Woman Tries Selling Her Phone, “Nice Guy” Wants To Collect It From Her House, Doesn’t Get The Address So He Goes Nuts
When Amber J. put up her old iPhone for sale on Facebook, she didn’t expect she’d be the one paying the price. “I’ve had it listed for sale for a few days, maybe 3 or 4,” she told Bored Panda. “I got a lot of messages from different people; a lot of weirdos, but no one as weird as him.” This man who introduced himself as a ‘nice guy’ started bombarding Amber’s inbox with creepy messages, inviting himself over to her place to check out the item. After she calmly refused, however, he showed his true dark colors.
“I’ve had [the iPhone] listed for sale for a few days, maybe 3 or 4. I got a lot of messages from different people; a lot of weirdos, but no one as weird as him”
“I realized something was wrong with him as soon as he said the part about being scared ‘because you’re a woman,'” she said. “But there are so many weirdos online that I was ‘eh, ok so he’s a little sexist, it’s fine, I’ll sell the phone and never talk to him again.’ But then of course, it got way weirder.”
Amber has already blocked him, but his descent into madness was so quick, she was completely stunned. “It was like a train wreck I couldn’t look away from.”
“I think he’s scary. I think he’s probably dangerous. He doesn’t believe women can say no to sex and doesn’t believe rape is real. That’s scary to me.”
“I would like to add that a bunch of men got offended by my use of ‘mansplaining’ and I think that’s messed up,” Amber pointed out. “Here there’s a guy literally saying rape doesn’t happen and that feminists are Nazis, but they’re choosing to be offended by a word. It’s not a word I use daily; I just knew with a guy like him, it would get under his skin.”
The good news is, at least she sold the phone. Not to him, of course.
People thought the guy was very, very creepy
This thing should be reported, in my opinion. But somehow I don't think anything would be done about it.
I had the exact same thought process... "This needs to be shown to the police, that guy definitely isn't normal, he's gonna hurt someone, assuming he hasn't already. Oh... what am I saying? Even if she takes it to the police, they won't do anything about it." Because that's the thing with rape culture, even the police doesn't help you. Especially if you "only" almost got raped. I have friends who were stalked by perverts, thankfully got away and went to the police to give the plate numbers and were told "can't do nothing, no crime was committed! just leave." So sad that this is the terrifying world we live in.
Load More Replies...Should not have blacked out his identity. The world needs to know who this a*****e is.
Agreed. Why respect the privacy of people like this? He deserves to be outed.
Load More Replies...Ironic thing is...this dude just showed a prime example of why women shouldn't give out their addresses to strangers. I, however, would have given his phone number and the text messages to the authorities since what he is doing is called sexual harassment.
@isle_of_stressed_pilots, saying something isn't an arrestable offense isn't the same as saying it's normal. And I'm not even saying I know whether harrassment of that nature IS arrestable.
Load More Replies...How come I started thinking "Incel" while reading this? There really are a lot of weird men out there. The scary part is that they have their own internet communities to "support" other weird men with similar weird ideas about relationships and how women should be treated.
This whole logic of "Let me come to your house" baffles me. I am a man and I don't EVEN want to meet strangers at my residence or work place OR their residence or work. This kind of meeting should always be conducted in well lit, well populated area during day. I'd even suggest places that have CCTVs.
Also the part where he just ignored where she said "I dont want men OR women coming over."
Load More Replies...I rather like the idea of posting this exchange on his FB, or maybe his mom's.
Doubt it would do any good to post to his mom. This disrespect likely extends to her, and posting to her would only cause her hurt
Load More Replies...'Let me come over and you'll see I won't rape you' what the actual f**k? The rest was just as bad but that one is a red flag if there ever was one. Creep.
Hi. Can I come over and pick up that chainsaw? At 02:30 AM? I'm like... not the social type. I've talked to your neighbors already and they know we're doing this so. PLEASE. Respect. No police. If you just unlock the backdoor and go to sleep. I won't enter until you're asleep. I'm not the social type. You dont need my name or phone number. Yes this is a great typewriter. I know where you live. Please paint a big red X on your door when you're ready. Yes I cut down your apple tree last night, I got a hint it was poisonous. Promise that hole in your backyard is just a nice gesture, I'm making you a swimming pool. You're welcome. Just give me a hint and... I put the money under your pillow. Sweet dreams. XOXOXOXOXO forever and ever and everyours
It's the "you'd change your mind and WANT to be raped" that really, reallllly pisses me off. Sickening.
He wouldn't be talking like that if he were the one about to be rape by another guy.
Load More Replies...I just love a guy who's never spent a day as a woman is explaining what the reality for women is.
“Oh you silly women! Let me explain to you what being a woman is all about since women clearly don’t know what they’re talking about and they clearly need us men to tell you what to do. Since you know, we men are so privileged that we don’t see the type of misogynistic c**p you have to go through on a daily basis. Therefore since we don’t experience that, then it must not be true!” Ugh, guys like him will never learn. And it’s people like him is EXACTLY the reason why we don’t give out our addresses. The more he wrote the more it became clear what his intentions were. The creepy bastard.
"Why are women so afraid of being raped, it's all lies" 30 seconds later "I'm sure you'd want me to rape you" Um ....
There is a simple rule to spot a creep: nice people wouldn't point out they're nice.
Women are prey, period. That not all, not even most, men are not predators is not the point. You can't tell who are and who aren't, always have to keep yourself safe.
I was "friends" with a guy for over a year. Had gone to multiple parties he was at, I actually even worked with him for a bit. I honestly thought we were friends. Friends don't sexually assault friends though, so I guess I was wrong in thinking of him as one. Sadly I know my experience isn't far outside the normal realm, it happens a lot, and it sucks. Basically- you're right, you can't always tell if someone is ACTUALLY nice or not until it's too late, and if they seem like a creep right off the chance of them being decent is slim to none. People need to keep themselves safe, and avoiding someone who is clearly unstable is an important part of staying safe.
Load More Replies..."Let me come over and you'll see I won't rape you"... wth???!! Oh, ok.... let me take that chance. You seem so genuine and nice now!
I think you actually should turn his phone number over to the FBI he seems like he may have killed some folks.. You seriously lucked out by going with your gut feelings. Be safe dudes a rapist serial killer or will be one.. oh and made an account just to post this. But this guy really needs to be on some type of law enforcement radar.
Wow. It never ceases to amaze me that SOME men feel women "owe" them their time, their politeness or their attention. I had a guy on the trolley get really weird. Now, bear in mind that I am 56 years old and while not a troll, am not a hot young thing that men usually hit on. I also wear a wedding ring. This guy comes over and sits opposite me (but facing me) on the train. I was reading a book. He starts to make small talk & I reply in non -committal grunts, indicating that I am not interested in conversation. He literally thumped my book and said, "Hey, I'm talking to you". And I responded with, "Why? You can clearly see that I am reading and am not interested in speaking with you." Then he got all defensive and aggressive, I was probably a man hating dyke anyways, blah, blah, blah - I hit the panic button on my phone, which is amazingly loud and basically pointed it at him. Needless to say, I got a lot of immediate attention and he was escorted off at the next stop.
It’s really insane that women live in such a world where so many rabid, deranged males exist. But those rabid males who act that way aren’t men, because men do have the intellect, manhood and dignity to respect people’s rights, so men don’t harass, assault, rape or murder anyone. Good on you for figuring out how to deal with him in a way that ensures he gets embarrassed; this might teach him not to pull that s**t on other women again.
Load More Replies...From my experience, men are also not very enthusiastic about this "give your address to a total stranger" thing. Not wanting to see people you don't know in your house is just....completely normal? It's not even about women and men at all.
Definitely weird, way out of line, should be reported, and this persons correspondence monitored.
Yes to the idea that he needed to be reported. Plus, have the cops put and undercover female detective at the table for the meet and have her surrounded by male undercover officers to make sure the guy has no where to go if he tries to run.
I would recommend showing this conversation to your local police and getting a restraining order against this guy. Just because you didn’t give him your address doesn’t mean that he won’t try and get it through other means.
After reading this, I'm feeling like this "buyer" could be a possible threat to anyone, not just women, he descended rather quickly. For her own safety and security she did the right thing, I found it pretty disconcerting that he was the one who repeatedly used the word "rape", she was just taking that normal precautions that anyone who is selling something online would do, when dealing with people you son't know.
I think the worse part about this is whether or not the police want to help they technically can't do anything until a crime has been committed. It's very sad that he can say these things to her only to have any two bit lawyer get him off because of his 1st amendment right to free speech or the fact that he never "followed through", sometimes I wish you could arrest people for the things they say. Especially something this deprived and disturbing.
How many times has this guy done something like this and has it actually gotten a woman to give him her address?
Omg he is one very strange man and judging by his texts he would have definitely have done something to her..police would just say if there is no proof and until a crime is committed then nothing can be done ..but this is a case at least a policeman should look into his background and so on.and he must do this all the time.
He needs to be reported to law enforcement. If anything does happen to you, at least this incident will be documented and he can be investigated as a possible suspect.
Disgraceful goings on there. Hate people like this. No to a home visit means lets not meet at my home. What's the fkin big deal!!!
He didn't mean to send "Gumdrop" because he gave away the actual size of his brain and manhood on accident.
everyone who calls themselves "nice guy" is most likely not. so creepy.
Wow, that escalated really quick! Women in today's world are not at all safe, unless Chuck Norris knows your address..
As soon as he said he was a nice guy you should have gone silent. Any further engagement gave him exactly what he wanted--attention. We are way too nice to strangers.
"It's all bs to make me look bad" was in my opinion the scariest sentence.
What she was doing was reasonable, not letting strangers into her home. Dang, he needs to chill
That went from an "excuse me sir, this is a Starbucks" scenario to "GET THE F**K OUT OF THERE" REAL quick.
I wish she shared his information he really deserves to be eaten alive by all of us for being such a perverted creep
In other words I'm a nice guy where does he live I just want to talk I 100 percent wouldn't ever think of taking care of karmas business for her
Load More Replies...What a creeper! It's not that he doesn't know the truth. He just doesn't want to ACCEPT the truth, because that would mean he'd have to change and give up his bogus thoughts and creepy behaviors, and he apparently can't do that for whatever reasons of his own. But just because someone needs help, that doesn't mean other people have to put up with any old s**t meanwhile. Good on her for ignoring him. I hope she changed her number for her new phone, and I hope he hits some sort of bottom where he realizes he's not getting anywhere in life with his b******t, and gets help for his issues.
Nice man never shout out themselves as a nice man, only the third party said so lol this guy totally weirdo
Oh wow what a horrible man! I'm sooo glad she did not sell her phone to him! He is very dangerous. It makes me mad, those types like him! His kind think they should have more power than women make me sick.
Wouldn’t it be great if you could figure out who his mom is and send her this? She would storm down to the basement and tear into him.
Experience has taught me that when a guy states how awesome he is or how good he is on a job, it's mostly because they aren''t. Losers would do anything to get a score, but usually end up freaking out their interest. She should show up to the meeting with a couple of deranged pit-bulls on a very thin rope holding them back for protection. It's because of guys like this one that we're very suspicious of men today. Sorry, guys. If you want to screw, go to a prostitute. And pay them for the 'favor.'
That guy is #UCKED UP !! He goes On N On about wanting to meet up at your place instead of making a deal for a cell phone. That is why they have the BLOCK feature on phones as well. So you can block whoever is annoying you. If it goes farther, I'd call the PoPo Police!!
What do I think? This guy needs to be taken out back and have the s**t beat out of him.
That creepy person isn't a nice guy. Nice guys would be happy to meet in a busy public location to conclude the deal, it's not rocket science.
Yeah, yeah, the fear is all just in our minds... -_- I wonder if things will ever get better, if toxic masculitniy will ever truly disappear. I'm 48 years old, comparatively little has changed in the past 30 years and I don't think I'll live to see it.
Clearly he has mental problems. He is the type of men that preach hat3 on the internet about women
When someone asks why you don't give out your home address, give them this article. WTF.
He doesn't make a point though. You should never meet up with someone you met online in situations like this. Always meet in public. Even if it is a woman or teenagers or anyone. It had nothing to do with him being a man...it had to do with him being a stranger
Load More Replies...This thing should be reported, in my opinion. But somehow I don't think anything would be done about it.
I had the exact same thought process... "This needs to be shown to the police, that guy definitely isn't normal, he's gonna hurt someone, assuming he hasn't already. Oh... what am I saying? Even if she takes it to the police, they won't do anything about it." Because that's the thing with rape culture, even the police doesn't help you. Especially if you "only" almost got raped. I have friends who were stalked by perverts, thankfully got away and went to the police to give the plate numbers and were told "can't do nothing, no crime was committed! just leave." So sad that this is the terrifying world we live in.
Load More Replies...Should not have blacked out his identity. The world needs to know who this a*****e is.
Agreed. Why respect the privacy of people like this? He deserves to be outed.
Load More Replies...Ironic thing is...this dude just showed a prime example of why women shouldn't give out their addresses to strangers. I, however, would have given his phone number and the text messages to the authorities since what he is doing is called sexual harassment.
@isle_of_stressed_pilots, saying something isn't an arrestable offense isn't the same as saying it's normal. And I'm not even saying I know whether harrassment of that nature IS arrestable.
Load More Replies...How come I started thinking "Incel" while reading this? There really are a lot of weird men out there. The scary part is that they have their own internet communities to "support" other weird men with similar weird ideas about relationships and how women should be treated.
This whole logic of "Let me come to your house" baffles me. I am a man and I don't EVEN want to meet strangers at my residence or work place OR their residence or work. This kind of meeting should always be conducted in well lit, well populated area during day. I'd even suggest places that have CCTVs.
Also the part where he just ignored where she said "I dont want men OR women coming over."
Load More Replies...I rather like the idea of posting this exchange on his FB, or maybe his mom's.
Doubt it would do any good to post to his mom. This disrespect likely extends to her, and posting to her would only cause her hurt
Load More Replies...'Let me come over and you'll see I won't rape you' what the actual f**k? The rest was just as bad but that one is a red flag if there ever was one. Creep.
Hi. Can I come over and pick up that chainsaw? At 02:30 AM? I'm like... not the social type. I've talked to your neighbors already and they know we're doing this so. PLEASE. Respect. No police. If you just unlock the backdoor and go to sleep. I won't enter until you're asleep. I'm not the social type. You dont need my name or phone number. Yes this is a great typewriter. I know where you live. Please paint a big red X on your door when you're ready. Yes I cut down your apple tree last night, I got a hint it was poisonous. Promise that hole in your backyard is just a nice gesture, I'm making you a swimming pool. You're welcome. Just give me a hint and... I put the money under your pillow. Sweet dreams. XOXOXOXOXO forever and ever and everyours
It's the "you'd change your mind and WANT to be raped" that really, reallllly pisses me off. Sickening.
He wouldn't be talking like that if he were the one about to be rape by another guy.
Load More Replies...I just love a guy who's never spent a day as a woman is explaining what the reality for women is.
“Oh you silly women! Let me explain to you what being a woman is all about since women clearly don’t know what they’re talking about and they clearly need us men to tell you what to do. Since you know, we men are so privileged that we don’t see the type of misogynistic c**p you have to go through on a daily basis. Therefore since we don’t experience that, then it must not be true!” Ugh, guys like him will never learn. And it’s people like him is EXACTLY the reason why we don’t give out our addresses. The more he wrote the more it became clear what his intentions were. The creepy bastard.
"Why are women so afraid of being raped, it's all lies" 30 seconds later "I'm sure you'd want me to rape you" Um ....
There is a simple rule to spot a creep: nice people wouldn't point out they're nice.
Women are prey, period. That not all, not even most, men are not predators is not the point. You can't tell who are and who aren't, always have to keep yourself safe.
I was "friends" with a guy for over a year. Had gone to multiple parties he was at, I actually even worked with him for a bit. I honestly thought we were friends. Friends don't sexually assault friends though, so I guess I was wrong in thinking of him as one. Sadly I know my experience isn't far outside the normal realm, it happens a lot, and it sucks. Basically- you're right, you can't always tell if someone is ACTUALLY nice or not until it's too late, and if they seem like a creep right off the chance of them being decent is slim to none. People need to keep themselves safe, and avoiding someone who is clearly unstable is an important part of staying safe.
Load More Replies..."Let me come over and you'll see I won't rape you"... wth???!! Oh, ok.... let me take that chance. You seem so genuine and nice now!
I think you actually should turn his phone number over to the FBI he seems like he may have killed some folks.. You seriously lucked out by going with your gut feelings. Be safe dudes a rapist serial killer or will be one.. oh and made an account just to post this. But this guy really needs to be on some type of law enforcement radar.
Wow. It never ceases to amaze me that SOME men feel women "owe" them their time, their politeness or their attention. I had a guy on the trolley get really weird. Now, bear in mind that I am 56 years old and while not a troll, am not a hot young thing that men usually hit on. I also wear a wedding ring. This guy comes over and sits opposite me (but facing me) on the train. I was reading a book. He starts to make small talk & I reply in non -committal grunts, indicating that I am not interested in conversation. He literally thumped my book and said, "Hey, I'm talking to you". And I responded with, "Why? You can clearly see that I am reading and am not interested in speaking with you." Then he got all defensive and aggressive, I was probably a man hating dyke anyways, blah, blah, blah - I hit the panic button on my phone, which is amazingly loud and basically pointed it at him. Needless to say, I got a lot of immediate attention and he was escorted off at the next stop.
It’s really insane that women live in such a world where so many rabid, deranged males exist. But those rabid males who act that way aren’t men, because men do have the intellect, manhood and dignity to respect people’s rights, so men don’t harass, assault, rape or murder anyone. Good on you for figuring out how to deal with him in a way that ensures he gets embarrassed; this might teach him not to pull that s**t on other women again.
Load More Replies...From my experience, men are also not very enthusiastic about this "give your address to a total stranger" thing. Not wanting to see people you don't know in your house is just....completely normal? It's not even about women and men at all.
Definitely weird, way out of line, should be reported, and this persons correspondence monitored.
Yes to the idea that he needed to be reported. Plus, have the cops put and undercover female detective at the table for the meet and have her surrounded by male undercover officers to make sure the guy has no where to go if he tries to run.
I would recommend showing this conversation to your local police and getting a restraining order against this guy. Just because you didn’t give him your address doesn’t mean that he won’t try and get it through other means.
After reading this, I'm feeling like this "buyer" could be a possible threat to anyone, not just women, he descended rather quickly. For her own safety and security she did the right thing, I found it pretty disconcerting that he was the one who repeatedly used the word "rape", she was just taking that normal precautions that anyone who is selling something online would do, when dealing with people you son't know.
I think the worse part about this is whether or not the police want to help they technically can't do anything until a crime has been committed. It's very sad that he can say these things to her only to have any two bit lawyer get him off because of his 1st amendment right to free speech or the fact that he never "followed through", sometimes I wish you could arrest people for the things they say. Especially something this deprived and disturbing.
How many times has this guy done something like this and has it actually gotten a woman to give him her address?
Omg he is one very strange man and judging by his texts he would have definitely have done something to her..police would just say if there is no proof and until a crime is committed then nothing can be done ..but this is a case at least a policeman should look into his background and so on.and he must do this all the time.
He needs to be reported to law enforcement. If anything does happen to you, at least this incident will be documented and he can be investigated as a possible suspect.
Disgraceful goings on there. Hate people like this. No to a home visit means lets not meet at my home. What's the fkin big deal!!!
He didn't mean to send "Gumdrop" because he gave away the actual size of his brain and manhood on accident.
everyone who calls themselves "nice guy" is most likely not. so creepy.
Wow, that escalated really quick! Women in today's world are not at all safe, unless Chuck Norris knows your address..
As soon as he said he was a nice guy you should have gone silent. Any further engagement gave him exactly what he wanted--attention. We are way too nice to strangers.
"It's all bs to make me look bad" was in my opinion the scariest sentence.
What she was doing was reasonable, not letting strangers into her home. Dang, he needs to chill
That went from an "excuse me sir, this is a Starbucks" scenario to "GET THE F**K OUT OF THERE" REAL quick.
I wish she shared his information he really deserves to be eaten alive by all of us for being such a perverted creep
In other words I'm a nice guy where does he live I just want to talk I 100 percent wouldn't ever think of taking care of karmas business for her
Load More Replies...What a creeper! It's not that he doesn't know the truth. He just doesn't want to ACCEPT the truth, because that would mean he'd have to change and give up his bogus thoughts and creepy behaviors, and he apparently can't do that for whatever reasons of his own. But just because someone needs help, that doesn't mean other people have to put up with any old s**t meanwhile. Good on her for ignoring him. I hope she changed her number for her new phone, and I hope he hits some sort of bottom where he realizes he's not getting anywhere in life with his b******t, and gets help for his issues.
Nice man never shout out themselves as a nice man, only the third party said so lol this guy totally weirdo
Oh wow what a horrible man! I'm sooo glad she did not sell her phone to him! He is very dangerous. It makes me mad, those types like him! His kind think they should have more power than women make me sick.
Wouldn’t it be great if you could figure out who his mom is and send her this? She would storm down to the basement and tear into him.
Experience has taught me that when a guy states how awesome he is or how good he is on a job, it's mostly because they aren''t. Losers would do anything to get a score, but usually end up freaking out their interest. She should show up to the meeting with a couple of deranged pit-bulls on a very thin rope holding them back for protection. It's because of guys like this one that we're very suspicious of men today. Sorry, guys. If you want to screw, go to a prostitute. And pay them for the 'favor.'
That guy is #UCKED UP !! He goes On N On about wanting to meet up at your place instead of making a deal for a cell phone. That is why they have the BLOCK feature on phones as well. So you can block whoever is annoying you. If it goes farther, I'd call the PoPo Police!!
What do I think? This guy needs to be taken out back and have the s**t beat out of him.
That creepy person isn't a nice guy. Nice guys would be happy to meet in a busy public location to conclude the deal, it's not rocket science.
Yeah, yeah, the fear is all just in our minds... -_- I wonder if things will ever get better, if toxic masculitniy will ever truly disappear. I'm 48 years old, comparatively little has changed in the past 30 years and I don't think I'll live to see it.
Clearly he has mental problems. He is the type of men that preach hat3 on the internet about women
When someone asks why you don't give out your home address, give them this article. WTF.
He doesn't make a point though. You should never meet up with someone you met online in situations like this. Always meet in public. Even if it is a woman or teenagers or anyone. It had nothing to do with him being a man...it had to do with him being a stranger
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