Dating and relationships are difficult even on a good day. And good days are pretty rare. Unfortunately, that is the reality everyone lives in when navigating the romantic world. Especially women. But at least they have a place to vent.

The subreddit r/FemaleDatingStrategy has 175K members (or as it calls them, queens), constantly discussing their love lives, and that includes all the nonsense that arises too. Continue scrolling and check out what they have to say.

#1

Men Only Bringing The Audacity, Yet Again, To The Table!

Men Only Bringing The Audacity, Yet Again, To The Table!

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BlackestDawn
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3 months ago

Took me a sec to realize it, but good going. You have to consider yourself first.

Zophra
Community Member
3 months ago

Yep, took me awhile too... nice.

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Legen ( wait for it ) dary
Community Member
3 months ago

Look like you dropped 200 pounds. 50 on his bullshit.

Night Owl
Community Member
3 months ago

Best weight loss advice ever

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SCamp
Community Member
3 months ago

That’s actually one of the smartest posts I’ve seen in ages and I’ve seen a lot. Nice work 👍

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3 months ago

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I make more then $12,000 a month online. It’s enough to comfortably replace my old jobs income, especially considering I only work about 11 to 12 hours a week from home. I was amazed how easy it was after I tried it…GOOD LUCK.. ===))> 𝐖­𝐰­𝐰.𝐅­𝐮­𝐥­𝐰­𝐨­𝐫­𝐤.𝐂­𝐨­𝐦

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Tamra Stiffler
Community Member
3 months ago

The best kind of weight to drop - dead weight.

kathryn stretton
Community Member
3 months ago

150 pounds of misogyny dropped. Well done you! X

Sky Render
Community Member
3 months ago

Never keep someone in your life who thinks there's nothing wrong with deliberately hurting you. You can always do better.

Christy Smith
Community Member
3 months ago

Why was he even w/her if bigger ladies aren't his cup of tea? Why waste her time?!

fire bug
Community Member
3 months ago

This one cracks me up... in a good way.

denzoren
Community Member
3 months ago

Losing that 150lbs was the best decision you made. Lol

Benjamin Thor Collier V
Community Member
3 months ago

I see -and approve- what you did there...

LeilaOdinis
Community Member
3 months ago

I did that too. Never felt better. Good show.

SlartyBlartFast
Community Member
3 months ago

Healthy self-respect! Yes yes yes!

Missy Moo Moo
Community Member
3 months ago

And she looks GORGEOUS!!! Really happy too xx

Milan
Community Member
3 months ago

I see what you saying, but the truth is, she is messing with lot of disease, stroke, hart attack in very young age though.

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Pink Floydian Panda
Community Member
3 months ago (edited)

Good one! Took me a minute to figure out too, but very clever. Jerk does not deserve you. I hope you are now spending time someone who appreciates you for being beautiful inside and out and that gorgeous smile!

Eric S.
Community Member
3 months ago

Tough lesson to learn: people who criticize you are not your friends. Anybody calls you fat, ugly, stupid: get rid of them immediately. They're bad news.

𝕥𝕠𝕒𝕤𝕥
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3 months ago

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Disagree. Criticism is important. People who care about you should be challenging you and calling you out so that you can be self-aware and improve your behavior and your perspective.

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Mazer
Community Member
3 months ago (edited)

Atta grrrrrl

Andrew Bridge
Community Member
3 months ago

Did he take the colours with him?

ChinmayGhule
Community Member
3 months ago

Just realized that Boredpanda is a place with fake positivity. If you don't show fake positivity and 'goodness' you are downvoted.

Keyy
Community Member
3 months ago

good on her

Jessica Aubé
Community Member
3 months ago

❤️❤️

Beth Arriaga
Community Member
3 months ago

Yes queen.

Robert Robi Z
Community Member
3 months ago

This is the best weight (burden) loss ever.

GayBeanCake
Community Member
3 months ago

You're beautiful- he didn't deserve you <3

Lara Verne
Community Member
3 months ago

Good for you.

Toni
Community Member
3 months ago

this was tricky! good for her!!! :)

Sara
Community Member
3 months ago

Nice!

Christoph
Community Member
3 months ago

YAAAAAAAAAAS MAMA!!!!!!!!

r0cketmom
Community Member
3 months ago

Good for you! He didn't deserve you.

Theodore Theodora
Community Member
3 months ago

QUEEN!

Roxy Eastland
Community Member
3 months ago

You look so much happier and healthier in the second picture

An Co
Community Member
3 months ago

Should have done when he said whale, before he said fat.

Andy Acceber
Community Member
3 months ago

I dunno why you're getting downvoted. Your comment is basically, you should have dumped him sooner. Yup, I agree. The guy is an ass. I'm glad she dumped him.

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Enamelcamel
Community Member
3 months ago

Bwahahahaha!!!

I' Gomez & Morticia's kid
Community Member
3 months ago

You go girl👏🏼

Claire Murray
Community Member
1 month ago

Wow, dump his stupid butt cuz you are beautiful.

Katarina Leaf-Dobbs
Community Member
1 month ago

Well done <3

Hodnej Macek
Community Member
1 month ago

Good work, go on, 150 more, and you will no longer be fat.

Tommy Edison
Community Member
1 month ago

some of you people need help.. she's clearly overweight ...yall just enabling her to continue her self destruction...it wont be funny when she has heart disease or diabetes...

Lois Brown
Community Member
1 month ago

Hope you dropped the boyfriend also.

Happi doggi
Community Member
2 months ago

I can see some weight loss, but I’d need a pic of your whole body to see where the extra 100 was.

Perfectly Imperfect
Community Member
2 months ago

Baaaaaaaaahahahahaahaaaaa!!! You go, Girl!

Yeehaw MotherEffers
Community Member
3 months ago

👏

markdorlas.ml@gmail.com
Community Member
3 months ago

Haha, love it :-)

Julius
Community Member
3 months ago

she looks exactly the samr

Ashley_Queen688
Community Member
3 months ago

He had it coming

Shelli Aderman
Community Member
3 months ago

And GOOD RIDDANCE to him! 👍🏽

Sabahat
Community Member
3 months ago

Get some Leather now to make this drop more heroic Buy Leather Jacket

Tim Haight
Community Member
3 months ago

the after pic does not look any different

Yili Lai
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3 months ago

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I mean good job for dropping that 150, but maybe also drop an extra 150? It isn't healthy to be obese

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3 months ago

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All's Gravy
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3 months ago

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Can't see the difference.

Andy Acceber
Community Member
3 months ago

She dropped him. He's 150lbs of judgmental putz.

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KT
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3 months ago

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You should probably lose some weight too, being that big is extremely stressful to your body and an early death is likely

Andy Acceber
Community Member
3 months ago

You should probably be less of a judgemental bigot, being that controling is extremely stressful to you and those around you and an early death is likely. (Leave the health advice to the woman, her actual friends, and her doctor.)

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Mike Ieva
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3 months ago

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You know that is really bad for your health being overweighted right?

Andy Acceber
Community Member
3 months ago

You know that is really bad for your mental health being a judgemental prick, right? (Leave the heath advice to the woman, her actual friends, and her doctor.)

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BingeFest1
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3 months ago (edited)

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Edit: that s**t went right over my head

Myrtille rat
Community Member
3 months ago

the 150 pounds dropped were actually the boyfriend

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Dillon Hughes
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3 months ago (edited)

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That's great if it's true the pics are almost identical..... and loose weight for your own good not theirs! Screw them. I know dove very attractive fatties! Nothing wrong with it other than health concerns obviously

lazy panda
Community Member
3 months ago

Dude she dropped her boyfriend, not the physical weight.

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To help you get a better understanding of these posts, Bored Panda got in touch with dating coach, 2 million view TED speaker, and media personality Hayley Quinn. She believes that "dating is different for men and women. However, you'd be wrong to think that one gender has it easy."

"Instead men and women often face equal and opposite problems to one another," Quinn said. "Guys might struggle to think of how to approach a woman, and women (who traditionally and maybe wrongly) have been told they can't make the first move and so panic over where they can find all the guys that want to approach them."

#2

Say It Louder For The People In The Back!!

Say It Louder For The People In The Back!!

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denzoren
Community Member
3 months ago

I've never understood this...if you lose control over what a woman wears then you need some serious help. The problem definitely isn't the clothes.

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#3

Poetic Justice

Poetic Justice

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Sarcastic Cow
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3 months ago

haha, love this!

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In the world of online dating, Quinn also sees noticeable disparities. "Guys may feel like they're having to move heaven and earth to get one lousy response from a woman, whilst women can feel overwhelmed and harassed by unsuitable suitors," she explained. "Men could usually learn from women that they need to have higher standards for the women they interact with, and women could take a leaf out of men's dating and learn how they too can be proactive."

#4

Some Men Need To Learn This

Some Men Need To Learn This

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BingeFest1
Community Member
3 months ago (edited)

This goes for everybody. Treat others the way you want to be treated

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#5

“Nudes?” He Asked Hopefully

“Nudes?” He Asked Hopefully

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Legen ( wait for it ) dary
Community Member
3 months ago

Well done.

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In 2020, the Pew Research Center surveyed Americans to find out more about their love life. While single-and-looking men and women reported equal levels of dissatisfaction with their dating lives and the ease of finding people to date, women were more likely to say they have had some particularly negative experiences.

Most women who were single and looking to date (65%) said they have experienced at least one of six harassing behaviors asked about in the survey from someone they were dating or had been on a date with, such as being touched in a way that made them uncomfortable or rumors being spread about their sexual history.

#6

Oops

Oops

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Nadine Bamberger
Community Member
3 months ago

When you made an effort and treated her well and when you just stopped.

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#7

Stop Normalizing Men’s Immaturity

Stop Normalizing Men’s Immaturity

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Sarcastic Cow
Community Member
3 months ago

Everytime!

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"Though men might think women have guys queuing up to date them (which sounds great right?) in reality women face plenty of dating challenges," Quinn said. "They may feel emotionally drained by dating, as they push through dates where they don't feel a connection. If they're seeking a relationship they may struggle to tell which guy's going to be in for the long haul, and who will disappear at the first inkling of commitment. They may even not know how to get offline and actually meet men in real life; and get stuck in the belief that all the 'good men' have run out, and it's impossible to meet someone."

The dating coach added that women also face significantly more judgement around things like their age, which can be a challenge on dating apps; and more scrutiny for expressing their sexuality. "So don't think that just because she's got a queue of potential suitors that she's not having a hard time dating."

We all can be douches to one another. Let's not.

#8

That Really Puts It In Perspective

That Really Puts It In Perspective

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Nadine Bamberger
Community Member
3 months ago

And it's always on us, don't dress that way, don't walk there, don't provoke. When it happens we didn't fight enough, fought too hard, didn't say no, didn't mean it when we said it. If we report it we get blamed, re traumatized by questions and rape kits that are then left untouched, called liars.

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#9

Lol

Lol

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I am avoiding my homework
Community Member
3 months ago

Agree entirely and this is one of the reasons I hate Disney movies

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#10

Shrug

Shrug

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Susan Green
Community Member
3 months ago

Good for you.

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#11

100% True For Me

100% True For Me

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Legen ( wait for it ) dary
Community Member
3 months ago

I feel a drop off interest on men (thanks a lot) when I say my husband is a police officer or a jujitsu master.

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#12

A Queen Grandmama

A Queen Grandmama

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Caro Caro
Community Member
3 months ago

Grandma rocks!

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#13

Cracks Me Up Every Time

Cracks Me Up Every Time

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Eslamala
Community Member
3 months ago

I love this 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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#14

They Will Always Make “Single Mothers” The Villains To Shift Blame From Male Predators Or Male Parental Child Neglect

They Will Always Make “Single Mothers” The Villains To Shift Blame From Male Predators Or Male Parental Child Neglect

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May
Community Member
3 months ago

Ew. Just ew.

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#15

Speaks For Itself

Speaks For Itself

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Ana
Community Member
3 months ago

I'm still thinking about the time women had to use hat pins to defend themselves from handsy men. They were covered in fabric from head to tow. It's never about the way you dress, it's about being decent.

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#16

Perfect Way To Deal With Their “Jokes”

Perfect Way To Deal With Their “Jokes”

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Nandina
Community Member
3 months ago

I sure wish I was that savy when I was that age

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#17

Be A Hvm In All Aspects Of Life

Be A Hvm In All Aspects Of Life

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Rachel Peterson
Community Member
3 months ago

I always support the allies, reminding them how much I value them.

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#18

How Many Of You “Developed” Issues While In A Relationship? I’ll Go First: Depression And Anxiety. Cured As Soon As We Broke Up

How Many Of You “Developed” Issues While In A Relationship? I’ll Go First: Depression And Anxiety. Cured As Soon As We Broke Up

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K Witmer
Community Member
3 months ago

My mom was convinced she was just a miserable person. She eloped w my dad when she was 15 he was 19. She was 25 when she got divorced she then realized she was a very outgoing extrovert that loved to smile and be herself

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#19

Keep It Real Out There

Keep It Real Out There

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Caro Caro
Community Member
3 months ago

So true.

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#20

Hvm Right There. Take Note Scrotes

Hvm Right There. Take Note Scrotes

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Eppe
Community Member
3 months ago

This lizzard lifts us all to a higher level

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#21

I Got You, Babe

I Got You, Babe

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QueenMiri
Community Member
3 months ago

Well done

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#22

Nothing But Truth

Nothing But Truth

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Emme Magnolia
Community Member
3 months ago

Men also shame women for being raped

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#23

Where Is The Lie?

Where Is The Lie?

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Crystal A Rivera
Community Member
3 months ago

TRUTH.

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#24

Being Decent Isn’t Difficult

Being Decent Isn’t Difficult

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Sarcastic Cow
Community Member
3 months ago

If everywoman had father like this...

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#25

Geee I Wonder Why

Geee I Wonder Why

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Sarcastic Cow
Community Member
3 months ago

Short, ugly, broke and stupid.

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#26

This Almost Makes Me Want To Redownload Dating Apps To Do The Same!

This Almost Makes Me Want To Redownload Dating Apps To Do The Same!

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Otter
Community Member
3 months ago

That woman is a true patriot!

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#27

Even A 35 Yo Man Has These Same Meltdowns But They're The Logical Sex!!!

Even A 35 Yo Man Has These Same Meltdowns But They're The Logical Sex!!!

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Legen ( wait for it ) dary
Community Member
3 months ago

Wow, someone need to practice house chores more often.

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#28

Watch The Way Men Treat Women They're Not Attracted To

Watch The Way Men Treat Women They're Not Attracted To

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Ana Ferreira
Community Member
3 months ago

Also, the way they treat women that are not attracted to them.

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#29

The Message

The Message

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Mazer
Community Member
3 months ago

Choose to empower your kids by considering them now and in the future. Spot on

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#30

Mom Praising Son-In-Law For The Bare Minimum

Mom Praising Son-In-Law For The Bare Minimum

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Abhinc
Community Member
3 months ago

as a man and a dad please please please stop calling or considering it babysitting when you're / he's just being a father !!! educate your kids, play with them, change diapers, study with them, create bonds, get involved. kids are not plants !!! these are a parent's job. not a mother's chores

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#31

Why Are Males?

Why Are Males?

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Caro Caro
Community Member
3 months ago

I would call him out, get management and then call the cops! Effing dirty slob.

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#32

Leave Him In The Dust

Leave Him In The Dust

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El muerto
Community Member
3 months ago

some time it bothers me, some women think they don't have a choice because they are in love.

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#33

This Is Why We Can’t Even Trust The “Good” Guys

This Is Why We Can’t Even Trust The “Good” Guys

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Caro Caro
Community Member
3 months ago

This gives me the creeps.

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#34

Keep Your Friends Safe!

Keep Your Friends Safe!

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Marny
Community Member
3 months ago

It's appalling that this is something they actually need.

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#35

Used Or New, We Will Run You Over

Used Or New, We Will Run You Over

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Legen ( wait for it ) dary
Community Member
3 months ago

Please tell me he is a virgin too. Ask for what you can also offer.

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#36

Thoughts?

Thoughts?

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BingeFest1
Community Member
3 months ago

If I ever actually find somebody I'd want to marry I would never propose with anybody around. I would want to eliminate any peer pressure and create an intimate environment

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#37

Instead Of Holding Rapists/Harassers Accountable, He Mocks Women For Trying To Protect Themselves. A True Pos

Instead Of Holding Rapists/Harassers Accountable, He Mocks Women For Trying To Protect Themselves. A True Pos

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Potatogamers2
Community Member
3 months ago

Although this should not be laughed about at all, I do sometimes think it, although obviously it might help indicate where they were or the person on the line seeing or hearing the person, but..it doesn't stop horrible people doing horrible things. For example, I will NOT take a taxi on my own. Ever. This means I sometimes end up dragging 2 heavy shopping bags and a heavy backpack with groceries, whilst walking home for 20-30 minutes, so my husband says "just take a taxi, and call with me". It's a nice thought..But him calling with me isn't going to help me if the taxi driver decides to take a detour. Sharing location might be most helpful..but even then, I'd be afraid that it's just helpful to locate my lifeless body.

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#38

Henry Viii's Wives If They'd Never Met Him

Henry Viii's Wives If They'd Never Met Him

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Ana
Community Member
3 months ago

I still think Anne of Cleves got the best deal. She didn't have to remain married to Henry VIII and even got a sweet castle and money to boot and she never ever had to get married again.

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#39

Thought This Belongs Here. (From Selfawarewolves... Men Are So Close, I Can't Decide If They're Ignorant On Purpose Or Genuinely Can't Grasp Basic Concepts)

Thought This Belongs Here. (From Selfawarewolves... Men Are So Close, I Can't Decide If They're Ignorant On Purpose Or Genuinely Can't Grasp Basic Concepts)

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
3 months ago

Sounds like the guy who yells "hey pretty lady" and approaches a woman they don't know, and when she "walks fast" to get away or tells him to stop, she has a "bad attitude"

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#40

Being In You 20’s Should Be About Self Development, Your Eduction And To Lay The Foundation For Financial Independence

Being In You 20’s Should Be About Self Development, Your Eduction And To Lay The Foundation For Financial Independence

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Caro Caro
Community Member
3 months ago

This!

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#41

Most Stay-At-Moms Do Not Get The Luxury Of Building A Career, Or Even The Luxury Of A Personal Life This Is How Women End Up In A Financial Trap With No Support

Most Stay-At-Moms Do Not Get The Luxury Of Building A Career, Or Even The Luxury Of A Personal Life This Is How Women End Up In A Financial Trap With No Support

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Abhinc
Community Member
3 months ago

when we had our first child i was at a moment in my life where i was wondering what i really wanted to do and i felt like i needed to make some changes in my professional life. my wife loves her job !! and anyway she earned more than me. so i stayed home raised our child, cleaned the house, cooked, gardened and so on for 3 years. and i loved it !! it also gave me time to study and create my business. i still do all this since i work from home. chores are an adult's job !! not a woman's job. you don't babysit your kids. be a father !! that's very different. and so on !!

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#42

Say It Louder For These Predatory Men!

Say It Louder For These Predatory Men!

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Kristy Nelson
Community Member
3 months ago

It's just creepy.

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#43

Tea

Tea

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QueenMiri
Community Member
3 months ago (edited)

Women who could tell stories about crazy ex boyfriends rarely make it out alive. That's why you only hear about crazy ex girlfriends.

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#44

Seriously

Seriously

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Guido Pisano
Community Member
3 months ago

helping your wife means that most of the job is on her shoulder. I prefer say that I do my part...

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#45

Reminder

Reminder

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J. F.
Community Member
3 months ago

I'm a misanthrope- I actually enjoy to not have to deal with somebody on a daily basis. I must be a quite rare man according to this article

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#46

We Used To Think We Were Always At Fault

We Used To Think We Were Always At Fault

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Zephyr Anthem
Community Member
3 months ago

True if you date a self centered douche who doesn't care about your pleasure...

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#47

Women Protect Women From Harm. Men Protect Other Men's Ability To Lie, Cheat, And Knowingly Harm Women

Women Protect Women From Harm. Men Protect Other Men's Ability To Lie, Cheat, And Knowingly Harm Women

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Abhinc
Community Member
3 months ago

i lost a friend telling his gf he cheated on her. but i had to. she is a very nice person and deserved better. she and i are still friends years later and was invited to my wedding. i haven't heard from him for 20 years but i don't care !! i don't want that kind of people in my life. the way he treated her made me wonder about the way he treats people in general and his friends too

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#48

Never Settle For Less Than You Deserve

Never Settle For Less Than You Deserve

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Nadine Bamberger
Community Member
3 months ago

And f**k politeness, it can get you killed.

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#49

It Never Ends

It Never Ends

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Caro Caro
Community Member
3 months ago

What does he look like?

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#50

*internal Screaming, Forever*

*internal Screaming, Forever*

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BingeFest1
Community Member
3 months ago

She caught a whiff of the open-ass hot raw tuna special

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