Woman Who Had A Miscarriage Opens Up About 14 Things No One Told Her
Approximately 10 to 20% of known pregnancies end in miscarriage, reports Mayo Clinic. However, the actual number is likely much higher since many miscarriages occur very early in pregnancy. Often as early as when you may not even know you’re pregnant yet.
And while we often hear that miscarriages are common and normal in our society, many still don’t have a clue about how emotional, draining and life-changing the loss of a baby can be. No wonder many parents turn to grief in silence.
One brave woman named Kristen R. More broke this silence and shared her own heartbreaking experience of losing a baby. “Today, I paid over $1000 out of pocket for my miscarriage,” she wrote on Twitter and added: “They didn’t tell me it would cost so much to lose a baby.”
But that was just the tip of the iceberg and Kristen shared all the “other things they don’t tell you about miscarriages” in a very important and eye-opening thread.
The woman who experienced miscarriage shares what it’s really like to lose a baby in a society where it’s still not understood well enough
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So she penned this heartbreaking and brutally honest thread to share things they don’t tell you about miscarriages
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To find out more about the common misconceptions that come with miscarriages and the painful, difficult, and often silent experiences women go through after losing a baby, we spoke with Lauren Gourley, the author of “Truths Of Miscarriage” who shares support and advice for women on her Instagram page.
“Unfortunately, miscarriage is common. Approximately 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in loss. You never think you’re going to be that 1 in 4, until you are,” Lauren said. She added that people often think of miscarriage as one of those things in life that just happen. “Unless someone has been through this loss, they’ll never understand just how traumatizing the experience can be,” she explained.
Among many distressing things that come with going through a loss of a baby, Kristen pointed out the insensitive healthcare
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“Women like me who have experienced miscarriage are seen as ‘just another statistic.’ But we’re not, were real people with real lives. We hear people say things to us like ‘at least you’re young,’ ‘you can always try again.’ Both of those things may be correct but they’re insensitive and don’t make our pain hurt any less.”
Another common misunderstanding about miscarriage according to Lauren is that people don’t understand just how emotionally attached you can become with your baby in such a short period of time. “From the second you know your baby exists, you start planning their whole future. You imagine what they will look like and sound like.”
Moreover, “people who haven’t experienced a miscarriage don’t realize that we didn’t just lose our baby, we lost their whole future, and now we have to live every day knowing life should have been so different,” Lauren added.
Kristen also noted that miscarriages are not talked about enough as people don’t have a clue of how to talk about them
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One of the hardest things for Lauren after her loss was seeing everyone else’s lives go on around her while she felt like she was still stuck in this life of grief. “Grief is like living two lives, one where you have to put on a brave face to go to work and out in public, and the other where you can’t bear to hold it all in anymore,” the woman recounted.
As a woman who experienced the loss of a baby, she said that often we can’t get our heads around the fact nothing we can ever do will bring our baby back. “Its like living in a nightmare we can’t wake up from. We often find ourselves daydreaming of a future that no longer exists, the parallel universe we wish we lived in. It’s hard to snap back to reality sometimes.”
As if it wasn’t hard enough already, after a loss, there are a lot of emotional triggers, like someone close to you having a baby, Lauren says. “We try to be happy for them but all we can think is, ‘why not me?’” Moreover, a lot of women suffer from PTSD after a loss too. “I am one of those women. I find it almost impossible to go into the bathroom in my home where I lost my baby and hospital rooms bring back so many horrible memories,” Lauren said.
Many women joined the thread to share their own devastating experiences of going through miscarriage
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“To anyone who has experienced miscarriage, I am so sorry. And to anyone who knows someone who’s experienced a miscarriage, maybe a friend, your sister, work colleague, be there for them. Even if lots of time has passed, I can guarantee they are still hurting. That’s the truth of miscarriage, life may go on, but the pain never leaves,” the author of “Truths Of Miscarriage” concluded.
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This is one of the most heart breaking things anyone has to go through. I went through this with my ex wife twice. I made sure to support her as much as I could but its difficult. We had 0 support from anyone, everyone kinda just dug their head into the sand. When we went to the hospital to have the remains removed to ensure there was no infection we were taken through the same entrance expectant mothers were, happy families on the wall, even had an expectant mother standing outside smoking away. Its an issue that needs to be raised more than it is, even afterwards when we tried to find a counselor on the NHS we were told at the very least it would be 6-12 months for a slot. Specialist support and grieving councilors should be offered to people who have to go through this ( Both parents as well ) as well as appropriately located facilities in hospitals so families don't have to have what they lost thrown back in their faces
There are birth doulas and death doulas, there should be miscarriage doulas who combine both practices.
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The best way to "talk" about it, is to simply listen to what they want to tell you, and give them a hug. Sometimes, silence is more comforting than any awkward useless forced positivity.
Thank you for posting this. I do not wish to have children and I have no idea how to talk to someone that does but loses them. I understand loss but not on that level. This has taught me the compassion I've always wished to express but had no idea how to go about it.
You do feel inadequate... I just said to my friend 'I'm so sorry, is there anything I can do?' and she asked me to tell other people for her. I was grateful to her for letting me do something!
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As a woman who went through vaginally delivering my daughter Chloe at 36 weeks stillborn. Also having a miscarriage at 16 weeks. My heart breaks for all who have gone through this. I begged my doctor to do a c section with My daughter Chloe. Because just imagining delivering her like I did my live children. Was an unbearable thought in itself. My doctor didn't listen and now I have that experience 1st hand, instead of just imagining it. It's been 9 years since that day and I am not the same person I was. So anyone that has been through this, reach out and know it's okay to talk about it. If you want to and are ready. There are so many people dealing with this and we are here for you. Even as a stranger myself, I could use some encouragement and people just letting me know it's going to be okay. Even 9 years later it's still welcomed and appreciated.
I'm so sorry for you. I've had 3 miscarriages myself. Such a sad experience changes you as a human-being. There are so many women who lost babies in pregnancy or after birth, but it hurts so much to talk about it. It's not only the loss, also the hormone-levels, depression, the reaction of the body (post-natal blood, leaking breasts,...) all that makes it very very difficult.
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So I supposed this is US based again? Because it doesn't cost a dime here if you miscarriage. Obviously the pain, mental and physical, is the same.
I'm in Canada, so the expense also stood out to me. Losing a baby is awful enough without having a huge bill, plus judgmental pharmacists, and little or no recovery time.
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I've had two and another thing they dont tell you is that your hormones will go absolutely crazy. Both times even after a week I was so emotional I thought I was going to lose my mind.
Exactly, aftee my first miscarriage i started to produce milk. I just wanted to be done with it all and my body just kept reminding me
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Such a painful topic. I've mentioned before that I've had three miscarriages, and my heart absolutely goes out to anyone else who has ever suffered the same.
By my third, I just cried and went emotionally numb. Hubs knew to just hold me, let me cry, and we grieved, and we learned I couldn't have kids, they' were *not* joking when theys aid that, and that was that. Just hug people. And don't tell them they weren't moms. They felt like it, some of them, for a little while.
I know (from real life) what it is to lose a child. The grief is almost unbearable, especially so if you have no family near enough to cry on. All the ways people try to express sympathy when a live child (of any age) dies, can be said to the parents of a lost pregnancy. To all of you who have lost pregnancies or had a stillborn, I am so, so very sorry for you. I send loving thoughts to every one of you.
Sometimes technology is not our friend. Miscarriages are quite common and nature's way of rejecting a foetus that may have serious defects. Most of the time, these miscarriages happen early enough that a lot of people never know they were pregnant to begin with. But these days, we are able to get confirmation of pregnancy literally within days. We are hyper aware of our cycles and fertility. We start to plan the birth of a child so early, without a thought to the fact that around 2 out of every 5 pregnancies will end in miscarriage. It wouldn't help everyone given that people lose babies at every stage, but it would be better if we didn't know about pregnancies until at least 3 months in. It might save some of those broken hearts.
If people didn't know about pregnancies, there would be more miscarriages and birth defects from people doing things that should not be done during pregnancy.
Load More Replies... You are not alone. Even if it feels that way. I know it does (lost my baby at 18 weeks)... I don't want to compare medical care, but there is a thing we do: the second Sunday of December, its 'world light day'... When you lost a baby or know someone who did, you light a candle at your window that evening. You will cry your eyes out, but at the same time feel somewhat comforted when seeing all those lights everywhere ....
What I found heartbreakingly cruel is forcing a woman to deliver her lost baby.
I would say more about this post but everyone has already said the same things I would. I had a miscarriage in 2007 whole my first child was fighting for her life after being diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes. My (ex) husband was absolutely useless, just pretended that it wasn't happening. In my case it was a blessing in disguise because that was the catalyst for the ending of my marriage.
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I will say that as someone who has decided to be child free, I don't think I will ever face this or completely understand this myself, but I still cried over this article. I can't even imagine the grief these poor women go through. I had an aunt whose second child was stillborn, and I know the grief and loss for her were still fresh on what would have been his first birthday. All I can really say is that I'm so sorry you had to go through this, and please keep reaching out to your support system during these hard times.
A friend had a miscarriage (in the5th week) and I had no idea how, or if I could even help her. So I asked her ... what can I do to help you get through this. Apparently that was exactly what she needed. Someone to ask her what she needs. She was alone (only 20), the child's "father" was a "one night stand" and not even in the country anymore ... and her parents rejected her, when they found out she was pregnant. I took her home with me, when she was released from the hospital, held her when she cried, provided her with food, warm blankets, and anything else she needed. After about 1 week she was physically "fine" again ... and I persuaded her to seek help to cope with the loss ... because I couldn't really help her with that.
Went through this so many times and it never gets any easier. Please, please, ladies, make sure you have people you can talk to about it and don't be afraid to talk about it. There are so many women out there who want so desperately to talk about it but don't want to bring it up. We need to be open about this so that others know that they are not alone!!!
One thing I learned that helped me was the visualisation of grief. It's a box you have to carry for the rest of your life. Inside that box, there is a ball and a button. When the box is rattled for some reason (anything can trigger it), the ball bounces around and could hit the button. The button starts Pain and Sadness. It never goes away. But over time, the ball and button become smaller, so the chance of the ball hitting the button all the time also becomes smaller...
My mom had a miscarriage before she had my little brother. Her good friend thought she was helping when she had my mom hold her baby for a while. My mom said she was fighting back tears the whole time.
This is just horrible!! I feel so deeply for the storytellers. The power of our brain chemicals is overwhelming.
I am so sorry to hear you had to suffer this. I have had several mc in first and second trimester, but as I live in a civilized country at least it was free of charge. Noone told me what could have been done to avoid it, until I researched myself on PubMed and found out about my high TSH, low progesterone, APC-r gene, aggressive immunesystem and crappy eggs on top of that. I got the help I needed at last. Many (but not all) mc can be avoided, it isnt always "bad embryos" but rather your body that tries to kill it with hormones, clots or immune system.
In "Anne's House of Dreams" by Lucy Maud Montgomery, Anne has her first child: a girl named Joyce. She was absolutely perfect in every way. But she died only a day after she was born. Every day, every month, every year, she tracked Joyce's growth in her head. Anne had six other children, but even as they grew up she always remembered Little Joyce. The pain of losing a child, no matter how long that child was in your life, is something that will stay with you forever. I do not speak from experience, however, so feel free to take my words with a grain of salt. But you will always have your child in your mind, wondering and wishing how they could have been, had they lived. And it is okay to cry, to scream, to wake up in the middle of the night 20 years after your miscarriage or stillbirth or even abortion, screaming into the darkness as the pain comes back in gale force. Because that pain is the worst pain that a human being can ever endure.
I've had 5. (4 full-term and births as well)The first one, I asked that my Mom wouldn't be told until the D&C was complete. She is so narcissistic that she would make it about her. Sure enough, as soon as she was told the true reason that my sons were being cared for my S-I-L. She ranted how 'hard' it was for her (35 years earlier). My SIL leaned over to my brother and whispered " Diane called this, just as she said it would be". Did my mother offer any thing to the family, hell to the NO. There were 2 big brothers and a father beyond me who lost a 'dream' (5&8 at the time)
My mom had a miscarriage a week before she was due. She knew something was wrong and went to the doctor, but he dismissed her concerns. It's sad because my brother could have been alive had the doctor done something at the time. Witnessing what my parents had to go through and the image and feeling of hugging a cold baby with blue lips still messes with me even after 20 years. I couldn't possibly understand the heartbreak that my parents went through, but miscarriage really messes up the kids too. Any dreams I have where someone is pregnant ends up in miscarriage and the fear of having children only to lose them made me avoidant of forming sexual relationships or even the thought of having children of my own in the future.
I think the word miscarriage is part of the problem. It makes it sound like the pregnancy wasn’t real. Let’s call it what it is. The baby died. My wife went through one and I still don’t know what to say because there isn’t anything to make it better. It was one of the most awful things I’ve been through. So if you know somebody who had one please don’t say anything you wouldn’t to a friend who lost a child in any other way because the loss is the same but without ever even getting to bond with the child nor have photos or anything. My heart goes out to anybody who went through this. And It’s amazing people have the courage to talk about what it’s like because people tend to want to avoid it and pretend it was just like the pregnancy didn’t happen which just makes things worse.
I can't even explain how much I needed to read this article. We lost our son at 20 weeks. It's too late to think of a 'miscarriage' and too soon for 'stillbirth'. I had grown up thinking abortion was for teens.There is really no other word for the procedure that seems like you are not an irresponsible teenager but instead a 30 something woman with a career and a long tern relationship. Getting the medicine and the bill was so cold. The pain is so unfair. It's been over a year and it still hurts. I remember being told there was no fluid and no chance for survival. Going through the maternity ward to stay overnight and listening to other patients preparing for a birth while you sat there and prepped for one of the worst moments in your life. It's so awkward to be put in a normal delievery room only for a nurse to clumsily remove any proof of a newborn from the area. The procedure to remove the baby is simple. You bleed for about two weeks. You are always reminded of what you can't hold.
Everything said here is so important. The only question I can answer is if you want to scream, for any reason, ask someone to drive you along the freeway and you can scream as much as you want, no one in other cars will be able to hear you. Much easier than finding some place in the middle of nowhere.
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This is one of the most heart breaking things anyone has to go through. I went through this with my ex wife twice. I made sure to support her as much as I could but its difficult. We had 0 support from anyone, everyone kinda just dug their head into the sand. When we went to the hospital to have the remains removed to ensure there was no infection we were taken through the same entrance expectant mothers were, happy families on the wall, even had an expectant mother standing outside smoking away. Its an issue that needs to be raised more than it is, even afterwards when we tried to find a counselor on the NHS we were told at the very least it would be 6-12 months for a slot. Specialist support and grieving councilors should be offered to people who have to go through this ( Both parents as well ) as well as appropriately located facilities in hospitals so families don't have to have what they lost thrown back in their faces
There are birth doulas and death doulas, there should be miscarriage doulas who combine both practices.
Load More Replies... The best way to "talk" about it, is to simply listen to what they want to tell you, and give them a hug. Sometimes, silence is more comforting than any awkward useless forced positivity.
Thank you for posting this. I do not wish to have children and I have no idea how to talk to someone that does but loses them. I understand loss but not on that level. This has taught me the compassion I've always wished to express but had no idea how to go about it.
You do feel inadequate... I just said to my friend 'I'm so sorry, is there anything I can do?' and she asked me to tell other people for her. I was grateful to her for letting me do something!
Load More Replies... As a woman who went through vaginally delivering my daughter Chloe at 36 weeks stillborn. Also having a miscarriage at 16 weeks. My heart breaks for all who have gone through this. I begged my doctor to do a c section with My daughter Chloe. Because just imagining delivering her like I did my live children. Was an unbearable thought in itself. My doctor didn't listen and now I have that experience 1st hand, instead of just imagining it. It's been 9 years since that day and I am not the same person I was. So anyone that has been through this, reach out and know it's okay to talk about it. If you want to and are ready. There are so many people dealing with this and we are here for you. Even as a stranger myself, I could use some encouragement and people just letting me know it's going to be okay. Even 9 years later it's still welcomed and appreciated.
I'm so sorry for you. I've had 3 miscarriages myself. Such a sad experience changes you as a human-being. There are so many women who lost babies in pregnancy or after birth, but it hurts so much to talk about it. It's not only the loss, also the hormone-levels, depression, the reaction of the body (post-natal blood, leaking breasts,...) all that makes it very very difficult.
Load More Replies... So I supposed this is US based again? Because it doesn't cost a dime here if you miscarriage. Obviously the pain, mental and physical, is the same.
I'm in Canada, so the expense also stood out to me. Losing a baby is awful enough without having a huge bill, plus judgmental pharmacists, and little or no recovery time.
Load More Replies... I've had two and another thing they dont tell you is that your hormones will go absolutely crazy. Both times even after a week I was so emotional I thought I was going to lose my mind.
Exactly, aftee my first miscarriage i started to produce milk. I just wanted to be done with it all and my body just kept reminding me
Load More Replies... Such a painful topic. I've mentioned before that I've had three miscarriages, and my heart absolutely goes out to anyone else who has ever suffered the same.
By my third, I just cried and went emotionally numb. Hubs knew to just hold me, let me cry, and we grieved, and we learned I couldn't have kids, they' were *not* joking when theys aid that, and that was that. Just hug people. And don't tell them they weren't moms. They felt like it, some of them, for a little while.
I know (from real life) what it is to lose a child. The grief is almost unbearable, especially so if you have no family near enough to cry on. All the ways people try to express sympathy when a live child (of any age) dies, can be said to the parents of a lost pregnancy. To all of you who have lost pregnancies or had a stillborn, I am so, so very sorry for you. I send loving thoughts to every one of you.
Sometimes technology is not our friend. Miscarriages are quite common and nature's way of rejecting a foetus that may have serious defects. Most of the time, these miscarriages happen early enough that a lot of people never know they were pregnant to begin with. But these days, we are able to get confirmation of pregnancy literally within days. We are hyper aware of our cycles and fertility. We start to plan the birth of a child so early, without a thought to the fact that around 2 out of every 5 pregnancies will end in miscarriage. It wouldn't help everyone given that people lose babies at every stage, but it would be better if we didn't know about pregnancies until at least 3 months in. It might save some of those broken hearts.
If people didn't know about pregnancies, there would be more miscarriages and birth defects from people doing things that should not be done during pregnancy.
Load More Replies... You are not alone. Even if it feels that way. I know it does (lost my baby at 18 weeks)... I don't want to compare medical care, but there is a thing we do: the second Sunday of December, its 'world light day'... When you lost a baby or know someone who did, you light a candle at your window that evening. You will cry your eyes out, but at the same time feel somewhat comforted when seeing all those lights everywhere ....
What I found heartbreakingly cruel is forcing a woman to deliver her lost baby.
I would say more about this post but everyone has already said the same things I would. I had a miscarriage in 2007 whole my first child was fighting for her life after being diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes. My (ex) husband was absolutely useless, just pretended that it wasn't happening. In my case it was a blessing in disguise because that was the catalyst for the ending of my marriage.
Load More Replies... I will say that as someone who has decided to be child free, I don't think I will ever face this or completely understand this myself, but I still cried over this article. I can't even imagine the grief these poor women go through. I had an aunt whose second child was stillborn, and I know the grief and loss for her were still fresh on what would have been his first birthday. All I can really say is that I'm so sorry you had to go through this, and please keep reaching out to your support system during these hard times.
A friend had a miscarriage (in the5th week) and I had no idea how, or if I could even help her. So I asked her ... what can I do to help you get through this. Apparently that was exactly what she needed. Someone to ask her what she needs. She was alone (only 20), the child's "father" was a "one night stand" and not even in the country anymore ... and her parents rejected her, when they found out she was pregnant. I took her home with me, when she was released from the hospital, held her when she cried, provided her with food, warm blankets, and anything else she needed. After about 1 week she was physically "fine" again ... and I persuaded her to seek help to cope with the loss ... because I couldn't really help her with that.
Went through this so many times and it never gets any easier. Please, please, ladies, make sure you have people you can talk to about it and don't be afraid to talk about it. There are so many women out there who want so desperately to talk about it but don't want to bring it up. We need to be open about this so that others know that they are not alone!!!
One thing I learned that helped me was the visualisation of grief. It's a box you have to carry for the rest of your life. Inside that box, there is a ball and a button. When the box is rattled for some reason (anything can trigger it), the ball bounces around and could hit the button. The button starts Pain and Sadness. It never goes away. But over time, the ball and button become smaller, so the chance of the ball hitting the button all the time also becomes smaller...
My mom had a miscarriage before she had my little brother. Her good friend thought she was helping when she had my mom hold her baby for a while. My mom said she was fighting back tears the whole time.
This is just horrible!! I feel so deeply for the storytellers. The power of our brain chemicals is overwhelming.
I am so sorry to hear you had to suffer this. I have had several mc in first and second trimester, but as I live in a civilized country at least it was free of charge. Noone told me what could have been done to avoid it, until I researched myself on PubMed and found out about my high TSH, low progesterone, APC-r gene, aggressive immunesystem and crappy eggs on top of that. I got the help I needed at last. Many (but not all) mc can be avoided, it isnt always "bad embryos" but rather your body that tries to kill it with hormones, clots or immune system.
In "Anne's House of Dreams" by Lucy Maud Montgomery, Anne has her first child: a girl named Joyce. She was absolutely perfect in every way. But she died only a day after she was born. Every day, every month, every year, she tracked Joyce's growth in her head. Anne had six other children, but even as they grew up she always remembered Little Joyce. The pain of losing a child, no matter how long that child was in your life, is something that will stay with you forever. I do not speak from experience, however, so feel free to take my words with a grain of salt. But you will always have your child in your mind, wondering and wishing how they could have been, had they lived. And it is okay to cry, to scream, to wake up in the middle of the night 20 years after your miscarriage or stillbirth or even abortion, screaming into the darkness as the pain comes back in gale force. Because that pain is the worst pain that a human being can ever endure.
I've had 5. (4 full-term and births as well)The first one, I asked that my Mom wouldn't be told until the D&C was complete. She is so narcissistic that she would make it about her. Sure enough, as soon as she was told the true reason that my sons were being cared for my S-I-L. She ranted how 'hard' it was for her (35 years earlier). My SIL leaned over to my brother and whispered " Diane called this, just as she said it would be". Did my mother offer any thing to the family, hell to the NO. There were 2 big brothers and a father beyond me who lost a 'dream' (5&8 at the time)
My mom had a miscarriage a week before she was due. She knew something was wrong and went to the doctor, but he dismissed her concerns. It's sad because my brother could have been alive had the doctor done something at the time. Witnessing what my parents had to go through and the image and feeling of hugging a cold baby with blue lips still messes with me even after 20 years. I couldn't possibly understand the heartbreak that my parents went through, but miscarriage really messes up the kids too. Any dreams I have where someone is pregnant ends up in miscarriage and the fear of having children only to lose them made me avoidant of forming sexual relationships or even the thought of having children of my own in the future.
I think the word miscarriage is part of the problem. It makes it sound like the pregnancy wasn’t real. Let’s call it what it is. The baby died. My wife went through one and I still don’t know what to say because there isn’t anything to make it better. It was one of the most awful things I’ve been through. So if you know somebody who had one please don’t say anything you wouldn’t to a friend who lost a child in any other way because the loss is the same but without ever even getting to bond with the child nor have photos or anything. My heart goes out to anybody who went through this. And It’s amazing people have the courage to talk about what it’s like because people tend to want to avoid it and pretend it was just like the pregnancy didn’t happen which just makes things worse.
I can't even explain how much I needed to read this article. We lost our son at 20 weeks. It's too late to think of a 'miscarriage' and too soon for 'stillbirth'. I had grown up thinking abortion was for teens.There is really no other word for the procedure that seems like you are not an irresponsible teenager but instead a 30 something woman with a career and a long tern relationship. Getting the medicine and the bill was so cold. The pain is so unfair. It's been over a year and it still hurts. I remember being told there was no fluid and no chance for survival. Going through the maternity ward to stay overnight and listening to other patients preparing for a birth while you sat there and prepped for one of the worst moments in your life. It's so awkward to be put in a normal delievery room only for a nurse to clumsily remove any proof of a newborn from the area. The procedure to remove the baby is simple. You bleed for about two weeks. You are always reminded of what you can't hold.
Everything said here is so important. The only question I can answer is if you want to scream, for any reason, ask someone to drive you along the freeway and you can scream as much as you want, no one in other cars will be able to hear you. Much easier than finding some place in the middle of nowhere.
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