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When faced with injustice, you generally have three ways how you can react. You can ignore it, keep your head down, and get on with your day without making any waves. You can try to be sneaky and make subtle 5D chess moves to outplay the situation to your own advantage. Or you can call the injustice out and shine a light on it for everyone to see, bold as brass, sometimes using humor to do it. That way, it’s harder to hide the injustice.

This list is about the times that women and men called out sexism and misogyny, as shared on the r/TrollXChromosomes subreddit. People from all walks of life, from everyday employees and parents to skilled professionals, confronted sexism on social media head-on to help everyone. Upvote the responses by these brave people that you agree with and let us know what you think in the comment section below.

The r/TrollXChromosomes will be celebrating its 10th birthday on the last day of March. "We're currently in the middle of intensive planning for the 10th Cakeday celebrations. It'll be so much better than our 5th Cakeday shindig, folks will cry. But we can't tell you more than that, lest our plans are foiled," the moderators told Bored Panda when we reached out to them.

They’re also steadily moving toward the 1 million member mark. Currently, they’re at just over 802k, so consider joining them and giving them a boost. They post about a variety of topics. In their words, they’re a subreddit for “rage comics and other memes with a girly slant.”

However, this doesn’t change the fact that the subreddit is also home to some serious posts that show how deeply sexism is enrooted in our society. Even to this very day. And while sexism can be subtle and covert, it can also be very overt. One example of this is women getting harassed on the streets. So while it’s one thing to confront sexism online, it’s a whole other ball game when it’s done in real life.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agree. But they don’t actually respect that man. They just say “but he don’t mind if you have friends, right?” “I have a boyfriend” really only works because some men think it’s the only possible way THEY could be rejected when mama said they were so handsome!

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Bored Panda spoke about how women should respond if they’re ever in a situation where they’re either being catcalled or openly harassed on the street with Emily May, the co-founder and the executive director of ‘Hollaback!’ The organization aims to end harassment in all of its forms.

May explained that women should always trust their instincts. “Listen to what your gut is telling you. There is no ‘right’ or ‘perfect’ response to harassment; however, studies show that having some kind of response (either in the moment or later) can reduce the trauma associated with harassment. If you decide to respond, do it for you.”

She said that it’s always all right to do nothing, smile, and keep walking. It’s always up to you to decide what’s right for you and if you want to confront your harassers. It’s always harder to do this in-person than behind the safety of your screen.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But men do say "I hate women" and other statements like that all the time. Half of all Boomer jokes boil down to "wife bad".

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For those saying "not all men," that also proves the point. It was never the clothes. Still, people continue to blame women for dressing "provocatively."

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As May put it in an interview with Bored Panda, your safety is the main priority. However, if you feel safe and choose to respond to your harassers, there are three main approaches that you can take: setting boundaries, engaging bystanders, and documenting the situation. Let’s go into detail about each approach.

“Set the Boundary. Tell the person harassing you exactly what you want them to do and why. Look them in the eye and denounce their behavior with a strong, clear voice. Many people prefer to name the behavior. For example, you can say, ‘Do not [what they’re doing], that’s harassment.’ You can also simply say ‘that is not okay’ or ‘don’t speak to me like that.’ Say what feels natural to you,” May from ‘Hollaback!’ explained.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My friend told me she was so happy she is turning 40, because finally people have stopped with the baby questions, because now they think maybe she does not have kids because she is too old. And now she does not have do defend herself for not having kids. Jeez, why can't people just back off? Like, do people ask a women questions like that because they think they forgot to have kids and they need to be reminded?

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It isn’t logical, it’s sexist and ageist and pro forced birth, and by nature illogical.

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And you know... controlling themselves instead of blaming others for their actions...but I’m an atheist who is going to hell. What do I know, besides they have crazy lit parties in hell.

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“The important thing is that you aren’t apologetic in your response, and that you don’t engage with them after you set the boundary. Oftentimes, people who harass may try to argue with you or dismiss you through further conversation or by making fun of you. As tempting as it may be to get into a verbal war with them, we don’t recommend it. The attention may further feed their abusive behavior and cause the situation to escalate. Once you’ve said your piece, keep it moving.”

The second approach is engaging bystanders by telling them what’s going on and what they can do to help you. “Not all bystanders have been trained to respond, but typically people do understand that street harassment is not okay and they want to help you, so what can you do to ask for that help? You will need to loudly announce to people around you what the harasser just said or did and identify them, like: ‘That man in the red shirt is following me. I need help!’” May explained.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Absolutely!! We don't even wear makeup or paint our nails to impress men. If there were no men in the world we would look exactly like we do now - but wear much less clothes....

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The lesson that we can take from all this is that people need to keep their nose out of other people's private parts. End of story.

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She continued: “Then tell people what you want them to do, like, ‘Can you wait here with me? Can you call the police?’ Remember that it is okay to ask for help, it does not mean that you are weak, in fact, it means that you are strong because you’re acknowledging that street harassment, in fact, hurts.”

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep, in my country they give condoms for free, to help prevent spread of STDs, many people want them to do this with Tampons, Heck, even just get rid of the VAT on Tampons.

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The third and final approach is documenting the situation. If you feel that you’re safe and not currently in danger, you can consider taking a picture or a video of your experience. Or you can ask a bystander to do so.

“This could include the person harassing you, their license plate, or the scene. Some people use photos or videos to report an incident—for example, if the person was at work when this happened people may choose to report it to their employer.”

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"How convenient it was when we could assault them and they would just shut up... good ol' times"

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May detailed: “Others use it to share their story on social media or anonymously through ihollaback.org. Many find it to be empowering to turn the lens off of them and onto the person harassing them. It often has the potential to be hugely transformative. If it feels right to you then do it. It doesn’t work that way for everyone so ask yourself, ‘Does it feel right for me?’ or ‘Is there another way to respond?’”

According to May, there is no such thing as a ‘perfect’ response to harassment: “There is no such thing as a perfect response, this is not your fault, and you are not alone. Take the time to recover and employ strategies for taking care of yourself.”

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Most of the action taken to protect women from sexual assault helps men as well. The activism, even when based mostly on cases involving women, results in gender-neutral legislation.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes. Consent is the MOST BASIC thing to know... It's what makes us human.

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One thing that you can do is to develop a ‘quick ritual’ to help you ‘shake off’ what happened every time that you get harassed. Having a friend that you contact when this occurs can also help. Sharing your story with the people you trust can be very powerful and healing. What’s more, affirming to yourself that you deserve better and that you won’t let ‘the haters’ get you down is another response.

“The idea here is that you want you to develop resilience so that you can get out there and keep being you in the world,” May told Bored Panda.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only appropriate response to this is "Yes." If they're unaware enough to ask it, that's the answer they deserve

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Absolutely nothing wrong with braids. It's your hair... do with it what you want! Braids look great on her!

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t shame hypocrites for having the same amount or more sex than others. I just like seeing them flustered while they try to work out why it’s okay for them.

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I’m a fan of poet Dylan Thomas’ lines: “Do not go gentle into that good night. Rage, rage against the dying of the light.” While the context is important, you can interpret the words to mean that you should fight for what’s right instead of giving in to the pressure placed on you to stay quiet. Just remember that your safety is paramount: online and IRL.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, they cry you didn’t like sports? I figured it would be a relief to many men who don’t like the pressure of having to enjoy sports when they don’t. I’ve never dated a guy who seriously cares about sports. That’s so cringe and middle America basic.

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I look forward to my periods (kind of). I am either in a near death state of being, or I push myself at the gym to get through the things I hate at the same time. (Exercise is good for you. I can have a hate/love relationship with it.) EDIT: I have passed out, vomited, and were sent to the hospital from pms pains. For some odd reason, I push myself even more during “let the gates of hell open” week. I still got three tubs of ice cream.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless you're careful, boys are taught to believe their feelings are logic. Girls are gaslit to believe their logic are feelings.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was in high school, the teacher asked for boys to help her with carrying things. A girl asked why she's only asking boys. The teachers response "Its really heavy." I know much of the girls in that room can carry much more than my male body.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wait i don't understand what Matt Pearce is saying. Would someone explain?

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I spoke up. Straight after. I was torn, bruised, had witnesses. Managed to get the f*****s wedding ring with his name and date of marriage on it. And I was still made to feel like a liar who was making it up. By the police. THATS F*****G WHY WE DONT REPORT THIS S**T.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm so sorry to hear that. But yes sadly that is often the case when you report sexual abuse.

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You cannot know how you will behave in a situation until it happens to you. People tend to underestimate others' pain.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

*PTSD is REAL. Plus it's not socially acceptable to talk about it - it makes people uncomfortable or they assume you just want attention. So many layers here on why people dont or havent, but they should. It's a serious WAY TOO F*****G COMMON issue.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I developed Dissociative Identity Disorder after being assaulted. I literally COULDN'T EVEN REMEMBER that it had happened until the memory was triggered years later, when I started to finally understand my diagnosis.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same thing happened to me. I was diagnosed with dissociative PTSD disorder. I still struggle with it over 20 years later. Trauma really messes with your brain (literally).

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

100% this. When I was in high school, my boyfriend shoved my hand down his pants after I had repeatedly told him I didn't wanna touch his d**k. It was probably 10 years before I realized that what he did could be considered assault.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

iF i wAS SAILing THe TitAnic i woUld'VE liSTeNed TO tHe IcEBERg ALerts.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or you're laughed at and told to F off, because your husband can do what he wants when he wants.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was told this in court by the guys lawyer....was also asked what I was dressed like, that I was asking for it, and that also that he was the victim....when we do say something we are not believed, treated like trash, forced to see the asshole in court....and then see him get no more than a slap in the wrist.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is victim blaming. People want to think they would not have made mistake x so THEY would never get raped. Which isn't true, it can happen to anyone, but it feels instantly SAFE. Same with saying 'aren't you over it yet, just move on' et cetera. THEY don't want to think about the bad thing they hope they will never have to experience because they don't want to feel powerless or akward. Also tonic immobility. Over 70! % of men and women freeze or coöperate when attacked. This isn't a reaction you can train away, it just happens. So please never ask 'why didn't you say no or why didn't you scream or struggle'.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also please tell your kids this. Telling them they may say no or hit the other person or something sounds like the right advice but it might also mean they will be more hesitant to tell you or another adult because they should have know what to do, right?

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank you! I was assaulted when I was 6, try getting a 6 year old to develop adult logic and reasoning skills.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It took me almost 10 years to realize what happened to me was assault. I was so disgusted when I realized that no, 27 year olds going after 15/16 year olds is NOT normal. That’s how strong of a mental grip that person had on me for so long.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Plus, girls and women that DO speak up right away are often shamed or told "I don't want to hear about this".

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's called "shock from trauma", and you are also afraid, as I was, back in my teens, that your own father will beat you to s**t b/c you got raped. That you will be told you deserved it. That you will be told you're upset the boy didn't ask you on a date. That that that.... But never that you need to come forward, it's gonna be okay, we'll take care of you.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is true that a lot of women (and men) don't know they were sexually assaulted because the practice has become second nature in all over the world. But I think the bigger reason why women/girls don't speak up soon is that we are all dealing with the PTSD part of being sexually assaulted. Sexual Assault is not just a physical attack but an emotional and mental one as well. It takes a lot to work yourself back up to be strong enough to have to relive the offense to talk about it without breaking down.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Didn't know that what happened shouldn't have. Thought they had agency and were made to feel 'complicit' Tried telling someone and were disbelieved. Now, 20 or 30 years later, they realise what happened and that they were groomed, had no way of giving consent and think that as an adult they WILL now be believed. Meanwhile the idiots ask 'why did you wait?'

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was 4 and 12 when I was assaulted and 15 when I realised it

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was younger and was very open with one of my friends, he seemed to understand. After I told him it wasnt okay to want to knife f**k your ex gf, he told me I should have been raped and all this horrible s**t. I never talked to him again. But that made me not open up again to anyone else for literally years. People are the worst.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm so sorry to hear that... People can also be the best though. I hope you have found or will find people that are worth your trust.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I actually had a question about that if y’all willing to help... when I was eight I knew a deacon at my church, I was an alter server and he liked me. He was kinda old, married, had grandkids. One day at another church, he kissed me on the forehead. It made me feel really uncomfortable, but I didn’t think much of if. Obviously it’s not as bad as what some people have been through, but would that be considered a breaching of a barrier? I knew him in a professional relationship, and my parents didn’t know him very well. Opinions?

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was terrified *I* would get in trouble for it, be ostracized in my male dominated field, lose my job and my residency training position, lose my chance to become a surgeon.... because of what HE did. AND I was afraid people would think I didn't deserve the job I had, since I was probably "only hired by him because he wanted me physically". So I never told. Of the few people I have shared this story with, some still like to Monday-morning-quarter-back and tell me I should have reported him, and I'm like "bish, shut up, I'm sorry I even shared, it's none of your business". Fast forward to Brett Kavanaugh, and even VP Kamala Harris. She dated someone at work and all the sudden it becomes "well that's the only reason she advanced her career, was by sleeping her way up". THIS!!! THIS sort of s**t is WHY WE DON'T COME FORWARD!!! We're just trying to live our damn lives and have jobs in fields that previously were only men. I'm sorry I have a begins too.our liveour damn

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was telling someone a story about my childhood as to why I think I get so tense at being touched and, as I went on, he started to get a weird look on his face. When I asked him about it, he said 'Sounds to me like assault.' Asked him what he meant. 'You were held down and repeatedly tickled while saying no, right?' 'Yeah.' 'Your friends kept pinching your sides even after you kept telling them to stop, right?' 'Yeah, they thought my reaction was funny.' 'Sounds to me like assault, dude.' I LITERALLY had not made that connection. I was told, as a child, when I'd stalk away to my room after being ticked, that I'm overreacting and pouting.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Think of how that affects a child's mind. You're told to say no and tell people you don't like that if anyone touches you in a place you don't like, ANYWHERE on your body. What does it do when it's your family ignoring your will in such a fashion. It doesn't have to be sexual assault to be assault.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Look at all these comments, this s**t is way too common. It happens to all of us and yes I agree until you are in the that situation, sit down and be quiet. Better yet, educate yourself.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Got this absolute GEM from an (ex) friend of mine: "Well, don't go telling people that [recent ex-boyfriend] was abusive, they'll just think you're being vengeful." - for the record, no it wasn't a fabrication - he was horribly abusive, just not in a way that showed the wounds front 'n' center. I was told by another woman to keep it quite because it would make me look like a horrible person.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The problem with this is, most girls are not sat down and talked to about WHAT exactly sexual assault IS. Sitting young girls down and explaining to them what sexual assault IS, how to deal with it, how to get away from it, how to report it, should be taught before any talks about drugs, sex, or schooling.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've reported right away and they treated me like I didn't matter and tried brushing it all off. I don't blame other victims for not coming forward. It sucks..so much..

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not to mention how they are treated by "the system" once they do speak up.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Girls can't talk about it because we're hurt, humiliated, frightened, disgusted, wounded, shell-shocked and just trying to survive it.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was sexually harassed when i was 8 and didnt realize it until i was 11.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The problem is that over time our memories are very unreliable. I vividly recall a road trip I went on with some friends my freshman year in college. I was recalling a story about it to one of them and he said "I hadn't even met you then. You weren't on that road trip." Bro, I VIVIDLY remembered this trip and told the story down to the smallest detail. Well, it turns out, he was right. I didn't meet him until the summer after that road trip happened. And photos on social media backed that up. I was indeed NOT on that road trip. I had heard the stories enough times from enough people that I could recall all the details of a trip I had convinced myself I went on. That's how bad our brains are at remembering stuff, and that's why we have a statute of limitations on rape claims. That's why when an accusation is made, it's good to have a friend, family member or doctor come forth to back up the claim... someone who was aware of the situation at the time it happened.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am happy to hear you would speak up about being assaulted (sexually or otherwise) right away if it were to ever happen, I wish more people would so these idiots can be put behind bars. When some people are sexually assaulted though they feel extremely vulnerable afterward, especially if their life or the lives of their loved ones are threatened if they were to notify anyone. There is 0% feeling of security after someone is assaulted, so what is said, what they are threatened with is very real and very believable (at least at the time being if not much longer), which can cause them to keep it to themselves.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

lets not even start with the emotional and mental torture most abusers inflict before and afterwards.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But would a man, who says that, report it if a woman sexually assaulted him?

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Isabella R.W.
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No. I know the tweet said girls and women, but it's also true for everyone. Most people who get assaulted don't report it because they think they're not gonna be believed or people would blame them for it :/

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What you can't tell if you were assaulted? Must not have been to bad... and why only girls!? (except in child cases)

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dillon, I pray to every known god that you do not/never will have kids. No sons so you don't teach them to think in your backwards ways, and no daughters so they don't have to deal woth your sh!t. Different forms of assault and harassment are so normalized that a lot of people don't realize that they are bad. And if a person experiences a traumatic experience, often their brain will block out the memory or try to rationaloze it. You probably complain about there not being a national men's day on women's day. (Which, btw, there is.)

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Yes, Just Like That

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Pull yourself up by your bootstraps" used to mean doing something literally impossible. That you have to perform a miracle to succeed.

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Misogyny Running Deep

Misogyny Running Deep

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even in this 19th century arrangement, the women did not/do not live "for free". Women have been working (outside the home) throughout history, and there was a time that the husband legally owned all their earnings. And in addition, women in a "traditional" arrangement are usually expected to do all the cooking, cleaning, childcare (where applicable), and miscellaneous housework.

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This Explains A Whole F**king Lot, Actually

This Explains A Whole F**king Lot, Actually

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Spoiler alert. Quite a bit of females/women perpetuate the misogyny they’ve learned from other females/women and a society that treats them less. They teach us to police others who fall outside of their ideals, breeding another generation of misogynists. Gross.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She is right, you cannot be prosecuted by a state for something you did in another state, as its law did not apply on you when you did it.

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I Don't Know Why This Made Me Laugh So Hard

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Planned Parenthood caught my grandma's cervical cancer. She was over 60. She could afford the GYN there. The end. PP wins.

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"Why Do They Say 'Women And Children First'? What About The Men? Why Is Society Anti-Men?"

"Why Do They Say 'Women And Children First'? What About The Men? Why Is Society Anti-Men?"

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Women and children are far more likely than men to die in disasters. The men on the Titanic had to be forced at gun point to let women and children take their places in life boats.

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