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Dating and relationships are difficult even on a good day. And good days are pretty rare. Unfortunately, that is the reality everyone lives in when navigating the romantic world. Especially women. But at least they have a place to vent.

The subreddit r/FemaleDatingStrategy has 175K members (or as it calls them, queens), constantly discussing their love lives, and that includes all the nonsense that arises too. Continue scrolling and check out what they have to say.

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Men Only Bringing The Audacity, Yet Again, To The Table!

Men Only Bringing The Audacity, Yet Again, To The Table!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Took me a sec to realize it, but good going. You have to consider yourself first.

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"Instead men and women often face equal and opposite problems to one another," Quinn said. "Guys might struggle to think of how to approach a woman, and women (who traditionally and maybe wrongly) have been told they can't make the first move and so panic over where they can find all the guys that want to approach them."

#2

Say It Louder For The People In The Back!!

Say It Louder For The People In The Back!!

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denzoren
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've never understood this...if you lose control over what a woman wears then you need some serious help. The problem definitely isn't the clothes.

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In the world of online dating, Quinn also sees noticeable disparities. "Guys may feel like they're having to move heaven and earth to get one lousy response from a woman, whilst women can feel overwhelmed and harassed by unsuitable suitors," she explained. "Men could usually learn from women that they need to have higher standards for the women they interact with, and women could take a leaf out of men's dating and learn how they too can be proactive."

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#4

Some Men Need To Learn This

Some Men Need To Learn This

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This goes for everybody. Treat others the way you want to be treated

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In 2020, the Pew Research Center surveyed Americans to find out more about their love life. While single-and-looking men and women reported equal levels of dissatisfaction with their dating lives and the ease of finding people to date, women were more likely to say they have had some particularly negative experiences.

Most women who were single and looking to date (65%) said they have experienced at least one of six harassing behaviors asked about in the survey from someone they were dating or had been on a date with, such as being touched in a way that made them uncomfortable or rumors being spread about their sexual history.

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"Though men might think women have guys queuing up to date them (which sounds great right?) in reality women face plenty of dating challenges," Quinn said. "They may feel emotionally drained by dating, as they push through dates where they don't feel a connection. If they're seeking a relationship they may struggle to tell which guy's going to be in for the long haul, and who will disappear at the first inkling of commitment. They may even not know how to get offline and actually meet men in real life; and get stuck in the belief that all the 'good men' have run out, and it's impossible to meet someone."

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The dating coach added that women also face significantly more judgement around things like their age, which can be a challenge on dating apps; and more scrutiny for expressing their sexuality. "So don't think that just because she's got a queue of potential suitors that she's not having a hard time dating."

We all can be douches to one another. Let's not.

#8

That Really Puts It In Perspective

That Really Puts It In Perspective

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Nadine Bamberger
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And it's always on us, don't dress that way, don't walk there, don't provoke. When it happens we didn't fight enough, fought too hard, didn't say no, didn't mean it when we said it. If we report it we get blamed, re traumatized by questions and rape kits that are then left untouched, called liars.

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#9

Lol

Lol

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J. F.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry, but it was mutual affection in the story - and she was dressed up to not be recognized by her stepmother and- sisters as well.

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Monday
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Poor chap only met her once, maybe he's just bad with faces.

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Julie C Rose
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It was that or abuse. Women didn’t have a whole lot of options back then.

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Hermione Granger
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kinda off topic but… Snow White was 14. The prince was 20 or 30 something, and kissed her without her consent. Gross.

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WildBerry
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Forget that part of it even.... she lived with a bunch of little men and was their maid. How stupid is that?

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Loretta
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

His father and his chancellor are looking for the girl based on one shoe. How do we know the prince didn't plan on searching for her on his own? And the prince wasn't even the one who put the shoe on her foot.

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Suzi Gauthier
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is a book, but can't remember what it's called, that takes place AFTER Cinderella gets together with the prince. He's boring & vapid. The rest is quite an adventure.

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Xottel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm pretty sure that masquerade balls were a common pastime back then.

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JuJu
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Aschenputtel (Cinderella) should have left her "family" and cleaned someone else's house for room and board (and some money).

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Milan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, please start shaming a f*cking cartoons. Wtf is wrong with people nowadays. Everybody wants to be soooo correct…

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Hermione Granger
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, we need to shame the f*****g cartoons because some of them are f*****g messed up. Read my above comments about Snow White and sleeping beauty.

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Claire Giles
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be fair, the Prince is not the one sent out to have the slipper tried on. In the updated live version he does go out and knows its her from her singing. It's Prince Charming in Into the Woods that is the one in the wrong, he's the one that's all 'I was raised to be charming not faithful'

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always hoped the mice and birds went to live with her in the castle...

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Pamela Blue
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Had to laugh at this one. Let's face it. Some women put on SO.MUCH.MAKEUP that recognizing her without it could actually be a problem. Besides, if you're talking Cinderella, he sent his henchmen from house to house. He couldn't be bothered to do it himself.

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Tommy Edison
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

lol @ pathetic people who take disney movies that seriously.. you people need f****n help

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Jessica B
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be fair I don't generally recognize people without their heavy makeup easily either. Also, he sent out his henchmen to look. Because he's a prince and couldn't look for himself? Different issue.

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Alexandra
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

nitpicking fairytales about comeuppance doesn't make you look smart. quite the contrary

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Ashley_Queen688
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She should have just stood up to her step sisters and step mother

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Hermione Granger
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You’re right, although I think it was either them or living on the street. But she could have gone and worked as an actual maid, so she could pay for board until she could get her own house.

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ChrisZAUR
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean in all fairness have you seen the amount of makeup some women put on I swear you need a trowel to apply that amount of concealer

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Helen Horning
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He didn't "try on a shoe." It was a servant doing that job and he had never seen her

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Leigh C.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He saw her once and didn't know where she lived or her name ffs. Wouldn't have mattered since the evil stepmom locked her in her room.

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Debbie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I read the story to my son the other day. When I replaced things like "sweet" and "beautiful" by "smart" "intelligent" "funny" "caring". (as empathic is not a word he relates to yet). After the story was done I sad: actually this was a stupid story. They don't know eachother. They danced all night and he still doesn't know here name, where she lives or what she does for a living. And her - she gets a pretty dress and suddenly is envied by all. It's only about her looks and her being sweet. They should get to know eachother better first.

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To be fair, I saw some before and after and not even I would recognized the person, not even if was my mother. Seriously blow my mind. A friend dated and moved on with a guy. Took 1 year, for him to see her without make-up. It took me as a friend 5 years.

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Well to be fair the other side of that coin is she was looking to gold digger her way into wealth.

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Fun fact: In the original story, Cinderella had to CUT OFF HER TOES for the slipper to fit.

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Bronwyn
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not quite... one of the step sisters cut off her toes, the other her heels. When the blood was noticed the gig was up. Then Cinderella's foot fit perfectly, without any maiming.

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You hate an honest problem with women? Women nowadays look totally different with all that crap on them.

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#11

100% True For Me

100% True For Me

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel a drop off interest on men (thanks a lot) when I say my husband is a police officer or a jujitsu master.

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#14

They Will Always Make “Single Mothers” The Villains To Shift Blame From Male Predators Or Male Parental Child Neglect

They Will Always Make “Single Mothers” The Villains To Shift Blame From Male Predators Or Male Parental Child Neglect

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#15

Speaks For Itself

Speaks For Itself

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Ana
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm still thinking about the time women had to use hat pins to defend themselves from handsy men. They were covered in fabric from head to tow. It's never about the way you dress, it's about being decent.

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#16

Perfect Way To Deal With Their “Jokes”

Perfect Way To Deal With Their “Jokes”

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#17

Be A Hvm In All Aspects Of Life

Be A Hvm In All Aspects Of Life

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always support the allies, reminding them how much I value them.

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#18

How Many Of You “Developed” Issues While In A Relationship? I’ll Go First: Depression And Anxiety. Cured As Soon As We Broke Up

How Many Of You “Developed” Issues While In A Relationship? I’ll Go First: Depression And Anxiety. Cured As Soon As We Broke Up

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom was convinced she was just a miserable person. She eloped w my dad when she was 15 he was 19. She was 25 when she got divorced she then realized she was a very outgoing extrovert that loved to smile and be herself

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#20

Hvm Right There. Take Note Scrotes

Hvm Right There. Take Note Scrotes

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Nothing But Truth

Nothing But Truth

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i'm just going to assume that most here are Americans, being from denmark myself i have been to parties (in denmark) sitting or standing next to a few women and they end up talking sex good and bad experiances partners and so on and never have i thought anything shaming about them but good for them that they have been curious and learned a few things like one i remember very clearly when trying a**l ALWAYS remember lube and lots of it and take time, most of this shaming comes from bad parenting and trying to be the cool/alpha male, bad boy, and for my part korrect if some guy i knew started to brag about rape i would not shame him he would (maybe) wake up in the hospital at some point.

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#26

This Almost Makes Me Want To Redownload Dating Apps To Do The Same!

This Almost Makes Me Want To Redownload Dating Apps To Do The Same!

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#27

Even A 35 Yo Man Has These Same Meltdowns But They're The Logical Sex!!!

Even A 35 Yo Man Has These Same Meltdowns But They're The Logical Sex!!!

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#28

Watch The Way Men Treat Women They're Not Attracted To

Watch The Way Men Treat Women They're Not Attracted To

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The Message

The Message

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Choose to empower your kids by considering them now and in the future. Spot on

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#30

Mom Praising Son-In-Law For The Bare Minimum

Mom Praising Son-In-Law For The Bare Minimum

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband stayed with our kids as infants while I worked. Everyone went on and on about how amazing he was (and he was) but then we switched roles this past year and I hear how “lucky I am to GET to stay home” and how bad they feel he works long hours. B****! I pumped breast milk on the floor of a unisex bathroom while still taking phone calls.

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Why Are Males?

Why Are Males?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would call him out, get management and then call the cops! Effing dirty slob.

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Leave Him In The Dust

Leave Him In The Dust

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

some time it bothers me, some women think they don't have a choice because they are in love.

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#33

This Is Why We Can’t Even Trust The “Good” Guys

This Is Why We Can’t Even Trust The “Good” Guys

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Keep Your Friends Safe!

Keep Your Friends Safe!

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#35

Used Or New, We Will Run You Over

Used Or New, We Will Run You Over

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#36

Thoughts?

Thoughts?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I ever actually find somebody I'd want to marry I would never propose with anybody around. I would want to eliminate any peer pressure and create an intimate environment

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#37

Instead Of Holding Rapists/Harassers Accountable, He Mocks Women For Trying To Protect Themselves. A True Pos

Instead Of Holding Rapists/Harassers Accountable, He Mocks Women For Trying To Protect Themselves. A True Pos

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Xottel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not about locating the witness. It's about scaring the bad guy by becoming a potential witness. Some women even resort to making fake calls on their way home. I'd say it stops at least some horrible people so that's an improvement.

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#38

Henry Viii's Wives If They'd Never Met Him

Henry Viii's Wives If They'd Never Met Him

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Ana
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I still think Anne of Cleves got the best deal. She didn't have to remain married to Henry VIII and even got a sweet castle and money to boot and she never ever had to get married again.

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Thought This Belongs Here. (From Selfawarewolves... Men Are So Close, I Can't Decide If They're Ignorant On Purpose Or Genuinely Can't Grasp Basic Concepts)

Thought This Belongs Here. (From Selfawarewolves... Men Are So Close, I Can't Decide If They're Ignorant On Purpose Or Genuinely Can't Grasp Basic Concepts)

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like the guy who yells "hey pretty lady" and approaches a woman they don't know, and when she "walks fast" to get away or tells him to stop, she has a "bad attitude"

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Being In You 20’s Should Be About Self Development, Your Eduction And To Lay The Foundation For Financial Independence

Being In You 20’s Should Be About Self Development, Your Eduction And To Lay The Foundation For Financial Independence

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Most Stay-At-Moms Do Not Get The Luxury Of Building A Career, Or Even The Luxury Of A Personal Life This Is How Women End Up In A Financial Trap With No Support

Most Stay-At-Moms Do Not Get The Luxury Of Building A Career, Or Even The Luxury Of A Personal Life This Is How Women End Up In A Financial Trap With No Support

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ummmm... my wife and I support our family. I work long hours. My wife takes care of 90% of the household stuff. I clean the kitchen every night and get home by dinner time every night to have family time with her and our kids. I don't support her and she doesn't support me. We support each other.

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Tea

Tea

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Women who could tell stories about crazy ex boyfriends rarely make it out alive. That's why you only hear about crazy ex girlfriends.

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#44

Seriously

Seriously

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Guido Pisano
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

helping your wife means that most of the job is on her shoulder. I prefer say that I do my part...

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#45

Reminder

Reminder

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J. F.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a misanthrope- I actually enjoy to not have to deal with somebody on a daily basis. I must be a quite rare man according to this article

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#46

We Used To Think We Were Always At Fault

We Used To Think We Were Always At Fault

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

True if you date a self centered douche who doesn't care about your pleasure...

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#47

Women Protect Women From Harm. Men Protect Other Men's Ability To Lie, Cheat, And Knowingly Harm Women

Women Protect Women From Harm. Men Protect Other Men's Ability To Lie, Cheat, And Knowingly Harm Women

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know about any 'bro code'. But any friend of mine cheating on his SO (also probably a friend of mine by association) and expecting me to keep it a secret isn't really my friend.

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#50

*internal Screaming, Forever*

*internal Screaming, Forever*

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