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Wisdom comes with age. So sometimes looking back at your past decisions, especially mistakes, can be really hard. Despite the fact that we can't change the past, the future is still in our hands. When trying to figure out what we want this future to look like it helps to seek advice from the elder generation.

Writer and university professor Nyasha Junior turned to Twitter to ask women in their 40's what advice they would give to their 20-something selves. The number of responses she received was overwhelming and all of them served an important purpose. The advice all these women gave not only allowed them to reflect on their own lives, but also gave young women the opportunity to learn some important life lessons. Scroll below to read some of these tweets and don't forget to leave your own in the comments! (Facebook cover image: Michael Gabelmann)

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The opposite is also true, your feelings aren't everyone else's problem.

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And don't be afraid to show those documents when the time comes...

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Work for your own happiness. No one else is going to do it for you.

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And learn to tell wether you're hurt because you really loved someone or if it's just your pride that's actually hurt.

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Compliment yourself more, like you would a friend"....this is an eye-opener for me

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Don't use someone else mirror to see your own reflection" That's a keeper

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh, I wish I had that ten years ago: "If someone makes you feel bad about yourself for something that hurts no one..."

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love how this also focuses on health. Physical needs are just as important than emotional needs.

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Doing something alone can mean spending quality time with yourself.

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

'This, too, shall pass' has been my lifelong mantra, and has gotten me through some of the roughest times!

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually, what I believe is being said, is that buying the highest quality that you can afford is better than buying the cheapest because it's less expensive and likely won't last as long. I speak from experience on this.

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OOOH I so love the second part of this!!! My new motto:" Be your own goldilocks". (nothing wrong with the first part... the second part just really hit home!)

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You can never fix the broken ones. They can only break you.

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I LOVE that "you don't have to set yourself on fire to keep anyone else warm"--ah yes, the entirety of my 10-year relationship with the dud

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

On the other hand, if they are calling you 30 times a day, get out!

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If they are mistreating you, they might be testing you. Don't be a Guinea pig.

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And if others have told you that you won't like it or be good at it. 😉

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5 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When higher income, more educated people try to intimidate me, I don't fall for it. I am not a lesser person than they are.

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I guess what she wanted to say is simply "don't rush". Like, try living with a few men before you find the one for you - Daria B (Just wanted to “repost” this for the people who don’t scroll all the way down)

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The longer you stay in a bad job, the more you think you deserve it.

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Comparison is the thief of joy." How true. Ignore all those FB posts proclaiming "my perfect life." Things can be quite different behind the lens.

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh so true ! Be the captain of your life ! Love yourself, you are your best friend !

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Be your own version of "normal", it takes far less energy than faking "average"

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First step is to get diagnosed.There is much more awareness now about Aspergers. My son was not diagnosed until age 18. Throughout school, he was labeled as Emotionally Disturbed. Guess what that did for his self esteem?

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The reason people fear aging, is because it is a youth oriented society and you are judged by what you look like. You are often disrespected and sometimes spoken to as if you are a child. Your feelings and needs are often ignored. You are regarded as if you are useless. All of this stems from the fear younger people have of their own aging. Ignore all of that and save your self esteem. Join the Red Hat Club.

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you do want kids (not me at all) there are loads of different ways to have a family. You don't have to grow them yourself, there are millions of children out there pre made and awaiting a parent

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not a fan of this one. You are definitely not required to smile, but using your indoor voice, playing fair (even when others are not) and waiting your turn means you're a polite person. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being polite, and plenty right about it. I would say, be polite, but fierce in defending your rights.

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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A trait of successful people. Dont let fear hold you back.

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