Let's admit, being young is quite tough. There's so much you still have to learn and it's usually a process of trial and error. Some choices you make, for some magical reason, end up being okay (or at times even really great), and some... well, sometimes you simply fail miserably. And that's totally fine. Even though it usually doesn't seem like it and you spend some time ruminating or even hating yourself for that one particular choice. But that's life, I guess.

And even though living = making some mistakes along the way, it's sometimes nice to get a few insights from people who've already been there and done that. Recently, a Twitter user GayatriiM started an interesting thread by asking all the women in their 40s to share life lessons that they've learned late in life. "Women in their 40s, what is one life lesson you learnt late in life?" she wrote in her tweet. Also, she answered her own question by saying this: "I learnt that sacrifices you make for others are overrated. At the end of the day, you’ll be held responsible for the choices you made esp. by those whose share of responsibilities you took over!"

Bored Panda invites you to look through some of the best life lessons these women have shared. And, of course, feel free to share your own in the comments!

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Aria Whitaker
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10 months ago

THIS 1000 times!!!!

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Robin Syr
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10 months ago

One of the hardest things about being a woman is... Other women. Given the opportunity to support or criticize.... So many women fail to be a cheerleader for their sisters

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Billie Templeton
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10 months ago

I was today years old when somebody finally dropped this pearl of wisdom in my lap. Thank you!! So relevant!!

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Many women have pointed out that it's important to be selfish in life. And that doesn't mean that you shouldn't care about other people—it simply means that you should learn to put yourself first. "Because no one else will," one user wrote. For a long time, women have been expected to be selfless, giving, and caring, and sadly, it's still ingrained in many of us to the point where we might even feel guilty doing things solely for ourselves. So yeah, I think we should all learn to be selfish. It's a good thing.

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Ms.M.
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10 months ago

YES!

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M O'Connell
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10 months ago

Not necessarily! I am very proud of my late grandmothers ridiculously heavy cookware.

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bv7hearts
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10 months ago

*standing ovation*

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Some also pointed out that it's never too late to change the direction of your life and drift away from things that no longer serve you. You're never too old for that. And life is simply too short to settle.

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Irina Deneva-Slav
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10 months ago

The amount of time I've wasted on trying to explain myself is truly ridiculous. And I'm still learning, in my 40s. Tough habit to kick.

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Joanne Hudson
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10 months ago

And do it without explaining why not.

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Shauna
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10 months ago

Wish I realized this in junior high.

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One of the most popular pieces of advice was the one telling women not to "save up luxuries to enjoy later." "Such an important lesson, Ma’am. I had anosmia during Covid19 infection and I thought, what if I am never able to smell my fave perfume ever again! We are one small incident away from changing course of life. Live it fully, now, the way you want to," someone replied to this advice.

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Robin Syr
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10 months ago

Aha! I've learned some things since I said yes and now I need to say no

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Joanne Hudson
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10 months ago

Eliminates "frail" later in life. When working around the house, MAKE those 6 trips to put things away. Its exercise you wouldn't have otherwise.

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meepmeep
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10 months ago

Hmm, I feel this one is too extreme. Don't romanticize the idea of having children and don't have them if you don't want them. Having children does not automatically make one conducive to "the patriarchy".

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Lisa Anne
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10 months ago

Priceless message for mother's and caretakers

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Joanne Hudson
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10 months ago

Hardest lesson. I tell myself if I try to rush in, I am messing with their karma and they will still have to learn the lesson.

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Helen Haley
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10 months ago

I really hate when people get upset that others aren't showing the 'proper' amount of gratitude. Either you want to help, or you don't. If you're doing it so others lick your boots, you're doing it for the wrong reasons.

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Helen Haley
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10 months ago

You really can't avoid anger. Just gotta learn to ride the wave.

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Gosiulka Bloem
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10 months ago

I love this one! The same rules for everyone

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Shauna
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10 months ago

You can learn a lot from negatives. I have.

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Jaded Queen
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10 months ago

Learn to live alone but not lonely. If u constantly seek people company/validation. Then something is completely wrong and defective inside of u. Know your reason and rectify that. People who can't live alone and in independence, deceive their very nature of existence. Which lets face it is like 80% of the population if not more

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Mimi777
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10 months ago

Toxic family can be the worst. And hard to stay away from. It’s like a weight off your shoulders when you finally cut that negative person out of your life completely if you’re able to

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Erdot
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10 months ago

I'd like to add something, unpopular opinion here, but in my experience, denying yourself the small joys does NOT guarantee you the occurrence of greater happiness. I mean, if you decide not to buy those shoes you like today does not mean you'd find peace of mind or serenity or true love tomorrow. You might find yourself waiting for these your entire life and even lacking the momentary feeling of getting something you like on the short run. I mean, yeah, I do not advise you to become a compulsive shopper or eater or such, only to enjoy small things, too, without the constant expectation of something BIG to happen.

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Dawn Thomas-Cameron
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10 months ago

Hope for the best. Plan for the worst.

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Shauna
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10 months ago

Plus indulging on yourself is what keeps you going at times.

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El Dee
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10 months ago

Don't 'pick up the slack' at work. Don't cut corners to make it all work and work on time. Do your thing, and only YOUR thing, don't be awkward about it if asked though, just don't do it voluntarily. Do the job the way it's supposed to be done. If you cut corners to make it happen quicker then your manager will turn a blind eye to get good stats but throw you under the bus when it all goes pear shaped..

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Astrid Nineor
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10 months ago

Don't overdo it though, don't end up always thinking 'This isn't good enough'

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Lisa Anne
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10 months ago

Amen to #3!

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Shauna
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10 months ago (edited)

I do think having interests is important. As I've grown older I've gained more interests in things then i did when i was younger and I think its made me a happier person.

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Analyn Lahr
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10 months ago

You gotta put on your own oxygen mask first, before helping others.

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SirPatTheCat
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10 months ago

This one is a little bit circumstantial. Sometimes it's good to fight for things, sometimes it's not. In general I think she means don't get into unnecessary battles

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Jaded Queen
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10 months ago

Load of bull crap. Learn to live alone. People will fuck u in the ass the minute u r not fruitful to them

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