“I’m Actually Not Done Speaking”: 20 Y.O. Woman Goes Viral For Shutting Down A Man Who Kept Interrupting Her During A Meeting
Gender equality is still an objective for our society and not a reality. It’s especially hard for women because they are often looked down upon in the work space and not taken seriously enough. That leads to them working harder but not being awarded for that or even noticed.
But women don’t give up and keep standing up for themselves. Like this TikToker who took out the camera at the right time to catch herself defending herself as a man was talking over her and taking credit for her ideas. She put the man in his place and the internet loved the little snippet as over 2 million people liked the video.
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A TikToker went viral with 11 million views with a video in which she filmed herself while she shut down a man who kept interrupting her
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The TikToker is Sabrina Lassegue, who is known as directedbybrini on the app. She is a 20-year-old actress, producer, model, director and writer and is the owner of the multimedia production company Yellow Rain Productions.
The video that went viral with 11.3 million views was filmed during one of her meetings for her company. A brand hired her company to direct and produce a commercial. They have already signed the contract and the meeting was for exchanging ideas.
It was a business meeting and she was not only interrupted but also was mansplained her own ideas she had just put on the table
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To give some context for the short video, Sabrina wrote in the overlay that the man who was on the brand’s marketing team kept interrupting her and started presenting her ideas as his own. The thing that made her patience crack was the man starting to say “the problem with you women is…”
The young woman wasn’t willing to tolerate it so she used the same method as the man interrupting her and cut him off
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The young businesswoman wasn’t going to allow someone to disrespect her, so this time, she was the one who cut off the brand’s marketing specialist. She told him to mute himself as it was her presentation and she wasn’t done speaking.
Even though her voice was calm and she didn’t offend anyone directly, you can tell she was irritated from her comment that her ears have a limit. Then she explains the reason for her frustration which is constantly being interrupted and being explained things she already said.
In a follow-up video, Sabrina said that there isn’t any more drama, it’s just a reality of being a young woman and owning a company
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She said she was just presenting a marketing idea and was constantly interrupted by the client’s marketing specialist
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People were very invested in the video as they couldn’t believe that such people like the man from the marketing department who think they are so much better that they can treat others with no respect actually exist.
So in a follow-up video which also went viral and was watched 1.2 million times, Sabrina explained that there isn’t anything more to the story. She is just a young company owner who is often not taken seriously, as she expected when she founded Yellow Rain Productions when she was 18.
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He had the audacity to make her ideas sound like his own and was planning to let Sabrina know what is the problem with women
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She had to learn how to stand up for herself and how to be heard by not disrespecting and undermining others. Sabrina admits that she needed help with that and she is lucky to have someone she can turn to for professional advice.
The young woman filmed the video just to share her unpleasant experience with her friends. There was more to what the man said and how she reacted, but she started filming after the client’s marketing specialist intended to explain what is the problem with women.
The friends who saw the video then told Sabrina she should post this for everyone to see. And that really was good advice as it blew up on TikTok.
She didn’t want to hear that and cut off the man, and here is the video where you can listen what she had to say
@directedbybriniSend help 😭😭😭♬ original sound – Brin
What was your reaction when you saw the video? Have you experienced similar behavior towards you or heard similar stories? Do you think that this is a real problem and women have to stand up for themselves when they shouldn’t be in such a position in the first place? We are curious to know your thoughts so leave them in the comments!
People in the comments were very supportive of Sabrina and were sad that these kind of situations are a lot more common than you would think
20+ years ago, I used to be an outgoing dock supervisor for the USPS. I was the only female supervisor on the night shift, and my productivity numbers were always the highest, not only on my shift, but in the entire building. My manager constantly micromanaged, and I refused to put up with it. Once, he came out to my dock and started telling me how to run my area. I grabbed my radio and held it out to him. "What's that for?" he asked. I said, "Well, you seem to have this area under control, so I might as well go home." This irritated him, but before he could say anything, I said, "I have the highest productivity in the building. When that changes, you can criticize my abilities. Until then, I suggest you try and get the rest of your supervisors to my level." He left me alone after that, and I continued to have the highest productivity.
I am currently subjected to power harassment at work ( I am female, gen X, fully qualified in what I am supposed to do, vs. all male management, fully incompetent in their own job requirements and in what I do in my job). I am practically set to say "I am done with your s**t, I don't need it in my life" and quit my job. I won't do that, although the stress of the situation has already impacted my physical health ( broke a tooth due to bruxism caused by stress, among other things) and my free time. For now, I am decided to hold on and fight back - not for personal gain (I have none, to be honest, only losses on a personal level), but for the principle that a problem unaddressed is non existent, therefore abuse is continued and normalized. I am tired and angry and sad, but not ready to give up yet. * deep siiiiigh...*
I can't find the words to express it so: *Head nod of empathy and commiseration, coupled with brief encouraging smile*? I am sorry you are dealing with this, and also impressed that you are. It must be incredibly hard (esp. considering it caused bruxism!) ❤️❤️
Thank you 💙💙💙
Similar situation for me years back. If you give up and leave, do not kick yourself. Tell yourself you've tried your best. For me, I couldn't change the toxic situation, but after I left, I encouraged a former female colleague to take another job (paid less, but great place - she loved it). She then encouraged a new female assistant to accept another offer (which she did, heheheh). So yes, you can pass the word around.
For the time being, I am fighting back. The thing is, I like my job (I teach ESL in graduate school), I have never had any issues or complaints regarding what or how I teach or bad results from my students. I provided a lot from my own pocket and my free time to this job, because I know it will have a long-lasting impact on my students, and I want that to be a positive one. However, when I received no salary with no explanation as of why, I got assigned classes scheduled to have no attendees, the internet connection was cut in my classroom, my husband received threats at his work etc. and I raised these issues and threatened with filing a complaint to HR, I became "the unreasonable, impolite, hysterical, crazy" one (and of course, the only female teacher in campus) and rumors started flying about this. I was urged into a meeting with all the university's heads (all male), suddenly, "to be explained" (where they admitted, although not in writing, that I am owed the salary they did not pay) etc. Practically, I pointed out the management's lies, incompetence and possibly embezzlement and now they seem to be retaliating by creating rumors and a very toxic work environment. I won't quit for now, it is what they want, I won't give them that.
Guerrilla warfare, honey, do the same. Start a rumor that you heard one of them has ED, or genital warts and that someone else was hitting on a student or something. But make sure it can't be traced back to you. These "men" live for their perceived status, so hit them where it hurts.
@JessR: it's the guerilla warfare that's so tiring to me. But I am covering my corners. Although I never did and will never go spreading false rumors or gossip, showing them, with written proof and facts, that they are incompetent (trust me, that's what hurt them the most, especially coming from a woman), that their conduct is bullying and that they should not be in their position of power ( again, big ouch) and having witnesses and written documents on their malicious behavior at every step WHILE doing my teaching as usual must be feeling like I give them the finger all the time. And I am prepared, if the situation continues, to take the situation to the government (they have offices where to file harassment complaints) and hiring a lawyer. Oh, one of the bullies is a covid denier and antimasker, do I need to say more :)?
Wow. It does sound like constructive dismissal. All the best to you in a tough situation.
@ Viviane: It certainly does look and sound like that (and it is, based on the definition of power harassment), and I told them so. Thank you for your encouragement 💙💙💙
so unlike the woman in the post. you'll just let it happen? it sounds like you already have given up. i hope they at least pay you enough for it.
Just to sum up. 1. You said I have given up. 2. You give yourself as an example: getting in an undeserved position due to nepotism, but then, with lucky genes and training, catching up to that position's requirements. 3. You say that some fights are not worth fighting. 4. You advise me to show moxie in my real life battles 5. You brag about your luck, about making good money and about having a good education (not in English, though, if I may, nor in debate) 6. You brag again, this time about your luck in having competent managers, about not needing anyone to fight your fights and about having teammates ready to fight each others' fights. Good input. Kind of shows and proves what I am dealing with at work. THANK YOU.(Oh, again, please stop upvoting your own comments, it does not support your arguments or your online image.)
elSti, I don't know if you've ever been in the minority in a place and viewed as less competent as a result. If one insists a minority member educate a large group that doesn't respect them, one could be saying the following to that person: #1: "It's up to you to make us behave - we won't make the effort to meet you partway" #2: "If we continue to disrespect you, you'll just have to keep trying" #3: "Educating us is in your job description, whether you like it or not" #4: "We don't give a s**t if fighting for respect is an added stress."
If there's one offender, one can simply chat with them in private. If there are multiple offenders, that's asking the offended employee to take on a whole group. That doesn't sound like a fair fight. Being an ally can make the fight a bit more fair.
yeah but sometimes the fight is just not worth it. As most toxic relations.
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Yeah i once played in a volleyteam way over my skill because my dad was in the board of the club and my youth team had stopped. So there i was in the first team with my average height and undevelopped skills. So what did i do. I trainer really hard, i grew up to 1m90 which is a bit more than average ( i know this was mostly luck i pushed that year) and i learned all i could that year. Year after i told my dad i looked for another club where i would play 2 leagues lower but in a team where i could develop myself at my pace. Couple years later i was with my new team in that same league and we crushed my old team.
You sound like a child, elSti, not like a person who has a career on the line.
That's because i put my health and hapyness before my career. I m Lucky to have had a good education that i make enough money without having to jeopardize those.
Again, being "Lucky" and being qualified and competent, two different things. Putting yourself first is ok, the difference in my case is putting my own well-being on the line, not on my personal behalf, but mainly because others might be bullied and harassed and don't dare taking any action against the bullies because they need their jobs and fear retribution if they peep.
There again i have the luck card that my colleagues in my team don't need others to fight their battles. But we still would do it for eachother. But we have the luck most of our management are competent too.
Dude, I am NOT done talking, stop comparing apples with rats and, please, don't upvote yourself.
Hey, i never called you a rat. But if you click the post button, you are done talking. Use that moxie you show online at work is my advice.
The volleyball story is about a learning curve, which many of us have had. It involves hard work that leads to growth. Dealing with discrimination is different in that the hard work is not rewarded or recognized. It's far more discouraging. By the way, Juririn did not call you a rat. I think that was a reference to the men at the school.
The common trait: you both have a passion. However, the passion for volleyball required learning skills. Juririn already has the skills required to fulfill her passion for teaching - now she needs the respect of her peers. elSti, can you imagine if your team mates had bullied you and continued after your lucky growth spurt and your hard work had made you a very good volleyball player? You don't have to understand discrimination and harassment right now, but I hope you can learn about it. It can help you use your own moxie to defend others.
"The issue with you [name of group] is --" and the issue is that the speaker has a bias and refuses to do anything about it.
20+ years ago, I used to be an outgoing dock supervisor for the USPS. I was the only female supervisor on the night shift, and my productivity numbers were always the highest, not only on my shift, but in the entire building. My manager constantly micromanaged, and I refused to put up with it. Once, he came out to my dock and started telling me how to run my area. I grabbed my radio and held it out to him. "What's that for?" he asked. I said, "Well, you seem to have this area under control, so I might as well go home." This irritated him, but before he could say anything, I said, "I have the highest productivity in the building. When that changes, you can criticize my abilities. Until then, I suggest you try and get the rest of your supervisors to my level." He left me alone after that, and I continued to have the highest productivity.
I am currently subjected to power harassment at work ( I am female, gen X, fully qualified in what I am supposed to do, vs. all male management, fully incompetent in their own job requirements and in what I do in my job). I am practically set to say "I am done with your s**t, I don't need it in my life" and quit my job. I won't do that, although the stress of the situation has already impacted my physical health ( broke a tooth due to bruxism caused by stress, among other things) and my free time. For now, I am decided to hold on and fight back - not for personal gain (I have none, to be honest, only losses on a personal level), but for the principle that a problem unaddressed is non existent, therefore abuse is continued and normalized. I am tired and angry and sad, but not ready to give up yet. * deep siiiiigh...*
I can't find the words to express it so: *Head nod of empathy and commiseration, coupled with brief encouraging smile*? I am sorry you are dealing with this, and also impressed that you are. It must be incredibly hard (esp. considering it caused bruxism!) ❤️❤️
Thank you 💙💙💙
Similar situation for me years back. If you give up and leave, do not kick yourself. Tell yourself you've tried your best. For me, I couldn't change the toxic situation, but after I left, I encouraged a former female colleague to take another job (paid less, but great place - she loved it). She then encouraged a new female assistant to accept another offer (which she did, heheheh). So yes, you can pass the word around.
For the time being, I am fighting back. The thing is, I like my job (I teach ESL in graduate school), I have never had any issues or complaints regarding what or how I teach or bad results from my students. I provided a lot from my own pocket and my free time to this job, because I know it will have a long-lasting impact on my students, and I want that to be a positive one. However, when I received no salary with no explanation as of why, I got assigned classes scheduled to have no attendees, the internet connection was cut in my classroom, my husband received threats at his work etc. and I raised these issues and threatened with filing a complaint to HR, I became "the unreasonable, impolite, hysterical, crazy" one (and of course, the only female teacher in campus) and rumors started flying about this. I was urged into a meeting with all the university's heads (all male), suddenly, "to be explained" (where they admitted, although not in writing, that I am owed the salary they did not pay) etc. Practically, I pointed out the management's lies, incompetence and possibly embezzlement and now they seem to be retaliating by creating rumors and a very toxic work environment. I won't quit for now, it is what they want, I won't give them that.
Guerrilla warfare, honey, do the same. Start a rumor that you heard one of them has ED, or genital warts and that someone else was hitting on a student or something. But make sure it can't be traced back to you. These "men" live for their perceived status, so hit them where it hurts.
@JessR: it's the guerilla warfare that's so tiring to me. But I am covering my corners. Although I never did and will never go spreading false rumors or gossip, showing them, with written proof and facts, that they are incompetent (trust me, that's what hurt them the most, especially coming from a woman), that their conduct is bullying and that they should not be in their position of power ( again, big ouch) and having witnesses and written documents on their malicious behavior at every step WHILE doing my teaching as usual must be feeling like I give them the finger all the time. And I am prepared, if the situation continues, to take the situation to the government (they have offices where to file harassment complaints) and hiring a lawyer. Oh, one of the bullies is a covid denier and antimasker, do I need to say more :)?
Wow. It does sound like constructive dismissal. All the best to you in a tough situation.
@ Viviane: It certainly does look and sound like that (and it is, based on the definition of power harassment), and I told them so. Thank you for your encouragement 💙💙💙
so unlike the woman in the post. you'll just let it happen? it sounds like you already have given up. i hope they at least pay you enough for it.
Just to sum up. 1. You said I have given up. 2. You give yourself as an example: getting in an undeserved position due to nepotism, but then, with lucky genes and training, catching up to that position's requirements. 3. You say that some fights are not worth fighting. 4. You advise me to show moxie in my real life battles 5. You brag about your luck, about making good money and about having a good education (not in English, though, if I may, nor in debate) 6. You brag again, this time about your luck in having competent managers, about not needing anyone to fight your fights and about having teammates ready to fight each others' fights. Good input. Kind of shows and proves what I am dealing with at work. THANK YOU.(Oh, again, please stop upvoting your own comments, it does not support your arguments or your online image.)
elSti, I don't know if you've ever been in the minority in a place and viewed as less competent as a result. If one insists a minority member educate a large group that doesn't respect them, one could be saying the following to that person: #1: "It's up to you to make us behave - we won't make the effort to meet you partway" #2: "If we continue to disrespect you, you'll just have to keep trying" #3: "Educating us is in your job description, whether you like it or not" #4: "We don't give a s**t if fighting for respect is an added stress."
If there's one offender, one can simply chat with them in private. If there are multiple offenders, that's asking the offended employee to take on a whole group. That doesn't sound like a fair fight. Being an ally can make the fight a bit more fair.
yeah but sometimes the fight is just not worth it. As most toxic relations.
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Yeah i once played in a volleyteam way over my skill because my dad was in the board of the club and my youth team had stopped. So there i was in the first team with my average height and undevelopped skills. So what did i do. I trainer really hard, i grew up to 1m90 which is a bit more than average ( i know this was mostly luck i pushed that year) and i learned all i could that year. Year after i told my dad i looked for another club where i would play 2 leagues lower but in a team where i could develop myself at my pace. Couple years later i was with my new team in that same league and we crushed my old team.
You sound like a child, elSti, not like a person who has a career on the line.
That's because i put my health and hapyness before my career. I m Lucky to have had a good education that i make enough money without having to jeopardize those.
Again, being "Lucky" and being qualified and competent, two different things. Putting yourself first is ok, the difference in my case is putting my own well-being on the line, not on my personal behalf, but mainly because others might be bullied and harassed and don't dare taking any action against the bullies because they need their jobs and fear retribution if they peep.
There again i have the luck card that my colleagues in my team don't need others to fight their battles. But we still would do it for eachother. But we have the luck most of our management are competent too.
Dude, I am NOT done talking, stop comparing apples with rats and, please, don't upvote yourself.
Hey, i never called you a rat. But if you click the post button, you are done talking. Use that moxie you show online at work is my advice.
The volleyball story is about a learning curve, which many of us have had. It involves hard work that leads to growth. Dealing with discrimination is different in that the hard work is not rewarded or recognized. It's far more discouraging. By the way, Juririn did not call you a rat. I think that was a reference to the men at the school.
The common trait: you both have a passion. However, the passion for volleyball required learning skills. Juririn already has the skills required to fulfill her passion for teaching - now she needs the respect of her peers. elSti, can you imagine if your team mates had bullied you and continued after your lucky growth spurt and your hard work had made you a very good volleyball player? You don't have to understand discrimination and harassment right now, but I hope you can learn about it. It can help you use your own moxie to defend others.
"The issue with you [name of group] is --" and the issue is that the speaker has a bias and refuses to do anything about it.