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50 Women Who Called Out Sexist Things That Are Still Blatantly Accepted
Interview
When faced with injustice, you generally have three ways how you can react. You can ignore it, keep your head down, and get on with your day without making any waves. You can try to be sneaky and make subtle 5D chess moves to outplay the situation to your own advantage. Or you can call the injustice out and shine a light on it for everyone to see, bold as brass, sometimes using humor to do it. That way, it’s harder to hide the injustice.
This list is about the times that women and men called out sexism and misogyny, as shared on the r/TrollXChromosomes subreddit. People from all walks of life, from everyday employees and parents to skilled professionals, confronted sexism on social media head-on to help everyone. Upvote the responses by these brave people that you agree with and let us know what you think in the comment section below.
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With Pleasure, Julianne
Too Many Of Us Have An Uncle Randy
I Agree
The r/TrollXChromosomes will be celebrating its 10th birthday on the last day of March. "We're currently in the middle of intensive planning for the 10th Cakeday celebrations. It'll be so much better than our 5th Cakeday shindig, folks will cry. But we can't tell you more than that, lest our plans are foiled," the moderators told Bored Panda when we reached out to them.
They’re also steadily moving toward the 1 million member mark. Currently, they’re at just over 802k, so consider joining them and giving them a boost. They post about a variety of topics. In their words, they’re a subreddit for “rage comics and other memes with a girly slant.”
However, this doesn’t change the fact that the subreddit is also home to some serious posts that show how deeply sexism is enrooted in our society. Even to this very day. And while sexism can be subtle and covert, it can also be very overt. One example of this is women getting harassed on the streets. So while it’s one thing to confront sexism online, it’s a whole other ball game when it’s done in real life.
Just Going To Leave This One Here
This Hurts Deep Because It’s True
Agree. But they don’t actually respect that man. They just say “but he don’t mind if you have friends, right?” “I have a boyfriend” really only works because some men think it’s the only possible way THEY could be rejected when mama said they were so handsome!
I’ve Never Heard This Explained So Succinctly (Credit Fu**k_patriarchy On Instagram)
Bored Panda spoke about how women should respond if they’re ever in a situation where they’re either being catcalled or openly harassed on the street with Emily May, the co-founder and the executive director of ‘Hollaback!’ The organization aims to end harassment in all of its forms.
May explained that women should always trust their instincts. “Listen to what your gut is telling you. There is no ‘right’ or ‘perfect’ response to harassment; however, studies show that having some kind of response (either in the moment or later) can reduce the trauma associated with harassment. If you decide to respond, do it for you.”
She said that it’s always all right to do nothing, smile, and keep walking. It’s always up to you to decide what’s right for you and if you want to confront your harassers. It’s always harder to do this in-person than behind the safety of your screen.
Yuuuuup
As An Extremely Gay Lady, I’d Like To Co-Sign The F**k Out Of This
For those saying "not all men," that also proves the point. It was never the clothes. Still, people continue to blame women for dressing "provocatively."
As May put it in an interview with Bored Panda, your safety is the main priority. However, if you feel safe and choose to respond to your harassers, there are three main approaches that you can take: setting boundaries, engaging bystanders, and documenting the situation. Let’s go into detail about each approach.
“Set the Boundary. Tell the person harassing you exactly what you want them to do and why. Look them in the eye and denounce their behavior with a strong, clear voice. Many people prefer to name the behavior. For example, you can say, ‘Do not [what they’re doing], that’s harassment.’ You can also simply say ‘that is not okay’ or ‘don’t speak to me like that.’ Say what feels natural to you,” May from ‘Hollaback!’ explained.
Good Lesson
My friend told me she was so happy she is turning 40, because finally people have stopped with the baby questions, because now they think maybe she does not have kids because she is too old. And now she does not have do defend herself for not having kids. Jeez, why can't people just back off? Like, do people ask a women questions like that because they think they forgot to have kids and they need to be reminded?
Where’s The Lie
It isn’t logical, it’s sexist and ageist and pro forced birth, and by nature illogical.
Funny How Rarely This Comes Up With Christians
“The important thing is that you aren’t apologetic in your response, and that you don’t engage with them after you set the boundary. Oftentimes, people who harass may try to argue with you or dismiss you through further conversation or by making fun of you. As tempting as it may be to get into a verbal war with them, we don’t recommend it. The attention may further feed their abusive behavior and cause the situation to escalate. Once you’ve said your piece, keep it moving.”
The second approach is engaging bystanders by telling them what’s going on and what they can do to help you. “Not all bystanders have been trained to respond, but typically people do understand that street harassment is not okay and they want to help you, so what can you do to ask for that help? You will need to loudly announce to people around you what the harasser just said or did and identify them, like: ‘That man in the red shirt is following me. I need help!’” May explained.
I Want To Meet This Heroic Mystery Woman
Absolutely!! We don't even wear makeup or paint our nails to impress men. If there were no men in the world we would look exactly like we do now - but wear much less clothes....
Be A Proud Spinster !
She continued: “Then tell people what you want them to do, like, ‘Can you wait here with me? Can you call the police?’ Remember that it is okay to ask for help, it does not mean that you are weak, in fact, it means that you are strong because you’re acknowledging that street harassment, in fact, hurts.”
The Only Way To Get Republicans To Care About Black Lives
So many issues approached in just a dozen words. Clever girl.
The List Could Go On And On...
Try it with race too. "First White Astronaut", "First White President."
They Should Both Be Free
The third and final approach is documenting the situation. If you feel that you’re safe and not currently in danger, you can consider taking a picture or a video of your experience. Or you can ask a bystander to do so.
“This could include the person harassing you, their license plate, or the scene. Some people use photos or videos to report an incident—for example, if the person was at work when this happened people may choose to report it to their employer.”
Women Are Not Free Therapy
This Is So Accurate
This Tweet Hits Hard
May detailed: “Others use it to share their story on social media or anonymously through ihollaback.org. Many find it to be empowering to turn the lens off of them and onto the person harassing them. It often has the potential to be hugely transformative. If it feels right to you then do it. It doesn’t work that way for everyone so ask yourself, ‘Does it feel right for me?’ or ‘Is there another way to respond?’”
According to May, there is no such thing as a ‘perfect’ response to harassment: “There is no such thing as a perfect response, this is not your fault, and you are not alone. Take the time to recover and employ strategies for taking care of yourself.”
I Swear, The Audacity
Most of the action taken to protect women from sexual assault helps men as well. The activism, even when based mostly on cases involving women, results in gender-neutral legislation.
I was raped when I was in high school, but the guy who did that faced no consequence because I am a boy too so "it does not matter".
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When women talk about the problems we face in the world, men often join in the conversation to point out something that affects them and ask why isn't anybody doing anything about this thing, be it paternity leaves or other things like that. Dudes, all women aren't your mothers. We have so much to fix that f***s up our lives, maybe you guys should stick together and work on making things better instead of just asking who's going to do it for you? Ye, sure, there are men that are working to make things better, but I'm just so tired of men busting into conversations about women's issues to bring up their issues.
Not to mention most of the men who say 'happens to men too' are the same men who laugh at the idea of a woman sexually assaulting a man or think he should have enjoyed it. They're not saying it happens to men too because they actually care about male victims of sexual assault. They just resent having to give a s**t about anything to do with women's problems.
Why use “girls” instead of “women” but will use “men” and “male” instead of “boys”? Word choice is important
Yeah gonna call bull crap on this one. Read the comments in any one of these examples and all it reads for PAGES is women have it worse or harder. You. An read thousands of women on here that state just that. Argument is moot.
The societal view on sexual assault for all genders is messed up. One is not like the other, but they are the same, it's rape! So how about we stop using genders when talking about it and just call it what it is, Rape! It doesn't matter which gender/race/culture is assaulted more, what matters it that it shouldn't be happening at all! 1 person is too many!
Yeah but let’s be honest, most men can protect themselves from sexual assault better than a woman.
Exactly, the rates for sexual assault towards women are way more too.
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I’m going to be seriously downvoted, but I’ve met a girl like this.
i'm a woman and i do always think " men get r*ped too and (some, if not most) are told to 'man up' when it happens, as if they have to want to do it just because they're men" but i see most men walking in the dark alone with confidence that nothing is gonna happen to them, and when i see a woman walking alone they have that fast pace of walking, head down and always trying to avoid people. i'm like this as well, and i do always hold my keys in my hand, and i do always call someone on the phone in case someone starts walking after me (and that has happened often) to say to the phone " yea i'm almost there, you can start walking towards me". it's a very bad nasty fear and no one is 100% safe from it, it can happen to anyone ( no matter how old and how they look and what their gender is). but i don't put men down when they speak of male suicide rapes and that happens to women too, even kids! so i expect them to also not try to make it seem like men fear r*pe as much as women do
YUP. The privileged, the oppressors... the ones who have always held the majority of power - it's like their automatic comeback "But what about uuuuuusss???" - Seriously... in ALL situations... Black Lives Matter? Well... the response "But ALL lives matter!" - and like above Sexual Assault? "Well, you're not the only one"... methinks yer missin' the POINT.
I've worked with some women who have talked about being harassed or assaulted.........and I get angry. So angry I must make that douchebag pay for it. But they always refuse to tell me who it was. Some of us guys don't tolerate this, and don't take it very well. NOBODY, female or male, young or old, should have to go through anything like that!!! And those that do it........well, I can't say on here.
actually you DO find girls/ women that do this, a lot of posts on male domestic abuse have plenty of comments about how women suffer it more and how the male victimes finally now what its like for us
The correct response is more along the lines of "where is this person so I can surgically remove their teeth with my bare hands"
Or the fact that it literally doesnt happen to women... kinda like military deaths, prison murders, overall murders, suicides, workplace accidents... etc.
because unlike suicide, nobody tries to pretend that DV is a single sex issue. be a man wlaking into a police station to report sexual harrassment. Prepare to wait a while, whilst the police laugh themselves unconscious. Now have a woman tell you that her sister suicided. I'll bet nobody laughs at that, or says "But I bet you enjoyed it, why complain". So much for your "basic empathy"
As a man, I’ve never responded that it happens to men too. I’ve never heard my male friends say that either. It’s almost like there are phantom men flying around invisibly saying all this crazy s**t.
I haven't personally either but if you look at all the comments on this post you'll see evidence of it.
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Funny, the mere fact that you said this out loud, means you don't. "We". Wow. All women walk around like Dianna Troy?
It depends on the context. Personally I find the many bad man vs poor women and help the girls/women (as if boys/men do not need the help because it happens to girls more) et cetera posts very annoying. Being a feminist isn't bashing men for pointing out well actually, we get raped too or women do x or z too.
Nope. The victim can learn to handle the fall-out of such an assault, but it can't be "healed".
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Never heard men saying "happens to men too". Did you have a bad dream?
Just because you haven't, doesn't mean EVERYONE else hasn't.
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This isn't true. I've seen plenty of women belittle male suicide rates.
Then those particular women were assholes. Almost all of us think that a life is- A life! It doesn't matter who it is, what gender, what race, it's a life that should be cherished
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The more I reread this post the stronger I dislike it; this is just as toxically sexist as what is being called out in this topic, it's a pure "us vs. them". Second half it's "NEVER" because all girls (well, women I'd say but not my words) have empathy.... Yeah right y'all heard of Tomi Lahren and her equivalents, right? First half stating that [all] men will first respond like that... sorry no; not even half true. Yes you get that --- from some who experienced it themselves (offered empathy of shared experience), and yes faaaar too commonly from those where it's just trivialising "whataboutism"; but I've seen more 'white knight' vigilantist daydreaming of action/avenging (also not super as a reaction!) as well as the empathy/concern you're looking for. Men are a mixed bag of fruits and nuts, not a uniform block of cartoon villains.
The general trend you describe is legit in the US, at least to my knowledge, but realistically, it varies across cultures, and even within subcultures.
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Any time anyone start a sentence with literally, you can expect it to be the literal opposite.
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This Is What We Want. Not The Future, Now
One thing that you can do is to develop a ‘quick ritual’ to help you ‘shake off’ what happened every time that you get harassed. Having a friend that you contact when this occurs can also help. Sharing your story with the people you trust can be very powerful and healing. What’s more, affirming to yourself that you deserve better and that you won’t let ‘the haters’ get you down is another response.
“The idea here is that you want you to develop resilience so that you can get out there and keep being you in the world,” May told Bored Panda.
So Basically
The only appropriate response to this is "Yes." If they're unaware enough to ask it, that's the answer they deserve
Let Her Name Be Known
Invasive, Huh?
My Boyfriend Didn’t Appreciate This One As Much As I Did
Success Is The Best Revenge
Absolutely nothing wrong with braids. It's your hair... do with it what you want! Braids look great on her!
Unfortunately True
I’m a fan of poet Dylan Thomas’ lines: “Do not go gentle into that good night. Rage, rage against the dying of the light.” While the context is important, you can interpret the words to mean that you should fight for what’s right instead of giving in to the pressure placed on you to stay quiet. Just remember that your safety is paramount: online and IRL.
F**k The Patriarchy
Truth
Mansplaining Fail
It Never F**king Ends
Wow, they cry you didn’t like sports? I figured it would be a relief to many men who don’t like the pressure of having to enjoy sports when they don’t. I’ve never dated a guy who seriously cares about sports. That’s so cringe and middle America basic.
I look forward to my periods (kind of). I am either in a near death state of being, or I push myself at the gym to get through the things I hate at the same time. (Exercise is good for you. I can have a hate/love relationship with it.) EDIT: I have passed out, vomited, and were sent to the hospital from pms pains. For some odd reason, I push myself even more during “let the gates of hell open” week. I still got three tubs of ice cream.
"Women R So Emotional"
Yep
And The Sinister Version, "If She Has Boobs, She's Biologically Ready For Sex"
Bless The Boys
Unless you're careful, boys are taught to believe their feelings are logic. Girls are gaslit to believe their logic are feelings.
So True
Girls Are Always Taught How To Stay Safe, It's Not As Common To Teach Boys To Not Create Unsafe Situations
How Come Tho?
F**king Truth
Yes, Just Like That
Misogyny Running Deep
Even in this 19th century arrangement, the women did not/do not live "for free". Women have been working (outside the home) throughout history, and there was a time that the husband legally owned all their earnings. And in addition, women in a "traditional" arrangement are usually expected to do all the cooking, cleaning, childcare (where applicable), and miscellaneous housework.
This Explains A Whole F**king Lot, Actually
Unconstitutionality
She is right, you cannot be prosecuted by a state for something you did in another state, as its law did not apply on you when you did it.
I Don't Know Why This Made Me Laugh So Hard
Planned Parenthood caught my grandma's cervical cancer. She was over 60. She could afford the GYN there. The end. PP wins.
"Why Do They Say 'Women And Children First'? What About The Men? Why Is Society Anti-Men?"
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for the men who feel attacked or sad in the comments, I feel attacked and sad when I, a thirteen-year-old girl, get catcalled for wearing leggings or dress coded for "distracting the boys from their education by wearing a tank top in 100-degree weather". This society is so inherently sexist and when you say that people speaking out about their experiences is hurting your feelings, perhaps you are the issue.
Heres one of the big ones: If a woman has a lot of sex, she's a sl*t or a wh*re, if a man has a lot of sex he's a "legend" a "proper lad" etc...
And once labelled , a woman is fair game for sexual violence
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Today I was treated to two instances of being talked down to because of my gender and I was mega p*ssed. Where did this happen? In the two hobby shops here in Melbourne CBD, Victoria Australia.How did this happen? Because I dared to go in and ask got something I needed but apparently these men knew more about what I needed than I did, even after I already told them both I knew exactly what I was after and what it was for. They’re both lucky I was able to keep my temper and not give them both a fkn black eye. Female staff member just looked the other way and my bf just stood there and did nothing :( I’m sick of being treated like an idiot just because I’m female 😡
YES. I am a very artsy person, I also know taekwondo. I was going to Michaels to get some wire and some soggy buttwaffle decided to mansplain to me, A 12 YR OLD, what wire thickness is. I grabbed the wire, told him he was wrong, paid and left. Another time I was practicing taekwondo at the park and one boy, probably 14 or so, decided to "correct" my form. I gave him a 50% strength uppercut. He was knocked down, no damage done. Do. Not. Ever. Try. To. Correct. A. Black. belt's. Form.
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Dudes in comments be like: "Oh I felt super uncomfortable reading this article. Why are you posting stuff like this ?Boo #notallmen". Bro, if you felt uncomfortable reading about this s**t in an article think about how it feels for the women that have to experience this kind of crap themselves, in real life, all the goddammed time. Hint: it's quite a bit worse than uncomfortable. Bonus: implying that the reason why you are an unempathetic, whiny, sexist amoeba is because all the "woke" people are so aggressive and rude to you about this topic is pretty f*****g pathetic
The men who are heroes are the ones who have leaped up when they see or hear a waitress respond to a guy who just groped her, and take that pos out of his chair and grab him between his legs. Only then does a guy truly understand how it is for a woman to be groped by a man?
Load More Replies... The level of anger this article has generated saddens me. We still have so far to go. Acknowledging there's a problem is the first step in resolving it. It does not mean anyone here has been personally accused. As for the 'what-about'-ers, it's not a competition.
I just went through the list and 88% of the posts were about a specific guy "this guy said this to me", or about a specific type of guy "men who say ___ are jerks". Yet people are crying in the comments here "Why are they blaming all men? I didn't do anything? You are so mean!!". They DIDN'T blame all men. You clearly need to work on your reading comprehension skills.
hello i am from the future. (This is still an issue in 2022)
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I feel sad for women who put up with this crap. Even more so, for the ones who married assholes and assumed they would change over time...
It’s articles like these that remind me that learning more about women’s issues is a continuous process because these are continuous problems. Thank you everyone for sharing, it’s helpful to see discussion.
The amount of angry comments speak for themselves. I don’t remember the women of bored panda being this pressed when there was a post addressing how toxic masculinity harms men.
One thing that pisses me off most about `pro-life` is that they really think that a some growing cells have more rights and need more protection then a whole living human being. And as soon as a baby is born when someone couldn't get an abortion those same people are nowhere to be found
Maybe you don't understand that, so I will make it clear for you : murder is wrong.
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I was a competitive figure skater during high school, and my gym teacher refused to let me do any of the 'strong' exercises (ie using any weights over 5IBS) because I was a girl. My best friend at the time would always trade w/ me after the teacher forced me to only use the light ones b/c he wasn't able to use the 15IBS, but I could (in situps and the like). Also going to college and being told that women should stay at home to fix the house up nice and have dinner ready when the man walks into the door, and shouldn't be in classes learning how to fix cars. The high school also refused to let the girls wear jeans and tshirts, only long dresses, polos and either skirts or dress pants. The boys usually wore tshirts and jeans.
#1: me, 7 years old: Mom? When I sit on pop-pop's lap, he touches me down there. Mom: Then don't sit on his lap! me: to my 7 year old self; if it happens again, it's my fault. It did. Many, many times. Until I was 15. Sadly, he was widowed and lived with us, his only daughter's family cause he couldn't live with his sons as they would clash like roosters.
It’s insane that, that sick lowlife of a so-called, ‘grandfather’ did that to you— it’s also insane that your mother and any other person didn’t call the police on him to throw him in prison.
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I was listening Willow Smith "21st Century Girl" while reading this and it saddened me and the word on her shirt said "Boys need to learn" or something. True they do *I am 2 lazy 2 go back nd check *
Articles like this make me sick.. I had to stop reading. It's always an endless circle of arguments... Screen devices have made it so much easier for people to say offensive things to one another. Disgusting..
I feel a lot of these things are only in America, but can any women tell me if I'm right?
No this is everywhere. I'm in nz and there is a super toxic culture for women and for men
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This scratches my nerves very uncomfortably. I am male. I might have done some of these things. Don't get me wrong, I am in control of my libido as much as I am in control of my aggressions or possessive impulses - I don't steal, I don't hit, I don't molest, let alone rape. But I do have impulses. I do have the impulse to take what isn't mine, to assault who did me wrong, to... again take what is not mine. I think we all have, but I hope from sentient beings that we can and will control them. But this sad experiences of so many girls and women tell different stories. I don't know what to do, I don't know how to react. Ignoring what I have been taught as gallantery - open doors, taking the heavy lifting, treating ladies like fragile, delicate beings - strikes me as rude behaviour, but doing so is subliminal sexist. Offering company or having an eye over the drinks of girls or butting in in a quarrel, I just end up looking like the next offender waiting in line...
Reading this again, it sounds like the "it's not me" whine you're so rightfully sick off. Sorry. What can I, as an individual male, do - other than not being that guy and making sure my sons won't be, either? Of course I should step in where I see missing consent. But: a) I once got mobbed by a bunch of sickos because "their girl" was polite to me and I was polite to her. We're talking about holding the door and thanks... So please don't assume that every man in your vicinity has the balls to jump in like superman but just doesn't care. Those of us who do care don't have the balls to jump in, because we are the ones that get mauled by those sexist macho sickos, too. b) more than once I got berated by the girl since obviously I disturbed their crude mating ritual where she wants to be stalked after her first 3 "No!"s. She wants no softy gay limp noodle but a real man who can take her like he pleases... like what the hell, girl?! Ill try to be a better person, to help where Im welcome.
Load More Replies... My parents tell me to wear pants when my dad's friend cones over, I was wearing a hoodie and jeans, he stared me up and down like a piece of meat, his wife was right there, my mom stepped in for me but my dad didn't do anything. Please teach your boys respect so they don't grow up to put other girls in my situation, which is nothing compared to what others go through
The U.S. is really heading in the wrong direction. How is it possible in this day and age to ban abortions? I'm glad I live in Norway, it seems there are a lot more issues between genders than where I live.
I know im going to get downvoted to hell for this but some the post is toxic and rude. Abuse does apply to everyone. I know abuse can occur but it does happen to everyone.
Still wondering why BP insists on posting articles that do nothing but incite people to name call, half the comments are hidden because they're rude, obnoxious and mean, lots of the usual America Bashing, lots of down votes for anyone who politely and intelligently doesn't post with the accepted mindset of the other BP members, lots of misinformation and the usual division into "you" them" Republicans" Americans" you're ignorant" garbage as "comments". Of all the laughing and crying I've done on this site today, it all slams to a halt and I leave because I just don't see a reason to choose and feature articles that are just going to upset people and bring out the trolls or hit a nerve. There's so much out there so why fish around on Reddit and Twitter and IG and FB for the most dividing stories out there? This site is so much fun when it's interesting and based on the smart, friendly, educating commonalities of us all. Why throw a bomb in all the time and blow things up, BP?
Found this poem on Reddit that I think applies here. Credit to u/Poetry_duderino for it. "Why is it that when she says it, it's all right? Why is it that when I mention it, it ends in a fight? Why are women allowed to do more than men? They say that women are oppressed, and I agree. But in a way, no man is free. We don't mean to be rude, but whatever we do. We say something wrong, and everyone gets mad at you. One wrong word, one wrong leap. You take the jump and it ends in a heap. A bunch of trash, you're put by. It can hurt someone so much, they want to die." All the stuff that people say about us dudes hurts, too. Keep that in mind before posting things like this.
That post is not about diminishing the struggles of men under patriarchy. It is entirely about pointing out the bullshit women endure. Try to walk in women's shoes for a minute, it won't harm you. Some empathy maybe.
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We need to stop making women responsible for unwanted pregnancies. The truth of the matter is that men are responsible, 100%! Outraged? Think that's a ridiculous comment? Consider this then , men have control over where and when they ejaculated. Women have no control over when they ovulate unless they are on the pill. No sperm no pregnant.
Really, the problem isn't men. The problem is that all birth control methods available on the market have some kind of disadvantage and the whole burden is usually placed on women (IUDs, pills, etc.) because we're lacking birth control methods for men! They have no real alternatives between condoms and a vasectomy.
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No one claimed all men were guilty, that's dismissive and a copout. Also there was no man bashing in the article. Might want to examine why your response was so defensive.
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There are tons of instances on BP where they list the accomplishments of men! You just turn a blind eye on those, don't you?
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Ryan Deschanel - shut up with your utter crap about abortions.
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When you share a thought that people believe is wrong, they will tell you that it is wrong. That's how free speech works... or did you think that only you are allowed to share your thoughts?
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Are you for real? That thing that just flew past your head is the point of this article.
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Nah it’s just that you don’t care about issues minorities experience. You can only see yourself, so, naturally you’ll always be a victim.
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Oh jeez. It's not meant to paint all men as bad. It's highlighting the toxicity built into our culture, and how it impacts us women who experience it. And it's guaranteed that whenever women raise these issues, it's rebutted with 'not all men'. It's diverting from the whole point of the article. Think about how uncomfortable the women are who experience it
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for the men who feel attacked or sad in the comments, I feel attacked and sad when I, a thirteen-year-old girl, get catcalled for wearing leggings or dress coded for "distracting the boys from their education by wearing a tank top in 100-degree weather". This society is so inherently sexist and when you say that people speaking out about their experiences is hurting your feelings, perhaps you are the issue.
Heres one of the big ones: If a woman has a lot of sex, she's a sl*t or a wh*re, if a man has a lot of sex he's a "legend" a "proper lad" etc...
And once labelled , a woman is fair game for sexual violence
Load More Replies... Today I was treated to two instances of being talked down to because of my gender and I was mega p*ssed. Where did this happen? In the two hobby shops here in Melbourne CBD, Victoria Australia.How did this happen? Because I dared to go in and ask got something I needed but apparently these men knew more about what I needed than I did, even after I already told them both I knew exactly what I was after and what it was for. They’re both lucky I was able to keep my temper and not give them both a fkn black eye. Female staff member just looked the other way and my bf just stood there and did nothing :( I’m sick of being treated like an idiot just because I’m female 😡
YES. I am a very artsy person, I also know taekwondo. I was going to Michaels to get some wire and some soggy buttwaffle decided to mansplain to me, A 12 YR OLD, what wire thickness is. I grabbed the wire, told him he was wrong, paid and left. Another time I was practicing taekwondo at the park and one boy, probably 14 or so, decided to "correct" my form. I gave him a 50% strength uppercut. He was knocked down, no damage done. Do. Not. Ever. Try. To. Correct. A. Black. belt's. Form.
Load More Replies... A lot of dìcks are about to be in a twist over this one.
Dudes in comments be like: "Oh I felt super uncomfortable reading this article. Why are you posting stuff like this ?Boo #notallmen". Bro, if you felt uncomfortable reading about this s**t in an article think about how it feels for the women that have to experience this kind of crap themselves, in real life, all the goddammed time. Hint: it's quite a bit worse than uncomfortable. Bonus: implying that the reason why you are an unempathetic, whiny, sexist amoeba is because all the "woke" people are so aggressive and rude to you about this topic is pretty f*****g pathetic
The men who are heroes are the ones who have leaped up when they see or hear a waitress respond to a guy who just groped her, and take that pos out of his chair and grab him between his legs. Only then does a guy truly understand how it is for a woman to be groped by a man?
Load More Replies... The level of anger this article has generated saddens me. We still have so far to go. Acknowledging there's a problem is the first step in resolving it. It does not mean anyone here has been personally accused. As for the 'what-about'-ers, it's not a competition.
I just went through the list and 88% of the posts were about a specific guy "this guy said this to me", or about a specific type of guy "men who say ___ are jerks". Yet people are crying in the comments here "Why are they blaming all men? I didn't do anything? You are so mean!!". They DIDN'T blame all men. You clearly need to work on your reading comprehension skills.
hello i am from the future. (This is still an issue in 2022)
Load More Replies... I feel sad for women who put up with this crap. Even more so, for the ones who married assholes and assumed they would change over time...
It’s articles like these that remind me that learning more about women’s issues is a continuous process because these are continuous problems. Thank you everyone for sharing, it’s helpful to see discussion.
The amount of angry comments speak for themselves. I don’t remember the women of bored panda being this pressed when there was a post addressing how toxic masculinity harms men.
One thing that pisses me off most about `pro-life` is that they really think that a some growing cells have more rights and need more protection then a whole living human being. And as soon as a baby is born when someone couldn't get an abortion those same people are nowhere to be found
Maybe you don't understand that, so I will make it clear for you : murder is wrong.
Load More Replies... I was a competitive figure skater during high school, and my gym teacher refused to let me do any of the 'strong' exercises (ie using any weights over 5IBS) because I was a girl. My best friend at the time would always trade w/ me after the teacher forced me to only use the light ones b/c he wasn't able to use the 15IBS, but I could (in situps and the like). Also going to college and being told that women should stay at home to fix the house up nice and have dinner ready when the man walks into the door, and shouldn't be in classes learning how to fix cars. The high school also refused to let the girls wear jeans and tshirts, only long dresses, polos and either skirts or dress pants. The boys usually wore tshirts and jeans.
#1: me, 7 years old: Mom? When I sit on pop-pop's lap, he touches me down there. Mom: Then don't sit on his lap! me: to my 7 year old self; if it happens again, it's my fault. It did. Many, many times. Until I was 15. Sadly, he was widowed and lived with us, his only daughter's family cause he couldn't live with his sons as they would clash like roosters.
It’s insane that, that sick lowlife of a so-called, ‘grandfather’ did that to you— it’s also insane that your mother and any other person didn’t call the police on him to throw him in prison.
Load More Replies... I was listening Willow Smith "21st Century Girl" while reading this and it saddened me and the word on her shirt said "Boys need to learn" or something. True they do *I am 2 lazy 2 go back nd check *
Articles like this make me sick.. I had to stop reading. It's always an endless circle of arguments... Screen devices have made it so much easier for people to say offensive things to one another. Disgusting..
I feel a lot of these things are only in America, but can any women tell me if I'm right?
No this is everywhere. I'm in nz and there is a super toxic culture for women and for men
Load More Replies... This scratches my nerves very uncomfortably. I am male. I might have done some of these things. Don't get me wrong, I am in control of my libido as much as I am in control of my aggressions or possessive impulses - I don't steal, I don't hit, I don't molest, let alone rape. But I do have impulses. I do have the impulse to take what isn't mine, to assault who did me wrong, to... again take what is not mine. I think we all have, but I hope from sentient beings that we can and will control them. But this sad experiences of so many girls and women tell different stories. I don't know what to do, I don't know how to react. Ignoring what I have been taught as gallantery - open doors, taking the heavy lifting, treating ladies like fragile, delicate beings - strikes me as rude behaviour, but doing so is subliminal sexist. Offering company or having an eye over the drinks of girls or butting in in a quarrel, I just end up looking like the next offender waiting in line...
Reading this again, it sounds like the "it's not me" whine you're so rightfully sick off. Sorry. What can I, as an individual male, do - other than not being that guy and making sure my sons won't be, either? Of course I should step in where I see missing consent. But: a) I once got mobbed by a bunch of sickos because "their girl" was polite to me and I was polite to her. We're talking about holding the door and thanks... So please don't assume that every man in your vicinity has the balls to jump in like superman but just doesn't care. Those of us who do care don't have the balls to jump in, because we are the ones that get mauled by those sexist macho sickos, too. b) more than once I got berated by the girl since obviously I disturbed their crude mating ritual where she wants to be stalked after her first 3 "No!"s. She wants no softy gay limp noodle but a real man who can take her like he pleases... like what the hell, girl?! Ill try to be a better person, to help where Im welcome.
Load More Replies... My parents tell me to wear pants when my dad's friend cones over, I was wearing a hoodie and jeans, he stared me up and down like a piece of meat, his wife was right there, my mom stepped in for me but my dad didn't do anything. Please teach your boys respect so they don't grow up to put other girls in my situation, which is nothing compared to what others go through
The U.S. is really heading in the wrong direction. How is it possible in this day and age to ban abortions? I'm glad I live in Norway, it seems there are a lot more issues between genders than where I live.
I know im going to get downvoted to hell for this but some the post is toxic and rude. Abuse does apply to everyone. I know abuse can occur but it does happen to everyone.
Still wondering why BP insists on posting articles that do nothing but incite people to name call, half the comments are hidden because they're rude, obnoxious and mean, lots of the usual America Bashing, lots of down votes for anyone who politely and intelligently doesn't post with the accepted mindset of the other BP members, lots of misinformation and the usual division into "you" them" Republicans" Americans" you're ignorant" garbage as "comments". Of all the laughing and crying I've done on this site today, it all slams to a halt and I leave because I just don't see a reason to choose and feature articles that are just going to upset people and bring out the trolls or hit a nerve. There's so much out there so why fish around on Reddit and Twitter and IG and FB for the most dividing stories out there? This site is so much fun when it's interesting and based on the smart, friendly, educating commonalities of us all. Why throw a bomb in all the time and blow things up, BP?
Found this poem on Reddit that I think applies here. Credit to u/Poetry_duderino for it. "Why is it that when she says it, it's all right? Why is it that when I mention it, it ends in a fight? Why are women allowed to do more than men? They say that women are oppressed, and I agree. But in a way, no man is free. We don't mean to be rude, but whatever we do. We say something wrong, and everyone gets mad at you. One wrong word, one wrong leap. You take the jump and it ends in a heap. A bunch of trash, you're put by. It can hurt someone so much, they want to die." All the stuff that people say about us dudes hurts, too. Keep that in mind before posting things like this.
That post is not about diminishing the struggles of men under patriarchy. It is entirely about pointing out the bullshit women endure. Try to walk in women's shoes for a minute, it won't harm you. Some empathy maybe.
Load More Replies... We need to stop making women responsible for unwanted pregnancies. The truth of the matter is that men are responsible, 100%! Outraged? Think that's a ridiculous comment? Consider this then , men have control over where and when they ejaculated. Women have no control over when they ovulate unless they are on the pill. No sperm no pregnant.
Really, the problem isn't men. The problem is that all birth control methods available on the market have some kind of disadvantage and the whole burden is usually placed on women (IUDs, pills, etc.) because we're lacking birth control methods for men! They have no real alternatives between condoms and a vasectomy.
Load More Replies... No one claimed all men were guilty, that's dismissive and a copout. Also there was no man bashing in the article. Might want to examine why your response was so defensive.
Load More Replies... There are tons of instances on BP where they list the accomplishments of men! You just turn a blind eye on those, don't you?
Load More Replies... Ryan Deschanel - shut up with your utter crap about abortions.
Load More Replies... When you share a thought that people believe is wrong, they will tell you that it is wrong. That's how free speech works... or did you think that only you are allowed to share your thoughts?
Load More Replies... Are you for real? That thing that just flew past your head is the point of this article.
Load More Replies... Nah it’s just that you don’t care about issues minorities experience. You can only see yourself, so, naturally you’ll always be a victim.
Load More Replies... Oh jeez. It's not meant to paint all men as bad. It's highlighting the toxicity built into our culture, and how it impacts us women who experience it. And it's guaranteed that whenever women raise these issues, it's rebutted with 'not all men'. It's diverting from the whole point of the article. Think about how uncomfortable the women are who experience it
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