Mom Shames Plus-Size Woman For Wearing “Revealing” Clothes At The Park, She Wonders Whether She Was In The Wrong Here
No one should ever feel pressured to feel insecure and even ashamed of how they look. Sadly, the reality is often different.
Body shaming comes in all forms, whether it’s weight bias at work, a nasty critique made on social media, an article documenting celebrity weight gain, or an inappropriate comment coming from members of the public. This is a form of bullying, so why does it still find a place in our society?
This story comes from a woman nicknamed Good_Practice_8441 who shared her story on AITA, telling how she and her two friends took up exercise trying to lose weight. One day, while exercising in the park, the author said a woman approached them saying “This is a family park, as you can see.”
Turns out the entitled lady didn’t particularly like the author and friends exercising in biker shorts and a sports bra. Or rather, she didn’t like what she saw. “Okay, so if you know, why are you dressed like that?” the lady demanded with attitude and added that the author “was jiggling all over the place.”
Now that you have probably raised your eyebrow already, scroll down to see how this uncomfortable-to-read incident ended, and be sure to share your thoughts in the comments.
A woman who started weight loss shared how she got attacked by a ‘weird mom’ for wearing biker shorts and a sports bra while exercising in a park
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In recent years, body shaming has become an increasingly prevalent issue in society. Body shaming is the act of mocking or criticizing someone based on their physical appearance and it’s considered a form of bullying. This can be done in person, or through social media and other forms of communication.
A new survey revealed a whopping 60 per cent of adults have been body shamed because of their weight, hair and even the size of their feet. Meanwhile, another survey showed that over half (52 percent) people with obesity are “fat shamed” all or most of the time and 34 percent say that they, themselves, or someone they know have experienced it firsthand. Among those with obesity, that number rises to 43 percent of respondents.
It’s important to realize that body and weight shaming can have a serious impact on a person’s mental health and self-esteem. It can lead to anxiety, depression, social isolation, and other mental health disorders. In extreme cases, it can even lead to eating disorders and self-harm.
Despite the negative effects of body shaming, it continues to be a problem in our society. It’s important to be aware of the issue, and to stand up against it when you see it happening.
People expressed their overwhelming support for the author in the comments
And people wonder why overweight people have problems loosing weight via exercise when they get treated like this lady was treated. She’s doing the healthy thing for herself and exercising with her friends to loose weight and she’s the only one to get harassed and threatened with the police. Mind your own business and keep your comments about other peoples bodies to yourself
I seriously doubt the kids either noticed or cared. This 'think about the children!' malarkey is just an excuse.
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So does this woman actually want children to follow her example and insult women doing exercises? And call the cops on them?? "9-1-1. What's your emergency? [...] Okay, try not to panic. We'll pull some cops from the hostage situation downtown and send them right over with housecoats and long skirts."
I've been to a few gyms where people stare at you and I feel like yelling "what do you expect me to do about it if I get shamed when I come to the gym?" Luckily I've found a nice one now, where people a friendly.
I've been sniggered at, full blown laughed at, ignored by staff and stink eyed at gyms and running outside alike and when i tell people about it they straight up don't believe me. Luckily, i'm now 37 and f***s to give are dwindling :) Hang in there Lesley.
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I can understand that for some people seeing an overweight body not covered very well can be uncomfortable. To me it's very uncomfortable to see ANY body scarcely clad in public. Not like I want to feel this way but I do. And as the OP pointed it out, it's a ME problem. I won't ask a lady wearing what makes for comfy to cover up, how crazy would that be?! In this case it would've been a great opportunity for mommy of the year to point the ladies out to her kids and have a chat with them about how great it is that people who realise they've gotten a bit unhealthy are getting out and do the work to get back into a healthy body. Or IF the kids even noticed them and made any negative comments she could've told them how unkind that is and reminded them that others could always find something to mock about them, and they would feel bad if they were mocked. Instead, she goes and shows the worst example.
NTA. I'm going to be blunt. If there isn't a problem with a size 2 wearing those outfit then a size 12 shouldn't either. That lady can go shovel bovine excrement.
You ladies are doing a great thing, getting exercise! Your putting forth positivity and Ms.Buzzkill needs to stay out of your space and quit tainting it with her negativity. Next time your out and she struts over, light up some sage and wave it around. Tell her she needs purifying.
LOL Love this! (Note to self: Start carrying sage.)
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It sounds like it's more about her (the rude lady) than these two ladies out there actually doing what someone like me is procrastinating on doing, lol. It's a shame you can't go anywhere these days without some big mouth feeling the need to share their personal thoughts on how complete strangers should conduct their lives!
Like, your opinion of me is none of my business. 👍
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Oh for fridge sake! The CHILDREN!!111 haven't even noticed those women or any other grown-ups in the park for that matter! When kids are playing, grown ups just turn into trees -- they are nothing but a part of the scenery. This "But what about the children???" wailing is nothing but an extremely lame excuse to stick one's nose into someone else's business.
People of size just may be the last segment of society against whom people think it's ok to discriminate. You can be big and healthy. You can be thin and sickly. But big people get the dirty looks and judgment just for being. That ain't right, people!
Thin people get it too, 'eat a sandwich etc' but yeah I agree with you. People judge health by appearance all the time. It's messed up
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How the **** could she be the AH?! The fact that she's questioning herself is just sad and proves what's wrong with this do many people. That woman was a massive AH towards her and she's doubting herself. 😕
I've heard so many people complain that fat people should exercise but then complain if their workout attire isn't hiding their jiggles and rolls. I've battled my weight since childhood and have also "learned" to cover up, especially when working out. I don't wear shorts and only recently began wearing leggings. After I started working out at a private gym I slowly got the confidence to wear leggings then *gasp* a tank top. I can't even begin to stress how much better my workouts are and how much more I enjoy them when I don't feel like I'm moving around in a sweaty tent!
What pains me is that people feel the need to even post an AITA about this. In what parallel universe would this even be wrong?
5'4" 200lbs is on the bigger side indeed, BUT doesn't mean OP can't wear whatever she feels, especially when what she described wasn't inappropriate at all for the summer. Karen/Becky just need to mind their own business!
My advice: wear the f**k you want and if others feel bothered tell em to go f**k themselves.
I wonder why some people still haven't figured out that the perfect human doesn't exist? Do we really all want to look the same??? Just respect different body types, skin colors, sexual orientations... the problem we all have is hypocritical people like this woman who uses her children to cover up her own discomfort. I'd rather watch a couple of chubby people play sports than see stupid women like that. NTA. Definitely not.
I am half inclined to think the OP was black because in my mind only racism prompts people to act in this disgusting manner. WTF! This lady cannot take her kids to the pool or the beach. And the other person saying the lady was wearing biker shorts underneath her dress and got called out. Even if she didn't!! This is sooo disgusting!! I am shocked people feel they can comment on other peoples clothing choices
Anytime I see someone of larger size exercising, in my head I think, "You get it girl or guy, great job" It takes an extreme amount of courage to go out amongst your peers and exercise. Please don't discourage this by inserting your opinion when it is neither asked for or needed. You might just stop someone from getting healthier and changing their life when they were on the right track. Can we start building people up instead of tearing them down? It's really not that hard, try it sometime and YOU will even be much happier for it as well!
This nasty woman epitomizes the ultimate Karen. I suppose it's the times we live in, but there is NO excuse for this behavior. What's next, calling the police because you encounter someone of a different religion?
I think it's great that women with thicker figures are taking pride in their bodies and showing them off instead of hiding them. I love seeing them walk around with their heads held high.
Tell nosy Karen to mind her own fricking business and stop being an AH.
So, she is perfect? Does she wear a bikini when going to the beach? Where there are CHILDREN?! Some people must just keep their mouths shut. I am sooooo tired of people bodyshaming others. I am also overweight and i am working on it (health issues that made me overweight) so I am strigling to loose weight. Ive lost 50 pounds the past yearand still going strong. Please do not listen to her. She is just jealous because you are doing something to look and feel good. Maybe she is "pretty" from outside but she is rotten on the inside. Ynta
Definitely not about weight but about revealing clothing when performing exercises that show a lot more than when simply walking around. Clothing and behaviour that would not be acceptable by a male for that matter - and then the offender pulls the FAT card, and is surprised that doesn't work. Entitlement behaviour. S you, S your kids, S everyone else, the world is all about me...
Is this a thing in the US? Calling the police because someone is wearing revealing clothing? Like, are there times when this would be an appropriate use of the police?
I just wasted 1 minute of my life reading this sh*t that is not related with this post. U know what? Downvote
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And people wonder why overweight people have problems loosing weight via exercise when they get treated like this lady was treated. She’s doing the healthy thing for herself and exercising with her friends to loose weight and she’s the only one to get harassed and threatened with the police. Mind your own business and keep your comments about other peoples bodies to yourself
I seriously doubt the kids either noticed or cared. This 'think about the children!' malarkey is just an excuse.
Load More Replies... So does this woman actually want children to follow her example and insult women doing exercises? And call the cops on them?? "9-1-1. What's your emergency? [...] Okay, try not to panic. We'll pull some cops from the hostage situation downtown and send them right over with housecoats and long skirts."
I've been to a few gyms where people stare at you and I feel like yelling "what do you expect me to do about it if I get shamed when I come to the gym?" Luckily I've found a nice one now, where people a friendly.
I've been sniggered at, full blown laughed at, ignored by staff and stink eyed at gyms and running outside alike and when i tell people about it they straight up don't believe me. Luckily, i'm now 37 and f***s to give are dwindling :) Hang in there Lesley.
Load More Replies... I can understand that for some people seeing an overweight body not covered very well can be uncomfortable. To me it's very uncomfortable to see ANY body scarcely clad in public. Not like I want to feel this way but I do. And as the OP pointed it out, it's a ME problem. I won't ask a lady wearing what makes for comfy to cover up, how crazy would that be?! In this case it would've been a great opportunity for mommy of the year to point the ladies out to her kids and have a chat with them about how great it is that people who realise they've gotten a bit unhealthy are getting out and do the work to get back into a healthy body. Or IF the kids even noticed them and made any negative comments she could've told them how unkind that is and reminded them that others could always find something to mock about them, and they would feel bad if they were mocked. Instead, she goes and shows the worst example.
NTA. I'm going to be blunt. If there isn't a problem with a size 2 wearing those outfit then a size 12 shouldn't either. That lady can go shovel bovine excrement.
You ladies are doing a great thing, getting exercise! Your putting forth positivity and Ms.Buzzkill needs to stay out of your space and quit tainting it with her negativity. Next time your out and she struts over, light up some sage and wave it around. Tell her she needs purifying.
LOL Love this! (Note to self: Start carrying sage.)
Load More Replies... It sounds like it's more about her (the rude lady) than these two ladies out there actually doing what someone like me is procrastinating on doing, lol. It's a shame you can't go anywhere these days without some big mouth feeling the need to share their personal thoughts on how complete strangers should conduct their lives!
Like, your opinion of me is none of my business. 👍
Load More Replies... Oh for fridge sake! The CHILDREN!!111 haven't even noticed those women or any other grown-ups in the park for that matter! When kids are playing, grown ups just turn into trees -- they are nothing but a part of the scenery. This "But what about the children???" wailing is nothing but an extremely lame excuse to stick one's nose into someone else's business.
People of size just may be the last segment of society against whom people think it's ok to discriminate. You can be big and healthy. You can be thin and sickly. But big people get the dirty looks and judgment just for being. That ain't right, people!
Thin people get it too, 'eat a sandwich etc' but yeah I agree with you. People judge health by appearance all the time. It's messed up
Load More Replies... How the **** could she be the AH?! The fact that she's questioning herself is just sad and proves what's wrong with this do many people. That woman was a massive AH towards her and she's doubting herself. 😕
I've heard so many people complain that fat people should exercise but then complain if their workout attire isn't hiding their jiggles and rolls. I've battled my weight since childhood and have also "learned" to cover up, especially when working out. I don't wear shorts and only recently began wearing leggings. After I started working out at a private gym I slowly got the confidence to wear leggings then *gasp* a tank top. I can't even begin to stress how much better my workouts are and how much more I enjoy them when I don't feel like I'm moving around in a sweaty tent!
What pains me is that people feel the need to even post an AITA about this. In what parallel universe would this even be wrong?
5'4" 200lbs is on the bigger side indeed, BUT doesn't mean OP can't wear whatever she feels, especially when what she described wasn't inappropriate at all for the summer. Karen/Becky just need to mind their own business!
My advice: wear the f**k you want and if others feel bothered tell em to go f**k themselves.
I wonder why some people still haven't figured out that the perfect human doesn't exist? Do we really all want to look the same??? Just respect different body types, skin colors, sexual orientations... the problem we all have is hypocritical people like this woman who uses her children to cover up her own discomfort. I'd rather watch a couple of chubby people play sports than see stupid women like that. NTA. Definitely not.
I am half inclined to think the OP was black because in my mind only racism prompts people to act in this disgusting manner. WTF! This lady cannot take her kids to the pool or the beach. And the other person saying the lady was wearing biker shorts underneath her dress and got called out. Even if she didn't!! This is sooo disgusting!! I am shocked people feel they can comment on other peoples clothing choices
Anytime I see someone of larger size exercising, in my head I think, "You get it girl or guy, great job" It takes an extreme amount of courage to go out amongst your peers and exercise. Please don't discourage this by inserting your opinion when it is neither asked for or needed. You might just stop someone from getting healthier and changing their life when they were on the right track. Can we start building people up instead of tearing them down? It's really not that hard, try it sometime and YOU will even be much happier for it as well!
This nasty woman epitomizes the ultimate Karen. I suppose it's the times we live in, but there is NO excuse for this behavior. What's next, calling the police because you encounter someone of a different religion?
I think it's great that women with thicker figures are taking pride in their bodies and showing them off instead of hiding them. I love seeing them walk around with their heads held high.
Tell nosy Karen to mind her own fricking business and stop being an AH.
So, she is perfect? Does she wear a bikini when going to the beach? Where there are CHILDREN?! Some people must just keep their mouths shut. I am sooooo tired of people bodyshaming others. I am also overweight and i am working on it (health issues that made me overweight) so I am strigling to loose weight. Ive lost 50 pounds the past yearand still going strong. Please do not listen to her. She is just jealous because you are doing something to look and feel good. Maybe she is "pretty" from outside but she is rotten on the inside. Ynta
Definitely not about weight but about revealing clothing when performing exercises that show a lot more than when simply walking around. Clothing and behaviour that would not be acceptable by a male for that matter - and then the offender pulls the FAT card, and is surprised that doesn't work. Entitlement behaviour. S you, S your kids, S everyone else, the world is all about me...
Is this a thing in the US? Calling the police because someone is wearing revealing clothing? Like, are there times when this would be an appropriate use of the police?
I just wasted 1 minute of my life reading this sh*t that is not related with this post. U know what? Downvote
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