50 Times People Called Out Blatantly Sexist Things That Are Still Prevalent In Society (New Pics)
Life’s full of blatantly sexist things and the everyday heroes of the internet keep calling them out, poking fun at them, and shining a bright spotlight on them to make it clear—these things are not okay. And, bit by bit, society changes. Hopefully, for the better.
The r/TrollXChromosomes subreddit, an online group that’s been active for a whopping decade and has over 812k members, documents when women and men confront sexism, misogyny, and toxic masculinity head-on. Have a look through some of their newest posts that we’ve collected for you, dear Pandas, and be sure to upvote the ones that rekindled your hope in greater equality in the world.
When you’re done with this list, we invite you to read through our first article about blatantly obvious sexism right here. Meanwhile, scroll down for our interview with psychotherapist Silva Neves, who explained to Bored Panda what men can do to put an end to toxicity, misogyny, and homophobia. According to him, it’s about redefining what ‘male success’ means and teaching society to stop turning a blind eye to what’s wrong.
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Absolutely Hate The Way Our Clothing Was Policed In School
The End
Powerful
Education is a vital part of the fight for greater equality, compassion, inclusiveness, and respect. However, alone without any ongoing and passionate support from us, education isn’t the panacea against sexism, misogyny, and toxic masculinity that some of us are looking for. It’s not a one-and-done kind of deal: it’s a long, arduous, exhausting process, a war of attrition between competing ideas.
“Better education is definitely key but it is also down to all of us to challenge it by not allowing toxic masculinity to keep going. It means that we all have to actively challenge misogyny and homophobia,” psychotherapist Silva noted in an interview with Bored Panda. He added that both misogyny and homophobia are “still prevalent now in the UK,” where he is based, and “too many people continue to turn a blind eye when they see it.”
Just Let People Be
Let’s Eradicate The Terms “Consensual Sex” And “Non-Consensual Sex” - It’s Either Sex Or Rape. Language Shouldn’t Be Used As A Tool To Obfuscate Trauma And Horror
Let's Please Bring An End To Victim-Blaming, And Shaming
Incomplete analogy - she also needs to be the one who, on seeing a bloke be just a little tipsy, buys him more drinks before he's finished the last one, so he's kept just a little off-kilter by how many he's had, because of course, he shouldn't have drunk so much if he didn't want to get robbed.
According to Silva, men need to do their part and be more in tune with their emotions, instead of trying to repress them as is par for course with toxic masculinity.
“We need more representations of men who embrace their emotions, talk about them and show them with crying, laughing, or hugging,” he said.
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Honestly I stopped dating,so I don't start to judge men over a bunch of men which " don't find we match- but can I get some sexual service instead?" Annoying how often it happens.- and it's not my clothes or behavior.( I'm already used to this explanation automatically) Wanna stay openminded and believe in all the good guys out there- so I've just avoid this situations by now.
I'm Sure Selfawarewolves Would Love This
Something else that drastically needs to change is how ‘male success’ and masculinity are defined. “We also need to change the image of 'male success'. So, basically, we need to change society at its core because toxic masculinity is part of a faulty system of thoughts. That will take time, but it can start with all of us doing our parts about it,” the psychotherapist told Bored Panda.
Oof
Things Women Shouldn't Wear
Spot On. Really Effing Spot On
Unfortunately, there seems to be getting more of the wrong sort, with the internet spreading weird ideas and connecting the creeps together so they can feed off each other rather than being kept in check by decent male role models around them.
Every Single One
Never Thought Of It Like This
Cool
Representation. Matters
Screw Misogyny
This is good enough to be number one. It’s so good there aren’t even many comments on it because there’s nothing else to say.
Loyalty
Do Not Hesitate To Ask What You Deserve
Absolutely! Employees in the same job should always compare salaries, especially men and women. Transparency in this case is never a bad thing.
It's A Step In The Right Direction
Please, Go On...
Horny By Shoulders
I don't think Andrew understands equality. Equality is women being allowed to walk around topless like men can without being arrested, touched, have derogatory remarks made about them or sexual advances etc.
They Don't
Let’s not forget that Bill Cosby was released today, because his sexual assault conviction was overturned. This is bullish!t
Consent...
I Can't Even Watch The Notebook Without Cringing Now
Abortion Rights Is A Human Rights
Women are not dismissible incubators. I wonder if men would be okay with an unwanted growth in their organs for 9 months, causing weight gain, mood swings, nausea, and basically a complete loss of bodily autonomy as strangers constantly pat you like a class gerbil. I assume men would not be okay with that. Why they think women should be is beyond me. If you want to avoid unwanted pregnancies, get a vasectomy.
And then look after the child till they are eighteen at Least, paying all bills.
Load More Replies..."Save the life in the womb, then when they're born, deny basic health are, education and dignity, then let them starve to death, or make their lives miserable and kill them when they protest the conditions of the society under which they were born."
Exactly this. So called "Pro-life" has never been about life, they are Anti-choice, Pro-birth and Pro-control.
Load More Replies...I won't ever get an abortion because I believe a baby shouldn't be killed for being conceived, but I also believe women should have the right to have one if the want to. If you outlaw it, it will become more dangerous because women will still get abortions somehow and it could result in so many deaths. Let people have abortions if they want!
Great post, but to clarify: Abortions don't kill babies. It's an unborn fetus/vertebrate.
Load More Replies...Besides the total assault on women's rights that abortion restriction enforces, there is also no good legal argument for banning it. A fetus has no legal standing and is not the property of any person (even the mother). Personally I disagree with having abortions once the fetus becomes fully viable and can survive on its own but the rights of the woman should always be honored without exception for a possible future life.
When I was in high school, some local politician came to speak about a law he was supporting that would require minors under 18 to have parental consent to get an abortion, because teenage girls are too young to make that decision. I asked him if that also meant parents should be allowed to force an abortion on a 17 year-old who wants to have the baby. He stammered around a bit but never really answered.
How come when a pregnant woman dies in a car crash her dead fetus is always referred to as an unborn child and the other driver if at fault can be charged with TWO counts of vehicular manslaughter? What makes her fetus and unborn child but yours is not just because you WANT to kill it? How is it ONLY a child when you want to keep it but it's just a fetus when you don't and you cannot be held accountable? I'm NOT taking sides, I'm just pointing out the hypocrisy.
I’m very against abortion, but this argument definitely helped me see the other side. If you think of it like someone not being willing to donate an organ because it would take a long recovery time, even if it would save someone’s life, it still seems callous and cruel, but less like murder.
does not harvesting an organ directly cause death? should corpses be able to ask for their organs back after transplanted? hmm
A baby is not a corpse or an organ or a 'growth'. You are talking about a life.
We aren't talking about a baby we are talking about fetus. Catch up will you.
Load More Replies...This is such an incredibly cretinous comparison. Where to even begin? Insisting that it's solely a women's right issue is taking the polar opposite to "life begins at conception", and it's equally helpful – that is to say, not at all. You ARE terminating a human life. And while there are always cases of rape, risk to the health of the woman, etc, the vast majority of unwanted pregnancies come from consensual sex. Up until the first month or so, an embryo barely qualifies as a human being, whereas at nine months they definitely do, but there isn't a magic threshold somewhere in the middle where you can definitely say whether it's a baby or not. So claiming that "it's my body and I can do whatever I want" completely ignores the fact that you're doing something to the body of someone not capable of making that decision.
Well.. I would love to get rid of my womb, but unfortunately even that has age restriction (you have to be 30, if I remember correctly) and if the woman is in a relationship, her boyfriend/husband will be asked for an opinion. Though if there is a medical condition, then it can be done without too much of a hassle.
Load More Replies...BULLSHIT! In indonesia, all people are automatically organ donors the day they turn 18. You have to opt-out with a valid reason. But abortion, MUST be a 2-person deal. You let the spermies in, you have a 50% vote. You knew from day ONE your body would be the factory. Pro choice within reason here.
Typing in all caps doesn't make your comment more true. The clump of cells is literally the women's clump of cells. It's entirely up to her how she wants to identify it.
Load More Replies...Gestation slavers are creepy little perverts who want small government....just small enough to cram up our crotches.
Load More Replies...It's my body, though, so I get to make that call.
Load More Replies...No, it was because my partner lied and didn't tell me the condom broke. Otherwise I could have gotten the MAP. So it was because of his freedom with my body, thank you very much.
Load More Replies...That differs with locality. Where I live, if the deceased agreed to be an organ donor, that's the end of it. The next of kin can't change that.
Load More Replies...Where is this onus on the male? He "consented" to making a child too by your logic. Women aren't incubators first and ppl second. Dead people have more rights. Does that not seem like an issue?
Load More Replies...There is really only one question. Does the woman want this child. Because every child deserves to be wanted.
Load More Replies...Abortions are most likely to occur BEFORE the fetus is viable.
Load More Replies...The Reason Why We Need To Stop Saying #notallmen
I once heard that the rate of attempted suicides among men is about the same as that among women. But men are more often successful. A woman would take sleeping pills or cut her pulse. You can still save them in time. A guy jumps in front of the train or out of the window and is dead. Those might be clichees too, but women think more and men are more impulsive / spontaneous.
I Think We All Know Why
This. Once my colleague (female) said to me "I didn't know you were one of those",you know feminist type. Men don't like feminists. I told her even I don't like misogynist men. She later warned me that my "type" will make sure I will never marry. I told her I'll take my chances and I am not afraid of never getting married.
Consent
Truth
If The Men Find Out We Can Shapeshift, They Are Going To Tell The Church
I hope you wear your tuxedo all night and stay shaved properly and wellscented- cause we don't like catfishing too
On Shaving
We Are Starting It Early, Guys!
Because Apparently Only Old White Men Count
Ladies, When Was The Last Time You Went On A Killing Spree Cos You Were Feeling A Bit Emotional?
And just the whole idea that "emotional" = "bad." It doesn't. "Emotional" = "human."
F**ked Up
When A Man Tells Me He's Looking For A 'Real Woman' I Scurry Away Because I'm Actually Three Owls In A Raincoat And He Mustn't Find Out
Ikr, just check out any comment section on BP about women's rights. It's like a misogyny textbook.
Experiencing Both Sides Of The Gender Divide As A Professional
And We Prefer Your Opinions About Us Kept To Yourselves Too!
You can have your preferences—makeup/no makeup, long hair/short hair, athletic/curvy, etc.—and you can talk about it to your friends, too. You can even decide to only pursue romantic interests that fit your preferences. What you should really stop doing is loudly broadcasting to all womankind how they should mold themselves to what you like.
While It Is True That Girls’ Brains Typically Develop A Little Faster Than Boys’ Brains, That Doesn’t Excuse A Lack Of Discipline For Boys
Even if there is a biological background...just try harder..Evolution works- we all don't want to live in caves anymore- so keep pushing it
Oh Well
OMG, I find that ALL the time on reddit, mainly with the stereotype of men gaming and girls not at all (it angers me so much as I am a girl who enjoys computer games a LOT) and men vs girls after masturbation, which is so disgusting for me. The annoying thing is, that they often get SO much upvotes >:(
I Agree
Problem is, as with any social construct, sexism has multiple levels. You have "innocent" or mimetic sexism (literally just doing what everyone else does with no beliefs or understanding involved; seen almost exclusively in small children), passive sexism (weakly-held beliefs at best, mostly just doing it because they either don't know there's an alternative or haven't given it much thought; many fall into this category), active sexism (strongly-held beliefs, resistant to alternative viewpoints, very prone to cognitive dissonance), and extremist sexism (striving to enforce and enhance sexist attitudes and beliefs in others as well as holding strong sexist beliefs).
My Nana Is Divorced And Good For Her
:)
Don't forget the "what a waste", but it's like "sorry dude, even if she liked men, she still wouldn't be dating you"
Get A Divorce
Most important thing to teach your daughter..you're fantastic all by yourself and life offers many ways and crossroads to get lucky every relationship should be seen as an additional choice So don't let your selfesteem depending on bad choices
So Close To Getting The Point
Nanette
Sign Checks Out
So Unfair
And yet car insurance is cheaper for women....there's a difference between a stereotype and what is actual.
America Hates Women
This American YouTuber lost it when she came to New Zealand, because when she had kids in the US, she lost her career and had to start over. Then she found out that we get maternity leave and our prime minister used it during her first term, and it really hit this woman that whatever problems we have in this department, the US is next-level horrible about it. It really sucks and I hope the US improves that.
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I am raising my boys to treat girls equally and to treat them as friends and it has worked perfectly so far. What I didn’t know, until we moved to a new city, was my youngest (who was in grade two at the time) was known as the peacekeeper of his class between the boys and girls. A couple of the moms who were friends of my wife said that after we moved the boys started to bully the girls. Why can’t more parents teach their boys respect?
It's all about education and there needs to be a consistent and thorough programme to bring boys up to realise all these above things. We'll never get anywhere unless, straight from the start, we nurture youngsters to understand equality. It's harder to teach stubborn sexist adults, like Bryan Wilson below (By the way, if anyone knows him, report him to the police - he's a potential rapist), but some people will understand this and progress will be made. Eventually more people will realise that treating women unequally for any reason is unacceptable.
Something I really like about this article is that a ton of men are talking about the sexism and it's given me more tolerance for some men. It's a good reminder that despite how many donkeys there are, there are still plenty men that care about women and want to help the become equal.
The comments in this post show why people won't "discuss" this topic - a lot of people aren't able to discuss and jump to insults right away if an argument doesn't fit their narrative
This biggest insult is, if they disagree with you, that you are xxxphobic somehow!
Load More Replies...When I was a kid, every time I admired something fancy or expensive, one of my adult relatives would say, "You have expensive taste. You'd better find a rich man to marry you." People are so clueless about how they indoctrinate very young children with sexist ideas.
Very bitter pills to swallow but the truth is the truth and I will always support women (and matured men) to break these outdated shackles. Societies will never truly develop and grow until the things in these posts are appropriately acknowledged and addressed as they should be.
Somehow I have this feeling that it is actually worse in America than it is in Europe, or at least several countries in Europe. I, as a woman, don't connect with some things listed here that well and truly feel that things are different at some points in my country and in other European countries I have been a bit longer than just vacation.
I don't know about that... I've worked with a lot of Brits over the years and I'd say they're as sexist or more sexist than their American counterparts.
Load More Replies...Agree on most, but not on the parts about not teaching women to be safe. I can’t control violent, evil men, I can only mitigate my own risk level.
It's not that we shouldn't teach them to be safe! It's just that we need to teach also boys the proper behaviour so at some point women are safe and there's no need for all these
Load More Replies...No. Friends in the UK, Italy, and France have the same problems.
Load More Replies...I am raising my boys to treat girls equally and to treat them as friends and it has worked perfectly so far. What I didn’t know, until we moved to a new city, was my youngest (who was in grade two at the time) was known as the peacekeeper of his class between the boys and girls. A couple of the moms who were friends of my wife said that after we moved the boys started to bully the girls. Why can’t more parents teach their boys respect?
It's all about education and there needs to be a consistent and thorough programme to bring boys up to realise all these above things. We'll never get anywhere unless, straight from the start, we nurture youngsters to understand equality. It's harder to teach stubborn sexist adults, like Bryan Wilson below (By the way, if anyone knows him, report him to the police - he's a potential rapist), but some people will understand this and progress will be made. Eventually more people will realise that treating women unequally for any reason is unacceptable.
Something I really like about this article is that a ton of men are talking about the sexism and it's given me more tolerance for some men. It's a good reminder that despite how many donkeys there are, there are still plenty men that care about women and want to help the become equal.
The comments in this post show why people won't "discuss" this topic - a lot of people aren't able to discuss and jump to insults right away if an argument doesn't fit their narrative
This biggest insult is, if they disagree with you, that you are xxxphobic somehow!
Load More Replies...When I was a kid, every time I admired something fancy or expensive, one of my adult relatives would say, "You have expensive taste. You'd better find a rich man to marry you." People are so clueless about how they indoctrinate very young children with sexist ideas.
Very bitter pills to swallow but the truth is the truth and I will always support women (and matured men) to break these outdated shackles. Societies will never truly develop and grow until the things in these posts are appropriately acknowledged and addressed as they should be.
Somehow I have this feeling that it is actually worse in America than it is in Europe, or at least several countries in Europe. I, as a woman, don't connect with some things listed here that well and truly feel that things are different at some points in my country and in other European countries I have been a bit longer than just vacation.
I don't know about that... I've worked with a lot of Brits over the years and I'd say they're as sexist or more sexist than their American counterparts.
Load More Replies...Agree on most, but not on the parts about not teaching women to be safe. I can’t control violent, evil men, I can only mitigate my own risk level.
It's not that we shouldn't teach them to be safe! It's just that we need to teach also boys the proper behaviour so at some point women are safe and there's no need for all these
Load More Replies...No. Friends in the UK, Italy, and France have the same problems.
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