someone cause the idea of having to hangout with other women recreationally/social has always skeeved me out even as a kid. So when my husband is going to events or parties that are socially coed or just his family or friends, I go hangout with my friends and he's totally fine with it
This is literally me. I struggle with other women because they're often too girly and bitchy, plus every time I've befriended them, they always mistreated me and judged me on everything. Men are more relaxed and nerdy, which is what I love in a person. I can talk about Marvel, DC, Red Dead Redemption, Star Wars and all the other good stuff, but other women don't like that kind of stuff and would rather talk about stupid reality TV shows, like Married At First Sight, Big Brother, The Bachelor and all that pointless stuff...
I don't like women that are mean girls and still behave as they did in HS. We're adults. Stop being jealous of other women. It's sad. I never was good at those "games".
Lmao I was one of those girls. Then I realized I’m just trans haha. Edit: I have female friends now, I’ve learned that’s ok but when I was younger and wanted to be friends with the boys I didn’t understand that I was trans and took on this mentality
This is me. Ive been single for a couple years as a man in my early 30s. I don’t have social media or any dating apps, the extreme majority of women I see are talking to 80 guys on tinder, while at the same time dancing and posting duck faces on tik tok and other social media platforms. These types of girls I cannot stand to be around. I’ve pretty much given up on dating because no girl is the opposite of what I just described. I will be happily alone forever.
The opposite type is often not on Tik Tok and dating sites. Dating sites are horrible anyway. Just buy a rabbit. Give em a bag of hay and they're happy.
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Me and my husband are both hermits. I guess you could say we are well matched. 😉
There is NO bigger red flag. A woman who hates other women is screwed up from base principles. Genuine relationships get buried underneath the self-hate and the role-play.
I'm a female and I'm not b!tch friendly and neither are any of my female friends.....I guess birds of a feather.
This is not always a red flag, some women dont get along with other women they meet. For reasons such as they are attractive, smarter, weight, are loners. Some women will be nice to another woman's man and the next thing she's is being accused of flirting just because she laughed at a joke.
When they insist that a lack of personal space equals to you not paying them enough attention. Like you can like/love someone without having to spend all your hours glued to them, or hanging on to everythingthey say.
OMG yes...A healthy relationship is one where there is room for everyone to be themselves and enjoy their own likes as well as be a couple( or triple or whatever floats your boat)
When she constantly belittle every other woman around her just to show off how "special" and "different" she is. Once in a while is ok I guess, but if she's always like that then there's a problem.
Passive-aggressiveness to get her way. Like the silent treatment, guilt trips, etc. Until you're isolated or find yourself doing only things with/for her. It's like... emotional abuse and happens to men all the time but no one seems to care.
I feel like adding it's done by all genders, and it happens to all genders.
When every photo on her IG page is a selfie of some sort.
They expect you to “rescue them” from their abusive exes/untreated mental health problems/shitty childhood.
A lot of women fantasize about the perfect man who never hurts her or burdens her with his needs. And he’s going to be the amazing guy who deals with all the anxiety and paranoia and baggage she has from abusive exes.
Remember that you’re human too and you deserve to be treated like a human and not someone’s white knight
Honestly, I think a lot of women who have experienced childhood trauma/abuse and/or domestic violence are looking for a man that isn't going to keep them in the constant survival mode they live their lives in. I don't think it's a red flag per se. It's not so much that the SO needs are a burden but instead more of a desire to love and be loved without pain. I speak from personal experience.
If she thinks she can control you/ win you over through sex. I had a friend that would say; I'm going to Fu*k him so good that he will fall in love with me. She would usually say this if it was their first date.
When she gets mad at you for saying no to her. I'm not just talking about big things, if she throws a fit because you cancelled one plan, run. There are a lot of women out there that are more than ready to turn down guys but get real pissed when someone else tells them no. More trouble than its worth, and that lack of accepting no's *will* become a problem later on. One of my old high school friends was like this, she acted as if her boyfriends should always do her bidding and that they were bad people if their worlds didn't revolve around her.
Some of these serve to only strengthen the idea of gender fluidity. I understand the title of the thread, but the longer this list goes on, the more obvious these can be found in people of any gender becomes.
love bombing right after meeting for the first time
I'm a guy, but I thought that I'd add something here anyways.
The red flag is extreme sensitivity to shame and pride. These are textbook examples of clinical narcissism and believe me when I tell you that you are not prepared for the myriad ways that dating a narcissist will f**k you up.
Calls herself an empath, and says she’s more in touch with emotions than other people.
whats wrong with that? I am an empath because i had to read peoples emotions growing up in an abusive house, was the only way to stay safe and read the situation, i can tell if someone is sad or angry etc, i dont think thats a probem
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There's one good big old red flag if he's (she's) saying "oh, my ex was craaazy...". In my case I heard it once and there was no need to continue, but he goes on further "she called a police on me, imagine? then I was not allowed to see her again". Heard later that this dude who accused his ex of being crazy, was a stalker and had some anger management issues. Listen to your gut, if someone calls their ex crazy, run, because next "crazy" will be you.
I'm telling on myself here, but only because once my mom pointed it out to me, I began fixing it. It took a long time. My stepdad was an abusive alcoholic when I was little. He would get drunk, be horrible, mom would get mad, he'd be good for 2-4 weeks or so. Fast forward and I married my second husband (our 20 year anniversary was 8/3). We really didn't argue/fight. But because of my childhood, I would start fights. One day talking to my mom it was pointed out I needed the explosion to have peace. That the cycle with my dad, we always knew the explosion would come again. So the 2nd week would come and nothing. The 3rd, nothing. Then the 4th he would get drunk and do it again. Then I knew I had at minimum 2 weeks of peace. Since my husband and I didn't fight, the longer we went without the explosion I kept anticipating one. More time passes and the more on edge I became, knowing it just HAD to come soon. So we'd reach 4 weeks and I would be so tense and on edge unconsciously I would
.... start a fight to get the relief. It was a horrible thing for me to do to him, but I didn't realize what I was doing. Thankfully we talked after mom explained it to me and I apologized. We put some things in place to help and I just worked really hard to stop that behavior. I'm very grateful my husband didn't simply see it as a red flag and run. Though if I never would have learned about it, I'm guessing our marriage would have been long over by now.
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hey guys, be GRATEFUL for any of these warning signs... she is just tipping her cards to let you know what is in her hand, proceed with caution duly warned... The REAL JERK is the one who keeps the real self, her real persona, carefully hidden behind a pretty mask... after she is holding marriage papers on you, the mask comes off. Now you have a wife who thinks nothing is wrong when she threatens divorce if the princess (now the Queen) doesn't get her way about even the slightest things, and won't hesitate to turn in the marriage papers for divorce papers upon the least provocation... hurts even more when your kids are involved... some of life's lessons are hard, there are non-authentic people (a.k.a. LIARS) out there who are living a lie, some people will not show their true self until married with threats of a high-stakes divorce on the table... after they put you through all this, then the jerk proceeds to destroy your reputation, since, after all, they are perfect which makes everything that happened all your fault... Hellfire is waiting for witches like this who do this... Don't make it worse by being a non-authentic jerk yourself...
It's always great to share red flags of course, but it becomes toxic if such lists are sprinkled with over generalised misogynist BS... Please select more carefully, BP.
How funny is all the red flag women debating every number, best part of this post is reading the comment below saying its not really a problem 😝😛😛
didn't see it here, but "testing " you. sending one of her female friends to flit with you to see what you do.
"It's my way or the hi-way". They are not interested in working through the relationship problems. Take the hi-way.
Want to enjoy peace and quiet - stay single - it really is that simple.
Biggest red flag I've ever seen in a woman: was at work (cashier) and this family was in my line. Little girl asks "daddy can I get one of these suckers? Please please?" It's one of the giant swirled lolipops. Dad says yes and mom immediately says no. Cute the argument. "Oh come on. It's just the one." "No I don't want her having one" "is it cause of the sugar? Cause look, they have smaller ones right here" "no. I already said no so the answer is no." "Why can't I spoil my kid every once in a while?" "SHES NOT EVEN REALLY YOUR DAUGHTER" when I tell you the heartbreak on this man's face was worse than just about anything I've ever seen, I'm not kidding. First of all, your kid is RIGHT there. Saying that at the same time you allow her to call him daddy is extremely confusing for a child that age. It's cruel. Second of all, if he clearly loves her and takes care of her and she calls him dad, he's her f*cking dad. Biology has nothing to do with it.
Third, you're in a f*cking store, in PUBLIC! Have some f*cking decency. On the bright side, a few months later, (the family are regulars) I found out he'd taken her to court and actually won. He got custody of his daughter full time. Clearly mom wasn't a good gf OR mother. And you know he buys his daughter every. Single. Time. The come in? A big a** sucker. I think that moment had been the last straw for him.
Load More Replies... the biggest red flag for me was when on the first date the woman left the front door & front windows to the apt. open with her watching them nervously. After about the 10th alarmed glance at the open front door, I asked what was going on. She said her previous boyfriend was extremely jealous and stalked her when she had company over. Then she said that a few months before, he threw a can of gasoline with a burning rag into her apt. during the night and burned out the apt. She said the cops couldn't prove a case for arson, so they let him go. Yikes.... all this on the first date...
There's one good big old red flag if he's (she's) saying "oh, my ex was craaazy...". In my case I heard it once and there was no need to continue, but he goes on further "she called a police on me, imagine? then I was not allowed to see her again". Heard later that this dude who accused his ex of being crazy, was a stalker and had some anger management issues. Listen to your gut, if someone calls their ex crazy, run, because next "crazy" will be you.
I'm telling on myself here, but only because once my mom pointed it out to me, I began fixing it. It took a long time. My stepdad was an abusive alcoholic when I was little. He would get drunk, be horrible, mom would get mad, he'd be good for 2-4 weeks or so. Fast forward and I married my second husband (our 20 year anniversary was 8/3). We really didn't argue/fight. But because of my childhood, I would start fights. One day talking to my mom it was pointed out I needed the explosion to have peace. That the cycle with my dad, we always knew the explosion would come again. So the 2nd week would come and nothing. The 3rd, nothing. Then the 4th he would get drunk and do it again. Then I knew I had at minimum 2 weeks of peace. Since my husband and I didn't fight, the longer we went without the explosion I kept anticipating one. More time passes and the more on edge I became, knowing it just HAD to come soon. So we'd reach 4 weeks and I would be so tense and on edge unconsciously I would
.... start a fight to get the relief. It was a horrible thing for me to do to him, but I didn't realize what I was doing. Thankfully we talked after mom explained it to me and I apologized. We put some things in place to help and I just worked really hard to stop that behavior. I'm very grateful my husband didn't simply see it as a red flag and run. Though if I never would have learned about it, I'm guessing our marriage would have been long over by now.
Load More Replies... hey guys, be GRATEFUL for any of these warning signs... she is just tipping her cards to let you know what is in her hand, proceed with caution duly warned... The REAL JERK is the one who keeps the real self, her real persona, carefully hidden behind a pretty mask... after she is holding marriage papers on you, the mask comes off. Now you have a wife who thinks nothing is wrong when she threatens divorce if the princess (now the Queen) doesn't get her way about even the slightest things, and won't hesitate to turn in the marriage papers for divorce papers upon the least provocation... hurts even more when your kids are involved... some of life's lessons are hard, there are non-authentic people (a.k.a. LIARS) out there who are living a lie, some people will not show their true self until married with threats of a high-stakes divorce on the table... after they put you through all this, then the jerk proceeds to destroy your reputation, since, after all, they are perfect which makes everything that happened all your fault... Hellfire is waiting for witches like this who do this... Don't make it worse by being a non-authentic jerk yourself...
It's always great to share red flags of course, but it becomes toxic if such lists are sprinkled with over generalised misogynist BS... Please select more carefully, BP.
How funny is all the red flag women debating every number, best part of this post is reading the comment below saying its not really a problem 😝😛😛
didn't see it here, but "testing " you. sending one of her female friends to flit with you to see what you do.
"It's my way or the hi-way". They are not interested in working through the relationship problems. Take the hi-way.
Want to enjoy peace and quiet - stay single - it really is that simple.
Biggest red flag I've ever seen in a woman: was at work (cashier) and this family was in my line. Little girl asks "daddy can I get one of these suckers? Please please?" It's one of the giant swirled lolipops. Dad says yes and mom immediately says no. Cute the argument. "Oh come on. It's just the one." "No I don't want her having one" "is it cause of the sugar? Cause look, they have smaller ones right here" "no. I already said no so the answer is no." "Why can't I spoil my kid every once in a while?" "SHES NOT EVEN REALLY YOUR DAUGHTER" when I tell you the heartbreak on this man's face was worse than just about anything I've ever seen, I'm not kidding. First of all, your kid is RIGHT there. Saying that at the same time you allow her to call him daddy is extremely confusing for a child that age. It's cruel. Second of all, if he clearly loves her and takes care of her and she calls him dad, he's her f*cking dad. Biology has nothing to do with it.
Third, you're in a f*cking store, in PUBLIC! Have some f*cking decency. On the bright side, a few months later, (the family are regulars) I found out he'd taken her to court and actually won. He got custody of his daughter full time. Clearly mom wasn't a good gf OR mother. And you know he buys his daughter every. Single. Time. The come in? A big a** sucker. I think that moment had been the last straw for him.
Load More Replies... the biggest red flag for me was when on the first date the woman left the front door & front windows to the apt. open with her watching them nervously. After about the 10th alarmed glance at the open front door, I asked what was going on. She said her previous boyfriend was extremely jealous and stalked her when she had company over. Then she said that a few months before, he threw a can of gasoline with a burning rag into her apt. during the night and burned out the apt. She said the cops couldn't prove a case for arson, so they let him go. Yikes.... all this on the first date...
